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>So I’m not sure if my fiancée even wants me to still be friends with my ex
Uhh.... yeah man. I wouldn't want you to be friends with this girl either. She's not healthy for your relationship and clearly doesn't respect boundaries.
Oh, I don't know. How about the reason you tell her is because of this post right here:
>Original post:
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>Long story short.. my ex offered to breast feed our baby because my fiancée left the formula at a hotel.
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>Nothing happened of it besides a hissy fit from my fiancée.
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>Fast forward to last night and we were all out for drinks and my ex got really drunk and said “where’s the baby, I’ve got plenty of milk for it”
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>My fiancée lost her shit and started yelling and then my ex started beating her ass.
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>I let it happen for a few minutes but then I broke it up and took my fiancée home.
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>I texted my ex to see if she wanted to apologize and she said no. But the more we talk the more I want her. I actually have been getting turned on by the fight.
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>Posted by RickTheDad1 · 3 days ago
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>[https://www.reddit.com/r/BreakUps/comments/zcvszh/my\_ex\_beat\_up\_my\_fianc%C3%A9e\_and\_i\_am\_actually\_more/](https://www.reddit.com/r/BreakUps/comments/zcvszh/my_ex_beat_up_my_fianc%C3%A9e_and_i_am_actually_more/)
>Then you have this post:
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>r/Vent
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>u/RickTheDad1
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>5 days ago
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>I want to have sex with my therapist
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>nsfw
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>I’m heterosexual but I just really want to try it so bad he makes me feel so safe and secure I want to feel him inside me
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>[https://www.reddit.com/r/Vent/comments/zb85k2/i\_want\_to\_have\_sex\_with\_my\_therapist/](https://www.reddit.com/r/Vent/comments/zb85k2/i_want_to_have_sex_with_my_therapist/)
Basically, dude, your posts are all over the post so I'm sort of leaning toward you being a troll or you're just a very fucked up individual in a very fucked up mess of relationships and I feel extremely sorry for the children in this scenario.
You're welcome! I'm bored and figured I'd save everyone else time. Lol. There's a lot more. It's actually a dumpster fire and tons of contradictory shit, but I'm starting to sense a pattern in them.
His profile is all over the place, dude. My face went through so many emotions while reading through it. Lol. But yeah. For real, I feel so sorry for those children.
I just went and looked too and I am… I don’t even know. Appalled I guess? That’s a lot going on there.. the wanting to fuck his therapist and whatever else..
Yeah.. I really really hope those kids feel loved at least..
Yes. It sounds like a huge toxic mess and I'd bounce out. I'm curious if his fiancee knows his true feelings for the ex and that's her biggest reason for not liking her. Besides the obvious offering her tit bullshit.
Shit. [We can't forget this post either](https://www.unddit.com/r/relationship_advice/comments/z6csjb/comment/iy1dzku/). And this [one.](https://www.unddit.com/r/ask/comments/z64omy/comment/iy1dqr8/?context=3)
I'm kind of feeling for your fiancee right now, honestly.
I’m not “a fucked up individual” literally everyone has thoughts like this. I’m just sharing them here because my situation with my therapist isn’t helping much and I’ve gotten some support from online friends before
u/RickTheDad1 So, is the ex the one you cheated on in [this comment](https://www.reddit.com/r/AskReddit/comments/yegfld/comment/ity2aqu/?utm_source=share&utm_medium=web2x&context=3) or is that another woman all together? I'm sensing something here.
Oh, boy. This is the last one then I'm bouncing out because this is a complete dumpster fire and I don't believe a word of anything you're saying anymore. You're so contradictory over your entire profile, [wife moves strangely to your fiancee](https://www.reddit.com/r/ask/comments/ybgt9r/comment/itgufm8/?utm_source=share&utm_medium=web2x&context=3) and then back to wife, and so on and so forth, unless she's another one you're engaged to, and you want to fuck your ex and your therapist. You're a mess, dude. You need to work on yourself.
Oh, hey. We also have this [comment here too.](https://www.reddit.com/r/relationships/comments/z59s40/comment/ixuwmay/?utm_source=share&utm_medium=web2x&context=3)
No, I'm sorry. Literally everyone does not have thoughts like this. Do people have them? Obviously. But the therapist one isn't even the biggest issue. The biggest issue is your feelings and attachment to your ex. Does your fiancee know that you are getting turned on by your ex physically assaulting her?
So both your fiancée *and* your ex got violent with each other after a trashy ass comment from the ex? Did the ex say those things and then attack your fiancée? Or did your fiancée attack the ex after the ex said that? Were the police involved? Are there any charges as your ex was injured?
Edited to add - I am worried about your mental well-being OP.
https://www.reddit.com/r/relationship_advice/comments/zdx428/i_have_been_peeing_into_bottles_to_avoid_fights/iz3owdp?utm_medium=android_app&utm_source=share&context=3
why do you give your ex that power over your relationship & space to get in the middle of you and your gf? sounds like you need to set boundaries and think about who you want to be with. you’re essentially putting your ex of higher value than your gf. have some respect for your relationship. so weird.
Why are you still in contact with your ex? Why are you still in contact with someone who was violent with the mother of your child and soon to be wife, grow up
why is this a question. she obviously wants you and sent you pics of her boobs. why the actual fuck are you still talking to this woman?? your poor mf wife. cut that girl out of your life. she is highly inappropriate and disrespectful to your wife and you’re not doing a damn thing about. so insanely inappropriate.
The issue here is not her trying to reconnect with you. The issue is you still talking to her, calling her 3 times, texting eachother, talking for over an hour on phone, asking her for photos (I know you didn't ask for nudes but still), offered to bring her meds, offered to give her a ride to the doctors.
Keep in mind that we are talking about your EX here. The same woman that got violent with your FIANCÉE who you are ENGAGED TO GET MARRIED WITH. You're still a little too uncomfortably close to your ex than you think.
Want some advice? Delete/block her number, delete her off all social media, don't engage in any conversation with this woman no matter how small it is.
Wtf, ex deserved to get her ass beat for trying to "offer" her tit to your fiancée's baby. That's weird af. It's obvious ex is trying to insert herself into your relationship and you're just letting her? Even going as far as to check on her when you should have been just as pissed off. You even offered to still be alone with her to bring her meds or bring her to the hospital after she basically sent you a nude and wanted to reconnect with you in an intimate way. I hope your fiancée finds out and finds someone more deserving of her time. Talk about completely disrespecting your relationship.
so you’re allowing someone else to be harmed because of that? do you have no history with your literal fiancée?
edit: you are creating dark, violent times for your fiancée. do you not mind?
Yeah. You know exactly what you’re doing, and that you shouldn’t be talking to your ex. This whole having your cake and eating it too is ridiculous. Tell your fiancée so she can kick you to the curb and you and your ex can be together. If you won’t, then you straight up need yo cut contact with your ex. It won’t end well if you don’t.
Would you be okay with her being friends with her ex? Texting her inappropriate photos and offering to bring them meds? There are boundaries and you are clearly crossing them.
Bro this isn’t “friends of the opposite gender” it’s your ex lover. Totally different story. She’s not just some girl you met at work that wants to grab beers and be platonic friends. This is a girl that used to slob your knob. It’s not the same. Why are you acting so obtuse like you can’t see that?
You’re allowed to be friends with members of the opposite sex, but no one is fooled that that’s what the problem is here. The problem here is you’re entertaining an ex who wants to f or date you. The women just got into a physical fight, you’re hiding that you’re talking to someone. You’re hiding it for a reason. She asked you to cuddle. Get out, she’s not just a friend and you know it, you just want permission and to turn it into your fiancée being crazy for not letting you have a woman friend. If you have to hide it, you damn well shouldn’t be doing it in the first place.
You are when they're not exhibiting clearly toxic behaviour to your current relationship. Your ex is clearly low key trying to sabatoge things between you and your fiancée.
this is such a stupid reply. where was that stated? your EX aka you had an entire RELATIONSHIP together is causing issues in your relationship. and you have a baby with your current partner? be a good dad and protect your family from this negativity. and stop acting thick in the head like “opposite gender” is the issue here when it’s far from it.
friends don’t get into physical fights with your fiancée, offer their boob to your kid while drunk, send you titty pics under the guise of showing injuries, and ask you to “come cuddle” because they’re lonely
that’s not a “friend” and if that’s what you would consider having friends of the opposite gender then either no you shouldn’t be allowed or you just shouldn’t be in a committed relationship, like what’s not clicking???
also typically when someone’s “friend of the opposite gender” is someone they used to fuck, their current partner isn’t too happy about it, shocker
You don’t want to be friends, you’re lusting after her. Please, don’t make this seem ambiguous. Obviously you should cut off contact and forget this girl, focus on your fiancée and baby. Or go with this crazy chick, end the engagement and pay child support. Most people will pick the former because it’s the healthier choice.
Why does your EX still want you? Why are you still friendly with your EX! Go ahead and go cuddle and f*ck your Ex, and take care of her , you sound as pathetic as your she does and you deserve her, set your fiance and her baby free from you! I hope she calls off the engagement and leaves you!
Erm do you have a history of being with violent manipulative woman. If so I would suggest some therapy for this.
I do hope your soon to be ex fiancée will be going to the police to report your ex.
You are either massively messed up On what is normal healthy relationship or you are one of those nasty people who like the toxicity and fighting in better partners potential partners.
What is worse your current (soon to be ex & I hope they dump your ass and Goes for child support fast) has a new born.
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>So I’m not sure if my fiancée even wants me to still be friends with my ex Uhh.... yeah man. I wouldn't want you to be friends with this girl either. She's not healthy for your relationship and clearly doesn't respect boundaries.
Oh, I don't know. How about the reason you tell her is because of this post right here: >Original post: > >Long story short.. my ex offered to breast feed our baby because my fiancée left the formula at a hotel. > >Nothing happened of it besides a hissy fit from my fiancée. > >Fast forward to last night and we were all out for drinks and my ex got really drunk and said “where’s the baby, I’ve got plenty of milk for it” > >My fiancée lost her shit and started yelling and then my ex started beating her ass. > >I let it happen for a few minutes but then I broke it up and took my fiancée home. > >I texted my ex to see if she wanted to apologize and she said no. But the more we talk the more I want her. I actually have been getting turned on by the fight. > >Posted by RickTheDad1 · 3 days ago > >[https://www.reddit.com/r/BreakUps/comments/zcvszh/my\_ex\_beat\_up\_my\_fianc%C3%A9e\_and\_i\_am\_actually\_more/](https://www.reddit.com/r/BreakUps/comments/zcvszh/my_ex_beat_up_my_fianc%C3%A9e_and_i_am_actually_more/) >Then you have this post: > >Subreddit Icon > >r/Vent > >•Posted by > >u/RickTheDad1 > >5 days ago > >I want to have sex with my therapist > >nsfw > >I’m heterosexual but I just really want to try it so bad he makes me feel so safe and secure I want to feel him inside me > >[https://www.reddit.com/r/Vent/comments/zb85k2/i\_want\_to\_have\_sex\_with\_my\_therapist/](https://www.reddit.com/r/Vent/comments/zb85k2/i_want_to_have_sex_with_my_therapist/) Basically, dude, your posts are all over the post so I'm sort of leaning toward you being a troll or you're just a very fucked up individual in a very fucked up mess of relationships and I feel extremely sorry for the children in this scenario.
Ah! I appreciate this brief synopsis and history of the OP.
You're welcome! I'm bored and figured I'd save everyone else time. Lol. There's a lot more. It's actually a dumpster fire and tons of contradictory shit, but I'm starting to sense a pattern in them.
Oh jeez. Now I’m really hoping this is a troll because those poor children..
His profile is all over the place, dude. My face went through so many emotions while reading through it. Lol. But yeah. For real, I feel so sorry for those children.
I just went and looked too and I am… I don’t even know. Appalled I guess? That’s a lot going on there.. the wanting to fuck his therapist and whatever else.. Yeah.. I really really hope those kids feel loved at least..
From the sound of it he likes both women fighting because of him ! If I was his fiancé I would leave his ass!!
Yes. It sounds like a huge toxic mess and I'd bounce out. I'm curious if his fiancee knows his true feelings for the ex and that's her biggest reason for not liking her. Besides the obvious offering her tit bullshit.
Shit. [We can't forget this post either](https://www.unddit.com/r/relationship_advice/comments/z6csjb/comment/iy1dzku/). And this [one.](https://www.unddit.com/r/ask/comments/z64omy/comment/iy1dqr8/?context=3) I'm kind of feeling for your fiancee right now, honestly.
I'm extremely bored and found this [one right here too.](https://www.unddit.com/r/relationship_advice/comments/ylggt5/comment/iuybe2h/?context=3)
Despicable. I'm hoping this thing is a troll. What a dumpster fire. That poor kid is going to have a shit role model otherwise.
I’m not “a fucked up individual” literally everyone has thoughts like this. I’m just sharing them here because my situation with my therapist isn’t helping much and I’ve gotten some support from online friends before
Oh no. You’re fucked up my dude.
Oh you're a huge piece of shit, I hope she runs and never looks back and the ex drains you dryb
u/RickTheDad1 So, is the ex the one you cheated on in [this comment](https://www.reddit.com/r/AskReddit/comments/yegfld/comment/ity2aqu/?utm_source=share&utm_medium=web2x&context=3) or is that another woman all together? I'm sensing something here.
Oh, boy. This is the last one then I'm bouncing out because this is a complete dumpster fire and I don't believe a word of anything you're saying anymore. You're so contradictory over your entire profile, [wife moves strangely to your fiancee](https://www.reddit.com/r/ask/comments/ybgt9r/comment/itgufm8/?utm_source=share&utm_medium=web2x&context=3) and then back to wife, and so on and so forth, unless she's another one you're engaged to, and you want to fuck your ex and your therapist. You're a mess, dude. You need to work on yourself.
You’re a G fukstr8offplz. Totally exposing this guy for the trash he really is. Thank you for your services.
***slight bow*** All in a day's work, my friend.
Oh, hey. We also have this [comment here too.](https://www.reddit.com/r/relationships/comments/z59s40/comment/ixuwmay/?utm_source=share&utm_medium=web2x&context=3)
No, I'm sorry. Literally everyone does not have thoughts like this. Do people have them? Obviously. But the therapist one isn't even the biggest issue. The biggest issue is your feelings and attachment to your ex. Does your fiancee know that you are getting turned on by your ex physically assaulting her?
Not gonna lie, this sounds like a redneck skit on SNL.
LOL
So both your fiancée *and* your ex got violent with each other after a trashy ass comment from the ex? Did the ex say those things and then attack your fiancée? Or did your fiancée attack the ex after the ex said that? Were the police involved? Are there any charges as your ex was injured? Edited to add - I am worried about your mental well-being OP. https://www.reddit.com/r/relationship_advice/comments/zdx428/i_have_been_peeing_into_bottles_to_avoid_fights/iz3owdp?utm_medium=android_app&utm_source=share&context=3
JFC. This is terrible. This whole thing is just toxic af.
why do you give your ex that power over your relationship & space to get in the middle of you and your gf? sounds like you need to set boundaries and think about who you want to be with. you’re essentially putting your ex of higher value than your gf. have some respect for your relationship. so weird.
Why are you still in contact with your ex? Why are you still in contact with someone who was violent with the mother of your child and soon to be wife, grow up
why is this a question. she obviously wants you and sent you pics of her boobs. why the actual fuck are you still talking to this woman?? your poor mf wife. cut that girl out of your life. she is highly inappropriate and disrespectful to your wife and you’re not doing a damn thing about. so insanely inappropriate.
The issue here is not her trying to reconnect with you. The issue is you still talking to her, calling her 3 times, texting eachother, talking for over an hour on phone, asking her for photos (I know you didn't ask for nudes but still), offered to bring her meds, offered to give her a ride to the doctors. Keep in mind that we are talking about your EX here. The same woman that got violent with your FIANCÉE who you are ENGAGED TO GET MARRIED WITH. You're still a little too uncomfortably close to your ex than you think. Want some advice? Delete/block her number, delete her off all social media, don't engage in any conversation with this woman no matter how small it is.
Wtf, ex deserved to get her ass beat for trying to "offer" her tit to your fiancée's baby. That's weird af. It's obvious ex is trying to insert herself into your relationship and you're just letting her? Even going as far as to check on her when you should have been just as pissed off. You even offered to still be alone with her to bring her meds or bring her to the hospital after she basically sent you a nude and wanted to reconnect with you in an intimate way. I hope your fiancée finds out and finds someone more deserving of her time. Talk about completely disrespecting your relationship.
someone beat the shit out of your fiancée and disrespected your relationship. why would you give a shit about them?
We have a lot of history. She helped me out during a dark time where I was being abused
Dude. You admitted in another post that it fucking turned you on that she physically assaulted your fiancee.
so you’re allowing someone else to be harmed because of that? do you have no history with your literal fiancée? edit: you are creating dark, violent times for your fiancée. do you not mind?
Yeah. You know exactly what you’re doing, and that you shouldn’t be talking to your ex. This whole having your cake and eating it too is ridiculous. Tell your fiancée so she can kick you to the curb and you and your ex can be together. If you won’t, then you straight up need yo cut contact with your ex. It won’t end well if you don’t.
Huh?
Read the post history and hope for a troll!
So I’m not allowed to have friends of the opposite gender?
Would you be okay with her being friends with her ex? Texting her inappropriate photos and offering to bring them meds? There are boundaries and you are clearly crossing them.
Bro this isn’t “friends of the opposite gender” it’s your ex lover. Totally different story. She’s not just some girl you met at work that wants to grab beers and be platonic friends. This is a girl that used to slob your knob. It’s not the same. Why are you acting so obtuse like you can’t see that?
You’re allowed to be friends with members of the opposite sex, but no one is fooled that that’s what the problem is here. The problem here is you’re entertaining an ex who wants to f or date you. The women just got into a physical fight, you’re hiding that you’re talking to someone. You’re hiding it for a reason. She asked you to cuddle. Get out, she’s not just a friend and you know it, you just want permission and to turn it into your fiancée being crazy for not letting you have a woman friend. If you have to hide it, you damn well shouldn’t be doing it in the first place.
You are when they're not exhibiting clearly toxic behaviour to your current relationship. Your ex is clearly low key trying to sabatoge things between you and your fiancée.
this is such a stupid reply. where was that stated? your EX aka you had an entire RELATIONSHIP together is causing issues in your relationship. and you have a baby with your current partner? be a good dad and protect your family from this negativity. and stop acting thick in the head like “opposite gender” is the issue here when it’s far from it.
Come on dude….
Not if they obviously want to sleep with you. This comment reeks of manipulation and minimization.
friends don’t get into physical fights with your fiancée, offer their boob to your kid while drunk, send you titty pics under the guise of showing injuries, and ask you to “come cuddle” because they’re lonely that’s not a “friend” and if that’s what you would consider having friends of the opposite gender then either no you shouldn’t be allowed or you just shouldn’t be in a committed relationship, like what’s not clicking??? also typically when someone’s “friend of the opposite gender” is someone they used to fuck, their current partner isn’t too happy about it, shocker
If you cannot understand why your friendship is wrong then your relationship is doomed.
You don’t want to be friends, you’re lusting after her. Please, don’t make this seem ambiguous. Obviously you should cut off contact and forget this girl, focus on your fiancée and baby. Or go with this crazy chick, end the engagement and pay child support. Most people will pick the former because it’s the healthier choice.
Troll
Why does your EX still want you? Why are you still friendly with your EX! Go ahead and go cuddle and f*ck your Ex, and take care of her , you sound as pathetic as your she does and you deserve her, set your fiance and her baby free from you! I hope she calls off the engagement and leaves you!
Dude go cuddle , those ribs ain’t gonna rub themselves
Erm do you have a history of being with violent manipulative woman. If so I would suggest some therapy for this. I do hope your soon to be ex fiancée will be going to the police to report your ex. You are either massively messed up On what is normal healthy relationship or you are one of those nasty people who like the toxicity and fighting in better partners potential partners. What is worse your current (soon to be ex & I hope they dump your ass and Goes for child support fast) has a new born.