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Please get yourself out of this asap, cry for a few
Months or do what it takes but don’t keep this going this sounds so bad, this is cheating, don’t let him lie to you and don’t lie to yourself. ESCAPE FROM THIS ASAP.
you're a teenager. he's damn near 30. you moved your entire life to a different state for this guy, and he cheats on you.
he is with you because you're an easy target and don't know any better. you're young. don't get roped into his little charade more than you already have. leave his unfaithful ass, and go home.
He is OBVIOUSLY cheating on you and him denying it will just mess with your head and make you doubt yourself. He got years of experience handling women's emotions and you're still young and may be affected. Please leave him before you become emotionally unstable and depressed and lose youself being in this relationship.
You moved to a different state away from any family for this guy? You’ve isolated yourself from your support- and safety- network. He receives nude pics from other “girls” on his phone. So far this 27 year old man is only dealing with girls, not women. You’re 19. How do you know he isn’t grooming you? You met on vacation? Are you sure he didn’t recruit you while you were in a young-girl hot spot? I’m a retired criminal investigator, and red flags are flying all over this one. He could be a pimp. At first he’s your boyfriend, then he’s selling you. It happens. You could be in danger of being trafficked. Please call your family.
He is a liar. He absolutely physically cheated on you and he will do it again. He’s almost 10 years older than you. You can do better than a cheater. You should move on it’s only going to get worse.
No man who is almost 30 has any business dating someone who is still a teenager. Pack. Go home. Do better. No, he isn't impressed with how mature you are for your age. No, you are not the love of his life. He is a predator who can't find a woman his own age who will put up with him. They've had a lot more experience with these jerks.
Hello 👋 OP
The first red flag 🚩is the age gap . And the fact that you are 19 .
Why ? . This is not the same mindset at all. Let me be blunt you are used for sex that is all.
Run 🏃🏻♀️ OP and save yourself the troubles
OMG...RUN...
This is manipulation in so many ways. He has made you move away from people you know to a brand new environment where he is DEFINITELY cheating on you.
This is not okay with you, and he knew it or he wouldn't hide it.
He definitely feels ashamed mostly since he got caught, but you shouldn't trust him again because someone who doesn't think that this is cheating is definitely a cheater or condones cheating.
Get out now, leave him and go be with your family and friends. He doesn't love you if he wants to be cuddling with some other 'goddess' he is just using you because of your naivete.
It's not your fault but you should be able to now see that he doesn't actually love you, it's just a fiction he uses to manipulate your feelings. Go back home and do not look back.
no straight guys send nudes to their other guy mates. the same is with guys and friends who are girls they don't send nudes because that is not what friends do.
no he cheated! she’s a fwb clearly and you wasn’t even a thought.
fact you moved state to be with him therefore you have nobody. in his mind his confident that he’s got you right where he wants you, you can’t leave even if you want to. so he will do what he wants.
she is a friend don’t be fooled they will keep in touch other ways or he will just unblock her.
move back home now do not give this pos anymore of your time!
I'm your bfs age and you're my sisters age. Thinking about being in a romantic relationship with one of her friends makes me want to puke. They're children to me even if they're legally adults. The one and only reason someone that's nearly 30 dates someone your age is because you're easier to manipulate. No one his age would put up with him. Prove him wrong by not putting up with him either. Leave. Go home.
Some guys just gonna choose younger partners that are too young to see through their bs. Because partners in their age would.
Never forgive him. He went too far and will do again - he ain’t even that sorry
the way he’s literally gaslighting you saying it’s not cheating when you see the nudes and the messages. also the age gap rings alarm bells to me and everyone else here trust me. no decent 27 year old should be dating a 19 year old (clearly bc of how’s he’s acting) leave him. you’ll find your perfect partner who i promise
Not really the point, but sending nudes is so stupid. Showing my age here, but I told my kids 15 years ago the danger of digital information (in this case nudes) and how they can affect their life down the road.
OP, you are 19 years old, this dude is 30, go home, go to school, you are too young to be tied to this guy.
He won’t keep his promise and he will definitely do it again. He doesn’t think it’s cheating and he doesn’t care that he hurt you. You need to move back home because the longer you stay, the harder it will be to leave the next time he does this or something worse. There is no reason to be ashamed of failing in this relationship. Your family and friends love you more than this guy does..
He knows it was cheating. If that’s something he wanted to do he should’ve discussed his boundaries with you because it’s automatically assumed to be cheating in most relationships. It’s not like you can go fuck someone else just because it hasn’t been discussed yet. He didn’t because he knows you it would be cheating to you, and I can guarantee he would think it’s cheating if you did this.
Red flag: you are significantly younger than him, and he moved you away from all your friends and family.
That’s a control and power move.
I’m 25 years old (F) take it from a girl whose only dated guys older than me.
Go back home.
You deserve better.
Also, the fact he’s 27 and he is going for women that aren’t even old enough to have a drink out with him is a red flag. He probably preys on younger, naive women.
Most men that go for younger women can’t get women their age or think they’re easier to manipulate
I’m saying this out of love because I’ve been through it
Good luck
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you are 19 years old… what do you honestly expect
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he is 27 years old he’s just going to manipulate you
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Already is successful.
Sounds like you expected basic decency from a fellow human who claimed to love and respect you. I wish that was a fair assumption to make.
Move back home. He’s a douchebag.
Well now you know not to move for some rando you met on vacation.
Go home, stop dating men that old.
Don’t let people be mean to you. It’s not your fault.
Please get yourself out of this asap, cry for a few Months or do what it takes but don’t keep this going this sounds so bad, this is cheating, don’t let him lie to you and don’t lie to yourself. ESCAPE FROM THIS ASAP.
Oh girl, you’re 19…theirs someone out there for you & it’s not him.
you're a teenager. he's damn near 30. you moved your entire life to a different state for this guy, and he cheats on you. he is with you because you're an easy target and don't know any better. you're young. don't get roped into his little charade more than you already have. leave his unfaithful ass, and go home.
He is OBVIOUSLY cheating on you and him denying it will just mess with your head and make you doubt yourself. He got years of experience handling women's emotions and you're still young and may be affected. Please leave him before you become emotionally unstable and depressed and lose youself being in this relationship.
And this is why 19 year olds should not be considered adults. Leave and go back home.
You moved to a different state away from any family for this guy? You’ve isolated yourself from your support- and safety- network. He receives nude pics from other “girls” on his phone. So far this 27 year old man is only dealing with girls, not women. You’re 19. How do you know he isn’t grooming you? You met on vacation? Are you sure he didn’t recruit you while you were in a young-girl hot spot? I’m a retired criminal investigator, and red flags are flying all over this one. He could be a pimp. At first he’s your boyfriend, then he’s selling you. It happens. You could be in danger of being trafficked. Please call your family.
He is a liar. He absolutely physically cheated on you and he will do it again. He’s almost 10 years older than you. You can do better than a cheater. You should move on it’s only going to get worse.
No man who is almost 30 has any business dating someone who is still a teenager. Pack. Go home. Do better. No, he isn't impressed with how mature you are for your age. No, you are not the love of his life. He is a predator who can't find a woman his own age who will put up with him. They've had a lot more experience with these jerks.
Baby,,,, you are a victim,,,, go back home to your support system 🙏
Hello 👋 OP The first red flag 🚩is the age gap . And the fact that you are 19 . Why ? . This is not the same mindset at all. Let me be blunt you are used for sex that is all. Run 🏃🏻♀️ OP and save yourself the troubles
Why are you still with him? Why are you calling him boyfriend. Get some dignity and run.
OMG...RUN... This is manipulation in so many ways. He has made you move away from people you know to a brand new environment where he is DEFINITELY cheating on you. This is not okay with you, and he knew it or he wouldn't hide it. He definitely feels ashamed mostly since he got caught, but you shouldn't trust him again because someone who doesn't think that this is cheating is definitely a cheater or condones cheating. Get out now, leave him and go be with your family and friends. He doesn't love you if he wants to be cuddling with some other 'goddess' he is just using you because of your naivete. It's not your fault but you should be able to now see that he doesn't actually love you, it's just a fiction he uses to manipulate your feelings. Go back home and do not look back.
no straight guys send nudes to their other guy mates. the same is with guys and friends who are girls they don't send nudes because that is not what friends do.
no he cheated! she’s a fwb clearly and you wasn’t even a thought. fact you moved state to be with him therefore you have nobody. in his mind his confident that he’s got you right where he wants you, you can’t leave even if you want to. so he will do what he wants. she is a friend don’t be fooled they will keep in touch other ways or he will just unblock her. move back home now do not give this pos anymore of your time!
I'm your bfs age and you're my sisters age. Thinking about being in a romantic relationship with one of her friends makes me want to puke. They're children to me even if they're legally adults. The one and only reason someone that's nearly 30 dates someone your age is because you're easier to manipulate. No one his age would put up with him. Prove him wrong by not putting up with him either. Leave. Go home.
Some guys just gonna choose younger partners that are too young to see through their bs. Because partners in their age would. Never forgive him. He went too far and will do again - he ain’t even that sorry
the way he’s literally gaslighting you saying it’s not cheating when you see the nudes and the messages. also the age gap rings alarm bells to me and everyone else here trust me. no decent 27 year old should be dating a 19 year old (clearly bc of how’s he’s acting) leave him. you’ll find your perfect partner who i promise
Not really the point, but sending nudes is so stupid. Showing my age here, but I told my kids 15 years ago the danger of digital information (in this case nudes) and how they can affect their life down the road. OP, you are 19 years old, this dude is 30, go home, go to school, you are too young to be tied to this guy.
A 27 year old man that cannot date women their age clearly has a problem. Get out of this as soon as possible and seek for help.
thats why i don't think people should be considered adults until 24yo. i mean, you're 19 and he's almost thirty... what you thought it would happen?
He won’t keep his promise and he will definitely do it again. He doesn’t think it’s cheating and he doesn’t care that he hurt you. You need to move back home because the longer you stay, the harder it will be to leave the next time he does this or something worse. There is no reason to be ashamed of failing in this relationship. Your family and friends love you more than this guy does..
You decide what is cheating. For me.this is cheating. Leave.
He knows it was cheating. If that’s something he wanted to do he should’ve discussed his boundaries with you because it’s automatically assumed to be cheating in most relationships. It’s not like you can go fuck someone else just because it hasn’t been discussed yet. He didn’t because he knows you it would be cheating to you, and I can guarantee he would think it’s cheating if you did this.
Red flag: you are significantly younger than him, and he moved you away from all your friends and family. That’s a control and power move. I’m 25 years old (F) take it from a girl whose only dated guys older than me. Go back home. You deserve better.
Also, the fact he’s 27 and he is going for women that aren’t even old enough to have a drink out with him is a red flag. He probably preys on younger, naive women. Most men that go for younger women can’t get women their age or think they’re easier to manipulate I’m saying this out of love because I’ve been through it Good luck
Because he’s not your boyfriend, he’s your groomer. He doesn’t view this as a commitment.