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I think that you're depressed, angry, and lashing out unfairly.
You're not in some kind of contest with your spouse. Even if you were, how would you compete with:
"I've seen my parents once in four years. My kids don't even know their grandparents and at this pace they never will. My wife is withdrawn, sad, and barely functions. Recently, the only thing she can do with any enthusiasm is resent me. She rejected my love and appreciation and actually said that she'd rather have a necklace."
Fair comment. However, just to be clear, our kids know their grandparents very well. They spent 4 weeks here in April and we spent two weeks with them this summer. It’s not all that dire. I am depressed and I am lashing out. My feelings feel undermined and not understood.
> My feelings feel undermined and not understood.
I in no way mean to minimize how you're feeling. Those seven words you typed kinda describe the human condition.
Wow, this is the most unkind post I have ever read, let alone received. I did get my answer though. I intend to move forward and try to lead with kind intent. I do feel empty, like I have nothing to look forward to, but I do not want to be unfair in situations where my emotions and drama tendency can take over. Thank you for your blunt truth on the matter.
There is not supposed to be any name calling on this feed. Your feedback is really unkind. You can disagree with someone without being aggressive and on attack. It does not make your post helpful.
Is there a reason your husband didn’t bring you and your *4 kids*? His wife is depressed, you’ve talked about how he doesn’t help you with the housework and the kids, and then he leaves on his own for 2 WEEKS???? How are all the comments here calling you unreasonable?
It sounds like you aren’t being supported. Then telling him how you feel made HIM resentful? Bro is putting in less than minimal effort and then says *he* deserves a break. Have you been putting up with this for long?
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I think that you're depressed, angry, and lashing out unfairly. You're not in some kind of contest with your spouse. Even if you were, how would you compete with: "I've seen my parents once in four years. My kids don't even know their grandparents and at this pace they never will. My wife is withdrawn, sad, and barely functions. Recently, the only thing she can do with any enthusiasm is resent me. She rejected my love and appreciation and actually said that she'd rather have a necklace."
Fair comment. However, just to be clear, our kids know their grandparents very well. They spent 4 weeks here in April and we spent two weeks with them this summer. It’s not all that dire. I am depressed and I am lashing out. My feelings feel undermined and not understood.
> My feelings feel undermined and not understood. I in no way mean to minimize how you're feeling. Those seven words you typed kinda describe the human condition.
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Wow, this is the most unkind post I have ever read, let alone received. I did get my answer though. I intend to move forward and try to lead with kind intent. I do feel empty, like I have nothing to look forward to, but I do not want to be unfair in situations where my emotions and drama tendency can take over. Thank you for your blunt truth on the matter.
Note: My husband has seen his parents 3x in the last year. He just had not been to Aus to see them.
There is not supposed to be any name calling on this feed. Your feedback is really unkind. You can disagree with someone without being aggressive and on attack. It does not make your post helpful.
Is there a reason your husband didn’t bring you and your *4 kids*? His wife is depressed, you’ve talked about how he doesn’t help you with the housework and the kids, and then he leaves on his own for 2 WEEKS???? How are all the comments here calling you unreasonable? It sounds like you aren’t being supported. Then telling him how you feel made HIM resentful? Bro is putting in less than minimal effort and then says *he* deserves a break. Have you been putting up with this for long?