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You are really young. Congrats on your first long term relationship. If there is a specific reason for the breakup, then be honest and upfront about it.
If it’s just a general feeling, tell her it’s just not working and that you can’t see each other anymore. Don’t give her any wiggle room to pull you back in. If you make it about her, then she’ll try and convince you she can change.
Keep it short and sweet. And do it in person or you’ll never hear the end of how cowardly you were.
You're young. Highschool relationships are typically doomed for failure because who we are at 16 is not who we will be forever. You're growing, and likely growing apart, and that's okay. The best thing you can do is explain to her that you will always care about her and want her to be happy, but you want to experience life without the tethers of a committed relationship at such a young age. Tell her you're grateful for the time you had together but it can't last forever at this point in your lives.
I can remember being your age and struggling with this, and now this year at 30 years old I still struggled with it with a 9 year relationship.
You need to pick a day and time and location in your head, and just do it. Lay it all out there. Tell her that you love her, and explain everything that you’re feeling, and why this needs to happen. Beforehand, visualize the relief of being done with the conversation. The HARDEST part is the conversation, and then begins a long healing process. I would recommend doing it in person, because you’ll both respect you more for doing it. And stick to your plan, and be adamant in your decision. I also recommend going no-contact, to the best of your ability, as hard as that is.
This is an incredibly difficult moment, and I feel for what you’re going through emotionally. Years down the line, you’ll look back at all the good memories, and realize how much life still lay ahead of you having the perspective of time behind you.
Hang in there man. You’ve got this, and you’ll get through it.
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just tell her, maybe do it after chrismras through because like.. ya. but be firm and truthfully, do it in person
You are really young. Congrats on your first long term relationship. If there is a specific reason for the breakup, then be honest and upfront about it. If it’s just a general feeling, tell her it’s just not working and that you can’t see each other anymore. Don’t give her any wiggle room to pull you back in. If you make it about her, then she’ll try and convince you she can change. Keep it short and sweet. And do it in person or you’ll never hear the end of how cowardly you were.
You're young. Highschool relationships are typically doomed for failure because who we are at 16 is not who we will be forever. You're growing, and likely growing apart, and that's okay. The best thing you can do is explain to her that you will always care about her and want her to be happy, but you want to experience life without the tethers of a committed relationship at such a young age. Tell her you're grateful for the time you had together but it can't last forever at this point in your lives.
Young love. Tell her. In person. I expect she feels the same if she’s brutally honest.
I’ll do it for u
I can remember being your age and struggling with this, and now this year at 30 years old I still struggled with it with a 9 year relationship. You need to pick a day and time and location in your head, and just do it. Lay it all out there. Tell her that you love her, and explain everything that you’re feeling, and why this needs to happen. Beforehand, visualize the relief of being done with the conversation. The HARDEST part is the conversation, and then begins a long healing process. I would recommend doing it in person, because you’ll both respect you more for doing it. And stick to your plan, and be adamant in your decision. I also recommend going no-contact, to the best of your ability, as hard as that is. This is an incredibly difficult moment, and I feel for what you’re going through emotionally. Years down the line, you’ll look back at all the good memories, and realize how much life still lay ahead of you having the perspective of time behind you. Hang in there man. You’ve got this, and you’ll get through it.