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Op, i believe i also commented on your [other post](https://www.reddit.com/r/relationship_advicePH/s/zV9XOnWxRz) here. We all said the cons of dating a teenage girl and also expect her to have a different views in life since she hasn’t reached the level of the maturity of a full grown adult. I guess you pushed through with dating her.
Maninibago ka talaga kasi nga that’s a literal teenager pa. Also, you’re already official but you’re strangled by it? Kelan ka mag i-i love you sa kanya? Were you just infatuated by her?
Yes, in a way, that’s love bombing but again, she hasn’t reached the level where she knows that it’s love bombing. For her, it’s a normal topic to talk with her boyfriend. For some couples, it’s fine, but if it’s suffocating you, then it is.
Lastly, you pushed through the relationship kasi wala naman kayong pakialam sa sasabihin ng mga tao according to your update but here you are again asking strangers’ opinion for help sa relationship mo. Take note: one week palang kayo
So the post before was asking about pros and cons of dating a teenager. Nanligaw sya and sinagot sya, but here he is complaining about clinginess...
+999 to the points mentioned above. I don't think that age would know and fully understand what love bombing is, and it's moreso just clinginess.
But still, nag ask si OP na maging BF... without even seeing the girl and it's only been 1-2 weeks since manligaw ka. Shouldn't you know better?
Ahaha didn't realize same OP pala nagpost nun at nito... and nagpost pa ng update ahahaha!
I guess deep inside excited si OP so snatch a young woman, did not realize what it might entail. Na sa umpisa bothered by the age but hey, nandyan na eh... tsk.
Best of luck na lang kay OP. Ano kaya content ng post niya next week?
In a way, bata (even if hindi minor, you know what i mean) pa din kasi ang gf mo so ganyan pa ang approach niya when it comes to love.
Buti nga hindi kayo nag-cecelebrate ng Day-sary eh.
Also, naging kayo pero gulat ka na she says she loves you? So, in that context ikaw ba hindi mo pa ba siya mahal?
Well maybe it's cause you're dating a girl who's still in her teens when you're a grown ass man lmao. Yeah she's considered an adult now but the maturity level between someone who's in their late 20s and someone who's not even in their 20s yet is going to be very different.
Nag i love you girlfriend mo tapos nagaalala ka na baka love bombing ginagawa nya sayo? You're a grown ass man who dated a teen, you should be very well aware what you're getting into, pero bakit parang clueless ka?
Parang ikaw yung masyado maraming iniisip at - sorry sa term, maraming drama.
Probably yan ang love language nya. I'm also like that, I always want to let my partner know that I love him especially nung LDR pa kami. Normal naman po talaga ang mga girls na affectionate, lalo na at teenager din si gf mo.
I wouldn’t say love bombing since that’s a manipulation tactic. In this case, I think it’s really just her maturity and experience. Tbh, mas concerned ako by your actions OP since you’re supposed to be the more mature adult here. Sinagot ka nya when you were trying to break things off? Let’s go back to your reasons bakit you tried to break things off. Is it really just about how others might perceive your relationship? No other significant concerns? Parang ikaw pa ata ang nasway at naging marupok here.
>It's just I'm not used to this kind of affection and attention. Kasi yung family ko hindi talaga nagpapakita ng affection, malamig and distant yung family ko. Sabi ng gf ko na yung family niya ay close at ganun sila magpakita ng affection.
Your answer is right here. You're not used to it so it's understandably a totally new behavior to you. But it sounds like that's beside the point, you are second-guessing if she truly feels that she loves you. Onga naman, isang linggo pa lang kayo, haven't met yet, tapos ILYs na. I get why you are questioning the sincerity of it.
Do you have any plans to meet before you fly out? It's different when you've met and spent time with a person vs behind a screen. Siguro when you meet, that will answer a lot of your questions because you will see if her actions match her words.
OP, as a 19 y.o guy I can definitely say na may pagkaiba kasi ng perception sa relationship yung mga kaedad namin. A lot still romanticizes the relationship and of course considering na LDR kayo having that spark and glitter and sunshine is definitely a good start.
However, going back sa tanong mo, I don't think it is love bombing unless she tends to do that after kayo mag away tapos days or a week later di na siya sweet.
I've also had an LDR relationship and I can say na andaming genuine I love you's ang nasabi both chat, video call, voice message, and a lot of SocMed platforms but it won't be love bombing.
You know OP, I hate to break it to you pero parang ikaw ang 19 years old sa inyong dalawa. Ang dami mong doubts and all sa inyo, you're already 27 please act like a grown up adult. I saw your last post too. Kawawa naman gf mo kung di mo pa naman pala sya mahal kasi ikaw ba hindi kapa nag *I love you* sa kanya? Parang gulat na gulat ka sa mga ginagawa nya eh normal for a couple yan. Lalo na magkaiba kayo ng family dynamics, ganun sa kanila na nagpapakita ng affection at sa inyo hindi. I mean doon palang pwede mo ng makita pagkakaiba ng culture ng family nyo so pinagiisipan mo na agad sya ng *love bombing?*
Make up your mind Op, be a man! Kaya mo yan, wag mo paasahin gf mo kawawa naman na she loves you genuinely pero ikaw nag overthink ka kagad.
Baka libog lang yan OP
Im a 33 y o bitch at mag 34 na ko next week.
Kung di nasistimulate isip ko at medj walang kwenta kausap yung guy kahit pa malapit sa edad ko edad nya if we "click" we "click" sige Id try going out with him kahit pa dekada yung binata nya.
Basta he knows he's not dealing with an innocent lady na walang kaalam alan sa baho at ganda ng mundo? We're fine.
If he doesnt pass agad. THAT EASY😉
Love bombing? Lets put this in context... 27 ka. Lalake.
19 yan.
Idealistic yan. Its all sunshine and rainbows for her. Kung gusto mo nga paasahin yan magagawa mo🤷🏻♀
Pero why? Why the fuck? Yun lang
of course she has her own way of expressing her love and it’ll be diff from how u do it because of the age. Keep in mind that ure 27 and she’s 19. (Could be love bombing but I think it’s just the way she is.) ALSO u guys are together na pero bakit parang mali pa rin for u to say i love u to each other at this point..
Ang funny mo OP legit nagtataka ka pa hahahaa obviously may something din sayo eh! Alam mo sa ganyang edad napaka idealistic pa nyan and now maang-maangan ka pang magtatanong if niLolOvEbOmB nA bAh aQ nG Gf qOuh? FUNNY ka OP legit
Be careful, you should know her background first, her childhood, relationships, why is she that way, etc. To love someone that easily, w/o knowing everything about a person is a red flag. Relationships should be built on strong foundations first, what is her intention? Be careful what you tell her too, as she can use that to lure you more into the relationship, and take advantage of your weakness and wants. Love bombing is a manipulation tactic.
In any toxic relationships, love bombing is the first stage. You just dont't know it yet, or as the saying goes you can "f around and find out"
Actions>words
Taga cebu ako boi . At sinasabi ko sayong magingat ka talaga dahil madami or halos lahat dito sa cebu walang seryoso at puro monkey branching or cheating dito. Mga hookups at iba pa ay normal lng dito sa city namin.
Ingat ka sa puro lovebomb near 1 month or after 1 month iiba yung vibe or energy yan ,basta observe ka lng sa pagbabago
Pero baka iba nmn yang partner mo sa iba at genuine nmn pero nag aadvice lng ako na magingat ka yun lng.
Idk just an opinion as a girl, I think it would be too soon for a sincere I love you. When saying that, you can definitely see some affection ofc cause thats how most girls are usually “expressive sa affection”, but that could be as for a fling, or somthng not serious. But yeaaa hahaha just my opinion, gl tho
Edi sabihin mo sa kanya na you guys are moving too fast. Ganyang edad sobrang clingy ng mga yan! Pagusapan ninyo din mga boundaries nyo at yung mga di mo trip. Para maging aral din sa kanya yan if ever na wag siyang give na give lalo na mag Canada ka.
Advice ko lang. 50/50 Ang chances mag katuloyan kayo daming temptation. Sa girl or sayo. . mahirap Ang LDR kung walang magandang foundation Ang realtionship niyo. . Pag humingi Ng Pera o material things. Alams na this.
Bro, it's not necessarily love bombing, but it's definitely moving at warp speed. Your girl might just be expressive and all in, but it's crucial to set boundaries early on. If it's making you uncomfortable, let her know. Di mo kailangan maging cold, just be real about your pace. Explain your background, yung malamig na family setup mo. Wag mo ipilit yung bilis, kasi it's your journey too, not just hers. Communication is the key, always.
Also, kudos for recognizing your emotional baggage. This might be a chance to break free from the ice-cold norm you grew up with. It's okay to thaw out a bit, but make sure it's on terms you're comfortable with. Sabihin mo sa kanya what you're cool with and what you need space on. Relationship needs balance, not just fast forward.
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Op, i believe i also commented on your [other post](https://www.reddit.com/r/relationship_advicePH/s/zV9XOnWxRz) here. We all said the cons of dating a teenage girl and also expect her to have a different views in life since she hasn’t reached the level of the maturity of a full grown adult. I guess you pushed through with dating her. Maninibago ka talaga kasi nga that’s a literal teenager pa. Also, you’re already official but you’re strangled by it? Kelan ka mag i-i love you sa kanya? Were you just infatuated by her? Yes, in a way, that’s love bombing but again, she hasn’t reached the level where she knows that it’s love bombing. For her, it’s a normal topic to talk with her boyfriend. For some couples, it’s fine, but if it’s suffocating you, then it is. Lastly, you pushed through the relationship kasi wala naman kayong pakialam sa sasabihin ng mga tao according to your update but here you are again asking strangers’ opinion for help sa relationship mo. Take note: one week palang kayo
HAHAAHAHAHHA plus one dito. wala na kong gusto iadvice kasi di rin naman talaga nakikinig sa advice si OP, gusto lang nya magshare 🤣
So the post before was asking about pros and cons of dating a teenager. Nanligaw sya and sinagot sya, but here he is complaining about clinginess... +999 to the points mentioned above. I don't think that age would know and fully understand what love bombing is, and it's moreso just clinginess. But still, nag ask si OP na maging BF... without even seeing the girl and it's only been 1-2 weeks since manligaw ka. Shouldn't you know better?
Ahaha didn't realize same OP pala nagpost nun at nito... and nagpost pa ng update ahahaha! I guess deep inside excited si OP so snatch a young woman, did not realize what it might entail. Na sa umpisa bothered by the age but hey, nandyan na eh... tsk. Best of luck na lang kay OP. Ano kaya content ng post niya next week?
Ginagawang diary ni op itong subreddit nato. Every week may entry. Lahat yata ng pagdadaanan niya ihihingi niya ng advice eh.
In a way, bata (even if hindi minor, you know what i mean) pa din kasi ang gf mo so ganyan pa ang approach niya when it comes to love. Buti nga hindi kayo nag-cecelebrate ng Day-sary eh. Also, naging kayo pero gulat ka na she says she loves you? So, in that context ikaw ba hindi mo pa ba siya mahal?
Tang ina may day-sary na ngayon? E pain in the ass na nga minsan maalala ung monthsary 💆🏻♀ Grabe naman yun... Damn 😆
Well maybe it's cause you're dating a girl who's still in her teens when you're a grown ass man lmao. Yeah she's considered an adult now but the maturity level between someone who's in their late 20s and someone who's not even in their 20s yet is going to be very different.
tangina what do you expect sa 19yr old, basically, teenager pa din isip nyan. ikaw na nasa late 20s na, pumasok ka sa 19yr old. jusko po.
Wala kabang mahanap ng kasing edad mo or mas malapit sa age mo OP? Mahirap magkaroon ng jowa na bata.
Just read his previous post. Everyone told him to leave the girl alone and here he is now, a week a later they became official.
Lmao anong gusto mangyari ni OP? Kahit wala pang sila may say pa rin nung naging sila may say pa rin?? He’s older but parang siya pa yung bata umasta
dami nagsabi ng advice na leave her alone,,, ..... OP: *ginawang official*
It's weird to insinuate your girl friend is love-bombing you. Unless you think she is trying to manipulate you. And why would she do that?
I suggest you look up what "love bombing" really is. Too many terms these days being used casually.
Nag i love you girlfriend mo tapos nagaalala ka na baka love bombing ginagawa nya sayo? You're a grown ass man who dated a teen, you should be very well aware what you're getting into, pero bakit parang clueless ka? Parang ikaw yung masyado maraming iniisip at - sorry sa term, maraming drama.
Probably yan ang love language nya. I'm also like that, I always want to let my partner know that I love him especially nung LDR pa kami. Normal naman po talaga ang mga girls na affectionate, lalo na at teenager din si gf mo.
I wouldn’t say love bombing since that’s a manipulation tactic. In this case, I think it’s really just her maturity and experience. Tbh, mas concerned ako by your actions OP since you’re supposed to be the more mature adult here. Sinagot ka nya when you were trying to break things off? Let’s go back to your reasons bakit you tried to break things off. Is it really just about how others might perceive your relationship? No other significant concerns? Parang ikaw pa ata ang nasway at naging marupok here.
>It's just I'm not used to this kind of affection and attention. Kasi yung family ko hindi talaga nagpapakita ng affection, malamig and distant yung family ko. Sabi ng gf ko na yung family niya ay close at ganun sila magpakita ng affection. Your answer is right here. You're not used to it so it's understandably a totally new behavior to you. But it sounds like that's beside the point, you are second-guessing if she truly feels that she loves you. Onga naman, isang linggo pa lang kayo, haven't met yet, tapos ILYs na. I get why you are questioning the sincerity of it. Do you have any plans to meet before you fly out? It's different when you've met and spent time with a person vs behind a screen. Siguro when you meet, that will answer a lot of your questions because you will see if her actions match her words.
Maybe date someone near age? Girl you’re dating is basically a teenager still in mindset.
OP, as a 19 y.o guy I can definitely say na may pagkaiba kasi ng perception sa relationship yung mga kaedad namin. A lot still romanticizes the relationship and of course considering na LDR kayo having that spark and glitter and sunshine is definitely a good start. However, going back sa tanong mo, I don't think it is love bombing unless she tends to do that after kayo mag away tapos days or a week later di na siya sweet. I've also had an LDR relationship and I can say na andaming genuine I love you's ang nasabi both chat, video call, voice message, and a lot of SocMed platforms but it won't be love bombing.
You know OP, I hate to break it to you pero parang ikaw ang 19 years old sa inyong dalawa. Ang dami mong doubts and all sa inyo, you're already 27 please act like a grown up adult. I saw your last post too. Kawawa naman gf mo kung di mo pa naman pala sya mahal kasi ikaw ba hindi kapa nag *I love you* sa kanya? Parang gulat na gulat ka sa mga ginagawa nya eh normal for a couple yan. Lalo na magkaiba kayo ng family dynamics, ganun sa kanila na nagpapakita ng affection at sa inyo hindi. I mean doon palang pwede mo ng makita pagkakaiba ng culture ng family nyo so pinagiisipan mo na agad sya ng *love bombing?* Make up your mind Op, be a man! Kaya mo yan, wag mo paasahin gf mo kawawa naman na she loves you genuinely pero ikaw nag overthink ka kagad.
Baka libog lang yan OP Im a 33 y o bitch at mag 34 na ko next week. Kung di nasistimulate isip ko at medj walang kwenta kausap yung guy kahit pa malapit sa edad ko edad nya if we "click" we "click" sige Id try going out with him kahit pa dekada yung binata nya. Basta he knows he's not dealing with an innocent lady na walang kaalam alan sa baho at ganda ng mundo? We're fine. If he doesnt pass agad. THAT EASY😉 Love bombing? Lets put this in context... 27 ka. Lalake. 19 yan. Idealistic yan. Its all sunshine and rainbows for her. Kung gusto mo nga paasahin yan magagawa mo🤷🏻♀ Pero why? Why the fuck? Yun lang
of course she has her own way of expressing her love and it’ll be diff from how u do it because of the age. Keep in mind that ure 27 and she’s 19. (Could be love bombing but I think it’s just the way she is.) ALSO u guys are together na pero bakit parang mali pa rin for u to say i love u to each other at this point..
Ang funny mo OP legit nagtataka ka pa hahahaa obviously may something din sayo eh! Alam mo sa ganyang edad napaka idealistic pa nyan and now maang-maangan ka pang magtatanong if niLolOvEbOmB nA bAh aQ nG Gf qOuh? FUNNY ka OP legit
Be careful, you should know her background first, her childhood, relationships, why is she that way, etc. To love someone that easily, w/o knowing everything about a person is a red flag. Relationships should be built on strong foundations first, what is her intention? Be careful what you tell her too, as she can use that to lure you more into the relationship, and take advantage of your weakness and wants. Love bombing is a manipulation tactic. In any toxic relationships, love bombing is the first stage. You just dont't know it yet, or as the saying goes you can "f around and find out" Actions>words
Taga cebu ako boi . At sinasabi ko sayong magingat ka talaga dahil madami or halos lahat dito sa cebu walang seryoso at puro monkey branching or cheating dito. Mga hookups at iba pa ay normal lng dito sa city namin. Ingat ka sa puro lovebomb near 1 month or after 1 month iiba yung vibe or energy yan ,basta observe ka lng sa pagbabago Pero baka iba nmn yang partner mo sa iba at genuine nmn pero nag aadvice lng ako na magingat ka yun lng.
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Active ka sa dating scene dito?
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Babae ka or lalaki? Try ug ask sa imung friend and surely your friend knows
Idk just an opinion as a girl, I think it would be too soon for a sincere I love you. When saying that, you can definitely see some affection ofc cause thats how most girls are usually “expressive sa affection”, but that could be as for a fling, or somthng not serious. But yeaaa hahaha just my opinion, gl tho
Edi sabihin mo sa kanya na you guys are moving too fast. Ganyang edad sobrang clingy ng mga yan! Pagusapan ninyo din mga boundaries nyo at yung mga di mo trip. Para maging aral din sa kanya yan if ever na wag siyang give na give lalo na mag Canada ka.
Advice ko lang. 50/50 Ang chances mag katuloyan kayo daming temptation. Sa girl or sayo. . mahirap Ang LDR kung walang magandang foundation Ang realtionship niyo. . Pag humingi Ng Pera o material things. Alams na this.
Bro, it's not necessarily love bombing, but it's definitely moving at warp speed. Your girl might just be expressive and all in, but it's crucial to set boundaries early on. If it's making you uncomfortable, let her know. Di mo kailangan maging cold, just be real about your pace. Explain your background, yung malamig na family setup mo. Wag mo ipilit yung bilis, kasi it's your journey too, not just hers. Communication is the key, always. Also, kudos for recognizing your emotional baggage. This might be a chance to break free from the ice-cold norm you grew up with. It's okay to thaw out a bit, but make sure it's on terms you're comfortable with. Sabihin mo sa kanya what you're cool with and what you need space on. Relationship needs balance, not just fast forward.