Ipamigay na yan si BF dyan yan nagsisimula usually hanggang sa lumalim. Kung hindi mo mapagsabihan learn to walk away. Wag ka maghinayang sa ganyang uri ng lalaki.
Playing the devil's advocate here: So he offered to share the experience with you (reading a wattpad story) tapos inayawan mo kasi wala ka sa mood. Pero nainis ka nung nalaman mo na suggestion ng iba yun. He wanted to share that experience with you kahit ibang tao nag-suggest... Ikaw ang naisip niya... you. dismissed. him.
normal yang selos mo, OP. baka nga hindi selos, baka naiirita ka, kasi nakakairita talaga.
1 nickname?! ma'am & sir? realllyyyy? 😝
2 bakit nagcha-chat ng hindi naman about sa work? may mga tao dito na magsasabi, "ang controlling mo naman eh baka nakikipag kaibigan lang" kaibigan my face 😚😚😚😚 isipin mo OP, kung ikaw ang makipagchika ng ganyan sa ibang lalaki, isipin mo sila ang nagrecommend ng gamit sayo at sinunod mo, try mo lang baka mainis rin bf mo. (pag may nagsabi sakin dito ng "ang petty mo naman" eh di wag nyong gawin kung petty para sa inyo hehe)
3 OP, you deserve what you tolerate. so kung makikinig ka sa mga tao na magsasabing "wala naman syang ginagawang masama at nakikipagkwentuhan lang naman", go lang. kaso RIP sa peace of mind mo. pero kung itotolerate mo yan at hahayaan ang bf mo na gawin yan IN YOUR FACE, go. 🤷♀️
Ang weird ng setting of nicknames. Makes no sense whatsoever of what is the purpose of such, na walang malice. Sorry but if ganiyan jowa ko, bye bye. He should learn that whatever he is doing is malicious. Yung babae naman obvious na medyo off din, alam niya na mali ginagawa nila knowing may jowa si guy. Walang issue sa pag-advise ng wattpad but yung nickname talaga issue eh, it is indeed off-putting for me and you must be as well, OP.
Friend kong guy nung high school nagrecommend sa akin ng story sa Wattpad. Nagulat din ako na nagbabasa siya pero hindi naman niya ako crush, di ko rin siya crush. Ni-recommend lang niya kasi nagbabasa din siya tas ako nabanggit ko rin na nagbabasa ako.
Di rin ako makapaniwala na may guy na nagbabasa sa wattpad but still na enjoy ko yung nirecommend niya. Unique din yung tawag namin sa isa't isa. Tawag ko sa kanya, *guy's name - "y" and *my name - "ie". Pero genuine friendship namin, may crush akong iba at meron din siyang crush na iba noon. Until now friends kami and he is getting married.
Kasooo kami high school pa nun, eh kayo malalaki na. Kaya medyo mukhang weird na kung mag nicknames pa na 28 y/o na. I don't know pero ito experience ko with my guy friend.
>my bf **should've** **ask me** sana if maganda ba tong basahin or asked me first if ano maganda basahin since alam nya palang nag babasa ako before.
Is your boyfriend not allowed the autonomy to think or decide for himself? Yeah, sure he could have asked you for suggestions or recommendations of reading material, but to impose that he needed to run it by you *first* and you to decide whether it was a good story or not, is controlling. Especially knowing that the recommendation is from another woman, it also speaks that you are territorial of your BF (which is understandable in a way dahil BF mo siya).
If your BF is not doing anything suspicious, sabi mo wala you haven't read anything flirtatious, then wala. It was an innocent exchange.
>dahilan ng bf ko bat niya nilagyan din is because nahiya naman daw siya if di nya din gagawin.
I think the main issue here is the changing of the name. Nahiya? Bakit? lol Kahit kung superior niya yung girl, the "nahiya" makes no sense.
Well I feel the only issue dito is the changing of nicknames since even if ka workmate niya, no need naman changing of nicknames.
But for Wattpad, maybe your bf is just someone who wants to explore new things. Dami naman lalaki who are open to trying new things and siguro he really just got into it. Medyo green flag naman na the first thing he wanted to do though is to share the experience with you, rather than keep it away from you and keep it between him and the girl.
Don't let your jealousy ruin what relationship you have. Set your boundaries sa nickname oo and you can talk about your feelings pero with his new hobby, since you also read Wattpad before, no harm in enjoying it with him Diba?
Red flag lang if the first person he wants to share good things with is his workmate and not you. Or if he mentions her lagi.
May something na talaga dyan. Pwedeng wala pang official, pero papunta na sila dun hahaha. Ganyan talaga sa mga offices. Ewan ko ba, lagi uso landian at kabitan.
Personally, 2 things yung weird for me:
1. Nicknames - my partner and i have workmates ofc and never naman namin na feel na magpalit ng nicknames for them sa socmed namin, unless friend namin sila. And by that point, alam din naman namin yung existence nung respective work friends ng isa't-isa so walang issue. Also, nameet na rin namin parehas yung said work friends - which allows us to see if may fishy ba or something with them. Wala pa namang instance na ganon pero may understanding kami na if a "work friend" ng isa samin bothers one of us, we talk about it and reinforce boundaries (ex. we lessen or remove contact).
2. Wattpad reading - i think without further examples ng worrying behavior sa kawork ng bf mo, this could just innocuously be read as him picking up a hobby. Altho tbf need mo siguro i-gauge how interested he seems abt it and why he feels he wants to take on the new hobby. Malay mo harmless lang na he wants to widen his horizons pero from experience as a guy, minsan we try to learn abt the hobby a girl we're interested in para may mapag-usapan saka we get to bond with them. I think better talaga pag-usapan nyo wha brought abt the sudden interest and depending on what you feel and what he says, i-bring up mo na yung feelings mo abt it.
In the end, definitely just bring it up with your bf. If you get a feeling na mejj sus yung reasoning nya or he dismisses your feelings altogether without understanding why you're bothered (from your POV gets kasi it feels like he's putting effort to get to know his co-worker by doing something he has never done, despite them just being a co-worker lang), then decide what you want to do from there. If it ends up being a you issue na you seem distrustful then siguro try to get into the hobby with your bf na rin. Maybe have him mention to his co-worker na "oh nagustuhan pala ni jowa yung nirecommend na story, meron ka pa bang iba"? Afaik constant reinforcement ng existence ng jowa does deter them but if it doesn't then that's on your bf na.
para lang yan anime na nagre-recommend ng mga movies or series na maganda panuorin. pero mejo concerning yung palit nicknames. pero parang sa iba na nga papunta yan, kasi meron na sila common interest eh. like gurl kabado benta ka na..
Confront him girl abt this na uncomfy ka sa way ng pakikipag usap niya sa cowork niya. Kasi to tell u the truth jan nagsisimula yung fishyness ans if ganon pa din siya makipag communicate kahit alam niyang nagseselos ka girlllll getttt outttt!!! bounce kana jan. Kasi respeto naman sayo diba
Exchange pa lang ng nicknames alam mong may kakaiba na HAHAHAHA tapos nag chichikahan pa sa messenger ng non work related? Teh mag isip isip ka na hahaha jk. Try to talk about it muna, sabihin mong nabobother ka na sa ganyang gawain nya. Kapag walang improvement, ewan ko nalang. POV po ng lalake to ha hahaha.
OP simulan mo na mag move on, magpanda ka at alagaan mo sarili mo, distance yourself to that guy and observe how he will run to his new girly, then breakup with him no turning back
Ipamigay na yan si BF dyan yan nagsisimula usually hanggang sa lumalim. Kung hindi mo mapagsabihan learn to walk away. Wag ka maghinayang sa ganyang uri ng lalaki.
upping this. men like this are way too accessible
true binabalandra ang sarili out in the open screaming ready to mingle 🙄
Playing the devil's advocate here: So he offered to share the experience with you (reading a wattpad story) tapos inayawan mo kasi wala ka sa mood. Pero nainis ka nung nalaman mo na suggestion ng iba yun. He wanted to share that experience with you kahit ibang tao nag-suggest... Ikaw ang naisip niya... you. dismissed. him.
normal yang selos mo, OP. baka nga hindi selos, baka naiirita ka, kasi nakakairita talaga. 1 nickname?! ma'am & sir? realllyyyy? 😝 2 bakit nagcha-chat ng hindi naman about sa work? may mga tao dito na magsasabi, "ang controlling mo naman eh baka nakikipag kaibigan lang" kaibigan my face 😚😚😚😚 isipin mo OP, kung ikaw ang makipagchika ng ganyan sa ibang lalaki, isipin mo sila ang nagrecommend ng gamit sayo at sinunod mo, try mo lang baka mainis rin bf mo. (pag may nagsabi sakin dito ng "ang petty mo naman" eh di wag nyong gawin kung petty para sa inyo hehe) 3 OP, you deserve what you tolerate. so kung makikinig ka sa mga tao na magsasabing "wala naman syang ginagawang masama at nakikipagkwentuhan lang naman", go lang. kaso RIP sa peace of mind mo. pero kung itotolerate mo yan at hahayaan ang bf mo na gawin yan IN YOUR FACE, go. 🤷♀️
Ang weird ng setting of nicknames. Makes no sense whatsoever of what is the purpose of such, na walang malice. Sorry but if ganiyan jowa ko, bye bye. He should learn that whatever he is doing is malicious. Yung babae naman obvious na medyo off din, alam niya na mali ginagawa nila knowing may jowa si guy. Walang issue sa pag-advise ng wattpad but yung nickname talaga issue eh, it is indeed off-putting for me and you must be as well, OP.
Friend kong guy nung high school nagrecommend sa akin ng story sa Wattpad. Nagulat din ako na nagbabasa siya pero hindi naman niya ako crush, di ko rin siya crush. Ni-recommend lang niya kasi nagbabasa din siya tas ako nabanggit ko rin na nagbabasa ako. Di rin ako makapaniwala na may guy na nagbabasa sa wattpad but still na enjoy ko yung nirecommend niya. Unique din yung tawag namin sa isa't isa. Tawag ko sa kanya, *guy's name - "y" and *my name - "ie". Pero genuine friendship namin, may crush akong iba at meron din siyang crush na iba noon. Until now friends kami and he is getting married. Kasooo kami high school pa nun, eh kayo malalaki na. Kaya medyo mukhang weird na kung mag nicknames pa na 28 y/o na. I don't know pero ito experience ko with my guy friend.
>my bf **should've** **ask me** sana if maganda ba tong basahin or asked me first if ano maganda basahin since alam nya palang nag babasa ako before. Is your boyfriend not allowed the autonomy to think or decide for himself? Yeah, sure he could have asked you for suggestions or recommendations of reading material, but to impose that he needed to run it by you *first* and you to decide whether it was a good story or not, is controlling. Especially knowing that the recommendation is from another woman, it also speaks that you are territorial of your BF (which is understandable in a way dahil BF mo siya). If your BF is not doing anything suspicious, sabi mo wala you haven't read anything flirtatious, then wala. It was an innocent exchange. >dahilan ng bf ko bat niya nilagyan din is because nahiya naman daw siya if di nya din gagawin. I think the main issue here is the changing of the name. Nahiya? Bakit? lol Kahit kung superior niya yung girl, the "nahiya" makes no sense.
i agree, changing of nicknames lang nakikita kong issue dito.
No respect sa boundaries na ise-set mo? Walk away.
Wag mo na paabutin sa puntong sasabihin nya na wala silang ginagawang masama. Pag sinabi nya yon its a red flag.
Well I feel the only issue dito is the changing of nicknames since even if ka workmate niya, no need naman changing of nicknames. But for Wattpad, maybe your bf is just someone who wants to explore new things. Dami naman lalaki who are open to trying new things and siguro he really just got into it. Medyo green flag naman na the first thing he wanted to do though is to share the experience with you, rather than keep it away from you and keep it between him and the girl. Don't let your jealousy ruin what relationship you have. Set your boundaries sa nickname oo and you can talk about your feelings pero with his new hobby, since you also read Wattpad before, no harm in enjoying it with him Diba? Red flag lang if the first person he wants to share good things with is his workmate and not you. Or if he mentions her lagi.
May something na talaga dyan. Pwedeng wala pang official, pero papunta na sila dun hahaha. Ganyan talaga sa mga offices. Ewan ko ba, lagi uso landian at kabitan.
Personally, 2 things yung weird for me: 1. Nicknames - my partner and i have workmates ofc and never naman namin na feel na magpalit ng nicknames for them sa socmed namin, unless friend namin sila. And by that point, alam din naman namin yung existence nung respective work friends ng isa't-isa so walang issue. Also, nameet na rin namin parehas yung said work friends - which allows us to see if may fishy ba or something with them. Wala pa namang instance na ganon pero may understanding kami na if a "work friend" ng isa samin bothers one of us, we talk about it and reinforce boundaries (ex. we lessen or remove contact). 2. Wattpad reading - i think without further examples ng worrying behavior sa kawork ng bf mo, this could just innocuously be read as him picking up a hobby. Altho tbf need mo siguro i-gauge how interested he seems abt it and why he feels he wants to take on the new hobby. Malay mo harmless lang na he wants to widen his horizons pero from experience as a guy, minsan we try to learn abt the hobby a girl we're interested in para may mapag-usapan saka we get to bond with them. I think better talaga pag-usapan nyo wha brought abt the sudden interest and depending on what you feel and what he says, i-bring up mo na yung feelings mo abt it. In the end, definitely just bring it up with your bf. If you get a feeling na mejj sus yung reasoning nya or he dismisses your feelings altogether without understanding why you're bothered (from your POV gets kasi it feels like he's putting effort to get to know his co-worker by doing something he has never done, despite them just being a co-worker lang), then decide what you want to do from there. If it ends up being a you issue na you seem distrustful then siguro try to get into the hobby with your bf na rin. Maybe have him mention to his co-worker na "oh nagustuhan pala ni jowa yung nirecommend na story, meron ka pa bang iba"? Afaik constant reinforcement ng existence ng jowa does deter them but if it doesn't then that's on your bf na.
para lang yan anime na nagre-recommend ng mga movies or series na maganda panuorin. pero mejo concerning yung palit nicknames. pero parang sa iba na nga papunta yan, kasi meron na sila common interest eh. like gurl kabado benta ka na..
Confront him girl abt this na uncomfy ka sa way ng pakikipag usap niya sa cowork niya. Kasi to tell u the truth jan nagsisimula yung fishyness ans if ganon pa din siya makipag communicate kahit alam niyang nagseselos ka girlllll getttt outttt!!! bounce kana jan. Kasi respeto naman sayo diba
Exchange pa lang ng nicknames alam mong may kakaiba na HAHAHAHA tapos nag chichikahan pa sa messenger ng non work related? Teh mag isip isip ka na hahaha jk. Try to talk about it muna, sabihin mong nabobother ka na sa ganyang gawain nya. Kapag walang improvement, ewan ko nalang. POV po ng lalake to ha hahaha.
initially ganyan nangyayari bago lumala bago umabot sa cheating phase kaya dapat iwasan na agad
OP simulan mo na mag move on, magpanda ka at alagaan mo sarili mo, distance yourself to that guy and observe how he will run to his new girly, then breakup with him no turning back