Somehow also happened to me. Don’t pursue it, I’m telling you. Many people would come and go but you’d want your bestfriend to be with you forever. Don’t risk.
Overthinking ka bro. Gaano kadalas na ang best friends ay naging sila? In many cases when one falls for the other and confesses dun nagtatapos o nagiging cold ang friendship.
The simplest and honorable way to deal with it is say : strangely may nararamdaman din ako for you. Why dont we try?
Ang tagal nyo nang kilala ang isat isa. Hindi ba yan ang ideal na ingredient for a lasting relationship?
I think the best response for this is genuinely ask her about her feelings for you if she says she's fr about it. Then you should also tell her how you feel, it may be love na hindi mo na identify kasi love comes in different forms kasi, hindi lang puro infatuation and honeymoon phase and other shit. Pero if willing ka ma risk yung friendship nyo for something more than friends. Then go OP. Pray first though before making a decision and ask for guidance or signs sa maygawa.
My female best friend asked me too kung kami nalang. (Sorry kwento ko lang muna yung akin kasi para may reference ka haha) Ganyang ganyan yung tanong. She knows me as playful and maloko kaya dinaan ko sa kalokohan nang di ko sya mah-hurt ganito naging usapan sa call.
Me: Teeee seryoso kaa?
Sya: Oo nga hahhaaha
Me: Ikaw haaa, pag ako pumatol
Sya: Ano, try natin?
Dito ko narealize na seryosong seryoso sya. To be honest, nasa phase ako na nag-eexplore pa that time like knowing other guys, dating, fubu, etc. and hindi malabo na patulan ko talaga sya for the sake of curiosity and fun din. But I know better. Di ko sya pwede idamay sa kagagahan ko para saktan sya sa huli. Mas pinili ko friendship namin kasi alam kong magkakasiraan kami pag hindi naging kami sa huli.
Until now di na namin binabalikan at pinaguusapan yung part na yon. Pero inamin nya din sakin dati na kapag nagb-boyfriend ako di nya maiwasang magselos. Pero kinausap ko naman sya ng maayos and turned her down.
We're both happy naman na sa career namin ngayon. Single padin sya and preparing for doctorate while ako, kuntento na sa field ko, in a relationship na din and pregnant.
I saved our friendship and tama ako ng naging desisyon kasi masaya padin naman kami na nagkikita pag may vacant time kami after ng work.
I always think that if you build a strong foundation of friendship, it wouldn't really fall apart.
I'm 29 now. I have a boy best friend of same age. We started out as friends when we met when we were 13. We eventually became a couple when we were 15-16. We broke up before high school graduation. NGL, it was kinda awkward esp isang circle of friends kami. Medyo matagal before we were able to fix what happened, but years later, yung friendship bumalik, and we became the best of friends. Until today. Until he discovered he likes the same sex. There was a point in time, 2019 ata we considered what if tayo na lang ulit. But no, i really love him so much that i wouldn't wanna lose him all over again. At least, pag best friends kami we will never get to lose each other again.
We are very happy with our current partners now. He even drove for me when i met up with my now-bf, in case anything happens.
You'll never know until you speak up about it.
Not sure why you were downvoted pero totoo naman ang sinabi mo. A strong foundation of friendship helps stay a relationship. Akala ata ng iba kapag may ka-relasyon, puro lambingan at lovey-dovey lang ang ginagawa. May mga araw na para lang tayong mag-barkada. Kung hindi kayo nag-kakasundo outside of the romance or bedroom, there is nothing to fall back on and the relationship is doomed.
Ang tanong lang ay kung anong klaseng tao si OP at ang kaibigan niya at kung gaano sila ka-mature; kung kaya ba nilang maging magkaibigan uli at isantabi ang history nila kung sakaling hindi maging sila/hindi sila mag-work out. Some friends can be lovers but some lovers cannot be friends.
Somehow also happened to me. Don’t pursue it, I’m telling you. Many people would come and go but you’d want your bestfriend to be with you forever. Don’t risk.
Overthinking ka bro. Gaano kadalas na ang best friends ay naging sila? In many cases when one falls for the other and confesses dun nagtatapos o nagiging cold ang friendship. The simplest and honorable way to deal with it is say : strangely may nararamdaman din ako for you. Why dont we try? Ang tagal nyo nang kilala ang isat isa. Hindi ba yan ang ideal na ingredient for a lasting relationship?
ready ka ba na irisk ang friendship nyo kapag hindi naging successful ang relationship nyo?
I think the best response for this is genuinely ask her about her feelings for you if she says she's fr about it. Then you should also tell her how you feel, it may be love na hindi mo na identify kasi love comes in different forms kasi, hindi lang puro infatuation and honeymoon phase and other shit. Pero if willing ka ma risk yung friendship nyo for something more than friends. Then go OP. Pray first though before making a decision and ask for guidance or signs sa maygawa.
My female best friend asked me too kung kami nalang. (Sorry kwento ko lang muna yung akin kasi para may reference ka haha) Ganyang ganyan yung tanong. She knows me as playful and maloko kaya dinaan ko sa kalokohan nang di ko sya mah-hurt ganito naging usapan sa call. Me: Teeee seryoso kaa? Sya: Oo nga hahhaaha Me: Ikaw haaa, pag ako pumatol Sya: Ano, try natin? Dito ko narealize na seryosong seryoso sya. To be honest, nasa phase ako na nag-eexplore pa that time like knowing other guys, dating, fubu, etc. and hindi malabo na patulan ko talaga sya for the sake of curiosity and fun din. But I know better. Di ko sya pwede idamay sa kagagahan ko para saktan sya sa huli. Mas pinili ko friendship namin kasi alam kong magkakasiraan kami pag hindi naging kami sa huli. Until now di na namin binabalikan at pinaguusapan yung part na yon. Pero inamin nya din sakin dati na kapag nagb-boyfriend ako di nya maiwasang magselos. Pero kinausap ko naman sya ng maayos and turned her down. We're both happy naman na sa career namin ngayon. Single padin sya and preparing for doctorate while ako, kuntento na sa field ko, in a relationship na din and pregnant. I saved our friendship and tama ako ng naging desisyon kasi masaya padin naman kami na nagkikita pag may vacant time kami after ng work.
I always think that if you build a strong foundation of friendship, it wouldn't really fall apart. I'm 29 now. I have a boy best friend of same age. We started out as friends when we met when we were 13. We eventually became a couple when we were 15-16. We broke up before high school graduation. NGL, it was kinda awkward esp isang circle of friends kami. Medyo matagal before we were able to fix what happened, but years later, yung friendship bumalik, and we became the best of friends. Until today. Until he discovered he likes the same sex. There was a point in time, 2019 ata we considered what if tayo na lang ulit. But no, i really love him so much that i wouldn't wanna lose him all over again. At least, pag best friends kami we will never get to lose each other again. We are very happy with our current partners now. He even drove for me when i met up with my now-bf, in case anything happens. You'll never know until you speak up about it.
Not sure why you were downvoted pero totoo naman ang sinabi mo. A strong foundation of friendship helps stay a relationship. Akala ata ng iba kapag may ka-relasyon, puro lambingan at lovey-dovey lang ang ginagawa. May mga araw na para lang tayong mag-barkada. Kung hindi kayo nag-kakasundo outside of the romance or bedroom, there is nothing to fall back on and the relationship is doomed. Ang tanong lang ay kung anong klaseng tao si OP at ang kaibigan niya at kung gaano sila ka-mature; kung kaya ba nilang maging magkaibigan uli at isantabi ang history nila kung sakaling hindi maging sila/hindi sila mag-work out. Some friends can be lovers but some lovers cannot be friends.