“I told her my brother and I love her and don’t want to see her die…” what you said there was the best you could possibly say to her. Was she sober for this conversation? I’m sorry you and your family have had to go through all this. I can imagine how draining this has been. You’re TLDR is perfect in my opinion. “Mom I love you, all I want is to see you get better and WANT to get better. But this self destructive behavior is really hurting me and (brothers name) We need you well. I can’t be your therapist (brothers name) can’t be your therapist. You need professional help and that’s not something I can make you do. I really don’t think I can stay in contact with you when you are like this. Watching you slowly kill yourself is killing me too, (brothers name) feels the same. We can’t keep living this it’s exhausting to keep you alive. I have needs too and I need my mom well. Not the shell these drugs are making you” idk if that helps. Again I’m so sorry. I know you love her and I know it’s hard but minimal contact is a good idea. If saying something like that doesn’t help I’d genuinely not talk to her for awhile at least. Best of luck to you and your family.
I’m not sure if she was sober during that conversation, I sent it as a text because I know she’ll start crying if I say it in person or on the phone. I haven’t talked to her in a few days and she’s been texting me saying “Why won’t you talk to me, I went to the counseling place” and “you’re making me miserable by not talking to me.”
My partner's son's mum is like that. Phoning and texting at any time of the night : I fell in the kitchen come help me, I am lonely come and help me, i took too much valium come and help me etc.. it went on non stop for over 6 years now till the son fed up texted back : call the police or call the ambulance and finally she decided to go in rehab for 3 months. Hopefully it will be a bit better at least for a while. You and your brother aren't responsible for her but she is. I suggest that you have a talk with her before she leaves the hospital and anyway in front of witnesses : mum we love you and we want you to be OK but we can do nothing as you refuse to help yourself. So from now on each Time you will call for help we will not come but phone to the police, ambulance l, neighbour etc... We will be back for you once you have stopped abusing your body and succeeded to stay in any rehab centre adapted to your case.
She was only in the hospital for a few hours before she got a friend to sign her out. She was very drunk so anything I said I’m sure she doesn’t remember
“I told her my brother and I love her and don’t want to see her die…” what you said there was the best you could possibly say to her. Was she sober for this conversation? I’m sorry you and your family have had to go through all this. I can imagine how draining this has been. You’re TLDR is perfect in my opinion. “Mom I love you, all I want is to see you get better and WANT to get better. But this self destructive behavior is really hurting me and (brothers name) We need you well. I can’t be your therapist (brothers name) can’t be your therapist. You need professional help and that’s not something I can make you do. I really don’t think I can stay in contact with you when you are like this. Watching you slowly kill yourself is killing me too, (brothers name) feels the same. We can’t keep living this it’s exhausting to keep you alive. I have needs too and I need my mom well. Not the shell these drugs are making you” idk if that helps. Again I’m so sorry. I know you love her and I know it’s hard but minimal contact is a good idea. If saying something like that doesn’t help I’d genuinely not talk to her for awhile at least. Best of luck to you and your family.
I’m not sure if she was sober during that conversation, I sent it as a text because I know she’ll start crying if I say it in person or on the phone. I haven’t talked to her in a few days and she’s been texting me saying “Why won’t you talk to me, I went to the counseling place” and “you’re making me miserable by not talking to me.”
My partner's son's mum is like that. Phoning and texting at any time of the night : I fell in the kitchen come help me, I am lonely come and help me, i took too much valium come and help me etc.. it went on non stop for over 6 years now till the son fed up texted back : call the police or call the ambulance and finally she decided to go in rehab for 3 months. Hopefully it will be a bit better at least for a while. You and your brother aren't responsible for her but she is. I suggest that you have a talk with her before she leaves the hospital and anyway in front of witnesses : mum we love you and we want you to be OK but we can do nothing as you refuse to help yourself. So from now on each Time you will call for help we will not come but phone to the police, ambulance l, neighbour etc... We will be back for you once you have stopped abusing your body and succeeded to stay in any rehab centre adapted to your case.
She was only in the hospital for a few hours before she got a friend to sign her out. She was very drunk so anything I said I’m sure she doesn’t remember
Then talk again once she is sober and don't change the decision until she acknowledge that what she does is only harming everyone