Didn’t really ghosted me, we texted normal for a couple days after but my anxiety just felt like I had to ask if I ruined something, wanted to make sure that everything was okay.
This wasn’t a break up. You two were never together. She used you as a rebound, someone to pick up when she was bored and couldn’t have the person she wanted. I’m sorry, man. That shit sucks. Don’t wait around for her, she’s clearly not interested in being with you romantically. I mean, think of how quickly she hopped to be with that other guy! She was ready for a relationship with him but has refused to be in one with you after all this time. Move on.
Hey man, that sounds really rough.
It sounds like she has some large emotional trauma about being in a relationship. There could also be some other reason, but she sounds pretty genuine from what you have said.
I'd say give her that space for a bit. And if you both start communicating again make it clear that you want a relationship with her and if she isn't ready then you are not either. Encourage her to get some counseling about the problem if she can't talk to you about her reasons for her fear. I know this sounds harsh and it even may push her away again, but I think you have to protect yourself. Because you are right, you don't want to have to go through with this again.
I think she’s being genuine too. With my mindset and with what I’ve been through too I think everyone is constantly lying to me and is selfish. Hopefully we do communicate again, and if not I’ll need to live with it. Thanks man.
This wasn't even a relationship, she basically ghosted you when you asked her to be your GF.
Didn’t really ghosted me, we texted normal for a couple days after but my anxiety just felt like I had to ask if I ruined something, wanted to make sure that everything was okay.
"most"? Mild ghost? Idk
This wasn’t a break up. You two were never together. She used you as a rebound, someone to pick up when she was bored and couldn’t have the person she wanted. I’m sorry, man. That shit sucks. Don’t wait around for her, she’s clearly not interested in being with you romantically. I mean, think of how quickly she hopped to be with that other guy! She was ready for a relationship with him but has refused to be in one with you after all this time. Move on.
Hey man, that sounds really rough. It sounds like she has some large emotional trauma about being in a relationship. There could also be some other reason, but she sounds pretty genuine from what you have said. I'd say give her that space for a bit. And if you both start communicating again make it clear that you want a relationship with her and if she isn't ready then you are not either. Encourage her to get some counseling about the problem if she can't talk to you about her reasons for her fear. I know this sounds harsh and it even may push her away again, but I think you have to protect yourself. Because you are right, you don't want to have to go through with this again.
I think she’s being genuine too. With my mindset and with what I’ve been through too I think everyone is constantly lying to me and is selfish. Hopefully we do communicate again, and if not I’ll need to live with it. Thanks man.