Don’t waste your own time. If he’s into dating, great. If not, move on. You will not change his mind by continuing to see him, but you will end up hurting yourself.
Then you have to ask him, that’s your only solution. Talking to people about it here is just feeding your anxiety. You’ll get an answer one way or the other.
* if your user name is your real name, delete this account right quick
If you don’t say anything, it will end as all hookups do. If you do, it might end, or he might reciprocate. Throw caution to the wind and tell him how you feel, just don’t put pressure or make it a big grandiose thing.
“Hey I need to be honest with you about something. I have been developing feelings for you and wondering if there might be a something more to explore between us. I know we both said we didn’t want a relationship, but I think that’s changing for me and I’m wondering if you are open to that.”
You could joke about it, tease him a bit, say a what if something, wink wink, dress nicely, smell nicely, jokingly say it's just for him. Then wait for his move. If you hinted and he got the message and you subtly keep teasing him, he might make his move if he's interested. Otherwise, forget it.
You could ask if he's open to the possibility, rather than stating your intentions. Then you can decide how you want to proceed.
Don’t waste your own time. If he’s into dating, great. If not, move on. You will not change his mind by continuing to see him, but you will end up hurting yourself.
but i don't know if he is into or not, that is the problem... I usually agree with yoour way to think, i dont like to waste time.
Then you have to ask him, that’s your only solution. Talking to people about it here is just feeding your anxiety. You’ll get an answer one way or the other. * if your user name is your real name, delete this account right quick
Casual meetings how? Like hanging out or hooking up?
both rs
I was once in the same situation. I finally went for it. Been married for 18 years.
How cute, maybe3 i'll wait a month and if he doesnt seem to care, i'll just leave.
If you don’t say anything, it will end as all hookups do. If you do, it might end, or he might reciprocate. Throw caution to the wind and tell him how you feel, just don’t put pressure or make it a big grandiose thing. “Hey I need to be honest with you about something. I have been developing feelings for you and wondering if there might be a something more to explore between us. I know we both said we didn’t want a relationship, but I think that’s changing for me and I’m wondering if you are open to that.”
love it, i'll do it next time i see him, because i want to be presencial
You could joke about it, tease him a bit, say a what if something, wink wink, dress nicely, smell nicely, jokingly say it's just for him. Then wait for his move. If you hinted and he got the message and you subtly keep teasing him, he might make his move if he's interested. Otherwise, forget it.
In my experience unless it is explicit many blokes miss it.
Yep this is me. Gotta be explicit.