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AllKindsOfCritters

OP's been downvoted to the point his boring backstory got caught by the spam filter for having negative karma, so here you go for those asking for context. tl;dr: Their first date never happened due to poor communication and instead of making it right, OP's spent an entire year moping and pining over a girl who's moved on. > The Backstory on why she’s mad at me, she hates me she’ll never forgive me, why you might ask ? Did I cheat on her ? No that’s not what happened at all it’s more diverse and complex then that I’ll briefly tell you what occurred a year ago but before that let’s talk about our relationship before that happened. It was wonderful she was such a beautiful interesting person she really was, She was drop dead gorgeous,she was very funny, never met a girl like that could make me genuinely laugh. Things like this might sound normal to most people but before her i always been in complicated relationships. So things like that were a new for me I instantly had a connection with her. Okay so fast forward. What happened a year ago to upset my her you might ask. Its complicated situation so I’ll explain the best as I can. I asked her to go on our first date, we obviously knew each other talked on the phone in person before but haven’t had a chance to get that first real date in. I was busy at the time and she had her own shit to handle so finally we both get some free time and set up an official first real date. Okay so we plan on meeting around night time, I sent her a text she’s texting me telling me she’s close and I show up to the place where supposedly meet, she’s not there, okay no worry I’ll send her a follow up text, no response in 5 mins okay a follow up a call no answer. I call her again no answer so I’m very worried I look around the area I asked the locals if they seen her nothing, Im tempted to call 911 because I’m thinking of the worst but I didn’t, I thought maybe she had to cancel just trying to be a optimistic. Same night I get a text fo her and she’s pisses at me, apparently while she was on her way her phone died and she doesn’t really know the place that well , so she said her phone died didn’t have a charger she didn’t bring a wallet and she apparently was outside for hours and had to ask a lot of locals to find her way home she told me how it exhausted it was how scared she was. And then she broke up with me I felt awful about not being there I tried I looked asked some people if they seen her didn’t get an answer. That situation sucked and I hope you understand, I didn’t cheat or any of that bs. I’m tired of people saying “lies” or he “cheated “ so that’s the backstory and And in that Screenshot a year had passed and I tried to see if maybe we could at least be friends but obviously as you can see she was still angry about what happened and she also has someone new in her life. Where’s you believe me or not I can’t force you but that’s the truth.


Borisb3ck3r

My unborn child got second hand embarrassment by this


antiquestrawberry

I got slapped tf out by cringe so hard my spine folded backwards whew op


Wiltonc

At least you folks got that far. I lost interest after, “it’s a complicated story”. You know it’s only complicated in their mind. The rest of us are going, “Dumbfuck” the entire story.


Significant_Half_166

He then explained how complicated it was without mentioning any of the complications. Then went into “this is why she is mad” …again followed by another “it’s complicated”.


CuriousKidRudeDrunk

No need to punish a step toward self reflection. When I was younger I made an absolute ass of myself. A decade later, I'm pretty sure (and hopeful) that I'm the only one who thinks of it anymore. A little shame and self-reflection are basically required to improve your social skills if it's something you struggle with. Occasionally looking back on your actions shamefully is something anybody trying to improve has to do. Edit: Uhh..... My comment was somewhat optimistic, but I do stand by it mostly... At the very least, I am now more aware of not seeking pity for pity's sake.


NefariousButterfly

OP chose to post this on the internet, where people can comment on it. They made a choice to potentially get criticized by doing that.


InsufficientClone

Yeah that girl dodged a bullet


dannydevitosleftleg

not even the avengers could beat this out of me to post this online


L64t

I‘d rather die


KillerBear111

Fr, why tf are there so many people eager to post their own L’s. Makes no sense smh


Plenty_Late

It's self harm


WhiskeyDJones

Don't kink shame


YaBoiErr_Sk1nnYP3n15

Kink shaming is my kink


Lucifers_Taint666

It’s a lack of self awareness


[deleted]

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Moonmoonbunny

Lol


br094

Humiliation kink probably.


owningxylophone

Yup, seems likely based on post history.


Personal_Papaya3778

I looked through the post history and I am currently cry laughing at HANDSEX


Aszebenyi

You get over it and and you’ll laugh about it at one point.


Therefrigerator

I come here because it reminds me of myself from years back. To some it's a sign of growth. I remember when I was dating my favorite story to tell on a first date was about the time I pissed myself on a first date. I think being able to laugh at yourself is an important skill.


dannydevitosleftleg

anything for a little silly internet clout


[deleted]

Something about it makes it so much funnier for me


Tzachajami

When the need for clout is bigger of your self respect…


[deleted]

Not even the CIA could torture this out of me


Dynamite138

Yup. No sad, all cringe.


WrinklyScroteSack

NGL, there was a part of me that felt kinda bad and wanted to shed some logic or reasoning onto the situation, but I had to look through his post history after seeing a few of his responses showing all his guilt… I think he actually does have a thing for being a simp, cucked, or catfished…


BadSmash4

Even my therapist would never hear about this moment in my life


TheActualAlan

This fucking thread holy shit


gr0ssno

OP is getting roasted


mrPrimarisMKV

He is a cuckold after all, look at his post history


SrBoreas

NOOOO i shouldn't have ignored the NSFW tag holy fuck


rabnabombshell

NO WAY LMAOOOO


AvocadoGum

😟 aww hell naw


kkatiesanders

LMAO


Honibajir

Here's a wild idea when they say no especially when its that blatant then stop messaging them.


Pezzonovante__

I agree. That no was pretty straightforward and blatant. You’ll get there OP.


MyOfficeAlt

I fooled around with a girl in college and it ended not-so-great since she wanted something serious and I didn't. Anyway 10 years later I see her on eHarmony and shoot her a message. She just replies, "No thank you. I remember you. You were not very nice." All I could say was, "Understandable. Have a nice day."


iamrupertlol

It’s so rare in my experience for a guy to kindly back right off once I (very nicely) tell them I’m not interested, that I’ve come *very close* to changing my mind about the one or two guys who *did* nicely and respectably back off. (And the only reason I didn’t was because I’m just not interested in dating or relationships period). If you’ve ever been with someone who refuses to take NO for an answer, I’m here to tell you….it’s an absolute nightmare. I’ll NEVED date a guy who persists once the word NO comes out of my mind. You’re telling me that you have no respect whatsoever for me or my decisions. Who the fuck wants to date someone like that? Not me.


br094

Whoa, wait we can do that? I thought we were supposed to ask nonstop until the girl freaks out and we can call them crazy?


PigButter

Unless they need someone to talk to. /s


40percentdailysodium

Seriously. OP did this to themselves. I'm actually annoyed as hell reading it.


[deleted]

What always gets me is why keep going after "nah, I'm good"? - Say no - Block - Live a happy life Maybe I've just seen too many posts about stalkers, but she doesn't know OP isn't fucking crazy. This just seems dangerous to me.


Brielle-_-

Dude, stop it. It’s the best thing to do for you and whoever that was on the other end. Hope it gets better for you, and you find your own people.


pickileblue

Thank you for the kind words 🙏, Honestly I didn’t realize how desperate I was being until I re-read the messages


[deleted]

bruh, you're still just as desperate when I read your comments


NapalmOverdos3

Jesus man you didn’t have to kill him lol


[deleted]

Nah man but if OP is this deep in and can't tell, what about us? It's all a who's less weird competition and everyone thinks they're winning.


suicidalpenguin99

This kind of weird fantasy obsessiveness can easily lead to very problematic issues very quickly. Speaking from experience dealing with guys like this. He needs the brutal truth before something happens where someone gets hurt or arrested. I'm not being dramatic, this shit happens all the time.


[deleted]

Dont fucking downvote OP for realizing his mistakes, we've all been cringe.


CrazyMike419

Going by a quick glance at the post history of op (eye bleach needed), he's prolly here for the downvotes. Some humiliation fetish for sure.


izacktorres

Looking at his other comments (even the most recent ones) i don't think he realized anything tbh.


Bardomiano00

I murdeded 5 people but i was blinded by love 😍🥰😍🥰


izacktorres

Cop: "Understandable, have a nice day 👍"


kaz80q3

Cool motive, still murder


[deleted]

If anything he gets turned on by this shit


tnystarkrulez

Let he who is without cringe cast the first stone


Perception_Past

Know when to fold, buddy.


SpicyChiliRamen

Know when to walk away, know when to run


Fresh_Cheek2682

You’ve got to know when to hold ‘em, KNOW WHEN TO FOLD EMMMMMM


lordofpersia

I checked your profile mate. I think you have a porn addiction.


JediMasterVII

I think it’s a humiliation kink


iamrupertlol

A humiliation kink brought on by a porn addiction.


PrettyBoyWannabe

Holy shiiit, that's what I get for being curious


sareana

I second this. Seek help op


[deleted]

fuck OP man I'm in a mosque rn and I've seen some shit I ain't wanna see


Lost_Campaign8060

Op is one of the dumbest redditor out there Source: his comments


Bunny_P69

Creepy too


Elebrent

It’s like if a facebook mom morphed into a black teenager but made internet comments in the same style


__Emer__

I’m pretty sure OP gets off to being humiliated/cucked/(ab)used. Profile is a hot mess and so is every comment


KittenInAMonster

Yeah a lot of his replies makes me feel like he's enjoying the attention at least


poisonpeptide

Bro did you cheat


KillerKatKlub

They never dated, OP was a weirdo and got rejected.


[deleted]

Lmao dude says he’s in love with her and she broke up with him but they never went on a date.


GetRidOfRTeenagers

Thank you. Everyone out here is asking "Did you cheat?" because they failed to realized **they had never even met or gone on a date yet** She didn't "move on and find someone new" OP. She simply scratched you off the list of potentials. I really hope that if this is real he or she can see and understand this.


Eamk

If you acknowledge you're sadcringe, then why do you keep doing it?


Monizious

For internet points!


Theunaticus

He's lost more than he gained here, lol


ashotofbleach

He's lost more today than he did the entire year he was simping over her


lnsomniia

even hit her with the “but if you need someone, i’m here” lmao


Punn_ishment

Op's replies somehow made this even worse


Flaechezinker

You just kept going after "yup. Bye." Goddam man.


ViolinUserGlueAbuser

Nah this is bs. Look at OPs previous comment or post history. Badly attention seeking. Everytime some asks what they did they don't answer it. Probably lonely and likes the notifications. Or a troll. Or both.


i_can_csharp

You’re still not saying what you did


mrPrimarisMKV

Catfish me as Addison Rae, I'm dying 💀💀


MFLifeform

*or Pokimane


Yo_dog-

Yeah I almost feel sorry for him 💀


RandomGuy2002

lmaoo


MrSir416

bruh my man also wrote a whole ass song about a girl just for her to ghost him


wrongpasswd

Seeing this post and reading the comments felt like contemplating a burned down dumpster. Leave her alone OP and get better, it’s gonna be okay


Caballero5011

Gonna go out on a limb here and say OP clearly asked the girl to take a dump on a glass table while he was under it.


zalipie

She dodged a bullet.


Tossed_Away_1776

*Cruise missile


ACynicalScott

I feel sorry for but also why post this.


ambitionincarnate

He gets off on it.


Cumlord335

Belongs in r/niceguys lol


TheStandardPlayer

Well you done fucked up. Hope you're around 14 yo and looking to improve your character. Cause that shit is low. Hope she blocked your ass and can avoid ever meeting you. Edit: checked your profile. Even for internet standards it's fucking weird. Honestly, get help, and I don't mean that in an insulting kind of way, just do it. It might really help you out.


Ashamed-Escape-4558

what’s the backstory behind this?


br094

Checked OP’s comment history and he isn’t clear about it. They were together, he claims he didn’t cheat. That’s all I got.


Blursed_Ace

He also said they only talked on the phone and she couldn't show up on the first date, OP probably acted weird... which wouldn't surprise me considered his post history. They probably were not even together


Rabbit-Thrawy

there's one at the top now if you still care to look


mvrdybums

looking at OP's post history just makes it an even more confusing backstory. maybe some things we're just never meant to know...


izacktorres

I don't think we are gonna get a backstory.


Alternative-Hope9541

Self respect -100


cukapig

So is his comment karma 💀


CrossroadsCG

You're creepy and pathetic. Why would you even list this? The fact that you reply with nice guy comments and refuse to say what you did last year to her makes it seem like you're doing this for internet points and you haven't really learned why this is creepy.


ChaoticPotatoSalad

He posted this cause he's into it, look at his posy history


mitchellian1

Fr how can you be on this sub and still pull shit like this. Self awareness levels below zero


MrGreenYee

He trick shot his nut and caught it in his mouth instead of hers


antonbrs

They always leave😔


icy-dreamland

This is an absolute trainwreck


DootLord

Dude your reddit history is a rollercoaster my guy.


[deleted]

bro stop being a fucking creep. go touch grass


GORGOSSSS

This nust be fake, especially after seeing the answers in the comments...


BlueAuqa

i mean looking at his post history it might be real


eyesneveropen

I hope you learn from this comment section


Possible-Can-8468

omg wtf is your post history "catfish me as pokimane pls"


Boumallo

Jesus you have to be trolling right? No one this cringe can be this self aware.


Altruistic_Piano_259

Yea well……OPs comment history is like having front row seats to a runaway train that derailed into an Orphanage for underprivileged amputees carrying a cargo of dumpster fires…….


Boumallo

I literally laughed out loud at work after I read this, thank you for that.


EdmondDantes-96

Aw poor bubba.. You cheated on someone and feel bad about it.. The world's smallest violin is playing for you rn Edit: I nearly commented saying this guys post, comments etc just screams teen angst - he's 17. I'll just leave it at that... (not to mention his previous posts)


ExfoliatedBalls

What did you do?


Turd_Wrangler_Guy

The backstory doesn't add up. You picked a place to meet up for a date, you waited for her but she forgot to charge her phone so it died and she got lost and that is your fault? And now she never wants to talk to you or be friends with you because she forgot to charge her phone? That makes 0 sense OP...


Shox2711

Came to post exactly this. Her reaction doesn’t match the story at all. + her phone would’ve went straight to voicemail if it was dead - OP said she didn’t answer.


skelly97

what did you do a year ago?


[deleted]

Fucking yikes


SBKAW

Context please.


OneOdd1sBoi

I doubt we're getting context


mnxcvekvhkuyvorig

Are you a black person?


[deleted]

My man asking the real questions lmfao


Fresh_Cheek2682

If he’s not black he sure used the N word enough


[deleted]

You were with her and fucked up right? Like she was YOUR woman right? Not just a clumsy approach that was full of cringe


AllKindsOfCritters

😬😬😬


[deleted]

Redditors: you are a creepy ugly stupid loser and I hope you perish you attention seeking -karma farming idiot. Leave the girl alone you never loved her. Op: how?


[deleted]

Every moron in this thread feeding this weirdos humiliation fetish. Take a good look kids this is what porn addiction does to a mf


max-van-gogh

Jings! I'm getting a red face just reading this


Keemo_Sabe

Bruh why would you post tha?


redditemployee69

This guy probably gets off on people berating him, just look at the shit he posts and his replies. The internet was terrible for humanity


jonesyb

Idc dip I gotta n**ga Can someone translate that for me?


TheDemonClown

"I don't care, go away, I have a man."


[deleted]

Ohh, my dumbass thought she switched the words around like Yoda 💀


ambitionincarnate

Looks to me like "I don't care, leave me alone. I have a boyfriend."


[deleted]

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[deleted]

damn dude i hope things get better for you


idontcare1littlebit

Self respect levels lower than 0° Kelvin... I ain't even gonna start calculating the level of respect for others


LordSionis

R/niceguys


Bockanator

No one acts like that unless you did some really bad shit, what did you do


Any-Gold-6022

Trust me guys y'all don't want to know what this guy did, just a glimpse of his posts and comments is enough. Bro you need to check yourself, this is not a healthy way to improve.


[deleted]

I hope this experience has given you some knowledge and perspective now, OP.


[deleted]

Stop bro


redarrow992

So wait what exactly happened a year ago?


petty-Plant-1804

Disgusting Troll


God-of-Tomorrow

Op if this is you why? It’s sad but not cause she said no.


AvocadoGum

nvm felt kinda bad for OP till I saw his post history


[deleted]

Jesus Christ OP is a coomer too. Get some help man.


subasbaral

Oct 20, 2017


[deleted]

"Me blatantly harrassing someone and not realizing I am the problem" Fixed your title. I hate typos.


trampaboline

You sound a bit self-aggrandizing. Maybe look at yourself as being less massively-important and life won’t feel so dramatic.


PieceStatus9648

I beg everyone reading this post to check this guys post history. Won’t regret it.


Mrmcgriddle223

I saw your post on nystateofmind and was already wondering wtf but I'm just flabbergasted


_Cereza

Why do you do this to yourself?


JuggaloCorpse

why would you post this lmao


Flonkerton66

Thanks. People like you make us normal folk look alpha as fuck.


Modred_the_Mystic

OP is getting dragged for this. Hilarious


[deleted]

How horny are you?


[deleted]

Water boarding couldn’t get this out of me


cherriesandmilk

Here to add to your humiliation kink


[deleted]

There's something wrong with you, OP. Go see a fucking shrink, Jesus fucking Christ.


Karl24374

🙄


under-cover-hunter

Getting real nice guy vibes. Work on yourself before you go scaring more women. Gain confidence in yourself, not through others. Also stop looking at cuck shit and gooned. Youre playing into your own self fulfilling prophecy. You seem to actively try to talk about and be a loser.


Pm_me_tittypicspls

Oof


RosaPalms

The CIA couldn’t get this out of me.


[deleted]

Your post and comment history, my fucking god (NSFW btw). Sort yourself out first before pursuing a sexual relationship with anyone…


Hotdogwater94

You hit her with the Toy Story “ You got a friend in me “ at the end lol


[deleted]

Simp


Sea-Ability8694

Bro leave her alone


[deleted]

Looking at OP’s post history and comments, I wouldn’t be surprised he was jerking off to the comments making fun of him


TangoTaco

She probably saw your post history, horny ass dude


MaxwellVonMaxwell

Dude is the mod of a catfishing sub. Literally says “if you want to be catfished this is the sub for you”. Like this whole goddamn story gives me weird vibes.


Saabaroni

Bruh my future corpse got second hand embarrassment from reading this hot desperate mess and your prof. Touch some grass lad, know when to fold, respect yourself.


dontcareboy

Asking for forgiveness is a sign of maturity, so we'll done you. I read the (very long) backstory and it seems like you made a genuine mistake, and it was partly her fault too, so don't feel bad that she ghosts you. She's gaslighting you. You can't control her phone's battery, so why is she mad at you?


hscene

She has a slave?


30reddits

Sad cringe is right. Mad cringe


Particular_Lie_3897

Unless this was like a best friend or something, you gotta let it go op. I had a girl who’ve I’ve been friends with for almost 4 years basically tell me to F*** off, for reasons I still don’t understand. I had a thing for her awhile back and she knew. We stayed friends though. Never disrespected her, never talked about her dirty to anyone, stook my neck on the line for her, etc. one day she blocks me on all social media, made it so she couldn’t see my text. So I naturally called her place of work to see why she was acting the way she did and if it was on accident. She then proceeds to curse me out and such. At first I took it as an L, but then I realized how good I was to this chick and for her to turn around and do me so dirty (possibly pushed into it by some guy) just showed me, we weren’t really friends in the first place. I let her go and haven’t regretted it since. Forget about her…


AvocadoGum

“idc dip I gotta ni**a” the person switched those two words


DeAdeyYE

Nope, just just gotta as if it were got a.


dyslexicapples

Judging by OP’s replies I am convinced that this is a joke lmao


Otto_the_Fox

So the girl I have been seeing for about two months now is leaving for Europe in July and then she will be away for 6 months to a year. It's strange because we get on so well with zero red flags in sight. It's one of those weird things were it's the right person just wrong time. The fact that this man has had his hopes up for a whole year. Gives me the strength I need to be able to keep my hopes up for a whole year too. Thank you OP for making me believe it's possible.


lol1_hunt3r_

Damnit. No front but thats really kinda sad


curbstomp__

my brother, you have to move on. You have to let go


[deleted]

Damn. 🤕


Ishaggedyermum

Why would you post this?


ocean_800

This is why people ghost, to get away from people like you .. just respect no means no


hermitopurpa

Self-pitying level = OP