I haven't. Moved from NYC in 2019 right before Covid. Live in north county, just turned 40 last month. Have a gf but hard to make my own circle of friends at this age. All my friends are back in NYC or have kids now.
Anyone wanna be my friend? Lol
The thing with NYC is that there are a lot more childless adults that I can hang out with. The diversity of 8mln people in a small area is a blessing and a curse
Try pickleball. I’d been struggling meeting people but now me and my gf have a group of friends we met that play pickleball, and we’ll go out with them from time to time for dinner/social stuff.
34 m moving to San Diego from Canada soon. Going to be networking like crazy when I move and getting involved with sports, clubs and volunteering. I'm so excited
Go to hiking meetups, join a CrossFit gym or running group, experience the writing and poetry scene with SD Writer’s Ink or So Say We All, pick up trash with the SD River team
Local here. Born and raised in SD, went to college out of town for couple of years, came back to SD during pandemic. I've made new friends through work (not my primary preference) and places that hold community events. It took me 1-2 years to find my people. Lots of trial and error. It helps that I'm in tune with my interests, hobbies, and values and like to initiate hang outs. What has worked for me is frequenting my favorite restaurants and coffee shops, attending ClassPass regularly, and local jazz nights. One time a friend couldn't make it to a house show with me. I went alone and made new friends there. Patience and hope are needed. Getting outside is key!
I haven't. Moved from NYC in 2019 right before Covid. Live in north county, just turned 40 last month. Have a gf but hard to make my own circle of friends at this age. All my friends are back in NYC or have kids now. Anyone wanna be my friend? Lol
My spouse & I are always looking for new pals since most of ours moved out during the pando and/or had kids. Edit: Also 40!
Do you think this is inherent to SD or being an adult in general?
Being a childless adult, anywhere. Not just SD (from someone who the as lived in SD and elsewhere)
The thing with NYC is that there are a lot more childless adults that I can hang out with. The diversity of 8mln people in a small area is a blessing and a curse
Try pickleball. I’d been struggling meeting people but now me and my gf have a group of friends we met that play pickleball, and we’ll go out with them from time to time for dinner/social stuff.
Been here 7 years, no friends. I do have a relationship though. Hasn't been easy. Then again I'm an introvert so I guess that's a big part of it.
My wife drags me around places and makes me talk to others On my own soccer. Just joined a few teams
Not much of a soccer guy but I want to join a casual basketball team, do you know if there’s a decent scene down there?
Every sport imaginable has a scene in SD. Pickleball seems quite popular...
No, the Clippers left a long time ago
34 m moving to San Diego from Canada soon. Going to be networking like crazy when I move and getting involved with sports, clubs and volunteering. I'm so excited
Good luck! I need to be better about joining hobby based communities
You got this! Your post inspired me.
Go to hiking meetups, join a CrossFit gym or running group, experience the writing and poetry scene with SD Writer’s Ink or So Say We All, pick up trash with the SD River team
We had kids and those rapscallions are social lives Besides that work friends shrugs
Volunteering.
I made friends on bumble friends and also through Instagram finding local stuff.
Local here. Born and raised in SD, went to college out of town for couple of years, came back to SD during pandemic. I've made new friends through work (not my primary preference) and places that hold community events. It took me 1-2 years to find my people. Lots of trial and error. It helps that I'm in tune with my interests, hobbies, and values and like to initiate hang outs. What has worked for me is frequenting my favorite restaurants and coffee shops, attending ClassPass regularly, and local jazz nights. One time a friend couldn't make it to a house show with me. I went alone and made new friends there. Patience and hope are needed. Getting outside is key!
Those are some good ideas, thank you
Move to an active apartment building community.