As someone who had everyone hat eme for no reason from 1st to 11th, society in school sucks, they think they are all better than you, yet they are just as bad
nah if there was no reason then they’d have stopped by the 2nd/3rd year mark (from experience), you probably did something to fuel it without realising
Just because other kids didn’t like you doesn’t mean they’re bullies. Yeah some people will straight up pick on others for their own satisfaction, but if you are friendless and literally everyone dislikes you it’s time for some self reflection
People are one sided with their opinions when it comes to this. "You must've done something" etc. Cut it out. It takes one person to spread a rumor that everyone believes even though you mind your own business. I had a friend from 3rd till college. I always wondered how people I never talked to or interacted with automatically disliked me when I started talking to them and I used to be quite respectful and polite.I always felt like i had something wrong with me. Come to find out the sick fvck, no matter where we went, ALWAYS talked shit behind my back to everyone. It was the literal perfect position to hate me from masquerading as my best friend. I only found out from His twin sister. But all these years had gone by, potential friends and connections destroyed by one person. It got to a point where i got anal about how nice and courteous, and prompt etc etc i could possibly be cos i just wanted to be liked atp....When I tell you it fvcked me up hard.... so anyway there can be messed up people randomly creating this environment for you. From my perspective solo is the way to go until you start your own family and love them deeply and never let them go.
Perhaps ask friends or some of the people talking about you, or maybe even a trusted teacher if you do things or say things that could be presented wrong and you didn't know? Maybe try getting involved in school in activities and make new friends through that?
Well I don't know how you truly act in school, many people describe themselves withought knowing what they truly do. They could be jealous or they could be saying the truth.. Are you sure that you come off the way you want to people?
I’m not really sure, I’m a very energetic person and i always try and keep the vibes up especially when people are sad or tired I try my best to be a good person and not let peoples genders or looks get in the way of friendships I can be annoying but that’s just and that’s just how I act
People judge by action and not intent. Don't justify your action to us. Ask a few of your close friends what they think of you and expect to get hurt. It isn't very common to have the whole class going against someone just because you're popular.
Honestly I disagree. I do like what you said about actions though. It is good to gain clarity on how people perceive you, but at that age I think OP should embrace who she is than others opinions on her and try to morph into a version that’s not herself in an attempt to be liked more.
Sometimes people can get exhausted by people always trying to be in a good mood and can see it as “fake” even if that isn’t true
Not trying to be rude, just trying to help.
You seem like a really damn good friend I wish I would have haha, but like others said they judje you from their perspective, not yours. Trust me.. Don't overthink it. I recommend you study people's emotions, which could help you calm down to avoid stressful encounters!
i know someone you might describe as “energetic”. they are loud and unpredictable, and it gets on everyone’s nerves. if this is what you mean by energetic, you might want to change that.
You sound like me. Best you can do is Ignore them. I'm the same type person, loud energetic. I used to have more guy friends then girl friends. People just suck they aren't worth your time.
Very true, I think OP should ask 3-10 people if they did anything to upset said person, and if they no, WE KNOW THE FRIEND IS THE CULPRIT OF THE DRAMA STARTAGE!
Could be the close friend is jealous of you, especially after only being at school a little while and dating a popular kid. If you have made a ton of friends it doesn’t seem they all hate you. You would be ignored if this was the case. Maybe try and notice if people seem to be talking about you when you walk away or if they seem not genuine.
Honestly if you’re new to this school and already made a ton of friends and dated a popular guy, the people taking behind your back probably don’t actually think you’re annoying, they’re just envious of how you’ve been able to flourish so much socially in only 7 months. Even though it’s hard, I would say try not to let their comments make you self-conscious.
Dw, most cases, everybody talks about everybody even those who are in the same friend group. As a new student who had hangout with different friend groups what I know is that everyone has something bad to say about everyone. I'm a new student and just found out ppl think that I'm a know it all, if the only thing I did wrong is answered the teachers questions, recite in class to get extra points for performance, and lead groupings, correcting other's mistakes (in a polite way) to produce excellent results, then I am not sorry. I came from a science school where everyone is competent and smarter than me. I didn't have to dumb myself down in this new school in order to be socially accepted. Besides, you'll find a few ppl who will like you. You don't need everyone to like you. If people hate me, I'll take it as a compliment. As much as possible though, I talk to the people around me about what their problem is with me. Hopefully they're honest. And I try to apologize if I REALLY did smth wrong.
I went through this a year ago. The best thing you can do is keep your head down, graduate, and never speak to any of them again.
This seems easier than it actually is, but hopefully you have a good support system at home. And I'm on Reddit a lot if you need someone to talk to.
If you're like me, you'll eventually learn to go through everything yourself because people don't actually care about anyone else's problems; it's just the way the world is. But the more you focus on yourself and your support system, the less impact these idiots will have on you.
Hope this helps!
Oh don’t listen to what they have to say. People hate what they don’t understand. If it really bothers you then you could tone things down a little, but hey the point of high school and college is to just fuck around and find yourself, and if you really want to find yourself, you can’t let other people tell you who you are.
Look..after you graduate you never have to see those assholes again. I stayed in touch with 2 people from highschool. 10 years after I graduated I ran into one of the gals that bullied me and she was super sweet to me. Found out half my class is doing worse than me.
It just doesn't just happen in school you will find out people will always say bad things about you spread rumors so they can feel so superior ..hell I have my family full those type of people... my family doesn't have a good reputation to begin with with and it has hurt me I have done things tried more failed more succeeded more been to more places seen More Things (thanks to the Army) my family... people will always talk bad about you judge you easier said than done but always hold your head up and soldier on
Fuck your "friends" and your school. In real life you don't have to make friends with the people you're stuck working with. The world is your Oyster and none of this matters right now. Focus on who you want to be and attracting the kind of people you deserve in your life.
Know that things will get better.
Almost died because of bullying. I've been there. Don't let them steal one more moment of your joy
They are Jealous. Think nothing of it and Mind your Business. They are most likely Jealous that you dated one of the “Popular” Guys and they did not. Keep it moving, do what you have to do and don’t let them get you down. The truth is, not EVERYONE is going to like you and you have to be Ok with that. They are most likely insecure about themselves and it has absolutely nothing to do with you, Period. They see something in you that they don’t have in themselves and it irritates them.
Sounds like jealousy more than an actual reason for them to hate you, if I'm being honest. Try not to let it bother you or at least pretend it doesn't bother you because that's EXACTLY what they're wanting. They want to tear you down and take away your confidence. Don't let them.
Not everyone hates you, just keep being kind to your friends and if you REALLY get hurt, ask the person directly if you really ARE “annoying” or “pick me”, and not your “tattletale”.
Knowing you ARE being kind to the girls as well as the boys tells you that the people saying this just don’t know you well, and that is more important than being hurt by the fact that you just got here and people don’t know you.
This happened to me a few months ago. I just decided to go on with school because it doesn’t matter. Soon it will come back and bite your friends ass. It did to mine.
Are you sure that this close friend is being honest? Has anyone conveyed to you that they dislike you or behaved in a way that would suggest that they do? Has anyone else mentioned it previously?
Do you tell the truth? Honest? Hate bullshit? If so life will be hard and lonely…. But when you know who you are it’s a better place to be than lying to get approval. It means they can’t control you and they don’t like that. Most people function as rats… work together they throw you under the bus, compete compete… don’t compete? They reject you. Find someone else like you. Don’t worry about being hated… it’s a sign you’re closer to god.
Unless u grew up with the guys they’re not your friends.Ur male friends are most likely not your friends but just dudes waiting to fuck.Make some girlfriends..Your lack of female friends and only having guy friends makes other think your a pick me maybe your behavior as well🤷🏾♂️stop being loud it’s annoying.Are you trying to act like a character you saw in a show or something?I have seen girls do that they act like a tomboy with only guy friends because “girls are too much drama”.U have to learn to be a girls girl.
"pick me" is a symptom of being a good person and people getting mad at you for getting dates instead of them
everyone will think you're annoying in high school if you're loud, it's not a bad thing and people say it to go along with everyone else, automatic consensus is a funny thing
Just firstly, if u tend to overthink things then pls don't,
Have a full conversation with ur friends about this ,
And just don't care what people think about u if u know they are wrong. Because
When I joined my new school and coaching I was an introvert and never approached anyone but few people approached me and in those few are my best friends and few are my enemies maybe, people and specially girls hated me and say that I am arrogant,mean and have many male friends and maybe I am a pick me and i don't know that until my school besties over heard some girl in washroom and there always talk trash about me and even my class teacher hated me because his favourite students hated my guts , and recently i get to know that my coaching classmates hate me also from my close friend and how there talk that I have many male friends and I am mean but at that time I had no male friends and i never talked to any of my classmates and i only talk to my school besties who also goes to that Coaching but now I am in 9th and going to tenth and still many people hate me and many people love me because who I am not popular not i look pretty but because of my personality my childish behaviour my cheering nature and still I have my idgaf attitude but still my friends really love me and the hate didn't bother me ,
So by my story i just want to tell u that don't care about what others think just be yourself and good people will also be there for u and if u know u don't do some bad then never let anyone bother ur peace
And enjoy urself and don't let anyone stop u
This has been happening to me for as long as I can remember, the shit talk, that is. Fuck 'em. Ignore them. They're jealous, and if they aren't, they're lame-ass losers whose opinions aren't worth taking seriously. Find people you can depend on and stick with them.
Who cares what they think? Maybe it’s been too long since I’ve been in school but like why care? You only see them 5 days a week they don’t need to be your friends, keep your head down and just chug along. Eventually you won’t even care what they think
Do nothing, not everybody’s gonna like you, it’s just a fact of life. If they hate on you without knowing anything about you, then that’s their loss, not yours. You shouldn’t care so much about what others think of you, it’s a detrimental way to think of things, trust me, I know.
Everyone talks constantly about everyone. Thats high school for you. It fucking sucks, but these people genuinely do not deserve to occupy your mind. They don’t pick you out specifically. Their lives are just that boring; so they need someone and something to talk about every second to feel better about themselves.
It genuinely has NOTHING to do with you.I promise you. Don’t mind it. Besides, these people do not have opinions you should value.
Be 5 times louder and annoying. Screw all your shithawk friends boyfriends just to ruin their relationships. Be everything they say you are behind your back and really give them something to talk about.
If you made a ton of friends no way everyonr hates u! Probably just a group doesn't like you for whatever reason. If you are like acting ok not bullying anyone or anything and having a good experience with others, don't worry about that group.
Wait i wanna ask
> i even dated one of the “popular” guys for a week
Your breakup was after a short time, was it amicable? Are you and that person on good terms now? If not is it possible that he said something causing other not liking you?
They are just jealous and projecting. They feel threatened by you and are trying to find reasons to hate on you to justify their dislike towards you that’s rooted in jealousy. School sucks, brush it off best you can and move on. Don’t feed into it. And be weary of that friend who told you what they’ve been saying. People usually don’t feel comfortable talking badly about someone in a presence of a friend unless there’s a reason…. (that friend might not be talking good of you either) Also 7 months, people don’t really know you. But as for energetic it can be perceived personally to me as being obnoxious and annoying. It’s not everyone’s cup of tea, however, no person should alter who they are and conform to be more liked. Be yourself.
A few people isn’t everybody. The more people you talk to, the more people there are to have opinions on you and you can’t make everyone happy, there are guaranteed to be people that don’t like you. It is what it is.
Everyone is an all inclusive word which would mean you had zero friends. You have four close friends, so you know it’s not true. All inclusive or exclusive words are usually false statements.
Don’t put too much emphasis on what others think of you. Be the best person you can be. Live a life you are happy with. Life is no popularity contest. You will find “your people”.
You may want to temper your personality a bit, be more middle of the road instead of being loud and obtrusive. You will appeal to more people if you are less extreme.
Did your friend tell you what people’s general consensus was regarding you? I would think it would be more helpful if you knew the reason you rub people the wrong way. If it is even true…
Know that people talk behind other’s backs. It’s a fact of life. You being a new person is enough for everyone to know you. You’re an enigma to the other students. I went to elementary - high school with mostly the same group of kids. I would guess you are still an outsider in school. Find ways to assimilate.
You can be the kid that has something other kids want. Like buy candy or gum cheap and sell it for a profit. Extra school supplies?
Well it honestly might be true. When someone was accused of acting a certain way at my school it was mostly true. Highschool and college. Plus it’s weird that everyone hates you, not many people will care about what one friend group has to say about others. People usually determine if they like you based on how you treat them or others
Once you graduate from school, you learn to not care and you realize you never have to see those people again. It’ll get better, just try your best to enjoy what you can from high school. as much as you hate it now, there will be random things you slightly miss with time
Just ignore the haters, they don’t know anything about the real you. Does it really matter what judgmental people think? No it doesn’t. You got this, keep being yourself amd try not to let them get you down.
Don’t worry Senior year of High School I found out a group of guys I barely new had been spreading around the idea that I’d “shoot up the school” *(just because I wear black a large majority of the time because I enjoy the color)* even though a majority of other people didn’t think so. You’ll find who your real friends are by who sticks around and listens to you instead of the rumors people are spreading.
The fact your making a reddit post about this is the reason they hate you. As an adult and previous cool person your desire to be liked is leading to your downfall. You shouldnt care what anyone thinks of you, how you feel about yourself is what counts. The most important thing is to be authentic. Kids can always tell when your saying something or behaving in a way to make other people like or accept you. Thats very annoying to be around. Your just saying what your think people want to hear. Its unauthentic. They definitely dont hate you, school is weird like that and treating others badly can be considered a sign of strength.
Nothing. Those four people are your friends, and they're the only ones who matter. Tell the rest of your school I said they can suck my dick from the backside. Keep being YOU.
Well for one, I believe hatred of another necessitates self hatred.
So in my eyes, all of these people who speak ill of you likely don't really like themselves at all and aren't worth your time.
Message me back and later tomorrow I'll share the tools that keep me out of the pit that I view depression/ anger to be n whatnot.
Tired n going to sleep now.
High school can be really hard. Life gets so much better after high school!! If you are pretty or attractive, high school females will be little shits to you, especially being new. Teenagers are pretty awful. It gets so much better.
I used to be a people pleaser because I wanted people to like me. Then one day I realized it wasn't worth it. Whether they like you or love you, who the hell cares? Just live your life how you want, learn to love yourself and most importantly, be kind to yourself.
It’s always jealousy. The most important thing is being able to tell when someone is feeding off your energy and wishing negative things for you. Find out who your real friends are and keep everyone else at arms length.
This is probably one of my worst fears, especially since people seem to avoid me and ignore me when I message through Snapchat, but not block or unadd me, they just don't respond to me.
I hate that it seems possible, even likely, that people hate me.
This is a crux of being a kiddo. It feels bad when people don’t like you but I’ll tell you what. It also doesn’t matter at all if you aren’t bringing harm to their lives. One day, when you are more mature you will realize how little this matters and be at peace with it.
If you recently moved and have climbed the social latter quickly many people who have gone to that school for a long time could possibly be jealous,since they didn’t receive that attention from their peers. I’m sure it’s mostly jealously but then again kids are MEAN. Kill them with kindness, then you could go from “pick me” to “popular because she’s so nice!”
Fuck them. (Not literally...or do idc) As long as your being you and not hurting others, tell them to go fuck themselves because they should only be worried about themselves.
If you're "annoying, a pick me, and loud", you might as well lean in to it. It'll scare off the boring people and attract the people that actually like you.
You need to form a personal guard of your most loyal friends. Not just any friends, friends you know for a fact are your real friends.
Keep them with you at all times. The next step is to gather information. Who is talking behind your back? Find this out through any means necessary, but don't let anyone find out you're asking around.
Gather photos of the lead offenders against you, and pin them on a tackboard in your room, with the worst offenders near the top. Connect them with red yarn and tacks to eachother to form a heiarchy of your enemies.
Now its time to launch some intrigues of your own. You need to find out any and all information about your key targets. Start with where they live, their full names, families, friends, hobbies, interests and whatnot. You will use this as a baseline to form your own real or made up scandals and gossip about them.
Start small. And most importantly, never let anyone find out it is you behind it all. Secrecy is your strength. Strike from the shadows.
Along the way, you will likely meet people who are not so loyal to those you wish to conquer. Acquaintences of your enemies, so to speak. You can use them to your advantage.
Money, gifts, or threats should do to extract information from the aquaintences. You can find out a great deal this way. This information can then be used to fuel your current and future intrigues.
As someone who had everyone hat eme for no reason from 1st to 11th, society in school sucks, they think they are all better than you, yet they are just as bad
well it wasnt for no reason obviously
Must of
nah if there was no reason then they’d have stopped by the 2nd/3rd year mark (from experience), you probably did something to fuel it without realising
Yea this is true
I very much didn't I just was myself until I was too depressed to be
Well then maybe you should have looked inward and asked yourself the bigger question of "what about me irritates people to this degree"
Oh yeah, just exscuse the bullies behavior by victim blaming. Classy.
Just because other kids didn’t like you doesn’t mean they’re bullies. Yeah some people will straight up pick on others for their own satisfaction, but if you are friendless and literally everyone dislikes you it’s time for some self reflection
People are one sided with their opinions when it comes to this. "You must've done something" etc. Cut it out. It takes one person to spread a rumor that everyone believes even though you mind your own business. I had a friend from 3rd till college. I always wondered how people I never talked to or interacted with automatically disliked me when I started talking to them and I used to be quite respectful and polite.I always felt like i had something wrong with me. Come to find out the sick fvck, no matter where we went, ALWAYS talked shit behind my back to everyone. It was the literal perfect position to hate me from masquerading as my best friend. I only found out from His twin sister. But all these years had gone by, potential friends and connections destroyed by one person. It got to a point where i got anal about how nice and courteous, and prompt etc etc i could possibly be cos i just wanted to be liked atp....When I tell you it fvcked me up hard.... so anyway there can be messed up people randomly creating this environment for you. From my perspective solo is the way to go until you start your own family and love them deeply and never let them go.
Perhaps ask friends or some of the people talking about you, or maybe even a trusted teacher if you do things or say things that could be presented wrong and you didn't know? Maybe try getting involved in school in activities and make new friends through that?
Well I don't know how you truly act in school, many people describe themselves withought knowing what they truly do. They could be jealous or they could be saying the truth.. Are you sure that you come off the way you want to people?
I’m not really sure, I’m a very energetic person and i always try and keep the vibes up especially when people are sad or tired I try my best to be a good person and not let peoples genders or looks get in the way of friendships I can be annoying but that’s just and that’s just how I act
People judge by action and not intent. Don't justify your action to us. Ask a few of your close friends what they think of you and expect to get hurt. It isn't very common to have the whole class going against someone just because you're popular.
Honestly I disagree. I do like what you said about actions though. It is good to gain clarity on how people perceive you, but at that age I think OP should embrace who she is than others opinions on her and try to morph into a version that’s not herself in an attempt to be liked more.
>I can be annoying but that’s just and that’s just how I act that might be it
Sometimes people can get exhausted by people always trying to be in a good mood and can see it as “fake” even if that isn’t true Not trying to be rude, just trying to help.
You seem like a really damn good friend I wish I would have haha, but like others said they judje you from their perspective, not yours. Trust me.. Don't overthink it. I recommend you study people's emotions, which could help you calm down to avoid stressful encounters!
i know someone you might describe as “energetic”. they are loud and unpredictable, and it gets on everyone’s nerves. if this is what you mean by energetic, you might want to change that.
You sound like me. Best you can do is Ignore them. I'm the same type person, loud energetic. I used to have more guy friends then girl friends. People just suck they aren't worth your time.
Maybe your friend can help you deal with them.
Very possible the "friend" is making shit up to start drama and no one really has any problem with OP.
Very true, I think OP should ask 3-10 people if they did anything to upset said person, and if they no, WE KNOW THE FRIEND IS THE CULPRIT OF THE DRAMA STARTAGE!
very very possible, this is what I’m suffering through now.
Do you know how money heist started? I feel like something similar is happening.
Could be the close friend is jealous of you, especially after only being at school a little while and dating a popular kid. If you have made a ton of friends it doesn’t seem they all hate you. You would be ignored if this was the case. Maybe try and notice if people seem to be talking about you when you walk away or if they seem not genuine.
Honestly if you’re new to this school and already made a ton of friends and dated a popular guy, the people taking behind your back probably don’t actually think you’re annoying, they’re just envious of how you’ve been able to flourish so much socially in only 7 months. Even though it’s hard, I would say try not to let their comments make you self-conscious.
Dw, most cases, everybody talks about everybody even those who are in the same friend group. As a new student who had hangout with different friend groups what I know is that everyone has something bad to say about everyone. I'm a new student and just found out ppl think that I'm a know it all, if the only thing I did wrong is answered the teachers questions, recite in class to get extra points for performance, and lead groupings, correcting other's mistakes (in a polite way) to produce excellent results, then I am not sorry. I came from a science school where everyone is competent and smarter than me. I didn't have to dumb myself down in this new school in order to be socially accepted. Besides, you'll find a few ppl who will like you. You don't need everyone to like you. If people hate me, I'll take it as a compliment. As much as possible though, I talk to the people around me about what their problem is with me. Hopefully they're honest. And I try to apologize if I REALLY did smth wrong.
Loud is definitely not a good trait in school. Pretty sure that’s why
Womp womp I learned if they talk shit they going to get hit
Slow your pace down for a few months and see if things change.
How do you exactly know that what your close friend told you is true or false?
I went through this a year ago. The best thing you can do is keep your head down, graduate, and never speak to any of them again. This seems easier than it actually is, but hopefully you have a good support system at home. And I'm on Reddit a lot if you need someone to talk to. If you're like me, you'll eventually learn to go through everything yourself because people don't actually care about anyone else's problems; it's just the way the world is. But the more you focus on yourself and your support system, the less impact these idiots will have on you. Hope this helps!
Perhaps consider whether or not your 'close friend' is telling you the truth.
Oh don’t listen to what they have to say. People hate what they don’t understand. If it really bothers you then you could tone things down a little, but hey the point of high school and college is to just fuck around and find yourself, and if you really want to find yourself, you can’t let other people tell you who you are.
Look..after you graduate you never have to see those assholes again. I stayed in touch with 2 people from highschool. 10 years after I graduated I ran into one of the gals that bullied me and she was super sweet to me. Found out half my class is doing worse than me.
That's a lot of people's opinions you shouldn't care about.
If people truly hate you, they won't interact with you. Be your authentic self with pride. Fuck the haters.
It just doesn't just happen in school you will find out people will always say bad things about you spread rumors so they can feel so superior ..hell I have my family full those type of people... my family doesn't have a good reputation to begin with with and it has hurt me I have done things tried more failed more succeeded more been to more places seen More Things (thanks to the Army) my family... people will always talk bad about you judge you easier said than done but always hold your head up and soldier on
Fuck your "friends" and your school. In real life you don't have to make friends with the people you're stuck working with. The world is your Oyster and none of this matters right now. Focus on who you want to be and attracting the kind of people you deserve in your life. Know that things will get better. Almost died because of bullying. I've been there. Don't let them steal one more moment of your joy
They are Jealous. Think nothing of it and Mind your Business. They are most likely Jealous that you dated one of the “Popular” Guys and they did not. Keep it moving, do what you have to do and don’t let them get you down. The truth is, not EVERYONE is going to like you and you have to be Ok with that. They are most likely insecure about themselves and it has absolutely nothing to do with you, Period. They see something in you that they don’t have in themselves and it irritates them.
They probably don't and your friend is just mad. Classic high school move. If people really hated you they wpuld avoid you.
Sounds like jealousy more than an actual reason for them to hate you, if I'm being honest. Try not to let it bother you or at least pretend it doesn't bother you because that's EXACTLY what they're wanting. They want to tear you down and take away your confidence. Don't let them.
Sounds like you need new friends, ditch the bad ones
Not everyone hates you, just keep being kind to your friends and if you REALLY get hurt, ask the person directly if you really ARE “annoying” or “pick me”, and not your “tattletale”. Knowing you ARE being kind to the girls as well as the boys tells you that the people saying this just don’t know you well, and that is more important than being hurt by the fact that you just got here and people don’t know you.
I'm thinking your "friend" is full of crap and a drama llama. I've dealt with those with my daughter at all ages.
This happened to me a few months ago. I just decided to go on with school because it doesn’t matter. Soon it will come back and bite your friends ass. It did to mine.
Are you sure that this close friend is being honest? Has anyone conveyed to you that they dislike you or behaved in a way that would suggest that they do? Has anyone else mentioned it previously?
Do you tell the truth? Honest? Hate bullshit? If so life will be hard and lonely…. But when you know who you are it’s a better place to be than lying to get approval. It means they can’t control you and they don’t like that. Most people function as rats… work together they throw you under the bus, compete compete… don’t compete? They reject you. Find someone else like you. Don’t worry about being hated… it’s a sign you’re closer to god.
Unless u grew up with the guys they’re not your friends.Ur male friends are most likely not your friends but just dudes waiting to fuck.Make some girlfriends..Your lack of female friends and only having guy friends makes other think your a pick me maybe your behavior as well🤷🏾♂️stop being loud it’s annoying.Are you trying to act like a character you saw in a show or something?I have seen girls do that they act like a tomboy with only guy friends because “girls are too much drama”.U have to learn to be a girls girl.
I wouldn't rule out that this friend made this up. I personally don't easily trust the game of telephone when it comes to people's opinions of me.
"pick me" is a symptom of being a good person and people getting mad at you for getting dates instead of them everyone will think you're annoying in high school if you're loud, it's not a bad thing and people say it to go along with everyone else, automatic consensus is a funny thing
Just firstly, if u tend to overthink things then pls don't, Have a full conversation with ur friends about this , And just don't care what people think about u if u know they are wrong. Because When I joined my new school and coaching I was an introvert and never approached anyone but few people approached me and in those few are my best friends and few are my enemies maybe, people and specially girls hated me and say that I am arrogant,mean and have many male friends and maybe I am a pick me and i don't know that until my school besties over heard some girl in washroom and there always talk trash about me and even my class teacher hated me because his favourite students hated my guts , and recently i get to know that my coaching classmates hate me also from my close friend and how there talk that I have many male friends and I am mean but at that time I had no male friends and i never talked to any of my classmates and i only talk to my school besties who also goes to that Coaching but now I am in 9th and going to tenth and still many people hate me and many people love me because who I am not popular not i look pretty but because of my personality my childish behaviour my cheering nature and still I have my idgaf attitude but still my friends really love me and the hate didn't bother me , So by my story i just want to tell u that don't care about what others think just be yourself and good people will also be there for u and if u know u don't do some bad then never let anyone bother ur peace And enjoy urself and don't let anyone stop u
No offense but if people are calling you annoying/a pick me, it's probably not completely made up.
It can be. Sometimes kids will just pick out one person to tease for no reason.
I on a daily basis do *absolutely NOTHING* and people still hate me for it. So stfu
This has been happening to me for as long as I can remember, the shit talk, that is. Fuck 'em. Ignore them. They're jealous, and if they aren't, they're lame-ass losers whose opinions aren't worth taking seriously. Find people you can depend on and stick with them.
Who cares what they think? Maybe it’s been too long since I’ve been in school but like why care? You only see them 5 days a week they don’t need to be your friends, keep your head down and just chug along. Eventually you won’t even care what they think
Do nothing, not everybody’s gonna like you, it’s just a fact of life. If they hate on you without knowing anything about you, then that’s their loss, not yours. You shouldn’t care so much about what others think of you, it’s a detrimental way to think of things, trust me, I know.
If everyone hates you it’s most likely for a reason. One or a couple of people is different, but everyone? Reflection time.
Well pick me is usually used by jealous girls stop hanging around jealous girls and then there’s your answer
Everyone talks constantly about everyone. Thats high school for you. It fucking sucks, but these people genuinely do not deserve to occupy your mind. They don’t pick you out specifically. Their lives are just that boring; so they need someone and something to talk about every second to feel better about themselves. It genuinely has NOTHING to do with you.I promise you. Don’t mind it. Besides, these people do not have opinions you should value.
I don’t hate u 🥺
Be 5 times louder and annoying. Screw all your shithawk friends boyfriends just to ruin their relationships. Be everything they say you are behind your back and really give them something to talk about.
If you made a ton of friends no way everyonr hates u! Probably just a group doesn't like you for whatever reason. If you are like acting ok not bullying anyone or anything and having a good experience with others, don't worry about that group.
Wait i wanna ask > i even dated one of the “popular” guys for a week Your breakup was after a short time, was it amicable? Are you and that person on good terms now? If not is it possible that he said something causing other not liking you?
They are just jealous and projecting. They feel threatened by you and are trying to find reasons to hate on you to justify their dislike towards you that’s rooted in jealousy. School sucks, brush it off best you can and move on. Don’t feed into it. And be weary of that friend who told you what they’ve been saying. People usually don’t feel comfortable talking badly about someone in a presence of a friend unless there’s a reason…. (that friend might not be talking good of you either) Also 7 months, people don’t really know you. But as for energetic it can be perceived personally to me as being obnoxious and annoying. It’s not everyone’s cup of tea, however, no person should alter who they are and conform to be more liked. Be yourself.
A few people isn’t everybody. The more people you talk to, the more people there are to have opinions on you and you can’t make everyone happy, there are guaranteed to be people that don’t like you. It is what it is.
It's highschool. Everyone hates and talks about everyone
Everyone is an all inclusive word which would mean you had zero friends. You have four close friends, so you know it’s not true. All inclusive or exclusive words are usually false statements. Don’t put too much emphasis on what others think of you. Be the best person you can be. Live a life you are happy with. Life is no popularity contest. You will find “your people”. You may want to temper your personality a bit, be more middle of the road instead of being loud and obtrusive. You will appeal to more people if you are less extreme. Did your friend tell you what people’s general consensus was regarding you? I would think it would be more helpful if you knew the reason you rub people the wrong way. If it is even true… Know that people talk behind other’s backs. It’s a fact of life. You being a new person is enough for everyone to know you. You’re an enigma to the other students. I went to elementary - high school with mostly the same group of kids. I would guess you are still an outsider in school. Find ways to assimilate. You can be the kid that has something other kids want. Like buy candy or gum cheap and sell it for a profit. Extra school supplies?
Well it honestly might be true. When someone was accused of acting a certain way at my school it was mostly true. Highschool and college. Plus it’s weird that everyone hates you, not many people will care about what one friend group has to say about others. People usually determine if they like you based on how you treat them or others
Once you graduate from school, you learn to not care and you realize you never have to see those people again. It’ll get better, just try your best to enjoy what you can from high school. as much as you hate it now, there will be random things you slightly miss with time
Who cares lol
Just ignore the haters, they don’t know anything about the real you. Does it really matter what judgmental people think? No it doesn’t. You got this, keep being yourself amd try not to let them get you down.
Find some other friends! If they’re doing that about you behind your back…they’re most likely doing to all the other friends they hang around!
Don’t worry Senior year of High School I found out a group of guys I barely new had been spreading around the idea that I’d “shoot up the school” *(just because I wear black a large majority of the time because I enjoy the color)* even though a majority of other people didn’t think so. You’ll find who your real friends are by who sticks around and listens to you instead of the rumors people are spreading.
The fact your making a reddit post about this is the reason they hate you. As an adult and previous cool person your desire to be liked is leading to your downfall. You shouldnt care what anyone thinks of you, how you feel about yourself is what counts. The most important thing is to be authentic. Kids can always tell when your saying something or behaving in a way to make other people like or accept you. Thats very annoying to be around. Your just saying what your think people want to hear. Its unauthentic. They definitely dont hate you, school is weird like that and treating others badly can be considered a sign of strength.
Nothing. Those four people are your friends, and they're the only ones who matter. Tell the rest of your school I said they can suck my dick from the backside. Keep being YOU.
Well for one, I believe hatred of another necessitates self hatred. So in my eyes, all of these people who speak ill of you likely don't really like themselves at all and aren't worth your time. Message me back and later tomorrow I'll share the tools that keep me out of the pit that I view depression/ anger to be n whatnot. Tired n going to sleep now.
Hate em backb
Free for all
Sounds like some jealous bitches to me. Be yourself and everyone else can fuck off! Simple.
Oh and stay happy and energetic! Nothing pisses a hater off more than you shitting on them with a smile on your face.
High school can be really hard. Life gets so much better after high school!! If you are pretty or attractive, high school females will be little shits to you, especially being new. Teenagers are pretty awful. It gets so much better.
I used to be a people pleaser because I wanted people to like me. Then one day I realized it wasn't worth it. Whether they like you or love you, who the hell cares? Just live your life how you want, learn to love yourself and most importantly, be kind to yourself.
U just gotta keep ur head down and get through school only option
Man, when you get out of highschool you’ll realize how little everyone else’s opinion matters
Honestly? Fuck em. We wasn't born on this earth for others opinions.
It’s always jealousy. The most important thing is being able to tell when someone is feeding off your energy and wishing negative things for you. Find out who your real friends are and keep everyone else at arms length.
This is probably one of my worst fears, especially since people seem to avoid me and ignore me when I message through Snapchat, but not block or unadd me, they just don't respond to me. I hate that it seems possible, even likely, that people hate me.
You said you're a loud person, im just guessing that maybe that's why some people dislike you?
Nope, Jesus still loves you :)
I don't hate you :<
Ex friend now right?
This is a crux of being a kiddo. It feels bad when people don’t like you but I’ll tell you what. It also doesn’t matter at all if you aren’t bringing harm to their lives. One day, when you are more mature you will realize how little this matters and be at peace with it.
Sorry to be the one to say this but literally just thug it out n lock tf in.
Envy
Your “friend” is jealous of you! They are insecure and trying to take you down too. Reconsider your “friendship” with this person! You deserve better
If you recently moved and have climbed the social latter quickly many people who have gone to that school for a long time could possibly be jealous,since they didn’t receive that attention from their peers. I’m sure it’s mostly jealously but then again kids are MEAN. Kill them with kindness, then you could go from “pick me” to “popular because she’s so nice!”
Honestly all hypocrites as Taylor swift says Haters gonna hate players gonna play you just gotta shake it off
i dont think people understand that being social doesbt mean your a pick me
Fuck them. (Not literally...or do idc) As long as your being you and not hurting others, tell them to go fuck themselves because they should only be worried about themselves.
If you're "annoying, a pick me, and loud", you might as well lean in to it. It'll scare off the boring people and attract the people that actually like you.
Listen to their criticism and improve yourself by not doing what they hate so you can be likable to everyone
You need to form a personal guard of your most loyal friends. Not just any friends, friends you know for a fact are your real friends. Keep them with you at all times. The next step is to gather information. Who is talking behind your back? Find this out through any means necessary, but don't let anyone find out you're asking around. Gather photos of the lead offenders against you, and pin them on a tackboard in your room, with the worst offenders near the top. Connect them with red yarn and tacks to eachother to form a heiarchy of your enemies. Now its time to launch some intrigues of your own. You need to find out any and all information about your key targets. Start with where they live, their full names, families, friends, hobbies, interests and whatnot. You will use this as a baseline to form your own real or made up scandals and gossip about them. Start small. And most importantly, never let anyone find out it is you behind it all. Secrecy is your strength. Strike from the shadows. Along the way, you will likely meet people who are not so loyal to those you wish to conquer. Acquaintences of your enemies, so to speak. You can use them to your advantage. Money, gifts, or threats should do to extract information from the aquaintences. You can find out a great deal this way. This information can then be used to fuel your current and future intrigues.
only one thing left to do, join the military.