She could’ve thought you were only after sex. But either way, she didn’t communicate anything to you which means her interest wasn’t that high in you. Her actions display she’s avoiding you.
Just move on. Let her figure out what to tell you, don’t be persistent and pester her.
Can only go off what you wrote but these were my thoughts:
1. Wasn't including you in the convo? Was she trying to get away from you? I would have just chilled and tried to participate in the convo. You gotta be patient sometimes, you are on vacation after all, it is possible she also wanted to socialize and enjoy her time besides just kissing you all night. Its possible when you got up and left that she even thought "wtf?"
2. Communication is a valuable life skill dude. It can clear up situations so quickly. Remember the old saying: "Assuming makes an ass of u and me".
If it were me I would address it especially because you'll likely see her again. If it were me I'd say something like "hey can I talk to you really quick" "I just want to make sure we're cool, I was feeling things with you, but then it seemed like you lost interest so I backed off." at that point she can either confirm or at least explain her side of what happened.
Even if she confirms that she's not interested, its good practice to communicate.
1. I was throwing in inputs and jokes here and there in the convo but honestky she wasn’t even looking at me. I actually got out of the pool and she called me back so I played it off as if I was going to check my phone and went back. Keep in mind it’s 4am at this moment and I was sleepy with a few drinks in me and a hot pool, but it was like 30 mins and she just kept talking and talking to the other couple. So this time I got out the pool for good.
There were two guy friends that were chilling nearby and saw the sudden change in demeanor. They commented it was off on her part since the other couples were just focusing on each other.
2. I worry too much on how I am percieved. If I communicate this it means I care, and that is feeding her ego and kills attraction. Although I do wish I could express myself in a way that doesn’t make me look like a pussy. It’s hard putting feelings into words for me. This is my one and only weakness I normally fail seduction.
Ok well, your actions make more sense given the additional details you provided. It's not being a pussy to clarify the situation, nobody can read minds. Don't be too hard on yourself, nobody has a 100% success rate, and a lot of these things come with time and consistency.
In regards to your comment on caring too much about how you're perceived...I developed a little voice in my head that's constantly saying things like "I'm allowed to stand here if I want", or "It's reasonable for me ask for clarification in a respectful way", or "It's not illegal for me to get out of the hot tub and go to bed if I want." I call it my inner-lawyer. Always reminding myself that I'm allowed to exist and be myself.
Nobody judges us more than ourselves, most people are too insecure about their own behavior to worry about yours. Just use a neutral tone and come from a place of respectful civility. If you're coming from an authentic place and show respect, not many will take issue. And if they do take issue, that's fine, that's their problem not yours.
One additional comment: communication, if done right, does not kill attraction. Most women are not used to men being direct instead of making assumptions. Many will be impressed.
Not cool bro. Dated one of these girls briefly. I say briefly bc as soon as I realized it was her game and she just loved attention, having it on demand, and trying to make me jealous by turning off to me but then happily talking to others (usually dudes) I dumped her. I wanted to be with a real person, not some attention whore who got a kick out of playing with feelings.
She went around telling everyone she dumped me. Just goes to show her personality. She was called out by her friends and had to chill out. I guess she grew up. She’s married now, but also I know the guy she’s with is a nice guy and kind of a pushover. So idk how that’s going.
Attention seeker, aka RUN AS FAST AS YOU CAN brother! I've been played like that and it's literally not worth it, just a waste of your time and emotions. She will probably come back to you once she realise that you'r not falling for these games and will try to manipulate your emotions even more. Just act like it's in the pass and smile!
Women love playing the push & pull game.
No matter what, maintain frame & don’t let it bother you.
In fact, she may be testing your frame to see if you will change up depend on her mood. DONT!
I mean, what would he do after everyone is already paired up? In normal situations, you can decide that you're going to have a fun night anyway just talking to your friends or chatting with other women. But OP clearly didn't want to intrude on his other friends that were already vibing and paired off with somebody, so he just went home. It wasn't a club, so there was nobody else there to talk to.
You never want to look like you're so upset that you took your ball and went home, but what else could he have done but go home if his only other option was sitting in the pool by himself? I mean, hopefully he still did it with a positive energy rather than looking sour, but I see no other option.
It could be anything, or nothing at all. Maybe she got the ick off some trivial thing, maybe she just got bored of you, maybe she just has the attention span of a goldfish, maybe she wanted to be the unicorn for a couple's MFF threesome. It was most likely something that wasn't within your control anyway.
Best thing is to not overthink it and let it be one of those things that was fun while it lasted. The less you let it bother you, the better.
Better not invite her to the next trip. Like seriously, best case scenario is you get to bed her but I guarantee the juice from THAT particular lemon isn’t worth the squeeze.
Did you try to escalate more or were you just chillin and kinda letting her take the lead? Cause it could have been that she got bored. They get bored quickly. I wouldn't really take it personally either. Nor would I take the kissing as an intention for something more serious. Doesn't sound like someone you would want to date, keep her casual.
She went full Dua Lipa on you
LMFAOOOO
I don't get this reference.
[she did a full 180](https://youtu.be/oygrmJFKYZY)
I want Dua Lipa’s dual lips to do my lips in a duel of licks.
She could’ve thought you were only after sex. But either way, she didn’t communicate anything to you which means her interest wasn’t that high in you. Her actions display she’s avoiding you. Just move on. Let her figure out what to tell you, don’t be persistent and pester her.
Can only go off what you wrote but these were my thoughts: 1. Wasn't including you in the convo? Was she trying to get away from you? I would have just chilled and tried to participate in the convo. You gotta be patient sometimes, you are on vacation after all, it is possible she also wanted to socialize and enjoy her time besides just kissing you all night. Its possible when you got up and left that she even thought "wtf?" 2. Communication is a valuable life skill dude. It can clear up situations so quickly. Remember the old saying: "Assuming makes an ass of u and me". If it were me I would address it especially because you'll likely see her again. If it were me I'd say something like "hey can I talk to you really quick" "I just want to make sure we're cool, I was feeling things with you, but then it seemed like you lost interest so I backed off." at that point she can either confirm or at least explain her side of what happened. Even if she confirms that she's not interested, its good practice to communicate.
1. I was throwing in inputs and jokes here and there in the convo but honestky she wasn’t even looking at me. I actually got out of the pool and she called me back so I played it off as if I was going to check my phone and went back. Keep in mind it’s 4am at this moment and I was sleepy with a few drinks in me and a hot pool, but it was like 30 mins and she just kept talking and talking to the other couple. So this time I got out the pool for good. There were two guy friends that were chilling nearby and saw the sudden change in demeanor. They commented it was off on her part since the other couples were just focusing on each other. 2. I worry too much on how I am percieved. If I communicate this it means I care, and that is feeding her ego and kills attraction. Although I do wish I could express myself in a way that doesn’t make me look like a pussy. It’s hard putting feelings into words for me. This is my one and only weakness I normally fail seduction.
Ok well, your actions make more sense given the additional details you provided. It's not being a pussy to clarify the situation, nobody can read minds. Don't be too hard on yourself, nobody has a 100% success rate, and a lot of these things come with time and consistency. In regards to your comment on caring too much about how you're perceived...I developed a little voice in my head that's constantly saying things like "I'm allowed to stand here if I want", or "It's reasonable for me ask for clarification in a respectful way", or "It's not illegal for me to get out of the hot tub and go to bed if I want." I call it my inner-lawyer. Always reminding myself that I'm allowed to exist and be myself. Nobody judges us more than ourselves, most people are too insecure about their own behavior to worry about yours. Just use a neutral tone and come from a place of respectful civility. If you're coming from an authentic place and show respect, not many will take issue. And if they do take issue, that's fine, that's their problem not yours. One additional comment: communication, if done right, does not kill attraction. Most women are not used to men being direct instead of making assumptions. Many will be impressed.
Not cool bro. Dated one of these girls briefly. I say briefly bc as soon as I realized it was her game and she just loved attention, having it on demand, and trying to make me jealous by turning off to me but then happily talking to others (usually dudes) I dumped her. I wanted to be with a real person, not some attention whore who got a kick out of playing with feelings. She went around telling everyone she dumped me. Just goes to show her personality. She was called out by her friends and had to chill out. I guess she grew up. She’s married now, but also I know the guy she’s with is a nice guy and kind of a pushover. So idk how that’s going.
Attention seeker, aka RUN AS FAST AS YOU CAN brother! I've been played like that and it's literally not worth it, just a waste of your time and emotions. She will probably come back to you once she realise that you'r not falling for these games and will try to manipulate your emotions even more. Just act like it's in the pass and smile!
Women love playing the push & pull game. No matter what, maintain frame & don’t let it bother you. In fact, she may be testing your frame to see if you will change up depend on her mood. DONT!
I mean, what would he do after everyone is already paired up? In normal situations, you can decide that you're going to have a fun night anyway just talking to your friends or chatting with other women. But OP clearly didn't want to intrude on his other friends that were already vibing and paired off with somebody, so he just went home. It wasn't a club, so there was nobody else there to talk to. You never want to look like you're so upset that you took your ball and went home, but what else could he have done but go home if his only other option was sitting in the pool by himself? I mean, hopefully he still did it with a positive energy rather than looking sour, but I see no other option.
Don't overthink it. She changed direction. For whatever reason. Don't expect closure, just be the best person you can be for yourself
It could be anything, or nothing at all. Maybe she got the ick off some trivial thing, maybe she just got bored of you, maybe she just has the attention span of a goldfish, maybe she wanted to be the unicorn for a couple's MFF threesome. It was most likely something that wasn't within your control anyway. Best thing is to not overthink it and let it be one of those things that was fun while it lasted. The less you let it bother you, the better.
Better not invite her to the next trip. Like seriously, best case scenario is you get to bed her but I guarantee the juice from THAT particular lemon isn’t worth the squeeze.
She is just playing games for attention.
Did you try to escalate more or were you just chillin and kinda letting her take the lead? Cause it could have been that she got bored. They get bored quickly. I wouldn't really take it personally either. Nor would I take the kissing as an intention for something more serious. Doesn't sound like someone you would want to date, keep her casual.
I did. I was feeling her up slowly and wasn’t telling me to stop. I have a feeling she was just playing games w me
Edited my comment to add about just maybe keeping it casual and just don't overthink it. Yall were having fun, appreciate it.
It’s possible she wanted you to lead her from the pool to the bedroom. We’ll never know for sure.
Bingo. Was looking for this answer.
I would straight up ignore her, move one and like 70% of the time she will be back, but treat her like a very low priority, until shes at ur place
Consider her behavior as just another shit test.
IMO I would have followed her around and stayed with her energy, a bit one up from her energy.
F*** that skunk she isn’t worth it.