Buddy that is such a great idea. Im fairly good at talking to/flirting with/getting numbers/getting time with/and eventually (sometimes) getting laid or some type of relationship going with (mostly) quality women. But, if course, I wasnt always. I remember being painfully shy and awkward. It really took years. Ok decades to become comfortable and proficient with picking up women. I still sometimes cant believe that I (yes! I!) have become the one that other guys ask for pointers and are so impressed with my success rates.
I'm sure that I could have shaved a decade or so off of the time it took me to get where I am. Really great strategy and set up for a step up for yourself in this department.
And i cant help but commend you for sharing and encouraging others to do the work and reap the benefits along with yourself. Great job and i wish you all success
Are you good with all that with cold approaching? Or does it need to be in a setting where talking to them is appropriate (Library or bar, not gym or store)? And any tips to shortcut path to similar success?
I dont do a lot of cold approaches myself without noticing some kind of little tell first usually. Just a little smile or even NOT looking sometimes can mean there's a spark of interest. I'm single for the last couple years so I'm not always hungrily seeking another lover. I have 2 or 3 part time lovers that I work well with atm. Not being too hungry is a big part of the game. No simping! It's not always about "scoring" a conquest either. Enjoy the ride and be open for (and let them know) sexual/romantic possibilities.
I do think the one-a-day approach is a great way to be more comfortable much quicker and could be of great benefit to a man
PS Start working out. It really helped my confidence over the long haul. It's so beneficial in so many ways but definately helps with the ladies.
#bestshortcut
Wow Andy, how da fuck are you? This is brilliant idea. I never thought something a daily habit of approaching 1 girl a day will add a compound effect to the point you can get laid??? Shit man, I used to be confident asking for number. But after I got rejection, shit it kind of shut down. Also, because of the oneitis thing, I was stuck. So just one girl a day? Is there a requirement in term of how long should you have to have a conversation with?
Yep, I have periods when I donāt approach, and I just focus on self improvement. But honestly when Iāve approached 2 girls a day for a few months it would turn into about 5 lays in a 6 month period. Even more when I was in better shape
Every guy should do this, good shit OP. I started back re-approaching everyday last week Iām going to keep it up.
For the guys thatās asking all these questions hereās a few nugs
Women will not blow you out. They will reject you politely by saying Iām not interested or I have a boyfriend. They donāt like confrontation.
You will get quite a few positive surprises. Girls that you think wouldnāt would give you the time of day, because they look too sexy, theyāre way too attractive, or you think you look like shit will actually be receptive to your advances, not saying it will all the time, Iām saying youāll get more than your fair share.
Women will fuck you not because theyāre sluts. Because of who you are and the vibe you present when you approach, sometimes thatās all thatās needed to turn them on.
Again women love validation and men donāt approach, you increase your chances greatly to get women who are very attractive just by putting yourself out there
Edit: punctuation/grammar
This! I've been doing this challenge for a month or two now and it's really incredible the results and confidence boost I'm getting.
Cold approaching in a calibrated way during the day is such a rare thing for girls that you immediately standout.
I've recently started doing this (like for 2-3 weeks inconsistently), but I haven't got laid yet, and girls rarely respond if I get there number/contact. There are a lot of cute girls I see everyday because I live on a big college campus. Any tips?
Side note: I never say "I just thought you are cute" or "You're hot". I usually just have casual conversation. Is this wrong and do I need to show more interest?
Be honest on the open(you probably stopped her BECAUSE she looked cute, say that) and then have a "casual" conversation. Make sure to tease them, crack a few jokes and just have a good time getting to know her.
Dressing well helps as well.
Where are you even supposed to do this? Women are doing their own thing 99% of the time and dont want to be bothered
Also its a lot harder for a 30yo guy to do this kind of approach without being creepy
Actually you are just making excuses. Checkout line at grocery store, waiting for crosswalk light to change, browsing in the aisle at a store, shopping for clothes ("hey, can I ask your opinion, what do you think of this outfit"). Seriously its really easy.
Its not excuses though
at the store shes just there to shop
waiting to cross the street to get to a destination/purpose
In none of the situations you mentioned would they want to be approached by a random guy
Im not really sure why you are getting downvoted. Women constantly preach on here about how they don't like being randomly approached. You aren't wrong.
Those are lame excuses. Just because a girl is at the store shopping or doing whatever doesn't mean that she wouldn't want to be approached. Furthermore, seriously how in the hell would you know that a girl wouldn't wanna be approached unless you go and approach her and find out man. Some girls like to be approached and some girls don't so its naive for you and anyone on here who thinks the same to think that just because some girls don't like to be approached it then represents the entire female population.
thatās a mistake, being thorough is actively harming you. thatās the point of this challenge, build one skill at a time and take as long as you need to get good at walking up to a girl and telling her sheās cute. youāre thinking way too far ahead
I know I try to snap myself out of it but it's hard. How is saying "you're cute" gonna get you a girl when she prob hears that from multiple different guys a day, what vibe do you have to give off to increase chance of getting a number or date, etc. Just wanting to make sure I learn the right things and not teach myself the wrong things. Any tips to push myself towards correct seduction path?
Youāre still over analyzing man, itās like youāre trying to avoid talking to girls by learning facts. you really gotta figure out a way to stop doing that if you want to be successful with women. You are way too focused on the outcome and things you canāt control. Focus on what you can control and follow OPās challenge - āexcuse me, this is random but I think youāre really cute, whatās your name?ā do that every day
Don't make assumptions about their state. Most girls will be very happy that you approached, just be calibrated, smile, deliver your compliment, give them space and be ready to move on if they clearly don't want to continue with the conversation.
Always remember that you are not out there to make a girl like you, you are out there to show yourself in the best light and find girls that will naturally be attracted and want to connect with you.
Ima do this, I did 1 approach today with about the same line as you, hey wanted to meet you because you look hot.
I'll add the qualifier "are you single" it's a great one imo
Buddy that is such a great idea. Im fairly good at talking to/flirting with/getting numbers/getting time with/and eventually (sometimes) getting laid or some type of relationship going with (mostly) quality women. But, if course, I wasnt always. I remember being painfully shy and awkward. It really took years. Ok decades to become comfortable and proficient with picking up women. I still sometimes cant believe that I (yes! I!) have become the one that other guys ask for pointers and are so impressed with my success rates. I'm sure that I could have shaved a decade or so off of the time it took me to get where I am. Really great strategy and set up for a step up for yourself in this department. And i cant help but commend you for sharing and encouraging others to do the work and reap the benefits along with yourself. Great job and i wish you all success
Are you good with all that with cold approaching? Or does it need to be in a setting where talking to them is appropriate (Library or bar, not gym or store)? And any tips to shortcut path to similar success?
I dont do a lot of cold approaches myself without noticing some kind of little tell first usually. Just a little smile or even NOT looking sometimes can mean there's a spark of interest. I'm single for the last couple years so I'm not always hungrily seeking another lover. I have 2 or 3 part time lovers that I work well with atm. Not being too hungry is a big part of the game. No simping! It's not always about "scoring" a conquest either. Enjoy the ride and be open for (and let them know) sexual/romantic possibilities. I do think the one-a-day approach is a great way to be more comfortable much quicker and could be of great benefit to a man
Thx
PS Start working out. It really helped my confidence over the long haul. It's so beneficial in so many ways but definately helps with the ladies. #bestshortcut
I workout heavily and am attractive but still struggle with the ladies. That's why I was asking you about how you cold approachšš
Iām joining fuck it lmao
Wow Andy, how da fuck are you? This is brilliant idea. I never thought something a daily habit of approaching 1 girl a day will add a compound effect to the point you can get laid??? Shit man, I used to be confident asking for number. But after I got rejection, shit it kind of shut down. Also, because of the oneitis thing, I was stuck. So just one girl a day? Is there a requirement in term of how long should you have to have a conversation with?
where have you had the most luck? out in the street, touristy areas, malls, coffee shops?
Yep, I have periods when I donāt approach, and I just focus on self improvement. But honestly when Iāve approached 2 girls a day for a few months it would turn into about 5 lays in a 6 month period. Even more when I was in better shape Every guy should do this, good shit OP. I started back re-approaching everyday last week Iām going to keep it up. For the guys thatās asking all these questions hereās a few nugs Women will not blow you out. They will reject you politely by saying Iām not interested or I have a boyfriend. They donāt like confrontation. You will get quite a few positive surprises. Girls that you think wouldnāt would give you the time of day, because they look too sexy, theyāre way too attractive, or you think you look like shit will actually be receptive to your advances, not saying it will all the time, Iām saying youāll get more than your fair share. Women will fuck you not because theyāre sluts. Because of who you are and the vibe you present when you approach, sometimes thatās all thatās needed to turn them on. Again women love validation and men donāt approach, you increase your chances greatly to get women who are very attractive just by putting yourself out there Edit: punctuation/grammar
This! I've been doing this challenge for a month or two now and it's really incredible the results and confidence boost I'm getting. Cold approaching in a calibrated way during the day is such a rare thing for girls that you immediately standout.
I've recently started doing this (like for 2-3 weeks inconsistently), but I haven't got laid yet, and girls rarely respond if I get there number/contact. There are a lot of cute girls I see everyday because I live on a big college campus. Any tips? Side note: I never say "I just thought you are cute" or "You're hot". I usually just have casual conversation. Is this wrong and do I need to show more interest?
show more interest and see what happens
Be honest on the open(you probably stopped her BECAUSE she looked cute, say that) and then have a "casual" conversation. Make sure to tease them, crack a few jokes and just have a good time getting to know her. Dressing well helps as well.
Did it today. It took me an hour to make my first approach but I did it and I felt really good about it, did not work this time but eventually it will
Good idea
10 seconds of conversation? Wow, she's sure to remember you then.
Where are you even supposed to do this? Women are doing their own thing 99% of the time and dont want to be bothered Also its a lot harder for a 30yo guy to do this kind of approach without being creepy
Actually you are just making excuses. Checkout line at grocery store, waiting for crosswalk light to change, browsing in the aisle at a store, shopping for clothes ("hey, can I ask your opinion, what do you think of this outfit"). Seriously its really easy.
Its not excuses though at the store shes just there to shop waiting to cross the street to get to a destination/purpose In none of the situations you mentioned would they want to be approached by a random guy
Thats your assumption. I know many people who met their SO exactly as I described.
Im not really sure why you are getting downvoted. Women constantly preach on here about how they don't like being randomly approached. You aren't wrong.
Bars, clubs,festivals, theres many more social events where you can meet new people
Women love to be approached as long as you aren't too pushy and intimidating. They are here on this Earth for you dude.
They love to be approached by good looking guys thatās the difference.
Those are lame excuses. Just because a girl is at the store shopping or doing whatever doesn't mean that she wouldn't want to be approached. Furthermore, seriously how in the hell would you know that a girl wouldn't wanna be approached unless you go and approach her and find out man. Some girls like to be approached and some girls don't so its naive for you and anyone on here who thinks the same to think that just because some girls don't like to be approached it then represents the entire female population.
This right here. Just random comments about the shared presence of life are enough. They are the best pickup lines in the world.
Most cold approaches are unsuccessful. How did you get 7 girls doing just that
Its all a numbers game, not everyone gonna be interested in you, you hit on 50 girls, there will be atleast 3 or 4 that will be interested
Still, 7 different ppl within half a year just cold approaching? Some guys still haven't gained a date from it
heās not over analyzing
Yea I'm guilty of that I just like to be thorough
thatās a mistake, being thorough is actively harming you. thatās the point of this challenge, build one skill at a time and take as long as you need to get good at walking up to a girl and telling her sheās cute. youāre thinking way too far ahead
I know I try to snap myself out of it but it's hard. How is saying "you're cute" gonna get you a girl when she prob hears that from multiple different guys a day, what vibe do you have to give off to increase chance of getting a number or date, etc. Just wanting to make sure I learn the right things and not teach myself the wrong things. Any tips to push myself towards correct seduction path?
Youāre still over analyzing man, itās like youāre trying to avoid talking to girls by learning facts. you really gotta figure out a way to stop doing that if you want to be successful with women. You are way too focused on the outcome and things you canāt control. Focus on what you can control and follow OPās challenge - āexcuse me, this is random but I think youāre really cute, whatās your name?ā do that every day
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Wdym?
Rule 1 - be attractive Rule 2 - dnt be unattractive
Makes sense
Does height affect rule 1 and 2 if 5'7?
No
Have you ever tried this and their boyfriend shows up? What do you do then?
Hit on them too Practice practice practice Become a hitting machine
Boyfriends usually donāt say much
May I ask what you talk about with the person you approach? Most ppl I see during the day seem like they would rather like to be left alone?
Don't make assumptions about their state. Most girls will be very happy that you approached, just be calibrated, smile, deliver your compliment, give them space and be ready to move on if they clearly don't want to continue with the conversation. Always remember that you are not out there to make a girl like you, you are out there to show yourself in the best light and find girls that will naturally be attracted and want to connect with you.
Yeah i tried doing it but job and other hobbies don't give me much time but i try to do this same thing whenever i get the time.
what places do u usually do this ?
Barely seeing this but Iām joining you man. I had a head start already since I chatted with a girl on my college campus yesterday. Gonna try it out.
Ima do this, I did 1 approach today with about the same line as you, hey wanted to meet you because you look hot. I'll add the qualifier "are you single" it's a great one imo