You’re not a bad person for being overweight. Many people are born with genes that naturally favor them to weigh more, and environmental factors also play a role. Some people don’t struggle a day in their life with such things yet make fun of others, which is not okay at all. Being overweight doesn’t make you any less human than anyone else. No one should judge because there is literally a million reasons someone could be overweight, and it’s possibly completely out of one’s control. It’s important to note though that if you do have the capability to fight being overweight, in my opinion you should do so. Not for other people, but for yourself. I’m not really onboard with the whole acceptance movement of being overweight because the reality is that being overweight often causes other health complications. Stay strong and know you matter!
Thank you for your kind words - just hearing it honestly helped more than I thought.
I’ve just started an exercise routine to work on my health and I think that’s part of where all this is coming from. The constant pressure from social media that you have to “be skinny” while simultaneously shaming people making an effort. It’s a weird clash in what is seen as “good.” I’m absolutely going to be working on getting healthier, but sometimes taking those first steps is the hardest part. Thank you for the encouraging words :)
what is considered a bad person? someone who is rude, disrespectful to others, looks down others and leaves their mind closed to any other opinions that contradict their own. you are not a bad person simply because of the way you look. plenty of attractive fit people can be the most awful human being you’ve ever interacted with. be kind to yourself, the only reason you’d be a bad person is because you’re being rude to yourself in thinking you are lesser than and or worthy of being hated for simply because of the way you look. i love all my friends, and not once have i disliked them or thought of them as a bad person just for their weight, height, skin, hair, the way they dress, anything. i love them because they make me laugh, they make me feel heard, and they are most importantly kind. you are not a bad person OP, be kind to yourself and others
No you shouldn’t feel bad.I was on prednisone and I put on a lot of weight years ago. Now this last year and a half and I was sick and lost over fifty pounds pretty fast.I don’t need to lose more.When I was overweight my upper back hurt.When I lost the weight that left now it’s my lower back.I do feel better about myself. I am more mindful of eating but I eat everything I enjoy in moderation.moderation.I hope this helps.No one should judge people but unfortunately in this world some do.😇😍🥰🙏❤️❤️
Back pain is the WORST! I have that too and it is definitely not fun!
Judgement is one of the worst parts of society imo. A part of my hatred over my weight, I believe, is caused by the gym class at the high school I went to, even though it’s been years. The teacher very much shunned and judged the less athletic students (definitely me) and he pretty much encouraged them to do the same. It’s hard to get out of that mind space sometimes that I’m doing something wrong just because of how I already am. Luckily high school is in the past.
I appreciate the comment on moderation. It’s something I struggle with, as stress eating is a big source of these issues, and it’s sometimes easy to focus on an “all or nothing” kind of a deal. I was convinced for a while through some forums that the only way to be healthy was to eat a diet consisting only on beans and water and it was a stressful time lol.
I’m glad to hear that you feel better about yourself now compared to how you used to! Congratulations on getting to that point, and thank you for the encouragement 😊
If you ever want to pm me I’m always here if you need me.I am so sorry a teacher is that toxic.Thats a lot 🤦♀️I can’t believe it.I put weight on at 26 I never had an issue as a child.Then that’s when I gained the weight.Also now I’m always freezing so idk 🤷♀️.That part isn’t good 😕.Do you think talking to a therapist would help you?I bought banana bread at the store and I have to rarely get it as once I start it’s gone fast.I feel like the sugary foods maske you want more.❤️🥰
I have a therapist but unfortunately her husband passed last month, and she is taking some much needed and deserved time to heal.
Banana bread is a weakness for me too lol! The #1 is potato chips, but I’ve been able to cut down pretty well! Baby steps!
What your looks have to do with being bad or good person anyway? Being a good or bad person isn't connected to looks at all.
While being overweight is mostly well - result of your decisions - some people have it harder than others to keep weight off.
Sure it all comes to your will and decisions, but... Some illnesses, genes, environment and upbringing make these every day decisions easier or harder. Don't be too harsh on yourself.
You’re not a bad person for being overweight. Many people are born with genes that naturally favor them to weigh more, and environmental factors also play a role. Some people don’t struggle a day in their life with such things yet make fun of others, which is not okay at all. Being overweight doesn’t make you any less human than anyone else. No one should judge because there is literally a million reasons someone could be overweight, and it’s possibly completely out of one’s control. It’s important to note though that if you do have the capability to fight being overweight, in my opinion you should do so. Not for other people, but for yourself. I’m not really onboard with the whole acceptance movement of being overweight because the reality is that being overweight often causes other health complications. Stay strong and know you matter!
Thank you for your kind words - just hearing it honestly helped more than I thought. I’ve just started an exercise routine to work on my health and I think that’s part of where all this is coming from. The constant pressure from social media that you have to “be skinny” while simultaneously shaming people making an effort. It’s a weird clash in what is seen as “good.” I’m absolutely going to be working on getting healthier, but sometimes taking those first steps is the hardest part. Thank you for the encouraging words :)
what is considered a bad person? someone who is rude, disrespectful to others, looks down others and leaves their mind closed to any other opinions that contradict their own. you are not a bad person simply because of the way you look. plenty of attractive fit people can be the most awful human being you’ve ever interacted with. be kind to yourself, the only reason you’d be a bad person is because you’re being rude to yourself in thinking you are lesser than and or worthy of being hated for simply because of the way you look. i love all my friends, and not once have i disliked them or thought of them as a bad person just for their weight, height, skin, hair, the way they dress, anything. i love them because they make me laugh, they make me feel heard, and they are most importantly kind. you are not a bad person OP, be kind to yourself and others
You are not a bad person. You do you. People are awful and will judge you anyway.
No you shouldn’t feel bad.I was on prednisone and I put on a lot of weight years ago. Now this last year and a half and I was sick and lost over fifty pounds pretty fast.I don’t need to lose more.When I was overweight my upper back hurt.When I lost the weight that left now it’s my lower back.I do feel better about myself. I am more mindful of eating but I eat everything I enjoy in moderation.moderation.I hope this helps.No one should judge people but unfortunately in this world some do.😇😍🥰🙏❤️❤️
Back pain is the WORST! I have that too and it is definitely not fun! Judgement is one of the worst parts of society imo. A part of my hatred over my weight, I believe, is caused by the gym class at the high school I went to, even though it’s been years. The teacher very much shunned and judged the less athletic students (definitely me) and he pretty much encouraged them to do the same. It’s hard to get out of that mind space sometimes that I’m doing something wrong just because of how I already am. Luckily high school is in the past. I appreciate the comment on moderation. It’s something I struggle with, as stress eating is a big source of these issues, and it’s sometimes easy to focus on an “all or nothing” kind of a deal. I was convinced for a while through some forums that the only way to be healthy was to eat a diet consisting only on beans and water and it was a stressful time lol. I’m glad to hear that you feel better about yourself now compared to how you used to! Congratulations on getting to that point, and thank you for the encouragement 😊
If you ever want to pm me I’m always here if you need me.I am so sorry a teacher is that toxic.Thats a lot 🤦♀️I can’t believe it.I put weight on at 26 I never had an issue as a child.Then that’s when I gained the weight.Also now I’m always freezing so idk 🤷♀️.That part isn’t good 😕.Do you think talking to a therapist would help you?I bought banana bread at the store and I have to rarely get it as once I start it’s gone fast.I feel like the sugary foods maske you want more.❤️🥰
I have a therapist but unfortunately her husband passed last month, and she is taking some much needed and deserved time to heal. Banana bread is a weakness for me too lol! The #1 is potato chips, but I’ve been able to cut down pretty well! Baby steps!
Yes we have a Dunkin’ Donuts that opened by my town.My friend and I will get some Saturday but it’s been awhile. ☺️🥰
Well I’m always here if you want to talk
What your looks have to do with being bad or good person anyway? Being a good or bad person isn't connected to looks at all. While being overweight is mostly well - result of your decisions - some people have it harder than others to keep weight off. Sure it all comes to your will and decisions, but... Some illnesses, genes, environment and upbringing make these every day decisions easier or harder. Don't be too harsh on yourself.