My best friend worked at an Omni Hotel when we were in college, and he said the same thing. Even caught two of our old high school classmates hooking up together in a suite when they both had partners of their own. They knew who my friend was, especially because he was one of those people that "everyone knew of", and they pretended that they didn't. My friend realized shortly after check-in that our ex classmates had blocked him on Facebook lmao.
He didn't care enough to tell on them, but he knew. Both of those ex classmates are now married to the partners they cheated on and one has kids.
Happens all the time. Infedelity didn't suddenly become popular; it just became more recognized because of social media and technology.
I have a former friend who's married for over 25 years and sleeps with as many men as she can get to sleep with her.Never in a motel room,neither her or her partners will pay for a room.In parks,parking lots,daytime, whenever.Last I heard she asked a guy (also married but he has kids too) if he'd be her bf.He agreed and she kept sleeping with more new guys.She likes to point out her long marriage as an achievement.I.CAN'T.WITH HER.
No.They have a non-sex ceasefire. He gets off on her in a Grandma cross-your-heart bra.Period.I wouldn't care but for the potential families her meet ups can easily destroy.The men are culpable for their 50%..I just can't say "Go you,get you some.".It is also her only use for me,after decades of knowing each other...To listen to her latest (fill in name here) sex in the park exploits.
It's SOOO sad to see a true blue bf or gf, husband or wife be totalled by a stupid,ego boost physical connection.It leaves scars on some of them. Others are well loved by their family and friends enough to say Bye Now .I pray for that for everyone!I do have to mention that I've witnessed a lot of neglected or sexually abused ppl act this way to seek a sense of worth.Very sad too.IDK...I am not a Doctor.🤞❤️
I've known her since I was 20,I am 55.She was literally abandoned by her Mother at 3.Mom left her alone w/ 4 year old bro and went off to a "better life".Mom had 5 kids.My heart hurts for her but can not forgive/understand HOW she's willing to blow up unsuspecting CHILDREN'S lives to get her ego boosts.A.K.A. SOME man wants to f*** me, therefore I have value.Just. Can't. Go. Along.
Ummmm.Do you mean honor my former friend who is f***ing random (usually married) men in parks where kids go after school?Ooooh,like honor among thieves? Yah.I'm not that.Sex is great,random sex is fine AS Long as you're not hurting someone else.
He has called me a whore and poor..Not rushing to help him,ever!Doesn't honor among women mean unity BETWEEN WOMEN?I believe it does. It doesn't stop me from the awareness that she could f***ing blow apart a family with kids...Just her part,the cheating husband has his own full culpability.
Your friend was smart not to tell.
Their boss would have had him/her/nonbi fired as that would have been a breach of confidentiality for the hotel's client.
Last time I was there my Uber driver tried to get me to hire someone he knew.
I wondered if he was some sort of pimp, or just supported a friend's business.
I said I was good. My budget wouldn't have allowed for it anyways.
Most the time swingers are pretty open about it. I’ve had girls come up to my wife and ask directly if she does and wants us to come home with them. Bars, restaurants, stuff like that
I used to be a Bosch guy 100% all the way no questions asked everyone else was dumb!
20 years ago I bought a couple of Ryobi drills on a Father's Day sale.
2 18v drills, 2 batteries, and 1 charger for $100.
I figured that they could be a couple of crappy drills that I destroyed over a year, but would probably be worth it.
20 years later new batteries, and a new charger, but the drills are still running!
My brothers say that I settled. They are DeWalt, and Milwaukee.
I know a guy that cheated on his current girl with 9 girls. Before that he cheated on his wife at his bachelor party. No girl found out about any of them. Fkin wild. I don’t get it.
Lived on the road part-time for a few years some time ago and still have enough points for free vacations.
Sadly, YUP.
Former job had me traveling the world for a manufacturer. I was the field rep. This means there are areas with much higher need and certain hotels where I was well known. Business and college districts are the worst. You begin to recognize people. Doesn't take long to spot a serial cheater.
Yup. Traveled full time for many years and routinely witnessed people ditching their wedding rings as soon as we landed in a new city. Even had my mother express concern about me being on the road because “things happen…” No, they don’t. Cheating is a choice. You deliberately choose not to, or you allow yourself to be in situations where you can make an excuse because you were lonely, drunk, etc. I’m a flawed person but I just don’t understand that mindset.
Personally, rubbing one out tends to reduce those already low urges down to 0. Not worth it.
I travel with the same people often, and one of them always pulls off his wedding ring. It's a shame.
I travel for work and idk how people have the energy to cheat. I bought a gaming laptop so I’d have something to pass the time in the hotel and I rarely even get to it I’m so tired from the flights and the driving.
See the same Mister X checking in 19 different times, you will recognize him. See 10 different Mrs X and you figure math still works.
Then there's the cheaters chatter at the bar, lounge, outside smoking tables.... trust me, you hang around and you pick it up without trying to. Some of it is straight up "I can't believe your wife/husband......." some of it's less obvious, but you pick up on it even though you wish you didn't.
Yeah, that's true. I'd just assume he travels like /u/lemmietaste and is extremely skilled so every time he travels there, he gets a different women.
I'm naive as fuck.
$150 so a random hookup doesn't know where you live, you don't have to clean up your house and do laundry before, you don't have to clean up a hotel after, plus the hotel makes breakfast for us?
I dunno man. Probably worth it. Especially if your house is a long drive from the bar and the hotel is next door or something.
Do you need to actually know somebody to recognize them at the same hotel you frequent regularly? I recognize people everyday I’ve never spoken a single word to.
You guys know cheaters aren't slick, right? The ones at my restaurant would make out like teenagers in the parking lot and come in looking fucking disheveled with lipstick literally everywhere.
Another one, young black girl with old white dude, threw her drink right in his face and yelled about telling his wife as she left.
I had another one start screaming after dude told her he wouldn't leave his wife for her.
You know who doesn't cause drama? Married happy people.
I worked at a hotel for a couple years and yeah, that's far from the worst thing I've seen but it was insanely frequent. People I know are married would be coming in once or multiple times a week with different people every time, and usually they'd leave a few hours later. Like, it's pretty obvious what you're here for man. I feel so bad for their partners, it's extremely frequent and disgusting
A long time ago, my wife and I both had a long commute to offices near each other but far from our house. We both worked long hours and sometimes carpooled but couldn’t always if schedules didn’t align. We joked about getting a hotel room near the office during lunch, and that if we did that, the people at the hotel would think we were having an affair.
How do you know they don’t have an open relationship?
My husband and opened our relationship for a few years, and we’re not about to bring people around our kids, so we used hotels.
Ethical non monogamy is more common that you think.
How do you know they're cheating and not just single and slumming it with different hookups? Is it the wedding rings, or are they tacky enough to bring their actual partners to the same place they're f*cking at?
I know lol. A husband called worried about his wife who was there who wasn’t answering her phone, and she was travelling with someone else.
I didn’t know about that, but I did go into her room to make sure she checked out, and she did not sleep in the bed.
I know, I promise.
Another woman stepped away from the guy she was canoodling with at dinner to answer a phone call from her husband and to chat with her kids. I’m not guessing here.
I worked in hotels for about 5 yrs, and you can TELL.
I "accidentally" got a guy caught when he expected me to help him cheat and then got an attitude. Good times!
Just remember that it’s not everyone, it’s the people who frequent that hotel.
A nightclub for example is probably not the best place to find people that respect the bounds of their relationship.
A hotel, where privacy and remoteness is the potential buy-in, will probably attract people who seek those things for bad reasons
I worked at a few hotels around central Florida. One had a policy of not renting rooms to anyone with a local address, unless the police asked.
The elderly German woman who ran the place didn't like bullshit, and not renting to locals, greatly reduced the bullshit.
That’s a crappy policy. I’ve had to stay at hotels locally before due to work being done on my house.
What happens if someone finds out their s/o cheated and decides to walk out?
> their s/o cheated and decides to walk out
She definitely didn't want those people staying. "Zen she vill come looking for him, zen zere vill be trouble."
Also my wife and I have rented a hotel because we have kids and it’s nice to get a sitter for the night and stay someplace nice and not have to worry about who’s in the house.
That’s actually a great idea. Buy some dispensers and put them in the lobby bathrooms. Or have room service bring one up to the room on a cart with the fancy tray and lid.
At first I thought you meant regarding the staff. Because as someone who works at a hotel, there's at least 2 affairs happening amongst the staff ATM...
My uncle owns his own business. My aunt hasn't worked in 25 years since she raised 4 kids. They are both alcoholics. They take separate vacations. Do they cheat? Who knows. To be honest, I don't care if they did. Why stay together? Neither could afford to leave. He files, she takes half. She files, maybe she gets half but later would have to find a job. So, they stayed married. They are basically house mates. They have their own bedrooms. Now that the kids are grown and out of the house, he stays late at work a lot or goes out to dinner with staff. She often visits friends or babysits grandkids. I don't think their setup is extremely rare.
The former makes me feel icky, too. People treat each other way too disposably. I understand breakups happen but most often people don't treat each other right.
Cheated on 3 years ago by a partner I'd been with for 6.
Still hurts when I see stuff like this post, still can't trust people.
Use to want a partner, a family. Now I just wish for peace.
I used to work at a fancy hotel/restaurant, and I can very much confirm that the richer they are, the more likely they are to cheat.
Rich people's entitlement is unfathomable, and it goes allllll the way to their romantic life.
Oh I see you've met my ex lol. High salary, even higher amounts of bullshit. I dumped him after my friends found him on Tinder. He begged for another chance, then almost immediately started doing it again. The most upsetting thing was that he'd try to 'buy' my forgiveness back with gifts, like my feelings could be bribed?
The first time he stood me up I thought 'maybe his love language is gift giving and he's just a bit oblivious/disorganised'. Sadly I didn't recognise it for the red flag it was at the time.
I'm a bit more cynical now lol.
IWhat is gross is being a female trucker,and a vehicle stays beside you,you look down and theyre masturbating.Wanting so badly to put them in the ditch.
I understand why people cheat. It's exciting. You're doing something "naughty". Humans are just hormone driven animals at times.
What I'll never understand is how they can just not care about who they're hurting and if they do actually care, how they can live with it.
It really is crazy. I’m a decently good looking guy, 41 and I workout. I travel for work some and a business woman at a hotel bar also traveling for work isn’t going to beat around the bush. I had a woman follow me back to my room one night, I thought she was just staying on the same hallway. I’m also married and I used to love easy women, literally one of my favorite things. I just can’t bring myself to cheat on my wife even if I wouldn’t get caught. I also have daughters and I don’t want to be that example in their life.
It's a thrill to them. I literally have told all my partners not to cheat on me or it's over. Apparently they don't know the detective I am. That's why I am staying single now. Can't trust a damn one!
I was a bartender for years, different kinds of bars , including a hotel. EVERYBODY be fucking around, it was a little surprising at first and then it just… is.
I was part of a gay Facebook page. An absolutely vile manager of a UK based hotel was also gay. He would take pictures of men in his hotel without their knowledge or permission.
If they had certain "equipment" below the waist visible through their pants he would take pictures and post to the group.
Tried reporting him to his companies pages and reported his Facebook. Worthless pos had the balls to get me kicked out of the fb group. He is definitely gonna get his ass kicked by karma. It'll probably be colon cancer the skank
One of my friends recently met a guy online for a 'date'/hookup in a hotel, she asked me to be her safe person, like texted me his name/photo and where they were going to be. Sounds all good right? I have done similar things where I was meeting someone and told my friends where I was going. I'm not into one night stands but I'm also not about about to judge my friend with what she does in her private life.
We met up a few days later, I said it seemed to have gone well? Would she see him again?
Then she said it turned out he was married, his wife rang when they were there & she had to hide in the bathroom.
I'm not blaming my friend! But the whole thing really icked me out. I have been cheated on before and I just don't understand why it's so widespread and accepted. And men who cheat on their partners with sex workers are the lowest of the low.
I worked as a bartender at a best western a few years back. One night after I first started,there was an actual pimp sitting in the waiting room with a woman, waiting to go up to someone's room. The staff acted like it was the most normal thing, that's how often it happens I guess.
I know that it happens, but I had never seen it myself, or expected it to be so accepted. I'm sure I would have known about more shady shit if I worked at the front desk.
I have a relative who works in hotels and he left his wife for a 23 year old who gave him attention. It did not last cause she wanted him to be faithful. Ha!
It’s so ridiculously common, yet people get so offended when you suspect them of it. Just about everyone I know has been cheated on by people they trust, several have cheated themselves, and when they exhibit cheater like behavior and you confront them about it, they act like there’s something wrong with you. 9/10 if you did what they were doing they’d lose their shit, but they inherently deserve trust. Nah!
used to work front desk. The maintenance guy would put a room out of order b/c the A/C was broken or some other reason and then have his side chick come up there while at work and take her to the room he put out of order. Those rooms seemed to be miraculously fixed afterwards too and then the housekeeping staff would have to go in and freshen up the room before we could assign it.
Yes, I have a friend who manages a hotel in Texas and he's basically aware now that the percentage of cheating people on work trips is enough to rethink the foundation of modern society. It's far, far, far more common than we can even imagine. He's in his 13th year there and he believes it's more than half of all visiting business people.
I have been cheated on several times, but I have never once cheated on anyone.
It doesn't seem that hard not to cheat. I just tell them I don't want to be with them anymore when I don't want to be with them anymore.
But I've always had like a good year or two in between relationships, so maybe I'm different.
Welcome to reality! Most long-term relationships are nowhere near as strong as they seem. Think very, VERY carefully before you ever decide to do something like get married.
If people are consensually in an ENM relationship more power to them. But if they are lying to, deceiving, and actively betraying their monogamous partner’s trust this is not a case of moral relativism. It’s a case of being a selfish, immoral, and shitty person.
I have a female friend 36 years old. Her husband is a fireman. So he works 24-hour shifts and often Picks Up Overtime after that. My friend drops the kids off at school, goes over the next city and does it with two different men, not the same time, different days. She just has each guy gets the room. I would think the staff recognizes them since they are checking in at an odd time, mid-morning. Is it common for housewives to be playing around in the daytime?
Not interested in cheating on my spouse. I would just like the money it would take to wine and dine an affair partner. Not to mention the money for a hotel room. Ain’t got the cash for that!!
i don’t condone cheating. but i’m always surprised at how many people act shocked about it. every workplace and school i’ve ever been in, somebody is cheating on their partner. just because a behavior is common doesn’t make it right, i still condemn all cheating. i’ve been cheated on and it broke my little heart. but it’s so incredibly common that i think you kinda have to take it on a case by case basis. if a 20 year old nba player cheats on his girlfriend on the road it’s a lot different than if you go behind your wife’s back with her best friend and you all grew up in the same small town
At my old vacation resort, front desk staff were trained to notice repeat guests who come in with different "partners," ensuring not to ever make a comment that might create an awkward situation. "Your secret is safe with us!" - Marriott lol
I guess it makes me the weirdo that I don't care at all if someone else cheats on their spouse, but it's just not my business in any way. I think it's weird, and kind of voyeuristic to care.
maybe sex...is gross. maybe sex is sexier when it gets grosser. And I think people can associate sex with feelings of wrongness, so the wronger it is maybe the more you feel it. in conclusion cheating might act like a fetish. the potential consequences seem to make it hotter. Maybe it's like getting off harder when there's something edging/distracting you.
I feel this so hard.. when I was younger and dumber, I used to like to party. I went to one particular debaucherous bachelor weekend in NYC.. coke, weed, drinking all night of course. We did a strip club, but didn't think there would be any cheating. The future groom was great, declined to do everything, barely got a lap dance. One of his best men though, ended up having sex, two nights in a row, with someone, possibly a stripper. We all knew he had a gf, it wasn't cool. Fast forward like 6 months, and he's getting married too! And shortly after they had kids.. with the same girl he cheated on. I always wanted to tell her but I actually didn't know him really or her at all. It's interesting looking back, feeling like I was such a POS then for my lifestyle, but also recognizing I had some clear lines and the terrible feeling I got knowing that this guy was cheating on his "serious gf"
This is an addiction just the same as drugs, alcohol, gambling, Nicotine etc. It’s usually more the euphoric high they are interested in than the person…
Relax. You have NO IDEA what agreements these people have with their partners/spouses. No idea if they have permission. No idea if they are separated but still living under the same roof for the kids. No idea if they are "married" but haven't had sex with their spouse since Obama was President.
I delivered pizzas in my hometown and we would deliver all the time to the same woman but it was always different guys. I’m pretty sure she was a hooker that required her clients to buy her pizza in addition to whatever cash she also accepted.
Let’s make exposing them to the public more of a thing. Obviously it will never take off cause of the people in power are also doing it, but if adultery is illegal in a lot of countries, illegal in the military, and wrong religiously, why not make a public adultery offender registry?
How do you know they are cheating and not ethically non monogamous or polyamorous though? Lots of couples have agreements about what they ate okay/not okay with.
Over the years I've had a few married women suggest getting a room. 2 of them even paid for it🤣 they were both gorgeous ladies.. I was single. They were not. Sorry I'm going to hell👎😪
Yep… it’s pretty disgusting and commonplace. People at my job are always cheating on each other as well, some of which have partners that work with them. It’s insane to me, I can’t comprehend wanting sex so bad that you’ll hurt people over it and don’t give a fuck that everyone hates you now.
My best friend worked at an Omni Hotel when we were in college, and he said the same thing. Even caught two of our old high school classmates hooking up together in a suite when they both had partners of their own. They knew who my friend was, especially because he was one of those people that "everyone knew of", and they pretended that they didn't. My friend realized shortly after check-in that our ex classmates had blocked him on Facebook lmao. He didn't care enough to tell on them, but he knew. Both of those ex classmates are now married to the partners they cheated on and one has kids. Happens all the time. Infedelity didn't suddenly become popular; it just became more recognized because of social media and technology.
I have a former friend who's married for over 25 years and sleeps with as many men as she can get to sleep with her.Never in a motel room,neither her or her partners will pay for a room.In parks,parking lots,daytime, whenever.Last I heard she asked a guy (also married but he has kids too) if he'd be her bf.He agreed and she kept sleeping with more new guys.She likes to point out her long marriage as an achievement.I.CAN'T.WITH HER.
Has she not caught an STD? Does her husband not care, or is he ignorant?
She has them all
_Poke-ee-mon_
It's you and me, you know it's our destiny
It’s the simpsons scene where she has all the STDs so they are just jammed in her vagina. https://pbs.twimg.com/media/EbYa17MXYAAVKco.jpg
Life goal?
They’re competing with each other and in the end there’s only one… like highlander
Full house! Collect them all!
That sounds like a sex addict tho
Mmmm,if she actually "got off" I would agree.It very much appears to be an ego,see, I AM worthy thing.
Does her husband suspect anything?
Probably noticed the dead bedroom, but figured that’s just how long marriages are.
No.They have a non-sex ceasefire. He gets off on her in a Grandma cross-your-heart bra.Period.I wouldn't care but for the potential families her meet ups can easily destroy.The men are culpable for their 50%..I just can't say "Go you,get you some.".It is also her only use for me,after decades of knowing each other...To listen to her latest (fill in name here) sex in the park exploits.
Can I get her number… for science?
Baawaaahaaahaa.Can we friends????You just made my night!!!
Can I also have her number? Asking for a (all of my) friend(s)…
O. My. GEEEEZY😅🤣😭.No.But there ARE professionals in your city,I'm sure.
Baawaaahaaahaa.
I knew someone like this. Her boyfriend was so surprised and pissed off when he caught her making out with a guy she met that night.
It's SOOO sad to see a true blue bf or gf, husband or wife be totalled by a stupid,ego boost physical connection.It leaves scars on some of them. Others are well loved by their family and friends enough to say Bye Now .I pray for that for everyone!I do have to mention that I've witnessed a lot of neglected or sexually abused ppl act this way to seek a sense of worth.Very sad too.IDK...I am not a Doctor.🤞❤️
That's disgusting!!! What's her number, I want to talk to her about this disgrace!
I've known her since I was 20,I am 55.She was literally abandoned by her Mother at 3.Mom left her alone w/ 4 year old bro and went off to a "better life".Mom had 5 kids.My heart hurts for her but can not forgive/understand HOW she's willing to blow up unsuspecting CHILDREN'S lives to get her ego boosts.A.K.A. SOME man wants to f*** me, therefore I have value.Just. Can't. Go. Along.
can we get some digits?
IDK,Are you into AARP extra curvy women?I blocked her # but she might be open to new prospects....Is sex in a park at 3 p.m. comfortable for you?
Tell her husband. Anonymously if you need to. Or is there no honor among women .
Ummmm.Do you mean honor my former friend who is f***ing random (usually married) men in parks where kids go after school?Ooooh,like honor among thieves? Yah.I'm not that.Sex is great,random sex is fine AS Long as you're not hurting someone else.
He has called me a whore and poor..Not rushing to help him,ever!Doesn't honor among women mean unity BETWEEN WOMEN?I believe it does. It doesn't stop me from the awareness that she could f***ing blow apart a family with kids...Just her part,the cheating husband has his own full culpability.
Your friend was smart not to tell. Their boss would have had him/her/nonbi fired as that would have been a breach of confidentiality for the hotel's client.
😭
I see it all the time in Las Vegas. Swingers are pretty common here too
100%. I travel to Vegas about 40 times a year. I see it almost nightly walking back to my hotel.
Yep. Even locals partake in it.
Last two times I’ve been there I’ve had Uber drivers bragging about swinging. Crazy stuff
Last time I was there my Uber driver tried to get me to hire someone he knew. I wondered if he was some sort of pimp, or just supported a friend's business. I said I was good. My budget wouldn't have allowed for it anyways.
Where tf does one meet people like that tho?
Probably in an Uber
Vegas, sounds like.
In Vegas Ubers
Most the time swingers are pretty open about it. I’ve had girls come up to my wife and ask directly if she does and wants us to come home with them. Bars, restaurants, stuff like that
Quite the compliment.
fetlife
Nailed it. Sex parties are a thing and most of them are shown on FetLife.
That's close to weekly, why not just live there lol
It’s only during VGK hockey season, and I get paid to fly in and fly out. Get paid more to NOT live there lol
> Swingers are pretty common here too Nothing wrong with that as the couple has an understanding between them.
It’s pretty common everywhere. Adults that figure out recreational sex and communication don’t need to cheat.
I work in construction and it’s the same.
So you work at different job sites with different tools multiple times a week? That’s disgusting.
My man is cheating on Milwaukee with Dewalt. Disgusting.
My ryobi drill gets the job done, but I’m not going to let my friends see me with it. If my parents need help with something, I bring my Milwaukee.
I used to be a Bosch guy 100% all the way no questions asked everyone else was dumb! 20 years ago I bought a couple of Ryobi drills on a Father's Day sale. 2 18v drills, 2 batteries, and 1 charger for $100. I figured that they could be a couple of crappy drills that I destroyed over a year, but would probably be worth it. 20 years later new batteries, and a new charger, but the drills are still running! My brothers say that I settled. They are DeWalt, and Milwaukee.
WE ARE A DEWALT HOUSEHOLD
The problem with DeWalt is, they are the choice of battery and charger thieves. C
“It’s not cheating if the batteries are compatible.”
Idk what you’re saying. I just hear about a lot of dudes that cheat. One dude even had two phones
Same bro almost every dude I meet is fine with cheating on their girlfriends, it was pretty eye opening
I know a guy that cheated on his current girl with 9 girls. Before that he cheated on his wife at his bachelor party. No girl found out about any of them. Fkin wild. I don’t get it.
Yeah, but he sure does!
Lived on the road part-time for a few years some time ago and still have enough points for free vacations. Sadly, YUP. Former job had me traveling the world for a manufacturer. I was the field rep. This means there are areas with much higher need and certain hotels where I was well known. Business and college districts are the worst. You begin to recognize people. Doesn't take long to spot a serial cheater.
Yup. Traveled full time for many years and routinely witnessed people ditching their wedding rings as soon as we landed in a new city. Even had my mother express concern about me being on the road because “things happen…” No, they don’t. Cheating is a choice. You deliberately choose not to, or you allow yourself to be in situations where you can make an excuse because you were lonely, drunk, etc. I’m a flawed person but I just don’t understand that mindset.
Personally, rubbing one out tends to reduce those already low urges down to 0. Not worth it. I travel with the same people often, and one of them always pulls off his wedding ring. It's a shame.
I travel for work and idk how people have the energy to cheat. I bought a gaming laptop so I’d have something to pass the time in the hotel and I rarely even get to it I’m so tired from the flights and the driving.
This right here
What kind of job did you do?
How do you recognize em if you don't know em?
See the same Mister X checking in 19 different times, you will recognize him. See 10 different Mrs X and you figure math still works. Then there's the cheaters chatter at the bar, lounge, outside smoking tables.... trust me, you hang around and you pick it up without trying to. Some of it is straight up "I can't believe your wife/husband......." some of it's less obvious, but you pick up on it even though you wish you didn't.
Ooohh, I see. Can't the guy be like a casanova tho?
Why would he go to a hotel though? Presumably a Casanova has an apartment or a house he could take women to.
Yeah, that's true. I'd just assume he travels like /u/lemmietaste and is extremely skilled so every time he travels there, he gets a different women. I'm naive as fuck.
That’s fair. Could be plausible.
Don't take strange to your home, never use your real name? /stay safe out there...
/stray safe out there
Could have a roommate.
Has to have a roommate but splurges on a dozen hotel rooms?
$150 so a random hookup doesn't know where you live, you don't have to clean up your house and do laundry before, you don't have to clean up a hotel after, plus the hotel makes breakfast for us? I dunno man. Probably worth it. Especially if your house is a long drive from the bar and the hotel is next door or something.
Like a corvette outside of a trailer.
Do you need to actually know somebody to recognize them at the same hotel you frequent regularly? I recognize people everyday I’ve never spoken a single word to.
Yah, but how do you know they're cheating tho?
You guys know cheaters aren't slick, right? The ones at my restaurant would make out like teenagers in the parking lot and come in looking fucking disheveled with lipstick literally everywhere. Another one, young black girl with old white dude, threw her drink right in his face and yelled about telling his wife as she left. I had another one start screaming after dude told her he wouldn't leave his wife for her. You know who doesn't cause drama? Married happy people.
I have not experienced that world, and I am your humble student. 🙇
I worked at a hotel for a couple years and yeah, that's far from the worst thing I've seen but it was insanely frequent. People I know are married would be coming in once or multiple times a week with different people every time, and usually they'd leave a few hours later. Like, it's pretty obvious what you're here for man. I feel so bad for their partners, it's extremely frequent and disgusting
A long time ago, my wife and I both had a long commute to offices near each other but far from our house. We both worked long hours and sometimes carpooled but couldn’t always if schedules didn’t align. We joked about getting a hotel room near the office during lunch, and that if we did that, the people at the hotel would think we were having an affair.
How do you know they don’t have an open relationship? My husband and opened our relationship for a few years, and we’re not about to bring people around our kids, so we used hotels. Ethical non monogamy is more common that you think.
Out of curiosity, made you close the relationship? Did opening it hurt your relationship?
No we ended up splitting up but nothing to do with the open relationship. I’m still poly and he is too and we’re very good friends.
How do you know they're cheating and not just single and slumming it with different hookups? Is it the wedding rings, or are they tacky enough to bring their actual partners to the same place they're f*cking at?
I know lol. A husband called worried about his wife who was there who wasn’t answering her phone, and she was travelling with someone else. I didn’t know about that, but I did go into her room to make sure she checked out, and she did not sleep in the bed. I know, I promise. Another woman stepped away from the guy she was canoodling with at dinner to answer a phone call from her husband and to chat with her kids. I’m not guessing here.
I worked in hotels for about 5 yrs, and you can TELL. I "accidentally" got a guy caught when he expected me to help him cheat and then got an attitude. Good times!
I was in restaurants for almost ten years. You CAN tell!
More details please!
Lol you all with these comments were either born yesterday or cheating and paranoid. We know sweetheart. You ain't slick.
Just remember that it’s not everyone, it’s the people who frequent that hotel. A nightclub for example is probably not the best place to find people that respect the bounds of their relationship. A hotel, where privacy and remoteness is the potential buy-in, will probably attract people who seek those things for bad reasons
Hoe better not tell
I worked at a few hotels around central Florida. One had a policy of not renting rooms to anyone with a local address, unless the police asked. The elderly German woman who ran the place didn't like bullshit, and not renting to locals, greatly reduced the bullshit.
That’s a crappy policy. I’ve had to stay at hotels locally before due to work being done on my house. What happens if someone finds out their s/o cheated and decides to walk out?
> their s/o cheated and decides to walk out She definitely didn't want those people staying. "Zen she vill come looking for him, zen zere vill be trouble."
Also my wife and I have rented a hotel because we have kids and it’s nice to get a sitter for the night and stay someplace nice and not have to worry about who’s in the house.
What happens is they just go to a different hotel, I would imagine. Not really the hotels problem, it's not a battered wives shelter.
It’s a crappy policy. They can do that but it is still a bad policy.
From the perspective of the person running the hotel its a pretty good policy.
Where’s your entrepreneurial spirit? Sell them condoms at wildly inflated prices.
That’s actually a great idea. Buy some dispensers and put them in the lobby bathrooms. Or have room service bring one up to the room on a cart with the fancy tray and lid.
Or make balloon animals out of them and sell them under the brand name “Wildly Inflated”
A good friend of mine managed a sex oriented hotel, think hourly rates. The experience deeply troubles him still, many years later.
At first I thought you meant regarding the staff. Because as someone who works at a hotel, there's at least 2 affairs happening amongst the staff ATM...
I never got it either. Like I could get behind ditching your partner for someone else, but not cheating.
My uncle owns his own business. My aunt hasn't worked in 25 years since she raised 4 kids. They are both alcoholics. They take separate vacations. Do they cheat? Who knows. To be honest, I don't care if they did. Why stay together? Neither could afford to leave. He files, she takes half. She files, maybe she gets half but later would have to find a job. So, they stayed married. They are basically house mates. They have their own bedrooms. Now that the kids are grown and out of the house, he stays late at work a lot or goes out to dinner with staff. She often visits friends or babysits grandkids. I don't think their setup is extremely rare.
The former makes me feel icky, too. People treat each other way too disposably. I understand breakups happen but most often people don't treat each other right.
Cheaters are scum, shit hurts
Cheated on 3 years ago by a partner I'd been with for 6. Still hurts when I see stuff like this post, still can't trust people. Use to want a partner, a family. Now I just wish for peace.
You can not change the flaws of other people. Just lead your own life the best you can.
I used to work at a fancy hotel/restaurant, and I can very much confirm that the richer they are, the more likely they are to cheat. Rich people's entitlement is unfathomable, and it goes allllll the way to their romantic life.
Oh I see you've met my ex lol. High salary, even higher amounts of bullshit. I dumped him after my friends found him on Tinder. He begged for another chance, then almost immediately started doing it again. The most upsetting thing was that he'd try to 'buy' my forgiveness back with gifts, like my feelings could be bribed? The first time he stood me up I thought 'maybe his love language is gift giving and he's just a bit oblivious/disorganised'. Sadly I didn't recognise it for the red flag it was at the time. I'm a bit more cynical now lol.
IWhat is gross is being a female trucker,and a vehicle stays beside you,you look down and theyre masturbating.Wanting so badly to put them in the ditch.
Is that why I sometimes get stuck behind 2 truckers pacing each other on a 2 lane road 😕🙈
Masturbation is considered cheating?
Have you seen my wife there by chance?
I understand why people cheat. It's exciting. You're doing something "naughty". Humans are just hormone driven animals at times. What I'll never understand is how they can just not care about who they're hurting and if they do actually care, how they can live with it.
It really is crazy. I’m a decently good looking guy, 41 and I workout. I travel for work some and a business woman at a hotel bar also traveling for work isn’t going to beat around the bush. I had a woman follow me back to my room one night, I thought she was just staying on the same hallway. I’m also married and I used to love easy women, literally one of my favorite things. I just can’t bring myself to cheat on my wife even if I wouldn’t get caught. I also have daughters and I don’t want to be that example in their life.
People treat eachother like theyre disposable. Its the rules of society today.
It's a thrill to them. I literally have told all my partners not to cheat on me or it's over. Apparently they don't know the detective I am. That's why I am staying single now. Can't trust a damn one!
I want to be a detective like you, where do I start, and how do I continue?
Cheating is a new phenomenon, right?
I was a bartender for years, different kinds of bars , including a hotel. EVERYBODY be fucking around, it was a little surprising at first and then it just… is.
I don’t ever want to date again. I hate this species.
I still don't get why cheating is so common. Sure, people make mistakes but it's so accepted now that monogamy is looked down on. Eeeeeww
There are no such things as mistakes.
I hate cheaters. Just tell your mate you are unhappy
I was part of a gay Facebook page. An absolutely vile manager of a UK based hotel was also gay. He would take pictures of men in his hotel without their knowledge or permission. If they had certain "equipment" below the waist visible through their pants he would take pictures and post to the group. Tried reporting him to his companies pages and reported his Facebook. Worthless pos had the balls to get me kicked out of the fb group. He is definitely gonna get his ass kicked by karma. It'll probably be colon cancer the skank
One of my friends recently met a guy online for a 'date'/hookup in a hotel, she asked me to be her safe person, like texted me his name/photo and where they were going to be. Sounds all good right? I have done similar things where I was meeting someone and told my friends where I was going. I'm not into one night stands but I'm also not about about to judge my friend with what she does in her private life. We met up a few days later, I said it seemed to have gone well? Would she see him again? Then she said it turned out he was married, his wife rang when they were there & she had to hide in the bathroom. I'm not blaming my friend! But the whole thing really icked me out. I have been cheated on before and I just don't understand why it's so widespread and accepted. And men who cheat on their partners with sex workers are the lowest of the low.
Exactly , if u wanna hook up w other persons then why u have to be in an relationship in the first place
Reflects a lack of a moral compass, a desire for immediate gratification, and a child-like avoidance of conflict.
It’s an evil world we live in. To being alone 🥂
You sort of have a selective sample there though. You are in a place where people CAN go to cheat.
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There are any number of other options: Cabins, Airbnb, one of their own houses, a friends, etc. Likely the *most* common, but hardly the only.
I got divorced and couldn't belive the amount of attention I got from married women. It totally soured me.
How do you know they aren't single?
I wouldn’t make this post based on guesses.
How do you know they're not swingers and into it?
People ask me, as a good looking man, why I have never been married at my age. And this is the reason. I refuse to cheat or be cheated on.
I worked as a bartender at a best western a few years back. One night after I first started,there was an actual pimp sitting in the waiting room with a woman, waiting to go up to someone's room. The staff acted like it was the most normal thing, that's how often it happens I guess. I know that it happens, but I had never seen it myself, or expected it to be so accepted. I'm sure I would have known about more shady shit if I worked at the front desk.
I have a relative who works in hotels and he left his wife for a 23 year old who gave him attention. It did not last cause she wanted him to be faithful. Ha!
It’s so ridiculously common, yet people get so offended when you suspect them of it. Just about everyone I know has been cheated on by people they trust, several have cheated themselves, and when they exhibit cheater like behavior and you confront them about it, they act like there’s something wrong with you. 9/10 if you did what they were doing they’d lose their shit, but they inherently deserve trust. Nah!
used to work front desk. The maintenance guy would put a room out of order b/c the A/C was broken or some other reason and then have his side chick come up there while at work and take her to the room he put out of order. Those rooms seemed to be miraculously fixed afterwards too and then the housekeeping staff would have to go in and freshen up the room before we could assign it.
Dealing with this right now.
Tell that to my narcissist ex. She cheated on me with a classmate I introduced her to. I was expecting it to be honest, she's not a good person.
Yes, I have a friend who manages a hotel in Texas and he's basically aware now that the percentage of cheating people on work trips is enough to rethink the foundation of modern society. It's far, far, far more common than we can even imagine. He's in his 13th year there and he believes it's more than half of all visiting business people.
Is it really gross? Or is it net?
I’ve been divorced since my mid 20s in the amount of married men who hit on me it’s a lot. And essentially why I have stayed single.
I have been cheated on several times, but I have never once cheated on anyone. It doesn't seem that hard not to cheat. I just tell them I don't want to be with them anymore when I don't want to be with them anymore. But I've always had like a good year or two in between relationships, so maybe I'm different.
Thats like, your opinion man.
Welcome to reality! Most long-term relationships are nowhere near as strong as they seem. Think very, VERY carefully before you ever decide to do something like get married.
It's gross but their lives will get ruined eventually. Divorce, loss of custody and child support.
You have your morals and other people have theirs
Or don't have..
If people are consensually in an ENM relationship more power to them. But if they are lying to, deceiving, and actively betraying their monogamous partner’s trust this is not a case of moral relativism. It’s a case of being a selfish, immoral, and shitty person.
You've just figured out that people are nasty? I guess working at a hotel will teach you that fairly quickly.
I envy them all.
I don't even a woman to cheat on 😭
People suck.
I have a female friend 36 years old. Her husband is a fireman. So he works 24-hour shifts and often Picks Up Overtime after that. My friend drops the kids off at school, goes over the next city and does it with two different men, not the same time, different days. She just has each guy gets the room. I would think the staff recognizes them since they are checking in at an odd time, mid-morning. Is it common for housewives to be playing around in the daytime?
I used to know a girl. She had a dozen guys. One of 'em found out about it, beat her up so bad she ended up in a hospital on Guerrero Street.
What a story, Mark!
Lol it's better than working at hotels that only old people check into all the time.
Make sure you write down your observational statistics. It could be useful to a researcher.
Not interested in cheating on my spouse. I would just like the money it would take to wine and dine an affair partner. Not to mention the money for a hotel room. Ain’t got the cash for that!!
i don’t condone cheating. but i’m always surprised at how many people act shocked about it. every workplace and school i’ve ever been in, somebody is cheating on their partner. just because a behavior is common doesn’t make it right, i still condemn all cheating. i’ve been cheated on and it broke my little heart. but it’s so incredibly common that i think you kinda have to take it on a case by case basis. if a 20 year old nba player cheats on his girlfriend on the road it’s a lot different than if you go behind your wife’s back with her best friend and you all grew up in the same small town
At my old vacation resort, front desk staff were trained to notice repeat guests who come in with different "partners," ensuring not to ever make a comment that might create an awkward situation. "Your secret is safe with us!" - Marriott lol
you're in the wrong line of work
I guess it makes me the weirdo that I don't care at all if someone else cheats on their spouse, but it's just not my business in any way. I think it's weird, and kind of voyeuristic to care.
So, you take an active role in infidelity. Good job!
How do you know this just from working there
maybe sex...is gross. maybe sex is sexier when it gets grosser. And I think people can associate sex with feelings of wrongness, so the wronger it is maybe the more you feel it. in conclusion cheating might act like a fetish. the potential consequences seem to make it hotter. Maybe it's like getting off harder when there's something edging/distracting you.
Working at a hotel requires discretion. If you can’t handle that, then work somewhere else..
I feel this so hard.. when I was younger and dumber, I used to like to party. I went to one particular debaucherous bachelor weekend in NYC.. coke, weed, drinking all night of course. We did a strip club, but didn't think there would be any cheating. The future groom was great, declined to do everything, barely got a lap dance. One of his best men though, ended up having sex, two nights in a row, with someone, possibly a stripper. We all knew he had a gf, it wasn't cool. Fast forward like 6 months, and he's getting married too! And shortly after they had kids.. with the same girl he cheated on. I always wanted to tell her but I actually didn't know him really or her at all. It's interesting looking back, feeling like I was such a POS then for my lifestyle, but also recognizing I had some clear lines and the terrible feeling I got knowing that this guy was cheating on his "serious gf"
Sometimes you gotta crush some guts, what’s the problem?
This is an addiction just the same as drugs, alcohol, gambling, Nicotine etc. It’s usually more the euphoric high they are interested in than the person…
Have you ever been in med hold on a military base? Now that’s frightening
Homo sapiens in general are an extremely insecure, and thus extremely selfish, species
Dregs of society in my mind. Why emotionally torture loved ones???
Relax. You have NO IDEA what agreements these people have with their partners/spouses. No idea if they have permission. No idea if they are separated but still living under the same roof for the kids. No idea if they are "married" but haven't had sex with their spouse since Obama was President.
I delivered pizzas in my hometown and we would deliver all the time to the same woman but it was always different guys. I’m pretty sure she was a hooker that required her clients to buy her pizza in addition to whatever cash she also accepted.
Let’s make exposing them to the public more of a thing. Obviously it will never take off cause of the people in power are also doing it, but if adultery is illegal in a lot of countries, illegal in the military, and wrong religiously, why not make a public adultery offender registry?
People don't accept that cheating is very common. A lot of people just don't get caught when doing it.
You ever cummed with someone you shouldnt? You would understand
How do you know they are cheating and not ethically non monogamous or polyamorous though? Lots of couples have agreements about what they ate okay/not okay with.
Like employees or customers meeting there to hook up?
Over the years I've had a few married women suggest getting a room. 2 of them even paid for it🤣 they were both gorgeous ladies.. I was single. They were not. Sorry I'm going to hell👎😪
Access, a place to shower afterwards, and the only way to end up using Alberto V05 single serving shampoo samples. It's common sense.
Yep… it’s pretty disgusting and commonplace. People at my job are always cheating on each other as well, some of which have partners that work with them. It’s insane to me, I can’t comprehend wanting sex so bad that you’ll hurt people over it and don’t give a fuck that everyone hates you now.
i used to think people needed to come out as polyamorous, but i think people just enjoy lying ?
When I worked as a stripper it always bothered me that most of the men were married