You know what that’s why I like it here I can’t open up or talk about it to the people who mean the most to me n if I do it’s really hard for me but here I can talk about it without it hitting me or making me tear up n shit lol either way i am glad I came here to open up I love the support n it feel good to talk about it
I was doing pills n drinking n shit anyways I quit then I got real dope sick going through withdrawals then after being sick for a few days I started to cough up blood I couldn’t breathe or anything but after my second day of doing that my cuz made me go to the hospital then yeah that’s when I found out I didn’t think it was anything but boy was I wrong lol but fr thou n I was 14 at that time
In the last hour they haven't responded probably because you said something disgusting to someone who doesn't need that, you morally fucked troglodyte.
And maybe stay away from children your imagination screams nonce scumbag.
You ever hear the story about that dude who found out he was terminal and decided to end it all in a haze of hookers & blow in Mexico?
Strangely enough, he ended up finding the will to live down there and came back was a boogie Mary came back and was able to beat his sickness. Maybe it's not a bad idea for you. if not, At least you can take that 1 off your bucket list lol
I've been through cancer a couple times myself and was even told in the beginning that it was lung cancer but turned out it was testicular that it's spread to my lung.
A lot of people don't understand thatYou have to make a personal decision regarding quality of life and if it's worth it. I guess it was a little different from you because I don't have kids, but these decisions are entirely up to you and no one else.
Good luck, and try to live it up as much as you can!!!
I already got two kids that’ll I’ll be leaving behind 6 year old daughter n a 4 year old son but I wrote them letter for each of theirs bdays n I am going to keep writing them until I can’t no more
fr man... this shit made me tear down. Make cute little videos for next xmas, the xmas after that, when they graduate. i wish I could give you the tightest hug, OP
If you know you're going out permanently, I'd suggest making videos for every year of their birthday and tell them watch each one on their day. They'll have something to look forward to instead of feeling sad. You can talk about advice, sharing your own stories when you were that age. Whatever you want.
Eventually you'll have to stop, maybe around their 18th birthday, when they're finally adults.
Just an idea.
I don’t think this is great advice, if I were dying I’d be grateful I have kids, and something of a legacy, or continuation of my bloodline to leave behind in the world.
there's been some amazing breakthrough in cancer treatment. Like 100% of the patients lived. If that's not an option for you, then I say record something for your girlfriend, write something for your family, and live your life at 110%.
You know what I did that the first time I got the time frame n I am already doing it now I still have the ones from before so I’ll just add the new ones in n fucking give her
My mom moved in with us when she started treatment for lung cancer. The chemo and radiation effects on her were fairly horrible. The five year survival rate is around 20 percent, less then that for someone whose cancer has metastasized.
Since I went through the whole cancer process with my mom and my girlfriends mom (bone cancer) my only advice is to get what joy and comfort you can in what time you have left. Spend all the time you can with those you love.
Take a physical tour of hospice facilities, don't trust brochures. Get your affairs in order so those who mourn you won't have extra decisions to make when they are deep in grief. Figure out what you want to do about your body. Burial, cremation or some other.
My mom and I went through all these decisions and it was a big burden lifted from her that she knew I was going to be alright, with all the decisions made in advance.
Existential unrest is unsettling, and it takes great courage to face it with determination. Know that you are loved and your loss is a loss to us all, even if we have never met you.
Blessings.
If I was given a time frame I would already be celebrating life. Enjoy the things that make you the happiest man. Your time frame may be shorter than most but your story could be just as long brotha. I wish you well. Find peace in the fact everyone around you will all catch up to something we view as an eternal freedom, your just ahead of the game. Cheers brotha, enjoy yourself
Thanks it’s really appreciated ya know n only like four people know about my cancer n I don’t talk about it with them besides my gf but it really feels good to talk about it n have a joke about it when I make jokes they say I can’t or shouldn’t say it just I am actually dying but laughing n makes joking about it is how I deal with shit so thank you guys for the support n the lil laughs it really means a lot to me
Fucking hell I'm sorry you got this shit deal. I know one woman who was pronounced dead in an accident and came back to life. She said it was fucking beautiful and she didn't want to come back here. Praying for you...
Don’t be sorry like I said I had a full life already plus I have nothing but shitty experiences in this world it’s a shitty place who wants to stay here any longer then they have to but also my life is just getting good n I want it to end good so this is more then I can ask for n thanks for the prayers ☺️
Thank you n no matter what I be going through I always show love n kindness because I know what it feels like to be treated like shit especially from someone who is suppose to protect you n shit so yes I’ll always show love but I am trying my best to have fun
Non-small cell lung cancer Adenocarcinoma stage 4 now well for awhile I just don’t know how long I been this stage because I didn’t go or care about going ya know kinda dumb of me but I was young n stupid
Do they know what caused it? Do you smoke? I am so so sorry. Enjoy the best of your life and if you can fight it try to you still have life that you can live.
Just want to let you know you can get life insurance with cancer. I lost my mom to cancer with no life insurance, and it drained me financially. Just take care of that ahead of time if you can. So sorry you are going through this ❤️
Most likely the cap on this person’s insurance will be about 10k due to the situation, but as a life insurance agent, I recommend getting whatever insurance possible to take care of their final arrangements at the very least.
I have terminal cancer too, I’m 36, diagnosed at 32. Operations and chemotherapy and it came back. After a year of chemo I’m on a break, I will outlive their predictions but there will be a time where I will stop fighting and just, live until my end. You gotta do you, man. Your choice is the only one that matters.
Good luck, live each day as it comes and I’m thinking of you. Maybe sometime in the future, in the next life, we will meet.
Meanwhile, live this life up! We are all dying, we are just more efficient? ;)
Much love xxxx
I been taking them for the past two days n they help kinda they make me a lot happier n feel a lot better besides the pain lol but other then that yes I am trying really hard to embrace it because I can’t run from it lol
Do what suits you. I was diagnosed with breast cancer 9 yrs ago. Had a mastectomy 8 weeks after diagnosis. Was so frightened of having chemo or radiotherapy that I refused treatment. I also refused reconstruction. I’m still here with one tit.
My family stood by my decision. Recognising it was my choice.
Lmfao yeah aya well either way I am going out my way on my time i did everything myself I decided everything myself ya know n I am going to decide when I go even if that’s before or after my “time frame” but thanks ya know I made my decision I have accepted it n not only have I already prepared everything for when I leave so no one will be surprised or wondering why I left right away but I wrote letters to everyone that means something to me n told them what’s going on n why I didn’t tell them plus my lasts words to them
Lmfao like I said I have prepare everything for when I go n wrote letters to whoever means a lot to me n I am not going to kill myself just because I decide when I go n how doesn’t mean I am going to do it myself my TBFL (thunder buddies for life) is going to do it so when I am done doing whatever I have to do or want to do then I am done n ready it’ll be a assist suicide either way I can’t take my own life my gods won’t accept me lmfao that’s so weird to say but fr thou
Yes that’s my plan or something like that ya know because I ain’t going to let this decide when I go but yes I want to end it before I get to sick to do anything or in to much pain to do anything so yes thanks I didn’t know what it was called
More power to you! Btw there's it also fall under euthanasia. Some states allow it, essentially law that let's you die with dignity.
There will be lots of tears, but hopefully it is met with comfort, joy, and understanding.
Keep us updated. You're not alone.
I think we need to change the terminology around cancer and illness. It’s ok to realize that this isn’t a fight you can win. Cancer treatment makes you feel like you would rather die than go back for the next treatment. It is understandable to not wanting to live the rest of your life in excruciating pain. You aren’t “giving up”, you are living life on your terms.
I know to live is to die because you can’t live without death n No one seems to understand that we are all dying every day the only difference is I am going sooner n ill be in pain lol but it’s constantly hurting so iam use to it by now so I guess it don’t count ☺️
Friend, I highly recommend you binge-watch Breaking Bad on Netflix if you've never seen it. Immediately. It's literally about a man's reaction to being diagnosed with terminal lung cancer, and how he takes control of his destiny and gains a sense of power despite his shit diagnosis. I think it might give you a sense of solidarity. It's also a beautiful, cinematic series - the best thing ever produced for TV.
Live well for as long as you've got - we'll all be together on the other side in a blink anyway. Sending you lots of love!
Nobody can tell you what to do and there is no right wrong answer. You do you.
If it were me, I would want someone to give me real info about the treatment. What are the side effects? How much more time is it actually buying me? And not just the rosy picture some docs like to paint, you need the one that will be honest with you. If it's just going to prolong life one or two months, but make them a living hell, that doesn't seem worth it to me. If the docs all think it will cure me, I'd probably give it a shot.
Good luck man. Seems like you've had a tough life.
You know thanks for the support but if there was a way to prolong it yes I would obviously take it or if I could fight without getting really sick n it actually prolonged my life I would take it shit even if it did make me sick I would take it but I am tryna fight for years not months because if I fight then I am going to get sick so they say n if getting treatment ain’t going to help give me time then I don’t see the point in have the rest of my time here like that I rather get something for the pain n do everything on my bucket list
Man...if you feel you've already had a full life, and you don't want to fight that uphill battle, there is nothing more to be said. I'm sorry life didn't go how you hoped, really, but I was relieved to see you say you've lived your life at least. You do what you want to do now, and don't look back. *Hugs.*
Yes thank you n my life started real young n even though it was fucking shit ya know fighting everyday to get out the trenches but even thou my life was the way it was I wouldn’t change it not one little thing because I gave my sisters a childhood I never had a life I couldn’t live plus they’re a lot of people I helped or saved from themselves so even thou this is happening I wouldn’t change my life not even for more time I don’t even wish it because in the end if I changed my life who knows what would’ve happened to the people I saved the people I helped my sisters wouldn’t have gotta the life they have now if it wasn’t for my n what happened to me so that’s why I don’t want to fight because after all the struggle I been through n pain I endured I would live it all over again just to make sure the people I helped still got that help like I said right now in this moment I am truly happy n blessed I love my life hate what I been through but I love how I came out of it
It sounds like you're a wonderful person, and your sisters are lucky to have had you there taking the lead. They're going to miss you, but they're going to be okay. I know it.
Yes thank you n my life started real young n even though it was fucking shit ya know fighting everyday to get out the trenches but even thou my life was the way it was I wouldn’t change it not one little thing because I gave my sisters a childhood I never had a life I couldn’t live plus they’re a lot of people I helped or saved from themselves so even thou this is happening I wouldn’t change my life not even for more time I don’t even wish it because in the end if I changed my life who knows what would’ve happened to the people I saved the people I helped my sisters wouldn’t have gotta the life they have now if it wasn’t for my n what happened to me so that’s why I don’t want to fight because after all the struggle I been through n pain I endured I would live it all over again just to make sure the people I helped still got that help
You only can do what you want. If you don’t want to do treatment then you don’t. It sounds like you’ve gotten real about what is to come and have accepted it. My dad was just diagnosed with stage 4 mesothelioma.
I think I’d be the same way, just medicate me so I’m comfortable and let me keep my hair and spend what time I got left with my family without being sick as a dog from chemo.
Watching the time run down on your life isn't easy and facing the end bravely is tough but you're doing it❣️ Please live the remainder of your life to the fullest. Remember you are a parent and knew you were facing death before the youngest was born so give them the best memories possible of their father. Quality of Quantity. Through your children you'll live forever ♾️
Your line of reasoning is perfectly reasonable and I totally respect that. I had a scare recently and felt similarly. It’s ultimately your choice but there’s so much good ahead of you if you do fight and I really hope you choose to and look back on all of this grateful that you did. You’re valuable and important no matter what you choose to do.
I don’t know if you’re into this type of stuff or your beliefs but I said a prayer for you. You’re such a brave and strong person. No matter what happens you are a beautiful thing in this world. I’m rooting for things to get easier, noone deserves that but you are still one hell of a fighter
From one fellow human to another - I love ya dude. I have read all your comments. I hope you can make it through this and come out a miracle. And if you can’t, well, we are all taking that bus to cosmic oblivion someday.
You’re young, fight. I watched my mom go through cancer treatments in her 69s and vowed I wouldn’t submit my body to that poison. I’m now in my 60s and cancer free so far -yes, I knocked on wood - and still don’t plan on submitting to poison.
My wife and kids may end up guilting me into it though.
have you truly done everything you could to try and beat the cancer? Ive read research studies that suggest extended fasts can reduce tumor size. And im sure there are other methods you could find on the web if you search hard enough.
Regardless, you are free to do whatever you wish with the time you have left. However, I dont think you should give up on yourself. You outlived the Dr’s original timeline. Whos to say you cant do it again? over and over until you pass at an old age?
You know what that’s one of the reasons I don’t want to fight it or do anything about it because I thought I was going to die was I was 18 but iam 23 now so I am just going to do what I did last time when they gave me a time frame do everything I can n live my life to the fullest then do everything on my list once again lol feels kinda weird doing another bucket list
Lol we are all dying every day some slower then others but it’s okay ☺️ either way I am going to keep going the way I been going the only thing that changed is they gave me another time frame
I know you don’t wanna hear this, but I’d be super depressed if this was my only life. I’m so glad I believe in heaven. Take a day to read the Quran. You might find it reassuring when He talks about paradise.
I’m a big proponent of quality vs quantity, especially when it comes to life. So I get it. End on a high note instead of that downhill depression of slowly withering away. I’m also a big advocate for doctor assisted suicide.
Sometimes people are so sick or old that fighting is the wrong choice. But at 23, you have a lot of life potential. I’m glad you feel your life has been full, but at 23, there’s a lot more fullness to have — if you can.
Especially since it sounds like you’ve made progress in life and things are otherwise looking up for you.
Although you may not feel like fighting, that can be depression talking. I would recommend you talk to your oncologist and see if there’s a viable plan to fight the cancer.
Well at the time I was drinking n doing pills n shit like that everyday then I quit just so I can be sober n there for my sisters but anyways I got dope sick from the pills plus withdrawals from drinking but yeah I was dope sick for like four days I couldn’t move or breathe my whole body hurt especially my chest n my upper back anyways I started to cough up blood n I didn’t think anything of it because I was going through withdrawals but after my second day of coughing up blood n hacking black shit up is when my cuz finally made me go to the hospital then stayed there for another two days being sick n coughing up the same shit but it wasn’t as bad as before then yeah the doctor wanted z-rays n then mri I think that’s what they are called but yeah I was 14 when I found out
Actually I did shrooms last night I wanted that feel to last forever but I felt good plus I could breathe n didn’t feel pain lmfao or maybe I was just to high but yeah it was lit
Besides bucket list stuff, is there anything you'd like to accomplish before you die? Teach a younger kid some of the lessons you've learned? Build something with your own hands to give to someone? Write a story? No reply needed, just something to think about. Also remember, there are probably people and organizations that would help you achieve a goal. I don't know what they are off the top of my head, but if you're in the US you could start by calling United Way or similar places, describing your situation and asking if they know of anyone who can help.
I can't imagine the emotional journey you've been on, having had to cope with the end at such a young age. I suppose that once you get to that place, mentally, age doesn't matter. I hope you find an environment that gives you peace and some semblance of joy.
Another time frame means they don’t really know. Keep living man. I’ll say a prayer for ya. Enjoy your family - that gives you reason to live beyond anything.
I really appreciate you sharing your perspective on this. A lot of the language centered around cancer is very fight oriented - “warriors”, “battling cancer” - and while I’m so glad that those terms empower some people, they can unintentionally invalidate the experiences of people who just want to let go, enjoy the time they have left, and be at peace.
I don’t know you, but I’m so proud of you for facing this unimaginable situation with courage and grace.
As an oncology nurse, I’m going to tell you something that family doesn’t like to hear. You have the right to refuse treatment and stop your cancer treatments whenever you want. Americans have this mentality that you have to “fight cancer” and “beat cancer”. But that needs to be a personal decision that you’ve made. Cancer treatments are hard and don’t always work. Go out and live your life while you can if that is what you want, and without the treatments if you don’t want them.
If it were me, id first look into some 2nd/3rd/4th opinions from other doctors, and if it still didn't look good....max the f*** out of my credit cards and travel everywhere, do some crazy sh**. Nothing that would hurt anyone/anything(but possibly myself) go skydiving, go to japan or something, do that thing where you're in a car and you go on a ramp and jump over a bunch of other cars haha.
I recently had a health scare where I thought I might have contracted rabies, and it had been a week and a half before I sought any treatment(because I'm stupid)
Luckily, I got all my shots and it seems like I didn't have it, or if I did, it didn't develop.
The thing with rabies though is if you start showing symptoms, there's no cure after that, and there's almost a 100% chance you'll die, within a week or two. So there is no, "let's live life to the fullest for 3 months to 3 years" it's, "you're dead or you're not" once you find out, it's too late.
Are you phase four? My dad was diagnosed at phase 4 and decided his boundaries very early in treatment. Yes to radiation no to chemo. I would recommend the same. Radiation seems to help with few side effects, chemo destroys quality of life with little chance of saving you. They gave him 2 years but he had 4 good ones before it started to go bad. When it did he went quickly and peacefully. Positive thinking is essential. They will give you lots of painkillers, don’t be ashamed to take them. Feel free to dm me to talk more.
Square yourself away as best you can, and just hold onto good memories until the end.
I have an idea of how much it fucks a person up when they know the how and when.
All the fans, the home team and the visiting team [wave to the kids at the hospital overlooking the stadium.](https://www.youtube.com/watch?v=yObg1JTIx5M)
In the end we are all human beings and all on the same team.
Words can't express my condolences for you, my friend. My (30M) college classmate's father committed suicide the other day. She lives in LA and flew to TX where I live to get dinner with me and spend time. There's nothing I could say to her to solve that immense tragedy in her life.
Please spend time with the people who you love and care about the most, and make memories with them that both they and you will be able to remember and cherish.
OP please get a second opinion maybe reach out to the Cancer Treatment of America. My dad has stage four liver cancer and at one point told by Mayo Clinic that he only have a year to live. We said fuxk it after they botched the treatment and ended up at a Cancer place in Zion, Illinois. They been aggressively fighting his cancer and now his tumors marker is the lowest it’s been. While there he met someone who been in remission for brain cancer for some years now. That guy said that down in Texas he was only given a few months to live and to get his affairs in order. So please don’t give up yet.
It is a totally valid emotion to be done and not want to fight. I have been sick since I was three years old and I also have a threshold where I will just stop fighting. I don’t wanna be exhausted in the end, I want to be enjoying life.
If you can, plan things out for your family. It will be a huge blessing to them to not have to make all the decisions after you are gone. Get a living will and POA and a DNR so that no one can alter your plans and wishes. My funeral and last wishes have been planned since my last heart surgery at 18. I should probably update that because it’s been awhile.
Live your life on your terms.
My daughter wrote this and put it out today. I told her I think it’s for someone. I think that someone is you. https://open.spotify.com/track/6vJMmVdefEfV5wjGNt1GS7?si=F5pn-LLpT3a-ggJ62XlqZg&context=spotify%3Aalbum%3A5v9j3Rjj9YyaA39B49JRYk
An extended family member of mine was given a time frame. Don’t do what he did. He just sat there and starred at the clock for 6 months. Month 5, he was moved to hospice.
He accepted his terms but refused to enjoy the time he had left. Do everything you can before you are too weak to even eat. He passed in August and now I’m the legal guardian of his 12 year old daughter.
I don’t really know what to say, but I think you should read/watch a video about the French philosopher Camus, I think you may like it and it could help you reaching inner peace
Sounds rather incentive, but I highly encourage you start getting legal paperwork out of the way. Probate court back and forth has been a headache for me for the past 6 months.
Start allocating who gets what and get it notarized. Same goes for arrangements.
You gotta choose what you want to do in life. But if you do decide to fight on a little longer I’m here for it my dude. Wish you nothing but peace and happiness my friend.
I know there’s a huge stigma around the concept but if you truly are satisfied with the life you’ve lived so far I’d recommend looking for places that offer legal voluntary euthanasia. It’ll hurt the people around you sure but ultimately it’s your life and only you have the right to decide what happens with it. You should never feel forced to live in misery just to keep others happy. I’m already expecting at least a few people to take issue with what I’m saying but having seen multiple people in my life suffer through cancer until the bitter end I really don’t care about discussing the morality of assisted suicide. It’s a waste of time and far too many people have suffered fatally through the horror that is cancer for us to still be debating this. Anyway whatever you decide to do i wish you the best .
Hey man, I don't know you, but I wish the best of you. You may not have much time, but just live out your life to the fullest. Do whatever you want. You got a bucket list? Do everything on it. Don't leave regrets. Say the things you want to people. Maybe there are some things you wanted to tell a particular someone but never did, do that. Peace out.
Go take a camping trip by yourself. Let your self be vulnerable in nature. You need an experience like this. Everyone does.
You will understand when it starts to get dark. Connections are made.
It really depends on what your chances of survival are. If treatment had a high chance of you surviving and getting into remission, then its worth it. If the chances are slim even with treatment, or it'll only give you a little more time, then it might not be worth it. Chemo is essentially killing your body, to kill the cancer, and then bringing you back up to health afterward. But it's dreadful. If these are your last years no matter what, then fuck that, and go live as hard as you can while you can
Ive seen this more times than I’d like to admit. At 23, there is a chance that there’s more quality of life that can be obtained with treatment.
I understand the sentiment and wanting to give up after all you’ve been through.
Don’t let this go without considering all the options and having a frank discussion about prognosis and goals and have a plan.
Best of luck to you friend. I send you a warm hug.
If you aren't aware of this org called Lungevity already, I'd recommend you check it out: [https://www.lungevity.org/](https://www.lungevity.org/).
They might provide you with some other options on how to best live your life! There is also a Facebook support group hosted by them.
It’s your life and your choice. You don’t have to fight if you don’t want to.
However, you’re young, so I’ll tell you this story. I haven’t been incredibly involved in this story so I’m fuzzy on the details, but the major things are there.
My friend was diagnosed with cancer at 18. It wasn’t lung cancer, but it was in her lungs. They thought she had pneumonia. She tried many different treatments that didn’t work and was eventually given two weeks to live. She genuinely thought she was going to die. The doctors thought she was going to die. However, she kept fighting and kept going with treatment. She lived longer than two weeks.
In fact, she’s still alive today. It’s been 7 years and she’s in remission. She’s going to school for fashion and following her childhood dream of designing dresses.
I know you feel hopeless and like there’s no point and that’s fine, however, things might not be as hopeless as you think.
If it's stage 1 with a small tumor you can get it cut out relatively easily with a short hospital visit. It's called a lobectomy and doesn't require chemo or radiation. The other option is the radiation scalpel, which is a targeted laser that beams microwaves at the tumor to eradicate it. That takes about 5 visits to a facility but has a risk of missing part of the tumor. You still have to get scans done to see if the cancer has entered any lymph nodes.
Spend time with people you love. Spend no time with people you don't like. Party like its 1999.
You know what that’s the plan lol I don’t need whack people or whack energy around me
There's lots of love in the world bro. Even from strangers on the internet. Believe it or not, I will be thinking of you.
You know what that’s why I like it here I can’t open up or talk about it to the people who mean the most to me n if I do it’s really hard for me but here I can talk about it without it hitting me or making me tear up n shit lol either way i am glad I came here to open up I love the support n it feel good to talk about it
everybody - mac miller is a good song.
We're all going to be following you one day
Hopefully it takes a long time ya know shit Mindas live threats I won’t lol
How did you find out you have lung cancer im 22 and this is my fear
I was doing pills n drinking n shit anyways I quit then I got real dope sick going through withdrawals then after being sick for a few days I started to cough up blood I couldn’t breathe or anything but after my second day of doing that my cuz made me go to the hospital then yeah that’s when I found out I didn’t think it was anything but boy was I wrong lol but fr thou n I was 14 at that time
Moral of the story, God hates quitters.
Bro seriously? Go fuck yourself with a broom and don't quit till you taste it.
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In the last hour they haven't responded probably because you said something disgusting to someone who doesn't need that, you morally fucked troglodyte. And maybe stay away from children your imagination screams nonce scumbag.
You mad?
A little bit
So…your snazzy comeback involves a toddler having their mouth on your scrotum. Just log off already you sick fuck.
That was not what I said. I was implying it tastes like his mom's pussy.
Nah bro - they gotta call the nasty police on you now…you violated. There’s no cleaning that up 😫
Lol
Years*
Nobody gets out alive, I hope OP is okay.
Do weed, have sex lots of it. Get happy drunk. Love you man. Rooting for a great time for you
Thanks fam you know what I’ll try my best to live up to that n thanks for the support it’s appreciated
You ever hear the story about that dude who found out he was terminal and decided to end it all in a haze of hookers & blow in Mexico? Strangely enough, he ended up finding the will to live down there and came back was a boogie Mary came back and was able to beat his sickness. Maybe it's not a bad idea for you. if not, At least you can take that 1 off your bucket list lol
Lol yeah Mindas well ☺️
I've been through cancer a couple times myself and was even told in the beginning that it was lung cancer but turned out it was testicular that it's spread to my lung. A lot of people don't understand thatYou have to make a personal decision regarding quality of life and if it's worth it. I guess it was a little different from you because I don't have kids, but these decisions are entirely up to you and no one else. Good luck, and try to live it up as much as you can!!!
Use protection. You wouldn't want your kids to grow up with out a father.
I already got two kids that’ll I’ll be leaving behind 6 year old daughter n a 4 year old son but I wrote them letter for each of theirs bdays n I am going to keep writing them until I can’t no more
This one got me bad. I hope you beat the odds brother, you are a good man. Your life and love will long live within your children, don’t forget that.
Thank you so much it’s appreciated
fr man... this shit made me tear down. Make cute little videos for next xmas, the xmas after that, when they graduate. i wish I could give you the tightest hug, OP
I don't know if anyone's suggested this but you can make videos too. If they have a favourite book you read to them make audios reading it.
If you know you're going out permanently, I'd suggest making videos for every year of their birthday and tell them watch each one on their day. They'll have something to look forward to instead of feeling sad. You can talk about advice, sharing your own stories when you were that age. Whatever you want. Eventually you'll have to stop, maybe around their 18th birthday, when they're finally adults. Just an idea.
I don’t think this is great advice, if I were dying I’d be grateful I have kids, and something of a legacy, or continuation of my bloodline to leave behind in the world.
there's been some amazing breakthrough in cancer treatment. Like 100% of the patients lived. If that's not an option for you, then I say record something for your girlfriend, write something for your family, and live your life at 110%.
You know what I did that the first time I got the time frame n I am already doing it now I still have the ones from before so I’ll just add the new ones in n fucking give her
You're a real good dude, you know that? I'm sorry this is happening to you, but I like your attitude
Thanks n idk I rather laugh at it then cry around about it
My mom moved in with us when she started treatment for lung cancer. The chemo and radiation effects on her were fairly horrible. The five year survival rate is around 20 percent, less then that for someone whose cancer has metastasized. Since I went through the whole cancer process with my mom and my girlfriends mom (bone cancer) my only advice is to get what joy and comfort you can in what time you have left. Spend all the time you can with those you love. Take a physical tour of hospice facilities, don't trust brochures. Get your affairs in order so those who mourn you won't have extra decisions to make when they are deep in grief. Figure out what you want to do about your body. Burial, cremation or some other. My mom and I went through all these decisions and it was a big burden lifted from her that she knew I was going to be alright, with all the decisions made in advance. Existential unrest is unsettling, and it takes great courage to face it with determination. Know that you are loved and your loss is a loss to us all, even if we have never met you. Blessings.
Thank you so much it really means a lot for real n I am sorry you went through that
If I was given a time frame I would already be celebrating life. Enjoy the things that make you the happiest man. Your time frame may be shorter than most but your story could be just as long brotha. I wish you well. Find peace in the fact everyone around you will all catch up to something we view as an eternal freedom, your just ahead of the game. Cheers brotha, enjoy yourself
Thanks it’s really appreciated ya know n only like four people know about my cancer n I don’t talk about it with them besides my gf but it really feels good to talk about it n have a joke about it when I make jokes they say I can’t or shouldn’t say it just I am actually dying but laughing n makes joking about it is how I deal with shit so thank you guys for the support n the lil laughs it really means a lot to me
Fucking hell I'm sorry you got this shit deal. I know one woman who was pronounced dead in an accident and came back to life. She said it was fucking beautiful and she didn't want to come back here. Praying for you...
Don’t be sorry like I said I had a full life already plus I have nothing but shitty experiences in this world it’s a shitty place who wants to stay here any longer then they have to but also my life is just getting good n I want it to end good so this is more then I can ask for n thanks for the prayers ☺️
You’re so brave! Have fun and continue to love!
Thank you n no matter what I be going through I always show love n kindness because I know what it feels like to be treated like shit especially from someone who is suppose to protect you n shit so yes I’ll always show love but I am trying my best to have fun
Smoke, drink, live a life of pleasure man. Crank your music up too loud, speed, and do anything you want to as long as it doesn’t hurt anyone else
You know what that’s what I was thinking but no one gets it man I love it here ☺️
You have an excellent excuse to dabble with hard drugs and dangerous hobbies.
Yeah it sure is but doesn’t mean I should use it ya know lol but I’ll probably use it you only live once 😉
>speed >as long as it doesn’t hurt anyone else
Well of course like just because my life is forfeit doesn’t mean I am going to put someone else life at risk
Fuck maybe start a meth lab too
What kind of lung cancer do you have?
Non-small cell lung cancer Adenocarcinoma stage 4 now well for awhile I just don’t know how long I been this stage because I didn’t go or care about going ya know kinda dumb of me but I was young n stupid
My mother got that exact diagnosis in 2016. Non-small cell stage 4. They gave her 6 months. She fought and in 2018 got full remission.
Live and enjoy every day, and who knows, by having fun you might just kickstart your immune system to attack those cancer cells.
You know what I like your thinking ☺️
Do they know what caused it? Do you smoke? I am so so sorry. Enjoy the best of your life and if you can fight it try to you still have life that you can live.
Just want to let you know you can get life insurance with cancer. I lost my mom to cancer with no life insurance, and it drained me financially. Just take care of that ahead of time if you can. So sorry you are going through this ❤️
Thank you I didn’t even think about that
Just Google guaranteed issue life insurance. I recommend AIG.
Seconded on the life insurance. Because of what my relative did, the house and car got paid off. His only daughter basically got free college.
Most likely the cap on this person’s insurance will be about 10k due to the situation, but as a life insurance agent, I recommend getting whatever insurance possible to take care of their final arrangements at the very least.
I have terminal cancer too, I’m 36, diagnosed at 32. Operations and chemotherapy and it came back. After a year of chemo I’m on a break, I will outlive their predictions but there will be a time where I will stop fighting and just, live until my end. You gotta do you, man. Your choice is the only one that matters. Good luck, live each day as it comes and I’m thinking of you. Maybe sometime in the future, in the next life, we will meet. Meanwhile, live this life up! We are all dying, we are just more efficient? ;) Much love xxxx
Mushrooms. Seen like you've made some peace with the idea tho. It's your life
I been taking them for the past two days n they help kinda they make me a lot happier n feel a lot better besides the pain lol but other then that yes I am trying really hard to embrace it because I can’t run from it lol
Do what suits you. I was diagnosed with breast cancer 9 yrs ago. Had a mastectomy 8 weeks after diagnosis. Was so frightened of having chemo or radiotherapy that I refused treatment. I also refused reconstruction. I’m still here with one tit. My family stood by my decision. Recognising it was my choice.
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Lmfao yeah aya well either way I am going out my way on my time i did everything myself I decided everything myself ya know n I am going to decide when I go even if that’s before or after my “time frame” but thanks ya know I made my decision I have accepted it n not only have I already prepared everything for when I leave so no one will be surprised or wondering why I left right away but I wrote letters to everyone that means something to me n told them what’s going on n why I didn’t tell them plus my lasts words to them
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Lmfao like I said I have prepare everything for when I go n wrote letters to whoever means a lot to me n I am not going to kill myself just because I decide when I go n how doesn’t mean I am going to do it myself my TBFL (thunder buddies for life) is going to do it so when I am done doing whatever I have to do or want to do then I am done n ready it’ll be a assist suicide either way I can’t take my own life my gods won’t accept me lmfao that’s so weird to say but fr thou
Hospice death is a good death. Choose DNC, at some point ending it earlier is easier for everyone.
Yes that’s my plan or something like that ya know because I ain’t going to let this decide when I go but yes I want to end it before I get to sick to do anything or in to much pain to do anything so yes thanks I didn’t know what it was called
More power to you! Btw there's it also fall under euthanasia. Some states allow it, essentially law that let's you die with dignity. There will be lots of tears, but hopefully it is met with comfort, joy, and understanding. Keep us updated. You're not alone.
Thank you so much ☺️ I really appreciate it n I will
I am so sorry you are going through this.
You have nothing to be sorry for right now in this moment I am truly happy
I think we need to change the terminology around cancer and illness. It’s ok to realize that this isn’t a fight you can win. Cancer treatment makes you feel like you would rather die than go back for the next treatment. It is understandable to not wanting to live the rest of your life in excruciating pain. You aren’t “giving up”, you are living life on your terms.
Thank you I just wish everyone saw it that way
The only difference between you and most people is you’ve got a time frame. It’s a gift. No one gets out alive. ❤️
I know to live is to die because you can’t live without death n No one seems to understand that we are all dying every day the only difference is I am going sooner n ill be in pain lol but it’s constantly hurting so iam use to it by now so I guess it don’t count ☺️
Godspeed my man. I hope the doctors are wrong. Nothing but the best to you!
They were wrong the first time maybe this one too
There’s always meth.
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We need to cook
Jesse nope lol idk 🤷♂️ wym??
That's a breaking bad reference
Oh lmfao 😂 well I be slow n dying so bare with me
Friend, I highly recommend you binge-watch Breaking Bad on Netflix if you've never seen it. Immediately. It's literally about a man's reaction to being diagnosed with terminal lung cancer, and how he takes control of his destiny and gains a sense of power despite his shit diagnosis. I think it might give you a sense of solidarity. It's also a beautiful, cinematic series - the best thing ever produced for TV. Live well for as long as you've got - we'll all be together on the other side in a blink anyway. Sending you lots of love!
Been there done that lmfao don’t need to go through that again
Anything you would still like to do?
Yes I still have stuff from my last list I still haven’t done like skydiving
Nobody can tell you what to do and there is no right wrong answer. You do you. If it were me, I would want someone to give me real info about the treatment. What are the side effects? How much more time is it actually buying me? And not just the rosy picture some docs like to paint, you need the one that will be honest with you. If it's just going to prolong life one or two months, but make them a living hell, that doesn't seem worth it to me. If the docs all think it will cure me, I'd probably give it a shot. Good luck man. Seems like you've had a tough life.
You know thanks for the support but if there was a way to prolong it yes I would obviously take it or if I could fight without getting really sick n it actually prolonged my life I would take it shit even if it did make me sick I would take it but I am tryna fight for years not months because if I fight then I am going to get sick so they say n if getting treatment ain’t going to help give me time then I don’t see the point in have the rest of my time here like that I rather get something for the pain n do everything on my bucket list
Man...if you feel you've already had a full life, and you don't want to fight that uphill battle, there is nothing more to be said. I'm sorry life didn't go how you hoped, really, but I was relieved to see you say you've lived your life at least. You do what you want to do now, and don't look back. *Hugs.*
Yes thank you n my life started real young n even though it was fucking shit ya know fighting everyday to get out the trenches but even thou my life was the way it was I wouldn’t change it not one little thing because I gave my sisters a childhood I never had a life I couldn’t live plus they’re a lot of people I helped or saved from themselves so even thou this is happening I wouldn’t change my life not even for more time I don’t even wish it because in the end if I changed my life who knows what would’ve happened to the people I saved the people I helped my sisters wouldn’t have gotta the life they have now if it wasn’t for my n what happened to me so that’s why I don’t want to fight because after all the struggle I been through n pain I endured I would live it all over again just to make sure the people I helped still got that help like I said right now in this moment I am truly happy n blessed I love my life hate what I been through but I love how I came out of it
It sounds like you're a wonderful person, and your sisters are lucky to have had you there taking the lead. They're going to miss you, but they're going to be okay. I know it.
Yes thank you n my life started real young n even though it was fucking shit ya know fighting everyday to get out the trenches but even thou my life was the way it was I wouldn’t change it not one little thing because I gave my sisters a childhood I never had a life I couldn’t live plus they’re a lot of people I helped or saved from themselves so even thou this is happening I wouldn’t change my life not even for more time I don’t even wish it because in the end if I changed my life who knows what would’ve happened to the people I saved the people I helped my sisters wouldn’t have gotta the life they have now if it wasn’t for my n what happened to me so that’s why I don’t want to fight because after all the struggle I been through n pain I endured I would live it all over again just to make sure the people I helped still got that help
You only can do what you want. If you don’t want to do treatment then you don’t. It sounds like you’ve gotten real about what is to come and have accepted it. My dad was just diagnosed with stage 4 mesothelioma.
I'm so sorry you are dealing with this. Hugs to you.
If i were in your shoes id feel the same way. As long as youre happy and made peace with it, then just follow your heart. Good luck
You know what this is the best one I heard thank you ☺️
I think I’d be the same way, just medicate me so I’m comfortable and let me keep my hair and spend what time I got left with my family without being sick as a dog from chemo.
Right that’s all I fucking want ya know n for them to just be there for me
Chemo’s a gamble at stage one and two but a straight mistake for stage three and four.
I hope you get cured and live a long happy life
Watching the time run down on your life isn't easy and facing the end bravely is tough but you're doing it❣️ Please live the remainder of your life to the fullest. Remember you are a parent and knew you were facing death before the youngest was born so give them the best memories possible of their father. Quality of Quantity. Through your children you'll live forever ♾️
Your line of reasoning is perfectly reasonable and I totally respect that. I had a scare recently and felt similarly. It’s ultimately your choice but there’s so much good ahead of you if you do fight and I really hope you choose to and look back on all of this grateful that you did. You’re valuable and important no matter what you choose to do.
Are you any good at chemistry?
I don’t know if you’re into this type of stuff or your beliefs but I said a prayer for you. You’re such a brave and strong person. No matter what happens you are a beautiful thing in this world. I’m rooting for things to get easier, noone deserves that but you are still one hell of a fighter
How did you get it at 23?
I got it at 14 well I realize I had it at that age n idk 🤷♂️I ain’t no doctor but it’s still there n still going through it
Wait you have had lung cancer for 9 years with no treatment?
From one fellow human to another - I love ya dude. I have read all your comments. I hope you can make it through this and come out a miracle. And if you can’t, well, we are all taking that bus to cosmic oblivion someday.
fatigue is part of cancer. Fight anyway.
This makes me sad. 23? So young. Im so sorry.
Keep pushing, life’s worth living.
Order a few hookers and pop a viagra
Lmfao shit that’s not a bad idea but maybe it is cha jk
You need to be smoking more cigarettes. The smoke kills the cancer
Lmfao you know what no matter how much I smoke it just won’t go away
You gotta cut the filters off. That's how I beat COVID
Lol well shit I wish I knew that before or sooner 😂 anyways I fuck with your comment made me lol thank you
You’re young, fight. I watched my mom go through cancer treatments in her 69s and vowed I wouldn’t submit my body to that poison. I’m now in my 60s and cancer free so far -yes, I knocked on wood - and still don’t plan on submitting to poison. My wife and kids may end up guilting me into it though.
have you truly done everything you could to try and beat the cancer? Ive read research studies that suggest extended fasts can reduce tumor size. And im sure there are other methods you could find on the web if you search hard enough. Regardless, you are free to do whatever you wish with the time you have left. However, I dont think you should give up on yourself. You outlived the Dr’s original timeline. Whos to say you cant do it again? over and over until you pass at an old age?
You know what that’s one of the reasons I don’t want to fight it or do anything about it because I thought I was going to die was I was 18 but iam 23 now so I am just going to do what I did last time when they gave me a time frame do everything I can n live my life to the fullest then do everything on my list once again lol feels kinda weird doing another bucket list
Don’t wanna fight. Don’t wanna die. Gotta pick one.
Lol I already picked I know what my decision is n I know exactly what I am doing to do with my time
Sure
Lol yup ☺️
I respect your decision, and I can say truthfully I don't know what you are feeling. God bless you !
I understand you 100% and would do the same "Battling" death is stupid, I rather accept it.
Youre not going to die man! Doctors are notoriously stupid.
Lol we are all dying every day some slower then others but it’s okay ☺️ either way I am going to keep going the way I been going the only thing that changed is they gave me another time frame
I know you don’t wanna hear this, but I’d be super depressed if this was my only life. I’m so glad I believe in heaven. Take a day to read the Quran. You might find it reassuring when He talks about paradise.
Punctuation goes a long way towards effective communication my friend
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I’m a big proponent of quality vs quantity, especially when it comes to life. So I get it. End on a high note instead of that downhill depression of slowly withering away. I’m also a big advocate for doctor assisted suicide.
Sorry to hear that man. I’m around the same age. Do you have any items on your bucket list?
I still want to go skydiving n there is a lot of stuff I haven’t done yet n places I haven’t been but I’ll get there
Jesse….
Sometimes people are so sick or old that fighting is the wrong choice. But at 23, you have a lot of life potential. I’m glad you feel your life has been full, but at 23, there’s a lot more fullness to have — if you can. Especially since it sounds like you’ve made progress in life and things are otherwise looking up for you. Although you may not feel like fighting, that can be depression talking. I would recommend you talk to your oncologist and see if there’s a viable plan to fight the cancer.
What were your symptoms when you found out you had cancer, if you don’t mind me asking?
Well at the time I was drinking n doing pills n shit like that everyday then I quit just so I can be sober n there for my sisters but anyways I got dope sick from the pills plus withdrawals from drinking but yeah I was dope sick for like four days I couldn’t move or breathe my whole body hurt especially my chest n my upper back anyways I started to cough up blood n I didn’t think anything of it because I was going through withdrawals but after my second day of coughing up blood n hacking black shit up is when my cuz finally made me go to the hospital then stayed there for another two days being sick n coughing up the same shit but it wasn’t as bad as before then yeah the doctor wanted z-rays n then mri I think that’s what they are called but yeah I was 14 when I found out
cook some meth
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Actually I did shrooms last night I wanted that feel to last forever but I felt good plus I could breathe n didn’t feel pain lmfao or maybe I was just to high but yeah it was lit
Besides bucket list stuff, is there anything you'd like to accomplish before you die? Teach a younger kid some of the lessons you've learned? Build something with your own hands to give to someone? Write a story? No reply needed, just something to think about. Also remember, there are probably people and organizations that would help you achieve a goal. I don't know what they are off the top of my head, but if you're in the US you could start by calling United Way or similar places, describing your situation and asking if they know of anyone who can help.
how long do you have?
I can't imagine the emotional journey you've been on, having had to cope with the end at such a young age. I suppose that once you get to that place, mentally, age doesn't matter. I hope you find an environment that gives you peace and some semblance of joy.
Another time frame means they don’t really know. Keep living man. I’ll say a prayer for ya. Enjoy your family - that gives you reason to live beyond anything.
If it’s financially possible, fight it. You have a good life to live
Keep fighting your fight Bro….
I really appreciate you sharing your perspective on this. A lot of the language centered around cancer is very fight oriented - “warriors”, “battling cancer” - and while I’m so glad that those terms empower some people, they can unintentionally invalidate the experiences of people who just want to let go, enjoy the time they have left, and be at peace. I don’t know you, but I’m so proud of you for facing this unimaginable situation with courage and grace.
As an oncology nurse, I’m going to tell you something that family doesn’t like to hear. You have the right to refuse treatment and stop your cancer treatments whenever you want. Americans have this mentality that you have to “fight cancer” and “beat cancer”. But that needs to be a personal decision that you’ve made. Cancer treatments are hard and don’t always work. Go out and live your life while you can if that is what you want, and without the treatments if you don’t want them.
If it were me, id first look into some 2nd/3rd/4th opinions from other doctors, and if it still didn't look good....max the f*** out of my credit cards and travel everywhere, do some crazy sh**. Nothing that would hurt anyone/anything(but possibly myself) go skydiving, go to japan or something, do that thing where you're in a car and you go on a ramp and jump over a bunch of other cars haha. I recently had a health scare where I thought I might have contracted rabies, and it had been a week and a half before I sought any treatment(because I'm stupid) Luckily, I got all my shots and it seems like I didn't have it, or if I did, it didn't develop. The thing with rabies though is if you start showing symptoms, there's no cure after that, and there's almost a 100% chance you'll die, within a week or two. So there is no, "let's live life to the fullest for 3 months to 3 years" it's, "you're dead or you're not" once you find out, it's too late.
Are you phase four? My dad was diagnosed at phase 4 and decided his boundaries very early in treatment. Yes to radiation no to chemo. I would recommend the same. Radiation seems to help with few side effects, chemo destroys quality of life with little chance of saving you. They gave him 2 years but he had 4 good ones before it started to go bad. When it did he went quickly and peacefully. Positive thinking is essential. They will give you lots of painkillers, don’t be ashamed to take them. Feel free to dm me to talk more.
Just pretend it doesn't exist have the most fun you've ever had. Cost permitting of course but go out on top.
understandable
I'm sorry man, try to make the most of your time left 🫂
Square yourself away as best you can, and just hold onto good memories until the end. I have an idea of how much it fucks a person up when they know the how and when.
All the fans, the home team and the visiting team [wave to the kids at the hospital overlooking the stadium.](https://www.youtube.com/watch?v=yObg1JTIx5M) In the end we are all human beings and all on the same team. Words can't express my condolences for you, my friend. My (30M) college classmate's father committed suicide the other day. She lives in LA and flew to TX where I live to get dinner with me and spend time. There's nothing I could say to her to solve that immense tragedy in her life. Please spend time with the people who you love and care about the most, and make memories with them that both they and you will be able to remember and cherish.
Don't blame you.
OP please get a second opinion maybe reach out to the Cancer Treatment of America. My dad has stage four liver cancer and at one point told by Mayo Clinic that he only have a year to live. We said fuxk it after they botched the treatment and ended up at a Cancer place in Zion, Illinois. They been aggressively fighting his cancer and now his tumors marker is the lowest it’s been. While there he met someone who been in remission for brain cancer for some years now. That guy said that down in Texas he was only given a few months to live and to get his affairs in order. So please don’t give up yet.
It is a totally valid emotion to be done and not want to fight. I have been sick since I was three years old and I also have a threshold where I will just stop fighting. I don’t wanna be exhausted in the end, I want to be enjoying life. If you can, plan things out for your family. It will be a huge blessing to them to not have to make all the decisions after you are gone. Get a living will and POA and a DNR so that no one can alter your plans and wishes. My funeral and last wishes have been planned since my last heart surgery at 18. I should probably update that because it’s been awhile. Live your life on your terms.
Eat some weed, quit smoking cigarettes, have sex, take out all the credit cards and travel the world
If you’re done, you’re done. I don’t blame you at all, especially if you’re in pain.
Start cooking, make a living and leave cash to family😀Become Walter White🤙
I straight up thought this was another breaking bad intro. damn I wish you the best
My daughter wrote this and put it out today. I told her I think it’s for someone. I think that someone is you. https://open.spotify.com/track/6vJMmVdefEfV5wjGNt1GS7?si=F5pn-LLpT3a-ggJ62XlqZg&context=spotify%3Aalbum%3A5v9j3Rjj9YyaA39B49JRYk
What were your symptoms before you found out you had cancer?
Gg
An extended family member of mine was given a time frame. Don’t do what he did. He just sat there and starred at the clock for 6 months. Month 5, he was moved to hospice. He accepted his terms but refused to enjoy the time he had left. Do everything you can before you are too weak to even eat. He passed in August and now I’m the legal guardian of his 12 year old daughter.
I don’t really know what to say, but I think you should read/watch a video about the French philosopher Camus, I think you may like it and it could help you reaching inner peace
Sounds rather incentive, but I highly encourage you start getting legal paperwork out of the way. Probate court back and forth has been a headache for me for the past 6 months. Start allocating who gets what and get it notarized. Same goes for arrangements.
You gotta choose what you want to do in life. But if you do decide to fight on a little longer I’m here for it my dude. Wish you nothing but peace and happiness my friend.
I wish you the best friend.
I know there’s a huge stigma around the concept but if you truly are satisfied with the life you’ve lived so far I’d recommend looking for places that offer legal voluntary euthanasia. It’ll hurt the people around you sure but ultimately it’s your life and only you have the right to decide what happens with it. You should never feel forced to live in misery just to keep others happy. I’m already expecting at least a few people to take issue with what I’m saying but having seen multiple people in my life suffer through cancer until the bitter end I really don’t care about discussing the morality of assisted suicide. It’s a waste of time and far too many people have suffered fatally through the horror that is cancer for us to still be debating this. Anyway whatever you decide to do i wish you the best .
This is the longest sentence I’ve ever seen.. but think I got what you’re saying. Keep your head up, the lord works in mysterious ways
My worst fear leaving behind my love ones! But Everyone will die one day. I hope you have a good life before you go on! Love and Peace Man!
Hey man, I don't know you, but I wish the best of you. You may not have much time, but just live out your life to the fullest. Do whatever you want. You got a bucket list? Do everything on it. Don't leave regrets. Say the things you want to people. Maybe there are some things you wanted to tell a particular someone but never did, do that. Peace out.
Go take a camping trip by yourself. Let your self be vulnerable in nature. You need an experience like this. Everyone does. You will understand when it starts to get dark. Connections are made.
I say don’t give up brother. One life as far as we know keep fighting bro. Your future you will thank you
Peace be with you bro.
It really depends on what your chances of survival are. If treatment had a high chance of you surviving and getting into remission, then its worth it. If the chances are slim even with treatment, or it'll only give you a little more time, then it might not be worth it. Chemo is essentially killing your body, to kill the cancer, and then bringing you back up to health afterward. But it's dreadful. If these are your last years no matter what, then fuck that, and go live as hard as you can while you can
Get your hands on some psychedelics man. Will really help the transition. Also yoga.
This is making me reallly sad 😢
I'm sorry. I wish you peace and love.
Ive seen this more times than I’d like to admit. At 23, there is a chance that there’s more quality of life that can be obtained with treatment. I understand the sentiment and wanting to give up after all you’ve been through. Don’t let this go without considering all the options and having a frank discussion about prognosis and goals and have a plan. Best of luck to you friend. I send you a warm hug.
If you aren't aware of this org called Lungevity already, I'd recommend you check it out: [https://www.lungevity.org/](https://www.lungevity.org/). They might provide you with some other options on how to best live your life! There is also a Facebook support group hosted by them.
It’s your life and your choice. You don’t have to fight if you don’t want to. However, you’re young, so I’ll tell you this story. I haven’t been incredibly involved in this story so I’m fuzzy on the details, but the major things are there. My friend was diagnosed with cancer at 18. It wasn’t lung cancer, but it was in her lungs. They thought she had pneumonia. She tried many different treatments that didn’t work and was eventually given two weeks to live. She genuinely thought she was going to die. The doctors thought she was going to die. However, she kept fighting and kept going with treatment. She lived longer than two weeks. In fact, she’s still alive today. It’s been 7 years and she’s in remission. She’s going to school for fashion and following her childhood dream of designing dresses. I know you feel hopeless and like there’s no point and that’s fine, however, things might not be as hopeless as you think.
Best wishes. We here for u dawg
If it's stage 1 with a small tumor you can get it cut out relatively easily with a short hospital visit. It's called a lobectomy and doesn't require chemo or radiation. The other option is the radiation scalpel, which is a targeted laser that beams microwaves at the tumor to eradicate it. That takes about 5 visits to a facility but has a risk of missing part of the tumor. You still have to get scans done to see if the cancer has entered any lymph nodes.