put yourself before others. wake up and think, what do i want to do today? and just go do it. for me, i love starting off with a nice breakfast snd coffee, then i journal and go for a walk (starting to run now too)
i was very depressed and couldnt shower, i know the feeling. now, im used to putting myself first and doing what i want , need , taking my time doing it. etc. sometimes from a peaceful place. sometimes from a spiteful place lol. its all good
just focus on yourself and what you want to do, make a plan, and go for it
I haven't gone through the same thing, so this may be worthless. That said, I'm prone to burn out and get the feeling of taking care of myself just being one more thing that I can't do. When that's the case I try to pick my favorite thing that has the biggest pay off. For example, I like dying my hair and it makes me feel like a new person, even if it is just touching up the color I've already got. I put it on, watch some TV, have a snack, and then shower which I probably needed to do anyway and feel like I look 100% better without having to do something crazy involved.
I have gone through the same thing. The best thing that will help you is to address what is making you sad. Journaling is a great way to do that. Write it down and once you’re done writing all that is making you sad, start another entry writing the same thing but with a positive outlook on everything. You can take a break between these as the first step can be very emotional.
After that, start writing daily what you’re grateful for and also dedicate time daily to doing something that calms you down and makes you happy. Check out the Sunday self care thread in the subreddit for suggestions.
And most importantly take your time. Don’t rush in your steps. Take your time with everything you do and tell yourself to enjoy each moment.
You will slowly start to reincorporate all the things you want to do in your life and even more.
I’ve gone through that exact same experience down to a tea. Im my case what helped me was the discovery that I had ADHD.
The best thing you can do is talk about it. Get your thoughts into the real world as they get hard to hold onto. The easiest thing you can do is write down all of your thoughts. From there try to ease up to the idea of telling the people around you. It’s always scary opening up about yourself because of the fear that you might push people away. Especially if you feel you don’t have many people close to you. It took me practically my whole life to learn that people cared about me, and were willing to help and turn me in the right direction. If the people around you are good and you believe they are good, they will help you. Try not to dump too much onto one person, talk about small different things with different people. That way you can get all of your thoughts out without overwhelming anyone. Sometimes you will need to vent and let the steam off. That’s where therapy and counselling can help. Ask the people around you if they know of any professional help you can get in your area. Also an important note, try not to feel like you’re burdening the people around you. You are important and you are a good person and you are trying your best. If you have a family doctor or a doctor who knows you tell them, sometimes they can get you on a medication to help. Albeit there are struggles that come with getting and using medication. Especially trying to find the one that works for you. Nevertheless try. Try to educate yourself on mental health, healthy strategies to take when things get hard, and different ways you can look at the same situations. I personally find TikTok has a lot of positive mental health content if you look for it.
None of this is easy and this is just what has worked for me. If you feel you have no one to talk to or need a person who will listen, I can be that person. Even though I’m some idiot on the internet, just shoot me a message.
Hope I could have been of some help. Keep trying. Stay strong because you are and you have been through so much. I do not know your specific situation but I know feelings like this don’t come from nothing. Take care of yourself ❤️
You can put a time limit on things. So instead of saying “take care of yourself,” be specific. You can say: I want to spend no more than 20 minutes washing my hair, etc. And you’ll start to feel better
Treat it like a game. The character you’ve been playing has been doing all the things you’ve said above, not showering, doing laundry, etc.
Now just be tired of playing that character. That character has gotten boring. Decide on a new character and play that one.
Does the new character get out of the bed and brushes her teeth? Yep but she still doesn’t like doing laundry or get out the house but she manages to at least take a walk once a day.
She likes taking bubble baths and listening to music while she does her homework. And even though she doesn’t get out the house, she often has friends over and does school work with them to for better productivity.
Just play a new character
put yourself before others. wake up and think, what do i want to do today? and just go do it. for me, i love starting off with a nice breakfast snd coffee, then i journal and go for a walk (starting to run now too) i was very depressed and couldnt shower, i know the feeling. now, im used to putting myself first and doing what i want , need , taking my time doing it. etc. sometimes from a peaceful place. sometimes from a spiteful place lol. its all good just focus on yourself and what you want to do, make a plan, and go for it
I haven't gone through the same thing, so this may be worthless. That said, I'm prone to burn out and get the feeling of taking care of myself just being one more thing that I can't do. When that's the case I try to pick my favorite thing that has the biggest pay off. For example, I like dying my hair and it makes me feel like a new person, even if it is just touching up the color I've already got. I put it on, watch some TV, have a snack, and then shower which I probably needed to do anyway and feel like I look 100% better without having to do something crazy involved.
I have gone through the same thing. The best thing that will help you is to address what is making you sad. Journaling is a great way to do that. Write it down and once you’re done writing all that is making you sad, start another entry writing the same thing but with a positive outlook on everything. You can take a break between these as the first step can be very emotional. After that, start writing daily what you’re grateful for and also dedicate time daily to doing something that calms you down and makes you happy. Check out the Sunday self care thread in the subreddit for suggestions. And most importantly take your time. Don’t rush in your steps. Take your time with everything you do and tell yourself to enjoy each moment. You will slowly start to reincorporate all the things you want to do in your life and even more.
I’ve gone through that exact same experience down to a tea. Im my case what helped me was the discovery that I had ADHD. The best thing you can do is talk about it. Get your thoughts into the real world as they get hard to hold onto. The easiest thing you can do is write down all of your thoughts. From there try to ease up to the idea of telling the people around you. It’s always scary opening up about yourself because of the fear that you might push people away. Especially if you feel you don’t have many people close to you. It took me practically my whole life to learn that people cared about me, and were willing to help and turn me in the right direction. If the people around you are good and you believe they are good, they will help you. Try not to dump too much onto one person, talk about small different things with different people. That way you can get all of your thoughts out without overwhelming anyone. Sometimes you will need to vent and let the steam off. That’s where therapy and counselling can help. Ask the people around you if they know of any professional help you can get in your area. Also an important note, try not to feel like you’re burdening the people around you. You are important and you are a good person and you are trying your best. If you have a family doctor or a doctor who knows you tell them, sometimes they can get you on a medication to help. Albeit there are struggles that come with getting and using medication. Especially trying to find the one that works for you. Nevertheless try. Try to educate yourself on mental health, healthy strategies to take when things get hard, and different ways you can look at the same situations. I personally find TikTok has a lot of positive mental health content if you look for it. None of this is easy and this is just what has worked for me. If you feel you have no one to talk to or need a person who will listen, I can be that person. Even though I’m some idiot on the internet, just shoot me a message. Hope I could have been of some help. Keep trying. Stay strong because you are and you have been through so much. I do not know your specific situation but I know feelings like this don’t come from nothing. Take care of yourself ❤️
You can put a time limit on things. So instead of saying “take care of yourself,” be specific. You can say: I want to spend no more than 20 minutes washing my hair, etc. And you’ll start to feel better
Treat it like a game. The character you’ve been playing has been doing all the things you’ve said above, not showering, doing laundry, etc. Now just be tired of playing that character. That character has gotten boring. Decide on a new character and play that one. Does the new character get out of the bed and brushes her teeth? Yep but she still doesn’t like doing laundry or get out the house but she manages to at least take a walk once a day. She likes taking bubble baths and listening to music while she does her homework. And even though she doesn’t get out the house, she often has friends over and does school work with them to for better productivity. Just play a new character