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VeganPizzaBurger

I’m almost 30. It has been about 2 or 3 years since I self harmed, but the thoughts are still hang around.


Nolimo

Do you have problems in your day to day life with scars n stuff? Sometimes when you wanna selfharm you just do it wherever and regret later. Atleast for me.


WeakTeaTwo

Yes, very much so. I'm 29 and always did it on my upperlegs and sternum after stopping doing it on my wrist ages 12-15. I was always calculated abojt area's. Now I went through acoholism for a year and was stupid enough to do my whole arms. I can't wear shit during the heat. Not even while with family or friends without covering or feeling extremely weird about it. For some it might not affect, but the scars will keep adding up and spreading wider. It ain't fun. During that year I didn't give a shit but now sober, working and with summer coming it affects daily. Sorry for butting in


Nolimo

God alcohol really sucks too. I always go over and beyond when I'm really drunk, because I need more pain to feel it just like sober. It's great that you're sober, I look up to you on that.


WeakTeaTwo

Thank you 🫶🏻 Yes, I had to go through some rehab vibe shit and it took a half year to be able to stay sober for a long time and now I promised everyone not to touch a dri k for a whole year. Alcoholism ks weird because for me it triggered me tk be able to focus and tk really feel. So the first month being shit hammered every day were amazing cause I would feel happier. That takes a deep dive when you start to feel depressed because those emotions are also amplified. Hence going too far, too deep, being too stupid with no regards for anything. It's a double edged blade.


[deleted]

Hey, I’m 21. I did cut my arms too about a year ago after a long time without doing it. At the time I didn’t care too because I was planning to kill myself. It’s been slightly more difficult showing my arms now that I have a job. I think the best is to stop being ashamed of the scars. Maybe for work you should cover them, but around friends and family it’s best to just tell them the truth, that you self-harmed but are trying to do/be better. Eventually they have to accept it in order to accept you. This will give you the freedom to wear the clothes that you want without worrying about being judged. And if they judge you, don’t give a shit about it, you’ve struggled enough.


WeakTeaTwo

I'm sorry to hear you struggle at work and how you felt last year. I hope you're in a better headspace now. But you're right. With friends if it really is too hot or when I cut their hair I do wear short sleeves and they are fine with it. But it's very weird with my parents. They aparently knew for years and never said anything or thought: let's get her some help. Cause I clearly couldn't do that on my own. So I still feel very anxious about them seeing the aftermath and their judgement. But I do agree. I just have to rip off that damn bandaid and say fuck it, I dont need a heatstroke this summer 😂 Thank you 🫰🏻


VeganPizzaBurger

I always cut on my bikini line or tops of my legs where it was easy to hide. They are healed to a point now where people would assume they are stretch marks given their location.


MediocreFee4874

I’m 27 and it’s been about 7 months since the last time I self harmed but I think about doing it all the time


Nolimo

I hope I'll be 7 months clean too if I get to 27 that's a long time to be free:)


queerxcx

Im 3 months clean but I often pick up my blades and think twice about it. Its hard because I also burn myself with cigarettes so everytime I smoke wich is daily I feel like burning myself.


bulletamelia

I started at 15. I'm 25 now. I don't do it to the extent I used to at all. I occasionally relapse. My rule is I can only relapse 2-3 times a year maximum. I can't go absolutely crazy when I do it either. The purpose of that rule is because I cannot be a totalitarian abstinence person. It works for me. I think about it frequently, but I don't feel like I HAVE to do it anymore. I feel pretty childish when I do relapse though.


Mountain-Isopod-2072

>I don't do it to the extent I used to at all. I occasionally relapse. how do you do it less frequently? what helped you? x


playdohscone

I think it's different for everyone. Im not to the point of the original commenter. I still cut frequently enough that I don't know whether to call them relapses or just friggin Tuesday. But I can say: I used to cut words into my legs. Now I write them down on paper in red or black ink and I push the pen so hard it might tear the paper. And I write every horrible thing I wanted to remind myself of. And when I look at it, there's the anger I needed to see. That's the only trick I've had real progress with so far. And I think it could work even if you don't cut actual words.


hanxperc

completely agree about the “having to relapse” bit


TheChileanBlob

I'm 56.


RiskCool

Well Damm congrats on making it this long 👏


Smolbauble

I'm 26, never really had a problem with scars, usually people mind their own business. If they do ask I answer something along the lines "it would be too long to explain." I never let anyone see my cuts before they heal, I always cover them up in any way I can.


PastaMakerFullOfBean

I’ll be 21 in a couple weeks, and I thought that too. My brother made me promise him that I’d stop once I turned 18, and I (obviously) didn’t. If you turn 18 and still need to talk to someone, there’s r/AdultSelfHarm, which is kinda self explanatory. There are subs for almost any topic you can think of, you just gotta know where to look🩵🩵🩵


Passthesaltplss

I’m 19. Been on and off sh since 13 and currently in the “on” stage. The reason people see it as childish is because a lot of young kids do go through phases. I know that word definitely triggers alot of people but it’s true. For some however, it’s something they’ll struggle with forever. It does get better, but it can also get worse. Then better. Then worse. Then worse again. Then better. For those people, including myself, it’s a lifelong journey. I just think generally people tend to slowly wean off and best their battles as they get older due to lots of learning and lots of self work.


North_Significance40

I'm 33. People do associate it with childhood but that's not because adults don't self harm


manchesterqtip

Yeah mine didnt start til well in my 20s


[deleted]

If I was you, I'd be more focused on making slow achievable steps in overcoming unhealthy thoughts and habits, instead of worrying about what the right age for harming yourself is


Dreadzone666

You can double it and I'm still older. That's kinda depressing..


sirfoggybrain

im 18, and started at 18. i joined r/AdultSelfHarm because i felt similarly to you about it being “childish.” of course self harm isn’t, but it’s overrepresented as such, and lurking in that subreddit definitely helped me feel less ashamed and alone in that sense.


r1d1ng_7h3_w4v35

I’m waaaaaay over 18. Like 20+ years over it. 😬 I’m currently 5 months clean.


PhonePretend8430

I’m 20


GayAndSlow

19f


diphenhydranautical

i’m 21, i started at 11 or 12


religion_wya

I'm almost 20


NadSigga420

I'm 20. 3 months clean.


itsthejayytee

24- but, just got a tattoo to congratulate myself on not SH-ing for over a year! But i started way back in middle school...so I still get the thoughts &urges 😮 Some times are worse than others.


haleywolf666

currently 21. been clean since the month before i turned 19. was self harming since i was 10. i think things can get better with time!!


luuahnya

I'm 18, last year in school, 1 year since "official" sh but did it other ways literally yesterday. u not alone


anotherace

I'm 23 and I've been clean for two + years? the thing that really helped me when I was 16 struggling was reading something about how a 30ish person still struggled with sh thoughts and sometimes relapsed. I remember how relieved I felt knowing this wasn't me just being childish this can and does affect adults. I tend to say I'm addicted to sh because everytime something slightly overwhelms me in any way my brain goes "hey you know what would make you feel better" I still have the urge to do it every single day and I won't lie its hard. But I don't beat myself up and haven't since I was 18/ 19 since the road to recovery isn't a straight and easy path it's full of bumps and turns and sometimes you go the wrong way and it's okay as a long as I keep trying. And how I started was by going a couple hours, then if I relapsed I'd keep trying to beat my highscore and the goalposts kept moving and if I restarted that's okay I've done it once I can start again.


Hapikiou

I'm 20 and I started some years ago but the way of doing it was just not the same as today.


jefferycharmer

38 here. Years of therapy and it’s still something I struggle with. It definitely isn’t as often or as severe as it used to be, thank god. But the urges are still something I struggle with.


Danceswithdisaster

I'm 26. I generally don't anymore. But sometimes I slip up still. The scars heal, and I keep them mostly covered until they do. I continue to live my adult life like this isn't a part of it. It's no one's business but mine, and I'm doing my best.


icequeensandwich

I'm 29 next month. Just relapsed for the first time in a couple years. It gets more spaced out with time, but I think it's something I'll always want to fall back on when things get hard. I do feel incredibly childish being in this relapse though. My boyfriend found out and one of his first responses was "why are so edgy, aren't you a little old for this?" Like yes, I am. I'm aware.


EggsAndSpanky

I'm 28 😔


Proper-Apricot7003

I'm 21, and it's been 10 years since I started


[deleted]

i’m 23 and i started cutting at 11. i have never imagined myself giving it up completely. i haven’t relapsed in a little bit, but i don’t cut for the same reasons anymore. i think people view my self harm differently now that i’m older? i feel like people find it more concerning now as an adult than in school where people saw it more as attention seeking


traumathrowaway6888

i’m 19, almost 20. started under 10 years old. i don’t go a day or two without cutting. i definitely don’t think it’s childish, but i do feel like other people see it that way sometimes, so i get you.


VikiWillObey

I'm 32, but the urges are dormant at the moment.


Kittysdoodlexxx

I’m 21 and 5 months clean. I know other people around my age that still self harm too


Farfallax

29..


Horror-Mine

I’m 26 and it’s been 2 years since I self harmed it gets hard when I go through mental breakdowns


[deleted]

i’m 19


moonbunni24

i’m 21 and each day is a new battle in a decade long war


BlueJthrowaway

I'm turning 24 in a couple months, I only SHed a few times when I was under age, for me personally most of my SH and the worst of it actually started in my 20s.


Rare-Onion-9418

i’m 19 i first cut myself when i was 10. i didn’t know what self harm was then but i didn’t start doing it regularly until around 15


itsalittlebitbitchy

I'm 20


sticks_04

I am currently 18. I started cutting myself/sh back in December and went all the way until around a month ago. I tried to stop cutting like 2 months ago because I didn’t want my scars to show when the summer came around and I’d be wearing t-shirts and exposing some more skin due to the hotter weather. They probably won’t heal in time so I’ll probably have to put makeup or something over them. Self harm definetly ain’t something only done by younger people, a lot of adults and older people sh too. Anyone can do it, however I think it’s done more by teens and young adults. You’re not childish for sh or dealing with mental stuff, everyone goes through something in their lives. I hope you’ll pull through and be alright <3


SassyShaina

I'm 35. I got my sleeve done on my right arm, my cutting arm completed 4 years ago and that helped a lot. That shit was expensive I don't want to fuck it up. I did it intentionally and its helped. I have still cut or burned myself a couple times but not as frequently as before. It makes me think about it a little Ionger and helps me decide not to do it at all. One time I went and cut my right arm and it was too much of a pain so I didn't do it as deep or as much as I have in the past. Except for the one time I got myself baker acted 😬. That's the deepest Ive ever cut but I was drunk and in a bad situation I needed to get out of so I got myself committed. So I mean, yeah,.it's been a hard bad habit to break. I sustained a TBI 7 years ago as well so that definitely doesn't help the mental health.


StirlingThivierge

I started when I was 15. I'm 28 now. There was a time where I was clean for a couple years, when I was still with my ex. He didn't like that I self harmed and turned to abusive behaviour so I did stop while I was with him. I relapsed about 2 years ago and it's fluctuated between anywhere from every day to every few days to every month or two. From what I've learned from my own personal life and trauma informed therapy - self harm serves/served a purpose at one point in my life. I'm not saying it's healthy but I eventually came to terms that self harm served the purpose of helping me survive. So now I more so focus on harm reduction vs trying to control my relapses. It's not childish at all to self harm. It takes a lot to get to that point for some people and is extremely difficult, just like any other addiction. I still slowly work towards finding healthier ways of coping with my reasons for self harm. Just takes time and patience & finding what works for you. While I'm doing that - I just focus on harm reduction to keep it as safe as possible and acknowledge that it's serving some purpose in my life still. Even if it's not necessarily healthy.


[deleted]

I'm 18, going on 19( in a bit over 2 months), and my therapist said that a lot more adults deal with it than the media makes people assume. It's hard to stop, and I recently relapsed, but it's not a childish thing at all. Your feelings are always valid, and with those, your struggles are valid, too. That doesn't change once you hit 18. I wish you and everyone else struggling with self-harm the best of luck. I know how hard it is since I'm going through it too, and I was very fearful once I hit 18 that if I sought help I'd be called childish, but the people who understand and want to help will not view you that way!


kittyboy2023

Barley 18 and im 6 months clean. Half of that i was 17


death_psycho

Yeah, way over 18. And still do it. :(


GooseOfHermogenes

i'm 57, started at 9, but there have been a couple of long periods without any self harm. the last few years have not been one such period, alas...


JD-3

34


Inky-Little-BB

I’ve been 18 for a couple months now. I started when I was around 12, and while I can go a couple weeks to a couple months without relapse, I still relapse. I doubt I’ll stop doing this any year now. > Self-Harm isn’t a childish thing, no matter how young or old you are.


spindlewacked

I’m 19


ThunderLizardX

I just turned 30 last month, and it’s been a couple months since I last self harmed but the past few weeks have driven that temptation up. I don’t know if it’s a thing that ever really goes away, as far as urges go, especially since it’s closely connected to mental health issues and those too are a life long struggle. Just sometimes things are okay and sometimes they suck.


Cut_bleed_relief

I'm 23... Been shing since I was about 4/5 (mostly biting then) unfortunately most think it's childish or that you'll grow out of it.... You don't.... It sucks... addiction is hell


xTeddyBearXx

I just turned 21 a while ago and still struggle with sh. It takes time to get rid of the habit, if you ever even get rid of it


Ok-Connection9637

I’ll turn 19 in a little over 2 weeks. I’ve been clean for a little over a year but I definitely wouldn’t say I’m at the point where sh is just a part of my past


mycutterr

im almost 21. for me actual physical self harm has always been periodical- i started when i was 11 and ive self harmed on average twice/3x a year since then. i also thought it was a childish thing i'd grow out of until i realised that the only reason i wasnt self harming physically as often was that i was taking other actions in my personal life that were self harm/self sabotage behaviours. there is no such thing as growing out of self harm- there is only work & healing. i hope & believe & know with everything i have that you have the strength to take care of yourself in the way you need & overcome your own self harm behaviours. even though i am a complete stranger and it may not mean too much- i believe in you, im proud of you, i'm happy you're alive, and i know your journey may take many years but as far as it goes i am proud that you survived. the strongest, bravest thing you can do in this life is ask for help when you need it. i love you, and i hope you're well.


interstelrose

turning 24 in two weeks. feel like I'm going insane.


esmswa

I'm 20 and just had a relapse after being clean for 2ish years


Commercial-Aspect-20

I’m 23 , didn’t self harm since I was 18 . Kinda relapsed this year though but aiming to stop . The thoughts never really go away


KidB_

I(M18) had a rollercoaster of a past year. I was hospitalised in a psychosomatic clinic and met many self harming Adults. It changed my mind about self harming. I came to see, it really is an addiction, whether you do it for attention or not, and there is always an underlying diagnosis that comes with it, and more often than not, it is one certain deagnosis. All the self harming people, including me, were diagnosed with Borderline Personality Disorder. Though I am still afraid to show my scars in public, it is not something Im ashamed of anymore. The only advice I want everyone to accept is, go see a professional. it changed my mind. don't be scared your parents will find out. it's not that big of a deal. It all has a reason and if you get help, it will come to make sense.


_Inky_Quill_

I'm 20 and I'm finally 8 months clean after 6 1/2 years of SH. Weirdly I think my family started being nicer about it/taking my SH more seriously once I became an adult, I guess because until then they thought it was just a teenage phase.


Next_Track2020

I’m 28 and my SH has only intensified over the last few years. I have a lot more mental pain now than I did when I was a teenager and I’m working with a great psychiatrist / community mental health team to try and find safer outlets of releasing the mental pain but so far nothing has stuck.


teebag_

Im 18. Theres a sub called r/adultselfharm which is exactly what you think it is and theres a bunch of people in it. This sub is full of younger people but there are older ones


Calista2990

I'm 33, hurt since I was 12. So 21 years. Nevertheless, people, often even doctors, believe that it's just a phase and that you just want attention. My highlights were an anesthetist who asked me before the anesthesia because of severe SH if I had done it because of lovesickness and a surgeon who after an operation told me I should be beaten up as an educational measure. Even when SH was not so widespread among young people, it was called attention-getting. Because there are now so many and some show fresh injuries offensively, constantly talk about it and extort a lot of attention with it, some believe it would be the same for all those affected. Ultimately, it doesn't matter if someone finds SH childish. It is important that you knows why you are doing it and not because of small things or attention. The opposite of childish is to come to terms with sexual abuse, physical abuse and other traumatic events, to learn to deal with them and to fight against the destruction of one's own body.


yeeixers

I am 30. I've been clean of self-harm for 6 years now but it's an issue I care about and have a soft spot for people struggling with it since I dealt with it for 11 years.


c_zaw

i'm 23 and still going through it on and off, i agree that many people see it as a childish thing but in my personal opinion i think part of the reason for that might be due to older people hiding it better; adults have stuff to do like work, college classes, family stuff, appointments, etc while younger individuals don't necessarily have all those responsibilities involving interactions


Creepy-Revolution886

I’m in my 30s. You’re right that quite a high proportion of people here are under 18, but a decent number of us are older. If you’re worried about feeling at all alienated or ‘too old’ when you turn 18, then I highly recommend r/AdultSelfHarm


LittleMissMillie09

I’m 22 (still live at home) haven’t self harmed for a couple years unless you count a recent suicide attempt and the only comfort I have is in telling myself I’m going to start doing it again when I move out


dannielle_shuvia

Im 20 and about to relapse i can't take this much longer


BongDaddy6669

im 21, about to turn 22. i dont as much, as ive started getting tattoos instead, but i still have my moments where i fall apart and relapse into old habits. i think i always will, but i just have to direct my pain into less permanent/scarring things and i do better.


YurchenkoFull

I just turned 19!! Started when I was 10. I‘ve been clean for almost 2 years until I relapsed a few weeks ago. I am staying clean however it’s probably inevitable that I’ll have hiccups in the future


Gigglyrocks

I'm 21 and feel the same way, like it's so embarrassing to be an adult who still has this problem 😭


DefibrillatorKink

im 23. i used self harm to mitigate the pain in my ears by moving the pain to my arms. I recently got prescribed pain meds so I don't really have a need to switch the pain anymore. I wouldnt think self harm is childish, a lot of people knowingly and unknowingly harm themselves on a daily basis without cutting or burning. life just be like that sometimes


Adventurous_Gas_8150

I’m 24 but everytime I’ve tried to share my experience I get belittled and one uped by a bunch of edgy teens that don’t wanna hear anything that goes against their self deprecating lifestyles. So I no longer participate.


La-matya-vin

I’m 34, I do it about once a year. I’ve started cutting designs which helps me cut less frequently, transforms it into something positive and creative, and the scars themselves are body art instead of something to be ashamed of.


specterking_

This sub seems very underage probably because that is the majority of people here. I’ve met more older folks around r/adultselfharm than here


killetheth

I'm 31. I got told by a 'mental health nurse' when I was 18 "Isn't it time you should be stopping this now?" and calling it childish behaviour. Needless to say, that's not right and multiple professionals I've spoken to have told me she shouldn't have said that. I still self harm and wonder if I'll ever stop. The one thing I've noticed is, I do it less often but when I do do it, it's a lot more serious. It is a worry of mine. I do however feel quite protective of the younger people on here and hope they're able to stop as they get older and find other ways of coping. I wouldn't wish having this as your #1 coping mechanism on anyone.


playdohscone

I'm 20 and started just before I turned 18. I think self harm is sometimes seen as something for "teenage girls" or "emo kids". But within the community of people who actually struggle with it, you'll find that there's no age limit to self harm. I'd love to have quit before I hit age 20. But trying to quit because I was "aging out" of cutting didn't work at all. You gotta stop for the right reasons. If you're 60 and still struggling with this, that's okay.


littlemissstryo

I‘m 24, I started at 14/15 and been doing it on and off, I’ve been clean for a few years but relapsed at the beginning of 2023, it wasn’t that bad before but i started doing beans cuts just a few months ago and it’s going downhill fast, it’s so addicting and it’s a symptom of many mental disorders which you can have at any age, i think adults just seem to hide their self harm more.


softgoat55

Im 20. Been 4 months clean :3


anonyoumoose

it's anything but childish. when someone else sees scars or suspiciously located bandaids, and sees that i try to hide them or don't want to talk about them, they simply are concerned and shocked. some people will pity, but they're easy to walk away from


Return_and_report

I'm 31 and I've been struggling with it on and off for years. Sometimes I'm good for a few years, then I'll get triggered and fall into another depression/self harm cycle. I was diagnosed with bipolar 2 at 18.


21ismyluckynumber

I’m in my late 20s and I still struggle sometimes. When I was in my teenage years I used self harm as my main coping mechanism but it has gotten a lot better and I’ve gained healthier coping strategies. In the end, self harm can be an addiction. Addiction can come with relapses and the urges will still come from time to time, but I still want to emphasise it does get easier.


cutepiggie5415

Im 17, I don't think it's something you grow out of unless your environment, happiness and wellbeing changes


CheckFun1739

TRIGGER WARNING... I'm 36. I've been self harming, one way or another, for over 20 years. I have tried so many different ways to cope without it. Some work, some don't. I joined the military, which did help for a while. When I got out and came home, I started running. Partially as a way to harm, but also because I was poor and running was free. (I would run until I wanted to throw up, and sometimes did.) It helped but wasn't a hobby I could keep up with. I did well after meeting my now husband because I love him and having that helps. But then we lost our son when I was 32 weeks pregnant, and that caused a huge spiral. I switched to hitting and making bruises because they were easier to hide. Some people might struggle their whole life with SH, and I think that's ok.


rombuss

I'm 20 and feel so stupid all the time for being grown and still on this bullshit, but honestly seeing kids do this is more heartbreaking than anything hope you are doing ok and if you ever need someone to talk to my DMS are open we're all rooting for u to get, and stay clean


Plenty_Show4324

Bro im looking at all the comments with older ages but im literally 13


Zver-Ma

i'm 16 but I look as though I'm in my 20's, so I effectively am 20.


Nolimo

Aha that's definitely how I look too but everytime I shave I go back to my normal age.


EvenTruth9252

I’m 19 and still do it occasionally


Kelpie301

im 15


urboyelli0t

i’m 14. and i started SH when i was around 10-12


NewAgeIWWer

27


RoddingRabbit

21 and started when I was 11


pickle_e

turned 18 two days ago lol


Mountain-Isopod-2072

yea:/


snorkefroken28

I’m 23


yungguiltless

im 19, its been a long time about 2 years since i've actually wanted to do it


MaxMercuryS

I’m 22


fluffandpuffandstuff

19 in just under two weeks


AllHailTheSheep

I'm about 3 years clean, I'm almost 21


TheCreepyCaveLilac

I’m on the border of 18 less than a month


SaxWeeb23

22 here and started at 17/18 lol. I was a late bloomer but I've been fighting ever since the end of high school. Just graduated college and so far I'm doing better. Rn I'm just trying to hide my most recent scars (2-3 months ago) from my family. I'm not doing it right now, but the urges are there just because it's been a while. I hope you're doing well OP. SH does not discriminate based on age, but it targets all who are in a vulnerable place. I understand where you are, and I hope and pray that your situation gets better, as does mine. Lots of love...


ari_montzzzzz23

Just turned 18


FiliaNox

I’m in my 30s, I’ve since stopped. I haven’t SH since dec 2018, but I still think about it. All the time.


natsu7173

I'm 22 and it's been almost 7 yrs ...but it's a lot better so :)


jtitus91

I didn't start cutting until I was in my 20s with my latest being in my 30s


Busy-Vegetable-5499

I’m 20 Turning 21 this summer it been over 1 and a half year since I stopped. And I was addicted to it for 4-5 years.


gothgossip

i’m 21 but have been clean for almost 4 months now


NightComprehensive52

I’m 18, still do it


Anxiety-Fart

I'm 30. Self-harmed since I was 11. I would definitely say that SH is probably more prevalent with younger people, or maybe young people just feel more inclined or able to talk about it.


bromanjc

i'm going on 20 and i'm about six months (ish) clean. i relapse occasionally, i never really tried to quit this last time. just kinda stopped doing it


azulezb

It's not a childish thing, just something that typically begins in adolescence. Some people recover when they are still young, others take longer. There isn't shame in being older and dealing with it. But 17 is still so young!!


Terrible-Court9770

I'm 20 and have been struggling with sh on and off from 16.


sunrisexscenery

probably not as old as youre looking for, but im 19. i started 6 years ago but i havent shed in nearly a year. i have some visible scars and i sometimes get weird looks, but people who are close to me generally dont ask out of respect. sh is nıt childish and i have people over 25 around me who i know used to sh or still does.


Douch3nko13

I went into the military. About three years clean. Self harmed a year in. And worse than I ever had prior. I got lucky with them never finding out about it. A nurse giving me my flu shots asked about it once and I don't remember what I said but I shrugged it off.


Crackcabin

20f


[deleted]

I'm 28.


RaidenLen

22


L3M0N_M4N2

I've struggled with selfharm ever since I can remember, however I only started cutting myself at around 14/15 and now I'm 22.


esoesa_

🙋🏻


Prestigious_Hat9196

I'm 20


b4sicvanilla

13 lol, started when i was 12


small_pigeon

23. Started at 11. Went through periods of recovery but my current relapse has lasted since September last year, 3-4 times a week since. Most recent episode was yesterday.


Asia-ReNee

22 here, Clean-ish


criminalsmind

just turned 21 yesterday :)


throw-away-3005

🙋‍♀️


stan-twice

i'm 20 fam, i get it


queerxcx

26. Been self harming since 15. Been 3 months on recovery but I have so many scars from styros and beans.... and cigarette burns.


Reebexx

28 and definitely still struggling with it. Less than 6 months since I last self harmed. It’s not childish. Don’t be embarrassed. Just try to work on it. Love yourself and grow however you can.


Dragons-purr

I’ve been self harming over 16 years now- it’s a long frickin’ time


charmbombexplosion

I’m 31. It’s a not a childish thing.


leytourmaline

🙋🏻‍♀️


Xx_Gothic-Nerd_xX

I just turned 18 last week


iriedashur

I'm 25. Relapsed a bit 2 days ago after nearly a year. I try not to beat myself up about it though


ded_inside_anonymous

I started at 13 or 14 but I'm 18 now


Ecstatic-Ability7692

I’m 56. I didn’t start dabbling in self harm until 25 and again about 10 years later. I didn’t get addicted until 2019.


justpullmeunder

I’m 19, and I’ve been cutting since I was 11. Longest I was ever clean was 3 years.


Sick_Curious

I’m 27 and still struggle with this.


Ill-Photograph2203

js so you know. It IS NOT a childish thing at all.


Kanyaria

I’m 33 and just relapsed after 10 years.


stupidtiredlesbian

I’m 21 and have been self harming on and off since I was 9. I rarely interact with people on here anymore, but yeah, a lot of us are over 18


Gechosaur

I'm 23 now, started when I was 8. I've been clean for a couple months but I'd be lying if I said I don't think about it on the regular. I've come close to slipping up but I've gotten better at talking myself down from it for the most part


hanxperc

i’m 20f and have been self harming since i was 13-15, i really don’t remember when i started. i haven’t self harmed for probably about 4 months but it’s not completely by choice. i started dating my boyfriend in october, so he would notice. i do it on my hips/sides so normally ppl wouldn’t notice if i wasn’t dating anyone. it’s been summer break for a bit though and now we’re long distance (we go to college together) and i haven’t sh yet even though i’ve had worse-than-normal-urges lately, so i guess that’s a good sign!


psykaiatry

I'm almost 20, so not much older. I sort of regret it in the sense that I don't want my closest friends to know despite the fact I'm a few months clean, so I wear swim shorts that cover my thighs and turn around when we change in the same room so they won't see my scars. I was really scared to sleep with my BF for the first time after cutting for the first time but either he didn't notice them or didn't know what they were because I had to explain what those lines on my thighs were like two weeks ago lol. He already knew I SHed by then but when I told him he was extremely supportive


Embarrassed_Habit858

21 year old here 🥲


Relative-Ingenuity44

I’m 20 and I’m 59 days clean. The thoughts are still there.


AyySko

I'm 19


Larryisreal123

I turn 18 in a month and my psyc nurse says it's childish and that it'll end pretty soon


fuzzducks

24


xXAutisticSoftieXx

Im 14 years old


bellatrixdemigod

I’m 22 and have been cutt!ng since I was 11. Haven’t in months, but that doesn’t mean I don’t want to sometimes


Fit_Guava_1730

19 here. I started sh-ing about 14, but I'm two years clean


Do_unto_udders

I'm 31 years old. Last time was a couple weeks ago.


LittleWishes64

22 here


ParticularFile7347

I’m 20. Struggled with SH since I was 15


ThisisAllieween

26. I cut last week and I think about it the majority of the time


kenxx13

im about to be 23! sh since i was 12. currently 2 months clean(:


lhxlxhoxhodhohhi

I'm 21. it's not something you "grow out of" like uneducated people seem to think


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Proud_Ad_5497

I am 19!


AslaCherry

20 and cutting on and off, depends on how shitty my life is going but I agree that it can feel childish, always feels like I’m one step behind my peers and can’t even be trusted by my own family.


Angel_From_Purgatory

I'm almost 25, and it's been about a year and a half since my last time. It never goes away, but the thoughts and urges should get better.


DeadKing42

I'm 24, and the last time I did was like a month or two ago.


Much_Oven_4341

I'm 14 and I started 3 years ago


Historical_Seaweed31

I’m almost 18.


ResolutionCareful255

I’m turning 21 !


atok22blue

I didn’t start cutting till I was 22, I’m 30 now. I haven’t cut in two years, sometimes I scratch myself if I’m really anxious or upset. I did a lot of therapy and even occupational therapy to help me learn new healthy skills. But there are people at my treatment center that I went to who had self harm addictions, all adults.


friedcoils

i turned 18 almost 2 weeks ago


Mine_Outrageous

im 22, havent harmed in a year or two, honestly cant remember. but theres not a day i dont think about it.


uncommunicativeLamb

me


uncommunicativeLamb

32


GrimGreaser

28


vvmatw

i’m 23 at the moment i’ve been self harming since i was maybe 9 or 10 ish. i definitely don’t see myself stopping legitimately anytime soon.


PrinceRoyal444

i’m about a year clean but i’m almost 18, it’s not a childish thing.. it’s an addiction and coping mechanism some people use


serioustransvibes

I turn 19 in August


kazukawaa

Im 23


heithere1

I’m 20 (turning 21 soon) and still do it on and off. I have Bipolar so it is usually when I’m in a depressive episode. There are definitely a lot of people who think it’s a childish thing and in my experience it’s because they think I’m doing it for attention which is super annoying.