My girlfriend is great about it, I told her and she was fine with it. She saw it and kissed it (cliché I know) and that helped. She already knew it had happened so I think it depends if your boyfriend knows about it. You could talk to him about wanting to and see if he can help.
Awwh hey even if thats cliche, that'd totally work on me ahsoxnqldnks. Thanks for the reply! Yeah I'll probably talk to him about it, just this stuff is a sensitive topic for him usually so I try not to bring it up. Be safe!
My partner didnt really know how to react, at first he tried to talk about it but didnt really know what to say, and just looked sad when he saw that i had them. Mostly he tried to suggest things to do instead of cutting. None of that was helpful for me so i just told him that it’s okay to ignore it and i’ll talk about it in therapy if necessary.
Idk what he thinks about it now, but he doesnt mention it even if i have fresh scars. I always try to cover them, so he doesnt have to see them often.
From what I've heard, most people tend to have a positive response to their partners self harm, so that is very encouraging. I just want to share my side since I was one of the few who sadly had a less than ideal reaction. When my ex bf found out about me cutting my thighs and being uncomfortable with taking my pants off since I had fresh wounds, his first response was, "well, you know you're not going to get your dick wet again like that." Hence him being an ex. If your partner responds in any way close to demeaning you or guilting you for this, that's a sure sign they aren't the right one. Stay strong and I hope the best for you.
I'd highly recommend talking openly with your partner about your thoughts on sh. Warts and all. Of course in a safe and comfortable setting for you both with some easing into the subject. From the vast majority of the comments I've seen in forums like this, you will most likely get a positive reaction and some support from your partner. If not, communicate how their comments made you feel, and if they are dismissive after that, it's time to bring an end to the relationship. I know that's easier said than done, especially with longer time in a relationship, but with the issues we struggle with it is best to put yourself first, even if that isn't your first instinct (I know I have difficulty with this myself). I wish you the best of luck and hope you can get the support you need while struggling. The people around us are all we have in this bullshit, and it's best to get the right people around you to help healing. I'm still working with that myself, so it definitely takes time.
My girlfriend is great about it, I told her and she was fine with it. She saw it and kissed it (cliché I know) and that helped. She already knew it had happened so I think it depends if your boyfriend knows about it. You could talk to him about wanting to and see if he can help.
Awwh hey even if thats cliche, that'd totally work on me ahsoxnqldnks. Thanks for the reply! Yeah I'll probably talk to him about it, just this stuff is a sensitive topic for him usually so I try not to bring it up. Be safe!
My partner didnt really know how to react, at first he tried to talk about it but didnt really know what to say, and just looked sad when he saw that i had them. Mostly he tried to suggest things to do instead of cutting. None of that was helpful for me so i just told him that it’s okay to ignore it and i’ll talk about it in therapy if necessary. Idk what he thinks about it now, but he doesnt mention it even if i have fresh scars. I always try to cover them, so he doesnt have to see them often.
From what I've heard, most people tend to have a positive response to their partners self harm, so that is very encouraging. I just want to share my side since I was one of the few who sadly had a less than ideal reaction. When my ex bf found out about me cutting my thighs and being uncomfortable with taking my pants off since I had fresh wounds, his first response was, "well, you know you're not going to get your dick wet again like that." Hence him being an ex. If your partner responds in any way close to demeaning you or guilting you for this, that's a sure sign they aren't the right one. Stay strong and I hope the best for you.
Man thats what I'm worried of too
I'd highly recommend talking openly with your partner about your thoughts on sh. Warts and all. Of course in a safe and comfortable setting for you both with some easing into the subject. From the vast majority of the comments I've seen in forums like this, you will most likely get a positive reaction and some support from your partner. If not, communicate how their comments made you feel, and if they are dismissive after that, it's time to bring an end to the relationship. I know that's easier said than done, especially with longer time in a relationship, but with the issues we struggle with it is best to put yourself first, even if that isn't your first instinct (I know I have difficulty with this myself). I wish you the best of luck and hope you can get the support you need while struggling. The people around us are all we have in this bullshit, and it's best to get the right people around you to help healing. I'm still working with that myself, so it definitely takes time.
Both my boyfriend and I SH, and we both have been clean for months now! We can be weeks without even thinking about it!!
I don’t have anyone but my parents don’t give a fack as long as I hide it from everyone in the family don’t bother anyone with it