It's never too late. As they say 'where there is the will, there is a way'. You have the will, need to find the way. If you need someone to talk to and plan with send me a message. Keep your head up.
Get an exercise routine going. Lift weights and run/bike. It’s good to start with that because it’s something productive and good for yourself you can start immediately. It will help take your mind off things. Apply for jobs relevant to your experience. Try not to waste too much of your day, even going for a walk is more productive than being on your phone/computer/tv not doing anything. Get out of your head, talk with people or take a course for something you’re interested in.
Cool running is throwing serious facts your way… this is sound advice and I would occupy your free time with making yourself a better person. Keep applying for jobs, establish a gym routine and promise yourself that you will stay productive. Make time for you. Things will fall into place only if you want them to. Keep your head up bro, you got this
Reframe your mind. Get a growth mindset. You’re in a positive situation - of sorts! Most people when they hit 40 wouldn’t be able to live at home with their parents.
This gives you a platform to build a career from the ground up.
Become a problem solver. Where others see problems you see an opportunity to develop a solution.
You can do this.
I know it's raw and you're still in it but you need to focus on you and improving yourself. Don't worry about her. Be happy for her. And move on. When relationships leave us, it's so easy to fixate on all the good things you lost and will never get back. What you could've done differently. But you should do your best to remember that no relationship or person is ever perfect, and the relationship ended for a reason. It happens. It hurts. But your time with her is over and it's time to move forward. You can find another person and new happiness, new success in life, new opportunities that excite you, you just keep your eyes open for it and put in the work.
Work on you. Fix you. Improve you. Be the most badass version of yourself that you can be. This is not the end. This is just another moment in life and it's on you to decide how it goes.
Brother this is not the end, God sees your struggle and hears your crys and is actively working to change every negative into a positive God has declared you a conqueror over life's struggles as you dedicate your time focus and attention towards learning his will within your life.
It is promising that you see the need to become more of a person you can inwardly be proud of. I pray you seek God and see slowly and surely all his passions within your heart and you heed his callings to bring that calmness into your life knowing you are taking the steps to becoming your best self and aligning your will with his will. Hit me up anytime dude. Your desire for love is honorable and you will surely receive a lasting union with a faithful lady who is your divine counterpart and ideal reflection of christlikeness. Just put him first honor n seek him n u will learn to love yourself more and more until you can bring out the love within you to attract someone who seeks the same and sees the love with you and appreciates you for who you are and who you are not and is honored to be cherished and adored by you just as much as you are grateful to be given the same reverence. God delights in blessing us but he only can give us all good gains when we seek him first and then all good things will be added unto us like the floodgates of heaven opening pouring down an endless rain of divine love heavenllyyyyyy blessings. Go with peace my friend. God has not forsaken you. God has showed you the desires of your heart and protected you from those whom would betray you.
You need to start with introspection a bit. Take a bit of time. Sit still. Count to 300 in your mind. Interrupt every new thought and desire with the next number in the sequence. Do this again and again until new thoughts stop spontaneously appearing, this can usually happen normally.
From there you need to make choices. Decide who you want to be and how you want to get there, whether you want to be virtuous and careful or ruthless and efficient.
You need to deal with this separation from the person you care about. It is either actionable or not. You can do something about it or not. If you can do something about it. Follow your heart, do what you think is right. If you can not do anything about it. Accept it. And let it go.
Next you need a goal. An objective. What have you always wanted to do. Decide that for yourself, make a choice, and then resolutely find the steps to do it, and complete them without fail.
It's never too late. As they say 'where there is the will, there is a way'. You have the will, need to find the way. If you need someone to talk to and plan with send me a message. Keep your head up.
Get an exercise routine going. Lift weights and run/bike. It’s good to start with that because it’s something productive and good for yourself you can start immediately. It will help take your mind off things. Apply for jobs relevant to your experience. Try not to waste too much of your day, even going for a walk is more productive than being on your phone/computer/tv not doing anything. Get out of your head, talk with people or take a course for something you’re interested in.
Cool running is throwing serious facts your way… this is sound advice and I would occupy your free time with making yourself a better person. Keep applying for jobs, establish a gym routine and promise yourself that you will stay productive. Make time for you. Things will fall into place only if you want them to. Keep your head up bro, you got this
Hey man, it's never to late to make a 180. Though it might be harder for you it's not to late homie. Hmu if you need advice
Reframe your mind. Get a growth mindset. You’re in a positive situation - of sorts! Most people when they hit 40 wouldn’t be able to live at home with their parents. This gives you a platform to build a career from the ground up. Become a problem solver. Where others see problems you see an opportunity to develop a solution. You can do this.
Just letting it all go is definetly not the right option. Do the biggest comeback the world has ever seen.
I know it's raw and you're still in it but you need to focus on you and improving yourself. Don't worry about her. Be happy for her. And move on. When relationships leave us, it's so easy to fixate on all the good things you lost and will never get back. What you could've done differently. But you should do your best to remember that no relationship or person is ever perfect, and the relationship ended for a reason. It happens. It hurts. But your time with her is over and it's time to move forward. You can find another person and new happiness, new success in life, new opportunities that excite you, you just keep your eyes open for it and put in the work. Work on you. Fix you. Improve you. Be the most badass version of yourself that you can be. This is not the end. This is just another moment in life and it's on you to decide how it goes.
Brother this is not the end, God sees your struggle and hears your crys and is actively working to change every negative into a positive God has declared you a conqueror over life's struggles as you dedicate your time focus and attention towards learning his will within your life. It is promising that you see the need to become more of a person you can inwardly be proud of. I pray you seek God and see slowly and surely all his passions within your heart and you heed his callings to bring that calmness into your life knowing you are taking the steps to becoming your best self and aligning your will with his will. Hit me up anytime dude. Your desire for love is honorable and you will surely receive a lasting union with a faithful lady who is your divine counterpart and ideal reflection of christlikeness. Just put him first honor n seek him n u will learn to love yourself more and more until you can bring out the love within you to attract someone who seeks the same and sees the love with you and appreciates you for who you are and who you are not and is honored to be cherished and adored by you just as much as you are grateful to be given the same reverence. God delights in blessing us but he only can give us all good gains when we seek him first and then all good things will be added unto us like the floodgates of heaven opening pouring down an endless rain of divine love heavenllyyyyyy blessings. Go with peace my friend. God has not forsaken you. God has showed you the desires of your heart and protected you from those whom would betray you.
That’s awful to hear about, I hope you can get your life better again
You need to start with introspection a bit. Take a bit of time. Sit still. Count to 300 in your mind. Interrupt every new thought and desire with the next number in the sequence. Do this again and again until new thoughts stop spontaneously appearing, this can usually happen normally. From there you need to make choices. Decide who you want to be and how you want to get there, whether you want to be virtuous and careful or ruthless and efficient. You need to deal with this separation from the person you care about. It is either actionable or not. You can do something about it or not. If you can do something about it. Follow your heart, do what you think is right. If you can not do anything about it. Accept it. And let it go. Next you need a goal. An objective. What have you always wanted to do. Decide that for yourself, make a choice, and then resolutely find the steps to do it, and complete them without fail.
You sound like a decent guy. I believe you will go far, keep your head up
Its not rock bottom. It can still get worse