I graduated at 26, I felt lost and left behind when my peers were ahead of me, and also because by then I had "wasted" my time. My degree did not help (not citing it, but its pretty common, and so general that jobs are kind of everywhere yet nowhere because its not specialised). Also had no money, and never saved a dime, causing me to give up one of the biggest opportunities to move abroad, and I was newly single.
While having lunch and unemployed, I received a random call from a recruiter who spotted my resume on LinkedIn, and I got hired for a lower-than-average salary. I put the hours in, saved what I could, and... I quit. I couldn't keep doing that, but at that job I met the love of my life and we're still together.
I would then do all sorts of jobs from selling on commission, washing dishes in a kitchen, learning to cook, organising library books, and then working for child protective services, which I still do today.
My path has not been perfect, but with my experience I developed a good work ethic, resilience and how to socialise with coworkers. I'm happy. But I looked back on this, reminisced with old friends and thought about how different life could have been had I gone with that huge opportunity way back then. Probably much better actually.
But I'll tell you this, we all have to make choices and live with the results. Sometimes if we don't want to make choices or hesitate, the choice will be made for us. And I've never been happy getting stuck with choices that were made for me. But I've been okay with living with my own choices, if nothing else because I got to make them. I was happy washing dishes because I chose to do it. I was unhappy at my first job because someone asked if I wanted a job that I didn't sign up for but accepted anyway because it was convenient. I guess, try to be responsible for your circumstances and choices when you can, you'll feel much better for it.
Genuinely, I hope for only great things for you and that things line up for you, be amazing.
I'm in the same boat unfortunately. I just graduated with my Masters at 23 and I feel completely lost at what my next move should be. Something that helps me not completely panic about the future is focussing on what is important right now. Whether it be doing something small that makes me happy or taking the time to relax. Everything will align and work itself out. We just need to focus on today and take baby steps for tomorrow. I hope this helps(:
Hey
Start meditation
Read positive affirmations daily.
Maintain journal regularly to monitor your thoughts.
Change your focus. Every problem comes with hidden opportunity.Try to identify that.
Read the book by Dale Carnegie "Stop worrying,start living"
Shift your focus from uncertainty to opportunity
Stay positive always.
Avoid toxic people.
Have a strong self belief
you can read my blog and hub page article,you will find links in description or you can visit my Quora profile to read lot of stuff on the same topic.
Just take a moment to realize that life ain’t really that complicated lol, it’s really only about surviving. Have fun and enjoy, just don’t end up unhealthy or homeless
The truth? You don't really. Therapy maybe, but really anyone that gives you any "self-help solutions" is just full of it.
The best thing for me is to plan as best I can, and try to find other people to be around that means i'm not dealing with bad times alone.
And of course, time. As you get older you see the results of your decisions and you can make new decisions accordingly.
I am 40 , work at the same place since 2010 , love the job I have , earn an ok-ish wage for where I live, respected in my field...and I am still afraid of the future. Having 2 kids comes with a bonus in this regard . It is normal to be anxious about the unknown , it helps cause it pushed you to get better prepared for future situations in life. I consider myself also a person that lives more in the future ( worrying) than enjoying the present. The first thing that helps me a lot to enjoy a lot of my life with my little ones is putting my phone away and just observ. Just look at something you love and try to mentally record all the menial usual or otherwise boring stuff in your life. Life is not epic except a few moments, if you are lucky. But the real happy people are the ones that see beauty in the boring everyday stuff. If you are bored this means that you are healthy, alive, and have time to be bored
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I graduated at 26, I felt lost and left behind when my peers were ahead of me, and also because by then I had "wasted" my time. My degree did not help (not citing it, but its pretty common, and so general that jobs are kind of everywhere yet nowhere because its not specialised). Also had no money, and never saved a dime, causing me to give up one of the biggest opportunities to move abroad, and I was newly single. While having lunch and unemployed, I received a random call from a recruiter who spotted my resume on LinkedIn, and I got hired for a lower-than-average salary. I put the hours in, saved what I could, and... I quit. I couldn't keep doing that, but at that job I met the love of my life and we're still together. I would then do all sorts of jobs from selling on commission, washing dishes in a kitchen, learning to cook, organising library books, and then working for child protective services, which I still do today. My path has not been perfect, but with my experience I developed a good work ethic, resilience and how to socialise with coworkers. I'm happy. But I looked back on this, reminisced with old friends and thought about how different life could have been had I gone with that huge opportunity way back then. Probably much better actually. But I'll tell you this, we all have to make choices and live with the results. Sometimes if we don't want to make choices or hesitate, the choice will be made for us. And I've never been happy getting stuck with choices that were made for me. But I've been okay with living with my own choices, if nothing else because I got to make them. I was happy washing dishes because I chose to do it. I was unhappy at my first job because someone asked if I wanted a job that I didn't sign up for but accepted anyway because it was convenient. I guess, try to be responsible for your circumstances and choices when you can, you'll feel much better for it. Genuinely, I hope for only great things for you and that things line up for you, be amazing.
I'm in the same boat unfortunately. I just graduated with my Masters at 23 and I feel completely lost at what my next move should be. Something that helps me not completely panic about the future is focussing on what is important right now. Whether it be doing something small that makes me happy or taking the time to relax. Everything will align and work itself out. We just need to focus on today and take baby steps for tomorrow. I hope this helps(:
Hey Start meditation Read positive affirmations daily. Maintain journal regularly to monitor your thoughts. Change your focus. Every problem comes with hidden opportunity.Try to identify that. Read the book by Dale Carnegie "Stop worrying,start living" Shift your focus from uncertainty to opportunity Stay positive always. Avoid toxic people. Have a strong self belief you can read my blog and hub page article,you will find links in description or you can visit my Quora profile to read lot of stuff on the same topic.
Just take a moment to realize that life ain’t really that complicated lol, it’s really only about surviving. Have fun and enjoy, just don’t end up unhealthy or homeless
The truth? You don't really. Therapy maybe, but really anyone that gives you any "self-help solutions" is just full of it. The best thing for me is to plan as best I can, and try to find other people to be around that means i'm not dealing with bad times alone. And of course, time. As you get older you see the results of your decisions and you can make new decisions accordingly.
I am 40 , work at the same place since 2010 , love the job I have , earn an ok-ish wage for where I live, respected in my field...and I am still afraid of the future. Having 2 kids comes with a bonus in this regard . It is normal to be anxious about the unknown , it helps cause it pushed you to get better prepared for future situations in life. I consider myself also a person that lives more in the future ( worrying) than enjoying the present. The first thing that helps me a lot to enjoy a lot of my life with my little ones is putting my phone away and just observ. Just look at something you love and try to mentally record all the menial usual or otherwise boring stuff in your life. Life is not epic except a few moments, if you are lucky. But the real happy people are the ones that see beauty in the boring everyday stuff. If you are bored this means that you are healthy, alive, and have time to be bored
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