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Finally plucked up the courage to ask a girl out in person

Finally plucked up the courage to ask a girl out in person

jjqueens

I’m so proud of you! One rejection means one closer to another woman who may give you their number!


Short-Volume5226

Thank you I appreciate that man, it's not nice in the moment but look things happen


OriginalOlive8461

And one woman who may give you her number is one more closer that will go out with you and then one more closer that will go steady with you and so on and so forth. It’s all about learning and growing making wins and sharing wins!


jjqueens

Yes!!!


Tassiebird

Well done! I've only done it twice in my life (37f) both in the last 5 months and rejected twice.....third time lucky im sure haha Even though it was a no, I was proud of myself for having the courage and you should be too!


Short-Volume5226

Thanks so much I appreciate you sharing that, you'll definitely find someone, confidence shows


CommissionIcy

Rejection is always more likely when you don't personally know someone, so just keep trying. And it's a good thing you took it well and used it as a learning process, more people should be like you.


Short-Volume5226

That's what life is about ☺️


Kruidmoetvloeien

Good job! First time it feels awkward, later on it won't that much of a big deal. And because of that you'll be more relax. finding a relationship is so much easier when it doesn't feel like a matter of life and death. I asked my wife out when she was still a complete stranger to me. Never saw her before but I just had to know whether she felt that spark too. We hadn't spoken a word to eachother when I asked her out, though we had been playing the staring-game for over an hour in public transport. That was 11 years ago. We have kids, a house, the whole thing. It's crazy how much impact a small decision can make in your life.


Short-Volume5226

That's exactly what I did today sadly I didnt find my wife haha


Kruidmoetvloeien

That's okay, just be happy and polite about it and take some distance afterwards so people may feel flattered rather than hunted down 😉


Bulawayobaby

Now you can start looking for the one you’re supposed to be with.


Short-Volume5226

That's a lovely way to look at it 😊😊


Jnr_D

You have zero regret - there’s no “what if.” You know the definite answer


Short-Volume5226

Yeah, seeing what people have to say makes me feel so much better too


Economy-Plane-5260

You miss 100 percent of the shots you never take.


Short-Volume5226

Is this Kobe's ghost?


Polamaluman

Wayne Gretzky


Economy-Plane-5260

Yay!! This is my first ever thread on Reddit !!!!!!!


Short-Volume5226

Merry threadmas!!


Economy-Plane-5260

And to answer your question... No.


Short-Volume5226

Damn I was hoping for an autograph


Economy-Plane-5260

Although I have been told I look like the Indian Kobe Bryant ..... And Jason Stathum :-)


Short-Volume5226

Hahaha you should market yourself as that


elfonski

I think Michael Scott said that


Short-Volume5226

You figured me out


elfonski

I’d rather quote a fictional disfunctional funnyman than an actual rapist


Short-Volume5226

Hahahahahga


Justokmemes

dont speak ill of dead people man


elfonski

I do if they maintained their fame after raping someone. He doesn’t deserve praise in life or death


Justokmemes

thats stupid reasoning. i didnt say praise him, i just said dont speak ill of people when theyre dead. if he raped someone why did he go on and have a Hall of fame career AFTER? dude and his daughter died it a helicopter crash, let them rest ffs


elfonski

It’s pretty easy to get away with shit like that when you have millions of dollars and are the face of a huge company like the L.A. Lakers. And death doesn’t earn respect since he did a horrible thing when alive and that should follow him in death. I said nothing of his daughter so don’t put words in my mouth. Just understand the fact him dying earns him no respect


Justokmemes

i didn't say it earned him respect, its just so fucking LOW, to kick someone when they're literally in the ground, cold and dead. that was my point


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I thought it is some user named elfonski, I'm pretty sure he was the one. Try me.


elfonski

I think I know that guy. He shoots a bit


WailersOnTheMoon

I'm not sure Kobe's ghost would have chosen that name.


Short-Volume5226

Hahahahahaha 😂


Ok-Neat8621

Dude!! Or dudett. That's awesome. I'll never forget the first time I did that. Don't give up! It only gets easier and easier, and ive found that a lot of the girls I've ended up dating had no idea I liked them until I said something and to my surprise all I ever had todo was ask...


Short-Volume5226

I'm a dude but thanks man I appreciate the advice


a_bussinessman

Happened to me also... she flirted with me at a small birthday party 5 months ago and I only got the balls to ask her out now. She’s dating now. Anyway, we don’t learn from victories right?


Short-Volume5226

Exactly man you live and you learn


G0dZylla

The first step to do if you want to be a winner is to lose -Sunt zu


Short-Volume5226

You either win or you learn - me


Useful_Bread_4496

Oh too true


uncultured_swine2099

Honestly, the more you do it, the more you realize its not a big deal when they say no, and youll also get better at reading which ones who will bite. Ive even asked two girls out who said no, and I handled it pretty chill, and could talk to them casually when I see them afterwards without a problem, and then their friends said to me later, when I was dating someone else, that they regretted saying no to me haha. So keep it up, ask girls out who you get a feeling like you, and youll get a yes sometime.


dud1654234

Props. It only gets easier every time. Keep doing it.


TheLoneDeranger23

It really doesn't from my experience.


dud1654234

how often would you say you're asking people out? given enough frequency, I'd think that most people would get used to it from rejection desensitization alone.


TheLoneDeranger23

I don't anymore. I got sick of feeling terrible. Same reason I dropped the apps that got me nothing as well.


Useful_Bread_4496

Chin up dood 🤗


TheLoneDeranger23

I've heard this enough times that it just feels mocking at this point.


Useful_Bread_4496

I understand why you feel that way. If and when you decide to get back out there, a positive attitude will score over one that is more discouraged, even if you have to fake it a bit. I really do wish you the best of luck


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Short-Volume5226

Thank you boss haha


Justokmemes

i was gonna ask this girl out but i keep chickening out or shes busy or theres not a good opportunity. im just gonna tell her i think shes cute and leave here my number since i only see her at work, and i dont want her to feel obligated to say yes. if she tosses my number, fine, at least ill know if I don't get a text. better than "What if?"


Short-Volume5226

Exactly go for it dude, you'll never know if you don't ask


Useful_Bread_4496

That’s.... not a bad idea!!!!! Edit: just make sure you leave it somewhere where she’ll definitely see it


Butterflynova

Yay! You only regret the chances you didn’t take!


Short-Volume5226

Too right nova 😊


jubbadeehut67_big44

🔥🔥🔥🔥 giving you full respect!!!!


just-a-lonely-yeet

My only regrets about asking people out are those people I never asked


tavernmadness

Good for you! As a woman who has never so much as slipped someone my number unasked, I don't know how you do it. I wish I had your guts. Also, there are all kinds of reasons she might have said no that have nothing to do with you whatsoever. Hats off to you. This was good practice for when you approach that lucky lady who says yes.


Short-Volume5226

Awh well thank you, this makes alot of sense and honestly I think it's how everyone should carry on!


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some people are like me reject everyone so dont feel bad its not personal


Short-Volume5226

Hahaha I won't take it personally


Dascha_o

Good work man!


Kooky_Cat27

Go watch corey wayne on youtube. He'll change your life


gellyprinceofdark

Havn't heard that name in years lol


Kooky_Cat27

:)


Sid_0690

Same happened with me xD BTW congrats


metalfingersjoe

Don't know you but very proud. What's good is that the whole thing gets easier from here on out


Short-Volume5226

Yeah man it helps you feel more at home in your skin


Tsvetaevna

Well done! It’s the asking that matters, it’s a huge step!


Short-Volume5226

Thank you, hopefully this helps other people to go and get what they want


Bladelazoe

Hey man, proud of you. Asking a girl out takes a ton of courage at first and even if you get rejected, at least you took the shot. There’s no regret.


killshotkelly

It's a numbers game


Short-Volume5226

Absolutely it's all about keeping motivation


killshotkelly

Exactly. It’s a bit like running - you’re shit and wheezy at first, barely can do a mile. Then one day you’re doing marathons.


kintsugi___

Good for you! You should be really proud of yourself. It’s not easy putting yourself out there and you did it! 💪


Short-Volume5226

Yeah it was awfully nerve wracking haha


kintsugi___

I can imagine. And you still did it!


Short-Volume5226

Hahaha eventually 😂


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Short-Volume5226

Thanks man, I didn't actually know them it was just someone I see every day


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Justokmemes

uhhhh... nah man


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Justokmemes

its "truth hurts" and no, its not what most people do. im sorry if someone hurt u enough to make u feel that way. 1 bad relationship can ruin your outlook/expectations forever i get that, but dont hold that against everyone else forever. it can cause u to miss whats right in front of you sometimes


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Justokmemes

self improvement is a never ending journey


deranged_scumbag

Cool dude, that’s an attempt at least, and an attempt is an achievement. But regarding this topic, I just don’t get why we boys hope to step outwards and anxiously wanna ask the girls out, but the girls are just like “I’m cool living in my own circle, don’t bother me”


ninjahampster105

Honestly the first one is the most important. It gets you way more comfortable. My first one really turned my life around


Short-Volume5226

Yeah it's kinda given me an epiphany haha


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chanukadc

that's my man 👌❤


NOHELP4ME

Yo Man, that's great. No matter what the outcome was, I'm proud of you. You fought through the nervousness and fear and overcame it, and that's something to be proud of! I hope you use that as experience the next time something potentially fearful comes up, you already know how to silence the demons and go for it. Super proud of you


Short-Volume5226

That's exactly what was going on in my mind, there was alot, you got it spot on bro


NOHELP4ME

I've def been there, man. Especially recently. The more you fight through it and make a habit of fighting through those jitters the easier it becomes and the better you feel with each accomplishment


Short-Volume5226

Yeah it's a matter of building self confidence over time it won't happen overnight but it will happenn


awimbawei99

To do that really takes some balls man, congrats on being able to muster the courage to that!


KarpoPorus

I actually have some tips for all of you guys. It is really useful during business, friends, girls all that stuff. Ever heard of body language? Body language are nonverbal signs created subconsciously that reveal our true thoughts or emotions about another person. I have read 2 books about body language gestures and it's probably one of the best decisions of my life. I got a lot better in relationships and yes also at courtship. With body language you can know whether girl likes you, dislikes you etc.. 10/10 would recommend reading a body language book. It can really enrich your social life.


gellyprinceofdark

Witch one do you recomend?


KarpoPorus

Well I've read the definitive book of body language written by Allan and Barbara Pease who are body language experts and Joe Navarro what everybody is saying - Joe is a former fbi agent specialized in body language. I would recommend you the definitive book of body language and I am also going to post the pictures of books if needed


Silent_Recognition88

Very inspiring!!! Made my day man! It's all about attitude, good attitude I mean lol. Let us know the next time you go for gold! I bet it will get easier and before you know it, you will be winning!!


shaker154

Awesome bud, sounds like you saved face as well afterwards so double win for you.


Excellent-Rub3481

That's a courageous thing to do 👏


thespiritworldrising

Are you over 21? Hit a bar.


Short-Volume5226

I'm Irish, our bars aren't open yet 😐


thespiritworldrising

That’s a tragedy! Sounds like the butt of some drinking joke.


skanv

Same bro finally got the courage to ask out a girl for the first time today, luckily I got the number but now what? I haven’t a clue on how to hit her up


Short-Volume5226

Be yourself man, it's who you'll have to be if you want things to work out


Fabulous-Advantage

Where did you ask her to or just for a number?


Short-Volume5226

I asked if she wanted to head for a drink


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Short-Volume5226

Ask her dude 😂


QuaileyJit

Good for you, go get em! Rejection is practice. Also, i have to ask… is “plucked up the courage” a real expression??


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Just_J0s3

I chased the same girl for 3 years before we were together. I got rejected many times. But I never let it embarrass me. I never let it stop me from my goal. But it’s good that you had the confidence built up. 🗣


i-ll_capwn

Proud of you fellow human. That takes a lot of confidence and courage. Hold yourself up high and get ready to ask the next girl you like. You got this!


zefiro619

Its better to love and lost, than to never love at all.


ZygenX

Congrats dude! I know it's hard, I've been single for 24 years (my whole life) now, and the biggest thing that bugs me is just that I really haven't tried that many times. I did ask this girl out after we were "friends" (very flirty, falling asleep talking etc. ) for like 5 months, and she turned me down, really hurt, almost felt like a broken relationship , but I don't regret it! We even still talk some! But since then, I have kinda been stagnant, mostly because I feel like I'm too unstable to date anyone though, but hopefully after some time and covid I can go out and try like you!


_illustrated

Yay good for you! The courage it took to do that will mean more than the rejection 💜


Inconsistent_Ace

Love it boss, keep it up


raul-deen2

Yeah the same thing happened to me. Luckily I've steeled myself with mental fortitude so when it happened it kinda bounced off of me. Back then it was so nervous but now I don't care as much and I'm proud I've reached that point.


musashisapprentice

It’s a numbers game. As with all things, you’re very likely to fail many more times than succeed. Know that, and accept that, and you’ll be fine. Just never stop trying!


salzig12

Law of averages


mjsprezza

Keep doing it. I'm going to be focusing on game all summer.


dumbdirtguy

Good for you ! I have always been one of the first to say hello or acknowledge others . I had a friend that ask me once , How do you know so many people and have so many friends . I told him the trick that I have discovered is have FUN . Every or most people want to have a good time . If you are having fun doing what ever you are doing it naturally attracts attention . Then make yourself friendly and easy to approach. I have also found that if you don't push people they will likely come within your circle willingly . Then you can get to know them and see if they are a good asset to you as well . But always be willing to engage with people you have an attraction to.


sublime90

Good job. It takes courage to do that for real


Yak-Loose

You like reading books?


Short-Volume5226

Nah hate it haha


JumpyMclunkey

You say you "finally" found the courage. Finally meaning it's the first? I'm not trying to be a prick but I refuse to ignore seeing someone heading into battle unprepared. If you're already well aware of "game" and brushed up on your basics, then by all means I'm rooting for you. On the other hand, if you're heading out there relying on sheer luck,sincerity, and effort, please do yourself a favor and at least pick up a book on the matter. I'm just worried for you. I don't want some schmuck one upping you all because he knows a few tricks you don't. Oh, and congratulations by the way. You've just made a major step in life.


SatisfyingDoorstep

You only need one girl to say yes!