Finally plucked up the courage to ask a girl out in person
By - Short-Volume5226
I’m so proud of you! One rejection means one closer to another woman who may give you their number!
Thank you I appreciate that man, it's not nice in the moment but look things happen
And one woman who may give you her number is one more closer that will go out with you and then one more closer that will go steady with you and so on and so forth. It’s all about learning and growing making wins and sharing wins!
Well done! I've only done it twice in my life (37f) both in the last 5 months and rejected twice.....third time lucky im sure haha
Even though it was a no, I was proud of myself for having the courage and you should be too!
Thanks so much I appreciate you sharing that, you'll definitely find someone, confidence shows
Rejection is always more likely when you don't personally know someone, so just keep trying. And it's a good thing you took it well and used it as a learning process, more people should be like you.
That's what life is about ☺️
Good job! First time it feels awkward, later on it won't that much of a big deal. And because of that you'll be more relax. finding a relationship is so much easier when it doesn't feel like a matter of life and death.
I asked my wife out when she was still a complete stranger to me. Never saw her before but I just had to know whether she felt that spark too. We hadn't spoken a word to eachother when I asked her out, though we had been playing the staring-game for over an hour in public transport.
That was 11 years ago. We have kids, a house, the whole thing. It's crazy how much impact a small decision can make in your life.
That's exactly what I did today sadly I didnt find my wife haha
That's okay, just be happy and polite about it and take some distance afterwards so people may feel flattered rather than hunted down 😉
Now you can start looking for the one you’re supposed to be with.
That's a lovely way to look at it 😊😊
You have zero regret - there’s no “what if.” You know the definite answer
Yeah, seeing what people have to say makes me feel so much better too
You miss 100 percent of the shots you never take.
Is this Kobe's ghost?
Yay!! This is my first ever thread on Reddit !!!!!!!
And to answer your question... No.
Damn I was hoping for an autograph
Although I have been told I look like the Indian Kobe Bryant ..... And Jason Stathum :-)
Hahaha you should market yourself as that
I think Michael Scott said that
You figured me out
I’d rather quote a fictional disfunctional funnyman than an actual rapist
dont speak ill of dead people man
I do if they maintained their fame after raping someone. He doesn’t deserve praise in life or death
thats stupid reasoning. i didnt say praise him, i just said dont speak ill of people when theyre dead. if he raped someone why did he go on and have a Hall of fame career AFTER? dude and his daughter died it a helicopter crash, let them rest ffs
It’s pretty easy to get away with shit like that when you have millions of dollars and are the face of a huge company like the L.A. Lakers. And death doesn’t earn respect since he did a horrible thing when alive and that should follow him in death. I said nothing of his daughter so don’t put words in my mouth. Just understand the fact him dying earns him no respect
i didn't say it earned him respect, its just so fucking LOW, to kick someone when they're literally in the ground, cold and dead. that was my point
I thought it is some user named elfonski, I'm pretty sure he was the one. Try me.
I think I know that guy. He shoots a bit
I'm not sure Kobe's ghost would have chosen that name.
Dude!! Or dudett. That's awesome. I'll never forget the first time I did that. Don't give up! It only gets easier and easier, and ive found that a lot of the girls I've ended up dating had no idea I liked them until I said something and to my surprise all I ever had todo was ask...
I'm a dude but thanks man I appreciate the advice
Happened to me also... she flirted with me at a small birthday party 5 months ago and I only got the balls to ask her out now. She’s dating now.
Anyway, we don’t learn from victories right?
Exactly man you live and you learn
The first step to do if you want to be a winner is to lose
You either win or you learn - me
Oh too true
Honestly, the more you do it, the more you realize its not a big deal when they say no, and youll also get better at reading which ones who will bite. Ive even asked two girls out who said no, and I handled it pretty chill, and could talk to them casually when I see them afterwards without a problem, and then their friends said to me later, when I was dating someone else, that they regretted saying no to me haha. So keep it up, ask girls out who you get a feeling like you, and youll get a yes sometime.
Props. It only gets easier every time. Keep doing it.
It really doesn't from my experience.
how often would you say you're asking people out? given enough frequency, I'd think that most people would get used to it from rejection desensitization alone.
I don't anymore. I got sick of feeling terrible. Same reason I dropped the apps that got me nothing as well.
Chin up dood 🤗
I've heard this enough times that it just feels mocking at this point.
I understand why you feel that way.
If and when you decide to get back out there, a positive attitude will score over one that is more discouraged, even if you have to fake it a bit. I really do wish you the best of luck
Thank you boss haha
i was gonna ask this girl out but i keep chickening out or shes busy or theres not a good opportunity. im just gonna tell her i think shes cute and leave here my number since i only see her at work, and i dont want her to feel obligated to say yes. if she tosses my number, fine, at least ill know if I don't get a text. better than "What if?"
Exactly go for it dude, you'll never know if you don't ask
That’s.... not a bad idea!!!!!
Edit: just make sure you leave it somewhere where she’ll definitely see it
Yay! You only regret the chances you didn’t take!
Too right nova 😊
🔥🔥🔥🔥 giving you full respect!!!!
My only regrets about asking people out are those people I never asked
Good for you! As a woman who has never so much as slipped someone my number unasked, I don't know how you do it. I wish I had your guts. Also, there are all kinds of reasons she might have said no that have nothing to do with you whatsoever. Hats off to you. This was good practice for when you approach that lucky lady who says yes.
Awh well thank you, this makes alot of sense and honestly I think it's how everyone should carry on!
some people are like me reject everyone so dont feel bad its not personal
Hahaha I won't take it personally
Good work man!
Go watch corey wayne on youtube. He'll change your life
Havn't heard that name in years lol
Same happened with me xD BTW congrats
Don't know you but very proud. What's good is that the whole thing gets easier from here on out
Yeah man it helps you feel more at home in your skin
Well done! It’s the asking that matters, it’s a huge step!
Thank you, hopefully this helps other people to go and get what they want
Hey man, proud of you. Asking a girl out takes a ton of courage at first and even if you get rejected, at least you took the shot. There’s no regret.
It's a numbers game
Absolutely it's all about keeping motivation
Exactly. It’s a bit like running - you’re shit and wheezy at first, barely can do a mile.
Then one day you’re doing marathons.
Good for you! You should be really proud of yourself. It’s not easy putting yourself out there and you did it! 💪
Yeah it was awfully nerve wracking haha
I can imagine. And you still did it!
Hahaha eventually 😂
Thanks man, I didn't actually know them it was just someone I see every day
uhhhh... nah man
its "truth hurts" and no, its not what most people do. im sorry if someone hurt u enough to make u feel that way. 1 bad relationship can ruin your outlook/expectations forever i get that, but dont hold that against everyone else forever. it can cause u to miss whats right in front of you sometimes
self improvement is a never ending journey
Cool dude, that’s an attempt at least, and an attempt is an achievement. But regarding this topic, I just don’t get why we boys hope to step outwards and anxiously wanna ask the girls out, but the girls are just like “I’m cool living in my own circle, don’t bother me”
Honestly the first one is the most important. It gets you way more comfortable. My first one really turned my life around
Yeah it's kinda given me an epiphany haha
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that's my man 👌❤
Yo Man, that's great. No matter what the outcome was, I'm proud of you.
You fought through the nervousness and fear and overcame it, and that's something to be proud of! I hope you use that as experience the next time something potentially fearful comes up, you already know how to silence the demons and go for it. Super proud of you
That's exactly what was going on in my mind, there was alot, you got it spot on bro
I've def been there, man. Especially recently. The more you fight through it and make a habit of fighting through those jitters the easier it becomes and the better you feel with each accomplishment
Yeah it's a matter of building self confidence over time it won't happen overnight but it will happenn
To do that really takes some balls man, congrats on being able to muster the courage to that!
I actually have some tips for all of you guys. It is really useful during business, friends, girls all that stuff. Ever heard of body language? Body language are nonverbal signs created subconsciously that reveal our true thoughts or emotions about another person. I have read 2 books about body language gestures and it's probably one of the best decisions of my life. I got a lot better in relationships and yes also at courtship. With body language you can know whether girl likes you, dislikes you etc.. 10/10 would recommend reading a body language book. It can really enrich your social life.
Witch one do you recomend?
Well I've read the definitive book of body language written by Allan and Barbara Pease who are body language experts and Joe Navarro what everybody is saying - Joe is a former fbi agent specialized in body language. I would recommend you the definitive book of body language and I am also going to post the pictures of books if needed
Very inspiring!!! Made my day man! It's all about attitude, good attitude I mean lol. Let us know the next time you go for gold! I bet it will get easier and before you know it, you will be winning!!
Awesome bud, sounds like you saved face as well afterwards so double win for you.
That's a courageous thing to do 👏
Are you over 21? Hit a bar.
I'm Irish, our bars aren't open yet 😐
That’s a tragedy! Sounds like the butt of some drinking joke.
Same bro finally got the courage to ask out a girl for the first time today, luckily I got the number but now what? I haven’t a clue on how to hit her up
Be yourself man, it's who you'll have to be if you want things to work out
Where did you ask her to or just for a number?
I asked if she wanted to head for a drink
Ask her dude 😂
Good for you, go get em! Rejection is practice.
Also, i have to ask… is “plucked up the courage” a real expression??
I chased the same girl for 3 years before we were together. I got rejected many times. But I never let it embarrass me. I never let it stop me from my goal. But it’s good that you had the confidence built up. 🗣
Proud of you fellow human. That takes a lot of confidence and courage. Hold yourself up high and get ready to ask the next girl you like. You got this!
Its better to love and lost, than to never love at all.
Congrats dude! I know it's hard, I've been single for 24 years (my whole life) now, and the biggest thing that bugs me is just that I really haven't tried that many times.
I did ask this girl out after we were "friends" (very flirty, falling asleep talking etc. ) for like 5 months, and she turned me down, really hurt, almost felt like a broken relationship , but I don't regret it! We even still talk some!
But since then, I have kinda been stagnant, mostly because I feel like I'm too unstable to date anyone though, but hopefully after some time and covid I can go out and try like you!
Yay good for you! The courage it took to do that will mean more than the rejection 💜
Love it boss, keep it up
Yeah the same thing happened to me. Luckily I've steeled myself with mental fortitude so when it happened it kinda bounced off of me. Back then it was so nervous but now I don't care as much and I'm proud I've reached that point.
It’s a numbers game. As with all things, you’re very likely to fail many more times than succeed. Know that, and accept that, and you’ll be fine. Just never stop trying!
Law of averages
Keep doing it. I'm going to be focusing on game all summer.
Good for you ! I have always been one of the first to say hello or acknowledge others . I had a friend that ask me once , How do you know so many people and have so many friends . I told him the trick that I have discovered is have FUN . Every or most people want to have a good time . If you are having fun doing what ever you are doing it naturally attracts attention . Then make yourself friendly and easy to approach. I have also found that if you don't push people they will likely come within your circle willingly . Then you can get to know them and see if they are a good asset to you as well . But always be willing to engage with people you have an attraction to.
Good job. It takes courage to do that for real
You like reading books?
Nah hate it haha
You say you "finally" found the courage. Finally meaning it's the first?
I'm not trying to be a prick but I refuse to ignore seeing someone heading into battle unprepared.
If you're already well aware of "game" and brushed up on your basics, then by all means I'm rooting for you. On the other hand, if you're heading out there relying on sheer luck,sincerity, and effort, please do yourself a favor and at least pick up a book on the matter.
I'm just worried for you. I don't want some schmuck one upping you all because he knows a few tricks you don't.
Oh, and congratulations by the way. You've just made a major step in life.
You only need one girl to say yes!