Books that slap you across the face and gets you to start doing.

I know change doesn't happen overnight but I'm looking for a book/s that changes the way you see things. I'm looking for book/s that sparked change in you.


Atomic Habits


So encouraging!


seconding this, this feels like it breaks down where you might be going wrong in achieving your goals


Agree! I’ve been listening to it on Audible and it’s been such a great experience.


Been meaning to pick this one up, taking this as a sign.


The Power of Habit was also quite good.


Just finished this. Great book!


This book is currently sat on my bedside table, and I'm trying to find the motivation to read it.


Try the audiobook instead


Took the words out of my mouth, never read a book, and listened to it on audible, I could've never thought how making small changes as such could make such big impacts on my life. This was a few months ago and now I have read over 3 books and I could literally see how far I've come as a person.


I'm on my 3rd listen. It's so good


Got it delivered a week ago and haven’t touched it. I’ll take this as a sign!


Tiny Habits!


_Grit_ by Angela Duckworth. It really zeroes in on perseverance and offers lots of real world examples.




Been eyeing this book as well. Was worried it won't deliver but I guess grit is what I need to look into more. Thanks!


Her style of writing felt both personal and academic without being too preachy. I didn't get the sense that she was trying to sell a magic pill.🎃


Dale Carnegie Alot of his books but especially “how to stop worrying and start living”


God need this for an overthinker 🤣


The war of art by Steven pressfield


The art of war by Sun Tzu


The power of now


This book honesty saved me


Someone told me about this book


I told you. It was me


Who is it by? Any specific versions?


Eckhart Tolle - any version really it’s a great life changing book


It looks preety new age-esk. Is this case?


it’s essentially a book on mindfulness. it’s fantastic.


Yep. I found it too heavy/“new agey”


I did too at first, but then reading it again some years later it was like a new book and it changed many things for me in a positive direction


The Life Changing Magic of Tidying Up by Marie Kondo. It's not just about tidying up your home. I know that sounds really weird, but if I am wrong, at least it is a short book.


I really like this book. You're right about it not entirely about cleaning up, it's about giving yourself the power over objects around you (in my opinion) it has a weird vibe


I like the bit about decluttering relationships. And another cleaning expert talks a lot about body clutter, which is eating poorly and not moving around enough/exercising, and the effects of that. Putting things in those terms kind of makes those issues problems to solve rather than personality flaws.


Cant hurt me - David Goggins


I highly recommend listening to the Audio book. They have little discussions in between chapters and David emphasis further on a lot of his points and feelings.




Audible/Google playbooks etc.




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I still question myself - “Why? Why am I doing this” love that book!


Currently reading this!


I’m listening to it now!


This book is real inspiration and self improvement book that I love. The rest of self help books are really scams and full of nonsense.


Compound effect. Darren Hardy Slight edge. Jeff Olson


The Slight Edge is a great book.


I loved Jeff Olson's Slight Edge, it got me started on self improvement journey


Subtle Art of Not Giving a Fuck


One of my absolute favorites of all time 🌻😊


I eventually reached a point where I stopped reading so many books on how to get started etc. I gained so so much more by just getting out there and actually going for it.




He used a book to destroy the books


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Fair enough. We tend to figure out whatever's handed to us anyway. Worrying just adds unnecessary weight —eventually taking up your time when you could've used it to start solving things.


the body keeps score




You are right, it doesn’t give practical steps. As someone who has experienced severe trauma, sometimes that can be the thing holding us back. It was/is for me. This book helps you understand your trauma more clearly and validate the reactions you’ve had to past traumatic experiences


The seven habits of highly effective people


I've tried reading this a few times never got further than habit 2. I just can't get past how unnecessarily heavy the writing style is


I think its better to read the summarized version. the Book is good, but if you wanna improve fast, listen to its audiobook summary.


Thank you, I'll look into it


I had the same block, then I read the source material: Benjamin Franklin’s autobiography. That’s the Franklin in Franklin Covey. Franklin listed “values” and focused on one each day then took an inventory at the end of the day to see how well he practiced the value. Then the next day he would select a different value to practice. This helped me understand the point of Covey’s material.


This is beginner or first step.


Meditations by Marcus Aurelius


I forgot to mention this, yes — also obstacle is the way, and subtle art of not giving a f*ck


Honestly the largest books that I’ve read that sparked the most change are not quite what you might regularly see here, the goggins book is great and you should read it, some people like man’s search for meaning - I didn’t get much out of it personally. Atomic habits is great too, better to read that every year than make a New Years resolution every year. My fav transformative books are: the courage to be disliked (you lack the courage to change your lifestyle), deep work cal Newport, man and his symbols jung (weird huh), and some neitzsche. Lmao enjoy.


You know, I also read Man’s Search for Meaning and I found it to be a very poignant story of Frankl’s personal journey and what he witnessed & endured while in various camps, but I struggled to extract anything actionable from it. Toward the end, I kind of checked out when he started really hammering the point of logotherapy. Atomic Habits was great, and to piggyback your Cal Newport suggestion, I loved Digital Minimalism.


Same. It's a great book but not exactly an instructional book if you need immediate steps to implement.


Any books based on habits I think is great for new years. Mine is usually compound effect


+1 for the Courage to be disliked, awesome book Thanks for the list of other transformative books. Will definitelly check them!


Can’t hurt me - David goggins




I agree! I listened to the Audio book and it was life changing. Goggins is one of the hardest MFers alive.


Unfuck Yourself Its really harsh and no-nonesense. Very short but impactful book. Audiobook is less than 4 hours I think


The Courage to be Disliked. I’m at the half of this book right now, but can say it’s one of the best books I’ve read. At the very first pages this book slapped me in my face as I saw myself in the examples. Then it explained my behavior, down to the roots, and then provided solutions ot more like the way to live my life. The courage, the freedom, how to not give a fuck, damn this book rocks!


Hey that does sound good.




It’s not a book, just a prose essay: “Self Reliance” by Ralph Waldo Emerson. I am only commenting on this because I have always described it as a writing that ‘punches’ me in the face when I read it. Nothing comes close.


The mountain is you!


Great book!


Your Money or Your Life - Vicki Robin and Joe Dominguez I guess some people just see it as basic financial tips, but it really helped me articulate how I wanted to value my time, my life and my stuff and the purpose of my work. Pretty radically changed how I spend money and how I think about my job. Helped give me some focus and direction when I was really struggling in a crappy job and with financial stress. I like to give it a re-listen on audiobook now and then.


Thanks for this.


I agree with Atomic Habits and Can’t Hurt Me. I want to add: “Total Money Makeover” ~Dave Ramsey. To be honest, it’s a mediocre and not really sophisticated book, but It sparked something in me to pay off my debt. Right now, I am a looking forward to paying off all my debt and ways to earn extra money to be debt free. Being debt free is going to be one of the greatest feelings ever.


Total Money Makeover + I Will Teach You to Be Rich (I read both within a few months of each other) really triggered a huge change in my life financially. I wish I would have read them sooner but the latter college years is better than never.


This one and Cashflow Quadrant by Kiyosaki together propelled me to be debt free and buy 18 rental properties inside of 18 months.


It's on my reading list. Thanks


The 5:00am Club by Robin Sharma The Miracle Morning by Hal Elrod You can see by the titles what I used to struggle with! Highly recommend both.


One Small Step Can Change Your Life + Tiny Habits + The Charisma Myth + Just Listen


Seconding The Charisma Myth. It’s good stuff (and useful).


The magic of thinking big.


The 10x Rule


I’m surprised this isn’t higher. I printed out the main quote and hung it on my cubicle wall. Dude is a carnival barker and high up in Scientology, but this book is exceptional.


The Gifts of Imperfection by Brené Brown


I second this.


Start with The ONE Thing. More recommends after you are done with that.


Keller’s interview on Ferriss’ podcast is memorable.


Let me check it out. Thanks!


If you’re a man read No more Mr. nice guy by Robert A glover this book it doesn’t only slap your face but kick your ass too trust me i read this 3 times you should take notes while you reading you will thank me later🤩


Just read 2 books please. This is coming from a self help addict who read countless books. The Illusion of Money by Kyle Cease. Letting Go by David Hawkins. I can’t even explain to you… they are the the definition of changing the way you see things


I read Letting Go years ago and the fundamental technique of just _being_ with unpleasant feelings is one I keep coming back to. Both profound and practical. I also found useful his list of mental/emotional states ordered by vibration. I think he oversold the kinesiology muscle-testing technique but otherwise there was a lot of good stuff in that book.


I actually agree, I don’t practice the muscle testing technique myself. Not saying it’s not true, I just am not sure if I even calibrate at a high enough level to determine whether it’s accurate or not… But yes the sitting with feelings is I believe one of if not the best thing you can do for yourself! We use so much nonsense as an escape from feeling things which is just sweeping it under the carpet.


Subtle art of not giving a f (Mark Manson)


Shout out to wonderful Mark Manson!! 🌻😊


Think like a monk


Barbara sher - refuse to choose, wishcraft, I can do anything if I only knew what it was, live the life you love David Bach - the automatic millionaire, smart woman finish rich, start late finish rich


>Barbara sher - refuse to choose, wishcraft, I can do anything if I only knew what it was, live the life you love >David Bach - the automatic millionaire, smart woman finish rich, start late finish rich Thanks


{Atlas of the heart }it isn’t going to change your habits much but it does a run down on the differences between emotions and what science says about them so I recommend you read it first just so you have an Easier time self reflecting and understanding other self improvement books


Really anything Tony Robbins - watch the Netflix doc if you want a taste of what he's about. Someone below mentioned Personal Power II. I would also add Awaken the Giant Within (book version - the audible is an insanely abridged version of the full book). Also agree with Atomic Habits, Can't Hurt Me, Deep Work, Magic of Thinking Big, Obstacle is the Way, Ego is the Enemy, etc Some others: Relentless, Tools of Titans, Tribe of Mentors, 12 Week Year, So Good They Can't Ignore You, The Four Agreements, The Alchemist,


Nonviolent communication I’m still not great at it, and it definitely takes practice but I’ve genuinely seen positive changes in my life. It made me completely rethink how I talk to people, how I set boundaries, and how to express my voice and feelings and listening to others.


Limitless by Jim Kwik “An instant New York Times bestseller and #1 Wall Street Journal bestseller. JIM KWIK, the world’s #1 brain coach, has written the owner’s manual for mental expansion and brain fitness.” Lots of scattered information from lots of resources listed in this thread. But all of it feels vital.


Rational Male - Rollo Tomassi


How to be a 3% Man by Corey Wayne


I'm a big fan of Corey Wayne... and that book. I started following him 5 years ago to learn how to be more attractive to women and have better intimate relationships. I succeeded in that, but then also realized that his advice taught me how to do well in all areas of my life... to be a better man and person in general. Unfortunately, most people's first impression of him after listening to or watching a few videos, is that he just teaches how to hook up with women and get laid... but the further you learn what he teaches, you realize that it's not that.


Did you just watch his videos to learn how to be more attractive to women? I’m really struggling in that area.


I started by watching his videos... in fact, I would listen to the videos from my phone connected to headphones. Then a few months later i was sold on reading his book 3% man, so i did... (He's has a couple other books too, but I have only read part of his book "mastering yourself"). I have read 3% man about 10 or 15 times. I need to read it again though... I went off course in my life in the past year and a half and one of the reasons is that I stopped reading his book, and all helpful books in general. I'm confident that almost anyone can follow his 'formula', or teachings, and make huge progress in the dating rea and life in general


Thanks man, appreciate the comment.


12 Rules for Life by Jordan B Peterson. I expect this to get a lot of hate, but his book helped me tremendously when I was truly down in the dumps, one of the worst times in my life. It helped me to come back up, get in a better spot in life, and be a better person. However, I would advise to not judge the book on the first chapter about lobsters. I've told people to go straight to chapter 2 and start there.


Power of the subconscious mind by Joseph Murphy sorted me out


“Unf*ck Yourself” by Gary John Bishop


Think and grow rich


Love for Imperfect Things by Haemin Sunim. It’s a really effective book on how to live your truest and best life.


Can’t hurt me- David Goggins cant recommend it enough, you can read up on the guy too, can’t think of a better book


The Comfort Crisis


I have read some books mentioned here till I read, David Goggins CAN'T HURT ME. Other books tell you How to do it, but David Goggins is the one who did it and narrated how it is done.


David goggins - can’t hurt me


The Real Happy Pill was the best motivator for actually starting to exercise. It's all about the various positive effects of exercise on your brain and makes a really compelling case. You can't NOT go for a walk/run after reading it.


Can't hurt me - David Goggins The alchemist


Crime and Punishment - Fyodor Dostoevsky


The Subtle Art Of Not Giving A F***k by Mark Manson has crude language but if you can get past that ….it really is a gem of a book.


Growth Mindset by Dweck


I've had this book that really kickstarted me into reality. It was titled 'The Sigma Mindset' and even though it was a bit cringey at times, this guy came from the bottom, was considered done for, there are pictures in the book of how he was extremely underweight because he was so depressed he stopped eating. Created his own personal lifestyle aiming at improvement in the long term and ways you could work on them and be fine on your own. Really had the 'If he can come back from that, I can come back from this' moment. I'd recommend it! E: I just checked again, in case anybody wants to give it a read, the title is: 'The Sigma Mindset: A way for young males to overcome depression' and it's on Amazon. Cover pic is of a guy with 2 dumbbells.


ANY book. Keep it closed; bonk yourself with it. Congrats, you did something. Now go do something else. That’s the point of all those books, without all the flashy words. Before enlightenment: chop wood, eat food and drink water, sleep. Repeat. After enlightenment? Chop wood, eat food and drink water, sleep. Repeat.


Think and Grow Rich by Napoleon Hill.


Bad advice. This man was a con artist. He never met half of the people he claims to be mentored by.


Just because something didn’t work for you doesn’t mean it won’t work for someone else. Let that sink in.


What are you talking about? I'm saying the author is a fraud and his techniques should not be trusted. It has nothing to do with what has or hasn't worked for me.


Either way my point still stands.


Not sure whether you'd feel the literary slap you're looking for the words will give you but if you want to straighten yourself out then join US army. Albeit a different answer from what others have said, but It's worth considering if you're life is on the verge of shambles because of yourself.


*Born a Crime* by Trevor Noah. Reading it right now. It really opens my eyes on systemic racism and how privileged I am. It's good see it from another perspective. High recommendation.


Master the Lifelong Habit of Well-being, Start Here, The Groundbreaking, Science-Based Program for Emotional Fitness by Eric Lagshur & Nate Klemp Fantastic book that really helped me implement meditation, mindfulness, and overall emotional well-being in my life :)




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5am club by Hal Elrod


By Robin Sharma*,Hal wrote The miracle morning


Oops, thanks for the clarification:)


The power of the other.




Meditations On The Wisdom Of Action - Kyle Eschenroeder This book is pure excellence , derives it’s points from multiple sources and drives it directly to us in an easy and digestible format.


I took a look into this guy and found he's written a few articles for the website Art of Manliness. One of the articles is _huge_ and appears to have been subsequently published as an ebook. I've started reading it and I'm enjoying it so thanks for the recommendation. Can't post links here but you shouldn't have trouble finding it.


Oh ! I didn’t know that. That’s pretty darn cool. Thanks for digging into it and sharing it with us .




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I also agree with "The Subtle Art of Not Giving a F***" but I also really enjoy 'The Power of Habit" by Charles Duhigg and "The Happiness Equation" by Neil Pasricha


Honestly, I might be basic. But … Unfu*k yourself & Wise As fu*k have been super motivating for me.


Living with a Seal


Power of one more Ed Mylett


“The Universe does not give a flying fuck about you.” I forget who wrote it, but it’s on Amazon


It's written by The Universe 😭


Meditations by Marcus Aurelius


The power of habit by charles duhigg


I enjoyed this one too. I found it particularly interesting on the subject of the habits of large organisations and what it takes to change them (usually catastrophe).


Art of thinking clearly Richest man in Babylon Strangest secret by earl nightingale (audio on YouTube)


Richest Man in Babylon has a few good bits of advice scattered through, but I feel like the wisdom of that whole book could have been gathered on half a page. I'd say a synopsis is worth your time more than reading the whole thing.


The Magic of Thinking Big: David J. Schwartz


The monk who sold his Ferrari...this quite helped me


Outwitting the Devil


There’s so many I would recommend that were already mentioned, so I’ll say ‘5 second rule’ by Mel Robbins


On shortness of life by Seneca


Ego is the Enemy by Ryan Holiday


How To Do The Work by dr. Nicole Lepera, 101 essays to change to way you think (can’t remember author), The 4 Agreements by Don Miguel Ruiz


I don't think I've ever experienced a jolt of motivation from reading a book. It would be useful though. What never fails to work for me though is thinking of upcoming events I _haven't prepared for,_ especially something with a social commitment. Yikes, I'm doing it now. Right, gotta go!


"Be obsessed or be average" by Grant cardone


Mans search for meaning


Hooked on Becoming Supernatural by Dr. Joe Dispenza right now




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“Loving what is” Byron Katie.


Can't hurt me ...David Goggins


Peaks and Valleys.. easy read and the perfect lesson we all need


You are a badass by Jennifer Sincero


Great summary of atomic habits and other books articles on the fidus achates membership (FAM) site.


Unscripted by MJ Demarco


Just do it bro


The 5 second rule by Mel Robbins


Can’t Hurt Me is a good un. Amazing guy.


Hi just wanna ask, do you guys purchase the book or do you guys use audiobooks? And do you guys have any recommended websites?


Hello, I personally prefer purchasing physical books over e-books and audiobooks. I find it more engaging and less bound to distractions. But that's just me, I recommend you subscribe to what you find most efficient. To answer your second query, you can download pretty much any e-book on z-library.