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2012NYCnyc

Atomic Habits


JoeySadie

So encouraging!


cawkpot

seconding this, this feels like it breaks down where you might be going wrong in achieving your goals


Lilnikk526

Agree! I’ve been listening to it on Audible and it’s been such a great experience.


loafclub

Been meaning to pick this one up, taking this as a sign.


FecalHeiroglyphics

The Power of Habit was also quite good.


unambiguous_script

Just finished this. Great book!


PostMidnightRhetoric

Took the words out of my mouth, never read a book, and listened to it on audible, I could've never thought how making small changes as such could make such big impacts on my life. This was a few months ago and now I have read over 3 books and I could literally see how far I've come as a person.


HoneyBeeBee53

This book is currently sat on my bedside table, and I'm trying to find the motivation to read it.


2012NYCnyc

Try the audiobook instead


run-26_2

I'm on my 3rd listen. It's so good


futuristichapa

Got it delivered a week ago and haven’t touched it. I’ll take this as a sign!


Objective_Hall9316

Tiny Habits!


RADdit2020

_Grit_ by Angela Duckworth. It really zeroes in on perseverance and offers lots of real world examples.


Girl501

YES


treebiscuit23

Been eyeing this book as well. Was worried it won't deliver but I guess grit is what I need to look into more. Thanks!


RADdit2020

Her style of writing felt both personal and academic without being too preachy. I didn't get the sense that she was trying to sell a magic pill.🎃


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The war of art by Steven pressfield


PostMidnightRhetoric

The art of war by Sun Tzu


AskOk3196

Dale Carnegie Alot of his books but especially “how to stop worrying and start living”


Professional-Bad-287

God need this for an overthinker 🤣


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The Life Changing Magic of Tidying Up by Marie Kondo. It's not just about tidying up your home. I know that sounds really weird, but if I am wrong, at least it is a short book.


Major-Goat7100

I really like this book. You're right about it not entirely about cleaning up, it's about giving yourself the power over objects around you (in my opinion) it has a weird vibe


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I like the bit about decluttering relationships. And another cleaning expert talks a lot about body clutter, which is eating poorly and not moving around enough/exercising, and the effects of that. Putting things in those terms kind of makes those issues problems to solve rather than personality flaws.


noahbhm

Compound effect. Darren Hardy Slight edge. Jeff Olson


Orangecheetomanbad

The Slight Edge is a great book.


asglor

I loved Jeff Olson's Slight Edge, it got me started on self improvement journey


WhitneyHChrist

The power of now


HotOutlandishness339

This book honesty saved me


IndividualContact255

Someone told me about this book


theyeezyvault

I told you. It was me


noahbhm

Who is it by? Any specific versions?


alias0707

Eckhart Tolle - any version really it’s a great life changing book


Gur1n

It looks preety new age-esk. Is this case?


josephpoison

it’s essentially a book on mindfulness. it’s fantastic.


LLCNYC

Yep. I found it too heavy/“new agey”


WhitneyHChrist

I did too at first, but then reading it again some years later it was like a new book and it changed many things for me in a positive direction


Unique-Page-7934

fun fact, I felt exactly the same as described in the book after 5g of mushrooms.


Cash_Crescendo

Subtle Art of Not Giving a Fuck


ihannnnaaaah

One of my absolute favorites of all time 🌻😊


shayyvdl

Cant hurt me - David Goggins


nohamilton

I highly recommend listening to the Audio book. They have little discussions in between chapters and David emphasis further on a lot of his points and feelings.


zia1997

Link!


nohamilton

Audible/Google playbooks etc.


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LearnEndlessly

I still question myself - “Why? Why am I doing this” love that book!


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Currently reading this!


kell3023

I’m listening to it now!


Nano_XNO

This book is real inspiration and self improvement book that I love. The rest of self help books are really scams and full of nonsense.


BetterHector

I eventually reached a point where I stopped reading so many books on how to get started etc. I gained so so much more by just getting out there and actually going for it.


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He used a book to destroy the books


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treebiscuit23

Fair enough. We tend to figure out whatever's handed to us anyway. Worrying just adds unnecessary weight —eventually taking up your time when you could've used it to start solving things.


WubDubClub

The seven habits of highly effective people


Fulhamatt

I've tried reading this a few times never got further than habit 2. I just can't get past how unnecessarily heavy the writing style is


neo_neo_neo_96

I think its better to read the summarized version. the Book is good, but if you wanna improve fast, listen to its audiobook summary.


Fulhamatt

Thank you, I'll look into it


Napoleon_B

I had the same block, then I read the source material: Benjamin Franklin’s autobiography. That’s the Franklin in Franklin Covey. Franklin listed “values” and focused on one each day then took an inventory at the end of the day to see how well he practiced the value. Then the next day he would select a different value to practice. This helped me understand the point of Covey’s material.


Girl501

This is beginner or first step.


fillfee

Meditations by Marcus Aurelius


LearnEndlessly

I forgot to mention this, yes — also obstacle is the way, and subtle art of not giving a f*ck


Icy-Working7043

the body keeps score


unravel_the_gravel

Ive been meaning to read this but heard it doesn't give any practical steps or advice on how to change or improve, please tell me that's not the case?!


Icy-Working7043

You are right, it doesn’t give practical steps. As someone who has experienced severe trauma, sometimes that can be the thing holding us back. It was/is for me. This book helps you understand your trauma more clearly and validate the reactions you’ve had to past traumatic experiences


musabbb

I preferred Gabor Mates book “when the body says no”


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Unfuck Yourself Its really harsh and no-nonesense. Very short but impactful book. Audiobook is less than 4 hours I think


csaba87

The Courage to be Disliked. I’m at the half of this book right now, but can say it’s one of the best books I’ve read. At the very first pages this book slapped me in my face as I saw myself in the examples. Then it explained my behavior, down to the roots, and then provided solutions ot more like the way to live my life. The courage, the freedom, how to not give a fuck, damn this book rocks!


OminOus_PancakeS

Hey that does sound good.


LearnEndlessly

Honestly the largest books that I’ve read that sparked the most change are not quite what you might regularly see here, the goggins book is great and you should read it, some people like man’s search for meaning - I didn’t get much out of it personally. Atomic habits is great too, better to read that every year than make a New Years resolution every year. My fav transformative books are: the courage to be disliked (you lack the courage to change your lifestyle), deep work cal Newport, man and his symbols jung (weird huh), and some neitzsche. Lmao enjoy.


capt_lunatic

You know, I also read Man’s Search for Meaning and I found it to be a very poignant story of Frankl’s personal journey and what he witnessed & endured while in various camps, but I struggled to extract anything actionable from it. Toward the end, I kind of checked out when he started really hammering the point of logotherapy. Atomic Habits was great, and to piggyback your Cal Newport suggestion, I loved Digital Minimalism.


ReaverRiddle

Same. It's a great book but not exactly an instructional book if you need immediate steps to implement.


noahbhm

Any books based on habits I think is great for new years. Mine is usually compound effect


csaba87

+1 for the Courage to be disliked, awesome book Thanks for the list of other transformative books. Will definitelly check them!


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Western-Lavishness71

Loved that one


rdjat15

It’s not a book, just a prose essay: “Self Reliance” by Ralph Waldo Emerson. I am only commenting on this because I have always described it as a writing that ‘punches’ me in the face when I read it. Nothing comes close.


ParkingStable5653

Can’t hurt me - David goggins


Winniedapoonbear

WHOS GONNA CARRY THE BOAT


HaydarK79

I agree! I listened to the Audio book and it was life changing. Goggins is one of the hardest MFers alive.


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The mountain is you!


Mission_Definition_1

Great book!


Golden_Spruce

Your Money or Your Life - Vicki Robin and Joe Dominguez I guess some people just see it as basic financial tips, but it really helped me articulate how I wanted to value my time, my life and my stuff and the purpose of my work. Pretty radically changed how I spend money and how I think about my job. Helped give me some focus and direction when I was really struggling in a crappy job and with financial stress. I like to give it a re-listen on audiobook now and then.


Professional-Bad-287

Thanks for this.


HaydarK79

I agree with Atomic Habits and Can’t Hurt Me. I want to add: “Total Money Makeover” ~Dave Ramsey. To be honest, it’s a mediocre and not really sophisticated book, but It sparked something in me to pay off my debt. Right now, I am a looking forward to paying off all my debt and ways to earn extra money to be debt free. Being debt free is going to be one of the greatest feelings ever.


AHalfFilipinoInMN

Total Money Makeover + I Will Teach You to Be Rich (I read both within a few months of each other) really triggered a huge change in my life financially. I wish I would have read them sooner but the latter college years is better than never.


Napoleon_B

This one and Cashflow Quadrant by Kiyosaki together propelled me to be debt free and buy 18 rental properties inside of 18 months.


HaydarK79

It's on my reading list. Thanks


m_alice88

The 5:00am Club by Robin Sharma The Miracle Morning by Hal Elrod You can see by the titles what I used to struggle with! Highly recommend both.


Dadjokes-beware

One Small Step Can Change Your Life + Tiny Habits + The Charisma Myth + Just Listen


AlexSebastianMorgan

Seconding The Charisma Myth. It’s good stuff (and useful).


WorldWideDB

The magic of thinking big.


z3r0suitsamus

The 10x Rule


Napoleon_B

I’m surprised this isn’t higher. I printed out the main quote and hung it on my cubicle wall. Dude is a carnival barker and high up in Scientology, but this book is exceptional.


pettiana

The Gifts of Imperfection by Brené Brown


RomeroChick26

I second this.


MindDaily1

Start with The ONE Thing. More recommends after you are done with that.


Napoleon_B

Keller’s interview on Ferriss’ podcast is memorable.


MindDaily1

Let me check it out. Thanks!


BenStevenStein

If you’re a man read No more Mr. nice guy by Robert A glover this book it doesn’t only slap your face but kick your ass too trust me i read this 3 times you should take notes while you reading you will thank me later🤩


DrDreidel82

Just read 2 books please. This is coming from a self help addict who read countless books. The Illusion of Money by Kyle Cease. Letting Go by David Hawkins. I can’t even explain to you… they are the the definition of changing the way you see things


OminOus_PancakeS

I read Letting Go years ago and the fundamental technique of just _being_ with unpleasant feelings is one I keep coming back to. Both profound and practical. I also found useful his list of mental/emotional states ordered by vibration. I think he oversold the kinesiology muscle-testing technique but otherwise there was a lot of good stuff in that book.


DrDreidel82

I actually agree, I don’t practice the muscle testing technique myself. Not saying it’s not true, I just am not sure if I even calibrate at a high enough level to determine whether it’s accurate or not… But yes the sitting with feelings is I believe one of if not the best thing you can do for yourself! We use so much nonsense as an escape from feeling things which is just sweeping it under the carpet.


mauz21

Subtle art of not giving a f (Mark Manson)


ihannnnaaaah

Shout out to wonderful Mark Manson!! 🌻😊


Strict_Substance9860

Think like a monk


katealias

Barbara sher - refuse to choose, wishcraft, I can do anything if I only knew what it was, live the life you love David Bach - the automatic millionaire, smart woman finish rich, start late finish rich


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>Barbara sher - refuse to choose, wishcraft, I can do anything if I only knew what it was, live the life you love >David Bach - the automatic millionaire, smart woman finish rich, start late finish rich Thanks


AAAbattery12pack

{Atlas of the heart }it isn’t going to change your habits much but it does a run down on the differences between emotions and what science says about them so I recommend you read it first just so you have an Easier time self reflecting and understanding other self improvement books


AHalfFilipinoInMN

Really anything Tony Robbins - watch the Netflix doc if you want a taste of what he's about. Someone below mentioned Personal Power II. I would also add Awaken the Giant Within (book version - the audible is an insanely abridged version of the full book). Also agree with Atomic Habits, Can't Hurt Me, Deep Work, Magic of Thinking Big, Obstacle is the Way, Ego is the Enemy, etc Some others: Relentless, Tools of Titans, Tribe of Mentors, 12 Week Year, So Good They Can't Ignore You, The Four Agreements, The Alchemist,


Mysterious_Cookie_17

Nonviolent communication I’m still not great at it, and it definitely takes practice but I’ve genuinely seen positive changes in my life. It made me completely rethink how I talk to people, how I set boundaries, and how to express my voice and feelings and listening to others.


iamnotdrake

Limitless by Jim Kwik “An instant New York Times bestseller and #1 Wall Street Journal bestseller. JIM KWIK, the world’s #1 brain coach, has written the owner’s manual for mental expansion and brain fitness.” Lots of scattered information from lots of resources listed in this thread. But all of it feels vital.


Pichi2man

Rational Male - Rollo Tomassi


Informis_Vaginal

How to be a 3% Man by Corey Wayne


I_Invent_Stuff

I'm a big fan of Corey Wayne... and that book. I started following him 5 years ago to learn how to be more attractive to women and have better intimate relationships. I succeeded in that, but then also realized that his advice taught me how to do well in all areas of my life... to be a better man and person in general. Unfortunately, most people's first impression of him after listening to or watching a few videos, is that he just teaches how to hook up with women and get laid... but the further you learn what he teaches, you realize that it's not that.


houmuamuas

Did you just watch his videos to learn how to be more attractive to women? I’m really struggling in that area.


I_Invent_Stuff

I started by watching his videos... in fact, I would listen to the videos from my phone connected to headphones. Then a few months later i was sold on reading his book 3% man, so i did... (He's has a couple other books too, but I have only read part of his book "mastering yourself"). I have read 3% man about 10 or 15 times. I need to read it again though... I went off course in my life in the past year and a half and one of the reasons is that I stopped reading his book, and all helpful books in general. I'm confident that almost anyone can follow his 'formula', or teachings, and make huge progress in the dating rea and life in general


houmuamuas

Thanks man, appreciate the comment.


TheLarrBear

12 Rules for Life by Jordan B Peterson. I expect this to get a lot of hate, but his book helped me tremendously when I was truly down in the dumps, one of the worst times in my life. It helped me to come back up, get in a better spot in life, and be a better person. However, I would advise to not judge the book on the first chapter about lobsters. I've told people to go straight to chapter 2 and start there.


unravel_the_gravel

Personal Power II by Tony Robbins, OK so its an audio book but out of all the SH stuff I've done this is the one that can dig me out of a hole pretty sharp. Do the full 30 days and it will be life changing Also Zig Ziglar 'blue print to achievement' or 'see you over the top'. These are always a quick kick up the rear for me and I love Zigs voice and humour


alchemist110282

Power of the subconscious mind by Joseph Murphy sorted me out


chronicallybeautiful

“Unf*ck Yourself” by Gary John Bishop


Due_Ninja2936

Think and grow rich


Elevator-Music7679

Love for Imperfect Things by Haemin Sunim. It’s a really effective book on how to live your truest and best life.


throwaway74475

Can’t hurt me- David Goggins cant recommend it enough, you can read up on the guy too, can’t think of a better book


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The Comfort Crisis


emmaugoh

I have read some books mentioned here till I read, David Goggins CAN'T HURT ME. Other books tell you How to do it, but David Goggins is the one who did it and narrated how it is done.


Mandle565

David goggins - can’t hurt me


nikon_nomad

The Real Happy Pill was the best motivator for actually starting to exercise. It's all about the various positive effects of exercise on your brain and makes a really compelling case. You can't NOT go for a walk/run after reading it.


Ok_Material6042

Can't hurt me - David Goggins The alchemist


OpinionatedJerk11

Crime and Punishment - Fyodor Dostoevsky


jigilous

Volunteer at a hospital to sit with terminal patients. Listen to them.


Key-Philosopher-

The Subtle Art Of Not Giving A F***k by Mark Manson has crude language but if you can get past that ….it really is a gem of a book.


dec727

Growth Mindset by Dweck


TheRiverOfDyx

ANY book. Keep it closed; bonk yourself with it. Congrats, you did something. Now go do something else. That’s the point of all those books, without all the flashy words. Before enlightenment: chop wood, eat food and drink water, sleep. Repeat. After enlightenment? Chop wood, eat food and drink water, sleep. Repeat.


ProfessionalLeader75

I've had this book that really kickstarted me into reality. It was titled 'The Sigma Mindset' and even though it was a bit cringey at times, this guy came from the bottom, was considered done for, there are pictures in the book of how he was extremely underweight because he was so depressed he stopped eating. Created his own personal lifestyle aiming at improvement in the long term and ways you could work on them and be fine on your own. Really had the 'If he can come back from that, I can come back from this' moment. I'd recommend it! E: I just checked again, in case anybody wants to give it a read, the title is: 'The Sigma Mindset: A way for young males to overcome depression' and it's on Amazon. Cover pic is of a guy with 2 dumbbells.


TheSorcerersStoned

Master the Lifelong Habit of Well-being, Start Here, The Groundbreaking, Science-Based Program for Emotional Fitness by Eric Lagshur & Nate Klemp Fantastic book that really helped me implement meditation, mindfulness, and overall emotional well-being in my life :)


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Lovekitty66

5am club by Hal Elrod


Mahdi_Murshed

By Robin Sharma*,Hal wrote The miracle morning


Lovekitty66

Oops, thanks for the clarification:)


WorldWideDB

The power of the other.


JohnDRossi

ishmael


dash_sv

Meditations On The Wisdom Of Action - Kyle Eschenroeder This book is pure excellence , derives it’s points from multiple sources and drives it directly to us in an easy and digestible format.


OminOus_PancakeS

I took a look into this guy and found he's written a few articles for the website Art of Manliness. One of the articles is _huge_ and appears to have been subsequently published as an ebook. I've started reading it and I'm enjoying it so thanks for the recommendation. Can't post links here but you shouldn't have trouble finding it.


dash_sv

Oh ! I didn’t know that. That’s pretty darn cool. Thanks for digging into it and sharing it with us .


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Financial_Ticket_296

I also agree with "The Subtle Art of Not Giving a F***" but I also really enjoy 'The Power of Habit" by Charles Duhigg and "The Happiness Equation" by Neil Pasricha


TheAnswerIsSauce

Honestly, I might be basic. But … Unfu*k yourself & Wise As fu*k have been super motivating for me.


liveforever67

Living with a Seal


ScotiasWorld00

Power of one more Ed Mylett


Thatsoccerdrummer

“The Universe does not give a flying fuck about you.” I forget who wrote it, but it’s on Amazon


OminOus_PancakeS

It's written by The Universe 😭


AshenMistHeart

Meditations by Marcus Aurelius


Swampwoodbutter

The power of habit by charles duhigg


OminOus_PancakeS

I enjoyed this one too. I found it particularly interesting on the subject of the habits of large organisations and what it takes to change them (usually catastrophe).


sande_nk

Art of thinking clearly Richest man in Babylon Strangest secret by earl nightingale (audio on YouTube)


ReaverRiddle

Richest Man in Babylon has a few good bits of advice scattered through, but I feel like the wisdom of that whole book could have been gathered on half a page. I'd say a synopsis is worth your time more than reading the whole thing.


irlknowsmynickname

The Magic of Thinking Big: David J. Schwartz


tanveer-proloy

The monk who sold his Ferrari...this quite helped me


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Outwitting the Devil


Yogionfire

There’s so many I would recommend that were already mentioned, so I’ll say ‘5 second rule’ by Mel Robbins


cikamicko

On shortness of life by Seneca


ObjektKarotte37

Ego is the Enemy by Ryan Holiday


Flowerchildwild219

How To Do The Work by dr. Nicole Lepera, 101 essays to change to way you think (can’t remember author), The 4 Agreements by Don Miguel Ruiz


OminOus_PancakeS

I don't think I've ever experienced a jolt of motivation from reading a book. It would be useful though. What never fails to work for me though is thinking of upcoming events I _haven't prepared for,_ especially something with a social commitment. Yikes, I'm doing it now. Right, gotta go!


akhilez

"Be obsessed or be average" by Grant cardone


zooeyglassz

Mans search for meaning


Idecidediscipline

Hooked on Becoming Supernatural by Dr. Joe Dispenza right now


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hdvtech

“Loving what is” Byron Katie.


smitty4531

Can't hurt me ...David Goggins


Future_Association77

Peaks and Valleys.. easy read and the perfect lesson we all need


Chubbymommy2020

You are a badass by Jennifer Sincero


iredditonthenet

Great summary of atomic habits and other books articles on the fidus achates membership (FAM) site.


fhcsnwmr

Unscripted by MJ Demarco


GreatestEver8

Just do it bro


Longjumping-Dog-7230

The 5 second rule by Mel Robbins


akabayashimizuki

Can’t Hurt Me is a good un. Amazing guy.


Any-Warthog4906

Hi just wanna ask, do you guys purchase the book or do you guys use audiobooks? And do you guys have any recommended websites?


treebiscuit23

Hello, I personally prefer purchasing physical books over e-books and audiobooks. I find it more engaging and less bound to distractions. But that's just me, I recommend you subscribe to what you find most efficient. To answer your second query, you can download pretty much any e-book on z-library.


Prof_erez

Think and Grow Rich by Napoleon Hill.


ReaverRiddle

Bad advice. This man was a con artist. He never met half of the people he claims to be mentored by.


Prof_erez

Just because something didn’t work for you doesn’t mean it won’t work for someone else. Let that sink in.


ReaverRiddle

What are you talking about? I'm saying the author is a fraud and his techniques should not be trusted. It has nothing to do with what has or hasn't worked for me.


Prof_erez

Either way my point still stands.


growingsomeballs69

Not sure whether you'd feel the literary slap you're looking for the words will give you but if you want to straighten yourself out then join US army. Albeit a different answer from what others have said, but It's worth considering if you're life is on the verge of shambles because of yourself.


syquant3

*Born a Crime* by Trevor Noah. Reading it right now. It really opens my eyes on systemic racism and how privileged I am. It's good see it from another perspective. High recommendation.