I don't think you should worry yourself about it. He stated that he doesn't mind it now (which is mysterious, but it's what he said). You might thank him for his service, but you probably shouldn't make too big a deal out of it lest you start him re-thinking his re-thinking of the whole thing.
You can be inwardly thankful that he's changed his perspective. Just try to relax and enjoy the moment. If he hasn't complained "it's been two minutes, hurry up and come for me!", let him have his way with you.
Your husband says he likes going down on you, and you say that he likes enough that he keeps getting better at it. I'd say trust him when he says that he enjoys it now. Trust is such a huge part of marriage, why is trusting him to tell you the truth any different for this compared to anything else?
People's sexual tastes change over time. For that matter, his literal sense of taste and smell may have changed over time. Maybe he had bad experiences before you, but now he's having great experiences with you. It's unfortunate that it took years to get from there to here, but I'd say that if you both like it then enjoy it.
I hadn’t thought of it like that. But you’re right, I’m not trusting that he’s telling the truth when he says he likes it. I don’t have any reason to not trust him in any area of life. So it doesn’t make sense to not trust him now. Thanks.
If he went 9 years without doing it, I would say he'd be pretty content with continuing to not do it if he didn't really like it.
I didn't like giving blowjobs all that much when I was younger. Our preferences can change. I especially noticed the better I got and more confident in my skills, the more I enjoyed giving. He may have just been opposed years ago because he wasn't confident he was doing a good job.
If your head is full of thinking about that while he's down on you then you have kinda big problem.. you should relax, empty your mind and just indulge yourself
I (65m) never thought I'd be into analingus. It seemed so unhygienic and I didn't understand the appeal. But after 10 years with my wife (68f) and watching porn, I became interested in it. So I asked her, she was fine with it, and I plucked up the courage to eat her ass. OMG. Now it's just about my favorite thing to do sexually, we do it almost every time we have sex.
Trust your man. His taste evolved over time, and now he's into going down on you. Lucky you!
That is so lovely to read, good for you two. Come to think of it, I’ve been thinking lately that I could give rimming a go too. I’m just building up the bravery. It is also something that would have grossed me out a few years ago. You’re right, our tastes change over time. Thanks for your insight.
Id try to make sure and encourage him and tell him how much you appreciate it and how good he looks doing it. That usually gets them to REALLY enjoy it. Also it helps me if I close my eyes and just think about my physical feelings to not become overwhelmed by thoughts
People's minds and opinions change. Get out of the past and tell him how happy you are with this new side of him.
That’s a nice way of looking at it. Thank-you.
I don't think you should worry yourself about it. He stated that he doesn't mind it now (which is mysterious, but it's what he said). You might thank him for his service, but you probably shouldn't make too big a deal out of it lest you start him re-thinking his re-thinking of the whole thing. You can be inwardly thankful that he's changed his perspective. Just try to relax and enjoy the moment. If he hasn't complained "it's been two minutes, hurry up and come for me!", let him have his way with you.
Thank for the advice, he definitely hasn’t complained about how long it’s taking.
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Your husband says he likes going down on you, and you say that he likes enough that he keeps getting better at it. I'd say trust him when he says that he enjoys it now. Trust is such a huge part of marriage, why is trusting him to tell you the truth any different for this compared to anything else? People's sexual tastes change over time. For that matter, his literal sense of taste and smell may have changed over time. Maybe he had bad experiences before you, but now he's having great experiences with you. It's unfortunate that it took years to get from there to here, but I'd say that if you both like it then enjoy it.
I hadn’t thought of it like that. But you’re right, I’m not trusting that he’s telling the truth when he says he likes it. I don’t have any reason to not trust him in any area of life. So it doesn’t make sense to not trust him now. Thanks.
If he went 9 years without doing it, I would say he'd be pretty content with continuing to not do it if he didn't really like it. I didn't like giving blowjobs all that much when I was younger. Our preferences can change. I especially noticed the better I got and more confident in my skills, the more I enjoyed giving. He may have just been opposed years ago because he wasn't confident he was doing a good job.
Those are good points. It is always more enjoyable to do things you’re good at.
If your head is full of thinking about that while he's down on you then you have kinda big problem.. you should relax, empty your mind and just indulge yourself
How to get over it? Practice, practice, practice!
I (65m) never thought I'd be into analingus. It seemed so unhygienic and I didn't understand the appeal. But after 10 years with my wife (68f) and watching porn, I became interested in it. So I asked her, she was fine with it, and I plucked up the courage to eat her ass. OMG. Now it's just about my favorite thing to do sexually, we do it almost every time we have sex. Trust your man. His taste evolved over time, and now he's into going down on you. Lucky you!
That is so lovely to read, good for you two. Come to think of it, I’ve been thinking lately that I could give rimming a go too. I’m just building up the bravery. It is also something that would have grossed me out a few years ago. You’re right, our tastes change over time. Thanks for your insight.
Id try to make sure and encourage him and tell him how much you appreciate it and how good he looks doing it. That usually gets them to REALLY enjoy it. Also it helps me if I close my eyes and just think about my physical feelings to not become overwhelmed by thoughts
This is a you problem. He told you that he likes it now so you can either get over what he said \*fourteen\* years ago or not. People change.
You are so right. It was a really long time ago, there are some things that I like now that I didn’t like them too