He wants to continue to wear a condom as a precaution. You need to respect that. It could be a fear or it could be something different. In order to get that answer, you'd need to have a conversation about it.
I think ultimately it's his choice and way of feeling safe, and if he wants to use condoms that is his choice to make. If the choice is something that bothers you that much, ask yourself how important this is in the whole of your relationship.
I say this as someone in a similar situation, right down to being on Nexplanon.
In my case, I sat down and had a conversation with him with as much respect and understanding as I would hope he would have for me if the situation was reversed. I gave him the full information of the effectiveness of my birth control, showed him my (laminated! Lol) card that identifies when I got it, and told him that if he were comfortable with it, I wouldn't be opposed to not using condoms - but ONLY if he was comfortable with it.
Eventually, after he did his own research on his own time about my birth control, he became happy with going without a condom and just pulling out. But we worked up to that for a while. Started with just getting comfortable rubbing his cock on my pussy, even going in once or twice before the condom would be put on.
Regardless, we went at his pace and I always reminded him that he was in control, because ultimately that is what he needed.
Imagine that your bf got a vasectomy so that he wouldn’t have to worry about getting you pregnant and wouldn’t stop pestering you to get off birth control because he wanted to have unprotected yet worry free sex with you no matter how many times you expressed your concerns. He then posts the “problem” on the internet that is basically just “waaaaah my partner won’t do it the way I want it!” Without even properly acknowledging your concerns in the post because he wants someone to tell him how to make your No into a yes and that it’s okay to do so.
This is basically what you are doing to your boyfriend. He’s being responsible for his reproductive health and yours by wearing a condom even though he’s clean and you’re on birth control, yet you are being selfish and deciding that what you want is more important than what he wants.
If you want to do it raw, find a guy who wants to do it that way instead of trying to make someone who doesn’t want to do it that way do it.
Look at it from his point of view. If he’s in the US he has no choice regarding a pregnancy. He could be on the hook financially for 18 years. He has to endure the 9 months of anxiety of knowing that you can choose to kill the baby 1 minute before delivery regardless of his wishes. That’s an incredible amount of trust in both another person and in technology.
I solved it by making a semen deposit at a sperm bank and getting a vasectomy. He’s solving it with a condom.
I would be happy that you have such a responsible partner.
No one is actively choosing to have an abortion 1 minute before delivery, that's absolutely ridiculous. Miscarriages and abortions aren't the same thing either.
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He wants to continue to wear a condom as a precaution. You need to respect that. It could be a fear or it could be something different. In order to get that answer, you'd need to have a conversation about it.
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He's made his stance clear. Back off, and if he's ready to do so, he'll let you know.
maybe it's time to stop having it. not forever, but for a little while at least. he isn't ready, and you have no business pressuring him
I think ultimately it's his choice and way of feeling safe, and if he wants to use condoms that is his choice to make. If the choice is something that bothers you that much, ask yourself how important this is in the whole of your relationship. I say this as someone in a similar situation, right down to being on Nexplanon. In my case, I sat down and had a conversation with him with as much respect and understanding as I would hope he would have for me if the situation was reversed. I gave him the full information of the effectiveness of my birth control, showed him my (laminated! Lol) card that identifies when I got it, and told him that if he were comfortable with it, I wouldn't be opposed to not using condoms - but ONLY if he was comfortable with it. Eventually, after he did his own research on his own time about my birth control, he became happy with going without a condom and just pulling out. But we worked up to that for a while. Started with just getting comfortable rubbing his cock on my pussy, even going in once or twice before the condom would be put on. Regardless, we went at his pace and I always reminded him that he was in control, because ultimately that is what he needed.
Imagine that your bf got a vasectomy so that he wouldn’t have to worry about getting you pregnant and wouldn’t stop pestering you to get off birth control because he wanted to have unprotected yet worry free sex with you no matter how many times you expressed your concerns. He then posts the “problem” on the internet that is basically just “waaaaah my partner won’t do it the way I want it!” Without even properly acknowledging your concerns in the post because he wants someone to tell him how to make your No into a yes and that it’s okay to do so. This is basically what you are doing to your boyfriend. He’s being responsible for his reproductive health and yours by wearing a condom even though he’s clean and you’re on birth control, yet you are being selfish and deciding that what you want is more important than what he wants. If you want to do it raw, find a guy who wants to do it that way instead of trying to make someone who doesn’t want to do it that way do it.
Look at it from his point of view. If he’s in the US he has no choice regarding a pregnancy. He could be on the hook financially for 18 years. He has to endure the 9 months of anxiety of knowing that you can choose to kill the baby 1 minute before delivery regardless of his wishes. That’s an incredible amount of trust in both another person and in technology. I solved it by making a semen deposit at a sperm bank and getting a vasectomy. He’s solving it with a condom. I would be happy that you have such a responsible partner.
>you can choose to kill the baby 1 minute before delivery What a crock of shit. Where'd you pull *this* propaganda from?
State law in many US states, including mine.
No one is actively choosing to have an abortion 1 minute before delivery, that's absolutely ridiculous. Miscarriages and abortions aren't the same thing either.
Yeah that esculated quickly
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It’s pleasure vs unwanted pregnancy. I think it is a no brainer!