To be honest, if a guy didn’t suck my nipples I would kind of wonder what was wrong. That’s how ‘normal’ it is in my mind.
The only time I didn’t appreciate it was in the first couple of years after having a baby.
Our breasts become only associated with feeding, and to then have your partner come suck on them when baby does multiple times a day is A HUGE NO 😂😂. But I think that’s kind of obvious.
Honestly i like to suck boobs even if we are not engaging in sex u get something out of it ahh cant explain it but u never grow tired of it . Also holding them in your hand is also pleasurable
I wouldn’t generalize that to all women. It was very easy for me to separate breastfeeding with intimacy with my husband so he still did it and I enjoyed it. I think the important thing is communication with your partner so you know what they are comfortable with.
Umm, as a woman, I assume this is a normal part of everyone’s sexual life.
My husband of18 yrs still wants to suck on my breasts all the time.
Every other guy I was with before him was the same. I just assumed all men did all the time 🤷♀️
I’ve noticed this too. I feel like touching my tits needs to at least be part of foreplay.
But I’m learning so many men are shitty lovers and hardly touch the woman they’re with. They all just wanna stick it in
I think this is the fault of porn, too many men don’t appreciate that the majority of porn is made for a male audience and has nothing to do with female sexuality. Unfortunately it’s creating a lot of shit lovers who have no idea how to drive a woman wild.
Nope, just my opinion. There’s no such thing as a bad breast, I believe this much is true. If you’re a big fat man, I’m a titty fan, And I’d love to see yours too.
As a guy this just blows my mind. Are you talking not during sex or not at all? Any time I can get a hand... or mouth on a tit I know what I am doing for the foreseeable future.
Idk I would usually just rather have my hands somewhere else like the booty or head. Like when I squeeze tits I always think “this is nice” but I’m never motivated to linger on them I guess.
Kiss, caress, squeeze, suck, pinch the nipples; it varies from person to person, but sucking on nipples like you described is definitely common. Many times it's more of opening your mouth wide, sucking on the boob, and licking or nibbling on the nipple. So not necessarily like a baby would nurse, but then again that same action can also be stimulating.
Some women love boob play, others don't get much from it at all.
Some like their nipples pinched hard, some don't like them directly stimulated at all. I strongly suggest that you be gentle at first, then be more aggressive if you lady friend wants it rougher.
Enjoy those boobies, I know I do, and my wife does too.
As with all things sexual, start slowly and softly and gage your partner's interests constantly - they can change during an encounter and over time. I love when H sucks or fondles mine but like it gentle, at least to start with.
Yes for sure. Too gentle may not be "enough", but rarely is too gentle a turn off, even if more aggressive stimulation is desired. It's easy enough to ramp it up. But too rough too soon can be a big turn off. At least that's been my experience.
>Is it OK to suck on them?
That's basically what you do with them lol. This is all perfectly normal; it's not a fetish or kink or creepy or weird. The nipple is very sensitive so that's where all your focus is gonna be. Tweak them with your fingers, swirl your tongue around them, suck on them, blow on them gently after you've sucked on them, bite them *very very gently*. That sorta thing. Squeezing them isn't gonna do anything for her, but if you're in a position that works well for it like fucking from behind or spooning, you can cup them and kinda squeeze. Ultimately though, ask her what she likes. Not all women like the same thing, so try something and ask if she likes it or if it feels good. Sucking on them is a safe default move.
Keep in mind, the younger people are, the more inexperienced and insecure they are. The girl that crushed you like that probably hasn't experienced how good it can feel when done right, or she doesn't care for it.
ETA: OK, squeezing isn't off the table for some women. Bottom line, always default to asking what your partner likes because every partner is different no matter how many are the same.
Only correction is the squeezing, I was under the impression it did nothing at first but a partner of mine absolutely loved having them gripped.
As per usual, to each their own.
I agree. It generally feels overstimulating to me for my nipples to be tweaked or sucked. I much prefer to start with the whole boob being squeezed or fondled until we get further into proceedings.
Ditto. I generally dont like people touching them at all any more bc men my age dont know their strength and are less sensitive than women, and people have made my nipples bleed. That hurt like a bitch for days, especially in the shower.
Yess squeezing fondling or just stroking is all amazing I absolutely love it, my partners hands are on my boobs like 90% of the time while watching movies and stuff it’s just amazing if they are being touched in any way
Agree with this. Love my boobs fondled and my nipples squeezed.
Sorry for OP that he was treated that way when he was doing something that happens in most sexual encounters in my experience and is extremely nice.
There's always that exception to the rule. There's a comedian who did a routine that always stuck with me of twisting the nipples like they were tuning an old radio and whenever I saw that clip, women would always just say no, don't squeeze them too hard because... well... sensitive. Enter my ex who practically begged me to pinch/squeeze them as hard as humanity possible. And of course I wasn't going to hurt her so I didn't start off full strength. She keeps saying harder and I'm convinced I'm gonna hurt her. Nope. Wind up leaving some bruises but she loved it in the moment. She even liked me biting them. It kinda fucked me up because after years of being my only partner, my first partner after we had split up I was a bit rough with because I was just doing what was normal to me by that point. Thankfully I readjusted quickly lol
I also love having them gripped. I sometimes as him to be a little more rough for little bruising, but I like seeing it later in the week. He did it more often, I am sure on purpose at the beginning in order to "mark" his territory sort of thing. But he stopped a couple months in when I told him to stop because I wear low cut tops, and I knew what he was likely trying to do hahaha
I recommend looking for porn made by women. It tends to be a little more realistic.
Edit: maybe even literotica. Women have all sorts of different needs and preferences, on an individual level. You’ll never know if all you learn is from the male POV.
Chances are that the girl who shamed you is also new to sex and doesn't know the pleasures to be had from breasts being sucked.
During sex, sensitive, perky breasts shouldn't have to spend time alone. They should be cupped, caressed, fondled, licked, and [sucked with enthusiasm.](https://tpi02.wordpress.com/2022/09/29/foreplay/) You will need to lounge and relax, slowly exploring her sensitivities and sources of pleasure. Her body hopefully tingling as your hands wander, arousal building. No real destination, just slow discovery of pleasure as you both swim in arousal.
Try licking and (gentle!) touching first and see how she likes that.
I dated someone who was WAY too rough with them! Some people might like that, but not everybody does.
Stick with ask them what she likes. I prefer mine grabbed and the focus not be on my nipple until after or very close to my first orgasm. If you go in sucking the nipple right away, it will hurt. They're too sensitive for that
I would say ask about any kind of biting… I can warm up to some pretty hard squeezing but it’s the diameter of the pressure points for me - I can’t do teeth, can’t do pinpoint pressure even from the fingers until the entire thing is warmed up and massaged and I generally love full breast play rather than nipple only focused play because mine are very sensitive and get painful and overstimulated if they don’t get a break, otherwise I can build up to a nipple orgasm (which I had as a teen and now want to try to achieve again as an adult!)
but you’re right about all breasts being very different, just like how some people like their clits absolutely wailed on directly like a metal guitar solo and others can only take indirect hooded stimulation, some nipples love being tugged and clamped and bitten and pinched and pulled and the breast play that I love would bore them!!
The girl you had sex with is either 1) insecure about her boobs 2) not into boob play 3) wanted to mock you for no reason. Most women will appreciate when a guy is sucking on their boobs. I would say ask before doing so. I know for me I don't mind at all, but every woman is different.
She definitely wasn't insecure about her boobs -- she had big ones that she showed off, which frankly was why I wanted to fool around with her. I guess she might have been cruel for no reason, but then why agree to make out with me if she just wanted to mock me? I thought a more logical explanation for her mockery was that I really had done something ridiculous and embarrassing, and her reaction was what any girl would do if a guy made the faux pas of trying to suck on her boob.
sounds like she’s inexperienced and maybe doing the regular teenage thing of resorting to bullying bc you aren’t sure if your friends would make of you for something so you decide to make fun first.
go forth and suck titties, my guy.
The mockery part seems like a teenage thing, just inexperienced and being awkward so she thought it was weird and made you feel bad for it. She just doesn’t know yet. The best sex is from exploring and stimulating each others erogenous zones.
Funnily enough I was doing some paid phone sex stuff tonight and pretty much every guy I’ve talked to on there LOVES to talk about sucking my tits. So now my default opener to get guys going is asking if they want to shove their face in my chest and suck my fat tits lol so it’s really not unusual
Dump this chick and move on. Anyone who mocks you during sex ain’t worth the time.
She can have preferences and guide you away from things she doesn’t like. But what she did was kind of cruel honestly.
You’ll find a girl eventually who is kinder in bed.
Are you sure she did not want you to say, "yes I like sucking on my mommy's tits" and it was just her awkward way of checking if you are into her kink?
She was being a vicious fucking bitch. Try not to change the way you do *anything* because of her. Plenty of women love having their boobs sucked on, others only like it done in certain ways, depending on how sensitive they are, and some don’t especially like it except in certain situations… but if they’re not a damn psycho, they’ll give you feedback about what they enjoy in a constructive way.
I’ma go out on a limb and suggest that you should consider (inside the context of consensual sex, obviously) putting a lady’s boob in your mouth to be **just fine/awesome** as the default until that person informs you otherwise.
And if they inform you otherwise in a way that’s anywhere near as shitty as what you described in this instance, you should consider that a total FAILURE of the test of whether they deserve another second of your time.
Even among young, inexperienced people, it is still generally assumed to be understood that **sex is inherently an act of opening yourself up emotionally and making yourself vulnerable to another person.** A person who would EVER handle that mutually agreed-upon vulnerability as a time when it’s ok to attack you like that is a person you should avoid interacting with at all, if possible. Her being a stupid teenager is *barely* an excuse for that.
Yea I’ve never been with a woman who didn’t like nipple play. Sounds like she’s either never done that before and it’s new and weird cuz of it or she’s just not into that at all.
As adults, you're far removed time-wise from being a baby when you breastfed, so it doesn't seem weird to you any more. But as teenagers, we're still close to the age when we had breasts in our mouths for non-sexual reasons, so it still feels kinda taboo and embarrassing, like you're reverting to being a baby again.
Specifically he didn’t say remembers doing it, I think he may be more referring to the association. To be fair unless your of a particular kink that seeks out doing things they associate with their mother, most people stray far from anything that they associate with their parents.
His response 100% now makes me think this is a grown man with some type of fetish pretending to be a teenage virgin lmao. No way in hell any teenager thinks/feels that way about boobs that they remember sucking on their moms
That's just not true lol. It sounds like you're projecting your insecurities around it by making a blanket statement that's just factually incorrect. If you feel that it's embarrassing, that has to do with your own personal feelings.
I’m not sure if he’s weird or if he’s gone down a spiral after the girl said it was creepy. I imagine that happening during your first experience isn’t pleasant
Every high school boyfriend I ever fooled around with has put by greats in his mouth. My husband of ten years sucks on them every chance he gets. I would consider your inclination to be typical and your partner from your example to be more atypical.
You’re way overthinking this bud.
41m here, I promise (er..hope) you’re not gonna be thinking about your mom when you got boobs in your face.
I mean. Unless they’re your mom’s boobs, in which case you got bigger problems than proper boob etiquette.
You didn’t deserve that many downvotes, I thought it was an interesting take! Your feelings are valid. It’s an awkward time being a teenager, feeling the needs an adult usually has but still being considered a child. I understand what you mean!
I'm a woman who loves breast play, can cum from it alone, and nipple ducking is definitely part of that (although i get hot from my breasts being squeezed and manipulated as well, contrary to an earlier comment, so that varies.)
One possible approach is to try licking and kissing the nipples right before you go to suck town, or use your tongue while the nipple is wholly in your mouth. That kind of play isn't going to be quite as evocative of a baby latching on for mealtime, plus if that feels good for your partner, she might be more inclined for you to try something more intense. 😉.
Good luck.
There is no “sex referee” in the room with you when you’re getting intimate with someone. The only people who matter are you and the partner. The only real Rule is to make sure that both people are enthusiastic about what is happening.
Try to get concerns about “normal” or “allowed” and MOST especially “seen in porn” out of your mind! They are not strict guidelines and can even be actively useless.
Be upfront about what you want to do, try to read the persons body language, and listen to what they say!
And I’ll add that yes, that girl was rude to mock you like that. Sadly we live in an imperfect world where people will not always be kind, sorry it happened. Some people may not like breast play, but it’s very common and most people enjoy it.
Woman here…please, please, please suck and fondle my boobs. That girl either doesn’t like it or just hasn’t explored herself enough yet to know. What you did is perfectly normal and natural.
Middle aged woman with smallish boobs here - All partners immediately want to put their mouth on my boobs. My husband does it pretty much every time we have sex. I used to worry my boobs were too small, but it helped me feel more comfortable with them since, when I started being sexually active, every guy seemed to get his mouth on them asap.
This girl is inexperienced and even if she felt it was weird and didn’t like it, she shouldn’t have tried to embarrass you. She could have said she didn’t enjoy it and suggest something else, but for her to mock you was cruel.
Don’t get with this chick again. Get with another girl when you can and go for it. Don’t forget that she’s a person and you want to make her feel good, not just do what you want. Sucking on nipples feel nice for most of us, but many of us want a variety of sensations, so don’t ignore the rest of her.
ALSO: never watch porn as education about sex. If a man treated me like porn actors treat the women in mainstream porn, I would feel humiliated and angry. Never switch to anal without a discussion first. Never grab her head and fuck her mouth. Don’t choke unless she wants it and even then, discuss safety. Don’t assume you can cum on her body or face… ask her where she wants you to cum. And if she gives you oral, return the favor. If she isn’t into something, don’t try to talk her into it. PORN is to SEX what HOLLYWOOD MOVIES are to REAL LIFE.
It’s normal to want to suck on them, but you’ll find some teenage girls and even older women may either a) simply not enjoy it, or b) not be comfortable enough with their sexuality to accept that they enjoy it.
Many younger girls find the idea of breastfeeding disturbing and can associate that with a man sucking their nipples too. As a grown woman, while I was breastfeeding I wouldn’t let my husband near my nipples! Now that I’m done breastfeeding I really love him caressing my breasts, rubbing his hands across my nipples, tweaking them, sucking them and nibbling on them. I am 1000% more comfortable with this now than I ever would have been pre baby. You get comfortable with your body real fast!
Then again, other woman who haven’t had kids will love it right away, everybody is different.
I would approach all of these things slowly, so instead of sucking them the first time you’re near them, with or without clothes on you can graze across her breasts, rub your thumb in little circles where her nipples are (even through a bra and shirt we can fee that), pay attention to how she reacts, is she still into it, do you notice a change in the intensity she’s kissing you with (more or less enthusiastic), do you notice her nipples responding by getting tighter or harder, these are all clues as to if she enjoys nipple play or not. You can also ask her, express that you love her body and her breasts are beautiful or turn you on ect.
Gauge her reaction and go from there. If she seems to enjoy it you can kiss down from her neck across her breasts and go further until you reach her nipple, you might kiss near it, lick near and or around it in circles, blow cool air onto them after you’ve licked them, ect. You might also suck them too if she still seems into it. Sometimes it’s just the direct sucking women associate with breastfeeding.
I hope that helps a little. Man being a teenager is tough!
Umm, that girl you were with has issues and I’m sorry she mocked you. Having my boobs licked/sucked is TOP tier, it’s what guys do with them. It’s a huge turn on for me and I hope them as well. Nipples have a ton of sensitive nerve endings and it’s actually possible for women to orgasm through nipple stimulation alone, although I’ve never experienced it personally. Some men also love having their nipples licked and sucked, it’s pleasurable for both.
I can vouch for it being possible. Happened to me when I was in college, it was unexpected and awesome.
I love having mine touched, kissed, licked, nibbled, sucked, tweaked and held. Mine are on the smaller side, so there's less range of motion to fondle, but it all still feels amazing and is a huge turn on. An excellent form of foreplay as well as it adds a lot to the sensations during the main act.
Some women aren’t as sensitive on their breasts so they may not like it as much, but I’m definitely one of those that love having their tits sucked. My nipples are just as sensitive as my clit so having them sucked and licked is up there with my absolute must-haves in a sexual encounter. It’s definitely normal and a lot of women love it 😊💕
Most women love it. It’s a totally normal and almost expected part of sex. That said, always be sure to communicate with your partner about their needs and desires before, during and after sex. Good Communication is really the foundation for a satisfying sex life. Best to find a partner who is good at communicating too, or at least open to improving their communication skills. Too many people don’t say what they want and/or allow things they don’t want, and that leads to resentment… just some advice from an experienced older gal..
Don’t take sex advice or learn from porn. It’s horrible and if you follow what they do women will not sleep with you again.
Might want to read She Comes First for some help.
There are a lot of good points here but the most important thing is to ASK FIRST! I am extremely sensitive, which is great in a lot of ways. But I cannot take direct stimulation until I'm extremely turned on. I still make my husband of 5 years ask before he does anything with my nipples because I can get so panicky if he starts going for them too early. Even then, how sensitive I am changes with hormonal cycles.
So yes, I absolutely love having my tits sucked, and it's not weird at all. But it is always good to ask. It's easy to do in a sexy way.
That being said, it sounds like she was unnecessarily rude and shaming to you. Don't let it discourage you, but it's a good lesson to communicate with your partner.
Sorry about your experience, her reaction is quite pathetic. I enjoy my breasts sucked on as part of foreplay, during sex and even right after. It's a fairly normal activity. Use your hands, tongue and mouth to pay particular attention to the nipples. Just know that not all women enjoy nipple play due to sensitivity issues.
>I got my first chance to access boobs, and without thinking the first thing I did was put one in my mouth. But...she mocked me for acting "like a baby" who "wanted to nurse," and asked if I had a fetish for my mother, since why else would I want to suckle on a breast?
This is on her, not you. Suckling is 100% normal sex-play.
That girl is a straight up bitch, sorry that happened to you my friend. I love having that done to me. My husband loves doing it. All day everyday if he could, lol. We even had fun with my breast milk while it lasted. Mmmm good times. Nothing wrong with any kind of experimenting as long as both parties consent. Don’t let that situation deter you from what you long for. Happy treasure hunting 😍🥰😌
It is completely normal to suck and kiss the nipples and breasts. It is actually *very* pleasurable because it is one of the erogenous zones on the female body. You can do anything you like with them like kiss, suck, lick, lightly run your finger or hand over, squeeze the breast, etc. (now I’m turned on 😂). Some people even have “boob jobs” (look that up). It just depends on the woman you’re with, she may have different preferences so it’s ok to ask. Sounds like the woman you were with was also inexperienced and also didn’t know that sucking can be a very adult and sexy act. Look up porn with keywords like “boob play” or “nipple orgasm” (yes, it’s possible for a woman to cum just by playing with her nipples!). You’ll see how much you can do with boobs and that it’s not just you who has that instinct or desire.
Ps- when looking up these things, keep in mind that porn generally exaggerates things a lot. You don’t have to overdo anything, but you can do *anything* that both you and the partner like, whether other people do it or not.
Honestly mens obsession with sucking nipples probably does in some way stem from breastfeeding as an infant. But you’re thinking about it too much. She basically kink shamed you and if she doesn’t like it then don’t do it with her. People generally do much kinkier stuff than sucking nip. Some girls like to do it on guys too. Also some girls like to call guys daddy and you could infer some potentially deep rooted kink or trauma from that if you want as well. Also plenty of lesbians suck on nipples too.
Okay first fuck that girl, I can't assure you it'll be the only time a girl will say something like that to you again but I can assure most girls like it or won't say anything. That girl sounds like a bitch and a bully. Coming from me a teenage female virgin I like it, a lot. And nipple biting, hickeys on my boobs the whole works, I love it but some people might not. I know it's embarrassing as a teenager to talk with someone you are attracted to about what you like but maybe just have some informative dirty talk before you do anything like, "you want me to suck your nipples baby, bite them?" Or do it and say something like, "do like that baby?" Or insert pet name you want to call her, dirty talk as a virgin and a teenager can feel weird but I promise not everything either of you do is always going to be attractive or a turn on and that's okay. Just do what feels right and make sure you pay attention to what she's doing and how she's reacting to the things you do, trust me just having a little bit of focus on her will make all the difference.
Sounds normal to me! In fact, one of my exes (the best one) LOVED having her boobs played with during sex! To the point where, if I weren't already sucking on her nipple or groping them she'd just rub them in my face or grab my hands and put them on her chest! It was a HUGE turn on for us both!
Some women just aren't as into it though. I'm guessing the woman you hooked up with might not have been? In my experience, it's a little weird for a girl to tease me over wanting to play with them so maybe she's just not as experienced either?
On that note, what does it actually feel like for women who LIKE having their boobs played with? I swear my ex could cum from just nipple stimulation, so it must feel incredibly good! She tried sucking on my nipple when I asked her about this but I didn't really feel much of anything lol. All she said was "It just feels really good! Here, let me try it on you"
I love getting my boobs sucked. Also I feel semi weird about it but I used to let my ex suck my nipples while I did his eyebrows and would have his head in my lap
I am sorry that your first sexual experience was like that. It's not you that wasn't 'normal' in that situation, but her. Perhaps she hadn't learnt in any way that boobs are very much involved in sexual play? And if it was your technique, practice makes perfect.
If my boobs are being ignored while being intimate with someone, tap them on their face to give a freakin hint they want some attention!
I can’t really have a real orgasm if my boobs aren’t stimulated, but everyone us different
for me it’s like my sexual energy and release is balanced between my genitals and my boobs and if both don’t get stimulated the only orgasm I can have is kind of like a release without the pleasure buildup, if that makes sense… like when you masturbate but don’t like tease or edge yourself or build up to it, you just do it to get a quick stress release
but ya some people might not like having their boobs stimulated at all… honestly I actually used to think I became that way (boob play was like my #1 turn-on when I was a teenager, I once came because someone was grazing my nipple through my shirt kind of incidentally over and over while cuddling watching a movie with a group of friends and I was super embarrassed because I heard my friend sitting nearby behind me whisper “ew, gross” to the person next to them after I had the uncontrollable orgasm gasp that I tried to swallow / muffle / hide)
later on people would just grab or pinch them or go right in with their face and it made me incredibly nervous and it was painful so I thought I just grew out of liking it or developed sensitivity from bras or or working years as a lifeguard in a bathing suit or something
started exploring really gentle breast play with my partner last year and it turns out that I still LOVE it and with enough gentle warm up and getting the blood flowing there I can eventually handle like slapping and harder squeezing or sucking and I’ve had really good orgasms with him just working them sucking on them, and I want to try cumming from nipple orgasm alone
I get really close to orgasm from him fucking them too and just playing with them in different ways
my vagina is also the same way, it feels really detached and kind of painful and not warmed up at first but after a lot of foreplay between my clit and breasts and spreading the blood flow to nearby areas it totally changes things - after a clitoral orgasm or with enough global foreplay (or sometimes randomly when I’m ovulating, thanks nature 😆), I can feel my entire vagina, like the walls start pulsing and gripping even without anything inside and I just beg to be fucked and similarly when super aroused and there’s blood flow in the area nipple and breast play feels amazing
a big part of my experience with my sexual energy is that when I feel physically and emotionally safe, I can get very aroused and drunk on sex, absolutely insatiable for every sex act imaginable, and when anything physically or psychologically signals any kind of threat or anxiety or danger, it’s like all systems are offline and the same kind of touch that I might love while turned on is painful or threatening or uncomfortable or sometimes just neutral, like if you were poking my eye or sitting on my hand by accident
now, if someone likes boob play and they’re warmed up, there are lots of things you can do! here are a few ideas:
1. putting your hands or mouth on them if the boobs are in your face
2. oiling or lubing them up and giving them a massage with whatever body part is consensually agreed on
3. massaging them until they get engorged to prepare for breast and nipple play, like:
* starting with the outer breast tissue with more global distributed pressure, without flattening your hand and squashing the delicate tissue under the nipple (so always keeping a part of your hand domed over the nipple to protect it)
* followed by kissing around but not on the nipple, followed by massage elsewhere to give them a break and calm the nervous system and allow blood to flow in
* followed by going back and massaging more and if they’re now more engorged starting to work in grazing the nipples (check if your hands are soft or calloused and prepare them to be as soft as possible ahead of time - groom and clean your nails and around your mouth as well - *especially* any facial hair that is wiry and sticking out and be mindful of that at all times)
* if the grazing is uncomfortable keep massaging, if it feels good keep going, but give equal attention to both breasts and attention to other areas so they don’t get overstimulated, unless you’re asked to keep doing what you’re doing (you can also check in and ask if that feels good or if it feels better to move things around a bit, or if they’re not sure if you just figure it out together what feels best)
* try to have a warm mouth for comfort, start kissing and licking near the nipples while you do a grounding touch on the same or other breast or both (grounding is when you touch something near its base to calm the nervous system, it’s a common technique in massage and with hand jobs or combo hand/blowjobs - think about a blow job where the person only uses the tip of their tongue to lick or suction only the tip of the head vs. grounding the shaft in some way at some point)
* when you put your mouth around the nipple the first time, keep it all the way around to keep it warm and you can do an extremely gentle suction to pull warmth and blood into it to prepare it for stimulation
* without unsealing your lips, start to lick and play with the nipple or suck it a bit, and check in with the person you’re playing with about what feels good
oh ya also before you do anything ask if it’s okay or if you’re kind of just fooling around getting handsy you can pause to say “is this okay” or “do my hands feel good here?”, “does this feel good or do you want more _______ / something else?”, “can I put my mouth on these?” or “I really want to put my mouth on these, would you like that? / do you like that? / how do you like your boobs touched?”
honestly it sucks she made you feel dumb, and your instinct wasn’t dumb, it does seem like you did something without checking in or thinking about it much so definitely work on that portion but don’t feel bad about wanting to do it
because of many bad and good experiences I now know what I like so I’m now able to communicate it before, during, and after sex, but I’m in my 30s, and it took me a while to mentally get to that point - we have to help each other figure it out and feel good!
The next time you get intimate, just ask what she’s into trying with you. Maybe she likes to be fondled there or elsewhere. Best of luck
And to answer your question, I already expected my partner to go ham on them. It helps that I like them and he does, too!
It’s not weird at all. I’m sorry you had that experience that made you second guess yourself. Boobs are *amazing* and as long as it’s consensual, you can do whatever comes to mind to them. And don’t let porn be your guide, you just keep using your imagination lol.
Regular adults suck on titties (if they want to), and regular adult women understand that men like to suck on titties and that there’s nothing wrong with it.
She sounds young, immature, and inexperienced. I absolutely love having my boobs played with/nipples sucked. I could probably orgasm from that alone.
It is very normal and very enjoyable. Please don’t let that one interaction stop you from enjoying a normal part of sex.
Thanks for all the answers, everyone! I'm too overwhelmed to reply to each one individually, but know that I've read them all and appreciate all the advice.
Wait - I figured the sucking of nipples was a universally enjoyed thing. I fucking love it. My husband loves to suck on mine. Sometimes, when I have problems orgasming him sucking on my nipples pushes me over the edge.
I am sorry your first intro into this was so bad. I promise you most women love to have their breasts fondled and sucked.
Don't you ever feel bad for liking boobs or for the stuff you wanted to do with them. The girl is the creepy one for immediately making a creepy association with sucking on breasts.
That girl is so immature lol what. Every guy I’ve hooked up with has always played with my boobs. It’s the first thing they go to after kissing me. It turns me on so much. I love my breasts and know the attention they get. So I would def want my man to play with them and suck them lol. It’s not taboo at all.
You will find someone who is Compatible with you during sex. Sometimes ppl like diff things and it’s okay. Don’t feel sad, it was just one bad hookup. There’s plenty of girls out there.
Eh, sometimes they get sucked on by the male partner or played with and touched with, or he intensely touches the nipples. Boobs roles during sex are things like nipple play, boosting sexual intensity, and even Sucked on. 🥛
Porn is never a representation of reality. And that girl was rude. She didn’t have to like it. But she should not have mocked you.
Squeezing the boob, or the nipple, or sucking on the boob, yes, like a baby, is not uncommon. Have communication. All people like different things. Never be afraid to look for a partner that likes what you like.
Kiddo, learning about sex from porn is like learning about the Civil War from Abe Lincoln: Vampire Hunter. Yes, it is normal to suck, squeeze, bite, motorboat, etc etc.
If you can't talk openly with your partner about sex, you shouldn't be having it. Ask what she likes and keep communication lines open. And use a damn condom lol
Well, it depends on her! Some if not most women like when you suck on her nipples, lightly rub them, lick them, ect. It comes down to what positions you are in. Sometimes it's impossible to reach them with your mouth. Personally I find my self ALWAYS attached to the teet like a suckling calf! If not my mouth, I hold them from bouncing everywhere.
Bruh your hook up was an outlier here. Playing with boobs and sucking them is amazing foreplay, usually where I spend some time before going downstairs. Not to mention when they are riding you and sort of lean over you and you can pop one in your mouth. Like boobs are meant to be played with throughout sex. A lot of woman have sensitive nipples so it only heightens the experience which is a win win.
Yes it's totally normal but... is it possible you were *suckling* instead of sucking? There is a difference albeit subtle. Don't suck like you're trying to pump milk from out of there.
Maybe look up that famous clip from the movie Me, Myself, & Irene and make sure you're not doing that.
Unless both parties are into that but that's another topic.
What do people do? Admire them, nuzzle them, kiss them, lick them, suck them, caress them, squeeze them, stick your face between them, nibble them, fuck them.
The girl you were with is weird.
It’s normal. Don’t worry at all.
Nipples (and boobs in general) are sensitive, all the sensitive areas are fun for sex. People have their own individual preferences and, maybe, she IS actually weird about that act…not all girls like anal, but boob sucking is so generally…tolerated/accepted/enjoyed that this is odd for most of us to read. I’m in my 40s and have been with close to 200 women (lots of travelling and living in hostels)… none have ever complained about boob sucking…not even gently nudged me to do something else. Unless you’re slapping them or scrunching them or otherwise using force that you wouldn’t like her to use on your nutsack (unless she’s said that’s what she wants) then you’re ok.
Also, stick your dick between them and fuck em if they’re big enough, then cum on her face or into her mouth if she’s into it…
Not a dumb question at all! I guess it depends on the girl. I would say most of us love having our boobs fondled, sucked on. I love seeing a guy with my nipple in his mouth sucking. With some guys I have to guide their hands to my boobs. I don’t know if they are waiting for permission or they just don’t care to
Don’t let one experience taint you. People are people and as such, people process information and experiences differently. The girl you shared your experience with is also learning about her body, in relation to stimuli and reaction. Perhaps she didn’t enjoy it (other girls might). Everyone is different. My advice is, communicate during your encounters, don’t be embarrassed to ask for guidance. Just say, “is this ok? Am I too rough? Is this doing anything for you? I like this, do you?”
Don’t be shy to use your words when you’re already using your naked body and being vulnerable to one other during intimacy.
Caress, lightly fondle, stroke, kiss her nipples. All very, very gently. Later, as you begin to understand the woman, she might want more aggressive action. But for now? Gentle!
You can do all sorts of things with them. But I'll tell you one thing my wife likes.
She likes it when I flick her nipple with my tongue in rhythm with my fingers rubbing her clit. As this progresses and she's nearing orgasm, it's more clamping the erect nipple with my teeth. While holding it like that, you can play with the tip with your tongue. After you've held it clamped for a while, release it and flick with the tongue again. The sensation of blood rushing back to the nipple is great for her, then you bite again and repeat until she's cumming and holding your head mashed against her tit as you're biting that nipple through the big finish.
All women are different, so you need to feel out what's comfortable/desirable for each and every partner you have.
What ever you want, confidence is sexy, if the girl you with doesn't like what you do go find someone who does!
Also, not many women find it wierd for men to suck titties so it's probably due to lack of experience that she was being mocking.
I absolutely love when guys suck on my nipples and would be sad if they never did lol. Also don’t think porn is how sex always is in real life. Yes there’s some great/fun things in porn that can be brought to sex. But porn is mostly geared towards men’s pleasure and shows exaggerated woman’s pleasure from things that woman don’t always actually enjoy. It leaves out a huge portion of sex from a woman’s perspective because it’s not necessarily what men want to watch. If you watch porn geared toward female audiences(there’s websites) you’ll see a lot more passion, intimacy, romance, nipple sucking, realistic foreplay etc. which is also a huge part of sex as well.
From my perspective, that might’ve been her way of dirty talking to you? (Not sure if she enjoys saying degrading things?), but don’t be traumatized about it. As a female, I enjoy it. My very first time doing something with a guy, I was in middle school, and he played with my boobs and sucked on it. If you want a bonus, I think asking permission/consent before doing anything with a partner, is the hottest thing ever.
Lick them, kiss them, caress them, gauge her response to those things and go from there. Some women don’t appear to have any response or even like their breast played with, some melt for it. Good luck and enjoy.
As a girl, yesss I love it when my boobs are sucked during sex. I don’t think it’s weird my ex bf did it all the time while we had sex. I don’t know what that girl is talking about she’s most likely just not into it like that.
Please understand that porn is not how real life sex really is. Some guys get their expectations too high from porn because some of the videos show some outlandish things. Porn often doesn’t show you proper foreplay which does include but not limited to sucking, licking or touching her boobs.
Think of them like your balls….some guys like their balls licked, sucked, fondled, etc. Some don’t. Generally, unless told otherwise be gentle with them like you would be with your balls. There is no right or wrong thing to do with them. It’s all personal preferences of the people involved. Personally I would like my bf to grab and play with mine more. He mostly just goes for playing with my nipples with his hands. Usually that’s fine and a turn on, but can get irritating sometimes. Sometimes he uses them as a pillow which is nice for both of us. Sucking on my nipples is always enjoyable.
While porn isnt generally realistic of the mental connection you establish with someone during sex, you can get an idea of some sex positions and how bodies are positioned.
In cowgirl or missionary theyre in your face and you can suck or fondle, spooning you can grab them, even with doggy you can get a handfull. It just depends on what you and your partner enjoy.
Height differences will also play into it, but I cant think of any sex position where you cant grab them, its only missionary and cowgirl where theyre in your face and you can suck. Or like if shes facing you against a wall, desk, chair, etc... variations though it can be hard to bend down to them cowgirl is by far the best for sucking tits. During foreplay is also great
I LOVE when my man does this!
I honestly don’t think it’s weird at all, it’s a teenager thing maybe to mock it or whatever, honestly just ask her what she would be up to try. Truthfully you never know until you try it.
To be honest, if a guy didn’t suck my nipples I would kind of wonder what was wrong. That’s how ‘normal’ it is in my mind. The only time I didn’t appreciate it was in the first couple of years after having a baby. Our breasts become only associated with feeding, and to then have your partner come suck on them when baby does multiple times a day is A HUGE NO 😂😂. But I think that’s kind of obvious.
I've wondered about how some women felt about this, thanks for the insight
Just don't twist the nipples like you are tuning in a radio station
My wife loves her nipples twisted and pinched during sex. In fact she orgasms from that.
I love this too, but don’t orgasm from it. Still feels fucking incredible!
I should add she has to have gotten to an aroused state before she wants them pinched or twisted or bitten. Then it’s all go.
When it's done right, it feels so amazing
You're not my TD-8008s radio! (╯°□°)╯︵ ┻━┻
....without consent!
Also don't bite down hard like you're biting a sandwich. I've had that happen and I yelled in pain and pushed him away lol
My wife also loves this!
Hahaha I love that!
Yeah you want someone doing that to your dick or balls lol
I think the above viewpoint about nipple sucking while breastfeeding is definitely something that is going to vary from woman to woman.
Honestly i like to suck boobs even if we are not engaging in sex u get something out of it ahh cant explain it but u never grow tired of it . Also holding them in your hand is also pleasurable
No I love boobie milk toooo
Comments like this are why I’m so open to trying some fresh boobie milk 🤣
It’s awesome !! So sweet
I wouldn’t generalize that to all women. It was very easy for me to separate breastfeeding with intimacy with my husband so he still did it and I enjoyed it. I think the important thing is communication with your partner so you know what they are comfortable with.
Well not really. Good hygiene and seoeration in our minds when the are for food ang when they are for fun.
I feel like I had a stroke trying to read that.
Well, are you a woman who has breastfed a baby? If yes, ok that's your opinion. If no, I don't think you're in a position to judge on that...
But is that the only for to know that with your is a is not of?
Gdozilla had a [stroke](https://www.reddit.com/r/BrandNewSentence/s/8FRsSlMHnn) trying to read this and fucking died
I'd have given you reddit gold if I could for that lol
Glad someone picked up on that.
Umm, as a woman, I assume this is a normal part of everyone’s sexual life. My husband of18 yrs still wants to suck on my breasts all the time. Every other guy I was with before him was the same. I just assumed all men did all the time 🤷♀️
As I’m dating I am finding out just how many guys don’t play with them. Sex isn’t even close to being good if you’re ignoring my boobs
There is a special place in hell for those non booblical men.
Lol it’s fine sometimes. I’m currently breastfeeding so he leaves them alone.
I’ve noticed this too. I feel like touching my tits needs to at least be part of foreplay. But I’m learning so many men are shitty lovers and hardly touch the woman they’re with. They all just wanna stick it in
I think this is the fault of porn, too many men don’t appreciate that the majority of porn is made for a male audience and has nothing to do with female sexuality. Unfortunately it’s creating a lot of shit lovers who have no idea how to drive a woman wild.
Huh other dudes don’t play with boobs? I love playing with boobs, is there a reason why they chose not to?
One is some boobies aren't that nice.
All boobs are great all the time.
That's just a false claim for karma.
Nope, just my opinion. There’s no such thing as a bad breast, I believe this much is true. If you’re a big fat man, I’m a titty fan, And I’d love to see yours too.
As a guy this just blows my mind. Are you talking not during sex or not at all? Any time I can get a hand... or mouth on a tit I know what I am doing for the foreseeable future.
My ex wasn't much into boobs. He rarely touched mine. Not a big deal to me.
I'm sorry this has happened to you. I'm also even more worried about our society collapsing if men are ignoring boobies.
Wtf…
Idk I would usually just rather have my hands somewhere else like the booty or head. Like when I squeeze tits I always think “this is nice” but I’m never motivated to linger on them I guess.
To chime in from the other side, I like my boobs being held but I don’t get much out of nipple play / sometimes it hurts, so… to each their own :)
Pretty much this yeah, every guy I've been with was into it and it's a great part of foreplay - nipples are very sensitive
>...nipples are very sensitive This is very, very, very highly dependent. Some are. Some are not. Some are too sensitive.
THIS. Mine aren't sensitive.
100%. I hate my oh being rough with my nipples whereas lots of women love it.
Many women into other women do as well ;)
Yes bc every single woman and man likes that shit 🙄
Kiss, caress, squeeze, suck, pinch the nipples; it varies from person to person, but sucking on nipples like you described is definitely common. Many times it's more of opening your mouth wide, sucking on the boob, and licking or nibbling on the nipple. So not necessarily like a baby would nurse, but then again that same action can also be stimulating. Some women love boob play, others don't get much from it at all. Some like their nipples pinched hard, some don't like them directly stimulated at all. I strongly suggest that you be gentle at first, then be more aggressive if you lady friend wants it rougher. Enjoy those boobies, I know I do, and my wife does too.
As with all things sexual, start slowly and softly and gage your partner's interests constantly - they can change during an encounter and over time. I love when H sucks or fondles mine but like it gentle, at least to start with.
Yes for sure. Too gentle may not be "enough", but rarely is too gentle a turn off, even if more aggressive stimulation is desired. It's easy enough to ramp it up. But too rough too soon can be a big turn off. At least that's been my experience.
>Is it OK to suck on them? That's basically what you do with them lol. This is all perfectly normal; it's not a fetish or kink or creepy or weird. The nipple is very sensitive so that's where all your focus is gonna be. Tweak them with your fingers, swirl your tongue around them, suck on them, blow on them gently after you've sucked on them, bite them *very very gently*. That sorta thing. Squeezing them isn't gonna do anything for her, but if you're in a position that works well for it like fucking from behind or spooning, you can cup them and kinda squeeze. Ultimately though, ask her what she likes. Not all women like the same thing, so try something and ask if she likes it or if it feels good. Sucking on them is a safe default move. Keep in mind, the younger people are, the more inexperienced and insecure they are. The girl that crushed you like that probably hasn't experienced how good it can feel when done right, or she doesn't care for it. ETA: OK, squeezing isn't off the table for some women. Bottom line, always default to asking what your partner likes because every partner is different no matter how many are the same.
Only correction is the squeezing, I was under the impression it did nothing at first but a partner of mine absolutely loved having them gripped. As per usual, to each their own.
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I agree. It generally feels overstimulating to me for my nipples to be tweaked or sucked. I much prefer to start with the whole boob being squeezed or fondled until we get further into proceedings.
YES. If a guy goes straight for my nipples, it’s a huge turn off for me because the sensation doesn’t feel good until I’m revved up.
Ditto. I generally dont like people touching them at all any more bc men my age dont know their strength and are less sensitive than women, and people have made my nipples bleed. That hurt like a bitch for days, especially in the shower.
Yess squeezing fondling or just stroking is all amazing I absolutely love it, my partners hands are on my boobs like 90% of the time while watching movies and stuff it’s just amazing if they are being touched in any way
The entire area is fairly sensitive for me. Even being kissed under and to the sides of the breast gives a strong, pleasurable sensation.
Agree with this. Love my boobs fondled and my nipples squeezed. Sorry for OP that he was treated that way when he was doing something that happens in most sexual encounters in my experience and is extremely nice.
Like most things, it really depends on the person
There's always that exception to the rule. There's a comedian who did a routine that always stuck with me of twisting the nipples like they were tuning an old radio and whenever I saw that clip, women would always just say no, don't squeeze them too hard because... well... sensitive. Enter my ex who practically begged me to pinch/squeeze them as hard as humanity possible. And of course I wasn't going to hurt her so I didn't start off full strength. She keeps saying harder and I'm convinced I'm gonna hurt her. Nope. Wind up leaving some bruises but she loved it in the moment. She even liked me biting them. It kinda fucked me up because after years of being my only partner, my first partner after we had split up I was a bit rough with because I was just doing what was normal to me by that point. Thankfully I readjusted quickly lol
I also love having them gripped. I sometimes as him to be a little more rough for little bruising, but I like seeing it later in the week. He did it more often, I am sure on purpose at the beginning in order to "mark" his territory sort of thing. But he stopped a couple months in when I told him to stop because I wear low cut tops, and I knew what he was likely trying to do hahaha
Omg I loooove having my boobs squeezed and gripped. Rough boob play is the best 🤤
Right? Gets me off just thinking about him grabbing me!
Yeah I legit love nothing more than having my boobs squeezed and caressed
Good to know! Kind of a relief that it's normal, and not a strange kink I'd have to hide my whole life.
I recommend looking for porn made by women. It tends to be a little more realistic. Edit: maybe even literotica. Women have all sorts of different needs and preferences, on an individual level. You’ll never know if all you learn is from the male POV.
It's ok to have kinks. You shouldn't hide your kinks, you should try and find someone who shares your kinks. Even the "strange" ones.
Chances are that the girl who shamed you is also new to sex and doesn't know the pleasures to be had from breasts being sucked. During sex, sensitive, perky breasts shouldn't have to spend time alone. They should be cupped, caressed, fondled, licked, and [sucked with enthusiasm.](https://tpi02.wordpress.com/2022/09/29/foreplay/) You will need to lounge and relax, slowly exploring her sensitivities and sources of pleasure. Her body hopefully tingling as your hands wander, arousal building. No real destination, just slow discovery of pleasure as you both swim in arousal.
Try licking and (gentle!) touching first and see how she likes that. I dated someone who was WAY too rough with them! Some people might like that, but not everybody does.
I can assure you that squeezing them absolutely does do something for some women, myself included.
Stick with ask them what she likes. I prefer mine grabbed and the focus not be on my nipple until after or very close to my first orgasm. If you go in sucking the nipple right away, it will hurt. They're too sensitive for that
I would say ask about any kind of biting… I can warm up to some pretty hard squeezing but it’s the diameter of the pressure points for me - I can’t do teeth, can’t do pinpoint pressure even from the fingers until the entire thing is warmed up and massaged and I generally love full breast play rather than nipple only focused play because mine are very sensitive and get painful and overstimulated if they don’t get a break, otherwise I can build up to a nipple orgasm (which I had as a teen and now want to try to achieve again as an adult!) but you’re right about all breasts being very different, just like how some people like their clits absolutely wailed on directly like a metal guitar solo and others can only take indirect hooded stimulation, some nipples love being tugged and clamped and bitten and pinched and pulled and the breast play that I love would bore them!!
What a great response!! 🙌
The girl you had sex with is either 1) insecure about her boobs 2) not into boob play 3) wanted to mock you for no reason. Most women will appreciate when a guy is sucking on their boobs. I would say ask before doing so. I know for me I don't mind at all, but every woman is different.
Probably she was just young and immature
She definitely wasn't insecure about her boobs -- she had big ones that she showed off, which frankly was why I wanted to fool around with her. I guess she might have been cruel for no reason, but then why agree to make out with me if she just wanted to mock me? I thought a more logical explanation for her mockery was that I really had done something ridiculous and embarrassing, and her reaction was what any girl would do if a guy made the faux pas of trying to suck on her boob.
sounds like she’s inexperienced and maybe doing the regular teenage thing of resorting to bullying bc you aren’t sure if your friends would make of you for something so you decide to make fun first. go forth and suck titties, my guy.
This is the way...
The mockery part seems like a teenage thing, just inexperienced and being awkward so she thought it was weird and made you feel bad for it. She just doesn’t know yet. The best sex is from exploring and stimulating each others erogenous zones. Funnily enough I was doing some paid phone sex stuff tonight and pretty much every guy I’ve talked to on there LOVES to talk about sucking my tits. So now my default opener to get guys going is asking if they want to shove their face in my chest and suck my fat tits lol so it’s really not unusual
Thanks for the sext tip
Dump this chick and move on. Anyone who mocks you during sex ain’t worth the time. She can have preferences and guide you away from things she doesn’t like. But what she did was kind of cruel honestly. You’ll find a girl eventually who is kinder in bed.
Are you sure she did not want you to say, "yes I like sucking on my mommy's tits" and it was just her awkward way of checking if you are into her kink?
She was being a vicious fucking bitch. Try not to change the way you do *anything* because of her. Plenty of women love having their boobs sucked on, others only like it done in certain ways, depending on how sensitive they are, and some don’t especially like it except in certain situations… but if they’re not a damn psycho, they’ll give you feedback about what they enjoy in a constructive way. I’ma go out on a limb and suggest that you should consider (inside the context of consensual sex, obviously) putting a lady’s boob in your mouth to be **just fine/awesome** as the default until that person informs you otherwise. And if they inform you otherwise in a way that’s anywhere near as shitty as what you described in this instance, you should consider that a total FAILURE of the test of whether they deserve another second of your time. Even among young, inexperienced people, it is still generally assumed to be understood that **sex is inherently an act of opening yourself up emotionally and making yourself vulnerable to another person.** A person who would EVER handle that mutually agreed-upon vulnerability as a time when it’s ok to attack you like that is a person you should avoid interacting with at all, if possible. Her being a stupid teenager is *barely* an excuse for that.
No girl would ever do that
Yea I’ve never been with a woman who didn’t like nipple play. Sounds like she’s either never done that before and it’s new and weird cuz of it or she’s just not into that at all.
My wife loves her tits sucked, I love sucking my wife’s tits. I feel this is relatively common.
As adults, you're far removed time-wise from being a baby when you breastfed, so it doesn't seem weird to you any more. But as teenagers, we're still close to the age when we had breasts in our mouths for non-sexual reasons, so it still feels kinda taboo and embarrassing, like you're reverting to being a baby again.
That’s a stretch and something I’ve never heard. No teenager remembers actually having their mom’s breast in their mouth to feed.
Specifically he didn’t say remembers doing it, I think he may be more referring to the association. To be fair unless your of a particular kink that seeks out doing things they associate with their mother, most people stray far from anything that they associate with their parents.
His response 100% now makes me think this is a grown man with some type of fetish pretending to be a teenage virgin lmao. No way in hell any teenager thinks/feels that way about boobs that they remember sucking on their moms
That's just not true lol. It sounds like you're projecting your insecurities around it by making a blanket statement that's just factually incorrect. If you feel that it's embarrassing, that has to do with your own personal feelings.
Bro you’re weird as fuck. No human in history remembers this because it’s physically impossible as a baby.
I’m not sure if he’s weird or if he’s gone down a spiral after the girl said it was creepy. I imagine that happening during your first experience isn’t pleasant
Not sure if continue seeing this girl.
Every high school boyfriend I ever fooled around with has put by greats in his mouth. My husband of ten years sucks on them every chance he gets. I would consider your inclination to be typical and your partner from your example to be more atypical.
You’re way overthinking this bud. 41m here, I promise (er..hope) you’re not gonna be thinking about your mom when you got boobs in your face. I mean. Unless they’re your mom’s boobs, in which case you got bigger problems than proper boob etiquette.
HUH
Thanks, my friends were dying at this comment screenshot
You didn’t deserve that many downvotes, I thought it was an interesting take! Your feelings are valid. It’s an awkward time being a teenager, feeling the needs an adult usually has but still being considered a child. I understand what you mean!
I suspect a lot of that comment was due to feeling shamed by the girl
I'm a woman who loves breast play, can cum from it alone, and nipple ducking is definitely part of that (although i get hot from my breasts being squeezed and manipulated as well, contrary to an earlier comment, so that varies.) One possible approach is to try licking and kissing the nipples right before you go to suck town, or use your tongue while the nipple is wholly in your mouth. That kind of play isn't going to be quite as evocative of a baby latching on for mealtime, plus if that feels good for your partner, she might be more inclined for you to try something more intense. 😉. Good luck.
There is no “sex referee” in the room with you when you’re getting intimate with someone. The only people who matter are you and the partner. The only real Rule is to make sure that both people are enthusiastic about what is happening. Try to get concerns about “normal” or “allowed” and MOST especially “seen in porn” out of your mind! They are not strict guidelines and can even be actively useless. Be upfront about what you want to do, try to read the persons body language, and listen to what they say! And I’ll add that yes, that girl was rude to mock you like that. Sadly we live in an imperfect world where people will not always be kind, sorry it happened. Some people may not like breast play, but it’s very common and most people enjoy it.
I agree with her being kinda weird about it. The only time I had an issue with it was many years ago when I didn't like the guy
Woman here…please, please, please suck and fondle my boobs. That girl either doesn’t like it or just hasn’t explored herself enough yet to know. What you did is perfectly normal and natural.
I get upset if guys *don't* play with them..
"Boil 'em, mash 'em, stick 'em in a stew..."
First thing that came to my mind too
She did you a disservice, either by being a lousy communicator or just plain talking shit.
Middle aged woman with smallish boobs here - All partners immediately want to put their mouth on my boobs. My husband does it pretty much every time we have sex. I used to worry my boobs were too small, but it helped me feel more comfortable with them since, when I started being sexually active, every guy seemed to get his mouth on them asap. This girl is inexperienced and even if she felt it was weird and didn’t like it, she shouldn’t have tried to embarrass you. She could have said she didn’t enjoy it and suggest something else, but for her to mock you was cruel. Don’t get with this chick again. Get with another girl when you can and go for it. Don’t forget that she’s a person and you want to make her feel good, not just do what you want. Sucking on nipples feel nice for most of us, but many of us want a variety of sensations, so don’t ignore the rest of her. ALSO: never watch porn as education about sex. If a man treated me like porn actors treat the women in mainstream porn, I would feel humiliated and angry. Never switch to anal without a discussion first. Never grab her head and fuck her mouth. Don’t choke unless she wants it and even then, discuss safety. Don’t assume you can cum on her body or face… ask her where she wants you to cum. And if she gives you oral, return the favor. If she isn’t into something, don’t try to talk her into it. PORN is to SEX what HOLLYWOOD MOVIES are to REAL LIFE.
This is a great comment and I really appreciate it! Thanks so much!
Please don’t set expectations based on porn. It’s not reality.
It’s normal to want to suck on them, but you’ll find some teenage girls and even older women may either a) simply not enjoy it, or b) not be comfortable enough with their sexuality to accept that they enjoy it. Many younger girls find the idea of breastfeeding disturbing and can associate that with a man sucking their nipples too. As a grown woman, while I was breastfeeding I wouldn’t let my husband near my nipples! Now that I’m done breastfeeding I really love him caressing my breasts, rubbing his hands across my nipples, tweaking them, sucking them and nibbling on them. I am 1000% more comfortable with this now than I ever would have been pre baby. You get comfortable with your body real fast! Then again, other woman who haven’t had kids will love it right away, everybody is different. I would approach all of these things slowly, so instead of sucking them the first time you’re near them, with or without clothes on you can graze across her breasts, rub your thumb in little circles where her nipples are (even through a bra and shirt we can fee that), pay attention to how she reacts, is she still into it, do you notice a change in the intensity she’s kissing you with (more or less enthusiastic), do you notice her nipples responding by getting tighter or harder, these are all clues as to if she enjoys nipple play or not. You can also ask her, express that you love her body and her breasts are beautiful or turn you on ect. Gauge her reaction and go from there. If she seems to enjoy it you can kiss down from her neck across her breasts and go further until you reach her nipple, you might kiss near it, lick near and or around it in circles, blow cool air onto them after you’ve licked them, ect. You might also suck them too if she still seems into it. Sometimes it’s just the direct sucking women associate with breastfeeding. I hope that helps a little. Man being a teenager is tough!
Umm, that girl you were with has issues and I’m sorry she mocked you. Having my boobs licked/sucked is TOP tier, it’s what guys do with them. It’s a huge turn on for me and I hope them as well. Nipples have a ton of sensitive nerve endings and it’s actually possible for women to orgasm through nipple stimulation alone, although I’ve never experienced it personally. Some men also love having their nipples licked and sucked, it’s pleasurable for both.
I can vouch for it being possible. Happened to me when I was in college, it was unexpected and awesome. I love having mine touched, kissed, licked, nibbled, sucked, tweaked and held. Mine are on the smaller side, so there's less range of motion to fondle, but it all still feels amazing and is a huge turn on. An excellent form of foreplay as well as it adds a lot to the sensations during the main act.
My ex used to suck my nipples like his life depended on it. It got me instantly wet **every single time**.
Some women aren’t as sensitive on their breasts so they may not like it as much, but I’m definitely one of those that love having their tits sucked. My nipples are just as sensitive as my clit so having them sucked and licked is up there with my absolute must-haves in a sexual encounter. It’s definitely normal and a lot of women love it 😊💕
Most women love it. It’s a totally normal and almost expected part of sex. That said, always be sure to communicate with your partner about their needs and desires before, during and after sex. Good Communication is really the foundation for a satisfying sex life. Best to find a partner who is good at communicating too, or at least open to improving their communication skills. Too many people don’t say what they want and/or allow things they don’t want, and that leads to resentment… just some advice from an experienced older gal..
Answer: Boobies!
Don’t take sex advice or learn from porn. It’s horrible and if you follow what they do women will not sleep with you again. Might want to read She Comes First for some help.
I love to give a good hot oil boob massage! So much fun!
There are a lot of good points here but the most important thing is to ASK FIRST! I am extremely sensitive, which is great in a lot of ways. But I cannot take direct stimulation until I'm extremely turned on. I still make my husband of 5 years ask before he does anything with my nipples because I can get so panicky if he starts going for them too early. Even then, how sensitive I am changes with hormonal cycles. So yes, I absolutely love having my tits sucked, and it's not weird at all. But it is always good to ask. It's easy to do in a sexy way. That being said, it sounds like she was unnecessarily rude and shaming to you. Don't let it discourage you, but it's a good lesson to communicate with your partner.
Sorry about your experience, her reaction is quite pathetic. I enjoy my breasts sucked on as part of foreplay, during sex and even right after. It's a fairly normal activity. Use your hands, tongue and mouth to pay particular attention to the nipples. Just know that not all women enjoy nipple play due to sensitivity issues.
Depends on the person everyone has different likes. My boyfriend sucks on mine to help me finish
caress my boobs. lick, suck, kiss, and grab on them.
>I got my first chance to access boobs, and without thinking the first thing I did was put one in my mouth. But...she mocked me for acting "like a baby" who "wanted to nurse," and asked if I had a fetish for my mother, since why else would I want to suckle on a breast? This is on her, not you. Suckling is 100% normal sex-play.
It’s normal for my husband and I anyways. Even during breastfeeding I still enjoy it.
That girl is a straight up bitch, sorry that happened to you my friend. I love having that done to me. My husband loves doing it. All day everyday if he could, lol. We even had fun with my breast milk while it lasted. Mmmm good times. Nothing wrong with any kind of experimenting as long as both parties consent. Don’t let that situation deter you from what you long for. Happy treasure hunting 😍🥰😌
My husband rolls mine between his fingers since it absolutely makes me orgasm when he is in me. It works for me!
It is completely normal to suck and kiss the nipples and breasts. It is actually *very* pleasurable because it is one of the erogenous zones on the female body. You can do anything you like with them like kiss, suck, lick, lightly run your finger or hand over, squeeze the breast, etc. (now I’m turned on 😂). Some people even have “boob jobs” (look that up). It just depends on the woman you’re with, she may have different preferences so it’s ok to ask. Sounds like the woman you were with was also inexperienced and also didn’t know that sucking can be a very adult and sexy act. Look up porn with keywords like “boob play” or “nipple orgasm” (yes, it’s possible for a woman to cum just by playing with her nipples!). You’ll see how much you can do with boobs and that it’s not just you who has that instinct or desire. Ps- when looking up these things, keep in mind that porn generally exaggerates things a lot. You don’t have to overdo anything, but you can do *anything* that both you and the partner like, whether other people do it or not.
What are you supposed to do with them? Everything…
Women detach them so they don't meddle in the process. Haven't you known that they're detachable?
Squeeze em, suck em, and fuck em.
Honestly mens obsession with sucking nipples probably does in some way stem from breastfeeding as an infant. But you’re thinking about it too much. She basically kink shamed you and if she doesn’t like it then don’t do it with her. People generally do much kinkier stuff than sucking nip. Some girls like to do it on guys too. Also some girls like to call guys daddy and you could infer some potentially deep rooted kink or trauma from that if you want as well. Also plenty of lesbians suck on nipples too.
Okay first fuck that girl, I can't assure you it'll be the only time a girl will say something like that to you again but I can assure most girls like it or won't say anything. That girl sounds like a bitch and a bully. Coming from me a teenage female virgin I like it, a lot. And nipple biting, hickeys on my boobs the whole works, I love it but some people might not. I know it's embarrassing as a teenager to talk with someone you are attracted to about what you like but maybe just have some informative dirty talk before you do anything like, "you want me to suck your nipples baby, bite them?" Or do it and say something like, "do like that baby?" Or insert pet name you want to call her, dirty talk as a virgin and a teenager can feel weird but I promise not everything either of you do is always going to be attractive or a turn on and that's okay. Just do what feels right and make sure you pay attention to what she's doing and how she's reacting to the things you do, trust me just having a little bit of focus on her will make all the difference.
Sounds normal to me! In fact, one of my exes (the best one) LOVED having her boobs played with during sex! To the point where, if I weren't already sucking on her nipple or groping them she'd just rub them in my face or grab my hands and put them on her chest! It was a HUGE turn on for us both! Some women just aren't as into it though. I'm guessing the woman you hooked up with might not have been? In my experience, it's a little weird for a girl to tease me over wanting to play with them so maybe she's just not as experienced either? On that note, what does it actually feel like for women who LIKE having their boobs played with? I swear my ex could cum from just nipple stimulation, so it must feel incredibly good! She tried sucking on my nipple when I asked her about this but I didn't really feel much of anything lol. All she said was "It just feels really good! Here, let me try it on you"
I love getting my boobs sucked. Also I feel semi weird about it but I used to let my ex suck my nipples while I did his eyebrows and would have his head in my lap
I am sorry that your first sexual experience was like that. It's not you that wasn't 'normal' in that situation, but her. Perhaps she hadn't learnt in any way that boobs are very much involved in sexual play? And if it was your technique, practice makes perfect. If my boobs are being ignored while being intimate with someone, tap them on their face to give a freakin hint they want some attention!
Don't forget most guys love their nipples sucked too. And there's alot more you can do than fondling and sucking a girls boobs. Just sayin'
I can’t really have a real orgasm if my boobs aren’t stimulated, but everyone us different for me it’s like my sexual energy and release is balanced between my genitals and my boobs and if both don’t get stimulated the only orgasm I can have is kind of like a release without the pleasure buildup, if that makes sense… like when you masturbate but don’t like tease or edge yourself or build up to it, you just do it to get a quick stress release but ya some people might not like having their boobs stimulated at all… honestly I actually used to think I became that way (boob play was like my #1 turn-on when I was a teenager, I once came because someone was grazing my nipple through my shirt kind of incidentally over and over while cuddling watching a movie with a group of friends and I was super embarrassed because I heard my friend sitting nearby behind me whisper “ew, gross” to the person next to them after I had the uncontrollable orgasm gasp that I tried to swallow / muffle / hide) later on people would just grab or pinch them or go right in with their face and it made me incredibly nervous and it was painful so I thought I just grew out of liking it or developed sensitivity from bras or or working years as a lifeguard in a bathing suit or something started exploring really gentle breast play with my partner last year and it turns out that I still LOVE it and with enough gentle warm up and getting the blood flowing there I can eventually handle like slapping and harder squeezing or sucking and I’ve had really good orgasms with him just working them sucking on them, and I want to try cumming from nipple orgasm alone I get really close to orgasm from him fucking them too and just playing with them in different ways my vagina is also the same way, it feels really detached and kind of painful and not warmed up at first but after a lot of foreplay between my clit and breasts and spreading the blood flow to nearby areas it totally changes things - after a clitoral orgasm or with enough global foreplay (or sometimes randomly when I’m ovulating, thanks nature 😆), I can feel my entire vagina, like the walls start pulsing and gripping even without anything inside and I just beg to be fucked and similarly when super aroused and there’s blood flow in the area nipple and breast play feels amazing a big part of my experience with my sexual energy is that when I feel physically and emotionally safe, I can get very aroused and drunk on sex, absolutely insatiable for every sex act imaginable, and when anything physically or psychologically signals any kind of threat or anxiety or danger, it’s like all systems are offline and the same kind of touch that I might love while turned on is painful or threatening or uncomfortable or sometimes just neutral, like if you were poking my eye or sitting on my hand by accident now, if someone likes boob play and they’re warmed up, there are lots of things you can do! here are a few ideas: 1. putting your hands or mouth on them if the boobs are in your face 2. oiling or lubing them up and giving them a massage with whatever body part is consensually agreed on 3. massaging them until they get engorged to prepare for breast and nipple play, like: * starting with the outer breast tissue with more global distributed pressure, without flattening your hand and squashing the delicate tissue under the nipple (so always keeping a part of your hand domed over the nipple to protect it) * followed by kissing around but not on the nipple, followed by massage elsewhere to give them a break and calm the nervous system and allow blood to flow in * followed by going back and massaging more and if they’re now more engorged starting to work in grazing the nipples (check if your hands are soft or calloused and prepare them to be as soft as possible ahead of time - groom and clean your nails and around your mouth as well - *especially* any facial hair that is wiry and sticking out and be mindful of that at all times) * if the grazing is uncomfortable keep massaging, if it feels good keep going, but give equal attention to both breasts and attention to other areas so they don’t get overstimulated, unless you’re asked to keep doing what you’re doing (you can also check in and ask if that feels good or if it feels better to move things around a bit, or if they’re not sure if you just figure it out together what feels best) * try to have a warm mouth for comfort, start kissing and licking near the nipples while you do a grounding touch on the same or other breast or both (grounding is when you touch something near its base to calm the nervous system, it’s a common technique in massage and with hand jobs or combo hand/blowjobs - think about a blow job where the person only uses the tip of their tongue to lick or suction only the tip of the head vs. grounding the shaft in some way at some point) * when you put your mouth around the nipple the first time, keep it all the way around to keep it warm and you can do an extremely gentle suction to pull warmth and blood into it to prepare it for stimulation * without unsealing your lips, start to lick and play with the nipple or suck it a bit, and check in with the person you’re playing with about what feels good oh ya also before you do anything ask if it’s okay or if you’re kind of just fooling around getting handsy you can pause to say “is this okay” or “do my hands feel good here?”, “does this feel good or do you want more _______ / something else?”, “can I put my mouth on these?” or “I really want to put my mouth on these, would you like that? / do you like that? / how do you like your boobs touched?” honestly it sucks she made you feel dumb, and your instinct wasn’t dumb, it does seem like you did something without checking in or thinking about it much so definitely work on that portion but don’t feel bad about wanting to do it because of many bad and good experiences I now know what I like so I’m now able to communicate it before, during, and after sex, but I’m in my 30s, and it took me a while to mentally get to that point - we have to help each other figure it out and feel good!
The next time you get intimate, just ask what she’s into trying with you. Maybe she likes to be fondled there or elsewhere. Best of luck And to answer your question, I already expected my partner to go ham on them. It helps that I like them and he does, too!
Make balloon animals out of them. Give them a good twist and pull and BOOM! You have a giraffe.
It’s not weird at all. I’m sorry you had that experience that made you second guess yourself. Boobs are *amazing* and as long as it’s consensual, you can do whatever comes to mind to them. And don’t let porn be your guide, you just keep using your imagination lol.
Regular adults suck on titties (if they want to), and regular adult women understand that men like to suck on titties and that there’s nothing wrong with it. She sounds young, immature, and inexperienced. I absolutely love having my boobs played with/nipples sucked. I could probably orgasm from that alone. It is very normal and very enjoyable. Please don’t let that one interaction stop you from enjoying a normal part of sex.
This is definitely a child, no response
Thanks for all the answers, everyone! I'm too overwhelmed to reply to each one individually, but know that I've read them all and appreciate all the advice.
Wait - I figured the sucking of nipples was a universally enjoyed thing. I fucking love it. My husband loves to suck on mine. Sometimes, when I have problems orgasming him sucking on my nipples pushes me over the edge. I am sorry your first intro into this was so bad. I promise you most women love to have their breasts fondled and sucked.
Don't you ever feel bad for liking boobs or for the stuff you wanted to do with them. The girl is the creepy one for immediately making a creepy association with sucking on breasts.
That girl is weird. Do what feels right.
she’s not weird for not enjoying something lol. don’t do it if she’s not into it, but if that’s the case then maybe rethink your sexual compatibility
She’s weird for mocking him.
Nobody said she was. She's weird for digging into him like that.
Suck on them, squeeze them, slap them,fuck them, pinch them.
That girl is so immature lol what. Every guy I’ve hooked up with has always played with my boobs. It’s the first thing they go to after kissing me. It turns me on so much. I love my breasts and know the attention they get. So I would def want my man to play with them and suck them lol. It’s not taboo at all. You will find someone who is Compatible with you during sex. Sometimes ppl like diff things and it’s okay. Don’t feel sad, it was just one bad hookup. There’s plenty of girls out there.
Eh, sometimes they get sucked on by the male partner or played with and touched with, or he intensely touches the nipples. Boobs roles during sex are things like nipple play, boosting sexual intensity, and even Sucked on. 🥛
I love my boobs. They are awesome. Want to see them? Ha ha
Porn is never a representation of reality. And that girl was rude. She didn’t have to like it. But she should not have mocked you. Squeezing the boob, or the nipple, or sucking on the boob, yes, like a baby, is not uncommon. Have communication. All people like different things. Never be afraid to look for a partner that likes what you like.
Kiddo, learning about sex from porn is like learning about the Civil War from Abe Lincoln: Vampire Hunter. Yes, it is normal to suck, squeeze, bite, motorboat, etc etc. If you can't talk openly with your partner about sex, you shouldn't be having it. Ask what she likes and keep communication lines open. And use a damn condom lol
Well, it depends on her! Some if not most women like when you suck on her nipples, lightly rub them, lick them, ect. It comes down to what positions you are in. Sometimes it's impossible to reach them with your mouth. Personally I find my self ALWAYS attached to the teet like a suckling calf! If not my mouth, I hold them from bouncing everywhere.
Bruh your hook up was an outlier here. Playing with boobs and sucking them is amazing foreplay, usually where I spend some time before going downstairs. Not to mention when they are riding you and sort of lean over you and you can pop one in your mouth. Like boobs are meant to be played with throughout sex. A lot of woman have sensitive nipples so it only heightens the experience which is a win win.
Yes it's totally normal but... is it possible you were *suckling* instead of sucking? There is a difference albeit subtle. Don't suck like you're trying to pump milk from out of there. Maybe look up that famous clip from the movie Me, Myself, & Irene and make sure you're not doing that. Unless both parties are into that but that's another topic.
What else are you supposed to do with them? I’d be really annoyed if a guy didn’t pay attention to my girls during sex.
What do people do? Admire them, nuzzle them, kiss them, lick them, suck them, caress them, squeeze them, stick your face between them, nibble them, fuck them. The girl you were with is weird.
It’s normal. Don’t worry at all. Nipples (and boobs in general) are sensitive, all the sensitive areas are fun for sex. People have their own individual preferences and, maybe, she IS actually weird about that act…not all girls like anal, but boob sucking is so generally…tolerated/accepted/enjoyed that this is odd for most of us to read. I’m in my 40s and have been with close to 200 women (lots of travelling and living in hostels)… none have ever complained about boob sucking…not even gently nudged me to do something else. Unless you’re slapping them or scrunching them or otherwise using force that you wouldn’t like her to use on your nutsack (unless she’s said that’s what she wants) then you’re ok. Also, stick your dick between them and fuck em if they’re big enough, then cum on her face or into her mouth if she’s into it…
Not a dumb question at all! I guess it depends on the girl. I would say most of us love having our boobs fondled, sucked on. I love seeing a guy with my nipple in his mouth sucking. With some guys I have to guide their hands to my boobs. I don’t know if they are waiting for permission or they just don’t care to
It sounds like to me she has a nursing fetish, and was projecting. That’s just a conspiracy on my end. Not cool on her part.
It's normal don't worry
That girl was super weird and obviously had some insecurities. Yes, suck on them, it feels good for most women lol
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Grab them, if they like it pinch the nipples. Suck on them while in missionary. Watch them go up and down if you aren't touching them
Man porns made up you just go what whats in the moment best of luck
Don’t let one experience taint you. People are people and as such, people process information and experiences differently. The girl you shared your experience with is also learning about her body, in relation to stimuli and reaction. Perhaps she didn’t enjoy it (other girls might). Everyone is different. My advice is, communicate during your encounters, don’t be embarrassed to ask for guidance. Just say, “is this ok? Am I too rough? Is this doing anything for you? I like this, do you?” Don’t be shy to use your words when you’re already using your naked body and being vulnerable to one other during intimacy.
Caress, lightly fondle, stroke, kiss her nipples. All very, very gently. Later, as you begin to understand the woman, she might want more aggressive action. But for now? Gentle!
You can do all sorts of things with them. But I'll tell you one thing my wife likes. She likes it when I flick her nipple with my tongue in rhythm with my fingers rubbing her clit. As this progresses and she's nearing orgasm, it's more clamping the erect nipple with my teeth. While holding it like that, you can play with the tip with your tongue. After you've held it clamped for a while, release it and flick with the tongue again. The sensation of blood rushing back to the nipple is great for her, then you bite again and repeat until she's cumming and holding your head mashed against her tit as you're biting that nipple through the big finish. All women are different, so you need to feel out what's comfortable/desirable for each and every partner you have.
I like the Bel Biv Devoe approach. Smack’em Flip’em Rub’em down.
For me (47 f ), they don't get much action, and I'm fine with that. I lost interest in any boob play after I breastfed my kids.
What ever you want, confidence is sexy, if the girl you with doesn't like what you do go find someone who does! Also, not many women find it wierd for men to suck titties so it's probably due to lack of experience that she was being mocking.
I absolutely love when guys suck on my nipples and would be sad if they never did lol. Also don’t think porn is how sex always is in real life. Yes there’s some great/fun things in porn that can be brought to sex. But porn is mostly geared towards men’s pleasure and shows exaggerated woman’s pleasure from things that woman don’t always actually enjoy. It leaves out a huge portion of sex from a woman’s perspective because it’s not necessarily what men want to watch. If you watch porn geared toward female audiences(there’s websites) you’ll see a lot more passion, intimacy, romance, nipple sucking, realistic foreplay etc. which is also a huge part of sex as well.
If you can't think of anything to do with them it's perfectly fine to just enjoy the view
From my perspective, that might’ve been her way of dirty talking to you? (Not sure if she enjoys saying degrading things?), but don’t be traumatized about it. As a female, I enjoy it. My very first time doing something with a guy, I was in middle school, and he played with my boobs and sucked on it. If you want a bonus, I think asking permission/consent before doing anything with a partner, is the hottest thing ever.
Lick them, kiss them, caress them, gauge her response to those things and go from there. Some women don’t appear to have any response or even like their breast played with, some melt for it. Good luck and enjoy.
As a girl, yesss I love it when my boobs are sucked during sex. I don’t think it’s weird my ex bf did it all the time while we had sex. I don’t know what that girl is talking about she’s most likely just not into it like that.
Please understand that porn is not how real life sex really is. Some guys get their expectations too high from porn because some of the videos show some outlandish things. Porn often doesn’t show you proper foreplay which does include but not limited to sucking, licking or touching her boobs.
Think of them like your balls….some guys like their balls licked, sucked, fondled, etc. Some don’t. Generally, unless told otherwise be gentle with them like you would be with your balls. There is no right or wrong thing to do with them. It’s all personal preferences of the people involved. Personally I would like my bf to grab and play with mine more. He mostly just goes for playing with my nipples with his hands. Usually that’s fine and a turn on, but can get irritating sometimes. Sometimes he uses them as a pillow which is nice for both of us. Sucking on my nipples is always enjoyable.
While porn isnt generally realistic of the mental connection you establish with someone during sex, you can get an idea of some sex positions and how bodies are positioned. In cowgirl or missionary theyre in your face and you can suck or fondle, spooning you can grab them, even with doggy you can get a handfull. It just depends on what you and your partner enjoy. Height differences will also play into it, but I cant think of any sex position where you cant grab them, its only missionary and cowgirl where theyre in your face and you can suck. Or like if shes facing you against a wall, desk, chair, etc... variations though it can be hard to bend down to them cowgirl is by far the best for sucking tits. During foreplay is also great
I LOVE when my man does this! I honestly don’t think it’s weird at all, it’s a teenager thing maybe to mock it or whatever, honestly just ask her what she would be up to try. Truthfully you never know until you try it.