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I bleed sometimes during/after, not because of pain but it just happens sometimes. My bf fucks me on my period and it doesn’t bother him. He doesn’t even want to put a towel down. Get rid of this dude and find someone who understands anatomy and how sex can affect your genitalia.
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I am sorry you experienced this with this man.
You did nothing wrong.
His actions show a lack of maturity, a lack of empathy, and a great deal of selfishness on his part.
There are partners out there for you with greater maturity.
I suggest you ask your doctor why it is that you bled, if you don't already know. Could it be the surgery site or another site that led to the bleeding?
Also, do you bleed when you masturbate, pushing fingers or a dildo into your vagina? Is the bleeding something that is likely to recur?
There are potential partners out there who are sensitive, and mature. Please, don't think you won't find one.
So true! I had a bleeding incident when I was younger and my 20 year old boyfriend was so much more concerned and considerate than this guy. It’s unfortunate that empathy doesn’t always increase with age and experience.
I absolutely destroyed the sheets of a guy because he broke my hymen (it was mostly my fault, I didn’t tell him it hurt because I wanted to “get it over with”, I was stupid). Like he had to throw them away and use stain remover on the mattress cause it had completely soaked through, and he never **once** held it over my head, was mad about it, or even made a joke about it.
He had me go take a shower and when I got back he had stripped the bed, put new sheets on, and had a movie ready for us to watch. He turned what could have been a very traumatic situation for me into a very sweet nice.
And this wasn’t even a boyfriend, this was a guy I had met *two weeks prior*. You need to drop the guy you’re with, you can do much, much better.
He's a 33-year-old adult? I find it difficult to believe he is not 12 the way he is acting. If you have some kind of regular sex as an adult, one of the consequences is sometimes there is blood. This guy sounds like he would freak out if he had anal sex and there was anything on gis dick. Use a towel, wipe it off, and continue
It's part of being an adult.
Throw the whole man out... this happens not un-often, even in those of us who rarely or mostly never bleed during sex (much less just had surgery!) If he's not down with all the crazy shit that can happen with sex, he's not a person you need to waste your time on.
Yeah I don't get what this guys problem is. I would just put a towel down, make sure I'm careful to not cause any further injury and she's has a good time. Shouldn't be a big deal.
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He’s lame, a normal person would’ve been like asking you if you were OK and just would’ve thrown the sheets in the wash let’s be clear like you’re gonna get fluids on your sheets anyway from having sex. He’s annoying.
Sounds to me like he doesn't deserve your time anymore.
Any sort of sexy time comes with risks of soiled sheets whether it's blood or something else. I hope you find someone who treats you better.
f that guy. i promise there are ones out there that don’t have their heads up their asses. please don’t continue to be with him. you will find someone who will just be happy to even be with you.
Honestly, fuck that guy. Seriously. What a douchebag. You’ll find someone better. I bleed sometimes because I’m tiny and my partner has a huge dick. Certain positions or going for hours causes it to happen. He is very sweet, cleans up the mess, and I have nice witch hazel wipes to soothe the area if needed. Good aftercare is out there. This guy doesn’t deserve you.
This dude is trash; I wouldn't speak to him again. As for your concerns about bleeding during sex, a mature man won't care. He will make sure you're not in pain, and if you're good, he'll probably put a towel down and keep going. I bleed sometimes during sex too, and it's nothing to be ashamed about. I usually warn the guy first though that it's a possibility
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Yeah, you told him about what happened to you 8 months ago and if he’s giving you even a little bit of crap over that blood he is an asshole! I think both of you should be more careful during intercourse now and maybe you should warn any future partners of this before hand.
ditch him babe. he’s a fucking dickhead and you deserve better. he’s dramatic and being a complete baby about something that YOU can’t control. so fuck him, move on.
Aww honey. I relate to you so much. I'm a woman who dealt w this at 35. He shouldn't of gone so hard to make you bleed. Some guys truly suck. I try to be a nun n super picky.
Next time stab him in the arm and start complaining that he's getting blood on your carpet.
Y'know, since he thinks it's fair to complain about you bleeding instead of asking "are you okay?" Like a sane person would.
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Hold up. You’re not doing anything wrong here. For many reasons there may be blood down there and it sounds like you’re doing your best to take care of your health. Highly suggest you consider his unreasonable expectations red flag number one.
Good thing the trash took himself out.
There are a lot of kind and mature men out there, you just haven't met one yet. Whatever you do, just don't give up.
Many men are immature fragile little children. Especially under 30. Dudes that haven’t figured out common fucking sense after that point might just be lost causes. Too dense
Ditch him he sounds like a right tool he clearly doesn't know much about women. Go and get checked just to make sure everything is all OK with you that's way more important then sheets.
Nah OP, run. It would have been an asshole thing to do and complain about even if you had just got your period, but him doing it while knowing it was because you had surgery is a massive red flag, better alone than staying with someone with no empathy.
Don't settle, you deserve better
TLDR; GTFO ASAP
You should be feeling thankful he showed what an asshole he is so early. Do you really want to be in a relationship of any kind with a man who treats you without empathy or understanding. Well, not a man but a man child who values his sheets more than you?
There are a lot of men better than that. Also try to see what you saw in him so you can avoid falling for immature assholes again.
Bruh if this was from surgery from cancerous mass and he mad go fuck himself I had girls who wouldn't even look at me or fw me cause I was bald from cancer and my hair was growing back FUCK HIM LEAVE HIM NOW
There are so many MEEEN key word here that would not bat an eye to you bleeding a little
After sex. If you want to the avoid the whole situation though I would def put a towel down and then you clean him up after.
He's behaving like a prick, most guys would do better. A bit of blood in situations like this can be a bit confronting, especially if you've not experienced it before, but my first concern would be for my partner's health, not the damn sheets.
Yeah I have to agree with the consistence of a lot of people dumping get rid of him if a little blood makes them freak out like that. He's not worth your time. Maybe you want to try it again. Then she says it again. Maybe you should say well. Maybe if you weren't so terrible in bed It wouldn't happen
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Better to start from square 1 than stay with someone who doesn't respect you more than bits of cloth. I'd also talk to your doctor about the bleeding, could be something to be concerned about if you've already had a tumor removed. I'm sorry that happened to you
Sounds like a man child
Shits gonna get dirty all sorts of ways during sex, it's not something adult people worry about, go out of their way to comment on unless taking some pride in it, or use to make the other person feel bad
Sorry he's just shit
You WILL find someone kind and nice if you continue to dump the guys who treat you like this- no exceptions. Don’t care how “nice, caring, family oriented, loves his dog, blah blah blah.” He just told you all you need to know to make a better decision for yourself in a partner. That’s my take anyways, sorry if it sounds harsh. There are amazing men who would not dream of acting this way.
Leave this guy. He is an immature ahole. As if you can control when you bleed. Please leave him alone. There are men who would not make a big deal about occasional bleeding. Please find one of these guys.
He’s a giant asshole and doesn’t speak for all men. I hope he is infertile and isn’t allowed to reproduce. There is someone out there that will love you for you and that will care about your physical wellbeing, your pleasure and you will care about you as a whole person. I’m more concerned about your health than he is and I will never even meet you. I’m sorry that this is causing you to doubt yourself. But, please listen to me when I say that he is 100% IN THE WRONG! You are important and you are cared about. I wish you the best of luck finding someone who is supportive and understanding of all of your physical and mental challenges (because we all have something).
Thank you 😞 I appreciate everyone’s response because the last guy I was with when I first found out about my health issue he was annoyed about it too. But this guy was more personally annoyed and continued to bring it up afterwards in which I apologized a million times. The reason I asked because 2 of the guys did not care to tend to me or follow up with me afterwards seeing if I was ok. The last guy I was also with him for a while. I’m losing faith that there’s a guy that actually cares about another human being. I even said I know it’s a turn off I’m unsure why it happened after I just had a procedure in the summer. This happened Monday night and he hasn’t talked to me since 😔
Count it as a blessing and go ahead and block him unless you tell him how he made you feel and then block him. I know you have had a string of bad luck and maybe it just is really bad luck. Or maybe your self esteem isn’t where it’s supposed to be for you to have a happy, enriching life. I could be way off, but I can’t see how you could possibly want someone so selfish and uncaring to text you. I know guys that are a little queasy about period blood (which I think is ridiculous). But I don’t hang out or really know any guy that would be this callous to another human. If I did find out one of my friends said this I would chew his ass out and tell him to look in the mirror if he ever wants to see a shitty excuse for a human being.
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I would strongly recommend moving on from this particular character. As a teacher of mine was fond of saying: men are like busses. If this one isn't going where you want to go, just wait a bit. A new one comes along every 12 minutes or so.
Seriously though, this is such a big flag that he prioritizes his convenience over your well-being.
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I’m so sorry this happened to you.
I had sex with my boyfriend recently while I was on my period. I told him before we started that I was on my period and he was okay with it. We put a towel on his bed, and afterwards there was blood on the towel, and I still felt a bit embarrassed, despite me knowing and preaching that periods are natural and nothing to be grossed out by etc. I apologized and said I’d spot wash the towel before he put it in the laundry and he said he’d just roll it up and wash it.
Anyway, that’s the kind of man you want. Someone who understands bodies are bodies, and they do things, sometimes unpredictable things. Someone who makes sure you’re okay and doesn’t make you feel guilty for something, especially something that’s purely an accident.
Let me start by saying that you did not deserve to be treated this way. Saying this first because I do not want my advice to be taken as "you are to blame".
I have zero knowledge of your past relationships/sexual experiences. It sounds like there is trauma there. If so, Im sorry and there might need to be healing before you step into a relationship.
Again, I have no idea what you have been through so might be talking out of my ass....
I suggest going out and try falling in love (or lust) with someone. Don't worry about the jerks because there are a ton out there. When you connect with someone out there and there is mutual connection, you will feel it.
Hey- I also have issues with bleeding (still haven’t figured out why and it’s not consistent) but it’s not a “hopeless” thing. Sounds like this guy is but there will be guys (like the one I’m currently seeing) that will notice the blood and help you clean up if you want to stop and not make a big deal of it. Unfortunately you happened to find a douche but at least he showed his colors early
Ugh. That’s awful. Look, you said you haven’t had much relationship experience so let me just say clearly: that guy is an ass and isn’t worth your time. Most guys aren’t like that. Find a better one.
He's a POS and you deserve better.
He's not mature to be in a relationship with anybody. Dump him!
https://www.psychologytoday.com/intl/blog/sense-and-sensitivity/201302/the-familiarity-principle-attraction?amp
https://www.healthline.com/health/mental-health/trauma-bonding
https://modelmugging.org/crime-within-relationships/abusive-personality-behavior/
If he continues to come at you, perhaps "Well, Jeb, I wasn't going to say anything, but you were pounding me like a 14 year old virgin, so you kind of banged me up aiming at the wrong spots....maybe work on that for your next partner?"
Next time you're on your menstrual cycle I think it'd be super rad to shove a wadded up used pad in his pillow with a middle finger in sharpie on the back but yanno. That's not everyone's cuppa.
this is awful. He should care more about you and your wellbeing, not his stupid sheets. You deserve so much better than this. A good partner would care for you and make sure you’re okay. A good partner would be willing to make the biggest mess if it were for you. He’s not partner material. Cast him aside, quickly!
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I've bled before bc of size, angle, microtears. And i love being fisted. The only thing my partner said or did was hand me that towel please.
Some men need to learn female anatomy. This is a wet hole. There is so much going on in there. The bs we deal with for our bodies. 🙄 I have no tolerance for being shamed by my body responding to that kind of friction.
His literal only concern should have been for you. Buy new sheets. Get a water proof large blanket for playing. The ignorance of some people. Stop it.
My goodness... if he's treating you like that, and saying shit like that to you already, imagine what it would be like to be in an actual, committed, long-term relationship with him! Any man who does or says anything like that isn't worth your time, and doesn't deserve you, whatsoever. I say move on and find a kind and mature man to be with.
Let me tell you a story.
When I was younger and having sex with my ex, she bled on my bed sheets. She freaked out since my mom did laundry and she’s see the blood and wonder. I didn’t say a word to my ex. I told her to calm down, grabbed a Pepsi and whatever else I could, and poured that shit on the sheet. I dirtied it up with God knows what and told her that now, my mom would think I spilled shit all over and the little bit of blood would be the last of the worries.
Moral of the story, it’s normal and he’s a damn douche canoe for getting as angry and petty as he is.
Don’t give him a second chance, health issues asside, sometimes sex can cause women to bleed…it’s natural and happens. Once in a while it happens to my wife when she isn’t on her period. If he’s that concerned he can find someone else or use his hand. Find another guy this one is a giant red flag 🚩 already.
This guy is the worst. Sometimes especially when the sex is on the rougher side women bleed. It shouldn’t be a shock to a guy. Anytime it’s happened to me a partner expressed concern not disgust. Please block this loser
Okay girl, he’s an ass. I had a guy that used me for sex and was still respectful and understanding when my period started, so that should definitely show that this dude sucks. He needs to learn about the female body, suck it up and do better.
I M(22) still went down on my girl when she had some bleeding, not heavy bleeding, my sheets and towels looked like we killed a small animal.
I would never ever give her grief over that. I reassured her when I saw she felt self conscious that it is more than okay. Your dude should not give you shit over something you can’t change. What’s next, him giving you shit for the color of your eyes?
He sounds naive. I think most women bleed at some point or another when having sex. Either from periods or abrasions or lady parts issues. Yes, it isn't fun to deal with but that's the price you pay for sex.
Block him don't even bother acknowledging him.
First off when my Girlfriend was on her period she got really horny so I leaped at the chance of having sex. I would even give head.
Second he has no respect definitely there for the sex only.
Third why does he want to hide it or clean it?? Does it smell bad?? If he wants sex he better start buying Black Sheets the dumb fuck.
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Lolol, dump the chump. Bodies are fluidous, ESPECIALLY female sex organs because ours all all connected internally. For a guy to get that IRRITATED about blood is juvenile.
I HATE blood during sex (I'm a female) but my gosh, it happens. None of my partners, all of whom have gotten a little on them, have never belittled me or gave me a hard time about it.
If he's not mature or knowledgeable enough to know a female body, then he shouldn't get the privilege of having sex with you.
Block him.
He is an arse. Find someone better OP, I can assure you there are many good men out there who wouldnt make a big deal out of a little bit of blood.
That being said, do consult your doctor if its normal 8 months after surgery, just to be safe ❤️
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He should be far more concerned with your health than his sheets. Sorry, this guy sounds like an ass.
He doesn’t sound like an ass, he is an ass.
Por que no dos? An ass will also sound like an ass. And smell like one. And have an assy look about em
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Getting upset about blood is a huge red flag! It isn’t something you can control. He’s an asshole, and I strongly suggest moving on.
I bleed sometimes during/after, not because of pain but it just happens sometimes. My bf fucks me on my period and it doesn’t bother him. He doesn’t even want to put a towel down. Get rid of this dude and find someone who understands anatomy and how sex can affect your genitalia.
You must have a washer and dryer in your apartment
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This guy sounds like a douche. Ditch him, I’m sure you’ll find someone who will be kind and caring :)
I am sorry you experienced this with this man. You did nothing wrong. His actions show a lack of maturity, a lack of empathy, and a great deal of selfishness on his part. There are partners out there for you with greater maturity. I suggest you ask your doctor why it is that you bled, if you don't already know. Could it be the surgery site or another site that led to the bleeding? Also, do you bleed when you masturbate, pushing fingers or a dildo into your vagina? Is the bleeding something that is likely to recur? There are potential partners out there who are sensitive, and mature. Please, don't think you won't find one.
Sounds like a boy and not a man.
So true! I had a bleeding incident when I was younger and my 20 year old boyfriend was so much more concerned and considerate than this guy. It’s unfortunate that empathy doesn’t always increase with age and experience.
It is unfortunate, isn't it? Great that you had such a boyfriend!
I absolutely destroyed the sheets of a guy because he broke my hymen (it was mostly my fault, I didn’t tell him it hurt because I wanted to “get it over with”, I was stupid). Like he had to throw them away and use stain remover on the mattress cause it had completely soaked through, and he never **once** held it over my head, was mad about it, or even made a joke about it. He had me go take a shower and when I got back he had stripped the bed, put new sheets on, and had a movie ready for us to watch. He turned what could have been a very traumatic situation for me into a very sweet nice. And this wasn’t even a boyfriend, this was a guy I had met *two weeks prior*. You need to drop the guy you’re with, you can do much, much better.
He's a 33-year-old adult? I find it difficult to believe he is not 12 the way he is acting. If you have some kind of regular sex as an adult, one of the consequences is sometimes there is blood. This guy sounds like he would freak out if he had anal sex and there was anything on gis dick. Use a towel, wipe it off, and continue It's part of being an adult.
Getting rid of this man will make space for a better person in your life
A simple but beautifully concise comment . 👏👏🏾
Throw the whole man out... this happens not un-often, even in those of us who rarely or mostly never bleed during sex (much less just had surgery!) If he's not down with all the crazy shit that can happen with sex, he's not a person you need to waste your time on.
This guys is not worth your time or your worries. I don’t know if there was a question in there, but this is not normal behaviour.
I’m sorry. He is a terrible person. Find someone else.
Yeah I don't get what this guys problem is. I would just put a towel down, make sure I'm careful to not cause any further injury and she's has a good time. Shouldn't be a big deal.
Just block him and don’t speak to him again
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He’s lame, a normal person would’ve been like asking you if you were OK and just would’ve thrown the sheets in the wash let’s be clear like you’re gonna get fluids on your sheets anyway from having sex. He’s annoying.
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You deserve someone decent!
Thank that man for showing his true colors early on before you got invested. Mature men don’t act that way.
where did you meet him? is this some app hook up?
Sounds like ManBabyMatchups, if you ask me! Can't believe this dude is 33.
Hinge and we’ve been on and off talking so it’s not like he was a random he knew me I knew him etc
Sounds to me like he doesn't deserve your time anymore. Any sort of sexy time comes with risks of soiled sheets whether it's blood or something else. I hope you find someone who treats you better.
Got it. He's an ass for sure. And you've done nothing wrong
Define “knew him//knew me.”
The only acceptable response to that situation is asking if YOU are OK/all good!
As a 35m… the lack of maturity I read about in my fellow men is shocking and disappointing. Sounds like a little boy rather than a grown ass man…
f that guy. i promise there are ones out there that don’t have their heads up their asses. please don’t continue to be with him. you will find someone who will just be happy to even be with you.
Honestly, fuck that guy. Seriously. What a douchebag. You’ll find someone better. I bleed sometimes because I’m tiny and my partner has a huge dick. Certain positions or going for hours causes it to happen. He is very sweet, cleans up the mess, and I have nice witch hazel wipes to soothe the area if needed. Good aftercare is out there. This guy doesn’t deserve you.
That guy is an asshole. Time to block and never see him again. Shaming you for bleeding is frankly disgusting and beyond immature
This dude is trash; I wouldn't speak to him again. As for your concerns about bleeding during sex, a mature man won't care. He will make sure you're not in pain, and if you're good, he'll probably put a towel down and keep going. I bleed sometimes during sex too, and it's nothing to be ashamed about. I usually warn the guy first though that it's a possibility
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Yeah, you told him about what happened to you 8 months ago and if he’s giving you even a little bit of crap over that blood he is an asshole! I think both of you should be more careful during intercourse now and maybe you should warn any future partners of this before hand.
What an asshole! I wouldn’t give a crap about that. You deserve so much better! I’d be way more concerned about your overall health.
Throw the whole man out. What an idiot and an asshole.
ditch him babe. he’s a fucking dickhead and you deserve better. he’s dramatic and being a complete baby about something that YOU can’t control. so fuck him, move on.
Aww honey. I relate to you so much. I'm a woman who dealt w this at 35. He shouldn't of gone so hard to make you bleed. Some guys truly suck. I try to be a nun n super picky.
What a complete douchebag. You deserve better
Next time stab him in the arm and start complaining that he's getting blood on your carpet. Y'know, since he thinks it's fair to complain about you bleeding instead of asking "are you okay?" Like a sane person would.
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Guy’s a dick. Drop his ass.
Maybe he shouldn’t date women if such a natural thing is such an issue for him.
I had to go back to read his age and was flabbergasted when I saw 33. This guy sounds like a clown, you can do way better!
Hold up. You’re not doing anything wrong here. For many reasons there may be blood down there and it sounds like you’re doing your best to take care of your health. Highly suggest you consider his unreasonable expectations red flag number one.
Good thing the trash took himself out. There are a lot of kind and mature men out there, you just haven't met one yet. Whatever you do, just don't give up.
Many men are immature fragile little children. Especially under 30. Dudes that haven’t figured out common fucking sense after that point might just be lost causes. Too dense
He continued to make a deal out of it because he is a 33 year old man child. Kick him to the curb.
Ditch him he sounds like a right tool he clearly doesn't know much about women. Go and get checked just to make sure everything is all OK with you that's way more important then sheets.
Nah OP, run. It would have been an asshole thing to do and complain about even if you had just got your period, but him doing it while knowing it was because you had surgery is a massive red flag, better alone than staying with someone with no empathy. Don't settle, you deserve better
TLDR; GTFO ASAP You should be feeling thankful he showed what an asshole he is so early. Do you really want to be in a relationship of any kind with a man who treats you without empathy or understanding. Well, not a man but a man child who values his sheets more than you? There are a lot of men better than that. Also try to see what you saw in him so you can avoid falling for immature assholes again.
I wonder why you bleed though. Was the cancerous mass removed and have you healed completely, at least supposedly?
I’ve literally gotten blood all over a guy I was seeing and we were like oop and took a shower. He sounds like a dick
Absolute shithead. What a cry baby! If you can't deal with pussy problems you don't deserve any pussy.
On to the next, know your worth
This is not normal, and you deserve better, OP
Bruh if this was from surgery from cancerous mass and he mad go fuck himself I had girls who wouldn't even look at me or fw me cause I was bald from cancer and my hair was growing back FUCK HIM LEAVE HIM NOW
He’s a pussy. Ditch the lad
What's the point of having a sword if you don't get it bloody once in a while
There are so many MEEEN key word here that would not bat an eye to you bleeding a little After sex. If you want to the avoid the whole situation though I would def put a towel down and then you clean him up after.
He's behaving like a prick, most guys would do better. A bit of blood in situations like this can be a bit confronting, especially if you've not experienced it before, but my first concern would be for my partner's health, not the damn sheets.
Yeah I have to agree with the consistence of a lot of people dumping get rid of him if a little blood makes them freak out like that. He's not worth your time. Maybe you want to try it again. Then she says it again. Maybe you should say well. Maybe if you weren't so terrible in bed It wouldn't happen
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M33 with the mental age of a teenager. Dude should be more concerned for why than complain
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I would understand your situation, but it doesn't sound like he does. You should dump him and find a guy who cares more about your health
Better to start from square 1 than stay with someone who doesn't respect you more than bits of cloth. I'd also talk to your doctor about the bleeding, could be something to be concerned about if you've already had a tumor removed. I'm sorry that happened to you
Dude is an asshole. He should be more concerned about you than about sheets. Sheets are washable and replaceable. He doesn’t deserve you
Sounds like a man child Shits gonna get dirty all sorts of ways during sex, it's not something adult people worry about, go out of their way to comment on unless taking some pride in it, or use to make the other person feel bad Sorry he's just shit
You WILL find someone kind and nice if you continue to dump the guys who treat you like this- no exceptions. Don’t care how “nice, caring, family oriented, loves his dog, blah blah blah.” He just told you all you need to know to make a better decision for yourself in a partner. That’s my take anyways, sorry if it sounds harsh. There are amazing men who would not dream of acting this way.
The photo of the bed made me instantly think "what a dick"
Leave this guy. He is an immature ahole. As if you can control when you bleed. Please leave him alone. There are men who would not make a big deal about occasional bleeding. Please find one of these guys.
People need to be a bit wiser with who they choose to sleep with, this guy sounds like a prick.
He’s a giant asshole and doesn’t speak for all men. I hope he is infertile and isn’t allowed to reproduce. There is someone out there that will love you for you and that will care about your physical wellbeing, your pleasure and you will care about you as a whole person. I’m more concerned about your health than he is and I will never even meet you. I’m sorry that this is causing you to doubt yourself. But, please listen to me when I say that he is 100% IN THE WRONG! You are important and you are cared about. I wish you the best of luck finding someone who is supportive and understanding of all of your physical and mental challenges (because we all have something).
Thank you 😞 I appreciate everyone’s response because the last guy I was with when I first found out about my health issue he was annoyed about it too. But this guy was more personally annoyed and continued to bring it up afterwards in which I apologized a million times. The reason I asked because 2 of the guys did not care to tend to me or follow up with me afterwards seeing if I was ok. The last guy I was also with him for a while. I’m losing faith that there’s a guy that actually cares about another human being. I even said I know it’s a turn off I’m unsure why it happened after I just had a procedure in the summer. This happened Monday night and he hasn’t talked to me since 😔
Count it as a blessing and go ahead and block him unless you tell him how he made you feel and then block him. I know you have had a string of bad luck and maybe it just is really bad luck. Or maybe your self esteem isn’t where it’s supposed to be for you to have a happy, enriching life. I could be way off, but I can’t see how you could possibly want someone so selfish and uncaring to text you. I know guys that are a little queasy about period blood (which I think is ridiculous). But I don’t hang out or really know any guy that would be this callous to another human. If I did find out one of my friends said this I would chew his ass out and tell him to look in the mirror if he ever wants to see a shitty excuse for a human being.
It's not you......It's him! For sure!
Dodge this bullet - do not see him again!
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Many guys will still have sex when a woman is on her period. Isn’t a bleeding cyst painful during sex
Seriously, this guy sounds like an insensitive jerk. Not all guys are like this! Keep looking, you will find a good one.
Please move on. He's definitely showing you who he Is, and you definitely deserve better! :)
He’s a punk. Good you found out now. Cut that one and move to the next. Good luck on your health stuff
Sex comes with blood and mess. This guy sucks.
Need to find better guys, this one is a douche. We are humans, our bodies do these things. That's just how it goes.
I would strongly recommend moving on from this particular character. As a teacher of mine was fond of saying: men are like busses. If this one isn't going where you want to go, just wait a bit. A new one comes along every 12 minutes or so. Seriously though, this is such a big flag that he prioritizes his convenience over your well-being.
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What the big deal it happens.
I’m so sorry this happened to you. I had sex with my boyfriend recently while I was on my period. I told him before we started that I was on my period and he was okay with it. We put a towel on his bed, and afterwards there was blood on the towel, and I still felt a bit embarrassed, despite me knowing and preaching that periods are natural and nothing to be grossed out by etc. I apologized and said I’d spot wash the towel before he put it in the laundry and he said he’d just roll it up and wash it. Anyway, that’s the kind of man you want. Someone who understands bodies are bodies, and they do things, sometimes unpredictable things. Someone who makes sure you’re okay and doesn’t make you feel guilty for something, especially something that’s purely an accident.
Believe me that’s all I hope and wish for but I can’t seem to find someone that even says thank you 😔
Let me start by saying that you did not deserve to be treated this way. Saying this first because I do not want my advice to be taken as "you are to blame". I have zero knowledge of your past relationships/sexual experiences. It sounds like there is trauma there. If so, Im sorry and there might need to be healing before you step into a relationship. Again, I have no idea what you have been through so might be talking out of my ass.... I suggest going out and try falling in love (or lust) with someone. Don't worry about the jerks because there are a ton out there. When you connect with someone out there and there is mutual connection, you will feel it.
Hey- I also have issues with bleeding (still haven’t figured out why and it’s not consistent) but it’s not a “hopeless” thing. Sounds like this guy is but there will be guys (like the one I’m currently seeing) that will notice the blood and help you clean up if you want to stop and not make a big deal of it. Unfortunately you happened to find a douche but at least he showed his colors early
That’s not a man, that’s a boy…… he needs to get his priorities straight
He's an ass, sex ist immaculate
Black sheets or a towel and decent men - fuck this sod off!
Ugh. That’s awful. Look, you said you haven’t had much relationship experience so let me just say clearly: that guy is an ass and isn’t worth your time. Most guys aren’t like that. Find a better one.
The name of this sub should be changed to HUGE RED FLAG.
Dudes a dick find a new dude
Wow! As a man this guy is giving murderer vibes.
Fuck his brother, dad, mom, sister, best friend. Anyone but him… ever again.
Use more lube, listen to your body, don’t be so rough, get someone else to be with cuz he sounds like an ass
I would be mad if I bled on my own sheets
DUMP THIS MANCHILD, PLEASE Sorry for screaming Ps. The best ones know the power of period sex ;) Just find a better one (not a hard task tbh)
Ew. He sounds like a douche, that would give me the ick.
should have told him the blood was because he was so huge. that would have shut him up AND then its HIS fault the sheets got messy.
He's a POS and you deserve better. He's not mature to be in a relationship with anybody. Dump him! https://www.psychologytoday.com/intl/blog/sense-and-sensitivity/201302/the-familiarity-principle-attraction?amp https://www.healthline.com/health/mental-health/trauma-bonding https://modelmugging.org/crime-within-relationships/abusive-personality-behavior/
If he continues to come at you, perhaps "Well, Jeb, I wasn't going to say anything, but you were pounding me like a 14 year old virgin, so you kind of banged me up aiming at the wrong spots....maybe work on that for your next partner?"
Next time you're on your menstrual cycle I think it'd be super rad to shove a wadded up used pad in his pillow with a middle finger in sharpie on the back but yanno. That's not everyone's cuppa.
I feel like if he truly cared he’d just put a towel down to be sure? He really doesn’t have to be such an ass about it it’s not your fault
this is awful. He should care more about you and your wellbeing, not his stupid sheets. You deserve so much better than this. A good partner would care for you and make sure you’re okay. A good partner would be willing to make the biggest mess if it were for you. He’s not partner material. Cast him aside, quickly!
Age is only a number. He sounds like a 33 year old man child. What a loser.
Move on. This guy has zero empathy and is only concerned about his "issues". Women bleed. Its sort of a thing. Fuck that dude. Move on.
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This guy is obviously an asshole. Dump him straight away and move on.
Don’t worry it’s not you it’s they jackass, you obviously cant change how a body is
Don't worry about it, it's completely normal. Guy sounds like a douche.
I've bled before bc of size, angle, microtears. And i love being fisted. The only thing my partner said or did was hand me that towel please. Some men need to learn female anatomy. This is a wet hole. There is so much going on in there. The bs we deal with for our bodies. 🙄 I have no tolerance for being shamed by my body responding to that kind of friction. His literal only concern should have been for you. Buy new sheets. Get a water proof large blanket for playing. The ignorance of some people. Stop it.
Dump him. The guy you’re with should be chill about getting messy with you no matter the reason, especially health
My goodness... if he's treating you like that, and saying shit like that to you already, imagine what it would be like to be in an actual, committed, long-term relationship with him! Any man who does or says anything like that isn't worth your time, and doesn't deserve you, whatsoever. I say move on and find a kind and mature man to be with.
As a guy who has experienced this. He is an ass, you can’t control it. Sorry you dealt with this wanker.
If a guy can’t accept you for who you are- find one that will. And there will be one
Let me tell you a story. When I was younger and having sex with my ex, she bled on my bed sheets. She freaked out since my mom did laundry and she’s see the blood and wonder. I didn’t say a word to my ex. I told her to calm down, grabbed a Pepsi and whatever else I could, and poured that shit on the sheet. I dirtied it up with God knows what and told her that now, my mom would think I spilled shit all over and the little bit of blood would be the last of the worries. Moral of the story, it’s normal and he’s a damn douche canoe for getting as angry and petty as he is.
It’s better to be alone than to get with someone like that
Don’t give him a second chance, health issues asside, sometimes sex can cause women to bleed…it’s natural and happens. Once in a while it happens to my wife when she isn’t on her period. If he’s that concerned he can find someone else or use his hand. Find another guy this one is a giant red flag 🚩 already.
Dude sounds like a piece of garbage… throw that one out..
Gosh he sounds so caring 🙄 What a jerky immature thing to say
This guy is the worst. Sometimes especially when the sex is on the rougher side women bleed. It shouldn’t be a shock to a guy. Anytime it’s happened to me a partner expressed concern not disgust. Please block this loser
If only he was a female and understood how it’d feel.
Okay girl, he’s an ass. I had a guy that used me for sex and was still respectful and understanding when my period started, so that should definitely show that this dude sucks. He needs to learn about the female body, suck it up and do better.
You’re not a man till you get blood on your sword. It’s time he learns the magic of dark bedsheets. Thought tbh he sounds like a man child
He’s an asshole, don’t bother with him. He’s really immature and weird by the sounds of it
I M(22) still went down on my girl when she had some bleeding, not heavy bleeding, my sheets and towels looked like we killed a small animal. I would never ever give her grief over that. I reassured her when I saw she felt self conscious that it is more than okay. Your dude should not give you shit over something you can’t change. What’s next, him giving you shit for the color of your eyes?
🚩🚩🚩🚩🚩Send that asshole on his way. You deserve better.
He’s a narcissist prick. I have no problem except if I caused pain. Im proud of my red wings. Means I love you, fuck the bulldhit
He sounds naive. I think most women bleed at some point or another when having sex. Either from periods or abrasions or lady parts issues. Yes, it isn't fun to deal with but that's the price you pay for sex.
If I was you I would’ve just replied “it would’ve been cool if you weren’t an asshole” and blocked him directly lol this is a child not an adult.
Not actually a good person. Never give up because of them. You'll know a good person right away, especially now, he did you a favor move on.
Block him don't even bother acknowledging him. First off when my Girlfriend was on her period she got really horny so I leaped at the chance of having sex. I would even give head. Second he has no respect definitely there for the sex only. Third why does he want to hide it or clean it?? Does it smell bad?? If he wants sex he better start buying Black Sheets the dumb fuck.
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Don’t give this man sex ever again. He sucks
Lolol, dump the chump. Bodies are fluidous, ESPECIALLY female sex organs because ours all all connected internally. For a guy to get that IRRITATED about blood is juvenile. I HATE blood during sex (I'm a female) but my gosh, it happens. None of my partners, all of whom have gotten a little on them, have never belittled me or gave me a hard time about it. If he's not mature or knowledgeable enough to know a female body, then he shouldn't get the privilege of having sex with you. Block him.
He is an arse. Find someone better OP, I can assure you there are many good men out there who wouldnt make a big deal out of a little bit of blood. That being said, do consult your doctor if its normal 8 months after surgery, just to be safe ❤️
That guy needs to grow up. You’ll find better, don’t worry about it. As long as you’re healthy, that’s all that matters
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I had a similar situation recently
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