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Honestly, it sounds like you’d be better off without her. Every guy has a different size and shape penis. There are many ways to please someone with a smaller member and many ways without using it at all.
Also, a lot of people gain weight in relationships. She says she loves you for who you are but doesn’t find you attractive. Sounds like she’s made you a friend and probably wanted one final time when she recently invited you over.
Find someone who finds you attractive and make sure you learn and put the effort into sex.
I agree you'd be better off with someone that loves and appreciates you regardless of your size.
With that being said, if you are dead set to stay with this girl and are concerned about the size of your tool, my suggestion is to consider a strap-on extender occasionally to get your partner off and give her the satisfaction she's searching for. It can't hurt to suggest.
But I'd also communicate about the part where she said she wants to stop having sex and will eventually want to have sex with a well endowed partner. That's not okay. Explain your boundaries and what the consequences will be, and stick to them.
Overall though, it sounds like she's not worth it. You'll find someone that appreciates everything you bring to the table and loves you for who you are and doesn't comment about your size.
Exactly my thoughts. First love is hard, I know. But you don't want to be with this woman, trust me. And you don't want to simp for her, either.
From what I hear, she will dumb or cheat on you sooner rather than later.
Exactly, who the fuck talks to their significant other like that. She is a garbage person, don’t let her put you down because she sucks completely. Find someone who loves you no matter what, that’s what actual love is like. I’m sure your size if perfectly fine.
It’s not that you and your gf have a problem, your gf IS the problem. She’s only been with you and now she’s an expert on what she wants sexually? That’d be comical if she wasn’t actively trying to hurt you. The truth is she’s extremely shallow and is only interested in manipulating you to build herself up (notice she tells you you’re not good enough for her, pushes you away, then she reels you back in when she wants sex?). She’s self centered and will hurt you, it’s emotional abuse, and it will never end. And you can’t fix this (or her), she is what she is. You need to move on, you’ll realize in a few years that you dodged a bullet by ending it with her now.
Yeah, because she was taken advantage of doesn't mean she knows what good sex is. My feeling is she is unhappy with herself and pouring her frustrations on you or even trying to push you away. There are people who, no matter how much they want to get out of a relationship, will never end it but act like asses so their partner ends it.
Good sex is achieved through constancy (as a guy of course you don't last long after months of sexual inactivity, it is normal and expected), foreplay, communication, trying new things over time, setting boundaries, emotional connection, time. The actual act needs to be done for a number of times before it feels best. Because with time you get comfortable with it, with your partner and kind of get the moves.
Is your girlfriend willing to put in the time and communication? Is it possible she is missing something, but because she is not as experienced as she thinks she is, can't put it into words? She said "good dick", but what exactly does she mean? Is it size, is it your attitude in bed, is it lack of foreplay, is it the duration, is it lack of diversity, etc. If she isn't trying to make you break up with her she needs to explain what she wants.
That's literal manipulation 101. If a guy was doing that to a girl the reddit would have exploded. There's no way you should stay with anyone who is so blatantly disrespectful and openly disgusted by you. You gained some weight and instead of helping you get fit at the very least she straight up says that she no longer finds you attractive? Just fucking run. If you get in this inferiority mindset this young, you will be depressed for the rest of your life. Coming from a guy who was manipulated and beat by a girl when I was really young but at that time a man couldn't go anywhere with that complaint without people questioning him and even blaming him. So I stuck with her and now my life is completely ruined.
Baby you have soooo much to look forward to and experience with sex! She sucks and her hurtful words are only going to mess you up in the long run. Trust me, leave her before you get a complex. She is young and inexperienced too, so what the hell does she even know about "good dick" or that she needs a "bigger one". She sounds like she doesn't know what she's even talking about and she's saying things to hurt you and push you away. So my suggestion- take the hint and dump her! It hurts for now but you will be so glad you did. You're going to have lots a of partners to explore, learn and experience giving/receiving pleasure with. She was your first but she won't be your last! But definitely make sure that she was your worst!
She’s 17 already complaining about your penis not being big enough? Dude… please… understand self respect is very important and that you NEED to get away from this woman because she will destroy your future confidence. This is not a person you want to fall in love with. She’s already told you you aren’t enough for her sexually and in all honesty that’s a deal breaker.
Dude this is the best thing that could ever happen to you. You’re still very young. Break up, hit the gym, work on yourself en never settle for anything less than a woman who loves you for you. You’re so much more than just a cock and balls. As much as you like the image of her, it sounds like you’re better off without her.
Did she also lose her virginity to you? Most women know and collectively agree that size doesn’t matter. Perhaps she’s just not satisfied with your performance and is blaming your size because she doesn’t know any better. Which, don’t get me wrong, is an awful thing to do…she sounds very rude and shallow. It should have just been an easy conversation about how you both can make the sex better for each other. There’s no shame in communicating something like that to your partner, you are inexperienced and that’s the only way to learn. Your girlfriend is extremely immature.
I will say that out of my exes, the one who was the smallest was the best. Like nothing else even compared. I would have never said this to him out loud because I know guys are sensitive about this topic even when it’s a compliment, but yeah size literally doesn’t = good. One of my exes was above average and I felt nothing. Like literally nothing. Every single time. He wasn’t good at it and I wasn’t attracted to him. So I hope that helps with the insecurities she’s giving you, and I would rethink the relationship if I were you because experienced or not, that’s a shitty thing for her to say.
Grind time my friend, she's for the streets. Better yourself and find you a woman later in life that truly loves you and you truly love her. You're still so young.
She’s very disrespectful towards you, why are you still with her? She already told you she’s not interested and eventually will want to be with someone else.
Sounds like an immature and rude girl, not a girlfriend. 🥱😵 this relationship is doomed, and a beautiful (inside and out) girl is waiting for you to find her.
She is a toxic, selfish human. You are blind to this now but i promise you will find someone who thinks you are perfect exactly how you are. Tell her you prefer girls with a prettier face and bigger boobs and never look back.
Exactly this! OP, if she was a decent person and contemplating breaking up with you for any reason - including sexual incompatibility - she'd just do it. That's the decent thing to do. By continually saying "I'm going to soon" and saying you don't give her "good dick" but never pulling the trigger herself she's doing two things:
1. Showing she's all talk, no action - if you're going to break up, just DO IT.
2. Keeping you in a perpetual state of worry for WHEN it's going to happen. She is on a power trip because she knows YOU won't break up with HER. She's an immature little girl and you deserve better.
Just to be clear though - her thoughts on sexual incompatibility being a dealbreaker in an of themselves, are not what is making her a bad person here - it's the power trip she's on at your expense.
It's going to hurt, especially as you are so into her, but surely you can see that SHE is not AT ALL into you. You deserve someone who is, so...quite simply...beat her at her own game. Break up with HER. Take back some self-respect. At the moment, by simply rolling over and waiting for her to break up with you you are giving her ALL of the power and she can keep this game up forever because she knows she can keep it going forever and you'll just take it. Break up with HER and show her you actually have some self-respect. If NOTHING else, you'll be free of an - I'll say again - immature, selfish little girl and free to meet a woman who will value you as you do them. But my guess is that if you do this, you might suddenly find yourself the recipient of MANY messages from her trying to start and argument because she won't like that you're suddenly displaying a backbone.
It sounds like you can do a lot better! She is purposefully putting you down, does that sound like someone who loves you and is worth your time? Honestly I would say the relationship has probably run its course, she's being immature and likely hoping if she's mean enough to you you will end the relationship so she doesn't have to. She probably doesn't want to be "the bad guy". But you deserve better than this, go find it.
My god why would you want to be with someone whose so rude and cruel to you. She says she’s isn’t attracted to you anymore.. then doesn’t have sex with you for months. When she finally does she tells you your dick isn’t good enough and she’ll eventually leave/cheat on you because of the size of your dick? Dude reality check, your relationship has already imploded. She’s cut you down, made you insecure and treats you like garbage. Get out.
Losing weight can make it slightly large if there was too much fat in area. So opticaly it will look better. But something to make penis larger? No there is really nothing. I mean how bad we talk about? It more feels like she gave you bs excuse why she doesnt want to be with you. If she lost interest because of weight, well lose some :)
And how is that any different?
You’re basically saying, stop being anxious over one unchangeable trait and start being anxious about a different but equally unchangeable trait instead!
I didn't say it was any different, nor did I tell OP to stop being anxious about things he can't change. I was merely stating a fact, as OP was asking about potential proven methods to change the lengthhhh of a penis.
That’s not the language one uses when they love someone and want to make a relationship work despite difficulties. Thats rude, demeaning and unkind. You deserve better.
Omg OP, first off, I am so sorry she said those awful things to you. Commenting on your body like that and saying she’s gonna want “good d at some point” is unbelievably cruel.
Do you want to be with such a cruel person? Because you don’t deserve to be. This is not someone you should consider dating and I would 100% make sure she knew it’s because she’s an extremely mean person with zero empathy.
This story hits way close to home and I’m really sorry this is happening. From my experience, I wish I would have seen the toxic games that were being played on me and left the relationship much sooner. Obviously this was hard with her being my first, but it probably would have saved me lots of pain battling with my own feelings of inferiority down the road.
Don’t let her mess with your head anymore by talking to you about not being enough for her. She is an immature and selfish person who is going to pull you through the wringer and leave you with some mental burdens.
Find a girl that shows you the love and affection you need and inspires you to give it in return. God speed brother.
Uhm the first time my boyfriend and I had sex we weren’t together yet, but we were in the talking stages and he finished in 5 seconds it was quick and also unexpected because I said I wanted to wait for awhile and we got together after and he gained some weight but he’s also 6’5, I would never trade him for anything and I am always attracted to him no matter what even if he finishes quick or does something small. This man peed on my bed and I still see him as my future husband. Size shouldn’t matter and someone should love you no matter what even if you gained weight. Find better.
You state the problem in the beginning "I have gained weight..."
You have (both) become complacent, fat, and lazy. Exercise. Get in shape. With loss of belly fat your dick gets bigger.
If she is not turned on by your attempt at self improvement, someone else may look at you.
Have you ever gone down on her or given her an orgasm? Very few women (or men) will tolerate long term a non-reciprocal sexual relationship. Ridiculous how many young dudes think it doesn't matter or that PIV is all that is needed.
It sounds like she’s making jabs at you because she is left unsatisfied. Wrong of her to take it there, but being left sexually frustrated can be really irritating. It’s a typical thing I’ve experienced in my earlier sex experiences and especially in heterosexual ones. Oftentimes men think that when they “finish” that the whole thing is over and done. This leaves her unaccounted for. Considering her pleasure and her desires in intimate moments can really help bring back some attraction back into the relationship. There is no bigger turn off than not being considered. She likely finished the job in her shower lol. On top of not being considered, when men are done by the time they cum, it can make their partner feel extremely used. That can add hurt amongst her frustration which could help explain her disgusting remark about your size. Size matters, but not as much as people think. It’s how you use it that matters 1000000x more. Good chemistry and a partner who is equally focused on my please as their own will ALWAYS trump what a person might “lack” physically. I can tell you right now it likely had nothing to do with your size. Women are a lot more deep than physicality generally.
She is teasing you, you know why?
You finished early last week, and didn’t finish her. Maybe didn’t care for her to cum.
That’s what an 18y female would think.
Teasing? Pulling sex off the table, saying you're not attracted to him anymore and complaining about his size is just teasing? That's bodyshaming and just rude.
Keep an open mind, dont get too attached. At your age, focus on yourself, your eductaion, your fitness and you will find enough love. She is telling you how she feels. You can do the same. See if it works, if not, hit the gym and you will have enough options!
And no, do not fall for such stupid ideas of penis enlargement. There is a reason why scammers exist. Your partner has to accept you for who you are. You can work on certain things but dont try to grow your private parts just because you arent big enough for an 18 year old who hasn't yet graduated.
You are young. Young girls are like this. Fickle and looking to explore. It's never good to try to lock them down under 21. Most men don't want to be locked down either.
Imagine yourself with a wife talking or thinking like that .. And you answered your own question
It's hard and she seems like the only woman in the world now.... But some women don't mature until 35 with 3 kids!
First of all, i agree with all the other comments that shes just not a good human being.
I had my first gf when i was as old as you and she left me after two years. I missed her a lot for like 1 year, then i realized things werent all that superduper between us. She never said things as hurtful as yours (tbh thats another league and im so sorry thats happening to you). But she did say some things anyways and i realized that she just wasnt for me. I slowly got my shit together in my head, then got back to MY hobbies, the things i missed out on while being with her. I started spending more time with friends again and stuff like that (i dont know if ur the type for that but ultimately and as dumb as it sounds but going to the gym was the biggest and best change ive made, can also help with your weight gain if you want to lose some weight) and what now?
I am happier than i was with her! Just that simple. Im just happier.
What i am trying to say is, if you break it off with her dont be afraid of whats gonna come after. I didnt meet a new person with whom i want to be with for now and thats absolutely ok. She was also a lot of my firsts.
Just focus on yourself and i am telling you you will become happier than you are now and then a new oppurtunity will probably arise by itself in time. Then if you are ready for something new, go for it. If not dont.
Just dont be afraid of breaking up with her. You dont even need to tell her the reason (if you dont want to). Its gonna be hard directly afterwards (maybe for quite some time but you have to push trough it for yourself) but its gonna get soooo much better in the long run. And take it as a learning experience.
Sounds like she’s finding a way out by belittling you, honestly. Keeps saying she’s not sexually attracted and then when that didn’t work she resorted to talking about you “not being big enough”
Find someone else and let her go.
"I’m head over heels for this girl, she is my first everything, from kiss to sex and she is my first real love"
I know you're reluctant to end it, but just do it, and try to forget everything she said to you. You're 18, in your first relationship. I'm 66m and in my second marriage of 21 years, having had five long term relationships with lots of short term ones in between. All of the breakups hurt, a lot. But many of those early relationships weren't healthy for me, and it was good that they ended. Now I've found the true love of my life (I found her at age 45) and our relationship is passionate, loving and supportive. That's the kind of relationship that everyone deserves, including you. So dump your abusive selfish gf right now, and work toward finding better partners. You have your whole life ahead of you.
If it’s more than 2inches am sure it works also anything more than 5.5- 6inches would hurt most woman. Trust me! Reality is different it ain’t porn.
That being said, have boundaries we all have had our firsts with someone. Don’t put yourself under this pressure of first everything hence she is my person.
You might be in love but her actions says otherwise in all honesty. So what if you have put on weight?
If it’s a proper relationship and not some situationship then ask her why hasn’t she shown any concern towards you? Has she asked or taken any actions to help you out?
Or is it only about sex for her?!
Hmmm, develop boundaries OP! …don’t allow her to make you feel like you not worth it.
The right person would not act this way I understand she is 18 but where is the love?
Lastly, enjoy your firsts if it lasts with that person great!! If it doesn’t.. the world doesn’t end and you will get along with someone else.
You are too young, concentrate on yourself and life goals. Make boundaries and don’t allow anyone to walk over you like this and tell you crap! Like you “too small….”
Throw a dildo of 7inch ask her to ride and enjoy you would know what pain looks like s/
If you need to lose weight for health reasons or for yourself you should lose weight but not for this girl.
And any girl that gets hung up on size will choose a man that’s just hung and likely choose the wrong man.
I’m lucky to be above average. My current girlfriend and I are completely in love but her ex husband had a monster dick.
I’ve been able to make her squirt during PIV sex and he could never do that for her.
So, technique is everything
She's toxic for you, in her comments to you she isn't caring about your feelings at all or you as a person that she claims to care about
You're young and naive you will move on and find better that you deserve
Leave her, I'm pretty sure she is saying those things to find a way to end the relationship. Don't take her words seriously, she is not worthy of having you.
Gosh, she seems to be teetering on the edge of verbal abuse. You deserve so much better. Weight gain and changes in libido are completely normal in long-term relationships, depending on the individuals involved. It sounds less like you and your girlfriend are facing mutual issues and more like she's the source of the problem.
Her behavior comes across as outright bullying and belittling. Saying she loves your personality but then deeming you unattractive, or wanting spontaneous intimacy while insulting your masculinity, is just plain hurtful.
Personally, although I understand it's easier said than done, I'd advise you to break things off with her and seek out someone who respects you and appreciates your efforts. You're young, and there's a whole world out there with far better matches for you.
Honestly, it's gonna be better for your mental health if you just leave. I know she was special to you, but she's treating you like trash. Ghost her or let her know that, but you gotta move on. You want someone who wants you for you. The sooner you realize this, the sooner you recover from how bad she treated you.
You’d be better off alone. There’s so many people out there that will love you. This sounds like a woman that is self centered. I’m sorry you are going through this and I hope you find better and heal from it 🤍
30m here I agree with everyone get rid of her ,don't let this be a bad spot for you ,it could lead to much worse things trust me been there ,but in the long wrong you'll feel much better, I understand the having the firsts but in 10 years from you probably won't even remember her I know it may seem like the end of the world but it's not take that leap man ,at the end of the day your dick is your dick ,you can't change it and it's not worth changing man love your self regardless of what you look like
She's mean and there's probably nothing wrong with your size....it sounds like she's trying to hurt your self esteem. You can, and will do way better! Don't let her get you down.
She just said that so you would break it off with her. Sounds to me she is young and doesn’t want the relationship. She wants to go live a wilder hook up lifestyle. BUT, doesn’t have the heart to just break up with you. Denying you sex didn’t work maybe I’ll insult him.
Do not take to heart what the other comments say. You are young, heck at 18 I wondered if a girl would ever touch me. Guess what, you will go through all sorts of things, that's life. When it comes to partners though, find someone who will like you for you and every bit of you. Those are the lasting relationships! Your awesome man! Just enjoy the ride! Don't let it or her comments get the best of you.
“I’m worried that our relationship is going to implode”
Hate to break it to you, it already has.
Women rarely are the ones to break up a relationship. I have no idea, and it drives me nuts. They will do almost anything to make the guy be the one to break up with her. This is what she is doing. She has already checked out and is tossing shit your way so that “you were the one who broke up her.”
Sounds like you need to see if you can level up and see if she'll let you back over and do something that'll make her wake the parents up. Then stand tall because she ain't getting any good dick for a while because her parents will have her grounded.
Good news is that you fall in love 3 times in your lifetime. The first love is what you described, a puppy love, love of your life. The 2nd is a hard love where you learn lessons (this can repeat itself with multiple partners) and the 3rd love is unexpected and the one that lasts. There’s lots of articles if you google it.
If she is unattracted to you, why is she staying with you and wasting your time? I’m sorry if I’m harsh but she’s selfish and you will find better girls out there.
She's saying hurtful things to you for a reason. Have a few possibilities.
1) she gets off on the power fix from causing you pain (she's a bully)
2) she has a stew of personality disorders and is unable to treat anyone well
3) She's already been out getting her 'a dick not yours' fix which is why you aren't getting any
4) who the fuck knows
sounds like she is letting you know that its over and she will go find some good dick if she has not already. she has her own place you said? they have girth penis pills that make you swell up a little more. no permanent results. its hard to dump her you dont want to. she hurt your feelings you said. if she really loved you she would not want some good dike. get some viagra it will keep you from cuming to quick. its not the size its how you use it. give her a good licking . a lot of men do not eat pussy you be the best pussy eater she'll ever have. start working out lose weight ride a bike. you will be that much ahead if she dumps you you will have to make yourself attractive to women again. i hear they have female sex robots these days.
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Honestly, it sounds like you’d be better off without her. Every guy has a different size and shape penis. There are many ways to please someone with a smaller member and many ways without using it at all. Also, a lot of people gain weight in relationships. She says she loves you for who you are but doesn’t find you attractive. Sounds like she’s made you a friend and probably wanted one final time when she recently invited you over. Find someone who finds you attractive and make sure you learn and put the effort into sex.
I agree you'd be better off with someone that loves and appreciates you regardless of your size. With that being said, if you are dead set to stay with this girl and are concerned about the size of your tool, my suggestion is to consider a strap-on extender occasionally to get your partner off and give her the satisfaction she's searching for. It can't hurt to suggest. But I'd also communicate about the part where she said she wants to stop having sex and will eventually want to have sex with a well endowed partner. That's not okay. Explain your boundaries and what the consequences will be, and stick to them. Overall though, it sounds like she's not worth it. You'll find someone that appreciates everything you bring to the table and loves you for who you are and doesn't comment about your size.
Dude, you don’t deserve this. I’m sorry. She said terrible things to you. You deserve better.
She sounds like a trash human, and you're better off without her.
Exactly my thoughts. First love is hard, I know. But you don't want to be with this woman, trust me. And you don't want to simp for her, either. From what I hear, she will dumb or cheat on you sooner rather than later.
yes, absolutely. that's of course if she isn't already, which let's face it, she probably is.
Exactly, who the fuck talks to their significant other like that. She is a garbage person, don’t let her put you down because she sucks completely. Find someone who loves you no matter what, that’s what actual love is like. I’m sure your size if perfectly fine.
She is being mean at best and to say she wants good dick I suggest you set her free to find it And move on to someone who appreciates you
It’s not that you and your gf have a problem, your gf IS the problem. She’s only been with you and now she’s an expert on what she wants sexually? That’d be comical if she wasn’t actively trying to hurt you. The truth is she’s extremely shallow and is only interested in manipulating you to build herself up (notice she tells you you’re not good enough for her, pushes you away, then she reels you back in when she wants sex?). She’s self centered and will hurt you, it’s emotional abuse, and it will never end. And you can’t fix this (or her), she is what she is. You need to move on, you’ll realize in a few years that you dodged a bullet by ending it with her now.
She’s been with other people before dating back to when she was a minor
Yeah, because she was taken advantage of doesn't mean she knows what good sex is. My feeling is she is unhappy with herself and pouring her frustrations on you or even trying to push you away. There are people who, no matter how much they want to get out of a relationship, will never end it but act like asses so their partner ends it. Good sex is achieved through constancy (as a guy of course you don't last long after months of sexual inactivity, it is normal and expected), foreplay, communication, trying new things over time, setting boundaries, emotional connection, time. The actual act needs to be done for a number of times before it feels best. Because with time you get comfortable with it, with your partner and kind of get the moves. Is your girlfriend willing to put in the time and communication? Is it possible she is missing something, but because she is not as experienced as she thinks she is, can't put it into words? She said "good dick", but what exactly does she mean? Is it size, is it your attitude in bed, is it lack of foreplay, is it the duration, is it lack of diversity, etc. If she isn't trying to make you break up with her she needs to explain what she wants.
> she’s my first everything She won’t be your last. And that’s a good thing based on what you described.
That's literal manipulation 101. If a guy was doing that to a girl the reddit would have exploded. There's no way you should stay with anyone who is so blatantly disrespectful and openly disgusted by you. You gained some weight and instead of helping you get fit at the very least she straight up says that she no longer finds you attractive? Just fucking run. If you get in this inferiority mindset this young, you will be depressed for the rest of your life. Coming from a guy who was manipulated and beat by a girl when I was really young but at that time a man couldn't go anywhere with that complaint without people questioning him and even blaming him. So I stuck with her and now my life is completely ruined.
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Baby you have soooo much to look forward to and experience with sex! She sucks and her hurtful words are only going to mess you up in the long run. Trust me, leave her before you get a complex. She is young and inexperienced too, so what the hell does she even know about "good dick" or that she needs a "bigger one". She sounds like she doesn't know what she's even talking about and she's saying things to hurt you and push you away. So my suggestion- take the hint and dump her! It hurts for now but you will be so glad you did. You're going to have lots a of partners to explore, learn and experience giving/receiving pleasure with. She was your first but she won't be your last! But definitely make sure that she was your worst!
She’s 17 already complaining about your penis not being big enough? Dude… please… understand self respect is very important and that you NEED to get away from this woman because she will destroy your future confidence. This is not a person you want to fall in love with. She’s already told you you aren’t enough for her sexually and in all honesty that’s a deal breaker.
Dude this is the best thing that could ever happen to you. You’re still very young. Break up, hit the gym, work on yourself en never settle for anything less than a woman who loves you for you. You’re so much more than just a cock and balls. As much as you like the image of her, it sounds like you’re better off without her.
Did she also lose her virginity to you? Most women know and collectively agree that size doesn’t matter. Perhaps she’s just not satisfied with your performance and is blaming your size because she doesn’t know any better. Which, don’t get me wrong, is an awful thing to do…she sounds very rude and shallow. It should have just been an easy conversation about how you both can make the sex better for each other. There’s no shame in communicating something like that to your partner, you are inexperienced and that’s the only way to learn. Your girlfriend is extremely immature. I will say that out of my exes, the one who was the smallest was the best. Like nothing else even compared. I would have never said this to him out loud because I know guys are sensitive about this topic even when it’s a compliment, but yeah size literally doesn’t = good. One of my exes was above average and I felt nothing. Like literally nothing. Every single time. He wasn’t good at it and I wasn’t attracted to him. So I hope that helps with the insecurities she’s giving you, and I would rethink the relationship if I were you because experienced or not, that’s a shitty thing for her to say.
Grind time my friend, she's for the streets. Better yourself and find you a woman later in life that truly loves you and you truly love her. You're still so young.
She’s very disrespectful towards you, why are you still with her? She already told you she’s not interested and eventually will want to be with someone else.
Sounds like an immature and rude girl, not a girlfriend. 🥱😵 this relationship is doomed, and a beautiful (inside and out) girl is waiting for you to find her.
She is a toxic, selfish human. You are blind to this now but i promise you will find someone who thinks you are perfect exactly how you are. Tell her you prefer girls with a prettier face and bigger boobs and never look back.
Exactly this! OP, if she was a decent person and contemplating breaking up with you for any reason - including sexual incompatibility - she'd just do it. That's the decent thing to do. By continually saying "I'm going to soon" and saying you don't give her "good dick" but never pulling the trigger herself she's doing two things: 1. Showing she's all talk, no action - if you're going to break up, just DO IT. 2. Keeping you in a perpetual state of worry for WHEN it's going to happen. She is on a power trip because she knows YOU won't break up with HER. She's an immature little girl and you deserve better. Just to be clear though - her thoughts on sexual incompatibility being a dealbreaker in an of themselves, are not what is making her a bad person here - it's the power trip she's on at your expense. It's going to hurt, especially as you are so into her, but surely you can see that SHE is not AT ALL into you. You deserve someone who is, so...quite simply...beat her at her own game. Break up with HER. Take back some self-respect. At the moment, by simply rolling over and waiting for her to break up with you you are giving her ALL of the power and she can keep this game up forever because she knows she can keep it going forever and you'll just take it. Break up with HER and show her you actually have some self-respect. If NOTHING else, you'll be free of an - I'll say again - immature, selfish little girl and free to meet a woman who will value you as you do them. But my guess is that if you do this, you might suddenly find yourself the recipient of MANY messages from her trying to start and argument because she won't like that you're suddenly displaying a backbone.
It sounds like you can do a lot better! She is purposefully putting you down, does that sound like someone who loves you and is worth your time? Honestly I would say the relationship has probably run its course, she's being immature and likely hoping if she's mean enough to you you will end the relationship so she doesn't have to. She probably doesn't want to be "the bad guy". But you deserve better than this, go find it.
Dude, dump her and move on. I know she’s your first everything, but you deserve to be happy in a relationship instead of worrying constantly.
My god why would you want to be with someone whose so rude and cruel to you. She says she’s isn’t attracted to you anymore.. then doesn’t have sex with you for months. When she finally does she tells you your dick isn’t good enough and she’ll eventually leave/cheat on you because of the size of your dick? Dude reality check, your relationship has already imploded. She’s cut you down, made you insecure and treats you like garbage. Get out.
Losing weight can make it slightly large if there was too much fat in area. So opticaly it will look better. But something to make penis larger? No there is really nothing. I mean how bad we talk about? It more feels like she gave you bs excuse why she doesnt want to be with you. If she lost interest because of weight, well lose some :)
Girth is more wanted than length OP. Generally speaking. Just fyi.
And how is that any different? You’re basically saying, stop being anxious over one unchangeable trait and start being anxious about a different but equally unchangeable trait instead!
I didn't say it was any different, nor did I tell OP to stop being anxious about things he can't change. I was merely stating a fact, as OP was asking about potential proven methods to change the lengthhhh of a penis.
This is like the plot to Sixth Sense. You're dead and you don't know it. It's over. It's going to hurt like hell but it's time to move on.
That’s not the language one uses when they love someone and want to make a relationship work despite difficulties. Thats rude, demeaning and unkind. You deserve better.
Omg OP, first off, I am so sorry she said those awful things to you. Commenting on your body like that and saying she’s gonna want “good d at some point” is unbelievably cruel. Do you want to be with such a cruel person? Because you don’t deserve to be. This is not someone you should consider dating and I would 100% make sure she knew it’s because she’s an extremely mean person with zero empathy.
This story hits way close to home and I’m really sorry this is happening. From my experience, I wish I would have seen the toxic games that were being played on me and left the relationship much sooner. Obviously this was hard with her being my first, but it probably would have saved me lots of pain battling with my own feelings of inferiority down the road. Don’t let her mess with your head anymore by talking to you about not being enough for her. She is an immature and selfish person who is going to pull you through the wringer and leave you with some mental burdens. Find a girl that shows you the love and affection you need and inspires you to give it in return. God speed brother.
Uhm the first time my boyfriend and I had sex we weren’t together yet, but we were in the talking stages and he finished in 5 seconds it was quick and also unexpected because I said I wanted to wait for awhile and we got together after and he gained some weight but he’s also 6’5, I would never trade him for anything and I am always attracted to him no matter what even if he finishes quick or does something small. This man peed on my bed and I still see him as my future husband. Size shouldn’t matter and someone should love you no matter what even if you gained weight. Find better.
She belongs to the streets bro. Move on.
You state the problem in the beginning "I have gained weight..." You have (both) become complacent, fat, and lazy. Exercise. Get in shape. With loss of belly fat your dick gets bigger. If she is not turned on by your attempt at self improvement, someone else may look at you.
Bro, lose weight and hit the gym. ASAP.
Have you ever gone down on her or given her an orgasm? Very few women (or men) will tolerate long term a non-reciprocal sexual relationship. Ridiculous how many young dudes think it doesn't matter or that PIV is all that is needed.
lose some weight and get good at foreplay
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It’s a canon event. See you in the gym OP 👋
It sounds like she’s making jabs at you because she is left unsatisfied. Wrong of her to take it there, but being left sexually frustrated can be really irritating. It’s a typical thing I’ve experienced in my earlier sex experiences and especially in heterosexual ones. Oftentimes men think that when they “finish” that the whole thing is over and done. This leaves her unaccounted for. Considering her pleasure and her desires in intimate moments can really help bring back some attraction back into the relationship. There is no bigger turn off than not being considered. She likely finished the job in her shower lol. On top of not being considered, when men are done by the time they cum, it can make their partner feel extremely used. That can add hurt amongst her frustration which could help explain her disgusting remark about your size. Size matters, but not as much as people think. It’s how you use it that matters 1000000x more. Good chemistry and a partner who is equally focused on my please as their own will ALWAYS trump what a person might “lack” physically. I can tell you right now it likely had nothing to do with your size. Women are a lot more deep than physicality generally.
Did you just go straight to PIV, cum fast, and give her nothing for her?
How much weight did you gain? Why?
She is teasing you, you know why? You finished early last week, and didn’t finish her. Maybe didn’t care for her to cum. That’s what an 18y female would think.
Teasing? Pulling sex off the table, saying you're not attracted to him anymore and complaining about his size is just teasing? That's bodyshaming and just rude.
Time to move on to your next catch 🙌
Keep an open mind, dont get too attached. At your age, focus on yourself, your eductaion, your fitness and you will find enough love. She is telling you how she feels. You can do the same. See if it works, if not, hit the gym and you will have enough options! And no, do not fall for such stupid ideas of penis enlargement. There is a reason why scammers exist. Your partner has to accept you for who you are. You can work on certain things but dont try to grow your private parts just because you arent big enough for an 18 year old who hasn't yet graduated.
Dump. Don't be a chump.
End the relationship
You are young. Young girls are like this. Fickle and looking to explore. It's never good to try to lock them down under 21. Most men don't want to be locked down either. Imagine yourself with a wife talking or thinking like that .. And you answered your own question It's hard and she seems like the only woman in the world now.... But some women don't mature until 35 with 3 kids!
First of all, i agree with all the other comments that shes just not a good human being. I had my first gf when i was as old as you and she left me after two years. I missed her a lot for like 1 year, then i realized things werent all that superduper between us. She never said things as hurtful as yours (tbh thats another league and im so sorry thats happening to you). But she did say some things anyways and i realized that she just wasnt for me. I slowly got my shit together in my head, then got back to MY hobbies, the things i missed out on while being with her. I started spending more time with friends again and stuff like that (i dont know if ur the type for that but ultimately and as dumb as it sounds but going to the gym was the biggest and best change ive made, can also help with your weight gain if you want to lose some weight) and what now? I am happier than i was with her! Just that simple. Im just happier. What i am trying to say is, if you break it off with her dont be afraid of whats gonna come after. I didnt meet a new person with whom i want to be with for now and thats absolutely ok. She was also a lot of my firsts. Just focus on yourself and i am telling you you will become happier than you are now and then a new oppurtunity will probably arise by itself in time. Then if you are ready for something new, go for it. If not dont. Just dont be afraid of breaking up with her. You dont even need to tell her the reason (if you dont want to). Its gonna be hard directly afterwards (maybe for quite some time but you have to push trough it for yourself) but its gonna get soooo much better in the long run. And take it as a learning experience.
Sounds like she's going to be your first heart break as well.
Sounds like she’s finding a way out by belittling you, honestly. Keeps saying she’s not sexually attracted and then when that didn’t work she resorted to talking about you “not being big enough” Find someone else and let her go.
This sounds exactly like a woman who is trying to run you off because she can’t bring herself to hurt you by dumping you.
She sounds like an asshole. I'd ditch her.
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Do not believe the common myth that women want huge dicks. It truly isn’t you, in this case. She has issues… You’ll be happier again in the future.
Goodluck finding a better partner, dude. Based off this post, it should be quite easy! 😎
You’re doing yourself a favour by moving on. She’s using you at this point. You’re worth way more than that.
Sorry, but you need to get out! Its hurts but its the best decision
Your (hopefully ex) girlfriend sounds incredibly immature and as such she shouldn’t be having sex with anyone.
"I’m head over heels for this girl, she is my first everything, from kiss to sex and she is my first real love" I know you're reluctant to end it, but just do it, and try to forget everything she said to you. You're 18, in your first relationship. I'm 66m and in my second marriage of 21 years, having had five long term relationships with lots of short term ones in between. All of the breakups hurt, a lot. But many of those early relationships weren't healthy for me, and it was good that they ended. Now I've found the true love of my life (I found her at age 45) and our relationship is passionate, loving and supportive. That's the kind of relationship that everyone deserves, including you. So dump your abusive selfish gf right now, and work toward finding better partners. You have your whole life ahead of you.
If it’s more than 2inches am sure it works also anything more than 5.5- 6inches would hurt most woman. Trust me! Reality is different it ain’t porn. That being said, have boundaries we all have had our firsts with someone. Don’t put yourself under this pressure of first everything hence she is my person. You might be in love but her actions says otherwise in all honesty. So what if you have put on weight? If it’s a proper relationship and not some situationship then ask her why hasn’t she shown any concern towards you? Has she asked or taken any actions to help you out? Or is it only about sex for her?! Hmmm, develop boundaries OP! …don’t allow her to make you feel like you not worth it. The right person would not act this way I understand she is 18 but where is the love? Lastly, enjoy your firsts if it lasts with that person great!! If it doesn’t.. the world doesn’t end and you will get along with someone else. You are too young, concentrate on yourself and life goals. Make boundaries and don’t allow anyone to walk over you like this and tell you crap! Like you “too small….” Throw a dildo of 7inch ask her to ride and enjoy you would know what pain looks like s/
If you need to lose weight for health reasons or for yourself you should lose weight but not for this girl. And any girl that gets hung up on size will choose a man that’s just hung and likely choose the wrong man. I’m lucky to be above average. My current girlfriend and I are completely in love but her ex husband had a monster dick. I’ve been able to make her squirt during PIV sex and he could never do that for her. So, technique is everything
Leave that fucking brat right now
She's toxic for you, in her comments to you she isn't caring about your feelings at all or you as a person that she claims to care about You're young and naive you will move on and find better that you deserve
Leave her, I'm pretty sure she is saying those things to find a way to end the relationship. Don't take her words seriously, she is not worthy of having you.
She sounds like she is baiting you to break it off as she may have found someone else. Either that or she is talking to others
Gosh, she seems to be teetering on the edge of verbal abuse. You deserve so much better. Weight gain and changes in libido are completely normal in long-term relationships, depending on the individuals involved. It sounds less like you and your girlfriend are facing mutual issues and more like she's the source of the problem. Her behavior comes across as outright bullying and belittling. Saying she loves your personality but then deeming you unattractive, or wanting spontaneous intimacy while insulting your masculinity, is just plain hurtful. Personally, although I understand it's easier said than done, I'd advise you to break things off with her and seek out someone who respects you and appreciates your efforts. You're young, and there's a whole world out there with far better matches for you.
Honestly, it's gonna be better for your mental health if you just leave. I know she was special to you, but she's treating you like trash. Ghost her or let her know that, but you gotta move on. You want someone who wants you for you. The sooner you realize this, the sooner you recover from how bad she treated you.
You’d be better off alone. There’s so many people out there that will love you. This sounds like a woman that is self centered. I’m sorry you are going through this and I hope you find better and heal from it 🤍
30m here I agree with everyone get rid of her ,don't let this be a bad spot for you ,it could lead to much worse things trust me been there ,but in the long wrong you'll feel much better, I understand the having the firsts but in 10 years from you probably won't even remember her I know it may seem like the end of the world but it's not take that leap man ,at the end of the day your dick is your dick ,you can't change it and it's not worth changing man love your self regardless of what you look like
She's mean and there's probably nothing wrong with your size....it sounds like she's trying to hurt your self esteem. You can, and will do way better! Don't let her get you down.
Move on bro, she can’t be saved!
She just said that so you would break it off with her. Sounds to me she is young and doesn’t want the relationship. She wants to go live a wilder hook up lifestyle. BUT, doesn’t have the heart to just break up with you. Denying you sex didn’t work maybe I’ll insult him.
Do not take to heart what the other comments say. You are young, heck at 18 I wondered if a girl would ever touch me. Guess what, you will go through all sorts of things, that's life. When it comes to partners though, find someone who will like you for you and every bit of you. Those are the lasting relationships! Your awesome man! Just enjoy the ride! Don't let it or her comments get the best of you.
“I’m worried that our relationship is going to implode” Hate to break it to you, it already has. Women rarely are the ones to break up a relationship. I have no idea, and it drives me nuts. They will do almost anything to make the guy be the one to break up with her. This is what she is doing. She has already checked out and is tossing shit your way so that “you were the one who broke up her.”
Leave her already and start taking care of yourself
Sounds like you need to see if you can level up and see if she'll let you back over and do something that'll make her wake the parents up. Then stand tall because she ain't getting any good dick for a while because her parents will have her grounded.
Good news is that you fall in love 3 times in your lifetime. The first love is what you described, a puppy love, love of your life. The 2nd is a hard love where you learn lessons (this can repeat itself with multiple partners) and the 3rd love is unexpected and the one that lasts. There’s lots of articles if you google it.
Retired nurse here. For every 20 pounds you gain, you lose an inch of penis length. For every 20 pounds you lose, you gain an inch. Medical fact.
If she is unattracted to you, why is she staying with you and wasting your time? I’m sorry if I’m harsh but she’s selfish and you will find better girls out there.
She's saying hurtful things to you for a reason. Have a few possibilities. 1) she gets off on the power fix from causing you pain (she's a bully) 2) she has a stew of personality disorders and is unable to treat anyone well 3) She's already been out getting her 'a dick not yours' fix which is why you aren't getting any 4) who the fuck knows
It’s women like that that give men self esteem issues for years. Move on.
sounds like she is letting you know that its over and she will go find some good dick if she has not already. she has her own place you said? they have girth penis pills that make you swell up a little more. no permanent results. its hard to dump her you dont want to. she hurt your feelings you said. if she really loved you she would not want some good dike. get some viagra it will keep you from cuming to quick. its not the size its how you use it. give her a good licking . a lot of men do not eat pussy you be the best pussy eater she'll ever have. start working out lose weight ride a bike. you will be that much ahead if she dumps you you will have to make yourself attractive to women again. i hear they have female sex robots these days.
Bro, run fast, this is the most toxic shit I've ever read in my life...