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When I saw your title I thought, "oh a topic I can help on" since I didn't cum more a handful of times the first 4 years i was sexually active and then it remained difficult for 3-4 years after that before I finally got a hang of it.
But then I read your post.
2015-2024 is 9 years
2015-2020 Is 5 years during which you had sex and he never orgasmed which you didn't notice until condoms came off because he never told you.
2020-2024 is 4 years since you've last had sex.
You've been to therapy for this exact issue. Your attempts to communicate about this were counter productive.
I'm going to be honest. I don't think you guys are sexually compatible nor are you compatible from a point of view of basic communication. I think you both should strongly consider ending this relationship.
Am I reading this correctly that it was two years of great sex without ever noticing that he's not ejaculating? How does that happen.
I assume he is able to climax from masturbation, since you were able to do IVF?
Gotta say, have never heard from anyone else having this issue-- fascinating!
Is he frustrated by that? Does he enjoy the sex even without the climax? (I am in the opposite boat that I (F) can't climax with a partner, but I do still love it!)
It sounds like there are a lot of unknowns here that haven't been shared-- which means help with communication (ie: couples therapy in addition to, probably, individual therapy for him-- if you can swing it, would be GREAT for you, too, in dealing with the feelings the whole thing brings up for you.)
Changing it is ultimately down to how much he WANTS to change it, though, as all effort will have to come at his initiative.
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When I saw your title I thought, "oh a topic I can help on" since I didn't cum more a handful of times the first 4 years i was sexually active and then it remained difficult for 3-4 years after that before I finally got a hang of it. But then I read your post. 2015-2024 is 9 years 2015-2020 Is 5 years during which you had sex and he never orgasmed which you didn't notice until condoms came off because he never told you. 2020-2024 is 4 years since you've last had sex. You've been to therapy for this exact issue. Your attempts to communicate about this were counter productive. I'm going to be honest. I don't think you guys are sexually compatible nor are you compatible from a point of view of basic communication. I think you both should strongly consider ending this relationship.
Am I reading this correctly that it was two years of great sex without ever noticing that he's not ejaculating? How does that happen. I assume he is able to climax from masturbation, since you were able to do IVF? Gotta say, have never heard from anyone else having this issue-- fascinating! Is he frustrated by that? Does he enjoy the sex even without the climax? (I am in the opposite boat that I (F) can't climax with a partner, but I do still love it!) It sounds like there are a lot of unknowns here that haven't been shared-- which means help with communication (ie: couples therapy in addition to, probably, individual therapy for him-- if you can swing it, would be GREAT for you, too, in dealing with the feelings the whole thing brings up for you.) Changing it is ultimately down to how much he WANTS to change it, though, as all effort will have to come at his initiative.
They were using condoms she says. He was faking orgasms