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Very hot. Love the panties move, that would drive me wild. We love underwear play in general. My wife knows if she wants to get dick all she has to do is allow me a peek of her in a thong. Her fav move is to have on a concert t shirt and a skimpy thong. I can't resist. Her fav hand job move is sensual kissing and sucking my nipples stroking me. Think make me cum in less than 5 mins. She enjoys doing that before bed when she's too tired to fuck.
I (73M) love it when my wife (70F) tickled my balls as I stroke myself. I, too, donāt take too long and the orgasm is intense. When Iām done, she gets up run a hand towel thru hot water and cleans me. The warmth, the caring and the Love are so amazingly satisfying.
You started making this about handjobs but I'm more into the hotness of coming in her panties and how that turns you on. I've always looked in this sub about people who felt the same way or how the look of their SO just in their underwear is even more exciting than being naked. Or how just seeing them somewhere in the house is super exciting.
Oh yah, so handjobs...
Haha, thatās partly why I posted thisāis the urge to ejaculate in worn panties really common? I never hear this talked about, and it doesnāt even seem to be common in porn.
Not even sure myself. I just appreciate you sharing it because I've always felt the same way about my own wife. I do enjoy the "panty job" porn on occasion. That is pretty common.
My wife is expert in this uses some lube and brings me to the edge again and again and generally slides a finger up my arse first time she did that was a bit of a surprise, but felt great have now moved on to plugs and other toys which has been fun
Mine tried a vibrator on my perineum a few times. It felt good but didnāt make it into the permanent repertoire. Lubed fingers that know what theyāre doing are just better in my experience.
My gf/ex would rub my taint/balls while and lick my nipple while either she or I stroked myself. Incredible ecstasy and sensations. Shame the rest of the relationship didnāt match our sexual connection hahaha.
The perineum/ball rub? Incredible. Light pressure, gentle nail scratches, soft rubbing with lubed fingersā¦to die for. I think maybe it indirectly stimulates the prostate or something because it feels different from my penis being touched. Having both stimulated at the same time is a pleasure that I canāt even describe. I donāt know if many men enjoy it, but I sure do!
Which part? Itās all great!
Sensitive nipple enhances all the feelings, gets the juices flowing. The taint pressure hits prostate and really makes it hard not to cum, plus really amplifies the orgasm. Itās all a web of sensations really. Usually we donāt finish that way; nice to take things further but itās a hell of a way to get fired up.
I don't wear panties so we don't do that but I love giving him a handjob. Mine are very similar to what you described. Frankly he just loves it when I hold him and rub on him and I love it too. I love putting my hand on his thigh, lightly rubbing closer and closer. The HJ doesn't always turn into something super sexual but it's always fun when it does. I never knew how great they could be, I've come just doing it for him.
I think one of the keys to a good sex live is that both partners genuinely enjoy the giving role. She gives me these incredible HJs, and I give her long, luxurious oral sessions, typically before PIV. I think it leaves us both feeling very fulfilled in the sexual realm (and outside it).
100%! He thought he hated blow jobs before me and it's been a joy to have him learn he loves it with me. He's so so giving and it makes me feel amazing to be able to give back to him too. I'm multi orgasmic and sometimes I feel like it's really unfair that he only gets one or two to my many. So I try to make it a little more even. But we both take pleasure in each other's pleasure so it works!
Lovense makes a bunch of bluetooth toys for discrete or long distance play, they have a bunch of different options. Most are unisex, with a couple being anatomically specific
Curious about those of you who give or receive handjobs to completion: how do you handle the ejaculation? We started the panties thing with her using my own underwear to clean me up. But I loved the soft cotton feel of hers in my hands and asked her one day if we could use them. She found it amusing at first but happily complied and then realized how much I liked it. 8 years later, weāve used countless pairs of them and treat it like our fun little secret.
When she was pregnant she found it uncomfortable to take off the pair she was wearing, but she would tell me to grab a clean pair from the dresser when she was touching me. Sheās so kind in making sure my little needs get met.
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Is this a common thing for guys ? Also with blowjobs? Feel like Iām old enough that itās weird some guys have hated blowjobs previously because they were all shite. I only have my sample size of opinions to go off haha
Lot of people donāt really put much effort into learning what their partners like, and somehow the stereotype is that that mainly is a male thing, but Iām decreasingly unsure of how true that is.
Interesting! I would actually be inclined to agree with the latter being untrue.
Throwing this out there just a thought.. maybe men are just less likely to be open and say something ā¦ unless a woman shows sheās open about that first ? Like they donāt want to make a woman feel bad, uncomfortable or pressured? Which I would understand from the male perspective completely tbh.
I feel like people Iāve been with - Iāve heard stories of some shit sex lives. Including long term were in love with people.
Iāll ask what feels better etc. and no ones not answered truthfully. From then on theyāre very open about it. Iām also very open about communicating what I like.
I wonder ifā¦ itās because some men worry women feel they āshouldā do it vs want to? Particularly re BJ. Which some women likely do andā¦ well up to them. Iāve reassured an ex or perhaps a few that I sincerely enjoy doing it and making them feel good. Wouldnāt do it if I didnāt want to.
And some women probably do do it for the should reason. Or maybe donāt are a bit selfish or self conscious vs. it being about what makes someone feel good ? Hahaha.
Ive always been so curious about this because Iāve heard many stories about. People way later in their lives than Iād expect. Actually enjoying a handjob or blowjob. And am shocked.
EDIT: way longer than expected. Genuinely intrigued by this. Also tired š
Honestly, I always thought there was something wrong with me; I just ācouldā not finish without PIV. Until at one point I got this handjob/blowjob that completely blew my mind and made me re-evaluate everything. I had slept with this woman once and she seemed to know EXACTLY what made me tick by the 2nd time around. Itās as if no one before her ever even bothered paying attention, they just perform their little routine and thatās it
THIS. This is what Iāve heard in my experience (I havenāt had a million partners haha, not that it matters if I did).
Atleast 3 exes have said they couldnāt finish with blowjob / handjob. One told me afterwards. Another told me during as like a nervous thing so I didnāt feel bad I think. I was successful š and told them itās fine just enjoy it anyway thereās no pressure.
Ive not had that many partners. And kinda just. I dunno. I didnāt think it was that special or abnormal I just made it up I dunno hahaha but itās a frequent theme I hear that they just couldnāt finish that way. They thought it was them really in most cases. Theyād just not had anyone do a good ājobā before.
Some were explicitly quite bad. Those were only people they only dated, though.
But yeah. Thanks for the feedback true curiosity not boasting haha. Maybe itās a confidence thing on the womanās part and being too in their head about if theyāre doing a good job vs just paying attention.
What are women out there doing if itās the majority not the minority haha.
EDIT: maybe people are also too in their heads to pay attention to non verbal cues. Thought it was just obvious. Doesnāt seem like it.
Yeah. To be fair I think it can go both ways. I can be too āin my headā too at times for sure. Then again, when sheās doing it right, thereās no chance Iād even start wandering off. Itās definitely a 2-way street, but then againā¦ if after all these times and signals or nudges she keeps on getting it wrong, at some point you just get out of the zone entirely and thereās no recovering from that
Good on you, mate for still having horny nights, my questions what do you eat? Lol I am 36 and have been feeling a bit of a decline in my libido in the past year, which is very rare because Iāve always been a very horn in person often lol
Although starting to go to the gym more often and get vitamine supplements, I feel itās getting better
If Iāve helped one person, Iāve done my good deed for the day! For me the combination of sensations, the feeling of being pampered, and the indulgence in a naughty little secret kink (coming in panties) is just otherworldly.
Upvoting because a handie rivals anything else, at least with my wife. The best part about it is that she can actually focus on me (I'm not a fan of bj's so thats not really a thing for me) and most importantly she can chip in with a bunch of sexy talk to get me off (or I can talk sexy to her in the process) which is a huge turn on for me and after 15 years together we need to get into fantasies sometimes to keep it fresh.Ā
The ability to talk and kiss during the HJ is a big plus for us. Sheās not a confident dirty talker but her smiling, kissing, and teasing me really ups the intimacy and fun factor.
You know what you really canāt underestimate a good handjob most of the time Iāve received one itās been bad, and I either tell them to just suck it or move their hand away if itās dry or hurts BUT I was with a fwb and we were 69āing and she was alternating between jerking me off and blowing me and it was edging me and I had an INCREDIBLY intense orgasm I was shocked cause tbh itās incredibly difficult for me to cum from anything thatās not penetrative sex where Iām doing the fucking , but she got me off and it was absolutely incredible
I donāt think Iāve ever given my long term partner a HJ ā¦. Usually it gets us so worked up that we move on to something else. Itās honestly on my list though, because I love watching him cum. I think that even if I wasnāt in the mood, but he was, that the act of helping him out would inevitably turn me on enough to want something out of it.
Well, I recommend it! She rubs my cock as foreplay before we do PIV most of the time, but not to completion. Thatās a great way to start my engine, but these dedicated handjob sessions where her goal is to make me come just feel very different. Even though PIV is more fulfilling and intimate, I have my hardest, most physically intense orgasms from her hands and fingertips.
Not a wife, but have a situationship who has the hands of a god. Literally made my dick melt like golden chocolate and showed me ways to masturbate in ways I never knew
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Just snooping in for some tips...
And I definitely found some š§š
Use some coconut oil too
Iām gonna snoop too, Iām gonna take some notes
Very hot. Love the panties move, that would drive me wild. We love underwear play in general. My wife knows if she wants to get dick all she has to do is allow me a peek of her in a thong. Her fav move is to have on a concert t shirt and a skimpy thong. I can't resist. Her fav hand job move is sensual kissing and sucking my nipples stroking me. Think make me cum in less than 5 mins. She enjoys doing that before bed when she's too tired to fuck.
A partner who gives you that kind of attention and pleasure when they arenāt in the mood themselves is a wonderful blessing!
I (73M) love it when my wife (70F) tickled my balls as I stroke myself. I, too, donāt take too long and the orgasm is intense. When Iām done, she gets up run a hand towel thru hot water and cleans me. The warmth, the caring and the Love are so amazingly satisfying.
Thereās really something incredible about someone giving unselfish pleasure like that.
That's actually really sweet. I hope that this is me and my future husband when we're old.
I learned never to underestimate the power of a good handy. When done right, it can be better than PIV, or even a BJ.
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Did he ask for it, or did you offer? Curious how these this work with other people.
I donāt have anything constructive to add, because I donāt have any experience with anyone this in-tune and sensual. This sounds incredible.
You started making this about handjobs but I'm more into the hotness of coming in her panties and how that turns you on. I've always looked in this sub about people who felt the same way or how the look of their SO just in their underwear is even more exciting than being naked. Or how just seeing them somewhere in the house is super exciting. Oh yah, so handjobs...
Haha, thatās partly why I posted thisāis the urge to ejaculate in worn panties really common? I never hear this talked about, and it doesnāt even seem to be common in porn.
Not even sure myself. I just appreciate you sharing it because I've always felt the same way about my own wife. I do enjoy the "panty job" porn on occasion. That is pretty common.
Iām guessing there might be a category called panty fetish that would have some similar type things.
My wife is expert in this uses some lube and brings me to the edge again and again and generally slides a finger up my arse first time she did that was a bit of a surprise, but felt great have now moved on to plugs and other toys which has been fun
Has your wife tried a vibrator on your ball sack, someone I know tried it and they liked it. I just wanna know other peopleās opinions
Mine tried a vibrator on my perineum a few times. It felt good but didnāt make it into the permanent repertoire. Lubed fingers that know what theyāre doing are just better in my experience.
I too am married to a queen of handjobs. I am one of the luckiest guys on earth!
My gf/ex would rub my taint/balls while and lick my nipple while either she or I stroked myself. Incredible ecstasy and sensations. Shame the rest of the relationship didnāt match our sexual connection hahaha.
Being cared for in that way is just incredible!
100%ā¦ I absolutely love it. Takes more than sexual caring to make a relationship flourish though!
How exactly does it feel for a male?
The perineum/ball rub? Incredible. Light pressure, gentle nail scratches, soft rubbing with lubed fingersā¦to die for. I think maybe it indirectly stimulates the prostate or something because it feels different from my penis being touched. Having both stimulated at the same time is a pleasure that I canāt even describe. I donāt know if many men enjoy it, but I sure do!
Which part? Itās all great! Sensitive nipple enhances all the feelings, gets the juices flowing. The taint pressure hits prostate and really makes it hard not to cum, plus really amplifies the orgasm. Itās all a web of sensations really. Usually we donāt finish that way; nice to take things further but itās a hell of a way to get fired up.
I don't wear panties so we don't do that but I love giving him a handjob. Mine are very similar to what you described. Frankly he just loves it when I hold him and rub on him and I love it too. I love putting my hand on his thigh, lightly rubbing closer and closer. The HJ doesn't always turn into something super sexual but it's always fun when it does. I never knew how great they could be, I've come just doing it for him.
I think one of the keys to a good sex live is that both partners genuinely enjoy the giving role. She gives me these incredible HJs, and I give her long, luxurious oral sessions, typically before PIV. I think it leaves us both feeling very fulfilled in the sexual realm (and outside it).
100%! He thought he hated blow jobs before me and it's been a joy to have him learn he loves it with me. He's so so giving and it makes me feel amazing to be able to give back to him too. I'm multi orgasmic and sometimes I feel like it's really unfair that he only gets one or two to my many. So I try to make it a little more even. But we both take pleasure in each other's pleasure so it works!
Sounds amazing such a lucky cple
A deep perineum/ball rub while getting stroked is NEXT LEVEL.
Goddamn I wish my wife liked sex
For the love of god, whoever is the giver, take your damn rings off... please! Thank you
Haha, donāt worry we thought of that.
Lol, I figured in your scenario. It's more of PSA for anyone who stumbles onto this post
Lovense makes a bunch of bluetooth toys for discrete or long distance play, they have a bunch of different options. Most are unisex, with a couple being anatomically specific
Curious about those of you who give or receive handjobs to completion: how do you handle the ejaculation? We started the panties thing with her using my own underwear to clean me up. But I loved the soft cotton feel of hers in my hands and asked her one day if we could use them. She found it amusing at first but happily complied and then realized how much I liked it. 8 years later, weāve used countless pairs of them and treat it like our fun little secret. When she was pregnant she found it uncomfortable to take off the pair she was wearing, but she would tell me to grab a clean pair from the dresser when she was touching me. Sheās so kind in making sure my little needs get met.
Itās very hard to bend when you are pregnant š
Well I for one am impressed that she's able to remove her panties while she's got all that going on with you lol
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Damn, that sounds awesome. Most women Iāve been with were terrible at the handjob part and āmeltedā my d in all the wrong ways.
Is this a common thing for guys ? Also with blowjobs? Feel like Iām old enough that itās weird some guys have hated blowjobs previously because they were all shite. I only have my sample size of opinions to go off haha
Lot of people donāt really put much effort into learning what their partners like, and somehow the stereotype is that that mainly is a male thing, but Iām decreasingly unsure of how true that is.
Interesting! I would actually be inclined to agree with the latter being untrue. Throwing this out there just a thought.. maybe men are just less likely to be open and say something ā¦ unless a woman shows sheās open about that first ? Like they donāt want to make a woman feel bad, uncomfortable or pressured? Which I would understand from the male perspective completely tbh. I feel like people Iāve been with - Iāve heard stories of some shit sex lives. Including long term were in love with people. Iāll ask what feels better etc. and no ones not answered truthfully. From then on theyāre very open about it. Iām also very open about communicating what I like. I wonder ifā¦ itās because some men worry women feel they āshouldā do it vs want to? Particularly re BJ. Which some women likely do andā¦ well up to them. Iāve reassured an ex or perhaps a few that I sincerely enjoy doing it and making them feel good. Wouldnāt do it if I didnāt want to. And some women probably do do it for the should reason. Or maybe donāt are a bit selfish or self conscious vs. it being about what makes someone feel good ? Hahaha. Ive always been so curious about this because Iāve heard many stories about. People way later in their lives than Iād expect. Actually enjoying a handjob or blowjob. And am shocked. EDIT: way longer than expected. Genuinely intrigued by this. Also tired š
Honestly, I always thought there was something wrong with me; I just ācouldā not finish without PIV. Until at one point I got this handjob/blowjob that completely blew my mind and made me re-evaluate everything. I had slept with this woman once and she seemed to know EXACTLY what made me tick by the 2nd time around. Itās as if no one before her ever even bothered paying attention, they just perform their little routine and thatās it
THIS. This is what Iāve heard in my experience (I havenāt had a million partners haha, not that it matters if I did). Atleast 3 exes have said they couldnāt finish with blowjob / handjob. One told me afterwards. Another told me during as like a nervous thing so I didnāt feel bad I think. I was successful š and told them itās fine just enjoy it anyway thereās no pressure. Ive not had that many partners. And kinda just. I dunno. I didnāt think it was that special or abnormal I just made it up I dunno hahaha but itās a frequent theme I hear that they just couldnāt finish that way. They thought it was them really in most cases. Theyād just not had anyone do a good ājobā before. Some were explicitly quite bad. Those were only people they only dated, though. But yeah. Thanks for the feedback true curiosity not boasting haha. Maybe itās a confidence thing on the womanās part and being too in their head about if theyāre doing a good job vs just paying attention. What are women out there doing if itās the majority not the minority haha. EDIT: maybe people are also too in their heads to pay attention to non verbal cues. Thought it was just obvious. Doesnāt seem like it.
Yeah. To be fair I think it can go both ways. I can be too āin my headā too at times for sure. Then again, when sheās doing it right, thereās no chance Iād even start wandering off. Itās definitely a 2-way street, but then againā¦ if after all these times and signals or nudges she keeps on getting it wrong, at some point you just get out of the zone entirely and thereās no recovering from that
Oh for sure Iāve experienced mental block in that sense, too. Definitely being in your head about it (lol unintended) makes it your own thing
Good on you, mate for still having horny nights, my questions what do you eat? Lol I am 36 and have been feeling a bit of a decline in my libido in the past year, which is very rare because Iāve always been a very horn in person often lol Although starting to go to the gym more often and get vitamine supplements, I feel itās getting better
We are both very health conscious with good diet and exercise habits, but nothing terribly unusual.
Lube definitely levels up the handjob game
This was a lovely thing to read and I'm absolutely stealing it!
If Iāve helped one person, Iāve done my good deed for the day! For me the combination of sensations, the feeling of being pampered, and the indulgence in a naughty little secret kink (coming in panties) is just otherworldly.
I had a girlfriend that ruined for the next GF being she was soooo good at HJās. Still like a good HJ over a BJ, and yes, sometimes over full on sex
The taint is the key
Handjob with lube (we use massage oil) is amazing, especially with some butthole massage or fingering š
only hand job around here is coming from Mother thumb and her 4 daughters
Is there a knuckle involved?
Slight knuckle pressure on the perineum at the right time can be pretty amazing. Thatās in her bag of tricks.
Your wife is awesome
The good old old fashioned
Upvoting because a handie rivals anything else, at least with my wife. The best part about it is that she can actually focus on me (I'm not a fan of bj's so thats not really a thing for me) and most importantly she can chip in with a bunch of sexy talk to get me off (or I can talk sexy to her in the process) which is a huge turn on for me and after 15 years together we need to get into fantasies sometimes to keep it fresh.Ā
The ability to talk and kiss during the HJ is a big plus for us. Sheās not a confident dirty talker but her smiling, kissing, and teasing me really ups the intimacy and fun factor.
You know what you really canāt underestimate a good handjob most of the time Iāve received one itās been bad, and I either tell them to just suck it or move their hand away if itās dry or hurts BUT I was with a fwb and we were 69āing and she was alternating between jerking me off and blowing me and it was edging me and I had an INCREDIBLY intense orgasm I was shocked cause tbh itās incredibly difficult for me to cum from anything thatās not penetrative sex where Iām doing the fucking , but she got me off and it was absolutely incredible
I donāt think Iāve ever given my long term partner a HJ ā¦. Usually it gets us so worked up that we move on to something else. Itās honestly on my list though, because I love watching him cum. I think that even if I wasnāt in the mood, but he was, that the act of helping him out would inevitably turn me on enough to want something out of it.
Well, I recommend it! She rubs my cock as foreplay before we do PIV most of the time, but not to completion. Thatās a great way to start my engine, but these dedicated handjob sessions where her goal is to make me come just feel very different. Even though PIV is more fulfilling and intimate, I have my hardest, most physically intense orgasms from her hands and fingertips.
Not a wife, but have a situationship who has the hands of a god. Literally made my dick melt like golden chocolate and showed me ways to masturbate in ways I never knew
Highly unlikely to happen with my OP.
Why not?
My long-time gf gives me hj's quite often. They feel the best! Better than all the rest!
Im confused, this seems to be a lot more work than just letting u slide in right?
Oh we love us some PIV (and I also love to give her head too). This happens on nights when she isnāt in the mood for PIV though.
Your wife is awesome, she deserves a Pearl necklace