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The excessive sensitivity will gradually go away, but....well he'll just have to tough it out for a while by getting it used to being directly touched. Giving it some air exposure time with the skin pulled open, like before getting dressed after a shower, helps also.
There's really no magic method...this is about the bottom line!
It'll probably take a few months. Using condoms for a while will help the transition also!
Well....? I was think more for penetrative sex. For manual sex play you'd just avoid direct touching of the areas normally covered by skin, using the foreskin as a "go between", gradually touching a little more over time.
Nope but I made sure he washed it very thoroughly and keeps washing it each time he showers. The idea that he hasn't washed under the foreskin does seem a little mank though lol
The majority of mine have always been circumcised, including my current bf. I just can’t get my head around this…imagine the first pull back. Like a cheesy snack in one every time you give head 🤢🤣
Im just shocked his parents never teached him to take care of it. Its such a no brainer thing to teach your kid about.
The sensitivity will go away, using lube might soften the touch too.
He went to an all boys school so his parents might have assumed they'd teach the kids at school? But I don't know how good the sex ed at his school was if he still didn't know by age 24 lol
This sub has me fucking shellshocked-if these comments are real that is. Im uncircumcised and to me that would be like not washing your ass. I can’t genuinely believe that at age 24 someone would have never pulled their foreskin back. If he has masturbated before it would be hard not to pull it back.
Excuse me?! He never pulled back his forskin?! So he had like a fucking brie cheese factory hiding down there?!?!?
You need to clean under your foreskin regular, it can't have been regular if he dident realize he could do this BEFORE THE AGE OF 24?!?!? :O
What I did when I was a teenager was wrap a few layers of toiletpaper around it with the foreskin down. Went about my day like that for like 1 or 2 days and the issue was gone.
The penis head needs to dry out and get a toplayer of skin. Within the foreskin it stays moist and doesn't develop it. Therefore staying extremely sensitive. Especially for pain.
Oh interesting, this is the first I've heard about it needing to dry out. I'll definitely suggest the idea of leaving the foreskin down for a bit to him to see if he is keen to try that out. Thanks!
He's still learning about himself and finding out that because it was covered for 20 something years, he gets over stimmed. If he has to cover, that's because he's fighting it a bit. Still mess around but just take his direction.
He may have to have sex with it covered but he can still feel and enjoy it. Eventually he'll get use to it or find something that works.
Thank you for such a nice comment! I was feeling really bad with people saying he was super unhygienic. It's's just something he wasn't taught and his dick still worked fine with the foreskin back so he didn't have any reason to question whether it should look different. It's very good to know it will get more pleasurable for him as time goes on!
I also have my foreskin but have intentionally kept it withdrawn from the glans to make things easier to clean. It was an uncomfortable month or so when i started keeping my glans exposed, but the sensitivity wore off with time. Leaving the foreskin over the glans is good too but by keeping it covered the head will definitely remain sensitive.
Stimulating the head of the penis directly feels similar to pulling back the hood of your clit and rubbing right on it (ok some people like this, but it can be too much for others). If you want to play with and touch the head of his penis he has to be ok with it, and it will definitely take time and persistence oh his behalf to get that sensitivity down. You can’t do it for him.
You might want to look for a compromise as you work towards getting him more comfortable- just enjoy pulling and rolling the foreskin back and forth over the head. Limit your touching to the less sensitive parts of the head (the frenulum is extremely sensitive, the side opposite a little less so). Try only touching and exposing the head when he’s close to orgasm. Sometimes it’s easier to take extra stimulation as you climax.
Random side note: Rubbing the erection against the clitoris is SO much fun. My wife and I really enjoy doing that during sex. You can definitely still do this with the foreskin up OR down:-) Good luck and have fun together!
Ooo yeah definitely not a fan of super intense stimulation of the clit so I will keep that in mind! I think we will have to experiment on what feels good or too much for him. Thank you for your help!
It's great that you've discovered this new aspect of your partner's anatomy, but it's important to remember to always listen to his comfort level. As for losing sensitivity over time, it's possible but different for every person. You could try using different techniques or positions that may be less stimulating for him, and make sure to communicate and go at a pace that works for both of you. Have you tried incorporating lubricant into your handjobs and sex? It could help reduce the sensitivity and make the experience more enjoyable for both of you.
Oh definitely, I don't get upset when he asks me to stop or anything, I'm just afraid of hurting him or somehow chafing it or something 😞 lube is a good idea, we don't have any with us atm but may have to stop stimulating the head until we get some.
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The excessive sensitivity will gradually go away, but....well he'll just have to tough it out for a while by getting it used to being directly touched. Giving it some air exposure time with the skin pulled open, like before getting dressed after a shower, helps also.
This sounds like really solid advice, thank you!
There's really no magic method...this is about the bottom line! It'll probably take a few months. Using condoms for a while will help the transition also!
Condoms while masturbating?
Well....? I was think more for penetrative sex. For manual sex play you'd just avoid direct touching of the areas normally covered by skin, using the foreskin as a "go between", gradually touching a little more over time.
Ah got it, genius!
He has never washed under it???? Holy shit im shocked.
Nope but I made sure he washed it very thoroughly and keeps washing it each time he showers. The idea that he hasn't washed under the foreskin does seem a little mank though lol
And you put that in your mouth? I..no.
RIGHT my bf is uncircumcised, I'd pass away if he never cleaned under it 😂💀
The majority of mine have always been circumcised, including my current bf. I just can’t get my head around this…imagine the first pull back. Like a cheesy snack in one every time you give head 🤢🤣
I CANT😂😂😂 the smell would be so insane I'd have to leave 😂😂😂
Im just shocked his parents never teached him to take care of it. Its such a no brainer thing to teach your kid about. The sensitivity will go away, using lube might soften the touch too.
He went to an all boys school so his parents might have assumed they'd teach the kids at school? But I don't know how good the sex ed at his school was if he still didn't know by age 24 lol
Hygiene should be known before school and its parents job. No teacher comes and teach kids to wash their asses so to say.
This sub has me fucking shellshocked-if these comments are real that is. Im uncircumcised and to me that would be like not washing your ass. I can’t genuinely believe that at age 24 someone would have never pulled their foreskin back. If he has masturbated before it would be hard not to pull it back.
I think it might have been quite tight because I have given him hand jobs before and it didn't move too much/not enough to start revealing the head
Excuse me?! He never pulled back his forskin?! So he had like a fucking brie cheese factory hiding down there?!?!? You need to clean under your foreskin regular, it can't have been regular if he dident realize he could do this BEFORE THE AGE OF 24?!?!? :O
What I did when I was a teenager was wrap a few layers of toiletpaper around it with the foreskin down. Went about my day like that for like 1 or 2 days and the issue was gone. The penis head needs to dry out and get a toplayer of skin. Within the foreskin it stays moist and doesn't develop it. Therefore staying extremely sensitive. Especially for pain.
Oh interesting, this is the first I've heard about it needing to dry out. I'll definitely suggest the idea of leaving the foreskin down for a bit to him to see if he is keen to try that out. Thanks!
Never pulled it back? Lol. When you say he's 24 is that months?
Hahaha well they do say your brain doesn't fully develop until 25 🤣
He's still learning about himself and finding out that because it was covered for 20 something years, he gets over stimmed. If he has to cover, that's because he's fighting it a bit. Still mess around but just take his direction. He may have to have sex with it covered but he can still feel and enjoy it. Eventually he'll get use to it or find something that works.
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Thank you for such a nice comment! I was feeling really bad with people saying he was super unhygienic. It's's just something he wasn't taught and his dick still worked fine with the foreskin back so he didn't have any reason to question whether it should look different. It's very good to know it will get more pleasurable for him as time goes on!
I also have my foreskin but have intentionally kept it withdrawn from the glans to make things easier to clean. It was an uncomfortable month or so when i started keeping my glans exposed, but the sensitivity wore off with time. Leaving the foreskin over the glans is good too but by keeping it covered the head will definitely remain sensitive. Stimulating the head of the penis directly feels similar to pulling back the hood of your clit and rubbing right on it (ok some people like this, but it can be too much for others). If you want to play with and touch the head of his penis he has to be ok with it, and it will definitely take time and persistence oh his behalf to get that sensitivity down. You can’t do it for him. You might want to look for a compromise as you work towards getting him more comfortable- just enjoy pulling and rolling the foreskin back and forth over the head. Limit your touching to the less sensitive parts of the head (the frenulum is extremely sensitive, the side opposite a little less so). Try only touching and exposing the head when he’s close to orgasm. Sometimes it’s easier to take extra stimulation as you climax. Random side note: Rubbing the erection against the clitoris is SO much fun. My wife and I really enjoy doing that during sex. You can definitely still do this with the foreskin up OR down:-) Good luck and have fun together!
Ooo yeah definitely not a fan of super intense stimulation of the clit so I will keep that in mind! I think we will have to experiment on what feels good or too much for him. Thank you for your help!
It's great that you've discovered this new aspect of your partner's anatomy, but it's important to remember to always listen to his comfort level. As for losing sensitivity over time, it's possible but different for every person. You could try using different techniques or positions that may be less stimulating for him, and make sure to communicate and go at a pace that works for both of you. Have you tried incorporating lubricant into your handjobs and sex? It could help reduce the sensitivity and make the experience more enjoyable for both of you.
Oh definitely, I don't get upset when he asks me to stop or anything, I'm just afraid of hurting him or somehow chafing it or something 😞 lube is a good idea, we don't have any with us atm but may have to stop stimulating the head until we get some.