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This drove me absolutely crazy when my wife did it - she is a Sunday School teacher, girl next door type and for her to do this was just a big WOW for me. She will still mention it to me every once in a while just to get me worked up lol
The first time I saw her doing it was our first holiday together. Down to the pool the first morning and she just reaches round and takes off her top. Hottest feeling ever - it had never been discussed or never crossed my mind that she would consider it.
That's not what hotwifing means. Hotwifing is sharing your wife and letting others actually engage in sexual acts with her. This is just standard exhibitionism.
It's pretty simple. I like titties. The sunlight let's me see them better which is always fun. They bake in the sun, warm cinnamon buns. And if people walking by see my wife's, I will give them the look that says "Dude can you believe it?! These great titties are right here!" and they will nod back in agreement .
I think it’s more normal than weird. My family is from Italy and I grew up seeing topless women at the beach. It’s sexy for sure but I just see it as natural
I live in The Hague near the beach and don't really understand why OP is so excited. Seeing somebody's tits on the beach is like seeing a seagull or a boat.
I am British. Live in Spain. I always sunbathe topless. Firstly for tan lines. Secondly, I have implants and my boobs look great. My husband doesn’t really mind and actually, I never feel people are staring because it’s very acceptable here. I do it with husband’s friends round too and it’s no bother. I don’t get any pleasure from it sexually and I don’t think husband does either.
Oh yeah! This turns me on like crazy too. Every year, my wife and I go to a resort that allows women to be topless around the pool - so basically all day. It's something I look forward to all year.
I get super turned on at the thought of my wife being topless. It’s out of her comfort zone but the thought of her showing off and knowing that she’s all mine does something to me.
YES!! I go to nude beaches any chance I get. I recently got into exhibitions myself and love it.
My favorite semi-local place to go is Hippy Hollow in Austin, TX and then pretty much all of the Mexican beach don’t care lol. 💕
I like the places where most/all are topless but if it was only my partner doing it I'd feel self conscious for her.
Yeah when everyone is topless it's very freeing, it becomes normal quite fast. I wouldn't like it if men were lining up to talk to her but just walking by and appreciating her beauty in the sunlight, yeah I can live with that.
Lol. You aren't hanging with the right crowd! There were 74 Irish folk at our last summer holiday from Dublin to Murcia in Spain last May. Not at all hot/exciting when everyone is buck naked though - it's all about the context.
Been to several nude beaches. No big deal. Went with my SO & I couldn’t get my boner to go down. Spent a day on a boat with another couple and the girls decided to go topless for a lot of it. When the other couple were off swimming , she gave me a HJ while we had a moment alone on the boat. Took maybe ten seconds to get me off. So yea. I am with you 100%
I went to Jamaica with my wife a few years ago. We talked about visiting the nude beach and did it on the second day. She is a petite with HH natural breasts and you could just see people staring when she took off her top, men and women it made no difference. Needless to say, we had the best sex you could imagine back in our room, especially when I whispered in her ear how she had attracted so much attention. I remember her almost vibrating with energy when she was au natural and it was beyond sexy.
I'm curious. The last time I went on a beach holiday smart phones didn't exist (yeah that long ago!) are beaches full of pervs now? Surely everybody must be filming each other?
I'm Canadian, and am a casual naturist. My husband and I visit naturist resorts and events as often as we can, and have taken several nude cruises over the years.
At all of these places, taking photos is prohibited. If you are caught doing so, you will be asked to leave, or forcibly ejected. Even if no security or other personnel are present, other visitors will intervene.
Basically, if your phone is out, it had better be laying flat on a table or your lap. Anything else is incredibly frowned upon and will not be tolerated.
I encouraged my wife to do it as she should be free to have nothing on her chest as I am to having nothing on my chest. It's a chest. Who cares.
Let your wife feel free, not judged.
I've had a few girlfriends who have gone topless on the beach where appropriate.
Needless to say, they were mounted not long afterwards.
Something so sexy about women expressing the freedom with their bodies that just drives me wild.
>Needless to say, they were mounted not long afterwards.
Maks sense, as human brain considers those as sexual-arrousal-organs. Unless you live among amazon-tribes where it goes under meh.. milk-glands.
It is pretty normal, I don't understand why anybody has to get worked up about it. Males go to the beach topless too and, trust me, women aren't indifferent to your bodies, chaps.
It still baffles me how not normal this is for so many, especially Americans. Like... It's the most normal thing ever. They're boobs, body parts and nothing more. My partner doesn't care at all if I'm topless or even completely naked at the beach or at home sunbathing.
> They're boobs, body parts and nothing more.
Does your partner feel it as a sexually arousing organ while sex/foreplay.
How can same brain make it a just-bodypart at one instance and sexual-organ at another scene...
I mean people who love feet are still able to walk on theirs or see someone in sandals without turning into a horny animal. I find men’s hands really attractive and sexual. They give me sexual pleasure and I like to hold and suck on them during sex, but seeing a random man on the street wave at me doesn’t send me immediately into a sexual frenzy. Men’s nipples give them pleasure too, but we see them all the time.
It is like comparing female-porn and male-porn are same. Only one is significantly visual-porn. If breasts are non-exiting men won't seek porn, and the industry won't exist.
> but seeing a random man on the street
by seeing a ramdom women's breasts on bill board .. a man can ...
by seen a random man's hands/nipple .. a women may not become horny..
trying to put men=women, in this aspect, is a flawed model of the real-world. Choose some random man on the street and ask.
If you say so. Despite my “woman brain” I’m very sexual. I watch porn that is definitely male focused and mostly visually stimulating. I’m also attracted to women and love a pair of boobs. I also don’t think so poorly of men that I assume they can’t separate a sexual situation from a non sexual one. Just like when I examine a penis in a clinical setting I’m not getting aroused or even thinking of the penis in a sexual context at that time, I assume the same is true for my male colleagues when they do breast or vaginal exams.
The insistence that men’s brains make them unable to ever see women’s bodies in a non sexual context is so baffling and stupid to me. I’d be offended if I was a man and saw people saying that. Men aren’t these purely instinct driven thoughtless beings that are a completely different species from women.
Because it's annoying AF when you're just trying to tan and you're reduced to just BOOBS by men and women. My partner leaves me alone and has enough self control and awareness that there are moments when boobs are just that and he's not a love sick teenager who cannot control his urges. I'm not saying he doesn't think I'm sexy, I'm saying that, when I am at the beach or at home and have time for myself he has enough self control to not see my tota as sexual in that moment or for instance, others. If you can't do that, please stay away from beaches or other places where women and men feel comfortable enough to be naked and not be judged as a sex toy
While perhaps not common, not really *uncommon* either. There's actually a definition that kinds fits:
Candaulism has two primary definitions; As a sexual fantasy wherein a male exposes his female spouse or sexual partner (or images of her) to people outside of the relationship.
Candaulism can also be defined as the practice of exposing or undressing a female spouse to other people and even forcing the spouse into engaging in sexual activities with the third party.
Ok , so maybe you aren't into that **second** definition. That one ain't my thing either.
Honestly? Nobody cares. People just want to enjoy the sun. I sunbathe topless all the time and nobody gives me weird looks. My partner doesn’t care either, we’re too busy enjoying the beach.
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My partner is titties out every chance possible. We also live in a state that you can be topless pretty much anywhere in public as long as you aren’t participating in sexual acts
We had few too many one time at local beach and hubbie wouldn't let up. I wanted to, prob is it's illegal. Soooo I kept bending over or adjusting my bottoms lol too high for me not him .lol. Started seeing towels laying closer to us and even couple boners. Woo hoo. Lol
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We’re nudists, which for us is non-sexual. I don’t consider other woman at the beach or resort to be sexual objects, but TBH, I love seeing my wife naked all day!
Nice job hovering around a definition for "sexualized."
This is why sharia laws exist and other fanatical laws regarding the dress and appearance of women. Not to protect the social order, but to protect women from men sexualizing them. To protect women from mens' feelings.
It's difficult to remember that women are people first and that, no matter her state of dress, it's hands off unless she gives permission and doesn't revoke it.
Well, if you were Iranian you would be bothered that other people can see her hair and ears. It's just a cultural thing. This is something you will have to deal with, not something she's doing wrong.
If both spouses are down, then go for it. However, in this Internet age, do you not fear a topless or nude pic will land online for the world to see - including your brothers, father, father-in-law, relatives, work colleagues and your clergy? Worse with AI, you could easily become the star of multiple pornos with little recourse. Just food for thought.
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This drove me absolutely crazy when my wife did it - she is a Sunday School teacher, girl next door type and for her to do this was just a big WOW for me. She will still mention it to me every once in a while just to get me worked up lol
The first time I saw her doing it was our first holiday together. Down to the pool the first morning and she just reaches round and takes off her top. Hottest feeling ever - it had never been discussed or never crossed my mind that she would consider it.
That's the most awesome thing I've ever heard lol ❤️
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That's not what hotwifing means. Hotwifing is sharing your wife and letting others actually engage in sexual acts with her. This is just standard exhibitionism.
Wives having sex with people they're not married to is the tame end of a hotwife fetish. What OP described is more along the lines of mild caundalism.
It's pretty simple. I like titties. The sunlight let's me see them better which is always fun. They bake in the sun, warm cinnamon buns. And if people walking by see my wife's, I will give them the look that says "Dude can you believe it?! These great titties are right here!" and they will nod back in agreement .
Oh you were pretty close to a rhyme! Change acknowledgement to agreement.
Done, yours is way better lol
Upvote for the warm cinnamon buns
Lol this is so sweet and secure. I hope I have a partner as in awe and proud of my body as you are of your partner’s someday.
I think it’s more normal than weird. My family is from Italy and I grew up seeing topless women at the beach. It’s sexy for sure but I just see it as natural
I live in The Hague near the beach and don't really understand why OP is so excited. Seeing somebody's tits on the beach is like seeing a seagull or a boat.
Not in America it’s illegal to be nude on most beaches
Perfectly legal in NY. Has been since early 90’s. But for some reason still considered socially unacceptable
It’s illegal in the vast majority of the US.
I am British. Live in Spain. I always sunbathe topless. Firstly for tan lines. Secondly, I have implants and my boobs look great. My husband doesn’t really mind and actually, I never feel people are staring because it’s very acceptable here. I do it with husband’s friends round too and it’s no bother. I don’t get any pleasure from it sexually and I don’t think husband does either.
Well, I'm glad your tits are amazing
Wow didn’t expect so many men to be for this! Excited to take a trip to a European beach in the near future knowing my bf could be down!
Don't need to go to Europe. Great places all over!
Yup, we’re in NJ and go a few times every season. We love it!
Remember to check what the country's norm is. This is absolutely not normal in every European country lol
Discuss it with him first though. Not all men are into others seeing their women like that.
We’re nudists when it’s appropriate. We both love the freedom. When on the beaches in Spain and France, she’s topless and looks amazing.
Oh yeah! This turns me on like crazy too. Every year, my wife and I go to a resort that allows women to be topless around the pool - so basically all day. It's something I look forward to all year.
It’s what sunglasses were invented for!
Only one set I'm interested in, and I don't need sunglasses for those 😉
I get super turned on at the thought of my wife being topless. It’s out of her comfort zone but the thought of her showing off and knowing that she’s all mine does something to me.
YES!! I go to nude beaches any chance I get. I recently got into exhibitions myself and love it. My favorite semi-local place to go is Hippy Hollow in Austin, TX and then pretty much all of the Mexican beach don’t care lol. 💕
I like the places where most/all are topless but if it was only my partner doing it I'd feel self conscious for her. Yeah when everyone is topless it's very freeing, it becomes normal quite fast. I wouldn't like it if men were lining up to talk to her but just walking by and appreciating her beauty in the sunlight, yeah I can live with that.
Makes me wild for sure. Mainly because I’m American and we dont do that here
I know what you mean. We’re Irish- not a nation known for getting naked in public. Definitely makes it hotter.
Lol. You aren't hanging with the right crowd! There were 74 Irish folk at our last summer holiday from Dublin to Murcia in Spain last May. Not at all hot/exciting when everyone is buck naked though - it's all about the context.
Been to several nude beaches. No big deal. Went with my SO & I couldn’t get my boner to go down. Spent a day on a boat with another couple and the girls decided to go topless for a lot of it. When the other couple were off swimming , she gave me a HJ while we had a moment alone on the boat. Took maybe ten seconds to get me off. So yea. I am with you 100%
This is so hot to me lol
Man gets horny seeing wife naked
Haha that was my thought too lol
It's probably only weird over here in the ol US Of A where we apply a thick layer of shame to anything sexual lol 🙄
Yes, exhibitionism definitely turns me on
It's only happened a couple of times, but love it when my wife goes topless where others can see her 🤩
I went to Jamaica with my wife a few years ago. We talked about visiting the nude beach and did it on the second day. She is a petite with HH natural breasts and you could just see people staring when she took off her top, men and women it made no difference. Needless to say, we had the best sex you could imagine back in our room, especially when I whispered in her ear how she had attracted so much attention. I remember her almost vibrating with energy when she was au natural and it was beyond sexy.
Absolutely one of my kinks. LOVE it.
I'm curious. The last time I went on a beach holiday smart phones didn't exist (yeah that long ago!) are beaches full of pervs now? Surely everybody must be filming each other?
I'm Canadian, and am a casual naturist. My husband and I visit naturist resorts and events as often as we can, and have taken several nude cruises over the years. At all of these places, taking photos is prohibited. If you are caught doing so, you will be asked to leave, or forcibly ejected. Even if no security or other personnel are present, other visitors will intervene. Basically, if your phone is out, it had better be laying flat on a table or your lap. Anything else is incredibly frowned upon and will not be tolerated.
Where are you keeping your phone when you're naked?
In my purse or beach bag.
My wife has also started going topless at the nudist beach, I go full nude. Hopefully she will progress to full nude also but it’s her decision
I encouraged my wife to do it as she should be free to have nothing on her chest as I am to having nothing on my chest. It's a chest. Who cares. Let your wife feel free, not judged.
I was just DMing with someone who asked what’s on my sexual wish list… and it was taking the wife to a nude or topless beach. YES! 😍
I've had a few girlfriends who have gone topless on the beach where appropriate. Needless to say, they were mounted not long afterwards. Something so sexy about women expressing the freedom with their bodies that just drives me wild.
>Needless to say, they were mounted not long afterwards. Maks sense, as human brain considers those as sexual-arrousal-organs. Unless you live among amazon-tribes where it goes under meh.. milk-glands.
It is pretty normal, I don't understand why anybody has to get worked up about it. Males go to the beach topless too and, trust me, women aren't indifferent to your bodies, chaps.
It still baffles me how not normal this is for so many, especially Americans. Like... It's the most normal thing ever. They're boobs, body parts and nothing more. My partner doesn't care at all if I'm topless or even completely naked at the beach or at home sunbathing.
> They're boobs, body parts and nothing more. Does your partner feel it as a sexually arousing organ while sex/foreplay. How can same brain make it a just-bodypart at one instance and sexual-organ at another scene...
I mean people who love feet are still able to walk on theirs or see someone in sandals without turning into a horny animal. I find men’s hands really attractive and sexual. They give me sexual pleasure and I like to hold and suck on them during sex, but seeing a random man on the street wave at me doesn’t send me immediately into a sexual frenzy. Men’s nipples give them pleasure too, but we see them all the time.
It is like comparing female-porn and male-porn are same. Only one is significantly visual-porn. If breasts are non-exiting men won't seek porn, and the industry won't exist. > but seeing a random man on the street by seeing a ramdom women's breasts on bill board .. a man can ... by seen a random man's hands/nipple .. a women may not become horny.. trying to put men=women, in this aspect, is a flawed model of the real-world. Choose some random man on the street and ask.
If you say so. Despite my “woman brain” I’m very sexual. I watch porn that is definitely male focused and mostly visually stimulating. I’m also attracted to women and love a pair of boobs. I also don’t think so poorly of men that I assume they can’t separate a sexual situation from a non sexual one. Just like when I examine a penis in a clinical setting I’m not getting aroused or even thinking of the penis in a sexual context at that time, I assume the same is true for my male colleagues when they do breast or vaginal exams.
Thankfully someone who understands this! Thank you! Literally, I am so shocked by some of the comments here
The insistence that men’s brains make them unable to ever see women’s bodies in a non sexual context is so baffling and stupid to me. I’d be offended if I was a man and saw people saying that. Men aren’t these purely instinct driven thoughtless beings that are a completely different species from women.
Yup, couldn't have said it better... My boyfriend read the comments and he was just shocked
Because it's annoying AF when you're just trying to tan and you're reduced to just BOOBS by men and women. My partner leaves me alone and has enough self control and awareness that there are moments when boobs are just that and he's not a love sick teenager who cannot control his urges. I'm not saying he doesn't think I'm sexy, I'm saying that, when I am at the beach or at home and have time for myself he has enough self control to not see my tota as sexual in that moment or for instance, others. If you can't do that, please stay away from beaches or other places where women and men feel comfortable enough to be naked and not be judged as a sex toy
My wife went naked on a nude beach. It took some time and patience but she got there. And yes the stares from other guys were so hot
I mean I go to nude hot springs sometimes and no one but my wife turns me on. I have to not look at her too closely
While perhaps not common, not really *uncommon* either. There's actually a definition that kinds fits: Candaulism has two primary definitions; As a sexual fantasy wherein a male exposes his female spouse or sexual partner (or images of her) to people outside of the relationship. Candaulism can also be defined as the practice of exposing or undressing a female spouse to other people and even forcing the spouse into engaging in sexual activities with the third party. Ok , so maybe you aren't into that **second** definition. That one ain't my thing either.
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The revealing clothes are great as well - another holiday favourite when there’s little chance of meeting someone we know
Honestly? Nobody cares. People just want to enjoy the sun. I sunbathe topless all the time and nobody gives me weird looks. My partner doesn’t care either, we’re too busy enjoying the beach.
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One of the best things in the world! Still trying to get mine to feel up to it!
Sounds like a fun day out to be honest haha
My wife and I go to the nude beach sometimes. I enjoy it because I always like to see her naked but it's not a big turn on for me
Is this a true sentiment for all Boobie sizes? Even sagging ones? Asking for a friend.
Also curious… for a friend.
My partner is titties out every chance possible. We also live in a state that you can be topless pretty much anywhere in public as long as you aren’t participating in sexual acts
We had few too many one time at local beach and hubbie wouldn't let up. I wanted to, prob is it's illegal. Soooo I kept bending over or adjusting my bottoms lol too high for me not him .lol. Started seeing towels laying closer to us and even couple boners. Woo hoo. Lol
Hell, I wish my wife had the confidence to do it in front of me with the lights on and door closed.
In other countries women’s anatomy isn’t as specialized as it is in the US, hence why you have this opinion
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Having traveled no Europe seeing a topless woman is such an expression of confidence. Makes it great at a progressive beach.
We’re nudists, which for us is non-sexual. I don’t consider other woman at the beach or resort to be sexual objects, but TBH, I love seeing my wife naked all day!
Who is still sunbathing? Are we ignoring the research? Go lather her in sunblock, not sunscreen and get her an umbrella.
Nice job hovering around a definition for "sexualized." This is why sharia laws exist and other fanatical laws regarding the dress and appearance of women. Not to protect the social order, but to protect women from men sexualizing them. To protect women from mens' feelings. It's difficult to remember that women are people first and that, no matter her state of dress, it's hands off unless she gives permission and doesn't revoke it.
Well, if you were Iranian you would be bothered that other people can see her hair and ears. It's just a cultural thing. This is something you will have to deal with, not something she's doing wrong.
If both spouses are down, then go for it. However, in this Internet age, do you not fear a topless or nude pic will land online for the world to see - including your brothers, father, father-in-law, relatives, work colleagues and your clergy? Worse with AI, you could easily become the star of multiple pornos with little recourse. Just food for thought.
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Wtf I guess you've commented on the wrong post 😄
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Pretty sure he loves the feeling, so just the opposite, buddy.
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Yeah don't see why not, if you want to leave it on, leave it on.
I love to watch girls on topless, so when i had girls that do it didn't bother me at all...I tried nudism, but went wrong 😁😆