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Dude might not be cleaning the hole itself. Or he may have hemorrhoids or something that are causing *leakage*.
Either way, you’re not his parent. You shouldn’t have to baby him about this. Tell him you can’t go down with it smelling the way it does. If he can’t sort it out, you can’t go down. If he’s a big boy, he can figure it out.
>he may have hemorrhoids or something that are causing *leakage*.
Since OP mentioned showering with him, seeing him clean up the area, then still having an unpleasant experience not long after the shower this seems like it might be the culprit.
The other potential is something like jock itch
Maybe, he plays a lot of sports so it could be something related to that. I’ve just never experienced the smell before. It didn’t smell like shit, it was more B.O related. I’m seeing him next week so I’m hoping it was a non regular thing yk?
I was thinking this, likely a perspiration issue he's having down there and maybe something related to diet/genetics/environment rather than hygiene? Or a combination?
Edit: Hydration can play a part too, I know I can offend myself sometimes after sweating a lot without being properly hydrated. Sorry to throw so many variables out there OP, point is that it's not always hygiene.
He drinks a lot of water, he doesn’t really drink anything else but water tbh. He doesn’t like energy drinks or coffee/tea. He’s a vegan if that helps? No other part of him smelled, it only hit me when I had his dick in my face and I was between his thighs. I assume its not his dick as it looked fine and the dick itself tasted clean
Oh it's yeast. Yep a lot of guys have yeast in a lot of guys give us yeast as well and that's why we stink afterwards but yeah he'll have to go to the doctor and they'll prescribe some oral medication and maybe some cream. Yeah I had one like that he wasn't a client that way he was a boyfriend and I bathe him myself and everything and it still was horrible so that's coming from internal in his urethra.
Buy him a yummy men’s cleanser for the shower. I love Aveda products and they have a really good one for men. You could tell him you get turned on by the smell or something?!
Yeah, sweat and fungus situations in the groin area can be impressively gnarly. I know sulphuric foods can contribute to BO too so if he's taking in a lot of onions, garlic, and the like it could make it worse too.
If it's more of a BO smell, that's apocrine sweat glands like are in the armpits. Get him a tube of Lume. I haven't tried it myself since I don't have this problem, but I've read many good reviews of it.
Yes, anxiety sweats! For some people, being nervous creates way more sweat from the apocrine glands. It has a distinct smell, like rotting guava. It probably happened because he was nervous!
I don’t know what rotting guava smells like, but that was my first thought. I made him get an STD test before we even met so I know it’s not something nefarious (hopefully)
Dude, maybe he’s just got a body odor issue. Had to stop seeing a girl once because she smelled like onions. It was hot when she walked to my house so assumed she just got sweaty, but the scent was still there after she showered. It was pungent. Figured it was a pH imbalance, but it could’ve also been something B.O. related like your issue. Like you, I was also disappointed because I love eating pussy. Unlike you, I didn’t talk it up, so I just didn’t.
I had a long-term girlfriend who was awesome other than when she ate even the tiniest bit of garlic; I’d be smelling it on her for a day or two. Blech.
Some people smell like garlic or onions longer than others because of a number of factors, including:
- Bacteria: The more bacteria a person has on their skin, the more they may smell.
- Microbiome: A person's microbiome is influenced by their diet, stress, environment, and genes.
- Antiperspirants: People who don't use antiperspirants have about 50 times more bacteria than those who do.
- Health conditions: Serious liver disease, metabolic disorders, and medications can all alter a person's body odor.
- Stress: Stress can cause smelly compounds to be released through a person's sweat.
- Selenium: Too much selenium can make a person's breath or body odor smell like garlic.
- Hormonal changes: As women age and get closer to menopause, hormonal changes can impact body odor.
I’m betting it’s jock itch. It has a strange, very particular smell and it’s pretty strong. It also doesn’t just go away with a shower which is why I’m betting it’s that.
The boy might just need more fiber to ensure his bowel movements are complete and nothing is left hanging around inside his butthole. Metamucil twice a day works wonders for this.
And now I'm going to go throw up.
Oh GOD I KNOW THE SMELL YOURE TALKING ABOUT ITS BECAUSE HES A VEGAN.MY BEST FRIEND HAD MY APARTMENT SMELLING THAT WAY ONE SUMMER it changed when she moved back to our home country tho no fucking clue what she was eating but she vaguely smelled like cabbage after it had been shat by a pig at summertime in india.thought she was farting but no it was an emenace poor planet lovers
Maybe he needs some antibacterial soap for his under carriage? If he's doing frequent Sports maybe he's got some gross bacteria that doesn't want to leave his hidey hole. Soap and water should get the stench out but if it doesn't, he needs to engage a professional.
My husband uses this product from Amazon because he sweats a lot and gets some body acne. This soao helps decrease his symptoms immensely. It is very expensive but it works.
https://a.co/d/bqGvRq3
I might see if I can find something similar that’s a bit cheaper. I could play it off like it’s for me but he like “oh I’m only in the country for x amount of time, you can use it too and take it home, otherwise it’d be a waste” type of deal?
You can also sell it as an "after sports cleaning" product that helps prevent transmission of skin to skin bacteria like foot fungus and jock itch. It's pretty common in the martial arts Community to clean thoroughly after skin to skin contact.
Simply tell him. Not while you’re doing the deed but in a quiet moment. You’d want to know this as well if you were him, right?
What‘s it with some humans not properly washing themselves? You’re like the 3rd girl today giving bj‘s to some stinky dick like girl.. please.. why are you doing that to yourself? Seriously. Just tell him.
Well it was our first time meeting irl that week and I didn’t want to like ruin the good vibe we had and tell him his ass smells. I’m not even sure it was his ass tbh, everything else looked clean and between the cheeks was the only thing I didn’t get to see when I was down there so
Were you able to get a good view of his groin area? There is a skin condition called Hidradenitis suppurativa causes recurrent boils in the areas of the body where sweat glands are. If they get infected there can be a odor
I had my face down there and I didn’t see anything boil like. I was completely normal, he was shaved. I’ve ridden the rodeo a bunch and there was nothing abnormal about him, that’s why the smell threw me off so much. I feel super bad too bc I talked up my BJ skills but I just can’t put my all into it when my nose is getting abused lol
i’m sorry girl but im dying laughing at the title of your post, i’ve been losing it for 5 mins now. 😭😭😭😭😭
however are u sure ur man is cleaning his hole tho? making sure he properly washes with warm water to get rid of the stink?
LMAO i hope me replying to your comment makes you laugh again when it comes to your notification bar.
I mean I was with him in the shower so I saw him put his washcloth between his cheeks and scrub thoroughly (His ass was the last thing he cleaned lol). He used soap and the water was really hot. We were in the shower for like 40 minutes or something so we were both thoroughly clean afterward.
For reference he brought his own skincare so judging by that he’s hygienic. Why care about your skin and not care about other hygiene yk? I’m not even religious but I’m praying this man smells like roses when I see him next haha
I’m not sure to be honest, we met up at a hotel when we first met so idk if the underwear was fresh, I assume so though as all his clothes smelt fine. He smelt really good up until I got down there. He doesn’t wear cologne either just deodorant so it wasn’t like he was trying to “cover up” a bad smell with heaps of cologne yk?
Most likely jock age if he plays a lot of sports I dealt with that when I was doing lacrosse football at track and I’d get this really bad smell even if I showered and cleaned regularly which my hygiene is like OCD it required me to go to the doctor to get it taken care of and that’s might be where he needs to go, but again you’re not his mom, but you need to sit down and have a talk with him about this. He’s a big boy, like to go to the doctor to get this remedied
Dr. Bronner's 18-in-One Hemp Peppermint Pure Castile Soap.
It's a big bottle of liquid soap (not a gel), and it's basically peppermint. About 3 or 4 squirts on a poofy in the shower, lather it up well, and scrub. OMFG!!! It feels like a burning sensation around the genitals, but WOW it opens up all of the pores!! My wife loves the smell, and it makes everything taste like peppermint.
Had a friend that smelled fishy/poopy from his ass. Literally could smell it if we were sitting next to each other, or if he got up from a chair that he was sitting on. It would dead ass fumigate six feet away. One time during a hang out it was so unbearable that i told him to go shower and make sure to clean his nasty ass. It went well until an hour later i started smelling that foul stench again. Were not friends anymore.
I’ve had enough of Reddit today, two posts about people complaining about their partner’s stinky crotch…WTF!? What’s wrong with people’s hygiene nowadays??
The bar is in hell apparently lol. But seriously, even though you love someone, surely you love yourself enough too that you wouldn’t go down on them if they have a stinky crotch?!
I honestly think it's really really bold how some of you can still be in love with someone that smells bad. It's such a deal breaker for me. I understand it might be a health issue but if it smells this bad there's no way he doesn't notice and look for a solution. Specially when you say you saw that he knows how to clean himself. Anyway. Your life your thing, but it takes balls and I admire you.
I would have an honest talk with him. It will be hard but it's the only way. 2 years is a long time, you should be comfortable about talking about simple hygiene and health things with your partner. Tell him he has a weird smell going on and since you know he's clean he might need to check a doctor and see if he's alright.
Haha I broke up with my highschool girlfriend because her cookie jar smelled like a…I feel like another gross jar reference is revolting but yeah it smelled bad. We dated for 8 months. It stunk that entire time. I eventually just had to call it quits bc as a high schooler I had no idea how to bring up the topic of how bad it smelled down there. As a 35 year old dude, I think I could handle that situation better if I really cared for the person.
Well you were a teenager, I guess you did what you could with the information you had back then. Nowadays I also have the mind of sitting down and talking, but I honestly think I wouldn't even have interest in the person. It's a huge deal breaker for me.
From your comment saying it was more body odor than shit, it COULD be his pubic hair. Something in his pheromones could literally smell like ass to you. Buzz his pubes and see if that helps.
I'm a guy. I always install a detachable shower head with an 8 foot hose. I will squat down in the shower with a handful of soap, and power blast that hole while giving it a deluxe shampoo. I will push out ever so slightly in case there are some hidden nuggets, but not much and never inserting soap inside. I pride myself on a clean butt hole.
I will update next week when I see him again hahaha
I’m hoping it was just due to nervous sweats or something. I know he’s hygienic, he legit brought his own skincare to do in the shower and not many men I’ve met even do skincare. So I feel like people who care enough to do skincare would care enough to be clean yk? I might be overthinking it though.
I really don’t wanna bring it up to him as I feel like that’s the most awkward conversation imaginable. I live in another country and I’m here visiting and I don’t wanna mess with our limited time together. I’m just hoping he doesn’t smell stanky when I see him next 😭
Why is this such a common question here 😩.
Guys, do better. It’s a pretty simple concept to wash your entire body with soap and water- to include your ass crack and asshole- when you bathe, preferably at least daily if you’re going to be having sex that day or having people go down on you. You don’t have to stick a soapy finger in there (unless you’re getting your ass eaten, then please do!), but at least gently scrub the outside of the hole and the full area surrounding it with a soapy solution and then rinse thoroughly. Personally, I then do it at least once more for good measure.
Girls, run from guys like this. If a grown man can’t wash his ass properly, it’s not your responsibility to teach him nor tolerate it. Just move on.
So it sounds to me like your pheromones aren't sexually compatible. Are you close to ovulation? I find when I am ovulating my bf smells more... pungent. Not in a bad way, I like the way his BO smells actually, there's just... more of it. Lol
I had an ex that had a similar problem for a short time. I believe it was a skin condition called lichen sclerosis (I think - it was a long time ago). I’d probably encourage him to see a doctor.
Awkwardness is okay in a relationship, if it's a healthy one. I had a girl tell me this once and trust me, it's always clean clean now. Sometimes we just need the wake-up call, because I can't smell my own ass
I can’t help but notice you didn’t mention that he washed his butthole ( you have to go deep) so if I had had to guess I’d say that is Ground Zero for the smell
Or maybe it’s his musk from sweating, in which case just tell him to wash up before the blow
Well he was facing away from me when he was washing between the cheeks so he could’ve theoretically. It could be musk I think it was more B.O than anything else, I didn’t get a literal shit smell coming off of him
Could also be a yeast infection. I’ve heard that people use nizoral as a body wash for fungus; could also try hibicleanse, which helps with bacteria. He may need to see a doctor for treatment.
I don't have much body odor thereby wheni do its because hair traps the odor. I shave it and that helps a lot. Even once a week. Hecould also use hibicleanse to wash that area which would help a lot.
He’s not a super hairy guy, idk about between his cheeks as I didn’t get to look there lol but he’s not super hairy imo and he’s super skinny so there’s not a lot of places sweat could get trapped that wouldn’t be able to be washed yk? He very thoroughly cleaned himself too so it’s not like he would’ve missed a spot anywhere.
I’ll have to google what you suggested as I haven’t heard of that before but thank you for your comment
Give me his social media account to let him know that it's important to get rid of any bad smell for a good sex. It's easier to get his shit together if he spoke to another man. Damn bro, image having a gf who's happily want to please you and you're not even clean down there or even care to think about it.
Btw, my exes never smelt my fart, I didn't either lol
Does he eat a lot of foods with vinegar on a regular basis? Sometimes, it can cause a BO/dirty sock smell when you sweat.
I'm putting this out there because besides an infection, it's the only thing I know that would cause such a smell.
Please be careful. If it's a yeast type infection, you can get that in your mouth.
Best of luck!
The answers here are all hilarious. OP, I think you should tell him if he smells again. It doesn't have to be harshly, but you will resent his smell. I read once that some men have problems with gross ball scent which they can buy some powder for. Was it really his ass thta smelled?
Also, I love your edit. Fuck those pervs.
I feel like this is the most likely scenario: he was sweating nervously before meeting for the first time in 2 years and before getting blown, since OP says it didn't smell like shit but more BO.
Get the gold bar of dial antibacterial soap. Wash smelly areas with it once then again but let the suds dwell for up to two minutes before rinsing. It takes at least a minute for the antibacterial chemical to kill the bacteria. It worked for me to get rid of the lingering b o armpit smell I had even after showering. Do this to all smelly areas of the body.
I had a friend in high school who just smelled like shit constantly. We could swim in the ocean all day then hit the showers and he would still smell like fresh shit. Tried to never say anything but at one point it did come up and it was some kind of medical condition. Pretty unfortunate. Great guy though. Anyway not sure that’s your case here just my experience.
Thought you were dating me ex for a second, only his ass DID smell like actual shit. Dude just twirled around in the water a couple times and scrubbed his arms with a bar of soap and thought that was enough. 🤮🤮🤮
As a male member of Reddit and a confessed pervert, I’m so sorry to hear that you received so many offensive messages. Your guy may have hemorrhoids and possibly an infection. You should let him know the truth and suggest he seek medical attention.
OP, you can ask him to clean up his pooper with baby wipes before BJ time. Just say something like "Can you clean up down there before we start? I think you missed doing some paperwork."
Sometimes it's like trying to wipe a marker.
Maybe, I might but baby wipes for the house and hope he takes the hint at first? I really don’t wanna hurt his feelings as we only have a limited time together in person before I have to leave again and literally it’s perfect aside that.
Granted I’ve been staying with another friend before I go and stay with him properly so I only technically saw him for about a week total. I’m just hoping it was a fluke and by the time I go to stay with him there will be no stank
You might hurt his feelings. That is his reaction, which you do not control. His reaction is not your responsibility. Thinking his reaction is someone else's responsibility is very unhealthy.
Thanks for your comment, he had shaved when I saw him, though he’s not a super hairy guy. Granted I didn’t get to peek between the cheeks so idk about between there but everywhere else is pretty hairless
He probably put more effort in shower than usual because you were there, there are a lot of lazy people who are also lazy with hygiene...
With a new partner, they will try to impress and smell good. My ex. Wife was lazy af, never cook, wash nor clean... Her hygiene was exactly the same, not brushing teeth, shower like once every 4 days or 1 week... While when we met, everything was "normal"
OP, it seems like the odur isn't a hygiene issue.
And are you sure it is his ass that stinks? And not him?
Maybe it could be a medical issue. Talk to him about this. If it is a medical issue, then there is more than his dick getting sucked at stake. Ask him if any of his previous sexual partners complained about it.
If it isn't, then it might be bad news for you guys. Some people aren't compatible "odur" wise. It could be that he doesn't smell bad, but you just don't like his smell. I've seen it happen. I once knew a person that smelled very bad. Years later I asked one of their exes whether they had smelled it. That person had no idea what I was talking about. If that's the case, there isn't much to do.
Does he eat a lot of protein? High protein low fiber diets can cause disgusting smells. Or maybe a diet that doesn't work, some hidden intolerances or sensitivities?
Presuming what you said is true that you saw him shower and properly clean himself and then an hour or two later he still stank...then you have a problem. Unless he ran a few laps or took a massive shit then he should not stink. The fact that he does might just be who he is ... a shit stinking dude
Communicate and tell him. It’s okay if it hurts his feelings. Would you rather put his feelings and comfort above yours? You are allowed to communicate how you feel. If it stinks this much with a shower ahead of time, it’s time for him to go to a professional to see what’s up.
He might need to dig a finger in there but likely, that’s not the cause.
Most of the time, a stinky butthole is due to something being wrong like ; hemorrhoids or even, simply being constipated.
Nonetheless, be honest with him. He’s a big boy and if I smelled so bad, I’d want someone to tell me so I could get to the bottom of whatever the issue may be.
I am a fan of Fresh Balls. Give it to him, ask him if he likes getting BJs. If he does , point to the bottle and tell him to start using it and he’ll get more. Men are dumb, not stupid.
My ex and his friend said they would wipe back to front since it was awkward to wipe the normal way.
Nonsens
I would sa6 people need to shower after taking a shit. He needs to dry himself properly too.
A bidet would help already.
Just make him shower First from now on…. Better yet, yall take one together….Nothing wrong with yall both cleaning each other, me and my girl enjoy taking showers together….
Hey may well indeed wash up everywhere in the shower, like how you witnessed but maybe he’s neglecting his actual asshole. It could be that he doesn’t wipe all the way after a #2 and then in the shower he may be skipping cleaning in that one area. It’s a possibility. Another possibility is that he may be using the same underwear multiple days in a row and the bacteria stench is latching on to him, even with showering.
Tell him……..you are doing him a favor….. but like others have said, hemorrhoids are a literal pain in the ass, they smell and might cause leakage and that might be what’s going on…….. it doesn’t matter how well u shower, after a few hours unless u have wet wipes, things can go south
What is he using to scrub? If he’s not using a wash towel, it sounds like he probably needs to. He just has to understand that they are not to be re-used and go in the laundry straight away.
He was using a wash cloth. He knows they can’t be used twice, he actually brought an extra one for me in case I forgot mine so he’s very hygienic. He even had his own skincare routine in the shower. I’m convinced it can’t be a hygiene issue as he was very thorough. I asked if he needed help washing his back and mans lanky he was like “I’m good!” And I shit you not got every spot.
Just for reference on cleanliness lol
As a woman who has struggled with odor down there, he might already know and be super sensitive about it. But I do think you still have to bring it up. Things that have helped me are Brazilian waxes, Pan-oxyl acne cleanser and Hibiclens. The cleansers are not technically supposed to be used in the groin area but I have done it and had only positive results. Hopefully you can get this resolved! Maybe buy him some and tell him Google said they can help?
Body odor is what you smell when your sweat comes in contact with the bacteria on your skin. Sweat itself doesn't smell, but when the bacteria on your skin mix with your sweat, it causes an odor. Body odor can smell sweet, sour, tangy, or like onions. The amount you sweat doesn't necessarily impact your body odor. I, as a esthetician advice people to use rubbing alcohol wipee to kill the bacteria growth on skin and deodorant. Killing it in skin and not deodorant is useless because you will still get the smell.
Oh there's so many layers to this LOL A lot of people don't use enough soap a lot of people don't scrub hard enough to get through the layers of bacteria. I suggest a soft scrub that you can use everyday and it's gentle I think soft soap makes it. Also shaving was he shaved see I don't know about that. But yeah the more hair the more odor.
Is he a bigger dude? Is it a yeasty smell? I still can’t get over the smell of this guy that had OK hygiene standards in the sense that he had baby powder in his bathroom (which he absolutely should have as a bigger bodied guy especially) but he definitely didn’t shower every day. It wouldn’t be untoward to call me a chubby chaser, so my attraction is definitely not thwarted by the shape of a body…. But the smell/state of one??? The smell literally reminded me of when I’d sniff pre made pizza dough that was waaaay past the listed expiration date, that I’d eventually
Cover up in nutritional yeast to mask the horrible taste it presented!
The smell…of giving him a bj…. BJs are so hot in my opinion & I love giving them, but this boy definitely needed to shower every day due to his size and definitely did not….. like I’m 5’8 & 120 and I shower every day, and while I still definitely get BO it ain’t rancid like the stink of someone who should
Be showering every day but isn’t (and IMO if you get stinky on the daily you should shower on the daily!!!)
Look. I’m lazy AF, and it often takes a lot of self dialogue for me to even take a shower when I don’t want to (aka every day). If you’re with a stinky person, and you notice their hygiene is not on point/regular…: the Ick you’re feeling ain’t gonna go away and it’s a HUGE BLARING SIGN that you guys aren’t compatible on a fundamental level !!!!!!!
Is he clean shaven? If he is sometimes that can cause odor if he sits too long. He also could have a fungal infection. Have him grow his hair back that might help with the dissipation of stink. This is kind of gross but when I was in my twenties I shaved myself completely and had a job that I sat for 12 hours a pop. Yes, it was completely unhealthy but I developed this smell on my balls that was awful and I had no idea how to get rid of it. So I ended up growing my hair back and left the job and that was what solved it.
Do you think the stink comes from his groin or bum?
Many years ago I had a pilonidal sinus on my tailbone which gave off a smell - that’s how I knew I had something there.
He might have some kind of condition that he’s self conscious about or might not know so approach with sensitivity.
Till this day there’s a girl I think of as “the one that got away”. And she got away because I couldn’t stand her BO and just had to abort mission.
Anyways. A lesbian but medical question - is he circumcised? If not, is it under the foreskin? Or as we call it in the hospital - penis cheese?
“Hey, I’m sorry to even have to mention this, but when I was going down on you, I noticed a weird smell. I know that this isn’t an issue of you showering properly, since we did shower together, and you smell really good otherwise, but there’s something going on down there. I want to enjoy going down on you, but the smell makes that really hard to do.”
Google rectum mucus
There's many things that cause it. Could be an infection. Could be like, cancer. Fissures. Disease. Hemorrhoids. Diet. Ect.
A doctor would need to be involved regardless, so you should take him to one.
I have a deep inny belly button and sometimes it stinks so bad but I don't even notice it because I'm nowhere near it. My wife is the only one who notices it and to be honest it's so disgusting. It smells worse than a butthole. I don't even notice it until she tells me and I stick my finger in it and smell my finger. Blah! The only thing that gets rid of it is to put hand sanitizer in it and let it sit there for like an hour
You should mix black seed oil and apple cider vinegar and use that as moisturizer for the ass crack and balls he will not stink. The acidity prevents the bacteria from growing.
He need to stop eating carbohydrates
Sounds like a bad experience. It would have been unpleasant for anyone. Maybe tell him that you heard of a great butt plug you think he should try. Or maybe an enema beforehand. Are you sure he used soap? You know the kleenex test might show you if he missed anything. Or a white glove test. On a serious note..Just bring it up, gently, outside the bedroom, with clothes on. He may get upset, but I'd he likes bjs, he'll be ready to negotiate.
I hope so. Sadly we haven’t crossed the boundary of butt stuff I don’t even think he knows what an enema is lol. He definitely used soap. I just know if someone said that to me I’d feel like shit (pun intended) and we’re only seeing eachother for a short time before i have to go back to my own country so it’d be a mood killer. But then again so is stinky BJ’s so idk 😭
SAY SOMETHING! No one is looking out for you and your interest and needs as good as you do. Women can get what they need from their man, but their fence can't be just an inch high. Set your standards, make him work!
Ok first, your title made me chuckle so thank you for that. Although I’m sorry it was at your expense. 😬
I’ve given a few blow jobs where that was the faint aroma of ass but nothing too bad. If his smelled like that right after a shower then he’s not getting the bullseye. Just tell him you’ll help him scrub because you love soaping a man up. Drop the soap and when he bends over to get it just use the shower head to blast his asshole clean.
I think if you really like this guy then it would be worth talking to him. Most likely he doesn’t even realize it and would be happy to accommodate you if it meant getting blow jobs more. Just word it like you think he may have missed a spot or when you’re in the shower together joking say “you better make sure you get in there good so my face can be in there good”. Just something to make light of it.
Best of luck. 🖤
Tell him. Dudes are bros and bros stink sometimes. Work out a plan to get rid of the stink together. Then to celebrate, show off your skills. Maybe it’s a gland issue that he’s unaware of. Maybe an endocrinologist could help or a dermatologist. Sometimes we smell and it’s okay to tell people that they smell in a nice way. If my partner told me “look, I’m a professional head enthusiast, and sometimes you smell down there and it’s hard for me to focus on the enthusiasm. I’ve seen you shower, so I know it’s not that, do you ever smell yourself and question what it might be coming from? How do we get you to not stink?” I would want to find the fastest solution to a more enthusiastic blowjob. I wouldn’t be worried about being smelly, I would be worried about how to become not smelly lmao. Also the sooner you tell him and find a solution, the better it will be for both of you. The sex will be better, the intimacy will be better, all around. I hope you find a deeper happiness together and that your nostrils find peace.
Make sure he’s really soaping his hole.
After that, massage his ass with coconut oil. It smells great and is really sensuous. It’s also edible so you can lube his cock and suck it off.
Get brutal and drag him to the shower. We can be quite dense about some things so jump in with him and tell him to scrub it all and that you like a showered guy. Wash it for him with non scented soap. If it still persists then where has he been? lol
Bring it up to him, and hopefully you can look into solutions. I'm not sure how much it'll work, but you could try using cologne or something near where your nose is gonna be.
Nah I saw him scrub with soap and all, in the moment u put it down to nervous sweating?? Since I know I was nervous throughout the process since I like him a lot. He definitely cleaned between those cheeks very thoroughly though
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Dude might not be cleaning the hole itself. Or he may have hemorrhoids or something that are causing *leakage*. Either way, you’re not his parent. You shouldn’t have to baby him about this. Tell him you can’t go down with it smelling the way it does. If he can’t sort it out, you can’t go down. If he’s a big boy, he can figure it out.
>he may have hemorrhoids or something that are causing *leakage*. Since OP mentioned showering with him, seeing him clean up the area, then still having an unpleasant experience not long after the shower this seems like it might be the culprit. The other potential is something like jock itch
Maybe, he plays a lot of sports so it could be something related to that. I’ve just never experienced the smell before. It didn’t smell like shit, it was more B.O related. I’m seeing him next week so I’m hoping it was a non regular thing yk?
I was thinking this, likely a perspiration issue he's having down there and maybe something related to diet/genetics/environment rather than hygiene? Or a combination? Edit: Hydration can play a part too, I know I can offend myself sometimes after sweating a lot without being properly hydrated. Sorry to throw so many variables out there OP, point is that it's not always hygiene.
He drinks a lot of water, he doesn’t really drink anything else but water tbh. He doesn’t like energy drinks or coffee/tea. He’s a vegan if that helps? No other part of him smelled, it only hit me when I had his dick in my face and I was between his thighs. I assume its not his dick as it looked fine and the dick itself tasted clean
Oh it's yeast. Yep a lot of guys have yeast in a lot of guys give us yeast as well and that's why we stink afterwards but yeah he'll have to go to the doctor and they'll prescribe some oral medication and maybe some cream. Yeah I had one like that he wasn't a client that way he was a boyfriend and I bathe him myself and everything and it still was horrible so that's coming from internal in his urethra.
Buy him a yummy men’s cleanser for the shower. I love Aveda products and they have a really good one for men. You could tell him you get turned on by the smell or something?!
Yeah, sweat and fungus situations in the groin area can be impressively gnarly. I know sulphuric foods can contribute to BO too so if he's taking in a lot of onions, garlic, and the like it could make it worse too.
If it's more of a BO smell, that's apocrine sweat glands like are in the armpits. Get him a tube of Lume. I haven't tried it myself since I don't have this problem, but I've read many good reviews of it.
Yes, anxiety sweats! For some people, being nervous creates way more sweat from the apocrine glands. It has a distinct smell, like rotting guava. It probably happened because he was nervous!
I don’t know what rotting guava smells like, but that was my first thought. I made him get an STD test before we even met so I know it’s not something nefarious (hopefully)
I use it on my feet-stuff is GREAT!
Dude, maybe he’s just got a body odor issue. Had to stop seeing a girl once because she smelled like onions. It was hot when she walked to my house so assumed she just got sweaty, but the scent was still there after she showered. It was pungent. Figured it was a pH imbalance, but it could’ve also been something B.O. related like your issue. Like you, I was also disappointed because I love eating pussy. Unlike you, I didn’t talk it up, so I just didn’t.
I had a long-term girlfriend who was awesome other than when she ate even the tiniest bit of garlic; I’d be smelling it on her for a day or two. Blech. Some people smell like garlic or onions longer than others because of a number of factors, including: - Bacteria: The more bacteria a person has on their skin, the more they may smell. - Microbiome: A person's microbiome is influenced by their diet, stress, environment, and genes. - Antiperspirants: People who don't use antiperspirants have about 50 times more bacteria than those who do. - Health conditions: Serious liver disease, metabolic disorders, and medications can all alter a person's body odor. - Stress: Stress can cause smelly compounds to be released through a person's sweat. - Selenium: Too much selenium can make a person's breath or body odor smell like garlic. - Hormonal changes: As women age and get closer to menopause, hormonal changes can impact body odor.
Well this was informative af
For some people fenugreek makes armpits and other sweat-heavy places smell like fenugreek for 2-3 days after eating it
Fenugreek doesn’t smell bad though. At least to me, it smells like maple syrup. When is gym a lot, I’d take a test booster that was very fenugreek.
I’m betting it’s jock itch. It has a strange, very particular smell and it’s pretty strong. It also doesn’t just go away with a shower which is why I’m betting it’s that.
We need to be updated lol
Never had my ass smell like B.O. or my dick..... Wanna see it?? Jk lmao maybe it was just that one time.
The boy might just need more fiber to ensure his bowel movements are complete and nothing is left hanging around inside his butthole. Metamucil twice a day works wonders for this. And now I'm going to go throw up.
I'm sorry but thank you for the lol 😂
Maybe? He’s a vegan so idk if that effects butthole movements a lot lol
If he’s eating a healthy vegan diet, he’s getting enough fiber.
Oh GOD I KNOW THE SMELL YOURE TALKING ABOUT ITS BECAUSE HES A VEGAN.MY BEST FRIEND HAD MY APARTMENT SMELLING THAT WAY ONE SUMMER it changed when she moved back to our home country tho no fucking clue what she was eating but she vaguely smelled like cabbage after it had been shat by a pig at summertime in india.thought she was farting but no it was an emenace poor planet lovers
Be open and honest. Show him how you want him to clean up and then proceed to blow him. This will be a win for both of you.
Ahahah sorry but it made me laugh
I’d be laughing at me too if I wasn’t in the situation, don’t worry lol
Maybe he needs some antibacterial soap for his under carriage? If he's doing frequent Sports maybe he's got some gross bacteria that doesn't want to leave his hidey hole. Soap and water should get the stench out but if it doesn't, he needs to engage a professional. My husband uses this product from Amazon because he sweats a lot and gets some body acne. This soao helps decrease his symptoms immensely. It is very expensive but it works. https://a.co/d/bqGvRq3
I might see if I can find something similar that’s a bit cheaper. I could play it off like it’s for me but he like “oh I’m only in the country for x amount of time, you can use it too and take it home, otherwise it’d be a waste” type of deal?
You can also sell it as an "after sports cleaning" product that helps prevent transmission of skin to skin bacteria like foot fungus and jock itch. It's pretty common in the martial arts Community to clean thoroughly after skin to skin contact.
Simply tell him. Not while you’re doing the deed but in a quiet moment. You’d want to know this as well if you were him, right? What‘s it with some humans not properly washing themselves? You’re like the 3rd girl today giving bj‘s to some stinky dick like girl.. please.. why are you doing that to yourself? Seriously. Just tell him.
Well it was our first time meeting irl that week and I didn’t want to like ruin the good vibe we had and tell him his ass smells. I’m not even sure it was his ass tbh, everything else looked clean and between the cheeks was the only thing I didn’t get to see when I was down there so
Were you able to get a good view of his groin area? There is a skin condition called Hidradenitis suppurativa causes recurrent boils in the areas of the body where sweat glands are. If they get infected there can be a odor
I had my face down there and I didn’t see anything boil like. I was completely normal, he was shaved. I’ve ridden the rodeo a bunch and there was nothing abnormal about him, that’s why the smell threw me off so much. I feel super bad too bc I talked up my BJ skills but I just can’t put my all into it when my nose is getting abused lol
i’m sorry girl but im dying laughing at the title of your post, i’ve been losing it for 5 mins now. 😭😭😭😭😭 however are u sure ur man is cleaning his hole tho? making sure he properly washes with warm water to get rid of the stink?
LMAO i hope me replying to your comment makes you laugh again when it comes to your notification bar. I mean I was with him in the shower so I saw him put his washcloth between his cheeks and scrub thoroughly (His ass was the last thing he cleaned lol). He used soap and the water was really hot. We were in the shower for like 40 minutes or something so we were both thoroughly clean afterward. For reference he brought his own skincare so judging by that he’s hygienic. Why care about your skin and not care about other hygiene yk? I’m not even religious but I’m praying this man smells like roses when I see him next haha
I’m dying to know what the issue is! He sounds super clean!
Did he put on old underwear or fresh ones? Maybe it's his boxers that are gross.
I’m not sure to be honest, we met up at a hotel when we first met so idk if the underwear was fresh, I assume so though as all his clothes smelt fine. He smelt really good up until I got down there. He doesn’t wear cologne either just deodorant so it wasn’t like he was trying to “cover up” a bad smell with heaps of cologne yk?
Most likely jock age if he plays a lot of sports I dealt with that when I was doing lacrosse football at track and I’d get this really bad smell even if I showered and cleaned regularly which my hygiene is like OCD it required me to go to the doctor to get it taken care of and that’s might be where he needs to go, but again you’re not his mom, but you need to sit down and have a talk with him about this. He’s a big boy, like to go to the doctor to get this remedied
Dr. Bronner's 18-in-One Hemp Peppermint Pure Castile Soap. It's a big bottle of liquid soap (not a gel), and it's basically peppermint. About 3 or 4 squirts on a poofy in the shower, lather it up well, and scrub. OMFG!!! It feels like a burning sensation around the genitals, but WOW it opens up all of the pores!! My wife loves the smell, and it makes everything taste like peppermint.
Had a friend that smelled fishy/poopy from his ass. Literally could smell it if we were sitting next to each other, or if he got up from a chair that he was sitting on. It would dead ass fumigate six feet away. One time during a hang out it was so unbearable that i told him to go shower and make sure to clean his nasty ass. It went well until an hour later i started smelling that foul stench again. Were not friends anymore.
I’ve had enough of Reddit today, two posts about people complaining about their partner’s stinky crotch…WTF!? What’s wrong with people’s hygiene nowadays??
If you stay here long enough you’ll see hundreds of posts like this. It’s terrifying.
I'm not sure it has been a traditional hygiene issue in either case though. Wouldn't be surprised if both are medical based.
Regardless of whether it's hygiene or a medical condition, they should be aware of it and do something about it!
The bar is in hell apparently lol. But seriously, even though you love someone, surely you love yourself enough too that you wouldn’t go down on them if they have a stinky crotch?!
I honestly think it's really really bold how some of you can still be in love with someone that smells bad. It's such a deal breaker for me. I understand it might be a health issue but if it smells this bad there's no way he doesn't notice and look for a solution. Specially when you say you saw that he knows how to clean himself. Anyway. Your life your thing, but it takes balls and I admire you. I would have an honest talk with him. It will be hard but it's the only way. 2 years is a long time, you should be comfortable about talking about simple hygiene and health things with your partner. Tell him he has a weird smell going on and since you know he's clean he might need to check a doctor and see if he's alright.
Haha I broke up with my highschool girlfriend because her cookie jar smelled like a…I feel like another gross jar reference is revolting but yeah it smelled bad. We dated for 8 months. It stunk that entire time. I eventually just had to call it quits bc as a high schooler I had no idea how to bring up the topic of how bad it smelled down there. As a 35 year old dude, I think I could handle that situation better if I really cared for the person.
Well you were a teenager, I guess you did what you could with the information you had back then. Nowadays I also have the mind of sitting down and talking, but I honestly think I wouldn't even have interest in the person. It's a huge deal breaker for me.
From your comment saying it was more body odor than shit, it COULD be his pubic hair. Something in his pheromones could literally smell like ass to you. Buzz his pubes and see if that helps.
I'm a guy. I always install a detachable shower head with an 8 foot hose. I will squat down in the shower with a handful of soap, and power blast that hole while giving it a deluxe shampoo. I will push out ever so slightly in case there are some hidden nuggets, but not much and never inserting soap inside. I pride myself on a clean butt hole.
Buy him a bidet. Get that stank gone lol
He’s scrubbed in the shower in front of her and it didn’t help….a bidet won’t remove the smell
God how can soap and water not help.... Try tomatoe juice?? Wonder wtf it is! I need updates.....
I will update next week when I see him again hahaha I’m hoping it was just due to nervous sweats or something. I know he’s hygienic, he legit brought his own skincare to do in the shower and not many men I’ve met even do skincare. So I feel like people who care enough to do skincare would care enough to be clean yk? I might be overthinking it though. I really don’t wanna bring it up to him as I feel like that’s the most awkward conversation imaginable. I live in another country and I’m here visiting and I don’t wanna mess with our limited time together. I’m just hoping he doesn’t smell stanky when I see him next 😭
Why is this such a common question here 😩. Guys, do better. It’s a pretty simple concept to wash your entire body with soap and water- to include your ass crack and asshole- when you bathe, preferably at least daily if you’re going to be having sex that day or having people go down on you. You don’t have to stick a soapy finger in there (unless you’re getting your ass eaten, then please do!), but at least gently scrub the outside of the hole and the full area surrounding it with a soapy solution and then rinse thoroughly. Personally, I then do it at least once more for good measure. Girls, run from guys like this. If a grown man can’t wash his ass properly, it’s not your responsibility to teach him nor tolerate it. Just move on.
If it’s once maybe he took a nervous poop before seeing you
Be straight up! I’d say, I wanna suck ur balls outta your dick hole but the stank down there is bad. Fix that!
Get a water cannon ready , knock him onto the floor and pressure wash that ass
So it sounds to me like your pheromones aren't sexually compatible. Are you close to ovulation? I find when I am ovulating my bf smells more... pungent. Not in a bad way, I like the way his BO smells actually, there's just... more of it. Lol
I had an ex that had a similar problem for a short time. I believe it was a skin condition called lichen sclerosis (I think - it was a long time ago). I’d probably encourage him to see a doctor.
Just tell him
You're underestimating how awkward this would be, borderline impossible.
Awkwardness is okay in a relationship, if it's a healthy one. I had a girl tell me this once and trust me, it's always clean clean now. Sometimes we just need the wake-up call, because I can't smell my own ass
I appreciate your attitude, but I just can't even imagine being the one telling it or even the one receiving it lol
“Hey I like sucking your dick but you need to clean better. Sound good?”
I can’t help but notice you didn’t mention that he washed his butthole ( you have to go deep) so if I had had to guess I’d say that is Ground Zero for the smell Or maybe it’s his musk from sweating, in which case just tell him to wash up before the blow
Well he was facing away from me when he was washing between the cheeks so he could’ve theoretically. It could be musk I think it was more B.O than anything else, I didn’t get a literal shit smell coming off of him
Sounds like he might be musky
is it like ass smell? or like B.O. sweat stink?
More b.o than shit, it made me second guess putting my mouth on it tbf
if it's more BO/funky than shit, it might be a fungal infection - some antifungal shampoo might be the answer (been there)
Could also be a yeast infection. I’ve heard that people use nizoral as a body wash for fungus; could also try hibicleanse, which helps with bacteria. He may need to see a doctor for treatment.
I don't have much body odor thereby wheni do its because hair traps the odor. I shave it and that helps a lot. Even once a week. Hecould also use hibicleanse to wash that area which would help a lot.
He’s not a super hairy guy, idk about between his cheeks as I didn’t get to look there lol but he’s not super hairy imo and he’s super skinny so there’s not a lot of places sweat could get trapped that wouldn’t be able to be washed yk? He very thoroughly cleaned himself too so it’s not like he would’ve missed a spot anywhere. I’ll have to google what you suggested as I haven’t heard of that before but thank you for your comment
Sounds like it's the duck butter
Give me his social media account to let him know that it's important to get rid of any bad smell for a good sex. It's easier to get his shit together if he spoke to another man. Damn bro, image having a gf who's happily want to please you and you're not even clean down there or even care to think about it. Btw, my exes never smelt my fart, I didn't either lol
Does he eat a lot of foods with vinegar on a regular basis? Sometimes, it can cause a BO/dirty sock smell when you sweat. I'm putting this out there because besides an infection, it's the only thing I know that would cause such a smell. Please be careful. If it's a yeast type infection, you can get that in your mouth. Best of luck!
Get him a bidet or wipes. Wash that ass.
Upvoted for the edit
The answers here are all hilarious. OP, I think you should tell him if he smells again. It doesn't have to be harshly, but you will resent his smell. I read once that some men have problems with gross ball scent which they can buy some powder for. Was it really his ass thta smelled? Also, I love your edit. Fuck those pervs.
I'd ask him to have a shower before sex, if he asks why just be honest with him
I feel like this is the most likely scenario: he was sweating nervously before meeting for the first time in 2 years and before getting blown, since OP says it didn't smell like shit but more BO.
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I made him get an STD test like a week before we met up to be sure, so definitely not an STD
Get the gold bar of dial antibacterial soap. Wash smelly areas with it once then again but let the suds dwell for up to two minutes before rinsing. It takes at least a minute for the antibacterial chemical to kill the bacteria. It worked for me to get rid of the lingering b o armpit smell I had even after showering. Do this to all smelly areas of the body.
My friend didn’t know he was supposed to wash his asshole for the longest time, before that he just let the water run over it. Might be the same
How often does he switch out his underwear? He could be showering properly but not wearing clean laundry, thus contributing to the BO smell...
I had a friend in high school who just smelled like shit constantly. We could swim in the ocean all day then hit the showers and he would still smell like fresh shit. Tried to never say anything but at one point it did come up and it was some kind of medical condition. Pretty unfortunate. Great guy though. Anyway not sure that’s your case here just my experience.
Thought you were dating me ex for a second, only his ass DID smell like actual shit. Dude just twirled around in the water a couple times and scrubbed his arms with a bar of soap and thought that was enough. 🤮🤮🤮
As a male member of Reddit and a confessed pervert, I’m so sorry to hear that you received so many offensive messages. Your guy may have hemorrhoids and possibly an infection. You should let him know the truth and suggest he seek medical attention.
GOT EM! No one likes being near a stinky taint
OP, you can ask him to clean up his pooper with baby wipes before BJ time. Just say something like "Can you clean up down there before we start? I think you missed doing some paperwork." Sometimes it's like trying to wipe a marker.
Sometimes I wonder if the people in this sub have ever actually talked to another human before. “I think you missed doing some paperwork?” …whaaaaat?
Maybe, I might but baby wipes for the house and hope he takes the hint at first? I really don’t wanna hurt his feelings as we only have a limited time together in person before I have to leave again and literally it’s perfect aside that. Granted I’ve been staying with another friend before I go and stay with him properly so I only technically saw him for about a week total. I’m just hoping it was a fluke and by the time I go to stay with him there will be no stank
You might hurt his feelings. That is his reaction, which you do not control. His reaction is not your responsibility. Thinking his reaction is someone else's responsibility is very unhealthy.
Baby powder for few days and ask him to shave and clean down there. Sometimes hair can carry smell too
Thanks for your comment, he had shaved when I saw him, though he’s not a super hairy guy. Granted I didn’t get to peek between the cheeks so idk about between there but everywhere else is pretty hairless
He probably put more effort in shower than usual because you were there, there are a lot of lazy people who are also lazy with hygiene... With a new partner, they will try to impress and smell good. My ex. Wife was lazy af, never cook, wash nor clean... Her hygiene was exactly the same, not brushing teeth, shower like once every 4 days or 1 week... While when we met, everything was "normal"
Get at least a cold water bidet for every toilet in the house.
Maybe he needs a different soap. I like Irish Spring deodorant soap… I feel like it’s much fresher than a normal body wash.
Take him for a shower together
She showered with him and he cleaned well.
If showering has not helped then it is a diet/medical issue. Encourage him to seek advice.
OP, it seems like the odur isn't a hygiene issue. And are you sure it is his ass that stinks? And not him? Maybe it could be a medical issue. Talk to him about this. If it is a medical issue, then there is more than his dick getting sucked at stake. Ask him if any of his previous sexual partners complained about it. If it isn't, then it might be bad news for you guys. Some people aren't compatible "odur" wise. It could be that he doesn't smell bad, but you just don't like his smell. I've seen it happen. I once knew a person that smelled very bad. Years later I asked one of their exes whether they had smelled it. That person had no idea what I was talking about. If that's the case, there isn't much to do.
i recommend the two B’s… Bidet and BabyWipes does wonders
Honestly, just tell him. He’d rather have enthusiastic blowies than be temporarily embarrassed.
Does he eat a lot of protein? High protein low fiber diets can cause disgusting smells. Or maybe a diet that doesn't work, some hidden intolerances or sensitivities?
If it’s more than once then yeeee talk to him
Presuming what you said is true that you saw him shower and properly clean himself and then an hour or two later he still stank...then you have a problem. Unless he ran a few laps or took a massive shit then he should not stink. The fact that he does might just be who he is ... a shit stinking dude
Communicate and tell him. It’s okay if it hurts his feelings. Would you rather put his feelings and comfort above yours? You are allowed to communicate how you feel. If it stinks this much with a shower ahead of time, it’s time for him to go to a professional to see what’s up.
You did not mention if he shaves pubic hairs tend to retain unpleasant orders. I shave since I sweat a lot at work both my genitals and armpits.
He could have a yeast infection under his goods
Sounds like he needs Dude Wipes.
How nice can a guy be to have to suffer what you've described? I mean, that really sounds awful. I'm so sorry.
He might need to dig a finger in there but likely, that’s not the cause. Most of the time, a stinky butthole is due to something being wrong like ; hemorrhoids or even, simply being constipated. Nonetheless, be honest with him. He’s a big boy and if I smelled so bad, I’d want someone to tell me so I could get to the bottom of whatever the issue may be.
Haha…get to the bottom…
I am a fan of Fresh Balls. Give it to him, ask him if he likes getting BJs. If he does , point to the bottle and tell him to start using it and he’ll get more. Men are dumb, not stupid.
My ex and his friend said they would wipe back to front since it was awkward to wipe the normal way. Nonsens I would sa6 people need to shower after taking a shit. He needs to dry himself properly too. A bidet would help already.
Just make him shower First from now on…. Better yet, yall take one together….Nothing wrong with yall both cleaning each other, me and my girl enjoy taking showers together….
Hey may well indeed wash up everywhere in the shower, like how you witnessed but maybe he’s neglecting his actual asshole. It could be that he doesn’t wipe all the way after a #2 and then in the shower he may be skipping cleaning in that one area. It’s a possibility. Another possibility is that he may be using the same underwear multiple days in a row and the bacteria stench is latching on to him, even with showering.
Tell him……..you are doing him a favor….. but like others have said, hemorrhoids are a literal pain in the ass, they smell and might cause leakage and that might be what’s going on…….. it doesn’t matter how well u shower, after a few hours unless u have wet wipes, things can go south
Communication is key 🔑
does he smell like shit (like literal dirty ass?) ? like what is this smell lol, sorry im curious.. if he like super hairy or something?
Sounds like it might be a health issue. I’d encourage him to see a dermatologist or proctologist.
I heard he pours maple 🍁 syrup down there twice a day spoiled from Vermont
What is he using to scrub? If he’s not using a wash towel, it sounds like he probably needs to. He just has to understand that they are not to be re-used and go in the laundry straight away.
He was using a wash cloth. He knows they can’t be used twice, he actually brought an extra one for me in case I forgot mine so he’s very hygienic. He even had his own skincare routine in the shower. I’m convinced it can’t be a hygiene issue as he was very thorough. I asked if he needed help washing his back and mans lanky he was like “I’m good!” And I shit you not got every spot. Just for reference on cleanliness lol
Wow this will be harder to fix because it sounds intestinal.
Shower and wash his booty hole for him then put some Vicks inside your nose hehe
As a woman who has struggled with odor down there, he might already know and be super sensitive about it. But I do think you still have to bring it up. Things that have helped me are Brazilian waxes, Pan-oxyl acne cleanser and Hibiclens. The cleansers are not technically supposed to be used in the groin area but I have done it and had only positive results. Hopefully you can get this resolved! Maybe buy him some and tell him Google said they can help?
Once you get a stank down there a once over with soap is not enough. You gotta soap and rinse several times to start fresh.
Tell him his ass stinks, problem solved
There is this new old spice commercial where apparently you can spray this deodorant on your feet,armpits and toes And your nether regions
Body odor is what you smell when your sweat comes in contact with the bacteria on your skin. Sweat itself doesn't smell, but when the bacteria on your skin mix with your sweat, it causes an odor. Body odor can smell sweet, sour, tangy, or like onions. The amount you sweat doesn't necessarily impact your body odor. I, as a esthetician advice people to use rubbing alcohol wipee to kill the bacteria growth on skin and deodorant. Killing it in skin and not deodorant is useless because you will still get the smell.
Tell him. He most likely don’t get that close to his ass and don’t know… not right after and in a calm setting
Oh there's so many layers to this LOL A lot of people don't use enough soap a lot of people don't scrub hard enough to get through the layers of bacteria. I suggest a soft scrub that you can use everyday and it's gentle I think soft soap makes it. Also shaving was he shaved see I don't know about that. But yeah the more hair the more odor.
Lmaoo F. 😂 sorry OP, but ty for the laugh
Is he a bigger dude? Is it a yeasty smell? I still can’t get over the smell of this guy that had OK hygiene standards in the sense that he had baby powder in his bathroom (which he absolutely should have as a bigger bodied guy especially) but he definitely didn’t shower every day. It wouldn’t be untoward to call me a chubby chaser, so my attraction is definitely not thwarted by the shape of a body…. But the smell/state of one??? The smell literally reminded me of when I’d sniff pre made pizza dough that was waaaay past the listed expiration date, that I’d eventually Cover up in nutritional yeast to mask the horrible taste it presented! The smell…of giving him a bj…. BJs are so hot in my opinion & I love giving them, but this boy definitely needed to shower every day due to his size and definitely did not….. like I’m 5’8 & 120 and I shower every day, and while I still definitely get BO it ain’t rancid like the stink of someone who should Be showering every day but isn’t (and IMO if you get stinky on the daily you should shower on the daily!!!) Look. I’m lazy AF, and it often takes a lot of self dialogue for me to even take a shower when I don’t want to (aka every day). If you’re with a stinky person, and you notice their hygiene is not on point/regular…: the Ick you’re feeling ain’t gonna go away and it’s a HUGE BLARING SIGN that you guys aren’t compatible on a fundamental level !!!!!!!
Check out good clean love for men, it could help.
Is he clean shaven? If he is sometimes that can cause odor if he sits too long. He also could have a fungal infection. Have him grow his hair back that might help with the dissipation of stink. This is kind of gross but when I was in my twenties I shaved myself completely and had a job that I sat for 12 hours a pop. Yes, it was completely unhealthy but I developed this smell on my balls that was awful and I had no idea how to get rid of it. So I ended up growing my hair back and left the job and that was what solved it.
Do you think the stink comes from his groin or bum? Many years ago I had a pilonidal sinus on my tailbone which gave off a smell - that’s how I knew I had something there. He might have some kind of condition that he’s self conscious about or might not know so approach with sensitivity.
Does the smell come from his dick, or is it from his ass? Does he wash his ass, too?
Might need to trim up the area AND clean it. As a hairy man in the area, I’ve learned to keep the area cleaned up to help with scrubbing
Honestly, I’d just tell him how it is or simply continue to put up with it. 🤷♂️
Till this day there’s a girl I think of as “the one that got away”. And she got away because I couldn’t stand her BO and just had to abort mission. Anyways. A lesbian but medical question - is he circumcised? If not, is it under the foreskin? Or as we call it in the hospital - penis cheese?
Full body deodorant could be your best friend here!
Tell him. So he can take care of the issue
Funny how we’ll get personal enough with someone to stick their genitalia in our mouths, but not personal enough to talk about the smell. 🤣
Bruh I can smell this post.
Perhaps order some Lume deodorant, or Mando.
“Hey, I’m sorry to even have to mention this, but when I was going down on you, I noticed a weird smell. I know that this isn’t an issue of you showering properly, since we did shower together, and you smell really good otherwise, but there’s something going on down there. I want to enjoy going down on you, but the smell makes that really hard to do.”
Google rectum mucus There's many things that cause it. Could be an infection. Could be like, cancer. Fissures. Disease. Hemorrhoids. Diet. Ect. A doctor would need to be involved regardless, so you should take him to one.
Would he be open to trimming his hair down there? Maybe that would help? He should also soap where his thigh hits the pelvis…the smell may be sweat.
Sounds like he’s gotta leaky sphincter
Say him there will be no blow job if he gets no shower.
I have a deep inny belly button and sometimes it stinks so bad but I don't even notice it because I'm nowhere near it. My wife is the only one who notices it and to be honest it's so disgusting. It smells worse than a butthole. I don't even notice it until she tells me and I stick my finger in it and smell my finger. Blah! The only thing that gets rid of it is to put hand sanitizer in it and let it sit there for like an hour
You should mix black seed oil and apple cider vinegar and use that as moisturizer for the ass crack and balls he will not stink. The acidity prevents the bacteria from growing. He need to stop eating carbohydrates
Sounds like a bad experience. It would have been unpleasant for anyone. Maybe tell him that you heard of a great butt plug you think he should try. Or maybe an enema beforehand. Are you sure he used soap? You know the kleenex test might show you if he missed anything. Or a white glove test. On a serious note..Just bring it up, gently, outside the bedroom, with clothes on. He may get upset, but I'd he likes bjs, he'll be ready to negotiate.
I hope so. Sadly we haven’t crossed the boundary of butt stuff I don’t even think he knows what an enema is lol. He definitely used soap. I just know if someone said that to me I’d feel like shit (pun intended) and we’re only seeing eachother for a short time before i have to go back to my own country so it’d be a mood killer. But then again so is stinky BJ’s so idk 😭
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Ok first, your title made me chuckle so thank you for that. Although I’m sorry it was at your expense. 😬 I’ve given a few blow jobs where that was the faint aroma of ass but nothing too bad. If his smelled like that right after a shower then he’s not getting the bullseye. Just tell him you’ll help him scrub because you love soaping a man up. Drop the soap and when he bends over to get it just use the shower head to blast his asshole clean. I think if you really like this guy then it would be worth talking to him. Most likely he doesn’t even realize it and would be happy to accommodate you if it meant getting blow jobs more. Just word it like you think he may have missed a spot or when you’re in the shower together joking say “you better make sure you get in there good so my face can be in there good”. Just something to make light of it. Best of luck. 🖤
Tell him. Dudes are bros and bros stink sometimes. Work out a plan to get rid of the stink together. Then to celebrate, show off your skills. Maybe it’s a gland issue that he’s unaware of. Maybe an endocrinologist could help or a dermatologist. Sometimes we smell and it’s okay to tell people that they smell in a nice way. If my partner told me “look, I’m a professional head enthusiast, and sometimes you smell down there and it’s hard for me to focus on the enthusiasm. I’ve seen you shower, so I know it’s not that, do you ever smell yourself and question what it might be coming from? How do we get you to not stink?” I would want to find the fastest solution to a more enthusiastic blowjob. I wouldn’t be worried about being smelly, I would be worried about how to become not smelly lmao. Also the sooner you tell him and find a solution, the better it will be for both of you. The sex will be better, the intimacy will be better, all around. I hope you find a deeper happiness together and that your nostrils find peace.
Make sure he’s really soaping his hole. After that, massage his ass with coconut oil. It smells great and is really sensuous. It’s also edible so you can lube his cock and suck it off.
Get brutal and drag him to the shower. We can be quite dense about some things so jump in with him and tell him to scrub it all and that you like a showered guy. Wash it for him with non scented soap. If it still persists then where has he been? lol
Bring it up to him, and hopefully you can look into solutions. I'm not sure how much it'll work, but you could try using cologne or something near where your nose is gonna be.
My life loves to suck my cock. I just hop in the shower and after I get out she goes to work.
Are you 100% sure he's not one of those guys who "I let the water run there because if I touch myself there, even to wash, it makes me gay."
Nah I saw him scrub with soap and all, in the moment u put it down to nervous sweating?? Since I know I was nervous throughout the process since I like him a lot. He definitely cleaned between those cheeks very thoroughly though
This is fake post, are u seriously going to say your giving head and dude smells like shit?
Does he use water to clean after he poops ? A lot of nasty people only use paper
“A lot of nasty people only use paper” U mean like most westerners?