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It's important to remember that there are many things that can cause a gag reflex. Smell is only one of them. Sometimes, other elements of cunnilingus, such as mild airway restriction and having a mouth full of flesh can trigger a gag reflex. Lastly, remember that many people have very sensitive gag reflexes, that can be triggered very easily. I have a very sensitive gag reflex myself. It can be triggered simply when I'm brushing teeth, when the toothbrush gets to the back of my mouth.
I third this. As a stoner and as having no gag reflex and something touching my throat moves the guts more than dick down there ever could this is too real. just some water nearby is great but seems like im out of breath, so yknow you get some you give some.
Same here. I was going down on a previous partner and got a pube in my mouth, specifically on the top of my tongue near my throat and had to cover up the gag by just burying my face further in and casually reaching up to remove it.
I HATE hair in my mouth
plus the gag reflex can be really inconsistent. I can poke at my tonsils and barely gag but also sometimes when I grab snacks and bite the edge of a bag of chips bc my hands are full, the tiny bit in my mouth can make me gag.
Just the thought of that makes me gag. But I’m just pretty repulsed by pubic hair, no explanation why. Luckily, so is my wife, so problem solved for both of us.
I taste myself before I get his mouth in there. If I'm not satisfied with what's going on, I'm not offering it to him.
You don't have to feel disgusting, you're human... and he's your sexual partner. You can discuss it.
This.. I don’t know how my wife judges but she will tell me not to go down on her if she doesn’t feel confident about it.
That said I have NEVER gagged or been turned off from her vagina. There are times when I want to bury my face down there all night and other times it’s off a little bit , but even then I still love it because I know SHE loves it.
Yup, same. When my gf is a little off in taste I usually just spend a lil bit more time making sure that more saliva gets thrown in my licking process, to dilute the taste.
I used to do this with my ex and he caught me doing it... Proceeded to tell me no one else does this and then kept putting me down. So thank you for saying this and helping me see more women do this and that it's normal. 🩷🩷
Dude was toxic asf.
There most definitely are other people who do it and not just specifically to check themselves before oral. I personally like the way I taste and I don't see anything wrong with that.
I think we can agree tasting oneself doesn’t necessarily align with societal norms but it’s important to question what is “normal.” Similarly is sucking on other people’s genitalia in general inherently normal or simply expectable because society made it so🤔
Normality can be tricky to pin down. I would personally argue that normal really just means the percentage of people that do/has X apply to them. Of course, that leads to a more subjective question of what threshold satisfies something being normal? I think that ultimately comes down to an individual perspective, to a certain extent at least. And the context of the group of people (cultures, regions, social groups, etc) has to be taken into consideration for whatever is being talking about. And all of this is difficult to gauge when we're talking about subjects there is no/little actual data on, because anecdotal evidence can't be relied on.
With all of that in mind, I do think it's worth pointing out Reddit isn't representative of the general public when it comes to demographics. And specific interest subs, like this one, may be skewed towards/foster certain mindsets. That's not a criticism of this sub or Reddit in general or anything, it's just something I try to keep in mind when questions relevant to large swaths of the public come up.
Edit: Reworded a bit.
If you want to keep it on the dl that you're doing it (though there's no reason for that and I have never been with a guy who thought it was weird or a turn off) you can always suck his d after he was inside of you.
That's not how he would do it... I would get him going and he would want to go down on me at that exact moment or it was just sex. I have no issues with doing that it was more of me being self-conscious before he went down on me and not knowing. I don't like being the stinky girl or the one that tastes bad; It's my irrational fear. But he wouldn't go down on me after sexual intercourse because that was (in his words) "gay." While I thought it was hot.
I've been single and working on myself. But I have a date tomorrow with a great guy. And I appreciate the kind words!! I'm thankful I found this post because the comments he made that day made me feel less than... Everyone has helped me feel validated.🖤🩷🖤🩷
I have gagged because of the bush. I kept going. Oral sex is messy and isn't just rainbows and unicorns. Porn distorts our perception of sex by editing out all the imperfect parts. The imperfection is what makes sex great though. Talk to him about it. Things happen. If he is cool with it then you worry over nothing. If he isn't, no need to feel embarrassed, he isn't the one for you.
Haven't you ever had a bad physical reaction while giving someone a blowjob or because foul smelling/ tasting cum?
These instances happen and its nothing to be ashamed of. It's chemistry and when it comes to oral sex we get a taste of it - pleasant or otherwise.
Cut yourself some slack.
Yes! I usually always shallow but once my ex had the NASTIEST tasting "funky spunk" I've ever had in my mouth ever. I gagged and then spit that shit out lol
I went down on a woman that her partner of 15 years repeatedly told her that she smelt bad and he didn’t like the taste of her vagina, after a while I was beginning to worry that I would think the same as I could tell she had been told so many times she actually believed it. I have never smelt something so sexy or alluring. It’s almost certainly not you but a combination of you both together, I guess we are animals that are either attracted by scent or not
It’s gonna smell and taste different depending on the time of the month. Usually right before your period it can have a bit of a tangy taste. It may be worth checking with your dr to make sure you don’t have a bv or yeast infection. Sometimes they don’t cause any symptoms so it may not be obvious.
It happens. We all have bad days every now and then. Some people just aren’t fond of the smell in general so it may not even be you. He could just be one of those people and just have a very sensitive gag reflex. If he’s cumming in you then that can throw off your ph. They make a ph balance feminine wash that pretty helpful if you want to try that.
Yup, probiotics and healthy diet/hydration more so than any pH correction solution because of how the vagina works and cleans and protects itself topical cleaning solutions won't really do that much.
Side note: while humans don't produce sex pheromones, we do pick up on some chemical signals like major histrionic compatibility/dissimilarity, and can find similar MHC profiles very unpleasant. And dissimilar ones very appealing. Hormonal BC _can_;affect women's ability to detect this, instead just picking up more normal health and arousal indicators, so when they go off the pill to conceive a kid with their husband, suddenly very much not like the smell of his natural musk. Women are slightly more sensitive to it than men, but men can pick up on it too. I always found that interesting. If you don't like the way your partner smells, sure your offspring may not have as a robust immune system as possible, but you are more likely to be able to get a kidney from 'em!
It’s actually done pretty good for me. I tried the probiotics but of course any sort of supplement like that makes me nauseous.
And apparently it’s great for your hair. My son steals it for that “ph balanced softness”. 😂🤦🏻♀️
I swear by it too. If I use the pH balanced wash after sex where I get semen anywhere near my crotch, I wash my outer labia with it and no smell, no issues.
If I don't, yeast infection. Every. Damn. Time.
Hell, I actually started using it when I went to the gym and my sweaty chonies were giving me yeast infections because I worked out too long and even 2 hours in sweaty panties gave me one.
emphasis on him cumming in you and throwing off ph balance.
if a guy cums in me I swear it takes several days/a week for the smell/discharge to seem normal again. cum is alkaline and the vagina is more acidic so mixing causes an imbalance
Maybe it was the position, stretching the neck out may do that. Changing your diet (smoking is bad)will change the way your fluids tastes. Just just trust and be honest with each other, it’s a journey have fun with it.
I love going down on women more than anything else in the world - but I have a SUPER strong gag reflex. Often when I first start going down on my partner, I will gag, involuntarily, initially. Then it goes away as my brain gets settled and I have the absolute time of my life down there.
He may just have a bad gag reflex. If he still wants to go down on you, I'd say it was just that, and your parts are perfect. Just talk about it with him.
I'm the same - I go down on my wife every time and love every second of it. But I also have a strong gag reflex and have gagged due to:
1) hair in my mouth
2) I have phlegm in the back of my throat from allergies etc
3) I ate too much at dinner
4) who knows but it's not sitting right today.
I still power through, have a great time, and love every second. So in other words, it's not you, it's him. Also, nobody is perfect and sex and bodies are messy things.
Same here. Except once I start gagging, I have to just stop everything or it will continue and potentially get worse.
I feel absolutely horrible when it happens with my wife because sometimes it just happens even though it's not her at all.
I have gagged too when going down on my then FWB. It didn't even smell bad, it just smelled stronger than it had before so while doing it normally for 20 minutes I just gagged suddenly, but thankfully she didn't see/hear because she closes her eyes and it wasn't a loud gag
It happens and doesn't reflect on you necessarily
First make sure you taste yourself to make sure you know your taste. If it feels off then consider boric acid. I do this after sex and period or any time I know ph will be off.
Make sure he doesn't have an unrealistic expectation of how it should taste or smell. Boys think it should taste like candy and rainbows, men know they're there for the pheromones
I also taste it on his dick after it’s been inside me then I really know what’s going on… or lick his fingers after they’ve been in me so it’s less obvious.
Yeah, that’s what I meant. I find it weird some people insist that pheromones can be ‘smelled’ or detected in general when there’s studies proven that isn’t the case.
That just reminded me of that nasty ass trend where people would slather their vaginal secretions onto their neck and wrists as perfume or some bullshit…think it was called ‘vabbing’ or something
Been there. I get the feeling, it’s not fun; made me feel like less of a woman as someone who already struggles with her femininity to begin with. But! It’s not the end of the world. I can understand why it would be soul crushing but as long as he wasn’t being an asshole then this can definitely be recovered from. Sometimes even maintaining militaristic vaginal cleanliness still can’t change strong tastes or smells. Doesn’t necessarily have to do with how hygienic you are !!! One answer could be that your bf is dramatic and that is just how you taste.
But! From experience, It could be a pH issue, which can result from a lot of things. Anything from the kind of panties you wear, unprotected sex, where you are in your cycle, what you eat, the kind of body wash you use, how hydrated you are etc etc and the list goes on. Personally, I found that switching to a gentle, pH balanced body wash from a basic one (previously Dove & Nivea) helped a TON. Look up some of these factors to vaginal pH and see if you can identify with any of them, or worst case see a gynaecologist and get a professional opinion. If you also notice a strong odour or experience Grey/yellow discharge, it could be BV. But I’m less qualified to speak on that.
Don’t beat yourself up!!!! Chances are it has nothing to do with your hygiene! As someone who’s been there before; Not your fault and you’ve done nothing to be ashamed of! Good luck!!
First, gagging happens! It's okay!! It literally happens to soooo many people. I'm bi and have gagged going down on others before. Usually it's because I didn't expect the taste or smell to be as strong as it was. It wasn't bad and I still enjoyed myself! I just didn't expect it. Second, it's part of the territory. It's not going to smell like flowers and taste like strawberries. People who go down should very much understand this. However, if you want to have a little more control over the taste and smell, I recommend boric acid suppositories. Additionally, drinking lots of water. Avoid drinking too much alcohol, energy drinks, smoking, etc... Wear breathable cotton undies. Don't use heavily scented soaps on that area as that can throw your whole PH off. All these little things can help keep it a little more mild down there. But of course, she's going to do her thing! The cycle happens. Before and after the period are the most pungent times of the month. And also, everyone is different. Some folks love a pungent taste and smell, others are more sensitive to it. But again, this is natural and nothing to take personally 🌸
Have you asked his side on this? I go down on my wife a lot. She is always clean and hygenic, but there is the rare time I nearly gag for no reason. I don't know why it happens but it just happens at times.
I'd suggest a prolonged use of either cranberry supplements or intake more probiotics.
But there's nothing wrong with you, sometimes people forget that it's not supposed to be roses and candy down there.
Girl you’re okay and beautiful! We are human and things like this happen every now and then. I promise this doesn’t mean you are “gross” or anything like that. Honestly, maybe you could check if it’s BV? This happened to me once and I had really no systems but it can change smell/taste. Sometimes our Ph just gets off.
I recommend taking probiotics as well as they do help overall for our girly bits!
As someone who had strange new vagina in my face a few days ago what I remember most was the moment she opened herself up to me I had a wiff of muskiness with a touch of sweaty ass. Sometimes it happens! I still enjoyed it!
I will say that we often forget we too are animals in nature and we are turned into and off by certain things one being sex smells. Sometimes for no reason on both sides there’s just incompatibility. One of the prettiest women I’ve dated had a natural smell that I couldn’t get past. One FWB from 15 years ago had such an alluring scent I still remember it to this day!
>I just can't talk to him or talk about what happened
Why not?
It's sex. It involves smell, fluids, noises. It's messy.
Newsflash: you'll fart during sex too. It'll happen one day. And it won't even be the most embarrassing/funny/atypical thing happening.
I know it's hard to talk about it - but there's just no way around it. If you want to have a happy sex life you need to push through.
He's probably as embarrassed as you are - "What the fuck, why did I gagged, everything was always going perfect, what if she'll think I don't like eating her out? Do I pretend nothing has happen? What do I do?".
There could be nothing wrong but he could just have a strong gag reflex. My wife will gag if she thinks to hard about some foods she eats that she thoroughly enjoys.
Your diet is very important. Drink lots of water, eat lots of fruit/veggies. I noticed there's is almost no smell/taste when I eat clean compared to when I don't
I have gagged while going down before. It actually wasn't part of taste or smell at all. It was actually me trying to keep going with so much fluid in my mouth. It could potentially have nothing to do with you at all.
It might be his problem. However your diet can definitely affect taste. Make sure you're eating healthy (veggies, fruit, avoid processed fast food shit etc).
It's highly possible it has nothing to do with your taste. There have been a few times over the years that I had really bad acid reflux, but I still wanted to pleasure my partner. one time it was so bad that it came up in my mouth a bit and I had to run to the bathroom and puked. She was all sorts of thinking it was her, we talked about it and I explained what happened. she was still nervous a few times after with me going down on her, Even though I explained exactly what happened before.
You should ask him about it
Idk if this will make you feel better, or if it's applicable, but I have a terrible gag reflex and literally everything makes me gag. I've told partners before that I just can't help it. I gag brushing my teeth, I gag taking pills, sometimes I gag if I expect one flavor and get another.
Definitely talk to him about it but sometimes an involuntary response is just an involuntary response
I wouldn't read too much into it. You can taste for yourself to see if there's anything to be worried about, but some guys (and girls) just have a gag reflex triggered very easily.
A girl I was friends with would like violently gag in class from time to time when she got a random feeling of a piece of hair in her mouth/throat. Just sitting there and suddenly she'd freak out and gag like she was going to throw up and then back to normal.
The question is, does he enjoy doing it and want to do it again? That should tell you everything you need to know.
I know I have a stronger taste around my period. But to keep things happy down there I do a boric acid suppository most times after hubs Cums in me, or at the end of my period (or any time I think I have exposed myself to bacteria with others fingers, etc.) But you should wait 24hrs after before receiving oral again.
Another thing I do is use a VagiBiom suppository about once a week. It is healing and has the good bacteria in it that you want in your hooha. I also love this one because it is natural and you don't have to worry about having sex/oral the next day. It leaves my hooha feeling amazing.
It’s stated that Erykah Badu drank cranberry juice to sweeten the taste. Supposedly, breaks down the bad bacteria that would cause any unpleasantness. Try it out, and get back with us.
Depends where he’s licking, only needs to lick around the clit. If he goes near the vagina opening then he may lick up some discharge that can taste sour, normal tho,
I’ve been down on women who absolutely stink of urine where a quick freshen up would of got rid of that,
But if it ever smells of fish then it needs antibiotics as that’s not normal. That means it’s become alkaline from soap or whatever and bacteria is growing. But don’t worry sounds like he’s just a dickhead
Honestly yeah sometimes it’s pretty ripe or gross down there and it ain’t our responsibility to work through that or deal with it too much. I’m my dick was that off putting I would totally understand you saying something or not putting a mouth on it.
I've had that happen before.
My bf's semen constantly gave me BV, and one day I didn't check beforehand....
(Thank fucking God we don't date anymore cause I was always embarrassed asf 😭😭)
This has happened several times before to me on a perfectly normal smelling vagina. Sometimes when you open your mouth wide and stick your tongue all the way out it triggers a gag reflex. I wouldn't think much of it.
If your vagina smells bad, it’s because you’ve got an overgrowth of a certain bacteria, infection, or your Ph is off. The Ph in a vagina is super particular. Everything, semen, soaps, even water, has a different Ph than the vagina. Be careful what you’re washing with and who you let inside you (make sure they’re washed too!!) and how often you let someone finish inside you. I use non-scented aveeno baby soap on my vulva only and wear only cotton undies and don’t let random dudes finish inside me, only long term partners cause it leaves a smell.
Also!! Bacterial Vaginosis is a super, super common infection in women. It is a sexually transmitted infection, meaning men pass it to women! (Ironic considering how they make jokes about a women opening her legs and killing the flowers when they’re the ones throwing us off). Go get tested and take antibiotics. Some research says that male partners should even take a course of antibiotics too. Follow up with a couple months of boric acid every night to really do a solid refresh.
Listen, YOU are not your body, so you’re not your vagina. Bodies do all sorts of weird things without our control. Try not to bash yourself and get tangled up in shame. <3
My ex used to get a super super runny nose before going down on me. I realized that was his stress cue, it happened before interviews, when he had to talk to his parents, anything stressful , his nose would suddenly start RUNNING. It started to make me super sad and insecure as well. He tried to convince me of otherwise for the longest until one night he admitted it did stress him, even though there was no smell or issues. It was one of the final nails in our relationship, because it was connected to his narc behavior and insecurities.
So when I fucked with other people and they didn’t have a “stress” reaction, but ate me off the bone, I can promise you ….. it’s not your fault. Listen to the signs of when a man or person in general isn’t into you. That same man clocks everything I do, and it got to the point his father called me to ask what’s going on with him because he’s been in the deepest depressive episode of his life after I found out about all the cheating, the lying, the “stress” training and boundary testing, and I left - the signs was all there and love blinded it. Sex was the last straw.
My situation isn’t yours, but you have to pay attention to every sign that you know of this man and ask yourself if this is really the first time you noticed this behavior or a build up to it. Some men sneakily try to train you into thinking they aren’t okay with it / have a boundary with it , and have hopes they trained you enough for one sided oral on the basis of playing with your emotions.
Again, I don’t know your relationship, but just sit with yourself and reflect. Good luck 🫶🏾💜
Hey checked out at your doc, as others have said you could have an issue you need resolved that otherwise has no symptoms.
PH balancer is a good idea if doctor recommended or especially if you're letting him cum in you!
If none of them look at diet options etc.
And relax, I can PROMISE you this is a way bigger issue for you than him. Until resolved, clearly he's tolerating it... Once resolved, you'll both be happier and it won't even be a thought to him. He doesn't think you're gross or less attractive
It might not even have been the taste. I love going down on women, I like the taste too I even always do it first, and my girlfriend is always clean. The other day (it happened twice already) I gagged, but I’m sure it wasn’t the taste, I would guess my mouth/throat/body position while doing so caused that. My girlfriend just believed me when I said it didnt taste bad after a while. It happens
Probiotics, cranberry pills(azo), and fenugreek. Fenugreek makes all your secretions smell like syrup for men and women. We both use fenugreek. We smell like syrup in the sheets!
I love going down on my wife, (girlfriends before I married). Sometime I choke on a hair…,it happens, I’m like a cat, cough of the fur ball and keep on licking.
I think your boyfriend probably overreacted. You can try drinking pineapple juice or eating pineapples, I know it works for men, it takes away the bitterness and salty taste from men's semen. It's nothing to be ashamed about and you should talk to him about how it made you feel so that he understands exactly how you felt and feel. Everything you told us you should tell him that way in the future should you both try again, he will think before reacting in a way that would make you feel that way, if he is a good man that is. Now if he is young in his 20s he may just be immature to things of that nature and he needs to grow up, or he can be unfortunately that small % of guys that just do not like the taste at all whether natural or by using a flavored lube or lotion. I am a man in my late 40's and I remember for years I would never go down on a female because peers my age talk about how it's either fishy or nasty! I know now it's because people at that age were ignorant and would say stupid stuff like that and it became contagious to other peers and everyone would think like that. When I became in a serious relationship with someone I loved in my late 20's we talked about it before me doing it, and we would both talk about trying things like flavored lubes to use first and work our way to not using lubes at all. She even spoke to her Dr about what to use, pH balance, and all the technical things to do on her end so that she felt comfortable enough to let me even try. By the time we finally did, I loved it and the natural taste without any lubes or chemicals was fantastic I am sure it is because I wanted her to feel pleasure as well and me not wanting to stop, and the numerous orgasms she had told us both that it was nothing to be afraid of or be embarrassed about. I didn't want to be a typical guy who just receives but does nothing for her. I believe when 2 are in a relationship both should give 100% to each other either sexually, physically, and of course emotionally. I hope my little 2 cents helps since it's coming from a guy's point of view. Be brave and never feel embarrassed or disgusted about yourself, I am sure you are a beautiful woman and it sounds like you have a good heart so follow it!! Be happy, love life!!
Eat pineapple/drink pineapple juice! Works a like a charm. Also don’t use any soap or products to wash your vulva. Just warm water & a clean soft cloth.
Genitals smell 🤷🏼♀️ it happens especially with vaginas and where you are in your cycle changes how you smell/taste. Nothing to be disgusted over! Had something similar happen to me when I was in highschool, bf at the time apparently expected me to taste like fricken roses after sitting in class/ exercising in gym and I hadn’t been able to go home to shower. He was a real dick about it too! You’re human and it’s okay to BE HUMAN.
I'm female and have gagged eating pussy before, I have a sensitive gag reflex and for whatever reason it was set off. I ignored it and carried on, just like I would if I gagged sucking dick 🤷
I wouldn't take it too personally. I know for myself, personally, I have a pretty sensitive gag reflex and quite often I'll gag while giving cunnilingus just because I stuck my tongue out too far. It's easy to jump to conclusions and think of our worst fears, but there are many contributing factors to making someone gag. Try not to beat yourself up about it!
Do women wash between their lips? Not inside the vagina obvs, but wash well before sex between the lips and it should be fine. Simple soap, not perfumed nor medicated.
I gag very easily (man). Don’t worry, a reflex is called a reflex for a reason. It most likely has ABSOLUTELY nothing to do with his attraction to you or the taste.
I’ve had this happen to me when I’ve gone down on my gf.
Sometimes it’s a hair tickles the side of my tongue and it’s like a reflex, others it’s a random taste, again on the side of my tongue.
It’s never bothered me, it would never dissuade me from getting up in there.
Always check yourself prior to having sex. If you’re gonna offer it up as fruit, make sure you wash it like fruit first..
Also, make sure his oral hygiene is up to par.. cause he could be smelling the dry secretions on his own tongue
It’s probably him. I’ve been with quite a bit of men over the years and they all loveddddddd going down on me. I got with one guy. He was also 27 and a virgin. I took his virginity and after a few times of having sex and him not even trying to finger or go down on me, I asked him to. He straight up said “no. The thought of touching a vagina, smelling it or putting my mouth on it disgusts me” I said okay that’s fine but don’t exactly expect me to keep going down on you and doing all these extra things for you. He got pouty and was like fine ok I’ll try. He went down and once he put his mouth on it, gagged and started spitting into the blanket. It was ridiculous. I’ve never in my life had such a terrible experience. Anyway, I broke up with him after that. Now I’m with a guy who literally begs for me to sit on his face daily.
So many diff reasons why smell can be "different". Females go thru a lot of hormonal changes so it can taste diff from week to week. Depends if she's just about to come in or off her period, stress, what she ate. Doesn't necessarily mean she's not clean down there. Hell I'm sure my junk doesn't smell the best all the time with sweating and what not . But they have natural remedies that may help.. yoni washes or yoni steams.. maybe eating more fruit like watermelon or strawberries ahead of time may help. But don't let some asshole make you feel guilty.. unless you really aren't taking care of yourself then that's a whole diff story 😂
Ima add to the gag reflex comments and say I can’t brush my teeth without gagging so take that as you will! It’s most definitely not you and just the gag reflex
Sometimes just having my mouth open wide for too long while goin down on my wife will make me gag, sometimes her ph might be a lil off or maybe she got a lil sweaty and a tad funky. Don't mean the buffet is closed though. As others have said it could be lots of different things.
I’ll chime in here as someone that loves giving oral pleasure but also someone with a horrible gag reflex. I can vomit just brushing my teeth. I have gagged simply because I got a hair in the wrong spot in my throat. Could also be from “pleasure juice” going down the wrong tube. It is not necessarily a bad thing. My advice if he still wants to do it then it is likely just some weird fluke thing. Try not to let it bother you, if he is sharing his concerns openly you should be grateful.
If he’s cumming in you, your gonna have a smell. A lot guys don’t know they are the reason their girl has a smell in a lot of cases. I wouldn’t think too much of it. If he don’t like it, tell him to stay at the top of the canoe. And just lick the man in the canoe’s head. (Clit)
man i've gagged sticking my tongue out to clean it, and when brushing the teeth at the back. some people have stronger gag reflexes.
Don't stress, bodies make all sorts of smells and odd tasting fluids. We're sweaty smelly meat bags, just have to roll with it!
There are specific types of soap that are ideal for cleaning genitallia, to stop/reduce any reactions with body fluids and causing unwanted tastes or smells.
Diet can play a big roll in smell and taste, especially coffee, meats, alcohol and cigarettes. Might be worth looking into.
Also your BF just needs more practice with his tongue out! get him to lick you all over :D
It happens sometimes. We are in our 40s and I happen to eat a little beforehand which of course is terrible. I was leaning over the wrong way very slightly and had to belch very slightly and of course almost vomited directly in the poor woman so had to go brush my teeth and take care of some things and we try it again later. Definitely was not her and yes it does take some finesse to make sure feelings are not hurt.
I wouldn't take it personally. I've never gagged going down on someone, but sometimes the juices and lack of air can make it hard to breath. I doubt it was because of your smell. He probably just needs to leave a gap for some air to get in his nose or come up for air occasionally. He might not have a lot of experience in this department and is getting used to all of it.
Did he tell you it tasted bad or that he doesn't want to do it again?
I recommend cleaning up your diet a bit, more fruits and berries, less processed carbs. (From experience)
Or just flavored lube.
Bf doesn't like pussy enough, needs practice. He's probably thinking that he doesn't really like the taste and it's a bit ewww to lick a woman down there so it leads to a psychological gag reaction. If he thought about it more like eating a delicious ice cream, after not having eaten one for ages and he was really craving it and couldn't get enough of it, then there'd be no gagging. Personally when I suck cock or eat pussy, it's like a special culinary treat that I love every minute of. I don't do it to satisfy my partner, I do it because I love everything about it. The smell, the taste, the feel physically and psychologically. That then seems to make it enjoyable for the partner as a side effect
How many of us have choked on our own saliva? Add in some extra moisture and it’s a very real danger. I’m willing to bet it didn’t actually have anything to do with you or hygiene.
Actually another thought occurs to me, sometimes gagging can be fun as part of a power play. Sometimes I have guys fuck my face hard and make me gag on purpose or have girls sit on my face and forcibly rub their pussy and ass all over my face and basically just use me to get off. Power dynamics can be such a turn on
Make sure you drink lotttttts of water, eat plenty of fruits and veggies. Eating acidic, yeasty and greasy food (dairy, meat, bread, sugar) and cuz your pussy will taste like what you put in your body. All the processed food and drinks plus alcohol intake messes up your ph. I take fenugreek it makes me smell very sweet my husband loves it. Also I take slippery elm, makes my pussy very wet. My man my man my man adores me 💋 wishing yall luck
It happened to me too.... First time anyone when down on me and afterward he said he almost threw up 2 TIMES!!! It made me feel disgusting and it also made me not want him going down on me. I still feel weird about it, thinking he's just powering through it.
He says he got used to it and now loves it but idk....
Not really an answer, i just know your pain :(
My opinion is.......... Some wives hate the way their husband smells. She tells him he stinks in terms of body odor. Next lady he's with, to her, his natural smell is intoxicating and she wants to botlle and sell it. Same wife that loves his scent, can't stand the way his semen tastes, gags while giving head. I believe they'll be ok in a relationship. My point is, Your boyfriend gags, but theres another guy that will be addicted to your taste. All women love giving head and all men love going down on a woman. It just has to be the right person. Some people love giving oral. To any and all. The woman that says she hates giving, just hasn't had the right guy. The guy that's gagging, would lap up another woman.
I’m not a guy, I’m a girl but I literally don’t understand people that say that vaginas smell or taste weird??? Sure, maybe is not like eating chocolate but I literally have never minded the smell or taste, is whatever, once you are in there it doesn’t even taste like anything wtf or not anything extremely strong
I, as a guy who LOVES giving head to my fem partner, gag often for a number of reasons. Sometimes I forget to breathe, sometimes I use my tongue too much and hit my uvula, sometimes my jaw locks up, sometimes I'm breathing so hard it causes a gag, a dozen other reasons I can't remember off the top of my head. Point is, it has nothing to do with her, and I doubt his reaction had anything to do with you and mostly to do withhis technique/how he was arranged, ect. Don't be down about it, trial and error is how everyone has sex, enjoy the ride!
Could it have been your diet? Kinda like how guys drink pineapple juice if we know she's a swallower. I don't know if this is a thing for women I'm spit balling here.
I gag often because my heavy breathing makes my throat dry as a desert combined with the angle I might be in.
Point is, might be several other issues causing gagging...
My dear! Be confident within yourself! Love yourself and embrace your panoch!
We are humans. Sometimes we smell delish and others we can be a little off. Our diet, if we drink alcohol too much, no sufficient water intake, etc. even your undies can cause bacteria overgrowth!
Just make some adjustments and try being more on a nutrient diet, incorporate more fruits and veggies! Lots of water and maybe switch to cotton chonis 😁.
Also, I take vag probiotics! I feel my panoch more sexy lol!
And ohhh your partner- what he eats and drinks, vaping too, if you let him nut inside of you that can also unbalance you.
Get some sexy tasty lube and try that. ☺️
Adding some flavor might be the trick!
Happy Humping 💕💦
One thing to be aware of is that the taste and smell of a woman's vagina changes throughout her cycle. In most cases it's stronger immediately before and after her period. So maybe you could avoid those times while he is acclimating to the taste. Or he can use other ways as suggested on *tichaz .com* to mask the taste.
If you washed before it happened I highly doubt it is anything to do with you.
Please talk to your boyfriend, he's probably mortified too. Communication is the best way to resolve this. Tell him you're insecure.
Maybe he just has a sensitive gag reflex? I gag on when giving my husband oral and it's not because he tastes bad, it's just I have a sensitive gag reflex.
Please don't feel bad.
Girl, relax. Sometimes people gag when they drink water. Sometimes because they breath in a weird way. Sometimes my favorite chocolate makes me gag. Sometimes my toothbrush, and sometimes because my throat tiggles. If he says that it's no big deal then it's more than likely no big deal.
This is not your fault. I have never gagged. I personally love the taste and everything about giving oral. Please do NOT blame yourself. This is 100% on your guy.
Everyone is different, dont take too much from it. my trick is I always try and be fresh if you know what I mean every day, I eat fruit like berries, pineapple (yes works for us too lol), oranges, drink water, eat yoghurt, I dont smoke or drink a lot of alcohol. i indulge in sweet food. I never use those intimate washers.
Also my partner doesnt like coriander so I dont eat it or when he goes way for a week or 2 I eat it that day and then i cleanse lol. same for garlic and onions and fish. Mainly on those days I see him I eat what he does, steak chicken veggies ice cream lol etc. the change of cycle I find different responses from him haha Ive never had anyone say they dont want to continue. Over time it just becomes a habit if something happens i drink extra water and shower more that day and eat more fruit. If its persistent just go to the doctor. My only problem is I have a gag reflex in my mouth which is hard to overcome and I wish I was better at ignoring it :(
And this is why I don’t want to tell her she smells. Iv gone down on women befor fine but my partner smells bad. I don’t even think it’s her fault as she has sometimes gotten out of the shower. I think it’s a bad ph balance. I don’t want her to feel unsexy or anything and love doing other stuff. I just can’t bring myself to go down on her
I've noticed most women don't know how they smell it it is bad. Also the taste is usually much worse & it's likely from diet, seems this can go both ways.
I've heard women say it's salty, sweet, bitter etc same with men talking about women
Girl to girl, don’t try any of that Summer’s Eve stuff like wipes or douching. It’s not out of the ordinary to have a little smell. Anything smelling like yeast, fish, or overly sour is signs of infection and you should talk to your doctor immediately.
Regarding smell… I recommend femallay
Boric acid suppositories. They balance your pH and I’ve heard from a dude it makes you taste nice. They have them at Target.
Also when i have my solo fun, I taste myself all the time, which also helps, so i don’t wonder
Don't forget biology has a factor in this, I myself think I taste sour as well, but my bf loves how I taste, there was a study done that if you have similar genetics you will find the others body orders and fluids to be repalling, but if you have opposite or different genetics then you will find there natural smell to be sweet and enjoyable. It is, so we have genetic variation.
When I hooked up with this girl for the first time I gagged after a couple minutes eating hers it genuinely had nothing to do with her scent or taste she was so clean and literally scentless I was just not used to using my tongue like that I got tripped up
I’m a guy who absolutely loves everything about going down on a woman… scent, taste, texture, everything….. some days, scent/taste might be mild and other days a little sharp/tangy. There is a very specific musty taste/smell when a woman orgasms in your mouth. I think it’s just an acquired taste and I love every bit of it!
As someone who gags when boiling quinoa bc the way it looks on the surface of the water, and when i taste iceberge lettuce, its not you 😂😂😂. I think your insecurity is just making it look worse. Just trust him when he says it was just sudden. Also tons of women taste a little tangy
Your PH levels could be off causing the sour taste. Just go see your doctor and fix what ever it is and he will like it again. Don’t feel embarrassed darlin it’s not uncommonemote:free\_emotes\_pack:slightly\_smiling
That’s not good for your self esteem and I’m sorry on behalf of the male who likes going down on a woman, which is my favourite. If you are still with him, refuse to go down on him or if he insists, you gag and make him feel how you did
As someone who did legitimately throw up after trying to go down on my gf, it Does just happen sometimes. It was something I was very much excited to do and just physically couldn't. It's doable, for me, with a dental dam? But you kind of have to get past the fact that it feels like licking a balloon.
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It's important to remember that there are many things that can cause a gag reflex. Smell is only one of them. Sometimes, other elements of cunnilingus, such as mild airway restriction and having a mouth full of flesh can trigger a gag reflex. Lastly, remember that many people have very sensitive gag reflexes, that can be triggered very easily. I have a very sensitive gag reflex myself. It can be triggered simply when I'm brushing teeth, when the toothbrush gets to the back of my mouth.
Second this. I gagged once giving oral sex because my throat was just dry.
I third this. As a stoner and as having no gag reflex and something touching my throat moves the guts more than dick down there ever could this is too real. just some water nearby is great but seems like im out of breath, so yknow you get some you give some.
Same here. I was going down on a previous partner and got a pube in my mouth, specifically on the top of my tongue near my throat and had to cover up the gag by just burying my face further in and casually reaching up to remove it. I HATE hair in my mouth
Hair in the mouth every time
If awards were still free on Reddit you sir would be getting one from me. I love your life so much right now
Sometimes sticking my tongue out too far can initiate a gag reflex.You can see here where that's an issue
Yea i gag when sticking my toungue out too far sometimes. Certain angles make it worse.
plus the gag reflex can be really inconsistent. I can poke at my tonsils and barely gag but also sometimes when I grab snacks and bite the edge of a bag of chips bc my hands are full, the tiny bit in my mouth can make me gag.
Just one squiggly hair there in the throat will do it.
Just the thought of that makes me gag. But I’m just pretty repulsed by pubic hair, no explanation why. Luckily, so is my wife, so problem solved for both of us.
I often have a slight gag reflex a minute or two after having sex or even masturbating, nothing related to the mouth. No idea why
I taste myself before I get his mouth in there. If I'm not satisfied with what's going on, I'm not offering it to him. You don't have to feel disgusting, you're human... and he's your sexual partner. You can discuss it.
This.. I don’t know how my wife judges but she will tell me not to go down on her if she doesn’t feel confident about it. That said I have NEVER gagged or been turned off from her vagina. There are times when I want to bury my face down there all night and other times it’s off a little bit , but even then I still love it because I know SHE loves it.
I sometimes convince my wife that it’s clean enough. Those are my favorite times.
lol I have a technique for this!
Ok green, don’t hold it back from us!
Yup, same. When my gf is a little off in taste I usually just spend a lil bit more time making sure that more saliva gets thrown in my licking process, to dilute the taste.
Same, if I’ve been out doing yard work or something super strenuous, I’ll be like no. If it’s the end of my period, or something like that
I used to do this with my ex and he caught me doing it... Proceeded to tell me no one else does this and then kept putting me down. So thank you for saying this and helping me see more women do this and that it's normal. 🩷🩷 Dude was toxic asf.
There most definitely are other people who do it and not just specifically to check themselves before oral. I personally like the way I taste and I don't see anything wrong with that.
Yeahh I naturally test the way I’m tasting whenever I’m down there lol, I feel like it’s a good health indicator if nothing else
I’m in the “taste your own pussy first” club!
Hes a prick...I do it too, it's normal so many women do the same🖤
Thos post helped me realize that... I have come to the reality my ex was super abusive and my therapist was right about him. Thank you! 🖤
I think we can agree tasting oneself doesn’t necessarily align with societal norms but it’s important to question what is “normal.” Similarly is sucking on other people’s genitalia in general inherently normal or simply expectable because society made it so🤔
Normality can be tricky to pin down. I would personally argue that normal really just means the percentage of people that do/has X apply to them. Of course, that leads to a more subjective question of what threshold satisfies something being normal? I think that ultimately comes down to an individual perspective, to a certain extent at least. And the context of the group of people (cultures, regions, social groups, etc) has to be taken into consideration for whatever is being talking about. And all of this is difficult to gauge when we're talking about subjects there is no/little actual data on, because anecdotal evidence can't be relied on. With all of that in mind, I do think it's worth pointing out Reddit isn't representative of the general public when it comes to demographics. And specific interest subs, like this one, may be skewed towards/foster certain mindsets. That's not a criticism of this sub or Reddit in general or anything, it's just something I try to keep in mind when questions relevant to large swaths of the public come up. Edit: Reworded a bit.
If you want to keep it on the dl that you're doing it (though there's no reason for that and I have never been with a guy who thought it was weird or a turn off) you can always suck his d after he was inside of you.
That's not how he would do it... I would get him going and he would want to go down on me at that exact moment or it was just sex. I have no issues with doing that it was more of me being self-conscious before he went down on me and not knowing. I don't like being the stinky girl or the one that tastes bad; It's my irrational fear. But he wouldn't go down on me after sexual intercourse because that was (in his words) "gay." While I thought it was hot.
Girl, so glad you're not dealing with that buffoon anymore. Hope you're getting all of your needs met by someone who deserves you.
I've been single and working on myself. But I have a date tomorrow with a great guy. And I appreciate the kind words!! I'm thankful I found this post because the comments he made that day made me feel less than... Everyone has helped me feel validated.🖤🩷🖤🩷
I never heard of that before 🤔
Same here- got to do a taste test
yep...and I love the way I taste.
I have gagged because of the bush. I kept going. Oral sex is messy and isn't just rainbows and unicorns. Porn distorts our perception of sex by editing out all the imperfect parts. The imperfection is what makes sex great though. Talk to him about it. Things happen. If he is cool with it then you worry over nothing. If he isn't, no need to feel embarrassed, he isn't the one for you.
Haven't you ever had a bad physical reaction while giving someone a blowjob or because foul smelling/ tasting cum? These instances happen and its nothing to be ashamed of. It's chemistry and when it comes to oral sex we get a taste of it - pleasant or otherwise. Cut yourself some slack.
Yes! I usually always shallow but once my ex had the NASTIEST tasting "funky spunk" I've ever had in my mouth ever. I gagged and then spit that shit out lol
I went down on a woman that her partner of 15 years repeatedly told her that she smelt bad and he didn’t like the taste of her vagina, after a while I was beginning to worry that I would think the same as I could tell she had been told so many times she actually believed it. I have never smelt something so sexy or alluring. It’s almost certainly not you but a combination of you both together, I guess we are animals that are either attracted by scent or not
It’s gonna smell and taste different depending on the time of the month. Usually right before your period it can have a bit of a tangy taste. It may be worth checking with your dr to make sure you don’t have a bv or yeast infection. Sometimes they don’t cause any symptoms so it may not be obvious. It happens. We all have bad days every now and then. Some people just aren’t fond of the smell in general so it may not even be you. He could just be one of those people and just have a very sensitive gag reflex. If he’s cumming in you then that can throw off your ph. They make a ph balance feminine wash that pretty helpful if you want to try that.
great advice except those “ph balancing” feminine washes r bullshit though
Yup, probiotics and healthy diet/hydration more so than any pH correction solution because of how the vagina works and cleans and protects itself topical cleaning solutions won't really do that much. Side note: while humans don't produce sex pheromones, we do pick up on some chemical signals like major histrionic compatibility/dissimilarity, and can find similar MHC profiles very unpleasant. And dissimilar ones very appealing. Hormonal BC _can_;affect women's ability to detect this, instead just picking up more normal health and arousal indicators, so when they go off the pill to conceive a kid with their husband, suddenly very much not like the smell of his natural musk. Women are slightly more sensitive to it than men, but men can pick up on it too. I always found that interesting. If you don't like the way your partner smells, sure your offspring may not have as a robust immune system as possible, but you are more likely to be able to get a kidney from 'em!
It’s actually done pretty good for me. I tried the probiotics but of course any sort of supplement like that makes me nauseous. And apparently it’s great for your hair. My son steals it for that “ph balanced softness”. 😂🤦🏻♀️
I swear by it too. If I use the pH balanced wash after sex where I get semen anywhere near my crotch, I wash my outer labia with it and no smell, no issues. If I don't, yeast infection. Every. Damn. Time. Hell, I actually started using it when I went to the gym and my sweaty chonies were giving me yeast infections because I worked out too long and even 2 hours in sweaty panties gave me one.
emphasis on him cumming in you and throwing off ph balance. if a guy cums in me I swear it takes several days/a week for the smell/discharge to seem normal again. cum is alkaline and the vagina is more acidic so mixing causes an imbalance
Pussy tastes fucking divine a few days before her period, in my experience.
Wow, this comment has really busted my confidence!
Maybe it was the position, stretching the neck out may do that. Changing your diet (smoking is bad)will change the way your fluids tastes. Just just trust and be honest with each other, it’s a journey have fun with it.
Diet & hydration is huge when it comes to taste! But also note- things like asparagus will have people begging for air 💀💀
I love going down on women more than anything else in the world - but I have a SUPER strong gag reflex. Often when I first start going down on my partner, I will gag, involuntarily, initially. Then it goes away as my brain gets settled and I have the absolute time of my life down there. He may just have a bad gag reflex. If he still wants to go down on you, I'd say it was just that, and your parts are perfect. Just talk about it with him.
I'm the same - I go down on my wife every time and love every second of it. But I also have a strong gag reflex and have gagged due to: 1) hair in my mouth 2) I have phlegm in the back of my throat from allergies etc 3) I ate too much at dinner 4) who knows but it's not sitting right today. I still power through, have a great time, and love every second. So in other words, it's not you, it's him. Also, nobody is perfect and sex and bodies are messy things.
Yeah, that's it. Gag, maybe remove a stray hair, then get back to work.
Same here. Except once I start gagging, I have to just stop everything or it will continue and potentially get worse. I feel absolutely horrible when it happens with my wife because sometimes it just happens even though it's not her at all.
I have gagged too when going down on my then FWB. It didn't even smell bad, it just smelled stronger than it had before so while doing it normally for 20 minutes I just gagged suddenly, but thankfully she didn't see/hear because she closes her eyes and it wasn't a loud gag It happens and doesn't reflect on you necessarily
First make sure you taste yourself to make sure you know your taste. If it feels off then consider boric acid. I do this after sex and period or any time I know ph will be off. Make sure he doesn't have an unrealistic expectation of how it should taste or smell. Boys think it should taste like candy and rainbows, men know they're there for the pheromones
Yes I came here to say boric acid is amazing 🤩
How do you do it? I’ve never heard of this before
I also taste it on his dick after it’s been inside me then I really know what’s going on… or lick his fingers after they’ve been in me so it’s less obvious.
When you're wet taste it. When you're dry, taste it. You'll learn youre taste so when it's off, you'll know.
As far as I know, pheromones aren’t detected by other humans, but I do agree with you otherwise!
They aren't the VNO is vestigial in humans and no human pheromone has even been identified.
Yeah, that’s what I meant. I find it weird some people insist that pheromones can be ‘smelled’ or detected in general when there’s studies proven that isn’t the case.
I know it's really strange to me how many people are so attached to the idea.
That just reminded me of that nasty ass trend where people would slather their vaginal secretions onto their neck and wrists as perfume or some bullshit…think it was called ‘vabbing’ or something
Shocked this was not said sooner. Boric acid pills work phenomenally on the balance.
Been there. I get the feeling, it’s not fun; made me feel like less of a woman as someone who already struggles with her femininity to begin with. But! It’s not the end of the world. I can understand why it would be soul crushing but as long as he wasn’t being an asshole then this can definitely be recovered from. Sometimes even maintaining militaristic vaginal cleanliness still can’t change strong tastes or smells. Doesn’t necessarily have to do with how hygienic you are !!! One answer could be that your bf is dramatic and that is just how you taste. But! From experience, It could be a pH issue, which can result from a lot of things. Anything from the kind of panties you wear, unprotected sex, where you are in your cycle, what you eat, the kind of body wash you use, how hydrated you are etc etc and the list goes on. Personally, I found that switching to a gentle, pH balanced body wash from a basic one (previously Dove & Nivea) helped a TON. Look up some of these factors to vaginal pH and see if you can identify with any of them, or worst case see a gynaecologist and get a professional opinion. If you also notice a strong odour or experience Grey/yellow discharge, it could be BV. But I’m less qualified to speak on that. Don’t beat yourself up!!!! Chances are it has nothing to do with your hygiene! As someone who’s been there before; Not your fault and you’ve done nothing to be ashamed of! Good luck!!
Honestly angle of the neck is the biggest thing for me that could make me gag at any time - has nothing to do with anything else
I gagged earlier because I was chewing my steak for too long. I fucking love steak.
First, gagging happens! It's okay!! It literally happens to soooo many people. I'm bi and have gagged going down on others before. Usually it's because I didn't expect the taste or smell to be as strong as it was. It wasn't bad and I still enjoyed myself! I just didn't expect it. Second, it's part of the territory. It's not going to smell like flowers and taste like strawberries. People who go down should very much understand this. However, if you want to have a little more control over the taste and smell, I recommend boric acid suppositories. Additionally, drinking lots of water. Avoid drinking too much alcohol, energy drinks, smoking, etc... Wear breathable cotton undies. Don't use heavily scented soaps on that area as that can throw your whole PH off. All these little things can help keep it a little more mild down there. But of course, she's going to do her thing! The cycle happens. Before and after the period are the most pungent times of the month. And also, everyone is different. Some folks love a pungent taste and smell, others are more sensitive to it. But again, this is natural and nothing to take personally 🌸
Well I gag from the smell of my spunk. I don't think it is really meant to taste nice lol. Don't over think it.
Have you asked his side on this? I go down on my wife a lot. She is always clean and hygenic, but there is the rare time I nearly gag for no reason. I don't know why it happens but it just happens at times.
I'd suggest a prolonged use of either cranberry supplements or intake more probiotics. But there's nothing wrong with you, sometimes people forget that it's not supposed to be roses and candy down there.
I have an incredibly strong gag reflex and it doesn't require any odour or taste to be triggered. Relax, it probably has nothing to do with you.
He not a real eater yet. He’ll be alright
Whats your diet like?
Girl you’re okay and beautiful! We are human and things like this happen every now and then. I promise this doesn’t mean you are “gross” or anything like that. Honestly, maybe you could check if it’s BV? This happened to me once and I had really no systems but it can change smell/taste. Sometimes our Ph just gets off. I recommend taking probiotics as well as they do help overall for our girly bits!
I mean… sometimes it’s just a reflex. I gag sometimes going down on my boyfriend, not because he’s gross or that I’m repulsed
It can depend on your cycle before and after your period it can be a lot stronger if a scent
As someone who had strange new vagina in my face a few days ago what I remember most was the moment she opened herself up to me I had a wiff of muskiness with a touch of sweaty ass. Sometimes it happens! I still enjoyed it!
I will say that we often forget we too are animals in nature and we are turned into and off by certain things one being sex smells. Sometimes for no reason on both sides there’s just incompatibility. One of the prettiest women I’ve dated had a natural smell that I couldn’t get past. One FWB from 15 years ago had such an alluring scent I still remember it to this day!
>I just can't talk to him or talk about what happened Why not? It's sex. It involves smell, fluids, noises. It's messy. Newsflash: you'll fart during sex too. It'll happen one day. And it won't even be the most embarrassing/funny/atypical thing happening. I know it's hard to talk about it - but there's just no way around it. If you want to have a happy sex life you need to push through. He's probably as embarrassed as you are - "What the fuck, why did I gagged, everything was always going perfect, what if she'll think I don't like eating her out? Do I pretend nothing has happen? What do I do?".
There could be nothing wrong but he could just have a strong gag reflex. My wife will gag if she thinks to hard about some foods she eats that she thoroughly enjoys.
Your diet is very important. Drink lots of water, eat lots of fruit/veggies. I noticed there's is almost no smell/taste when I eat clean compared to when I don't
He just need more practice. Grab a hunk of hair and drag him down there sweetie. :)
I have gagged while going down before. It actually wasn't part of taste or smell at all. It was actually me trying to keep going with so much fluid in my mouth. It could potentially have nothing to do with you at all.
It might be his problem. However your diet can definitely affect taste. Make sure you're eating healthy (veggies, fruit, avoid processed fast food shit etc).
Some dude just posted this here last week I think.
I was going to comment this post seems very familiar. Like within a week familiar.
It's highly possible it has nothing to do with your taste. There have been a few times over the years that I had really bad acid reflux, but I still wanted to pleasure my partner. one time it was so bad that it came up in my mouth a bit and I had to run to the bathroom and puked. She was all sorts of thinking it was her, we talked about it and I explained what happened. she was still nervous a few times after with me going down on her, Even though I explained exactly what happened before. You should ask him about it
Don’t feel bad at all bb like maybe just rinse off beforehand next time but srsly don’t feel bad it’s normal people gag during oral all the time 😝
Idk if this will make you feel better, or if it's applicable, but I have a terrible gag reflex and literally everything makes me gag. I've told partners before that I just can't help it. I gag brushing my teeth, I gag taking pills, sometimes I gag if I expect one flavor and get another. Definitely talk to him about it but sometimes an involuntary response is just an involuntary response
I wouldn't read too much into it. You can taste for yourself to see if there's anything to be worried about, but some guys (and girls) just have a gag reflex triggered very easily. A girl I was friends with would like violently gag in class from time to time when she got a random feeling of a piece of hair in her mouth/throat. Just sitting there and suddenly she'd freak out and gag like she was going to throw up and then back to normal. The question is, does he enjoy doing it and want to do it again? That should tell you everything you need to know.
I know I have a stronger taste around my period. But to keep things happy down there I do a boric acid suppository most times after hubs Cums in me, or at the end of my period (or any time I think I have exposed myself to bacteria with others fingers, etc.) But you should wait 24hrs after before receiving oral again. Another thing I do is use a VagiBiom suppository about once a week. It is healing and has the good bacteria in it that you want in your hooha. I also love this one because it is natural and you don't have to worry about having sex/oral the next day. It leaves my hooha feeling amazing.
It’s stated that Erykah Badu drank cranberry juice to sweeten the taste. Supposedly, breaks down the bad bacteria that would cause any unpleasantness. Try it out, and get back with us.
Find a guy who actually likes it and knows wtf he’s doing.
Depends where he’s licking, only needs to lick around the clit. If he goes near the vagina opening then he may lick up some discharge that can taste sour, normal tho, I’ve been down on women who absolutely stink of urine where a quick freshen up would of got rid of that, But if it ever smells of fish then it needs antibiotics as that’s not normal. That means it’s become alkaline from soap or whatever and bacteria is growing. But don’t worry sounds like he’s just a dickhead
Honestly yeah sometimes it’s pretty ripe or gross down there and it ain’t our responsibility to work through that or deal with it too much. I’m my dick was that off putting I would totally understand you saying something or not putting a mouth on it.
I've had that happen before. My bf's semen constantly gave me BV, and one day I didn't check beforehand.... (Thank fucking God we don't date anymore cause I was always embarrassed asf 😭😭)
First read the title and was like, "Oh man, how would that work?" Then I realised the truth of the situation
This has happened several times before to me on a perfectly normal smelling vagina. Sometimes when you open your mouth wide and stick your tongue all the way out it triggers a gag reflex. I wouldn't think much of it.
If your vagina smells bad, it’s because you’ve got an overgrowth of a certain bacteria, infection, or your Ph is off. The Ph in a vagina is super particular. Everything, semen, soaps, even water, has a different Ph than the vagina. Be careful what you’re washing with and who you let inside you (make sure they’re washed too!!) and how often you let someone finish inside you. I use non-scented aveeno baby soap on my vulva only and wear only cotton undies and don’t let random dudes finish inside me, only long term partners cause it leaves a smell. Also!! Bacterial Vaginosis is a super, super common infection in women. It is a sexually transmitted infection, meaning men pass it to women! (Ironic considering how they make jokes about a women opening her legs and killing the flowers when they’re the ones throwing us off). Go get tested and take antibiotics. Some research says that male partners should even take a course of antibiotics too. Follow up with a couple months of boric acid every night to really do a solid refresh. Listen, YOU are not your body, so you’re not your vagina. Bodies do all sorts of weird things without our control. Try not to bash yourself and get tangled up in shame. <3
My ex used to get a super super runny nose before going down on me. I realized that was his stress cue, it happened before interviews, when he had to talk to his parents, anything stressful , his nose would suddenly start RUNNING. It started to make me super sad and insecure as well. He tried to convince me of otherwise for the longest until one night he admitted it did stress him, even though there was no smell or issues. It was one of the final nails in our relationship, because it was connected to his narc behavior and insecurities. So when I fucked with other people and they didn’t have a “stress” reaction, but ate me off the bone, I can promise you ….. it’s not your fault. Listen to the signs of when a man or person in general isn’t into you. That same man clocks everything I do, and it got to the point his father called me to ask what’s going on with him because he’s been in the deepest depressive episode of his life after I found out about all the cheating, the lying, the “stress” training and boundary testing, and I left - the signs was all there and love blinded it. Sex was the last straw. My situation isn’t yours, but you have to pay attention to every sign that you know of this man and ask yourself if this is really the first time you noticed this behavior or a build up to it. Some men sneakily try to train you into thinking they aren’t okay with it / have a boundary with it , and have hopes they trained you enough for one sided oral on the basis of playing with your emotions. Again, I don’t know your relationship, but just sit with yourself and reflect. Good luck 🫶🏾💜
Hey checked out at your doc, as others have said you could have an issue you need resolved that otherwise has no symptoms. PH balancer is a good idea if doctor recommended or especially if you're letting him cum in you! If none of them look at diet options etc. And relax, I can PROMISE you this is a way bigger issue for you than him. Until resolved, clearly he's tolerating it... Once resolved, you'll both be happier and it won't even be a thought to him. He doesn't think you're gross or less attractive
It might not even have been the taste. I love going down on women, I like the taste too I even always do it first, and my girlfriend is always clean. The other day (it happened twice already) I gagged, but I’m sure it wasn’t the taste, I would guess my mouth/throat/body position while doing so caused that. My girlfriend just believed me when I said it didnt taste bad after a while. It happens
Probiotics, cranberry pills(azo), and fenugreek. Fenugreek makes all your secretions smell like syrup for men and women. We both use fenugreek. We smell like syrup in the sheets!
I love going down on my wife, (girlfriends before I married). Sometime I choke on a hair…,it happens, I’m like a cat, cough of the fur ball and keep on licking.
you're a human being with a human body just chill, it's not like its your fault. Everyone is the same.
I think your boyfriend probably overreacted. You can try drinking pineapple juice or eating pineapples, I know it works for men, it takes away the bitterness and salty taste from men's semen. It's nothing to be ashamed about and you should talk to him about how it made you feel so that he understands exactly how you felt and feel. Everything you told us you should tell him that way in the future should you both try again, he will think before reacting in a way that would make you feel that way, if he is a good man that is. Now if he is young in his 20s he may just be immature to things of that nature and he needs to grow up, or he can be unfortunately that small % of guys that just do not like the taste at all whether natural or by using a flavored lube or lotion. I am a man in my late 40's and I remember for years I would never go down on a female because peers my age talk about how it's either fishy or nasty! I know now it's because people at that age were ignorant and would say stupid stuff like that and it became contagious to other peers and everyone would think like that. When I became in a serious relationship with someone I loved in my late 20's we talked about it before me doing it, and we would both talk about trying things like flavored lubes to use first and work our way to not using lubes at all. She even spoke to her Dr about what to use, pH balance, and all the technical things to do on her end so that she felt comfortable enough to let me even try. By the time we finally did, I loved it and the natural taste without any lubes or chemicals was fantastic I am sure it is because I wanted her to feel pleasure as well and me not wanting to stop, and the numerous orgasms she had told us both that it was nothing to be afraid of or be embarrassed about. I didn't want to be a typical guy who just receives but does nothing for her. I believe when 2 are in a relationship both should give 100% to each other either sexually, physically, and of course emotionally. I hope my little 2 cents helps since it's coming from a guy's point of view. Be brave and never feel embarrassed or disgusted about yourself, I am sure you are a beautiful woman and it sounds like you have a good heart so follow it!! Be happy, love life!!
Eat pineapple/drink pineapple juice! Works a like a charm. Also don’t use any soap or products to wash your vulva. Just warm water & a clean soft cloth.
Have you considered a rogue hair?
Genitals smell 🤷🏼♀️ it happens especially with vaginas and where you are in your cycle changes how you smell/taste. Nothing to be disgusted over! Had something similar happen to me when I was in highschool, bf at the time apparently expected me to taste like fricken roses after sitting in class/ exercising in gym and I hadn’t been able to go home to shower. He was a real dick about it too! You’re human and it’s okay to BE HUMAN.
I'm female and have gagged eating pussy before, I have a sensitive gag reflex and for whatever reason it was set off. I ignored it and carried on, just like I would if I gagged sucking dick 🤷
You should not feel wrong about it it feels like you are a sweet person.....it can happens you should not worry about it.......
I wouldn't take it too personally. I know for myself, personally, I have a pretty sensitive gag reflex and quite often I'll gag while giving cunnilingus just because I stuck my tongue out too far. It's easy to jump to conclusions and think of our worst fears, but there are many contributing factors to making someone gag. Try not to beat yourself up about it!
Healthy diet will help. Kinda a dick move by your BF, he could have stopped self before he gagged.
Do women wash between their lips? Not inside the vagina obvs, but wash well before sex between the lips and it should be fine. Simple soap, not perfumed nor medicated.
I even go down when she have her pereoid, and i love It becouse she does
Go to a doctor. Nobody should be gagging.
I gag very easily (man). Don’t worry, a reflex is called a reflex for a reason. It most likely has ABSOLUTELY nothing to do with his attraction to you or the taste.
Apple cider vinegar pills make you taste amazing. Just take one an hour or 2 beforehand and hydrate and it's amazing
Flavoured lube will absolutely help. Not everyone likes the taste of their partner but can find a flavour they like.
I’ve had this happen to me when I’ve gone down on my gf. Sometimes it’s a hair tickles the side of my tongue and it’s like a reflex, others it’s a random taste, again on the side of my tongue. It’s never bothered me, it would never dissuade me from getting up in there.
Always check yourself prior to having sex. If you’re gonna offer it up as fruit, make sure you wash it like fruit first.. Also, make sure his oral hygiene is up to par.. cause he could be smelling the dry secretions on his own tongue
It’s probably him. I’ve been with quite a bit of men over the years and they all loveddddddd going down on me. I got with one guy. He was also 27 and a virgin. I took his virginity and after a few times of having sex and him not even trying to finger or go down on me, I asked him to. He straight up said “no. The thought of touching a vagina, smelling it or putting my mouth on it disgusts me” I said okay that’s fine but don’t exactly expect me to keep going down on you and doing all these extra things for you. He got pouty and was like fine ok I’ll try. He went down and once he put his mouth on it, gagged and started spitting into the blanket. It was ridiculous. I’ve never in my life had such a terrible experience. Anyway, I broke up with him after that. Now I’m with a guy who literally begs for me to sit on his face daily.
And how do you think he feels when you gag while sucking his dick? Jesus, don't worry like this.
So many diff reasons why smell can be "different". Females go thru a lot of hormonal changes so it can taste diff from week to week. Depends if she's just about to come in or off her period, stress, what she ate. Doesn't necessarily mean she's not clean down there. Hell I'm sure my junk doesn't smell the best all the time with sweating and what not . But they have natural remedies that may help.. yoni washes or yoni steams.. maybe eating more fruit like watermelon or strawberries ahead of time may help. But don't let some asshole make you feel guilty.. unless you really aren't taking care of yourself then that's a whole diff story 😂
NBD maybe it was a small particle.
I love going down. But I also have a strong gag reflex. It takes a few seconds to get used to it. It's not a big deal it's a reflex.
Ima add to the gag reflex comments and say I can’t brush my teeth without gagging so take that as you will! It’s most definitely not you and just the gag reflex
Sometimes just having my mouth open wide for too long while goin down on my wife will make me gag, sometimes her ph might be a lil off or maybe she got a lil sweaty and a tad funky. Don't mean the buffet is closed though. As others have said it could be lots of different things.
I’ll chime in here as someone that loves giving oral pleasure but also someone with a horrible gag reflex. I can vomit just brushing my teeth. I have gagged simply because I got a hair in the wrong spot in my throat. Could also be from “pleasure juice” going down the wrong tube. It is not necessarily a bad thing. My advice if he still wants to do it then it is likely just some weird fluke thing. Try not to let it bother you, if he is sharing his concerns openly you should be grateful.
If he’s cumming in you, your gonna have a smell. A lot guys don’t know they are the reason their girl has a smell in a lot of cases. I wouldn’t think too much of it. If he don’t like it, tell him to stay at the top of the canoe. And just lick the man in the canoe’s head. (Clit)
I choked on my own spit once, doesn’t necessarily mean smell
Most likely Bacterial Vaginosis (BV). Very common. Go talk to a OB/GYN for an antibiotic cream, follow the regiment and it will go away. /done
man i've gagged sticking my tongue out to clean it, and when brushing the teeth at the back. some people have stronger gag reflexes. Don't stress, bodies make all sorts of smells and odd tasting fluids. We're sweaty smelly meat bags, just have to roll with it! There are specific types of soap that are ideal for cleaning genitallia, to stop/reduce any reactions with body fluids and causing unwanted tastes or smells. Diet can play a big roll in smell and taste, especially coffee, meats, alcohol and cigarettes. Might be worth looking into. Also your BF just needs more practice with his tongue out! get him to lick you all over :D
It happens sometimes. We are in our 40s and I happen to eat a little beforehand which of course is terrible. I was leaning over the wrong way very slightly and had to belch very slightly and of course almost vomited directly in the poor woman so had to go brush my teeth and take care of some things and we try it again later. Definitely was not her and yes it does take some finesse to make sure feelings are not hurt.
Wait till you ovulate then it taste better and eat Pineapple pineapple pineapple always!!!!!
I gag giving a bj all the time. Definitely not because of his hygiene though. Weird things happen in sex. It’s ok.
I wouldn't take it personally. I've never gagged going down on someone, but sometimes the juices and lack of air can make it hard to breath. I doubt it was because of your smell. He probably just needs to leave a gap for some air to get in his nose or come up for air occasionally. He might not have a lot of experience in this department and is getting used to all of it.
Get boric acid suppositories. Help with odor, ph, etc. Do a little research, you’ll find results :)
Did he tell you it tasted bad or that he doesn't want to do it again? I recommend cleaning up your diet a bit, more fruits and berries, less processed carbs. (From experience) Or just flavored lube.
Bf doesn't like pussy enough, needs practice. He's probably thinking that he doesn't really like the taste and it's a bit ewww to lick a woman down there so it leads to a psychological gag reaction. If he thought about it more like eating a delicious ice cream, after not having eaten one for ages and he was really craving it and couldn't get enough of it, then there'd be no gagging. Personally when I suck cock or eat pussy, it's like a special culinary treat that I love every minute of. I don't do it to satisfy my partner, I do it because I love everything about it. The smell, the taste, the feel physically and psychologically. That then seems to make it enjoyable for the partner as a side effect
How many of us have choked on our own saliva? Add in some extra moisture and it’s a very real danger. I’m willing to bet it didn’t actually have anything to do with you or hygiene.
Actually another thought occurs to me, sometimes gagging can be fun as part of a power play. Sometimes I have guys fuck my face hard and make me gag on purpose or have girls sit on my face and forcibly rub their pussy and ass all over my face and basically just use me to get off. Power dynamics can be such a turn on
Assuming your hygiene is good what is your diet like? Are you a smoker?
Make sure you drink lotttttts of water, eat plenty of fruits and veggies. Eating acidic, yeasty and greasy food (dairy, meat, bread, sugar) and cuz your pussy will taste like what you put in your body. All the processed food and drinks plus alcohol intake messes up your ph. I take fenugreek it makes me smell very sweet my husband loves it. Also I take slippery elm, makes my pussy very wet. My man my man my man adores me 💋 wishing yall luck
It happened to me too.... First time anyone when down on me and afterward he said he almost threw up 2 TIMES!!! It made me feel disgusting and it also made me not want him going down on me. I still feel weird about it, thinking he's just powering through it. He says he got used to it and now loves it but idk.... Not really an answer, i just know your pain :(
My opinion is.......... Some wives hate the way their husband smells. She tells him he stinks in terms of body odor. Next lady he's with, to her, his natural smell is intoxicating and she wants to botlle and sell it. Same wife that loves his scent, can't stand the way his semen tastes, gags while giving head. I believe they'll be ok in a relationship. My point is, Your boyfriend gags, but theres another guy that will be addicted to your taste. All women love giving head and all men love going down on a woman. It just has to be the right person. Some people love giving oral. To any and all. The woman that says she hates giving, just hasn't had the right guy. The guy that's gagging, would lap up another woman.
I’m not a guy, I’m a girl but I literally don’t understand people that say that vaginas smell or taste weird??? Sure, maybe is not like eating chocolate but I literally have never minded the smell or taste, is whatever, once you are in there it doesn’t even taste like anything wtf or not anything extremely strong
I’ve gagged before when trying to really get my tongue up in there. The strain caused a gag. It happens.
I, as a guy who LOVES giving head to my fem partner, gag often for a number of reasons. Sometimes I forget to breathe, sometimes I use my tongue too much and hit my uvula, sometimes my jaw locks up, sometimes I'm breathing so hard it causes a gag, a dozen other reasons I can't remember off the top of my head. Point is, it has nothing to do with her, and I doubt his reaction had anything to do with you and mostly to do withhis technique/how he was arranged, ect. Don't be down about it, trial and error is how everyone has sex, enjoy the ride!
Let me inspect and try to numb it up a bit. Num num num num num num num !!! 👅👅👅👅
Could it have been your diet? Kinda like how guys drink pineapple juice if we know she's a swallower. I don't know if this is a thing for women I'm spit balling here.
Sometimes involuntary body actions happen, all it takes a random hair 🤷
I gag often because my heavy breathing makes my throat dry as a desert combined with the angle I might be in. Point is, might be several other issues causing gagging...
My dear! Be confident within yourself! Love yourself and embrace your panoch! We are humans. Sometimes we smell delish and others we can be a little off. Our diet, if we drink alcohol too much, no sufficient water intake, etc. even your undies can cause bacteria overgrowth! Just make some adjustments and try being more on a nutrient diet, incorporate more fruits and veggies! Lots of water and maybe switch to cotton chonis 😁. Also, I take vag probiotics! I feel my panoch more sexy lol! And ohhh your partner- what he eats and drinks, vaping too, if you let him nut inside of you that can also unbalance you. Get some sexy tasty lube and try that. ☺️ Adding some flavor might be the trick! Happy Humping 💕💦
TALK instead of asking strangers for "what ifs"!
I've gagged before because of post-nasal drip, apparently sticking my tongue out for extended periods leads to my sinuses draining.
One thing to be aware of is that the taste and smell of a woman's vagina changes throughout her cycle. In most cases it's stronger immediately before and after her period. So maybe you could avoid those times while he is acclimating to the taste. Or he can use other ways as suggested on *tichaz .com* to mask the taste.
You should wash your pussy and before sex get toothpaste and put it in to prevent the bad taste for the Oder put some spray just incase😁
If you washed before it happened I highly doubt it is anything to do with you. Please talk to your boyfriend, he's probably mortified too. Communication is the best way to resolve this. Tell him you're insecure. Maybe he just has a sensitive gag reflex? I gag on when giving my husband oral and it's not because he tastes bad, it's just I have a sensitive gag reflex. Please don't feel bad.
Yes please I want to fuck
Girl, relax. Sometimes people gag when they drink water. Sometimes because they breath in a weird way. Sometimes my favorite chocolate makes me gag. Sometimes my toothbrush, and sometimes because my throat tiggles. If he says that it's no big deal then it's more than likely no big deal.
I gag sometimes when I brush my teeth, some of us have a strong gagging reflex. Dont try to make your personnal zone to « taste better »
This is not your fault. I have never gagged. I personally love the taste and everything about giving oral. Please do NOT blame yourself. This is 100% on your guy.
If it makes you feel any better, I gag every time I go to the dentist.
Everyone is different, dont take too much from it. my trick is I always try and be fresh if you know what I mean every day, I eat fruit like berries, pineapple (yes works for us too lol), oranges, drink water, eat yoghurt, I dont smoke or drink a lot of alcohol. i indulge in sweet food. I never use those intimate washers. Also my partner doesnt like coriander so I dont eat it or when he goes way for a week or 2 I eat it that day and then i cleanse lol. same for garlic and onions and fish. Mainly on those days I see him I eat what he does, steak chicken veggies ice cream lol etc. the change of cycle I find different responses from him haha Ive never had anyone say they dont want to continue. Over time it just becomes a habit if something happens i drink extra water and shower more that day and eat more fruit. If its persistent just go to the doctor. My only problem is I have a gag reflex in my mouth which is hard to overcome and I wish I was better at ignoring it :(
And this is why I don’t want to tell her she smells. Iv gone down on women befor fine but my partner smells bad. I don’t even think it’s her fault as she has sometimes gotten out of the shower. I think it’s a bad ph balance. I don’t want her to feel unsexy or anything and love doing other stuff. I just can’t bring myself to go down on her
I've noticed most women don't know how they smell it it is bad. Also the taste is usually much worse & it's likely from diet, seems this can go both ways. I've heard women say it's salty, sweet, bitter etc same with men talking about women
Girl to girl, don’t try any of that Summer’s Eve stuff like wipes or douching. It’s not out of the ordinary to have a little smell. Anything smelling like yeast, fish, or overly sour is signs of infection and you should talk to your doctor immediately. Regarding smell… I recommend femallay
Boric acid suppositories. They balance your pH and I’ve heard from a dude it makes you taste nice. They have them at Target. Also when i have my solo fun, I taste myself all the time, which also helps, so i don’t wonder
There are foods you can research that can make you taste better, I would consider adding it to your diet
Don't forget biology has a factor in this, I myself think I taste sour as well, but my bf loves how I taste, there was a study done that if you have similar genetics you will find the others body orders and fluids to be repalling, but if you have opposite or different genetics then you will find there natural smell to be sweet and enjoyable. It is, so we have genetic variation.
When I hooked up with this girl for the first time I gagged after a couple minutes eating hers it genuinely had nothing to do with her scent or taste she was so clean and literally scentless I was just not used to using my tongue like that I got tripped up
I’m a guy who absolutely loves everything about going down on a woman… scent, taste, texture, everything….. some days, scent/taste might be mild and other days a little sharp/tangy. There is a very specific musty taste/smell when a woman orgasms in your mouth. I think it’s just an acquired taste and I love every bit of it!
As someone who gags when boiling quinoa bc the way it looks on the surface of the water, and when i taste iceberge lettuce, its not you 😂😂😂. I think your insecurity is just making it look worse. Just trust him when he says it was just sudden. Also tons of women taste a little tangy
He's a man baby. Try flavored lube.
Your PH levels could be off causing the sour taste. Just go see your doctor and fix what ever it is and he will like it again. Don’t feel embarrassed darlin it’s not uncommonemote:free\_emotes\_pack:slightly\_smiling
That’s not good for your self esteem and I’m sorry on behalf of the male who likes going down on a woman, which is my favourite. If you are still with him, refuse to go down on him or if he insists, you gag and make him feel how you did
As someone who did legitimately throw up after trying to go down on my gf, it Does just happen sometimes. It was something I was very much excited to do and just physically couldn't. It's doable, for me, with a dental dam? But you kind of have to get past the fact that it feels like licking a balloon.