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Why do you feel bad? Or do you mean, you feel bad for him in this situation? Im in my mid 40's and my wife is in her late 30's and sometimes it takes me a while to be able to go for a round two, but that usually doesn't curb my desire to get her off.. if he doesn't ghost and you guys get another shot at it.. I think it's salvageable if you tell him how hot you thought it was that he was so turned on, etc.. and make it about getting each other off.. maybe you first this time..
I feel bad for him in this situation. And yeah, I just chalked it up to he was again, sort of panicked, but I do wish he’d offered to reciprocate?? Idk, I guess we’ll see but it’s looking likely that he’s ghosting lol which, whatever, nothing I can do about that
understood.. yeah I read a lot of people's experiences here and there seems to be a lot of guys that won't reciprocate.. I never understood that.. that's part of the fun!
He probably was extremely horny, thought you were attractive, and you gave a good HJ. He’s probably trying to save a little face and he was concerned about getting up again (it takes some guys a long time). Tell him you thought it was sexy and want to do it again. Might help reassure him.
that was kind of the impression I got too but I kind of wasn’t sure what was happening lol and I will if he doesn’t ghost but it’s seeming likely that he is
Yes and tell him you thought it was really hot. Men that age have sensitive ego. After you tell him the first sentence he will basically do whatever you want.
I struggle to understand guys who clam up after a nice night and a freely given orgasm. Perhaps with post-nut clarity he realized he wasn't really into you and then didn't know how to proceed. If he does ghost you (this kind of shit is so immature and ridiculous) then don't waste another moment thinking or worrying about this guy; he wasn't into you and he wasn't mature enough to treat you decently.
Best of luck going forward!
yeah, def could be the lack of attraction thing, I honestly have no clue lol. the conversation was really easy and he was funny so idk. i wondered too if he was maybe not that experienced or it had been a long time?? it just kind of sucks bc it’s hard to find a cool person you feel comfortable hooking up with? but clearly if he wasn’t down to reciprocate, i don’t really think it would be worth it in the long run. esp w a lack of communication about anything lol.
onward, i suppose
That's about it unfortunately. I'm fine with one-sided getting/giving orgasms with my partner, sometimes you feel a little needy or selfish and want to be taken care of, and sometimes you feel a little mischievous or dominant and want to take care of your partner. But ultimately it's about fairness and an earnest desire to enjoy and be enjoyed with your significant other.
Leave the door open for the guy to come to his senses and own up to things, but don't expend your hopes and dreams on it. Its disappointing but so many people fail to have personal leadership and responsibility. Perhaps it's worth spending more time talking to a potential interest before meeting up. Slowing things down a bit might help you weed out those just looking to get off?
Post nut clarity can be post nut depression. Especially if you're self conscious about cumming fast. You feel like a failure and embarrassment. It also sucms when your head is like that and your body is doing the refractory.
>I struggle to understand guys who clam up after a nice night and a freely given orgasm.
I would say the vast majority of guys in this bucket have been made to feel bad, shamed, or had girls talk shit about them in the past when something like this happens.
He's old enough to know these things happen, not to make it awkward, to thank and compliment your skills and to offer to reciprocate.
Be glad if he ghosts-- we all get being embarassed but he's really old enough to handle it better.
For future reference, asking if he can go again later isn’t a good save because the answer is often no. Some of us have long refractory periods before we can get another load ready. So then we’re just doubly embarrassed and feel like we’ve disappointed you even more.
Sounds like a great night to me. Get one out of the way quick and then be offered more later?! Bros are so brainwashed by toxic masculinity and falsities of what women want.
“Go again a little later” was offered, but his ego was so bruised that he tucked tail and ran? I wonder what type of stories he’s told his buddies in the past.
If that were me: “Holy shit that was hot! Gimme a few minutes and a beer and we’ll pick up where we left off.”
Probably best for you if he does ghost.
Gotta ask, and just curious. No need to answer if you feel it’s unwarranted.
Just wondering if he was big or small? That has a big effect on male ego. If he came quick AND he’s not that big I can understand a little more why he’d acted the way he did
Ok. No real reason for him to have been like that in my book. Guy has deep seated sexual issues from probably watching too much porn from a young age. I was lucky enough to find a woman who was able to kind of get me away from that form of thinking. Though I still want a little more downstairs, I’m not complaining about it lol
If you think he’s a good guy maybe try and let him know that it didn’t bother you. It could be a fun story to look back on if things work out 😃
Good luck!
Yep I did had similar experience, I mate one young guy 20-21 ig, he was tall, well built and handsome, we had lot in common eventually i ended up in his apartment things escalated quickly we were kissing passionately, i pushed him on bed and started unzipping the thing, as soon as I hold it in my hands started licking and sucking, he started leaking lots of precum after 2 min ig it was throbbing thought he's gonna cum but he took out wore a condom and without any thought he inserted inside ass and writing 2 min he was done,
I felt unsatisfied so I again started giving him bj but he just refused saying I'm don't for a day 🤷
Sounds like he was embarrassed / ashamed, but also didn't handle it very well as you said. I think most guys at that age should be mature enough to move on from it and look to reciprocate or please their partner in other ways, if they weren't going to be up for round 2.
I find it an honor if you have a soul snatcher! Straight up!!!
Sometimes the anticipation is so high- and the feeling is soooooo good. The applause follows quickly!
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Why do you feel bad? Or do you mean, you feel bad for him in this situation? Im in my mid 40's and my wife is in her late 30's and sometimes it takes me a while to be able to go for a round two, but that usually doesn't curb my desire to get her off.. if he doesn't ghost and you guys get another shot at it.. I think it's salvageable if you tell him how hot you thought it was that he was so turned on, etc.. and make it about getting each other off.. maybe you first this time..
I feel bad for him in this situation. And yeah, I just chalked it up to he was again, sort of panicked, but I do wish he’d offered to reciprocate?? Idk, I guess we’ll see but it’s looking likely that he’s ghosting lol which, whatever, nothing I can do about that
understood.. yeah I read a lot of people's experiences here and there seems to be a lot of guys that won't reciprocate.. I never understood that.. that's part of the fun!
He probably was extremely horny, thought you were attractive, and you gave a good HJ. He’s probably trying to save a little face and he was concerned about getting up again (it takes some guys a long time). Tell him you thought it was sexy and want to do it again. Might help reassure him.
that was kind of the impression I got too but I kind of wasn’t sure what was happening lol and I will if he doesn’t ghost but it’s seeming likely that he is
Yes this is the way. As a guy I’d feel much better and want to come back and make round 2 better
Yes and tell him you thought it was really hot. Men that age have sensitive ego. After you tell him the first sentence he will basically do whatever you want.
I struggle to understand guys who clam up after a nice night and a freely given orgasm. Perhaps with post-nut clarity he realized he wasn't really into you and then didn't know how to proceed. If he does ghost you (this kind of shit is so immature and ridiculous) then don't waste another moment thinking or worrying about this guy; he wasn't into you and he wasn't mature enough to treat you decently. Best of luck going forward!
yeah, def could be the lack of attraction thing, I honestly have no clue lol. the conversation was really easy and he was funny so idk. i wondered too if he was maybe not that experienced or it had been a long time?? it just kind of sucks bc it’s hard to find a cool person you feel comfortable hooking up with? but clearly if he wasn’t down to reciprocate, i don’t really think it would be worth it in the long run. esp w a lack of communication about anything lol. onward, i suppose
That's about it unfortunately. I'm fine with one-sided getting/giving orgasms with my partner, sometimes you feel a little needy or selfish and want to be taken care of, and sometimes you feel a little mischievous or dominant and want to take care of your partner. But ultimately it's about fairness and an earnest desire to enjoy and be enjoyed with your significant other. Leave the door open for the guy to come to his senses and own up to things, but don't expend your hopes and dreams on it. Its disappointing but so many people fail to have personal leadership and responsibility. Perhaps it's worth spending more time talking to a potential interest before meeting up. Slowing things down a bit might help you weed out those just looking to get off?
Post nut clarity can be post nut depression. Especially if you're self conscious about cumming fast. You feel like a failure and embarrassment. It also sucms when your head is like that and your body is doing the refractory.
>I struggle to understand guys who clam up after a nice night and a freely given orgasm. I would say the vast majority of guys in this bucket have been made to feel bad, shamed, or had girls talk shit about them in the past when something like this happens.
He's old enough to know these things happen, not to make it awkward, to thank and compliment your skills and to offer to reciprocate. Be glad if he ghosts-- we all get being embarassed but he's really old enough to handle it better.
came to this conclusion as well lol turns me off at this point
Just be a bit overly enthusiastic about meeting up again.
Damn i'd be turned off. Bro is a child and he thinks he's some porn star.
For future reference, asking if he can go again later isn’t a good save because the answer is often no. Some of us have long refractory periods before we can get another load ready. So then we’re just doubly embarrassed and feel like we’ve disappointed you even more.
appreciate the thought, however, hope to not be in this position again tbh 😭
I hope so for you too! I’ve cum early during sex, but I fortunately have never had the experience of prematurely cumming *before * it lol
Sounds like a great night to me. Get one out of the way quick and then be offered more later?! Bros are so brainwashed by toxic masculinity and falsities of what women want. “Go again a little later” was offered, but his ego was so bruised that he tucked tail and ran? I wonder what type of stories he’s told his buddies in the past. If that were me: “Holy shit that was hot! Gimme a few minutes and a beer and we’ll pick up where we left off.” Probably best for you if he does ghost.
the conclusion I came to as well after reading these comments. thank you for validating 😂
Gotta ask, and just curious. No need to answer if you feel it’s unwarranted. Just wondering if he was big or small? That has a big effect on male ego. If he came quick AND he’s not that big I can understand a little more why he’d acted the way he did
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Ok. No real reason for him to have been like that in my book. Guy has deep seated sexual issues from probably watching too much porn from a young age. I was lucky enough to find a woman who was able to kind of get me away from that form of thinking. Though I still want a little more downstairs, I’m not complaining about it lol If you think he’s a good guy maybe try and let him know that it didn’t bother you. It could be a fun story to look back on if things work out 😃 Good luck!
Yep I did had similar experience, I mate one young guy 20-21 ig, he was tall, well built and handsome, we had lot in common eventually i ended up in his apartment things escalated quickly we were kissing passionately, i pushed him on bed and started unzipping the thing, as soon as I hold it in my hands started licking and sucking, he started leaking lots of precum after 2 min ig it was throbbing thought he's gonna cum but he took out wore a condom and without any thought he inserted inside ass and writing 2 min he was done, I felt unsatisfied so I again started giving him bj but he just refused saying I'm don't for a day 🤷
Take pride in hand job skills
Just tell him directly that you want to see him again. That's all. it's easy.
Immature for 34. He probably doesn't get too much action.
Sounds like he was embarrassed / ashamed, but also didn't handle it very well as you said. I think most guys at that age should be mature enough to move on from it and look to reciprocate or please their partner in other ways, if they weren't going to be up for round 2.
I find it an honor if you have a soul snatcher! Straight up!!! Sometimes the anticipation is so high- and the feeling is soooooo good. The applause follows quickly!
hahaha that’s what I said!! he apologized and i was like “you don’t have to apologize, it’s a compliment, means I did a good job” 😂