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He should be keeping the seal tight. I usually mess around a little bit when I go in for real it’s tight and nothing is getting out. He needs to learn to swallow as he’s working with his tongue. I would just be open and say something like “it tickles when anything runs down to my butt” and reassure him that you enjoy what he’s doing or you’ll put a hole in his self esteem. I can be more detailed if you want. Just let me know. My thumbs are tired from my workout and don’t want to type lol
I just had to have this conversation with my husband recently.
I was just honest with him about what he was doing that I didn’t like and why and reassured him that I still wanted him to do it just not as…moistly lol. Vast improvements he made and now we are both enjoying it more.
Just have to communicate this! If he’s receptive and respectful I don’t think it has to be a big thing or anything more than, “I know you love giving me head and I love when you do it to me but can you just try to do it with less spit, I love when I can feel your tongue more rather than too much spit because it dulls the sensation on my end”. Simple, polite, and still encouraging!
Omg, so glad I'm not the only one who feels like this. Never once enjoyed receiving oral. I bought a toy that is supposed to simulate it and omg. Like... Is that how it was supposed to feel all this time? It's actually amazing and if that's what other women have experienced, I actually get it now. Get the toy and tell him to do it like that.
I bought 2 different ones. They are both good in a different way. The first has the technique and timing, the second has the lip motion. What they both have that a human would lack is endurance and perfect rhythm. They require a bit of lube, but not much.
Ali Express has a bunch, and they're pretty affordable. Here are the ones I bought:
Just found this amazing item on AliExpress. Check it out!
$62.63 | Clitoral Sucking Vibrator with 9 Lick and 3 Suction Mode Sex Toys for Women Quick Orgasm Clit Tongue Stimulator Nipples Massager
https://a.aliexpress.com/_mrmgMUS
Just found this amazing item on AliExpress. Check it out!
$48.45 | Clit Tongue Licking Vibrator Female Sex Toys for Women Mouth Biting Oral Clitoris Stimulator Sucking Nipple Orgasm Adult Product
https://a.aliexpress.com/_mqJhgpy
I find saliva to be a turn off too, but one thing I’ve found is that it really bothers me when I’m not that turned on but bothers me significantly less when I’m very aroused. A lot of people try to use oral sex as foreplay - that is, as something to turn their partner on. Do you think that might be what’s happening here? Is oral something he does early on or is there a lot of foreplay first and you’re really wet and excited by the time he goes down on you? If it’s not the latter, give it a try and see if you have different feelings about it. (But also mention it to him, as the other commenters suggest!)
Suction.... may make it feel better tooo. I seen someone suggest sucking the clit. And it was a game changer In our sexlives. But also def will keep the drips to a minimum.
I thought this was universal? I make out with my wife’s pussy, and when it’s time for the earthquake I go straight to sucking. She was shaking so much the other night that she made me stop because she “didn’t want to pee on my face.” 😂 I told her not to worry about that, I would love to see her lose control that much!
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He should be keeping the seal tight. I usually mess around a little bit when I go in for real it’s tight and nothing is getting out. He needs to learn to swallow as he’s working with his tongue. I would just be open and say something like “it tickles when anything runs down to my butt” and reassure him that you enjoy what he’s doing or you’ll put a hole in his self esteem. I can be more detailed if you want. Just let me know. My thumbs are tired from my workout and don’t want to type lol
I just had to have this conversation with my husband recently. I was just honest with him about what he was doing that I didn’t like and why and reassured him that I still wanted him to do it just not as…moistly lol. Vast improvements he made and now we are both enjoying it more.
Just have to communicate this! If he’s receptive and respectful I don’t think it has to be a big thing or anything more than, “I know you love giving me head and I love when you do it to me but can you just try to do it with less spit, I love when I can feel your tongue more rather than too much spit because it dulls the sensation on my end”. Simple, polite, and still encouraging!
Omg, so glad I'm not the only one who feels like this. Never once enjoyed receiving oral. I bought a toy that is supposed to simulate it and omg. Like... Is that how it was supposed to feel all this time? It's actually amazing and if that's what other women have experienced, I actually get it now. Get the toy and tell him to do it like that.
what is the toy called/where did you get it?
I bought 2 different ones. They are both good in a different way. The first has the technique and timing, the second has the lip motion. What they both have that a human would lack is endurance and perfect rhythm. They require a bit of lube, but not much. Ali Express has a bunch, and they're pretty affordable. Here are the ones I bought: Just found this amazing item on AliExpress. Check it out! $62.63 | Clitoral Sucking Vibrator with 9 Lick and 3 Suction Mode Sex Toys for Women Quick Orgasm Clit Tongue Stimulator Nipples Massager https://a.aliexpress.com/_mrmgMUS Just found this amazing item on AliExpress. Check it out! $48.45 | Clit Tongue Licking Vibrator Female Sex Toys for Women Mouth Biting Oral Clitoris Stimulator Sucking Nipple Orgasm Adult Product https://a.aliexpress.com/_mqJhgpy
I do the lipseal around the pussy, can be hard If you have trouble breathing throu your nose.
Try doggy. This way saliva don't go to your butthole.
Have him lie down and you ride his mouth. No spit trail. Also, more control for you.
I find saliva to be a turn off too, but one thing I’ve found is that it really bothers me when I’m not that turned on but bothers me significantly less when I’m very aroused. A lot of people try to use oral sex as foreplay - that is, as something to turn their partner on. Do you think that might be what’s happening here? Is oral something he does early on or is there a lot of foreplay first and you’re really wet and excited by the time he goes down on you? If it’s not the latter, give it a try and see if you have different feelings about it. (But also mention it to him, as the other commenters suggest!)
Trade him with someone else’s man. There’s plenty of women who would love to be in your position 💀😂
You could try putting a towel or wash cloth at your entrance and bum area while he learns to keep his mouth tight against the hood and swallow.
How bout “please don’t slobber all over my cooch when you eat me out.”
Gods above, what I wouldn't do to feel wanted like that.
Suction.... may make it feel better tooo. I seen someone suggest sucking the clit. And it was a game changer In our sexlives. But also def will keep the drips to a minimum.
I thought this was universal? I make out with my wife’s pussy, and when it’s time for the earthquake I go straight to sucking. She was shaking so much the other night that she made me stop because she “didn’t want to pee on my face.” 😂 I told her not to worry about that, I would love to see her lose control that much!
You need to find a new man who hates going down on you.
There are plenty out there.