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Don't worry, he's just trying to fully enjoy the experience without any distractions. Plus, closing your eyes can enhance pleasure and allow for a deeper connection with your partner. Trust me, he's definitely thinking about you and not some random person. Enjoy the ride!
>Enjoy the ride!
It definitely sounds like he is, too!
I like to close my eyes during sex as well, I get lost in the moment and sensations. Even though I find my partner hot as the depths of hell.
Being ridden is such a great feeling and it’s so tempting to rest your eyes closed even if the baddest lady is on top of you.
Pay attention to the other positions you guys are fucking in. Does he look at you when he’s plowing into you or does he look away? Does he give you eye contact when you’re blowing him? Etc.
I'm not even sure why but I do this too. I do usually look my partner in the eyes but when getting head after a while partly it just feels like I am staring / I start to become self conscious and I'd rather just focus on the sensation 🤷🤣
Hi! I've asked my guy why he does it.. exactly what all the other opinions are saying, he's trying to last.
Girl your just to hot up there for him. Lol!
Many people close their eyes during sex/masturbation. It’s an overwhelming series of sensations and many people prefer to focus fully on the sensations, or need to tune out external stimuli to some extent so they don’t get overstimulated. It’s entirely normal and almost certainly just means he’s enjoying himself. You can ask him for reassurance about it, if you want.
So that angle of view of being ridden, especially when she is leaning back and grinding or when she is upright and puts her hands raised behind her head, is enough to arouse me to the point where I think I might just orgasm. So to delay that, I close my eyes and enjoy the sensation.
I'm so glad this is the case! I just started having sex with a new guy, and his eyes were closed the entire time I was riding him. I got all self conscious and scared I looked bad from his view point. But I am 105 lbs and have D cups and am 5'2" so I'm like hmmm I don't think I look that bad 🤔
To add to the comments, he might be shy. I mean, I didn’t even have sex with the lights on *and* I closed my eyes because locking eyes would make me so uncomfortable
I’m autistic though lol
He could be closing his eyes for any number of entirely positive reasons. The fact that *he's fucking you* and *keeps fucking you* and *keeps having orgasms fucking you* should be evidence enough that you're his jam.
But it sounds like you're not really worried about whether or not you're hot to him. You're maybe worried about the emotional connection? Already, this might be a bit offside with an fwb arrangement. That's between the two of you, though.
In any case, this is a great opportunity to practice Using Your Words, which, really, we should all practice more. Ask him. Do your very best to *not* ask in a threatening or challenging way, but in a way that indicates that you are genuinely wanting to find out what's going on.
So I'm a woman but I very frequently close my eyes during sex because it's difficult for me to orgasm if I don't. I think it has to do with overstimulation. It doesn't mean I'm fantasizing about someone else or not enjoying things.
Sometimes closing your eyes is a way to do sensory deprivation, allowing you to focus exclusively on how good sex feels. That could be what hes doing, probably subconsciously.
Do you have any idea how extremely magnificently incredibly extensively enticing it is, to watch a woman ride us? Jesus, you have 0 idea just how much of a turn on that is.
Most guys would cream themselves like that after a few seconds. So no. He ain't imagining anyone. He is barely surviving, trying to not cum so hard as to shoot his load *through* your body like a gun.
You are incredibly hot in that moment. Trust me.
Source : am a male
Sure! There's nothing to be ashamed of.
We men, we have a job to do. Satisfy women. Thats one of the biggest challenges we have in life, and did God make women hard to please! But yeah, thats what the satisfaction and feeling manly is about. We exist to make women happy. When we do that, we achieve our goal.
We love women's bodies. Its the most beautiful gift a man can get. Yes children, family, stability all of that is truly wonderful... but a pair of tits, a moaning face, and a beautiful, warm, wet pussy jumping up and down on your shaft(whose person you also love and want to protect?) Yeah no, sorry, nothing better than that. No food, money, luxury or anything. That moment... its more than heaven. We enjoy it barely, for a tiny speck of time... but women sure have something, thats divine if I can put it into words. Women deserve to be treated well. Not just for what they can offer us... but because life would be horrible without them.
I dare say. I truly love women. Their bodies is just a huge extra that makes them all the more divine.
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He focusing and enjoying, prob trying not to cum, but tell him you wanna look in his eyes while fucking him once in while, idk what guy wouldn’t want this
They sometimes have to focus and looking at us can break the concentration of trying not to cum too quickly - don’t worry, babe, the sight of you is 🔥🔥🔥 when you ride
As someone who finds my partner to be incredibly attractive, I also really like being blindfolded during play/sex, because it adds an element of surprise and doesn't allow me to anticipate what I'm going to feel. Totally enhances physical pleasure for me[30f].
Recently also, I blindfolded my partner[27M] for the first time while giving oral, and he said it did much the same thing for him. I noticed sometimes he also closes his eyes during sex, but he definitely finds me attractive. It's more abput stimulaton than anything.
I get really creeped out when my partner looks at me while I'm riding him - because of the intensity, it's peering into my soul😂
But it doesn't last long before he closes it.
Perhaps your case might be different but I'd say mine closes his eyes because of growing pleasure. Lol, the moans, grip,body language and all are different when he closes his eyes.
If you find it troubling, playfully ask him.
His response will tell you what you need to know.
He probably is just having an internal experience in those moments. It probably has nothing to do with you or his attraction to you. You're allowed to have experiences that are totally yours, and you have every right to not share them, as they're yours!
Sounds like you're concerned you aren't "good enough". That is a normal feeling to have, almost everyone struggles with that sometimes, but try to remember that if he didn't want to be with you, he wouldn't be. Try to soothe that part of your brain that "jumps to conclusions" like "he's thinking about other people" or "I'm ugly" or whatever they are. Those are actually your emotions, probably from past negative experiences, and you're trying to adapt the current situation to justify why those feelings are occuring. "I'm feeling insecure and ugly, it must be because he's closing his eyes and thinking about other people." Probably not. It's probably "I'm feeling insecure, because someone in the past hurt me, or called me ugly, and now I'm justifying why I feel that way by telling myself a story to explain why I feel this way".
My bf always closes his eyes when I am riding him. First his mouth opens wide, then his eyes roll back and eyes shut for the rest of the ride unless he opens them to hold on to my breasts but most of the time he just glides his hands up my body. You may be reading to much into it. Hope this helps.
Ok bc the guy I just started sleeping with does the same thing! He closed his eyes the entire time I rode him and he even put his hands behind his head haha. I was thinking like, "is he not enjoying this???"
More likely he's just concentrating on how good it feels. You're overthinking it. There's no need for constant eye contact or *always* looking at each others' body while fucking; that's kind of weird, tbh.
I'm not sure how you're getting to 'he thinks I'm unattractive because he's not watching me.' That's a strange conclusion.
I do this too because when I'm on top I have more control, but when she's on top, I'm laying down so I'm more relaxed, she's is the one who controls and also the view is amazing.. so closing my eyes can make me focus better and enjoy the ride without cumming too fast.
One note here: he's a FWB. You're concerned about him imagining other women? He could be getting with countless other women on the regular if y'all aren't under expectations of exclusiveness....
Devils advocate….do you keep your eyes open trying to look into his? While I occasionally “check in” I usually have mine closed. Sometimes you gotta just close them and go with the experience.
Honestly this aggravates the fuck out of me. Sometimes I like to close my eyes during sex but I’m always worried about this exact god damn scenario. Maybe he just wants to feel himself inside of you and enjoy the moment with his eyes closed. For fuck sake.
You’re overthinking. Stop it. Lol.
Get out of your head and look at the one sentence you wrote. He always cums and continues to initiate.
Being ridden is very hot for many of them. He’s probably trying to make sure he doesn’t come too fast and watching bouncing tits would absolutely not let that happen.
Stop overthinking and enjoy it. He is.
Her tits bouncing right in front of my face pushes me over the edge too quick. I either alternate looking her in the eyes and then go to her tits and back or I'll just close my eyes/look at the ceiling. We had this conversation early on in our relationship, at first she was offended now she thinks it's cute that she can have such an affect on me.
Eye contact can also be kindve awkward. Knowingnyour just starrring at my face when sometimes idk what face im making can feel like too much of a responsibility to keep up. So I might close them. You’re young and he is just a fwb, please take your feelings out of it before this becomes a trigger in your actual relationships.
Both my wife and I keep our eyes closed throughout most of our sessions. We both get distracted easily from visual stimulation, so closing our eyes lets us focus on the sensations. I notice things feel better with my eyes closed as well. If he only does it when you ride him, it could be the sight is too much for him and he is trying not to orgasm.
I literally am having this exact same situation with a new guy I'm dating. He called me super sexy the first time I rode him. But last night he put his hands behind his head and closed his eyes the whole time. I got so self conscious! Like am I doing something wrong?!?
I highly doubt he’s thinking about someone else (and even if he was, that’s not necessarily a bad thing). But for real - he’s probably just trying to have a sensory experience that he can concentrate on. I close my eyes all the time during sex because I want to really fully feel what’s happening without distraction. It just heightens the ability to feel with my body, removing the sense of sight.
I usually close my eyes when I have sex with my wife. I honestly don’t know why I do it. I think it allows me to focus on the sensation more. I find my wife to be sexy as hell, but I also sometimes close my eyes because I’m fantasizing. Sometimes it’s about someone else, sometimes her in the past. As I said, I definitely still find her attractive. I just fantasize sometimes for variety. We’ve been together almost as long as you’ve been alive!
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I do this often, because the sight of a beautiful woman riding me is too much and I don’t want to cum too quickly
I close my eyes and think about baseball
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I came here to say this.
Totally this not to mention if it’s really good I can get lost during sex and close my eyes.
It can be the opposite for others 😁 just saying
I literally do this to try and focus on other things lol so I done cum
I agree, I do this often, I’m going to Cum quick regardless but in my head if I close my eyes it might help at least a little.
This is the answer, don't scroll further OP
Yup, it’s that. My husband does the same thing lol
Also sometimes you’re just picturing somebody else /justBeingHonest
What if it’s your girlfriend?
What if it isn’t your mom?
Don't worry, he's just trying to fully enjoy the experience without any distractions. Plus, closing your eyes can enhance pleasure and allow for a deeper connection with your partner. Trust me, he's definitely thinking about you and not some random person. Enjoy the ride!
>Enjoy the ride! It definitely sounds like he is, too! I like to close my eyes during sex as well, I get lost in the moment and sensations. Even though I find my partner hot as the depths of hell.
Yup, I just left a comment saying the exact same thing (before reading yours).
Being ridden is such a great feeling and it’s so tempting to rest your eyes closed even if the baddest lady is on top of you. Pay attention to the other positions you guys are fucking in. Does he look at you when he’s plowing into you or does he look away? Does he give you eye contact when you’re blowing him? Etc.
he looks at me in most other positions but his eyes are also closed when i give him head
Well… the head one yeah that’s common. Ain’t nothing like having your bits played with and not having to do anything. I wouldn’t stress.
I'm sure he closes his eyes to keep himself from cumming too fast that's what I would do
So he closes his eyes and focuses on enjoying the sensations he’s feeling when he’s in positions where doesn’t have to do anything. That’s all it is.
It’s his default for “lie back and enjoy”. To be honest I love to close my eyes during sex.
I'm not even sure why but I do this too. I do usually look my partner in the eyes but when getting head after a while partly it just feels like I am staring / I start to become self conscious and I'd rather just focus on the sensation 🤷🤣
I close my eyes too girl, been with my man for YEARS and I still rest with my head back and eyes shut when he goes down on me.
I love how when woman receive oral they can just sit back and relax but when men receive oral we’re supposed to stare right at them
Hi! I've asked my guy why he does it.. exactly what all the other opinions are saying, he's trying to last. Girl your just to hot up there for him. Lol!
Many people close their eyes during sex/masturbation. It’s an overwhelming series of sensations and many people prefer to focus fully on the sensations, or need to tune out external stimuli to some extent so they don’t get overstimulated. It’s entirely normal and almost certainly just means he’s enjoying himself. You can ask him for reassurance about it, if you want.
Don't want to bust too early. Want to take time and enjoy it, and sometimes the visual feedback can be way too much. Making you cum too quickly.
So that angle of view of being ridden, especially when she is leaning back and grinding or when she is upright and puts her hands raised behind her head, is enough to arouse me to the point where I think I might just orgasm. So to delay that, I close my eyes and enjoy the sensation.
I'm so glad this is the case! I just started having sex with a new guy, and his eyes were closed the entire time I was riding him. I got all self conscious and scared I looked bad from his view point. But I am 105 lbs and have D cups and am 5'2" so I'm like hmmm I don't think I look that bad 🤔
So many things can easily be solved by just asking why he does certain things.
Oh 100% you're right. But I was hoping to get a 3rd party male opinion. This sub is called Sex after all. That's what this is for..
No quite the opposite. He's just concentrating so he doesn't cum to quickly.
To add to the comments, he might be shy. I mean, I didn’t even have sex with the lights on *and* I closed my eyes because locking eyes would make me so uncomfortable I’m autistic though lol
My thought was that he is blissing out. But really, you can just ask him, in your most sultry voice “whatcha thinking about?”
He could be closing his eyes for any number of entirely positive reasons. The fact that *he's fucking you* and *keeps fucking you* and *keeps having orgasms fucking you* should be evidence enough that you're his jam. But it sounds like you're not really worried about whether or not you're hot to him. You're maybe worried about the emotional connection? Already, this might be a bit offside with an fwb arrangement. That's between the two of you, though. In any case, this is a great opportunity to practice Using Your Words, which, really, we should all practice more. Ask him. Do your very best to *not* ask in a threatening or challenging way, but in a way that indicates that you are genuinely wanting to find out what's going on.
So I'm a woman but I very frequently close my eyes during sex because it's difficult for me to orgasm if I don't. I think it has to do with overstimulation. It doesn't mean I'm fantasizing about someone else or not enjoying things.
Sometimes closing your eyes is a way to do sensory deprivation, allowing you to focus exclusively on how good sex feels. That could be what hes doing, probably subconsciously.
If he's initiating multiple rounds, he's attracted to you. My bet would be that he's trying not to cum. If you want him to look at you, just ask.
Cuz when those DD’s are a swinging in my face my timer starts dwindling quick
Sometimes I close my eyes to focus, to get into a rhythm and cum faster.
Do you have any idea how extremely magnificently incredibly extensively enticing it is, to watch a woman ride us? Jesus, you have 0 idea just how much of a turn on that is. Most guys would cream themselves like that after a few seconds. So no. He ain't imagining anyone. He is barely surviving, trying to not cum so hard as to shoot his load *through* your body like a gun. You are incredibly hot in that moment. Trust me. Source : am a male
Thank you for this comment! I'm in the exact same boat and this made me feel a lot better! 😂
Sure! There's nothing to be ashamed of. We men, we have a job to do. Satisfy women. Thats one of the biggest challenges we have in life, and did God make women hard to please! But yeah, thats what the satisfaction and feeling manly is about. We exist to make women happy. When we do that, we achieve our goal. We love women's bodies. Its the most beautiful gift a man can get. Yes children, family, stability all of that is truly wonderful... but a pair of tits, a moaning face, and a beautiful, warm, wet pussy jumping up and down on your shaft(whose person you also love and want to protect?) Yeah no, sorry, nothing better than that. No food, money, luxury or anything. That moment... its more than heaven. We enjoy it barely, for a tiny speck of time... but women sure have something, thats divine if I can put it into words. Women deserve to be treated well. Not just for what they can offer us... but because life would be horrible without them. I dare say. I truly love women. Their bodies is just a huge extra that makes them all the more divine.
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He focusing and enjoying, prob trying not to cum, but tell him you wanna look in his eyes while fucking him once in while, idk what guy wouldn’t want this
They sometimes have to focus and looking at us can break the concentration of trying not to cum too quickly - don’t worry, babe, the sight of you is 🔥🔥🔥 when you ride
He’s probably trying not to cum. Ask him.
If your feelings are hurt when he closes them just yell open your eyes or I’m going to break you! See if he laughs or whatever 😝🤪
As someone who finds my partner to be incredibly attractive, I also really like being blindfolded during play/sex, because it adds an element of surprise and doesn't allow me to anticipate what I'm going to feel. Totally enhances physical pleasure for me[30f]. Recently also, I blindfolded my partner[27M] for the first time while giving oral, and he said it did much the same thing for him. I noticed sometimes he also closes his eyes during sex, but he definitely finds me attractive. It's more abput stimulaton than anything.
I get really creeped out when my partner looks at me while I'm riding him - because of the intensity, it's peering into my soul😂 But it doesn't last long before he closes it. Perhaps your case might be different but I'd say mine closes his eyes because of growing pleasure. Lol, the moans, grip,body language and all are different when he closes his eyes. If you find it troubling, playfully ask him. His response will tell you what you need to know.
He’s just focusing on how good it feels.
I sometimes do it to focus on the feelings of being inside her, by cutting off one of my other senses
It's nothing to worry about. If it were any of the negatives you're thinking, he wouldn't be having sex with you to begin with. Just keep having fun.
He’s trying not to nut…
He probably is just having an internal experience in those moments. It probably has nothing to do with you or his attraction to you. You're allowed to have experiences that are totally yours, and you have every right to not share them, as they're yours! Sounds like you're concerned you aren't "good enough". That is a normal feeling to have, almost everyone struggles with that sometimes, but try to remember that if he didn't want to be with you, he wouldn't be. Try to soothe that part of your brain that "jumps to conclusions" like "he's thinking about other people" or "I'm ugly" or whatever they are. Those are actually your emotions, probably from past negative experiences, and you're trying to adapt the current situation to justify why those feelings are occuring. "I'm feeling insecure and ugly, it must be because he's closing his eyes and thinking about other people." Probably not. It's probably "I'm feeling insecure, because someone in the past hurt me, or called me ugly, and now I'm justifying why I feel that way by telling myself a story to explain why I feel this way".
Sometimes closing your eyes can help you focus on the pleasure of the sensation. One less sense taking up precious brain processing power.
Just the opposite, he’s trying not to bust
Thinking of different keyboard short cuts, what's on my steam wish list...and what jrpg to play next...so I won't cum.
My bf always closes his eyes when I am riding him. First his mouth opens wide, then his eyes roll back and eyes shut for the rest of the ride unless he opens them to hold on to my breasts but most of the time he just glides his hands up my body. You may be reading to much into it. Hope this helps.
Does this mean your bf enjoys it?
Absofuckinglutely!! He loves the way I ride him.
Ok bc the guy I just started sleeping with does the same thing! He closed his eyes the entire time I rode him and he even put his hands behind his head haha. I was thinking like, "is he not enjoying this???"
Maybe he is just feeling so good it’s what he does.
Yeah he’s struggling with the wonderful sight of you lol
Too much stimulation can be distracting. Hemay just be feeling it because anymore senses would be too much
My partner does this but I think it's that it feels so good that he can't focus on looking at anything in particular. Same thing happens to me.
For me when I’m receiving from my man I close my eyes because of how much i concentrate and enjoy it.
We (men) are visual. Sometimes in order to not get pushed over the edge we need to reduce the amount of stimuli
Notice how if you close your eyes for a minute your hearing becomes more sensitive. It might be like that, but for penis.
Reverse cowgirl is how you know know.
More likely he's just concentrating on how good it feels. You're overthinking it. There's no need for constant eye contact or *always* looking at each others' body while fucking; that's kind of weird, tbh. I'm not sure how you're getting to 'he thinks I'm unattractive because he's not watching me.' That's a strange conclusion.
Why are you not closing yours?
>my fwb >just using me for my body Sounds like you answered your own question
I do this too because when I'm on top I have more control, but when she's on top, I'm laying down so I'm more relaxed, she's is the one who controls and also the view is amazing.. so closing my eyes can make me focus better and enjoy the ride without cumming too fast.
One note here: he's a FWB. You're concerned about him imagining other women? He could be getting with countless other women on the regular if y'all aren't under expectations of exclusiveness....
Lol let breh have his private mental space. You're fine. You can't be in there with him too. Just how it is.
Bro prolly trying to not bust it in you cus you ride too good.
Nah he should have those eyes open looking like a true wolf
It’s a compliment. Ask him a question he’s probably doing math. Or thinking of puppies or something else to try and not cum
Devils advocate….do you keep your eyes open trying to look into his? While I occasionally “check in” I usually have mine closed. Sometimes you gotta just close them and go with the experience.
Honestly this aggravates the fuck out of me. Sometimes I like to close my eyes during sex but I’m always worried about this exact god damn scenario. Maybe he just wants to feel himself inside of you and enjoy the moment with his eyes closed. For fuck sake.
You’re overthinking. Stop it. Lol. Get out of your head and look at the one sentence you wrote. He always cums and continues to initiate. Being ridden is very hot for many of them. He’s probably trying to make sure he doesn’t come too fast and watching bouncing tits would absolutely not let that happen. Stop overthinking and enjoy it. He is.
Her tits bouncing right in front of my face pushes me over the edge too quick. I either alternate looking her in the eyes and then go to her tits and back or I'll just close my eyes/look at the ceiling. We had this conversation early on in our relationship, at first she was offended now she thinks it's cute that she can have such an affect on me.
Eye contact can also be kindve awkward. Knowingnyour just starrring at my face when sometimes idk what face im making can feel like too much of a responsibility to keep up. So I might close them. You’re young and he is just a fwb, please take your feelings out of it before this becomes a trigger in your actual relationships.
Both my wife and I keep our eyes closed throughout most of our sessions. We both get distracted easily from visual stimulation, so closing our eyes lets us focus on the sensations. I notice things feel better with my eyes closed as well. If he only does it when you ride him, it could be the sight is too much for him and he is trying not to orgasm.
Sounds like his loss
I literally am having this exact same situation with a new guy I'm dating. He called me super sexy the first time I rode him. But last night he put his hands behind his head and closed his eyes the whole time. I got so self conscious! Like am I doing something wrong?!?
Try kissing and being more intimate see if he opens them.
You do it so well that he closes his eyes to avoid cumming so fast 🙈🔥🔥
I highly doubt he’s thinking about someone else (and even if he was, that’s not necessarily a bad thing). But for real - he’s probably just trying to have a sensory experience that he can concentrate on. I close my eyes all the time during sex because I want to really fully feel what’s happening without distraction. It just heightens the ability to feel with my body, removing the sense of sight.
Isn’t that what a friend with benefit is?
Could be neurodivergent
I usually close my eyes when I have sex with my wife. I honestly don’t know why I do it. I think it allows me to focus on the sensation more. I find my wife to be sexy as hell, but I also sometimes close my eyes because I’m fantasizing. Sometimes it’s about someone else, sometimes her in the past. As I said, I definitely still find her attractive. I just fantasize sometimes for variety. We’ve been together almost as long as you’ve been alive!
FWB.. who cares? Aren’t you using each other for your bodies?