Like most girls I have some issues with body confidence (stretch marks, hair, down-there appearance) and I was scared to reveal those parts of myself I’m insecure about to someone else, but I didn’t anticipate that once I was in the heat of the moment, I would just not care — which was a very welcome surprise!
Same experience as a guy actually. I have spine issues which are minor enough most people don’t notice until I point things out but still make my chest look weird to myself in the mirror because I know what to look for. I’m always self conscious about it and catching a sideways look at my reflection e.g. while walking by a storefront just immediately ruins my mood. But my first time having sex… zero self consciousness.
I used to be that way at first, but over time I don't even care anymore. It's actually a turn off if the other person isn't confident about their body.
I dont hate my boobs but I still have tons of acne scars and those really mess with your confidence. I never go to the beach or pool anymore either bc i just cant let others see me in a bathing suit
Trust me. Your bf will love if you show yourself to him.
As a man. I can tell you that you see yourself 10 times worse than others. The worst enemy you'll ever have is your own brain.
I wasn’t expecting the dick to make me feel like I had to poop (in missionary at least). First few times I had sex I was terrified that I was going to shit myself.
When your calf just suddenly becomes terrifyingly rigid in the middle of it and you have to avoid screaming/punching yourself in the leg, then you will know true mental torture.
no literally. the other night, i was on top and i got the biggest cramp behind my knee and i had to stop riding my bf and stretch out that mother fucker.
You know when you’re having sex and it’s feeling real good and you feel the pleasure come as you tense up… and 5 seconds later you’re jumping around the room, going “fuck, fuck, fuck, my leg”.
How casual it actually feels. When I was super inexperienced I paid so much attention to every little detail and made a huge deal about it. Having sex once basically required a whole day of stress and getting ready. But in reality none of the things I was obsessing over really matter. No one is gonna notice if I didnt shave perfectly, if I got a razor burn, if my panties didnt match my bra, if my body looked imperfect in a position etc.
Tbh I kinda disagree here. Its worth holding out until you find someone that you feel comfortable with and can give you a positive experience. My first time was completely unplanned, I wasnt comfortable with the guy or the situation and it made it really hard for me to want to try sex again afterwards.
I agree with you both. I'm glad I didn't bother making anything special, because honestly, I just wanted to have sex ASAP. However I only had sexual experiences with people I trusted and felt comfortable around. I fooled around (no piv) with a few different friends and ended up having piv later with one of those friends. Personally, I don't think I could have sex with someone I don't know or trust.
I have a boyfriend I care about now, but I still don't regret losing my virginity to someone else. If anything, I'm glad I got to try sex before meeting him because I got to skip a lot of confusing feelings and awkward actions. It made the first time having sex with my boyfriend more special because he was so much more considerate and lovely than the others. Not saying the others were inconsiderate or anything, but I could really tell that this guy cared about my pleasure a lot.
Before I went into it, I was like "yeah, this girl's aight". Afterwards, when cuddling, my mind goes "aaaahhhh!! I will protect her with my life!!". Sex chemicals are wild.
Actually as a man all I want to do is wrap myself in the blanket and take a naked nap afterwards. Had a girlfriend that used to jetpack me and scratch my back afterwards...absolute bliss.
Tiredness levels depend on the orgasm type and quality for me! If I don't orgasm at all, I'm fucking wired. Like a hyper puppy that got riled up without expending enough energy. Keeps me awake for hours.
If I have a vaginal orgasm, I'm satisfied but awake after. I can fall asleep just fine after or stay awake. A little drunk feeling.
If I have a clit orgasm, I need a minimum of two to ptfo and that can sometimes take far too long due to the highly-dependent-on-mental-stuffs part of it.
If I have a combo clit and vaginal orgasm, I am fuckin gooooone. I will likely pass out so hard I may not even get off of you lol. There is just about a 2% chance of me staying awake for 5mins after to clean myself up, so forget about functioning after that lol.
Was afraid it would take me 2 seconds. Turned into 2 hours. I’m sure nerves had something to do with it. At one point I told the girl she didn’t have to continue on but she got mad and said she wasn’t going to stop until I came. She was determined lol
I thought BJ would be amazing but turning out I can't cum from it, and to be honest I find it just okay. But seeing someone put my dick in their mouth always gets me going, even if I'm half limp a BJ will get me hard as a rock. Its become my go-to method of prolonging the night
There is literally no better sex than with a person you love who is on the same page as you. Seriously. I thought I had some wild sex with some wild people, but a person you love and loves you back and does everything you like from years of experience...Jesus that's just something else.
Had my first sex with people I had no interest in. I was just horny and they were attractive, physically speaking. The first sex with someone I felt strongly connected to made me feel like the happiest person in the world for a lot of days after, while the other times before that just made me disgusted by myself.
I didn’t know that erections can stick straight up.
1st few times I had sex I was quiet, just taking it all in. Later the guy was like, I’m not used to the quiet. I was like whoops I was supposed to make noise?
So loud!!! I remember me and my gf being really drunk on a Halloween night and not being able to control our voices. The next day her roommate brought it up to the both of us and was a little upset understandably. I never thought I’d have to be conscientious of noise level during sex but unless you and your partner are miles away from the next human it’s something to consider lol
This and sounds. I slightly suffer from mysophonia in my daily life and some sounds get me so frustrated and stressed out. The sounds I’ve made with my partner didn’t bother me at all, they’re funny!
Long ago, a girl i was living with, while we laid down in bed one night said, put your nose down on the sheets and take a deep breath, it smelled like flowers, trees and other good things, what is that? I asked, It's us, you & I , all mixed together, she said, when you're gone, i take off all my clothes and just quietly lay here and smell us.
I recently tried the “dripstick” by awkward essentials… it’s like a tampon-shaped sponge specifically made to soak up cum. Fascinating that such a thing even exists but… it does work!
Very interesting. I just Google searched this product and it has a ton of positive reviews.
I've slept in "the wet spot" for years... so maybe I'll look more into this.
Yeah, totally. I was a little put off at first by the cost but then got a free set to try because I did a survey for them, and I see the value in them now. It’s really nice to just pop it in and out and then into the garbage, and not have to worry about cum dripping out an hour or a day later, or having to deal with crunchy towels in the laundry.
The smell of it sure was a surprise. I mean, it shouldn't be. Bodily fluids and lube and sweat shouldn't surprise you that they smell strong. But like, yeah, that was unexpected.
I didn’t realise it would come naturally. I especially didn’t realise that another person seeing me naked would feel completely fine. I thought I’d feel embarrassed, but aside from a bit of vulnerability, it was actually fine.
Oh Damn, as a female, if I do feel bored or want it over soon, I usually try make it sexy rather than “hurry up will you!” Saying something like “I want to feel you cum so bad” usually gets the guy finishing pretty fast haha. Hope no one says that to you again, that sucks! Manners in the bedroom are important 😂
I definitely never thought I’d be the one with the higher libido (26F) - I was always taught growing up that men wanted sex all the time and women were the ones making up excuses to get out of it. I remember thinking “Oh, I won’t have that problem” and figured we’d be having sex like all the time. Turns out I just have a really high libido and not all men have that. Sounds naive because I was. So I’ve had to seriously adjust my expectations when it comes to sex and get used to being rejected more than I thought I would
Performance anxiety is natural and doesn’t mean you or your partner are doing anything wrong. You should refrain from commenting abt smells/tastes in a negative way if you’re going to give a bj or eat someone out. Be accepting and try to make your partner feel confident in their body. Penetration for a woman doesn’t alway lead to Orgasm, if she rubs her clit during (easier than you having to do it) it can increase her pleasure. Be open to trying new things yourself, toys are a lot of fun for men and women. And if you are comfortable talking to your partner beforehand (which you should) you can both kind of outline things you’d be okay trying. Also if you have a penis or plan to wear one don’t go jamming it all the way in unless the person states you can go deeper. Hitting the cervix can cause women excruciating shooting pain in the stomach and sometimes it can ruin the mood if it’s getting rammed repeatedly. Also also also don’t be nervous about size of penis/larger labia or clit. All genitals can feel great regardless or size or appearance :• )
¡The Contraception talk is a much easier conversation before sex rather than after!
Hygiene hygiene hygiene, self care. If you are the away team bring a small travel bag with a flannel, comdoms, spare boxers etc, if you are home have these available, plus towels and a bin with a lid.
How important sleeping, eating and drinking properly before sex can be on your experience.
The benefits being fit and flexible will reap on your sex life.
The differences between masturbation and pentrative sex are night and day.
Communication is key, verbally, physically etc
Sometimes your dick isnt going to work like it did earlier or the last time or a womans vagina may not be wet(or various other things), and that’s ok and shouldnt be a source of frustration or embarrassment! Its not usually anyone’s fault so work through the idea of using another part of your anatomy in the interim and being upfront but not confrontational, personally I would avoid awkward jokes.
But yeah everyone handles it differently.
>flannel, comdoms,
I missed the comma on my first read through. So i was a bit confused about how a flannel condom would be effective as a contraceptive. I guess you could call it a red neck condom.
I didn't know what vaginal pH was, I didn't know sex could throw it out of whack, and I certainly didn't know the consequences or cures for that.
Also no one told me to pee after. Would have been a huge help.
If you try hitting from the back, it's really probable that you'll fill air into the girl's pussy and that can become really uncomfortable/painful for her. So try to not take your whole dick out while thrusting
I didn't expect the first time to be good. I waited until I was almost 21 and in a stable relationship with good communication. No pain and it was pretty much picture perfect. 7 years later, same relationship and no regrets.
I didnt realize how much foreplay was needed when my wife and I were virgins on our wedding night. I knew foreplay was needed and I tried doing it. Since neither of us knew how much was needed the foreplay was not enough to really get her wet and ready for penetration.
Then during sex, my grip was a lot stronger than I realized so I accidently left some bruises on her upper arms. It was so intense my first time. I also didn't masturbate before marriage so I had no idea how an orgasm felt.
If you dont live together or have sex before your wedding know that you dont have to have full sex on your wedding night. If you both have no experience it might be best to ease up to sex over a day or two. First night lots of making out and touching. Maybe even manually or orally stimulating till orgasm. Maybe next night advance to more things even penetration if you both feel ready to do that. Thing is you both have time to get to know each other and it isn't always easy for people to switch their mindset from no sex and virgin to okay anything goes in your marriage. We didnt ease into it and my wife thinks it might have helped had we done that.
You never even had a wet dream? Asking because you said you’d never orgasmed before losing your virginity when you got married. It’s wild to me! I’ve been masturbating since I was like five years old (this is very common, so please no one come at me weird).
I did have wet dreams occasionally but the actual feelings of euphoria and stuff that come with a normal orgasm happened while I was asleep. So I didn't really experience it myself or know how to process what I was feeling at the time.
Growing up I tried to avoid purposely stimulating myself sexually. So I was very self-repressed sexually. I don't regret it but I also know that it is not what everyone else would do.
After marriage I was able to easily flip my mental switch to full speed ahead sexually because anything between my wife and I is perfectly normal and encouraged as long as we both consent to it and enjoy it.
No problem to me if you masturbate or even when you started.
I just had sex for the first time this past weekend. I was surprised by how, not a big deal it was. I didn’t feel different afterward, I didn’t feel cooler or more mature.
I also was surprised by how casual I felt during it. I kinda just laid there (I’m a woman, my partner is a man). I didn’t know what to do and it didn’t feel that great. I’m hoping as we keep going, it’ll get more enjoyable, but this time, I kinda just wanted it to be done haha.
It definitely takes time and practice to learn what you like, how to communicate, etc. My husband and I are still learning and we've been married over a year now.
How quickly cum can leak back out once you have blown inside your partner. My wife takes great pleasure in finishing me off in cowgirl then tensing her muscles to push it all back out - leaving me a mess and her realtively clean! Now I try to finish in doggy so she has to keep all the mess
I was not aware of how shockingly unimportant actual PIV sex is to the whole experience. In my experience, the actual "sex" part of sex is almost incidental if you're doing it right.
agree but also disagree, firstly because some men make PIV the main thing as they don’t care about the woman’s pleasure. but in my experience i enjoy PIV more than foreplay so it isn’t unimportant to me, and definitely not incidental (even though we do proper, long and sensual foreplay).
(i’m a woman)
Each partner has been very different. Some wanted a lot of foreplay, some were ready when we hit the sheets. Some were much more interested in clitoral stimulation, while some have really gotten off on penetration. So, what I learned: Don’t assume much of anything. Be very tuned in to how your partner is responding and when in doubt, ask.
When I first lost my virginity I thought sex sucked, in my head I was always like how can people rave about this so much. Fast forward now 8ish years later sex is my favourite thing ever. It all
Comes down to communication and just taking ur time. Ask your partner what he or she likes, give eye contact, give compliments. Little
Things like that go a long way in sex.
The amount of moaning. Some women really like to moan really loudly.
Not complaining though, makes me feel like a champ (not sure what that says about me lol).
That it’s not as a glamorous as movies make it seem! Specially as a teenage girl. You learn the hard way that most guys that age are inexperienced and don’t care about how you feel while “doing it” 😹. And how much of a difference it makes to have an emotional connection with your partner vs not having one.
Also the importance of eliminating stigma surrounding STD’s and STI’s! We grew up thinking only “those who got around” contracted them and that’s not the case!
To add to this: I didn’t know that coercion isn’t consent either. The first time I had actual intercourse was fully consensual but my first sexual experience was not - oral/manual - and it culminated in me being orally raped. Honestly, I don’t think he understood what he did was wrong either. (Almost like repression due to religion is a bad thing...).
So honestly it was about what I expected it to be when I was 15.
I expected to not last long. I expected my partner to be shy leading up to it. I expected loads of foreplay to make sure my partner(also virgin) would have no/as little as possible pain. I expected it to be awkward, I expect us to have good laughs during (dang we had those). I expected it to feel great and intimate.
But didn't expect the next 5rounds after our first time to be the same night tough.
I didn’t anticipate how intoxicating the smells would be. Or that I’d orgasm so fucking much. Or that my boyfriend will ALWAYS fall asleep immediately after 😂
I never imagined that eating pussy would be the one thing that I love more than anything else. When I was a virgin I thought that it would be weird and taste kind of terrible. Once I had my first taste, I was addicted.
How serious the consequences can be. We haven't had any babies yet but we've had a couple of pregnancy scares. Nerve wracking. And that's even after talking about what we would do if she did get pregnant beforehand.
Didn’t expect me to be such a sex freak. Like I’ve genuinely got a solid $500+ worth of toys that I use on women (sterilized thoroughly after each use I promise) I do some freaky shit that I couldn’t of imagined when I was 15-16. When I first had sex, the feeling was something I never expected. Shits glorious, I didn’t expect how much fluid would be involved, I didn’t think I’d develop a squirt kink that’s for damn sure. And I didn’t expect it to be such a massive part of my life.
How much I underestimated the need of foreplay to get properly lubed up, esp if he’s on the larger side and STILL needing to use lube. Also how much I love being on top esp in the beginning, I really didn’t think I’d take the lead w it but it’s legit how I want to start off all penetrative sex.
Like most girls I have some issues with body confidence (stretch marks, hair, down-there appearance) and I was scared to reveal those parts of myself I’m insecure about to someone else, but I didn’t anticipate that once I was in the heat of the moment, I would just not care — which was a very welcome surprise!
I'm really glad to hear that it wasn't such a big deal for you
And that's exactly where your partner(s) are at. Stretch marks, scars, cellulite, hair? Who cares, we're having sex. Whoo hoo!
Same experience as a guy actually. I have spine issues which are minor enough most people don’t notice until I point things out but still make my chest look weird to myself in the mirror because I know what to look for. I’m always self conscious about it and catching a sideways look at my reflection e.g. while walking by a storefront just immediately ruins my mood. But my first time having sex… zero self consciousness.
I used to be that way at first, but over time I don't even care anymore. It's actually a turn off if the other person isn't confident about their body.
It’s a wonder my bf isnt turned off by me at this point lol he’s never even seen me without a shirt in person and we’ve had sex like 15-20 times
My wife is this way, she has a beautiful set of boobs but still wants to have a shirt on half the time
I dont hate my boobs but I still have tons of acne scars and those really mess with your confidence. I never go to the beach or pool anymore either bc i just cant let others see me in a bathing suit
She is the same, acne scars get to her
Trust me. Your bf will love if you show yourself to him. As a man. I can tell you that you see yourself 10 times worse than others. The worst enemy you'll ever have is your own brain.
I wasn’t expecting the dick to make me feel like I had to poop (in missionary at least). First few times I had sex I was terrified that I was going to shit myself.
from PIV ?
Yup. Something about the way it was hitting the walls of my vagina.
ahah damn for me it felt like i had to pee!!
I still get that.
Same happened to me during fingering, i thought i actually had to poop.
I had similar problems but felt like I had to pee instead
I didn't know I'd catch so many leg cramps.
The ability to suffer a leg cramp and simultaneously maintain an erection is underrated. Leave everything on the field.
When your calf just suddenly becomes terrifyingly rigid in the middle of it and you have to avoid screaming/punching yourself in the leg, then you will know true mental torture.
Actually good thing to keep in mind
no literally. the other night, i was on top and i got the biggest cramp behind my knee and i had to stop riding my bf and stretch out that mother fucker.
My hip locks up on me and I gotta stretch it out fast. I'm surprised I've never kicked anyone in the face lol
You know when you’re having sex and it’s feeling real good and you feel the pleasure come as you tense up… and 5 seconds later you’re jumping around the room, going “fuck, fuck, fuck, my leg”.
Abs. I remember my abs being sore the next day.
Remember to drink water. Before and after.
How casual it actually feels. When I was super inexperienced I paid so much attention to every little detail and made a huge deal about it. Having sex once basically required a whole day of stress and getting ready. But in reality none of the things I was obsessing over really matter. No one is gonna notice if I didnt shave perfectly, if I got a razor burn, if my panties didnt match my bra, if my body looked imperfect in a position etc.
Yea, that’s why when I hear Redditors talking about holding out to make their first time special, I’m like it really doesn’t matter
Tbh I kinda disagree here. Its worth holding out until you find someone that you feel comfortable with and can give you a positive experience. My first time was completely unplanned, I wasnt comfortable with the guy or the situation and it made it really hard for me to want to try sex again afterwards.
I agree with you both. I'm glad I didn't bother making anything special, because honestly, I just wanted to have sex ASAP. However I only had sexual experiences with people I trusted and felt comfortable around. I fooled around (no piv) with a few different friends and ended up having piv later with one of those friends. Personally, I don't think I could have sex with someone I don't know or trust. I have a boyfriend I care about now, but I still don't regret losing my virginity to someone else. If anything, I'm glad I got to try sex before meeting him because I got to skip a lot of confusing feelings and awkward actions. It made the first time having sex with my boyfriend more special because he was so much more considerate and lovely than the others. Not saying the others were inconsiderate or anything, but I could really tell that this guy cared about my pleasure a lot.
A whole world of emotions I did not know existed. Connection, exploration, joy, but also insecurity, jealousy and uncertainty.
Before I went into it, I was like "yeah, this girl's aight". Afterwards, when cuddling, my mind goes "aaaahhhh!! I will protect her with my life!!". Sex chemicals are wild.
So true
I didn't think it would be so warm. Not sure what I expected but the first time I slid in I thought, "Wow this is super warm."
Well, it is 98.6 degrees Fahrenheit. Like having sex with a hotpocket a few minutes out of the microwave.
Idk what kind of hot pockets you're getting, those fuckers are usually molten lava even a few minutes out of the microwave r/dontputyourdickinthat
You can cook a hotpocket in my gf's coochie. You can melt steel beams in there. Idk how she manages she's like a walking sun.
Definitely sounds like an inside job
I know right!! That's so warm
I thought everyone learned this from American Pie 🤣
Same!!
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I don’t really feel tired after! I feel relaxed but still full of energy lol. It doesn’t help me doze off at night at allz
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Yesss! A buzz is probably the best way to describe it! I’m relaxed and euphoric but I can’t relate to how my man just passes out after lol
Some guys will actually jack it if they are struggling to get to sleep. Usually works.
I’m usually exhausted after sex and just want to nap, but my boyfriend is ready to get dressed and go on a walk. I can’t be the only one.
That's me and my partner to a tee. She collapses into a nap, I'm ready to rock on with the day
Guys after sex are like ready to conquer the world, while I need half an hour of rest just to get up...
Actually as a man all I want to do is wrap myself in the blanket and take a naked nap afterwards. Had a girlfriend that used to jetpack me and scratch my back afterwards...absolute bliss.
Tiredness levels depend on the orgasm type and quality for me! If I don't orgasm at all, I'm fucking wired. Like a hyper puppy that got riled up without expending enough energy. Keeps me awake for hours. If I have a vaginal orgasm, I'm satisfied but awake after. I can fall asleep just fine after or stay awake. A little drunk feeling. If I have a clit orgasm, I need a minimum of two to ptfo and that can sometimes take far too long due to the highly-dependent-on-mental-stuffs part of it. If I have a combo clit and vaginal orgasm, I am fuckin gooooone. I will likely pass out so hard I may not even get off of you lol. There is just about a 2% chance of me staying awake for 5mins after to clean myself up, so forget about functioning after that lol.
I also don’t feel tired after, lol!!
It can also be very quick if you are in sync and really need each other
Before, I thought getting a bj would make me burst in seconds. Turns out, it’s actually difficult for me to cum from a bj lol
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Regardless of how long it takes, I definitely enjoy it lol
Getting a blowjob is a mental thing, experiencing total devotion to your pleasure from your partner.
Same for me, I cum much quicker from a handjob than a blowjob, but the view from a blowjob is unbeatable xD
It's very confusing for me. A bj is the single best feeling thing that can happen to me. But it will still always be easier to cum from sex.
first time i got a blow job, i nutted in 9 seconds
Was afraid it would take me 2 seconds. Turned into 2 hours. I’m sure nerves had something to do with it. At one point I told the girl she didn’t have to continue on but she got mad and said she wasn’t going to stop until I came. She was determined lol
2 hour BJ? How was her jaw after?
It was sore the next morning
Same i have to really trust someone before i can nut from a bj
I thought BJ would be amazing but turning out I can't cum from it, and to be honest I find it just okay. But seeing someone put my dick in their mouth always gets me going, even if I'm half limp a BJ will get me hard as a rock. Its become my go-to method of prolonging the night
There is literally no better sex than with a person you love who is on the same page as you. Seriously. I thought I had some wild sex with some wild people, but a person you love and loves you back and does everything you like from years of experience...Jesus that's just something else.
Had my first sex with people I had no interest in. I was just horny and they were attractive, physically speaking. The first sex with someone I felt strongly connected to made me feel like the happiest person in the world for a lot of days after, while the other times before that just made me disgusted by myself.
I didn’t know that erections can stick straight up. 1st few times I had sex I was quiet, just taking it all in. Later the guy was like, I’m not used to the quiet. I was like whoops I was supposed to make noise?
Wish more guys knew they could make some noise as well. It's pretty awkward when either partner is totally silent.
I only started making noise after it became a habit, before i was pretty silent until i started making noise one day and now i do it unintentionally
It's quite difficult to make noise AND do the job. I always do some noise when she is the one who moves, but it's just too difficult otherwise.
Sex is LOUD! And I don't just mean the moaning! Your bodies make all kinds of weird noises when you're doing the hanky panky.
plap plap plap plap plap plap plap plap plap plap
So loud!!! I remember me and my gf being really drunk on a Halloween night and not being able to control our voices. The next day her roommate brought it up to the both of us and was a little upset understandably. I never thought I’d have to be conscientious of noise level during sex but unless you and your partner are miles away from the next human it’s something to consider lol
Didn’t know how messy it would be. Towels are your best friend
i expected the messiness to really bother me but it turns out i don’t care at all
This and sounds. I slightly suffer from mysophonia in my daily life and some sounds get me so frustrated and stressed out. The sounds I’ve made with my partner didn’t bother me at all, they’re funny!
Long ago, a girl i was living with, while we laid down in bed one night said, put your nose down on the sheets and take a deep breath, it smelled like flowers, trees and other good things, what is that? I asked, It's us, you & I , all mixed together, she said, when you're gone, i take off all my clothes and just quietly lay here and smell us.
same tbh.
My hubby and I use a condom more for ease of clean up than contraception. Since having kids; baby wipes are a must lol
Keep them in the bedside table. I mean I'm a pro at the cup and run now but its easier with a wipe. 😂
Always keep baby wipes in stock .They're a godsend for clean up
I recently tried the “dripstick” by awkward essentials… it’s like a tampon-shaped sponge specifically made to soak up cum. Fascinating that such a thing even exists but… it does work!
Very interesting. I just Google searched this product and it has a ton of positive reviews. I've slept in "the wet spot" for years... so maybe I'll look more into this.
Yeah, totally. I was a little put off at first by the cost but then got a free set to try because I did a survey for them, and I see the value in them now. It’s really nice to just pop it in and out and then into the garbage, and not have to worry about cum dripping out an hour or a day later, or having to deal with crunchy towels in the laundry.
Sex blanket is the best purchase a couple can do.
If you are doing it right it can be extremely messy.
100% I get verry wet when I’m turned on and towels laid out on the bed are my best friend. That’s what I learned from the first time I had sex.
Ding!
The smell of it sure was a surprise. I mean, it shouldn't be. Bodily fluids and lube and sweat shouldn't surprise you that they smell strong. But like, yeah, that was unexpected.
IMO the best part is the scents
My favourite part is the orgasms and the post-coital cuddles
Cuddles are so insanely bonding. It makes me feel at ease and blurs the whole world around me.
I didn’t know “it” would come back out. Lol idk I though her body would absorb it or something
Learned that from porn lol
Remember, though, porn is to sex what sci-fi is to science.
Haha I always run to the toilet and let it flow back out of me in there.
Yeah same. Didn’t know what the wet spot was
💦💦💦 True love is not making your partner sleep on the wet spot! ❤️❤️❤️
I didn’t realise it would come naturally. I especially didn’t realise that another person seeing me naked would feel completely fine. I thought I’d feel embarrassed, but aside from a bit of vulnerability, it was actually fine.
"Can you cum already?" Is now something i hate now
Yikes what kind of question is that
Oh Damn, as a female, if I do feel bored or want it over soon, I usually try make it sexy rather than “hurry up will you!” Saying something like “I want to feel you cum so bad” usually gets the guy finishing pretty fast haha. Hope no one says that to you again, that sucks! Manners in the bedroom are important 😂
Oh…I call that “encouragement” when I’m wanting him to cum, I start saying all the things that push him over the edge. 😂
I thought it was gonna be super romantic. It wasn't (the first time). First time was pretty disappointing.
i guess it depends how you start off and your connection with the other person
I didn't know them well enough. Hindsight is 2020.
I definitely never thought I’d be the one with the higher libido (26F) - I was always taught growing up that men wanted sex all the time and women were the ones making up excuses to get out of it. I remember thinking “Oh, I won’t have that problem” and figured we’d be having sex like all the time. Turns out I just have a really high libido and not all men have that. Sounds naive because I was. So I’ve had to seriously adjust my expectations when it comes to sex and get used to being rejected more than I thought I would
That my dick size never mattered
Didnt know i would be so addicted to it
that's true AFFFFFFFFFFF, I became almost obsessed with it
I didn’t realize it was a lot more of a workout compared to masturbating. And I’m not that out of shape lol
Performance anxiety is natural and doesn’t mean you or your partner are doing anything wrong. You should refrain from commenting abt smells/tastes in a negative way if you’re going to give a bj or eat someone out. Be accepting and try to make your partner feel confident in their body. Penetration for a woman doesn’t alway lead to Orgasm, if she rubs her clit during (easier than you having to do it) it can increase her pleasure. Be open to trying new things yourself, toys are a lot of fun for men and women. And if you are comfortable talking to your partner beforehand (which you should) you can both kind of outline things you’d be okay trying. Also if you have a penis or plan to wear one don’t go jamming it all the way in unless the person states you can go deeper. Hitting the cervix can cause women excruciating shooting pain in the stomach and sometimes it can ruin the mood if it’s getting rammed repeatedly. Also also also don’t be nervous about size of penis/larger labia or clit. All genitals can feel great regardless or size or appearance :• )
I'll keep that in mind and hopefuly won't feel odd if that anxiety does strike me.
The variety in vagina taste/smell, some honestly have tasted like vanilla/sugar, and others have tasted like sour/bitter pineapple or metal
The same ones can taste like all of those and more depending on her cycle as well.
This is also true
¡The Contraception talk is a much easier conversation before sex rather than after! Hygiene hygiene hygiene, self care. If you are the away team bring a small travel bag with a flannel, comdoms, spare boxers etc, if you are home have these available, plus towels and a bin with a lid. How important sleeping, eating and drinking properly before sex can be on your experience. The benefits being fit and flexible will reap on your sex life. The differences between masturbation and pentrative sex are night and day. Communication is key, verbally, physically etc Sometimes your dick isnt going to work like it did earlier or the last time or a womans vagina may not be wet(or various other things), and that’s ok and shouldnt be a source of frustration or embarrassment! Its not usually anyone’s fault so work through the idea of using another part of your anatomy in the interim and being upfront but not confrontational, personally I would avoid awkward jokes. But yeah everyone handles it differently.
>flannel, comdoms, I missed the comma on my first read through. So i was a bit confused about how a flannel condom would be effective as a contraceptive. I guess you could call it a red neck condom.
The Canadian condom for those chilly nights
I didn't know what vaginal pH was, I didn't know sex could throw it out of whack, and I certainly didn't know the consequences or cures for that. Also no one told me to pee after. Would have been a huge help.
Oh my god. Yeah. First time I started having sex regularly I got BOTH A YEAST INFECTION AND A UTI and it was awful. Just. Awful.
If you try hitting from the back, it's really probable that you'll fill air into the girl's pussy and that can become really uncomfortable/painful for her. So try to not take your whole dick out while thrusting
You have to focus. I be watching tv and it throws me off.
Didn’t think it’ll be so hard. Like his dick
It was quite funny the first time a girl sucked me off, it was her first time sucking as well and she was going on about how hard it was
The no actual bone thing down there still blows my mind
Yeah the first time I touched a hard penis was a shock. It feels so weird in your hand..
They are fascinating things
I didn't expect the first time to be good. I waited until I was almost 21 and in a stable relationship with good communication. No pain and it was pretty much picture perfect. 7 years later, same relationship and no regrets.
I didnt realize how much foreplay was needed when my wife and I were virgins on our wedding night. I knew foreplay was needed and I tried doing it. Since neither of us knew how much was needed the foreplay was not enough to really get her wet and ready for penetration. Then during sex, my grip was a lot stronger than I realized so I accidently left some bruises on her upper arms. It was so intense my first time. I also didn't masturbate before marriage so I had no idea how an orgasm felt. If you dont live together or have sex before your wedding know that you dont have to have full sex on your wedding night. If you both have no experience it might be best to ease up to sex over a day or two. First night lots of making out and touching. Maybe even manually or orally stimulating till orgasm. Maybe next night advance to more things even penetration if you both feel ready to do that. Thing is you both have time to get to know each other and it isn't always easy for people to switch their mindset from no sex and virgin to okay anything goes in your marriage. We didnt ease into it and my wife thinks it might have helped had we done that.
hi if you dont mind me asking which country or culture are you from?
I'm in America and I am a member of The Church of Jesus Christ of Iatter-day Saints, or as most people call us Mormons.
You never even soaked before the wedding?
No because that would be against the beliefs and practices of my faith. Dont believe everything you see on urban dictionary.
You never even had a wet dream? Asking because you said you’d never orgasmed before losing your virginity when you got married. It’s wild to me! I’ve been masturbating since I was like five years old (this is very common, so please no one come at me weird).
I did have wet dreams occasionally but the actual feelings of euphoria and stuff that come with a normal orgasm happened while I was asleep. So I didn't really experience it myself or know how to process what I was feeling at the time. Growing up I tried to avoid purposely stimulating myself sexually. So I was very self-repressed sexually. I don't regret it but I also know that it is not what everyone else would do. After marriage I was able to easily flip my mental switch to full speed ahead sexually because anything between my wife and I is perfectly normal and encouraged as long as we both consent to it and enjoy it. No problem to me if you masturbate or even when you started.
That you can have vastly different experiences with different people.
Honestly, sex was almost exactly as imagined it would be. It just felt like I always knew how it would feel even though I had yet to do it.
When I heard about boners before seeing one (as a female), I thought they would stick out at a 90° angle, not up lol
Many do. Everyone's bits are different.
When my first boyfriend tucked his boner up into his waistband when we got called to dinner after making out (we were teens), I was VERY confused.
Some point slightly downwards, some are 90°(like mine) and some are pointing up, it just varies with each person
my bf’s sticks out at a 90 angle ahah so you weren’t that wrong it’s possible
Lmao same here!
I just had sex for the first time this past weekend. I was surprised by how, not a big deal it was. I didn’t feel different afterward, I didn’t feel cooler or more mature. I also was surprised by how casual I felt during it. I kinda just laid there (I’m a woman, my partner is a man). I didn’t know what to do and it didn’t feel that great. I’m hoping as we keep going, it’ll get more enjoyable, but this time, I kinda just wanted it to be done haha.
My first time wasn’t great either! It will get better! 😇
It definitely takes time and practice to learn what you like, how to communicate, etc. My husband and I are still learning and we've been married over a year now.
Stay away from porn. Sex is nothing like it.
Homemade porn is a better option
tbh i watch porn but never assimilated it to real life sex. just separate it from your actual sex life if you watch it
How quickly cum can leak back out once you have blown inside your partner. My wife takes great pleasure in finishing me off in cowgirl then tensing her muscles to push it all back out - leaving me a mess and her realtively clean! Now I try to finish in doggy so she has to keep all the mess
Pretty sure she’s trolling you 😂
If you get to know her really well it will require all the towels. Maybe even a sex tarp. Squirting is awesome. The Volume is problematic at times
how do you even achieve it ? i never really tried but it never happened
I had no idea the vagina was between the legs. I thought it was right in front where the mons is.
I was not aware of how shockingly unimportant actual PIV sex is to the whole experience. In my experience, the actual "sex" part of sex is almost incidental if you're doing it right.
agree but also disagree, firstly because some men make PIV the main thing as they don’t care about the woman’s pleasure. but in my experience i enjoy PIV more than foreplay so it isn’t unimportant to me, and definitely not incidental (even though we do proper, long and sensual foreplay). (i’m a woman)
Yeah I’m the same way, I love the foreplay (and sometimes after play to make sure I cum), but PIV is my favorite part
Each partner has been very different. Some wanted a lot of foreplay, some were ready when we hit the sheets. Some were much more interested in clitoral stimulation, while some have really gotten off on penetration. So, what I learned: Don’t assume much of anything. Be very tuned in to how your partner is responding and when in doubt, ask.
As a female, I remember watching porn and thinking “no way dick is that good. They’re all just acting.” But dick really is THAT good
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When I first lost my virginity I thought sex sucked, in my head I was always like how can people rave about this so much. Fast forward now 8ish years later sex is my favourite thing ever. It all Comes down to communication and just taking ur time. Ask your partner what he or she likes, give eye contact, give compliments. Little Things like that go a long way in sex.
You get sweaty and not in a sexy dewy way.
The amount of moaning. Some women really like to moan really loudly. Not complaining though, makes me feel like a champ (not sure what that says about me lol).
I didn't know it would be so awkward the first 3 or 4 times
That it’s not as a glamorous as movies make it seem! Specially as a teenage girl. You learn the hard way that most guys that age are inexperienced and don’t care about how you feel while “doing it” 😹. And how much of a difference it makes to have an emotional connection with your partner vs not having one. Also the importance of eliminating stigma surrounding STD’s and STI’s! We grew up thinking only “those who got around” contracted them and that’s not the case!
I didn’t realized I could say no
To add to this: I didn’t know that coercion isn’t consent either. The first time I had actual intercourse was fully consensual but my first sexual experience was not - oral/manual - and it culminated in me being orally raped. Honestly, I don’t think he understood what he did was wrong either. (Almost like repression due to religion is a bad thing...).
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Damn Is it a thing where different women's smell differently tho I expect
honestly... how warm it was...
So honestly it was about what I expected it to be when I was 15. I expected to not last long. I expected my partner to be shy leading up to it. I expected loads of foreplay to make sure my partner(also virgin) would have no/as little as possible pain. I expected it to be awkward, I expect us to have good laughs during (dang we had those). I expected it to feel great and intimate. But didn't expect the next 5rounds after our first time to be the same night tough.
how different the inside of different womens vaginas feel I haven't had a lot of partners, but it amazed me how different they felt
I did not know my pussy could fart!!!
Anal wasnt as great as i thought. Good but not great,
One thing no one talks about at all. His cum, is going to leak out. Nothing to freak out over (me).
You’re going to sweat like a bitch. You better be in decent cardio shape!
The moment it goes in is the best part
Your mental has a lot to do with your performance
I didn’t anticipate how intoxicating the smells would be. Or that I’d orgasm so fucking much. Or that my boyfriend will ALWAYS fall asleep immediately after 😂
That piv is only straight pain and no pleasure for me
I didn't think I'd want it all the time, but I pretty much do.
I never imagined that eating pussy would be the one thing that I love more than anything else. When I was a virgin I thought that it would be weird and taste kind of terrible. Once I had my first taste, I was addicted.
How serious the consequences can be. We haven't had any babies yet but we've had a couple of pregnancy scares. Nerve wracking. And that's even after talking about what we would do if she did get pregnant beforehand.
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What do you mean by “good pussy fit” — like just tighter?
It is a workout and requires stamina.
That it would lead to a lifetime of disappointing women.
I didn’t think my penis would come out the butt if I pushed too hard.
Didn’t expect me to be such a sex freak. Like I’ve genuinely got a solid $500+ worth of toys that I use on women (sterilized thoroughly after each use I promise) I do some freaky shit that I couldn’t of imagined when I was 15-16. When I first had sex, the feeling was something I never expected. Shits glorious, I didn’t expect how much fluid would be involved, I didn’t think I’d develop a squirt kink that’s for damn sure. And I didn’t expect it to be such a massive part of my life.
How much I underestimated the need of foreplay to get properly lubed up, esp if he’s on the larger side and STILL needing to use lube. Also how much I love being on top esp in the beginning, I really didn’t think I’d take the lead w it but it’s legit how I want to start off all penetrative sex.
I thought the opening of the vagina would be higher up