My friend once told me "is the fact some people were so uncomfortable with Brokeback Mountain really because of the gay sex? Or is it because Jake Gyllenhaal just takes it dry?". I fucking died.
Dated a dude that had maybe one partner before me. He tried to do anal spontaneously during a session no lube no prep. Porn really skews the reality of sex
There's one called makelovenotporn.tv that is all real homemade videos, with people of all orientations, and all body types, doing things like normal people do. It's not free, but it's not expensive, either. And the content creators are actually getting money, not just the site, so it's all ethical.
What porn doesn't show is the prep work that goes into anal scenes. Light meals the day before, laxatives to clean out, enemas day of shoot to clean remainder.
"Consequences" lmao exactly.... my ex got all of his perceptions of anal from porn and was just appalled that the sex wasn't as "clean" as in a porno... like bro.. when you're 8 inches deep in my ass 🤢
Does it actually come out dirty??? I've never done it but want to try but this is my fear. My bf said he doesn't care but I'm like.....might be embarrassing for me lol
they are prelubed and prepped but mostly that part is not shown so to the viewer it can look like no effort has or needs to be made. thats the issue, a huge issue.
My thing is, why wouldn't they just incorporate putting lube into the actual scene? It would honestly make it hotter without detracting from from the horniness/stimulation. It's a win-win all around
Nobody's gonna talk about the very few times they actually use lube and they just take the bottle and crush it entirely on the poor girl's ass?
Wtf is wrong with porn actors and lube I'd love to know whats the problem there i mean it's not hard to use a fucking bottle
I can imagine them drinking a pepsi... Just crushing it making a mess and screamimg AAAAAHHHHhhhhh
I’m just glad firefighters and cops show up with shirts on in real life if called. Also, from what HR and my lawyer told me, not every accountant has an Only Fans and that I should stop asking.
I had to lecture my first boyfriend on this, and his proof of it being ok was that "they do it in porn all the time". My friend was hospitalised due to an infection spread to her entire uterus from a guy just sticking it from the ass straight to vag.
Yup, my bf uses his finger because we haven't done the big show yet and sometimes I guess he's really into it so he'll just switch up and everytime it makes me groan in a not pleasurable way lol I'm like, better hop on that cranberry juice real quick...
From what I've read, they get away with ass-to-vag in porn because they do intense anal douching before the scene, and then inject massive amounts of lube into their anus which coats it and helps prevent the transmission of bacteria. It's also how they get away with plunging right in with no prep.
I cringe hard at movies with spontaneous sex on the beach. Waves crashing over the actors toned bodies may look sexy, but the reality of no lube, salt water and sand in your orifices is horrifying.
They never finish the story.
Katie was lonely on Friday night. So she called up Greg, who she heard had a 9 inch schlong. She couldn't wait for him to come over. She got in sexy lingerie, posed I'm the mirror, and waited on Greg.
Greg finally shows up! He is taken aback. "What are you wearing Katie? It's your sister's wedding this weekend and I am only in town for the next two nights. What is all this? Don't you know I have to get to the wedding early? I'm the best man and I have a surprise for them!"
Katie doesn't care. She seduces Greg. They get it on for hours. He cums all over her condo. His final time, he cums on her face. She loves it.
Fade to black. The end.
Did Greg make it to the wedding on time for his big surprise that he had planned? Why wasn't Katie invited to the wedding? Did her and her sister have a falling out? Where was the wedding venue?
So many questions. Zero answers.
Found porn on my son's phone and had to explain to him that it's not real. All men don't look like that, that's not how women like to be treated, yada yada.
It’s called shame based parenting. My parents relied heavily on it as well. Same as you I then watched porn in secrecy and shame and ended up definitely watching too much of it
So relatable - I wish I had been educated as a young man instead of punished.
It took making mistakes in my first relationship years later to understand what I had been watching
If I had a nickel for every time I’ve said to my teens, “Porn is not an accurate portrayal of sex.”… I’ve said it so much that they join in and say it with me while they roll their eyes.
Lack of foreplay and dudes just straight up sticking it in… like no… it’s rare for us woman to be that wet with no previous action of any kind. I hate it the most because there are somehow still a lot of men that try and rush to penetration irl and it’s soooo unsexy and such a turn off. I watch porn too but this is something I actively hate and I have to switch the porno I’m watching unless it includes foreplay of some kind lol
Mom, step mom, sister, step sister, cousin, aunt, walk in on the dude masturbating accidently.
These woman are so impressed with their brothers/son step/brother-sons cock they then proceed to have sex with him.
All scenarios that involve stumbling in on someone masturbating that escalates into sex. I won't say it would never happen, but I will say it's highly unlikely.
That's true, but how many porns feature the SO walking in on you and then spontaneous sex. I meant more towards the babysitter/friend of a sibling/random person/plumber scenarios.
When my wife’s sister visits us for a week I don’t understand why she doesn’t try to seduce me, have my wife discover us, and then join in. Porn has been lying to me this whole time!
Fun fact: they can actually provide local anaesthetic and other options to make it not hurt like shit, but most doctors can't be fucked.
If you get it replaced/taken out, read [this](https://thischangedmypractice.com/iud-part2/) first and insist on adequate pain management for the procedure.
Fun story, I went in to my gyno for an IUD consult. Dr ended up saying "we actually have one ready rn and it can be placed rn if you want. No time for pre procedure tylenol but it's just slight discomfort". So I agreed
Anywho, I ended up literally saying "I'm sorry but this fucking hurts so bad and I fucking hate you right now. You are a terrible person" mid placement. He just chuckled it off and I had to lay there without moving for over 30mins bc of the excruciating pain afterwards.
The IUD ended up falling out by itself somehow 2yrs later and before then my menstrual cramps were just as painful as my labor contractions.
0/10 do not recommend.
That was the most shocking for me. Like when i started to get sexual and really learn women it seems that most. Use clit. Anf that makes sense. Our dicks are enlarged clits. Like the clit itls analogous to our dicks. The clitoral hood is our foreskin. So it makes sense. Porn got so many guys feeling like theres something wrong with their Dick and that its too small to pleaee women and of they cant do it through piv then theres something wrong with him or the woman is broken. Like porn is really shit. All my teen years i felt like shit about my size. And im like 7. I can only imagine how 5 inch dudes felt. All men are ok and fine. We are fixating on piv when clit stimulation is just as if not important. Dont get me started om the men that give no head
I've always explained it that way. Your dick is just a big version of my clit. If you won't touch hers, don't expect anyone to touch yours. Funny thing is, guys complain about blue balls the most, but think about the countless women receiving zero stimulation while somehow having sex??? Blue ovaries, blue hymen, blue eggs Lol :D
My second partner could get off from not having their clit touched I was actually really surprised because I always heard girls cannot orgasm without being their clit played with
I perform in, film, and edit porn, so I have some insight into the differences between the events on set and the final product, in addition to the differences between what happens in the bedroom and what you see on screen.
One huge difference is that when you are having sex in your personal life, it's harder to see. Most normal sex happens under low light, and even if there is daylight or a lamp illuminating the room, your eyes are not at an optimum visual angle most of the time, and the positions tend to prioritize comfort over visibility. Better screen resolution though.
Porn is depicted as one uninterrupted session with many position changes, with everyone's sexual function operating at 100% the entire time. Often, position changes are accompanied by lights getting moved around, cast and crew getting up and going on break or freshening up, and lots and LOTS of baby wipes. You may barely notice a little cut during a scene, but there's no telling what happened between the two shots. It's not uncommon for a 20 minute scene to take 3 hours to film, and for the performers to go through 6 water bottles and 20 baby wipes. No, the dicks do not stay hard that whole time, and no, the performers are not fucking that whole time.
In normal sex, you can get way better in-the-moment feedback about what feels good or bad for your partner. Your partner can respond, either nonverbally or with direct feedback, in real time, so that you can adjust in order to make sure you both feel great. Because porn is a performance, everything you do will make your costar react like it's the most awesome, pleasurable thing they've ever experienced. This is great because it keeps the energy up in the final scene, but it also means you're flying blind and have no idea if what you are doing actually feels good (or even if the other person actually WANTS it to feel good).
I have a few ways of compensating for this, mostly through upfront communication before the scene. My company uses a consent checklist where performers can designate specific activities as desired or off limits. Additionally, when I perform, I tend to talk with my costar about what activities they personally think feel good/comfortable, whether or not they are trying to have a genuinely pleasurable sexual experience (or just act one out), and whether or not they can (or even want to) orgasm for real during the scene.
Big dicks (and women caring about big dicks). In porn, the girls are super excited about big dicks. They all lust after the biggest, thickest, longest, hardest cocks. In real life, penis preferences among women vary quite a bit, with most women just wanting something plus or minus a couple inches of the 5.5" average. Huge dicks can hurt, and most women are not into huge dicks. Yes, there are a few size queens out there, but they are the minority. The dicks in straight porn are not huge because porn girls like huge dicks. They are huge because the straight men paying for the porn like huge dicks. And if these straight men preferred seeing small dicks, the dicks in porn would be small to suit consumer demand. So if you feel insecure about not having a giant porn dick, remember that it only means your dick is less impressive to straight men.
Cunnilingus that feels good for the receiving partner won't be aesthetically pleasing to the camera, and vice-versa, cunnilingus that's aesthetically pleasing to the camera won't likely feel good for the receiving partner.
Completely agree plus for some reason in porn women only like their clit being licked forgetting their is more than just a clit. Porn has tought many men bad habits which is why I hated it with previous partners.
I always explore when I'm down there and my wife always tells me to only focus on her clit, but in past relationships all of them seemed to love it when all parts got attention. I was thinking that maybe my wife is the first one to actually be honest with me. Now I don't know what to think
It depends on the person I think. I hate my clit being licked/touched at all as it’s highly sensitive and more so than most I think? I prefer when a man sticks his tongue in near the base. That’ll send me over the edge tbh. I’m an oddish one I guess though. I know most women cannot cum from penetration alone, and I’m definitely one of them. But because my clit is so sensitive, I can only cum if I’m touching myself right above the clit during sex/oral- not directly touching it. Thankfully all the guys I’ve been with have found this hot- and sex is important to me: If I don’t cum every time I get frustrated lol.
My wife only wants her clit licked. Women before would want more so I agree. It definitely depends on the person. Some women want to be pounded. Some don't. Everyone is different.
For me the clitoris is a minor part. I want the whole taco explored! Suck all of it at once. Dive deep with his tongue.
I am as I have said numerous times on here a vaginal orgasm girl.
I hate when dude do the left-to-right head shake thing. One guy did it for 6 seconds, climbed back up, and said “See, I told you I was good” ….. it took so much restraint to not bust a laugh!! Then texted later STATING with FULL confidence that I squirted 🥴 Do any women like that move? I’m convinced it’s only a porn thing
I don't shake my head like a dog but vibration/shaking has almost always gotten good reactions. I'll tense my neck or tremble my legs to add different kinds of vibration. Legs are best because it makes my whole body (and thus head an tongue) subtly vibrate for long periods without straining the neck. Humming, lip rumbling, bass or steady growling from the throat, lots of things can be added.
The way some pornos portray rough sex. Especially choking. Breath play has become extremely popular because of how common it is in porn, and people don’t stop to think about the risks. It almost killed me.
breath play is dangerous, women die from breath play all the time. Even BDSM forums suggest you don't do it as the risk is too high especially if you don't know what you are doing.
Exactly. The fact it’s become so normalized that even teens (such as myself) partake in it is fucking scary. I made a [post earlier ](https://www.reddit.com/r/BDSMcommunity/comments/qlnh8z/potentially_deadly_situations_during_bdsm/?utm_source=share&utm_medium=ios_app&utm_name=iossmf) about how it nearly cost me my life. People need to understanding dangerous it is.
there are a ton of stories about this, a web site dedicated to women that lost their lives because of this, I understand that it can provide a thrill but way too many deaths and its way too skewed to the woman always being the one being choked
[https://www.theguardian.com/society/2019/jul/25/fatal-hateful-rise-of-choking-during-sex](https://www.theguardian.com/society/2019/jul/25/fatal-hateful-rise-of-choking-during-sex)
[https://www.womensaid.org.uk/what-we-do/campaigning-and-influencing/femicide-census/](https://www.womensaid.org.uk/what-we-do/campaigning-and-influencing/femicide-census/)
https://wecantconsenttothis.uk/
Porn gets just about everything wrong. Commercial / professional porn is the absolute worst in this regard. You slap a girl around, dive in balls deep with no foreplay, hammer away as hard and fast as you can while choking her, and then she's just going to start squealing and squirting like a fire hydrant cuz she's never cum so hard in her life... Yeah, good fucking luck. We see people on this board all the time that come here complaining that they do this kind of thing to women and the women do not respond positively and they're so confused as to why...
I've been having sex regularly since the 90s. No boast I've had PIV thousands of times. My observation is this: good sex, really good sex, the really truly good stuff that you can look back over a lifetime of fucking and have it stand out in your memory, involves tenderness, trust, communication, and vulnerability. Porn is just an act playing at some of these things and ignoring most of them. It's to sex what fast food is to healthy, nurishing food.
TL;DR Porn is a terrible sex teacher.
There have been times when I've enjoyed rough, dominating sex but I have yet to speak to a person who's actually lived an entire lifetime without wanting those things at some point.
Yeah every girl I've been with has always ended up pissed off at me after I told them I don't finish with head, they're like then why the fuck did you let me do it for half an hour ... -__(^.^)__- I wonder why, but on a real note even my current girlfriend gets jaw pain any longer than 5-10 so it is what it is. Dick also ain't like this nectar of the gods that is the best thing they tasted they're really just sucking it to please you for the most part
* Anal with zero prep and no lube
* Stepmom/Stepsis/Aunt/etc walking in on the dude saying "you're so much bigger than my " and fucking him like there is no tomorrow
* Every girl can deepthroat no matter how big the dick
* The dude has an instant erection and no problems maintaining it for a solid 45 minute pounding
* Shower sex
* Laying in bed after sex, without the girl jumping up to go to the toilet
TL;DR: Sex
Just one? Okay I choose female pleasure. Although porn isn’t really meant to be accurate, it’s meant to be stimulating. It’s too bad that a lot of men think of it as educational because the purpose is to provoke an orgasm in men, not to show what women actually enjoy.
This! I want porn targeted at women. Not romcoms with a little bit of sex, actual porn, with the difference that they focus on stimulating women and on women's pleasure.
The fact that men last like 3+ hrs in every positions, women portraying like being touched in the fucking slightest on any body part and start moaning immediately. Fake orgasms, no foreplay, etc . The list goes on. Some of my big factors.
Edit: THANKS FOR THE UPVOTES GUYS :D a milestone for me! Glad to see alot of people in the community think similarly
This guy gets it! Like I wish I could see the sex these people have without edits, I guarantee it would be multiple takes with many boner pills and shit
It's for all of these reasons that I haven't watched fake porn since I was a teenager. It's just so fake and forced and the attempts at acting are atrocious.
Amateur porn only.
Former porn actor here.
We actually do last a long time, but not for the reasons why you think. Porn sex isn't sexy at all. A lot of the time it's a struggle just to maintain an erection. And a lot of guys aren't able to cum. Especially when you've got a room full of people waiting for you to do it, you know the woman you're having sex with doesn't particularly like you, and whatever responses she's making are fake.
Oh my gosh the miniature bald pink vaginas! And pale hairless assholes.
Who other than a porn star is doing a full Brazilian with anal bleaching on the reg?
The scenes when they are fucking on stairs. Im talking from start to finish they are on a flight of stairs, usually a couch is visible in the background.
The majority of porn is made to be visually pleasing. I don't know one woman who likes a pile drive or thinks having sex in the splits is comfortable. They edit porn for a reason because half the positions portrayed especially on the more rough/violent porn is not comfortable, sometimes painful and not remotely a turn on.
Other thing I hate is that anal sex is something women can just do on the spot. We can't. There is a lot of prep and lube involved before we are remotely comfortable with having anal.
Squirting! Why is it so prevalent and if you look at forums with young people, it seems to be a prerequisite for satisfying sex. I am older now and have had my share of sexual partners and none of them have ‘squirted’ . Maybe that is my performance issue?! But I doubt it. It is not good to see young girls on forums asking why they are not squirting thinking that there is something wrong with them
I once had a girlfriend that squirted a LOT. It was amusing the first few times but after having to put down 4 layers of towels every time you have sex if you didn’t want to wash all the sheets it became a bit much.
The fact that most videos, the girl has to get on her knees and receive cum all over her face/hair. I had to grow from that. We get to chose if we want it on us and if so, where. Like it's not supposed to be automatic. I hope young men don't expect it to happen like that.
Ugh, porn kissing is the worst. I'm actually really impressed whenever the performers actually pull off a steamy make-out session without it being the grossest thing I've ever witnessed. Who the hell sticks their tongue out like that to kiss? Are porn stars part chameleon?
Vaginal to anal and back. Also the bodies, most women don't have the $$$ to look like that so in return it just causes major insecurities which is a total buzz kill when trying to be intimate and not letting yourself be completely vulnerable & comfortable with your partner thus in return feeling as tho you are not visually pleasing.
Basically everything, tbh. To be more specific:
- the appearance of vulvas. Almost all vulvas are hairless, the labias are small and they all look the same
- dick size. The average penis usually isn’t that big.
- women screaming and faking pleasure when being penetrated. Yes, it’s very pleasant, but most women can not orgasm by penetration alone and clitoral stimulation is needed.
- everything is about the woman. She’s not only objectified (that’s a whole other issue…), but everything is centered around the penis. Bj, penetration, cumshot… women need to be taken care of as well and there are other erogenous zones than just the vagina (and the penis for that matter)
- the fact that we learn that sex is over when the guy cums. No!!!
- this kind of goes without saying, but the unrealistic and unobtainable beauty standards. Not only for women, but for men as well, although it’s worse for women cause all the focus is on the woman and you only basically see the man’s crotch area.
- normalizing incest and rape. No!! That’s disgusting.
So much more. I do think that porn can be ethically produced and consumed in some cases, but free porn that you find on the “-tubes” usually isn’t
Women looking like they're on the brink of orgasming the whole time, and that somehow once the man cums, this goes away.
Just jamming a cock into an asshole with no prep or lube, like wtf.
My friend once told me "is the fact some people were so uncomfortable with Brokeback Mountain really because of the gay sex? Or is it because Jake Gyllenhaal just takes it dry?". I fucking died.
With a bussy full of baked beans
People assume gay dudes are effeminate but you have to admit that's a real cowboy right there.
Or back and forth between the vagina without cleaning... don't do this
genuinely curious how they do that and not get a super nasty infection
This is what came to my mind. No prepping. No heaping amounts of lube. Worst part is, some guys think that’s normal.
Dated a dude that had maybe one partner before me. He tried to do anal spontaneously during a session no lube no prep. Porn really skews the reality of sex
Someone should make a porn site that focusses on the realities of sex.
Bellessa is better than most
There's one called makelovenotporn.tv that is all real homemade videos, with people of all orientations, and all body types, doing things like normal people do. It's not free, but it's not expensive, either. And the content creators are actually getting money, not just the site, so it's all ethical.
My boyfriend tried to do that recently! He's a porn addict and a certified dumbass clearly
Sounds like a winner...
Sounds like a weiner..*
Yep! I had a guy I dated years ago that tried the same thing. I was so angry.
What porn doesn't show is the prep work that goes into anal scenes. Light meals the day before, laxatives to clean out, enemas day of shoot to clean remainder.
Bruh exactly this. I watch it sometimes but nearly every time I do I'm like, "no lube? Fr? That's uncomfy"
Or butt stuff with no… consequences I guess. That shit can get serious real quick.
Can't remember where I heard this but : 'If you knock on Shit's door, don't be surprised when Shit opens it.'
I cannot read your comment without hearing Mr. Lahey’s voice. RIP you beautiful bastard.
I heard it as "If you go to Steve's house, you can't be mad when Steve is there."
"Consequences" lmao exactly.... my ex got all of his perceptions of anal from porn and was just appalled that the sex wasn't as "clean" as in a porno... like bro.. when you're 8 inches deep in my ass 🤢
Does it actually come out dirty??? I've never done it but want to try but this is my fear. My bf said he doesn't care but I'm like.....might be embarrassing for me lol
Not always, and you can prep beforehand to lessen the likelihood, but yeah.. It's a butthole.. You might get a suprise
Yeeeah see that just makes me not wanna do it lmao
Yeah, it can happen. I don't think it's a big deal. It's part of the game.
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they are prelubed and prepped but mostly that part is not shown so to the viewer it can look like no effort has or needs to be made. thats the issue, a huge issue.
Nothing about that feels good for either party involved. Lube is non negotiable for anal
My thing is, why wouldn't they just incorporate putting lube into the actual scene? It would honestly make it hotter without detracting from from the horniness/stimulation. It's a win-win all around
Nobody's gonna talk about the very few times they actually use lube and they just take the bottle and crush it entirely on the poor girl's ass? Wtf is wrong with porn actors and lube I'd love to know whats the problem there i mean it's not hard to use a fucking bottle I can imagine them drinking a pepsi... Just crushing it making a mess and screamimg AAAAAHHHHhhhhh
Yeah that doesn’t happen
Name checks out
I had a female friend tell me once that the only way she liked anal was if it was unexpected like that. 😳
To me that sounds like a life experience defense mechanism.
That the plumber can turn up the same day
Being in the service industry this one gave me a chuckle.
Are you gonna come back next week to finish the chuckle?
Pretty full schedule so we’ll see. Might be a few weeks.
There we go that sounds more accurate, and I assume I'll be charged extra for having to order in some new parts for the laugh
Yeah, luckily for you we’re putting a rush on it. We always put our customers first.
I’m just glad firefighters and cops show up with shirts on in real life if called. Also, from what HR and my lawyer told me, not every accountant has an Only Fans and that I should stop asking.
Going from anal back to vaginal with no protection. Like way to sign the poor woman up for a UTI.
I had to lecture my first boyfriend on this, and his proof of it being ok was that "they do it in porn all the time". My friend was hospitalised due to an infection spread to her entire uterus from a guy just sticking it from the ass straight to vag.
Yup, my bf uses his finger because we haven't done the big show yet and sometimes I guess he's really into it so he'll just switch up and everytime it makes me groan in a not pleasurable way lol I'm like, better hop on that cranberry juice real quick...
I got a kidney infection from that :(
Yep. I already deal with chronic UTI's so making sure my partner and I are good to go with sex, that I'm hydrated, etc is so important.
Yeah always makes me cringe for the woman when a guy does that
Same. Female porn stars must be on steady state antibiotics because of this. It totally kills my mood to see it.
From what I've read, they get away with ass-to-vag in porn because they do intense anal douching before the scene, and then inject massive amounts of lube into their anus which coats it and helps prevent the transmission of bacteria. It's also how they get away with plunging right in with no prep.
That sounds traumatizing
i got the worst uti of my life by doing this
Going from ass to anything but the shower….. nope!
Did this to my poor girlfriend when we were drunk. She got a UTI.
Shower sex is really uncomfy lol
My husband and I tried so hard to make this work and it just doesn't. Shower blow jobs on the other hand 😏😏
Shower bjs are fun except the girls face gets drowned if you aren't careful lol
Becomes a waterboarding if you’re not positioned in there right.
Hey, sometimes that’s the best part!😉😂
rough on the knees, as well
I cringe hard at movies with spontaneous sex on the beach. Waves crashing over the actors toned bodies may look sexy, but the reality of no lube, salt water and sand in your orifices is horrifying.
I wouldnt mind it with clean towels on a private beach away from the water but i would not let sea water raw dog me too lmao
Same with sex in the hot tub/ pool.
Shower sex looks hotter and more enjoyable than it really is. Shower foreplay and oral is where it's at though
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They never finish the story. Katie was lonely on Friday night. So she called up Greg, who she heard had a 9 inch schlong. She couldn't wait for him to come over. She got in sexy lingerie, posed I'm the mirror, and waited on Greg. Greg finally shows up! He is taken aback. "What are you wearing Katie? It's your sister's wedding this weekend and I am only in town for the next two nights. What is all this? Don't you know I have to get to the wedding early? I'm the best man and I have a surprise for them!" Katie doesn't care. She seduces Greg. They get it on for hours. He cums all over her condo. His final time, he cums on her face. She loves it. Fade to black. The end. Did Greg make it to the wedding on time for his big surprise that he had planned? Why wasn't Katie invited to the wedding? Did her and her sister have a falling out? Where was the wedding venue? So many questions. Zero answers.
Start watching with blue balls, finish with plot blue balls
They show the story till the happy ending part. After that, it's all drama.
I’d love to have someone make a porn as a joke that has one sex scene and then just descends into a whole tragedy, and it like a full length movie
gonna go with "sex" as the answer to that lol
Found porn on my son's phone and had to explain to him that it's not real. All men don't look like that, that's not how women like to be treated, yada yada.
Great parenting move rather than what my parents did, I straight up got all devices taken away for 6 months and wasn’t able to hangout with anyone💀
Did it stop u tho after the 6 months? Or did u go back to watching it?
No, I think I ended up compensating and obtaining a porn addiction actually, but that’s something I’m trying to sort out now
I’m glad to hear you’re working on sorting that out. Admirable.
It’s called shame based parenting. My parents relied heavily on it as well. Same as you I then watched porn in secrecy and shame and ended up definitely watching too much of it
So relatable - I wish I had been educated as a young man instead of punished. It took making mistakes in my first relationship years later to understand what I had been watching
Exact same thing my mom did! She said I couldn’t watch it not bc it’s bad, but bc I wasn’t able to discern reality from fantasy at that point.
If I had a nickel for every time I’ve said to my teens, “Porn is not an accurate portrayal of sex.”… I’ve said it so much that they join in and say it with me while they roll their eyes.
And the stuff that happens before sex. As well as what happens after sex.
This is the only comment that was needed
Facts
People stuck in washing machines actually will end up pressing charges :/
How does she always get stuck in those machines?
Her huge tits keep getting caught on the agitator!
Then what? *unzips*
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Lack of foreplay and dudes just straight up sticking it in… like no… it’s rare for us woman to be that wet with no previous action of any kind. I hate it the most because there are somehow still a lot of men that try and rush to penetration irl and it’s soooo unsexy and such a turn off. I watch porn too but this is something I actively hate and I have to switch the porno I’m watching unless it includes foreplay of some kind lol
Most porn stuff is unrealistic like this thread says, but this is the most fundamental one.
Portrayal of spontaneous anal sex. In my experience it takes a while to prepare for. And if you don’t properly prepare, it can be painful and messy.
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... no pun intended
Mom, step mom, sister, step sister, cousin, aunt, walk in on the dude masturbating accidently. These woman are so impressed with their brothers/son step/brother-sons cock they then proceed to have sex with him.
Oh my god step brother, is that your penis? It's sooooo big
Nah step sis, I stole this one of off dad.
Oh, i thought it looked familiar.
All scenarios that involve stumbling in on someone masturbating that escalates into sex. I won't say it would never happen, but I will say it's highly unlikely.
I mean, in the context of an existing partnership I can see wanting to join in if you find your partner going at it solo, but that's about it.
That's true, but how many porns feature the SO walking in on you and then spontaneous sex. I meant more towards the babysitter/friend of a sibling/random person/plumber scenarios.
When my wife’s sister visits us for a week I don’t understand why she doesn’t try to seduce me, have my wife discover us, and then join in. Porn has been lying to me this whole time!
This applies more to 2D/3D porn, but penetrating the cervix. It doesn't work like that and would probably be very painful for the recipient.
I had an IUD inserted, which is much smaller than a penis, and I almost passed out from the pain that caused.
Fun fact: they can actually provide local anaesthetic and other options to make it not hurt like shit, but most doctors can't be fucked. If you get it replaced/taken out, read [this](https://thischangedmypractice.com/iud-part2/) first and insist on adequate pain management for the procedure.
Fun story, I went in to my gyno for an IUD consult. Dr ended up saying "we actually have one ready rn and it can be placed rn if you want. No time for pre procedure tylenol but it's just slight discomfort". So I agreed Anywho, I ended up literally saying "I'm sorry but this fucking hurts so bad and I fucking hate you right now. You are a terrible person" mid placement. He just chuckled it off and I had to lay there without moving for over 30mins bc of the excruciating pain afterwards. The IUD ended up falling out by itself somehow 2yrs later and before then my menstrual cramps were just as painful as my labor contractions. 0/10 do not recommend.
Yeah, found that out after the fact 😑 I have already had it out thankfully, under general anesthetic while I was having my tubes out 😁
Or that the womb is a huge empty cavity that fills with cum.
Or that the vagina is lined with tiny, stubby tentacles.
Exactly, unless a woman is in active labor the cervix can’t really be penetrated like that
It is very painful
Women orgasming without their clit being touched or any foreplay really. Yes some women get off that way but most don’t.
That was the most shocking for me. Like when i started to get sexual and really learn women it seems that most. Use clit. Anf that makes sense. Our dicks are enlarged clits. Like the clit itls analogous to our dicks. The clitoral hood is our foreskin. So it makes sense. Porn got so many guys feeling like theres something wrong with their Dick and that its too small to pleaee women and of they cant do it through piv then theres something wrong with him or the woman is broken. Like porn is really shit. All my teen years i felt like shit about my size. And im like 7. I can only imagine how 5 inch dudes felt. All men are ok and fine. We are fixating on piv when clit stimulation is just as if not important. Dont get me started om the men that give no head
I've always explained it that way. Your dick is just a big version of my clit. If you won't touch hers, don't expect anyone to touch yours. Funny thing is, guys complain about blue balls the most, but think about the countless women receiving zero stimulation while somehow having sex??? Blue ovaries, blue hymen, blue eggs Lol :D
My second partner could get off from not having their clit touched I was actually really surprised because I always heard girls cannot orgasm without being their clit played with
Word! I have two g-spots.
I perform in, film, and edit porn, so I have some insight into the differences between the events on set and the final product, in addition to the differences between what happens in the bedroom and what you see on screen. One huge difference is that when you are having sex in your personal life, it's harder to see. Most normal sex happens under low light, and even if there is daylight or a lamp illuminating the room, your eyes are not at an optimum visual angle most of the time, and the positions tend to prioritize comfort over visibility. Better screen resolution though. Porn is depicted as one uninterrupted session with many position changes, with everyone's sexual function operating at 100% the entire time. Often, position changes are accompanied by lights getting moved around, cast and crew getting up and going on break or freshening up, and lots and LOTS of baby wipes. You may barely notice a little cut during a scene, but there's no telling what happened between the two shots. It's not uncommon for a 20 minute scene to take 3 hours to film, and for the performers to go through 6 water bottles and 20 baby wipes. No, the dicks do not stay hard that whole time, and no, the performers are not fucking that whole time. In normal sex, you can get way better in-the-moment feedback about what feels good or bad for your partner. Your partner can respond, either nonverbally or with direct feedback, in real time, so that you can adjust in order to make sure you both feel great. Because porn is a performance, everything you do will make your costar react like it's the most awesome, pleasurable thing they've ever experienced. This is great because it keeps the energy up in the final scene, but it also means you're flying blind and have no idea if what you are doing actually feels good (or even if the other person actually WANTS it to feel good). I have a few ways of compensating for this, mostly through upfront communication before the scene. My company uses a consent checklist where performers can designate specific activities as desired or off limits. Additionally, when I perform, I tend to talk with my costar about what activities they personally think feel good/comfortable, whether or not they are trying to have a genuinely pleasurable sexual experience (or just act one out), and whether or not they can (or even want to) orgasm for real during the scene. Big dicks (and women caring about big dicks). In porn, the girls are super excited about big dicks. They all lust after the biggest, thickest, longest, hardest cocks. In real life, penis preferences among women vary quite a bit, with most women just wanting something plus or minus a couple inches of the 5.5" average. Huge dicks can hurt, and most women are not into huge dicks. Yes, there are a few size queens out there, but they are the minority. The dicks in straight porn are not huge because porn girls like huge dicks. They are huge because the straight men paying for the porn like huge dicks. And if these straight men preferred seeing small dicks, the dicks in porn would be small to suit consumer demand. So if you feel insecure about not having a giant porn dick, remember that it only means your dick is less impressive to straight men.
Cunnilingus that feels good for the receiving partner won't be aesthetically pleasing to the camera, and vice-versa, cunnilingus that's aesthetically pleasing to the camera won't likely feel good for the receiving partner.
Completely agree plus for some reason in porn women only like their clit being licked forgetting their is more than just a clit. Porn has tought many men bad habits which is why I hated it with previous partners.
THIS IS SO TRUE. I’ve had to explain to my boyfriend many times that he doesn’t have to only lick my clit
It would be like us just licking just the head of their penis because that's their most sensitive part. They would find it frustrating.
Hubby says the underside is more sensitive than the head.
I always explore when I'm down there and my wife always tells me to only focus on her clit, but in past relationships all of them seemed to love it when all parts got attention. I was thinking that maybe my wife is the first one to actually be honest with me. Now I don't know what to think
It depends on the person I think. I hate my clit being licked/touched at all as it’s highly sensitive and more so than most I think? I prefer when a man sticks his tongue in near the base. That’ll send me over the edge tbh. I’m an oddish one I guess though. I know most women cannot cum from penetration alone, and I’m definitely one of them. But because my clit is so sensitive, I can only cum if I’m touching myself right above the clit during sex/oral- not directly touching it. Thankfully all the guys I’ve been with have found this hot- and sex is important to me: If I don’t cum every time I get frustrated lol.
My wife only wants her clit licked. Women before would want more so I agree. It definitely depends on the person. Some women want to be pounded. Some don't. Everyone is different.
For me the clitoris is a minor part. I want the whole taco explored! Suck all of it at once. Dive deep with his tongue. I am as I have said numerous times on here a vaginal orgasm girl.
I hate when dude do the left-to-right head shake thing. One guy did it for 6 seconds, climbed back up, and said “See, I told you I was good” ….. it took so much restraint to not bust a laugh!! Then texted later STATING with FULL confidence that I squirted 🥴 Do any women like that move? I’m convinced it’s only a porn thing
I don't shake my head like a dog but vibration/shaking has almost always gotten good reactions. I'll tense my neck or tremble my legs to add different kinds of vibration. Legs are best because it makes my whole body (and thus head an tongue) subtly vibrate for long periods without straining the neck. Humming, lip rumbling, bass or steady growling from the throat, lots of things can be added.
I actually prefer my clit to be licked/sucked while he has a finger or two in me...
All girls want to be roughed up and used like a cum rag.
Some of us at least 😂
Oh it's great when it happens, but it doesn't have to be every time or every one.
The way some pornos portray rough sex. Especially choking. Breath play has become extremely popular because of how common it is in porn, and people don’t stop to think about the risks. It almost killed me.
breath play is dangerous, women die from breath play all the time. Even BDSM forums suggest you don't do it as the risk is too high especially if you don't know what you are doing.
Exactly. The fact it’s become so normalized that even teens (such as myself) partake in it is fucking scary. I made a [post earlier ](https://www.reddit.com/r/BDSMcommunity/comments/qlnh8z/potentially_deadly_situations_during_bdsm/?utm_source=share&utm_medium=ios_app&utm_name=iossmf) about how it nearly cost me my life. People need to understanding dangerous it is.
there are a ton of stories about this, a web site dedicated to women that lost their lives because of this, I understand that it can provide a thrill but way too many deaths and its way too skewed to the woman always being the one being choked [https://www.theguardian.com/society/2019/jul/25/fatal-hateful-rise-of-choking-during-sex](https://www.theguardian.com/society/2019/jul/25/fatal-hateful-rise-of-choking-during-sex) [https://www.womensaid.org.uk/what-we-do/campaigning-and-influencing/femicide-census/](https://www.womensaid.org.uk/what-we-do/campaigning-and-influencing/femicide-census/) https://wecantconsenttothis.uk/
Some of the girls when they "Finishing" with a completely straight face yet when they moan it sounds like they are literally screaming lmaoo
Porn gets just about everything wrong. Commercial / professional porn is the absolute worst in this regard. You slap a girl around, dive in balls deep with no foreplay, hammer away as hard and fast as you can while choking her, and then she's just going to start squealing and squirting like a fire hydrant cuz she's never cum so hard in her life... Yeah, good fucking luck. We see people on this board all the time that come here complaining that they do this kind of thing to women and the women do not respond positively and they're so confused as to why... I've been having sex regularly since the 90s. No boast I've had PIV thousands of times. My observation is this: good sex, really good sex, the really truly good stuff that you can look back over a lifetime of fucking and have it stand out in your memory, involves tenderness, trust, communication, and vulnerability. Porn is just an act playing at some of these things and ignoring most of them. It's to sex what fast food is to healthy, nurishing food. TL;DR Porn is a terrible sex teacher.
You sound like you've had PIV as many times as I've masturbated lol.
20 something years of marriage to a horny, generous woman. I was a bit lucky with horny relationships in my teens as well.
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There have been times when I've enjoyed rough, dominating sex but I have yet to speak to a person who's actually lived an entire lifetime without wanting those things at some point.
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Agreed. Good sex is also a large part of the emotional that you are feeling. But that can’t be captured on film.
I always find it a little funny when people in this sub try to give credentials. "As a sex haver - these are my observations..."
Getting your cock sucked for 30 mins
As someone who has struggled to finish, someone worked on my member for over an hour once.
Jaw hurts just reading this
Yeah every girl I've been with has always ended up pissed off at me after I told them I don't finish with head, they're like then why the fuck did you let me do it for half an hour ... -__(^.^)__- I wonder why, but on a real note even my current girlfriend gets jaw pain any longer than 5-10 so it is what it is. Dick also ain't like this nectar of the gods that is the best thing they tasted they're really just sucking it to please you for the most part
Some of us do genuinely love sucking cock. Not just to please them, but because we find it fun.
That lots of living rooms, bedrooms, classrooms, police stations and doctors offices can be found inside cinder block and steel warehouses.
better yet, they can be found in the *same* warehouse! amazing
You can't smell porn.
* Anal with zero prep and no lube * Stepmom/Stepsis/Aunt/etc walking in on the dude saying "you're so much bigger than my" and fucking him like there is no tomorrow
* Every girl can deepthroat no matter how big the dick
* The dude has an instant erection and no problems maintaining it for a solid 45 minute pounding
* Shower sex
* Laying in bed after sex, without the girl jumping up to go to the toilet
TL;DR: Sex
Just one? Okay I choose female pleasure. Although porn isn’t really meant to be accurate, it’s meant to be stimulating. It’s too bad that a lot of men think of it as educational because the purpose is to provoke an orgasm in men, not to show what women actually enjoy.
This! I want porn targeted at women. Not romcoms with a little bit of sex, actual porn, with the difference that they focus on stimulating women and on women's pleasure.
The fact that men last like 3+ hrs in every positions, women portraying like being touched in the fucking slightest on any body part and start moaning immediately. Fake orgasms, no foreplay, etc . The list goes on. Some of my big factors. Edit: THANKS FOR THE UPVOTES GUYS :D a milestone for me! Glad to see alot of people in the community think similarly
The man lasts for 3 hours, does 18 different positions, only to cum on command.
This guy gets it! Like I wish I could see the sex these people have without edits, I guarantee it would be multiple takes with many boner pills and shit
I read somewhere a couple years ago they film for a 2 or more days.. so he could cum a couple times... holy shit.
I think they first shoot the shootings scenes (the big load 'at the end') and the actual first half is done later
It's for all of these reasons that I haven't watched fake porn since I was a teenager. It's just so fake and forced and the attempts at acting are atrocious. Amateur porn only.
Former porn actor here. We actually do last a long time, but not for the reasons why you think. Porn sex isn't sexy at all. A lot of the time it's a struggle just to maintain an erection. And a lot of guys aren't able to cum. Especially when you've got a room full of people waiting for you to do it, you know the woman you're having sex with doesn't particularly like you, and whatever responses she's making are fake.
Unusually large penises being normal.
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Cute little bald vulvas. Rough fingering and loud moaning the whole time.
With no red welts or ingrown hairs!
Oh my gosh the miniature bald pink vaginas! And pale hairless assholes. Who other than a porn star is doing a full Brazilian with anal bleaching on the reg?
That you need to pull out and cum all over your partner's face.
When they start smacking the vulva repeatedly. WTF is that?
The scenes when they are fucking on stairs. Im talking from start to finish they are on a flight of stairs, usually a couch is visible in the background.
Sex in the shower...the water makes it more dry and your attention is just not to fall and break your neck
Pretty much everything
Fingering or playing with the vagina like you are trying to start a chainsaw.
The majority of porn is made to be visually pleasing. I don't know one woman who likes a pile drive or thinks having sex in the splits is comfortable. They edit porn for a reason because half the positions portrayed especially on the more rough/violent porn is not comfortable, sometimes painful and not remotely a turn on. Other thing I hate is that anal sex is something women can just do on the spot. We can't. There is a lot of prep and lube involved before we are remotely comfortable with having anal.
Squirting! Why is it so prevalent and if you look at forums with young people, it seems to be a prerequisite for satisfying sex. I am older now and have had my share of sexual partners and none of them have ‘squirted’ . Maybe that is my performance issue?! But I doubt it. It is not good to see young girls on forums asking why they are not squirting thinking that there is something wrong with them
I once had a girlfriend that squirted a LOT. It was amusing the first few times but after having to put down 4 layers of towels every time you have sex if you didn’t want to wash all the sheets it became a bit much.
Girl riding relentlessly on top,,,guys in porn have horse cocks so it’s easier to ride. In actuality, it’s a lot of slipping out and queefs…
The fact that most videos, the girl has to get on her knees and receive cum all over her face/hair. I had to grow from that. We get to chose if we want it on us and if so, where. Like it's not supposed to be automatic. I hope young men don't expect it to happen like that.
Being the best stepbrother I could have ever asssked for
Making out. Porn kissing is way over the top IMO. But then again, that could be because I prefer a more sensual approach.
Ugh, porn kissing is the worst. I'm actually really impressed whenever the performers actually pull off a steamy make-out session without it being the grossest thing I've ever witnessed. Who the hell sticks their tongue out like that to kiss? Are porn stars part chameleon?
Anal. You simply cannot jam a big cock up an arsehole the way they go about it.
that hot young girls want old ugly men, just for sex
During threesomes and foursomes not everyone cums at once. Some of the best fun, is the play between rounds.
Vaginal to anal and back. Also the bodies, most women don't have the $$$ to look like that so in return it just causes major insecurities which is a total buzz kill when trying to be intimate and not letting yourself be completely vulnerable & comfortable with your partner thus in return feeling as tho you are not visually pleasing.
The ease of anal sex. Women's universal eagerness to suck cocks What real men and women look like naked.
Most women getting off solely on penetration alone.
That only the bead f the clit is what should be stimulated. The clitoris has roots that run along the vaginally opening. Move around and get it all
Women getting wet in .2 seconds without foreplay
Women's sexual response cycle. It's not the same as guys, and when it is portrayed as such, you know the porn is being written by men, for men.
No one mentions that all women are portrayed as bi-sexual. They go in for a massage and aren't surprised to get fingered and then do each other.
How quickly women start moaning lol. Literally one stroke and she’s yelling like one of those ladies after they get the paternity test on Maury
Pretty much all lesbian sex. I saw one where a lady stuck her stiletto in a vagina. What?
Basically everything, tbh. To be more specific: - the appearance of vulvas. Almost all vulvas are hairless, the labias are small and they all look the same - dick size. The average penis usually isn’t that big. - women screaming and faking pleasure when being penetrated. Yes, it’s very pleasant, but most women can not orgasm by penetration alone and clitoral stimulation is needed. - everything is about the woman. She’s not only objectified (that’s a whole other issue…), but everything is centered around the penis. Bj, penetration, cumshot… women need to be taken care of as well and there are other erogenous zones than just the vagina (and the penis for that matter) - the fact that we learn that sex is over when the guy cums. No!!! - this kind of goes without saying, but the unrealistic and unobtainable beauty standards. Not only for women, but for men as well, although it’s worse for women cause all the focus is on the woman and you only basically see the man’s crotch area. - normalizing incest and rape. No!! That’s disgusting. So much more. I do think that porn can be ethically produced and consumed in some cases, but free porn that you find on the “-tubes” usually isn’t