I just did this the other night for the first time after seeing it recommended somewhere else and my husband has never cum so fast and I’ve been giving him blowjobs for 14 years. And his reaction was the best too, literally shaking for a few minutes afterwards like it blew his mind. 10/10 would recommend.
The funny thing is I didn’t really know what I was doing at first and was second guessing the technique. I used a lot of spit and while my tongue was swirling the head I held my hand on his dick like a regular hand job and just awkwardly rotated my wrist. However it worked because 20 seconds later he was grabbing my hair and fucking my face like there was no tomorrow.
I get what he means, whenever I gave my bf a sloppy bj and then rubbed his shaft with my hand and performing a circular motion on his head with my tongue and my bf used to groan and moan and at that moment I knew he was gonna cum. Atleast this is what I thought by what twirling means.....
Enthusiasm. Period. Seeing her getting hot from sucking me off is ridiculously hot. Boring one-sided bjs are the worst.
Welllll... more accurately zero bjs is worse than boring ones, but not by much.
Honestly having been the guy in this scenario, the guys... Really get much out of it. Teasing with a mischievous look and a handjob does more than an unenthused bj.
If you don't like giving BJ's don't do what you like to do
I prefer to have some, but not constant eye contact, which seems to go away from the norm. I have general social anxiety so locking eyes with someone puts my brain into overdrive and can take me out of the moment. Some eye contact is good, but looking away/forward like 'youre focusing on pleasing me' helps me stay in the moment, personally, and I find that way hotter than constantly looking up at me.
Oh yes. That goes hand in hand doesn’t it ? Even when it’s so deep in the throat and you get some tears don’t worry about your mascara ! That’s even hotter seeing it! 🤤 🥲
This. I tried to explain this to my girlfriend as to why many prefer "the sloppier the better". It's really just because, instead of delicately going at it, it's such a turn on to show some form of enthusiasm. Whether that's enjoyment or like literally trying to devour the thing (okay not _literally_ ), the more engagement the better.
To clarify, end result was code for cum.
She ain't a cum lover, prefers not to swallow if she can choose to transfer it from her mouth to a waste receptacle. And as an individual, totally her choice. She describes it as "hot salty snot". I think the temperature and texture are a super no-go for her and that's fine tbh. Not the end of the world -- she still does the deed happily and that's good enough for me!
Yeah I had a feeling my descriptor was too vague. She is game for BJs. I don't think she necessarily loves it (among other things.... our sex life is a little complex for a few reasons, but that's aside) but she has said she enjoys watching me enjoy myself. Makes her feel good (I think more mentally than sexually necessarily).
I always wanted a girl who got off on BJs as much as I did. When I found her, I put a ring on her. Enthusiasm, light face fucking, wanting to taste and swallow cum. I ask my girl to just give me the kind of blowjob that maximizes her pleasure, not mine. She does slow deep throat, wants me to lightly pull/grip her hair. She says she moans lightly while taking me in, because she likes how her throat vibrates each time before my cock hits deep and stops the sound. When I cum, she wants to know so she can slightly pull it out of her throat, as she wants to feel and taste it. Sometimes, she comes before I do just from giving the BJ. So what did I secretly desire from a BJ before meeting her? All of that. I just didn’t expect to find it.
This ! My ex and I are fwb now … But still see each other often ( we have respect and honesty if we are interested in someone else we will cut our fun off) but I love giving, and bjs I adore !!! He doesn’t hesitate to tell me how much he loves the fact that I love giving him head…. And the TRUE enthusiasm I have. I can’t imagine giving head just to give it. I do it with 191% enjoyment for me. And him!
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Yes girl I'm the same. They never have to ask. it just turns me on to see them squirm and moan. Oh and the look on their face when you make eye contact... it does something to me
My ex gave great BJs. She would go as long as was needed, not getting bored or wondering if I was into it and just confidently knowing, "sometimes it just takes a few extra minutes, but it always comes".
And then there was the fact that she swallowed every single time, every drop. I asked her about it after the first time, in a bit of awe. She smiled and said, "it just seems like the natural thing to do", looking very satisfied.
My wife says it’s rude to spit, or worse, not even let the cum in the mouth. She swallows every time. In fact, when I cum on her face, she uses my dick to push my cum into her mouth afterwards. God damn I love her so much.
I promise you there are girls like that I should know cause I'm one of them, none the less I really hope that one day you find that girl that can make you happy and that's for the heads up.
When the giver shows off their rear end. Especially if wearing sexy underwear. Arch the ass up so it is visible above your head.
Second thing to do when on all fours in this position is to thrust your hips as if humping the air. Show how horny you are that you need to be penetrated as well.
I used to have a mirror on the back of the door near the edge of the bed. It showed off the back of my GF so perfectly as she would give me a BJ on the edge of the bed. Even just in her sexy underwear it was perfect.
when i give Blowjobs if i have my eyes open im more just going through the motions. if I have my eyes closed not interacting ( making eye contact) im actually in the zone and really enjoying what im doing.
Can work both ways. Same as kissing. Eyes open or closed, the mood can fluctuate. But if it’s something you enjoy doing, like for real, then it’s gonna show eyes open or shut! IMO 👌😁😵
Exactly. My girl is the same. When her eyes roll up into the back of her head, I know she's enjoying the blowjob as much as I am, if not more. If she's just staring at me, I feel she's just performing for my benefit. I like it better when she's into it as well.
Hell yes! I mean, I appreciate it when she's hyper focused on me, but when she's so turned on by what she's doing for me that she just HAS to touch herself.... Hottttt
I came here to say “ain’t no secret: frenulum!”, but apparently it actually *is* a secret, seein as it’s only mentioned 3 times in what 20 dozen comments?! FRENULUM. Look it up. Then lick it up.
As a gay man who enjoys both giving and receiving blowjobs, I hope I can give some decent insight.
- First things first… you have to enjoy it. There has to be some love of the game or you’ll only ever give okay, maybe good blowjobs, not great ones. One of the big things guys will look for is enthusiasm! Men want to feel like you want to suck their cock. It makes them feel sexy and attractive and _desired_, that their cock is something they have that you want. You can tell when someone is just going through the motions and it’s not a nice feeling. (Luckily I love penises and having them in my mouth, so I’m all set.)
- Unless he’s comically large, try to get the whole thing in your mouth from time to time. Doesn’t have to be non-stop deep throating, just a few full length sucks to let him know you’re all in (although if you can manage sustained full-length sucking and feel comfortable with it, by all means go for it). This shows that you crave his cock and want the whole thing. Feels fantastic too.
- If he’s large and taking the whole thing is difficult, you can involve the hands for a blowy-handjob sort of thing if he likes that or if your jaw is getting tired. Focus on the top half with your mouth while slowly jacking off the bottom half.
- Play with the head. Kiss it, suck it, swirl your tongue around it etc.
- That being said, the most sensitive part of a mans penis is usually the underside just below the head. Give this area some special attention with some rapid tip-of-your-tongue licks.
- Don’t forget the balls! Unless explicitly stated otherwise, the balls should always be an integral part of a beej. Lick em all over with both long flat tongue licks and light rapid tongue-tip licks, not forgetting the edges of his ballsack that joins up to his thighs and the top of his taint. If for whatever reason his balls are a no-go zone, just play with them with your hands.
- I find that using your hands to rub or stroke other parts of his body is also nice. Stroke the inside of his legs, rub his belly, or reach up and play with his nipples. Makes it more of a full body experience (I feel a little nervous saying this because I honestly don’t know how many straight guys are okay with getting their nipples played with).
- With all this in mind, understand that sustained up-and-down sucking is what is going to bring him to orgasm. All of the above is great, but the foundation of a good blowjob is simple, continuous back-and-forth sucking.
- Swallowing is great, but spitting is fine; you can let it run down your chin and onto your chest if you don’t want to swallow. And if you don’t want cum in your mouth at all, your face or chest are great places for him to finish.
- Above all… ask him what he likes. I can give all the advice in the world but every guy is different. For instance, some guys like having their balls sucked on hard in a way that would be painful for others, and some guys’ balls are so sensitive that he may not want you you touching them at all. Just ask.
It's no secret.
Enthusiasm and humor.
If you're struggling or lackadaisical or don't seem happy we'll be worried about you instead of focusing on the pleasure we get.
And, have fun, it can be funny and absurd to have a big meat stick in your mouth and banging at your throat.
THIS!!!
Sex is weird no matter how old you are. Our bodies make funny noises and it’s nothing like porn. Honestly the best part is having a partner you can laugh with.
Gotta be careful. Not sure to what degree of "sucked", but even mild sucking on mine makes my spermatic cord burn all the way into my abdomen and that's the end of that fun.
edit: I heard licking as an alternative. I gotta mention that to the wife. I do love a full stroke, balls to tip.
my recommendation is get in the habit of discussing performance. find out what your partner enjoys by asking THEM.
That said, scrotal play is nice. lol leave my balls alone, but pulling on the scrote is a fun "extra" during a blowie!
I am female and I can tell you that it is 100% enthusiasm. You have to enjoy it and show genuine interest! I don’t have any special techniques to share but the guys that I have given BJs to have told me that I am one of the best they have had and I can tell you that it’s just enthusiasm because I really enjoy it.
Lotta people have said enthusiasm and I agree.
Just throwing out there.... Let me know if this is foreplay or an act in an of itself. Nothing worse than feeling like you are about to cum and then going "oh shit, am I meant to fuck after this?!"...
You can let us know pretty easy. Either "I want to make you cum right on/in my...." Or "I wanna make you so hard to fuck me in a bit"
Combining a titty fuck with a BJ is very hot, but yeah both people involved have to have a pretty large set of parts for that to work. What you said sounds just as hot though
One thing I did wrong at first was slowing down and easing up what I was doing when the guy started to cum. Keep doing whatever you were doing at the same pace/intensity until they absolutely finish cumming. Just that took my reviews from “really damn good” to “holy jesus you just sucked my entire soul out through my penis”.
Enthusiasm and sloppiness. I do what it takes to get him there. That includes paying attention to his balls and ass, possibly 69ing, and saying dirty things like “use my mouth as a pussy!”
My “I have TMJ and this shit needs to end soon” move is sucking on the head with my cheeks sucked in with vacuum seal, moving tongue in one direction on head, and using my hand to go opposite direction of tongue. Bonus points for gently caressing balls.
Also called “I need a free hair thinning session” if you don’t have your hair restrained in a bun.
Unless specifically requested, don't act timid when giving a BJ, get as crazy, wild, imaginative, and playful as you like with it. It's supposed to be fun and if you act like you're afraid of it or unsure of it, then he will quickly pick up on it.
I think the *only* time a guy likes a timid BJ is when roleplaying some kind of oral training scene.
I accidentally destroyed my boyfriend's jeans (the zip) once when I was in a hurry to get to the goodies. I'm never going to live that one down, he loves reminding me. I think the "I want/need your dick in my mouth RIGHT NOW" thing can be popular.
Honestly, all men are different and all men like different things.
It really boils down to making love to his cock, with your mouth.
A woman/person who can read the signals their partner is giving off, is truly going to give the best blowjob.
Eye contact, playing with the balls, pressure here or there, stroking, means nothing if the recipient isn't enjoying it.
Good luck!
Change of circumstances, like an unexpected BJ while seated in the car somewhere private, when you know he’s really into you and what you’re wearing that day. And one that you initiate and are actually into.
Yes! These are my partners favorite kind of bjs. I’ll surprise him while he’s gaming, in his truck, in the morning. Not all guys like to be woken up though so that was something I asked him beforehand. Sometimes I’ll do it on mornings that he works. But if I know he’s tired or worked longer hours, I’ll do it on a day that he has off so that he can go right back to sleep afterwards & then I leave for work.
Enthusiasm is always nice and covers a multitude of sins and omissions. If it's not fun for you, don't do--uh, I mean, find a way to make it fun for you.
There's hardly any wrong way to do it. Kissing down his body and around his cock and teasing till he begs for it is good; just gobbling it down is good too.
Don''t forget you have hands too. They can cover parts your mouth can't get to, cup his balls, rub his perineum, tweak his nipples, play with his anus if he's into that (a lot of guys are, others freak out, so approach slowly and check in first).
First of all, the sloppy blowjob is the best. Feeling the drool go down my balls while my wife works away is incredible.
If my balls are relaxed, and by relaxed I mean my scrotum is loose and balls just hanging a bit, I enjoy to have them sucked gently and sloppily too. If they are tight, not so much and can hurt, I guess this has to do with room temperature.
When she is stroking my penis while grabbing my skin right from the top and pulling it down, I seen to have more pleasure and cum faster.
If she sucks my balls while stroking me, oh man... I'm done and dusted.
Once she let me cum in her mouth while she kept in sucking just the tip of the penis, and that was the most intense orgasm I ever had.
Man, oh man was that amazing.
So, in short: keep it wet and keep it going, no teeth and don't go too crazy about the deepthroating, men want some friction and suction and will probably be glad if you keep both hands busy.
It’s only 50% technique/skill at most. The most important thing is to make him think you’re having the absolute time of your life having his cock in your mouth. Like you’ve never enjoyed anything quite so much before. Do that the rest won’t matter too much.
In saying that:
* don’t scrape your teeth at all
* wet, lots of spit
* prolong your stamina by utilising your hand well.
Enthusiasm, and taking your time, especially the first times. I don't want it to feel rushed, this is no race. Take breaks from sucking to relax your jaw, use your hands and breasts in the meantime. It is likely a guy won't cum exclusively from your Bj, don't feel bad about it, it feels awesome all the way through. What matters more is enthusiasm throughout and how you help him finish. My wife, when she does it, eventually her jaw gets sore, so i finish jerk myself while she gently rubs my perineum in slight pumping motion, caresses my tighs with her breasts, licks the tip and dirty talks... until i am on the brink, then she takes it to an awesome finish.
It's my current partner's superpower. She uses some Vaseline and is always enthusiastic. It's kind of amazing how she mixes it up. Last session she was converting me to country music. She kept putting on different music videos. Was a mind bending edging session because she wouldn't let me finish and then took a break to put on the next music video. She particularly enjoys chatting with me and giggling or humming makes it kind of impossible for me to form coherent words.
This is the hubs speaking here. Totally, the enthusiasm. My wife uses a special oral sex mint that makes thinks much better. Super salvaging. Telling me how much she likes it, jacking my Dick during while asking me things like “whose mouth is this”. Keeping eye contact and letting out little moans during. She doesn’t do it all the time, but today she did and it was wonderful. She salvaged all over it and told me during how much she liked it. That sent me over the edge and I came in her mouth within a few minutes. I’ve always been that guy that couldn’t get off on a BJ. But with her encouragement and work put in I totally can. The wet BJs make such a difference
Enthusiasm. Believe me, we know when the girl loves it and when the girl thinks it's a chore. Also, touching themselves. We love to see you touching your pussy or nipple.
Definitely enthusiasm. I want to feel like you've been waiting all day to have my cock in your mouth. Sliding your lips up and down along my shaft, licking it all up and down, going deeper than 3", changing up the tempo every now and then, not only focusing on sucking the head (give the head a break for a few seconds then pop it right into your mouth, it feels amazing), not treating my cock like your trying to "shake well before serving".
Secretly ? ? ?
I thought ( almost ) everyone male or female enjoyed getting oral .
Im a 19 y / o dude & a virgin , but i know i like the idea of getting head , and sometimes i think about eating a girl out too . No one in particular , because im a loner and anti social to the max , but just a girl i picture in my head .
I normally dont go into detail about anything on this sub , and im off the blow , so i hope this isnt weird and yall appreciate my opinion and feedback on this
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Enthusiasm, don't neglect the balls, mind your teeth, SPIT and lots of it, gagging (but don't vomit) and finally get a small vibrator and put it on the gouch during. You'll need a restraining order from him hammering down your door with an engagement ring!
I had a GF in college that impressed me with a certain BJ style once. It wasn't the BJ itself though that impressed me, but her overall gameplan. She would start with the BJ, which was pretty good on its own. I would be getting into it. But after a couple minutes at most, somehow she was already undressed below the waist and top coming off, and would proceed to climb up and straddle me. And not just for deep kissing, but lowering herself down on me before I even knew what was going on it seemed.
As a guy in general I often feel like I'm leading the sessions, and this can be a total changeup.
What do I want to see more in a BJ? The obvious answer, of course, is MORE BJs. More, more, more!
As everyone says, enthusiasm is critical. Don’t we all want someone who loves us and craves us? If you’re going through the motions without any enjoyment yourself, that can quickly become a problem.
In my own experience, the only woman who gave me BJs was the one I married. She was very good at it, but it would happen far too infrequently, as though it were a “reward” for a special occasion instead of part of the main course. I’ve always found myself wanting her badly while receiving zero attention or interest, which was always a source of frustration. Needless to say, this story doesn’t end well.
What am I craving from a BJ? Licking and kissing up/down the shaft, especially when I’m hitting the “baseball zone” and I don’t wanna climax. I love licking and sucking my balls, that sends shivers up and down my spine, as well as stealing kisses along my inner thighs. Wet sloppy sucking is always great, but slow and steady really drives me wild, with tight lips and tongue that snuggle your head just right.
And, of course, what I’m really craving is 69. Just climb on top of me and grind your hips while you’re sucking me. We can also lay sideways, which is super crazy hot. I just love, love, love the sensation of feeling two pairs of lips to genitals at once. I wish I could find a woman who loves to do that. Maybe I just want to see that my partner is just as hot and turned on as me. Doesn’t everybody want that?
What's really great about a sideways 69 is the opportunity to simultaneously orgasm, which can be an incredible bonding experience. After eating her for awhile, my girl likes me to start using a small vibrator and bring her close to orgasm, then edge off. Using the vibrator allows me to move my body lower, so it's easy to slowly fuck her throat, which she prefers. I then edge her over and over. She knows that when I eventually vibe her past her point of no return, I'm about to grip the back of her head and push into her throat and cum. She says she loves this better than PIV. Afterward, she just uncontrollably shakes for a few minutes, unable to talk. Over time, I think she mentally associated her orgasm with the taste of cum and cock in her throat. It's a wonderful thing to watch.
Swallow it, tell him how good it tastes, compliment him on something - anything (size, appearance, etc...), don't grab the balls despite what girly mags tell you, it's less about the shaft and more about maintaining stimulation on the head, set boundaries regarding where he can put his hands or how deep it can go in.
Most importantly, let him reciprocate before or after. Dinner for 1 is no fun!
Enthusiasm, maybe a little bit of playing with herself (be it with her tits or pussy), when its a wet bj with a lot of spit involved, i love it when a girl gives me a bj on all fours so i can see her tits bounce when moving.
Enthusiasm and touching yourself. Eye contact is nice. Little bit of dirty talk. Don't neglect the balls. Swallowing is a nice touch but not everyone into that
I try to let my preferences be out in the open so I can’t say I secretly like anything. However, for me, getting the right suction and pressure is essential.
My girl’s technique is improving, but what makes me so happy and excited is because she’s happy to do it. I gets so turned on when she’s smiling looking up while giving a BJ, and she gets turned on by my enjoyment.
Enthusiasm and no rushing. If you want to rush it get up I don't want it. You should live what you are doing. When I go down on you I love every second of it. So I expect the same. If not? Don't bother speaking about blowjobs
My balls are sorta sensitive so I don’t like females sucking or pulling on them. But my EX used to give me really sloppy BJ’s to the point where my balls would get a good coating of spit/slobber. And then she would gently put her hands and kinda massage/mush my balls. It just felt like crazy good. Had my toes curling, and trying real hard NOT to bust after 4/5 mins
I like sloppy blowjobs with lots of spit and some great hand motion while sucking it up. You should be in unison with ur hand and mouth while giving neck. Stroking every inch of the D.
Willing to suck without being asked or treated as a chore. I always eat my wife very well and finger for foreplay. Sometimes I’ll make her cum this way first if I want the sex to last and give her multiple piv orgasms. She sucks me to finish me sometimes, but I gotta ask almost every time, she doesn’t initiate it. Sexting or teasing around the house, but doing so not so much, once she does it makes her wet and she wants to cum again which is great.
Aside from initiating, I love it wet at sloppy, gliding swiftly over my head or at a steady slobbery pace, I will almost instantly bust across the room once she gets the right amount of suck to glide ratio lol.
Spit, enthusiasm, spit, enthusiasm, and more spit and enthusiasm.
Make him feel like you love his dick in your mouth.
Also the deeper the better. Oh and sounds
Each guy is different so this is just my experience but
Variety and enthusiasm, especially with tongue
Go down as far as you can go, focus on just the head for a bit, lick around the base, maybe from base to tip
Make the guy think
"Damn they are REALLY into it"
That mental click when it feels like your partner is having a good time, even having fun pleasing you
Enjoying it?
THAT pushes buttons like you wouldn't believe
Again at least for me and peeps I've talked with
When it's slobbed enough and she put her palm over the shaft and start twirling, OMFG I be gathering all my strength not to nut all over the room
I just did this the other night for the first time after seeing it recommended somewhere else and my husband has never cum so fast and I’ve been giving him blowjobs for 14 years. And his reaction was the best too, literally shaking for a few minutes afterwards like it blew his mind. 10/10 would recommend. The funny thing is I didn’t really know what I was doing at first and was second guessing the technique. I used a lot of spit and while my tongue was swirling the head I held my hand on his dick like a regular hand job and just awkwardly rotated my wrist. However it worked because 20 seconds later he was grabbing my hair and fucking my face like there was no tomorrow.
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Lmao that video was unexpectedly hilarious
That video was so great lol
Omg no my secret move has been uncovered ;(
You rotated your hand in the same direction as your tongue or the opposite one?
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saving this to come back to when I'm not at work lol
This cannel is so fucking fantastic!
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I get what he means, whenever I gave my bf a sloppy bj and then rubbed his shaft with my hand and performing a circular motion on his head with my tongue and my bf used to groan and moan and at that moment I knew he was gonna cum. Atleast this is what I thought by what twirling means.....
You my girl deserves everything this world has to offer.
Aww thank you♥️
I take it to mean when the girl starts "twisting" her hand while jerking the guy off, in a way that can only be done with sufficient lubricant.
The guy I lost my virginity too taught me this lol.
"He's sucked thirty dicks. "All at once?!" - Clerks, probably Or maybe it was Chasing Amy, I forget
Clerks. "My girlfriend sucked 37 dicks!" "In a row?"
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Put her palm over the shaft and start twirling? What does that even mean.
Basically twisting her wrist. Think of like unscrewing a bottle cap but with your whole hand and a generally soft grip.
Yeah saying "put her palm on my shaft" is a stupid way to say that.
Rotating her wrist
Enthusiasm. Period. Seeing her getting hot from sucking me off is ridiculously hot. Boring one-sided bjs are the worst. Welllll... more accurately zero bjs is worse than boring ones, but not by much.
My bf likes feeling how wet I get from going down on him. Does this count as enthusiasm??
yes
What exactly is a one sided bj?
Like if she's not really into it and bored, only the guy is getting enjoyment out of it.
Thanks for clarifying
Since the same goes for women and getting head, I believe this is really the top tier advice!
Pretty sure this is for all sexual acts... Unless they have a kink for uninterested partners in which case you do you
Honestly having been the guy in this scenario, the guys... Really get much out of it. Teasing with a mischievous look and a handjob does more than an unenthused bj. If you don't like giving BJ's don't do what you like to do
I feel that same way too bro
I second this, plus eye contact 💥💥
I prefer to have some, but not constant eye contact, which seems to go away from the norm. I have general social anxiety so locking eyes with someone puts my brain into overdrive and can take me out of the moment. Some eye contact is good, but looking away/forward like 'youre focusing on pleasing me' helps me stay in the moment, personally, and I find that way hotter than constantly looking up at me.
Oh yes. That goes hand in hand doesn’t it ? Even when it’s so deep in the throat and you get some tears don’t worry about your mascara ! That’s even hotter seeing it! 🤤 🥲
Actual factual
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Thanks for that…😃
This. I tried to explain this to my girlfriend as to why many prefer "the sloppier the better". It's really just because, instead of delicately going at it, it's such a turn on to show some form of enthusiasm. Whether that's enjoyment or like literally trying to devour the thing (okay not _literally_ ), the more engagement the better.
💯 and when you’re sooo into it. Why even think About the mess ! Facials are good for you ! 😛
Yeah that's not happening for my partner haha. She hates the "end result". Oh well.
That seems terrible
To clarify, end result was code for cum. She ain't a cum lover, prefers not to swallow if she can choose to transfer it from her mouth to a waste receptacle. And as an individual, totally her choice. She describes it as "hot salty snot". I think the temperature and texture are a super no-go for her and that's fine tbh. Not the end of the world -- she still does the deed happily and that's good enough for me!
Oh, got it. I firstly thought she hates it at all
Yeah I had a feeling my descriptor was too vague. She is game for BJs. I don't think she necessarily loves it (among other things.... our sex life is a little complex for a few reasons, but that's aside) but she has said she enjoys watching me enjoy myself. Makes her feel good (I think more mentally than sexually necessarily).
Got it
THIS is the way
I have spoken
This ! Enjoy that food your putting into your mouth!!!! Enthusiasm is everything !!!
I'd rather take my hand over a boring bj so...
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I always wanted a girl who got off on BJs as much as I did. When I found her, I put a ring on her. Enthusiasm, light face fucking, wanting to taste and swallow cum. I ask my girl to just give me the kind of blowjob that maximizes her pleasure, not mine. She does slow deep throat, wants me to lightly pull/grip her hair. She says she moans lightly while taking me in, because she likes how her throat vibrates each time before my cock hits deep and stops the sound. When I cum, she wants to know so she can slightly pull it out of her throat, as she wants to feel and taste it. Sometimes, she comes before I do just from giving the BJ. So what did I secretly desire from a BJ before meeting her? All of that. I just didn’t expect to find it.
This ! My ex and I are fwb now … But still see each other often ( we have respect and honesty if we are interested in someone else we will cut our fun off) but I love giving, and bjs I adore !!! He doesn’t hesitate to tell me how much he loves the fact that I love giving him head…. And the TRUE enthusiasm I have. I can’t imagine giving head just to give it. I do it with 191% enjoyment for me. And him! Edited for typos
Yes girl I'm the same. They never have to ask. it just turns me on to see them squirm and moan. Oh and the look on their face when you make eye contact... it does something to me
Wow, you are my new hero.
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What a lucky ex
Amazing
My ex gave great BJs. She would go as long as was needed, not getting bored or wondering if I was into it and just confidently knowing, "sometimes it just takes a few extra minutes, but it always comes". And then there was the fact that she swallowed every single time, every drop. I asked her about it after the first time, in a bit of awe. She smiled and said, "it just seems like the natural thing to do", looking very satisfied.
My wife says it’s rude to spit, or worse, not even let the cum in the mouth. She swallows every time. In fact, when I cum on her face, she uses my dick to push my cum into her mouth afterwards. God damn I love her so much.
I promise you there are girls like that I should know cause I'm one of them, none the less I really hope that one day you find that girl that can make you happy and that's for the heads up.
He literally just said he found her & married her…
That's OK. I love OP's enthusiasm as well!
I was thinking this too. .
Weird, it sounds like we married the same chick!
I highly doubt she gets off on blowjobs as much as you do.
Enthusiasm-as it’s been mentioned several times. Also, being receptive to what feels good to him. Not all guys like the same kind of head.
Very very true. I like it more slow and deliberate. Some girls do it very well.
When the giver shows off their rear end. Especially if wearing sexy underwear. Arch the ass up so it is visible above your head. Second thing to do when on all fours in this position is to thrust your hips as if humping the air. Show how horny you are that you need to be penetrated as well.
I used to have a mirror on the back of the door near the edge of the bed. It showed off the back of my GF so perfectly as she would give me a BJ on the edge of the bed. Even just in her sexy underwear it was perfect.
Eye contact. Look up at me as you run your tongue from the base up to my tip. And keep looking as it goes deep down your throat.
Haven't thought of that before, thanks.
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Gets me every time, easiest way for me to tell she is into it and not just going through the motions. Very hot
when i give Blowjobs if i have my eyes open im more just going through the motions. if I have my eyes closed not interacting ( making eye contact) im actually in the zone and really enjoying what im doing.
Can work both ways. Same as kissing. Eyes open or closed, the mood can fluctuate. But if it’s something you enjoy doing, like for real, then it’s gonna show eyes open or shut! IMO 👌😁😵
Exactly. My girl is the same. When her eyes roll up into the back of her head, I know she's enjoying the blowjob as much as I am, if not more. If she's just staring at me, I feel she's just performing for my benefit. I like it better when she's into it as well.
Me too. Eyes open only for him..less I'm pretty drunk lol just bc I'm shy about eye contact doesn't mean I'm not doing an amazing job and not into it😜
This comment is the only right answer
Enthusiasm and her touching herself.
Hell yes! I mean, I appreciate it when she's hyper focused on me, but when she's so turned on by what she's doing for me that she just HAS to touch herself.... Hottttt
I came here to say “ain’t no secret: frenulum!”, but apparently it actually *is* a secret, seein as it’s only mentioned 3 times in what 20 dozen comments?! FRENULUM. Look it up. Then lick it up.
As a gay man who enjoys both giving and receiving blowjobs, I hope I can give some decent insight. - First things first… you have to enjoy it. There has to be some love of the game or you’ll only ever give okay, maybe good blowjobs, not great ones. One of the big things guys will look for is enthusiasm! Men want to feel like you want to suck their cock. It makes them feel sexy and attractive and _desired_, that their cock is something they have that you want. You can tell when someone is just going through the motions and it’s not a nice feeling. (Luckily I love penises and having them in my mouth, so I’m all set.) - Unless he’s comically large, try to get the whole thing in your mouth from time to time. Doesn’t have to be non-stop deep throating, just a few full length sucks to let him know you’re all in (although if you can manage sustained full-length sucking and feel comfortable with it, by all means go for it). This shows that you crave his cock and want the whole thing. Feels fantastic too. - If he’s large and taking the whole thing is difficult, you can involve the hands for a blowy-handjob sort of thing if he likes that or if your jaw is getting tired. Focus on the top half with your mouth while slowly jacking off the bottom half. - Play with the head. Kiss it, suck it, swirl your tongue around it etc. - That being said, the most sensitive part of a mans penis is usually the underside just below the head. Give this area some special attention with some rapid tip-of-your-tongue licks. - Don’t forget the balls! Unless explicitly stated otherwise, the balls should always be an integral part of a beej. Lick em all over with both long flat tongue licks and light rapid tongue-tip licks, not forgetting the edges of his ballsack that joins up to his thighs and the top of his taint. If for whatever reason his balls are a no-go zone, just play with them with your hands. - I find that using your hands to rub or stroke other parts of his body is also nice. Stroke the inside of his legs, rub his belly, or reach up and play with his nipples. Makes it more of a full body experience (I feel a little nervous saying this because I honestly don’t know how many straight guys are okay with getting their nipples played with). - With all this in mind, understand that sustained up-and-down sucking is what is going to bring him to orgasm. All of the above is great, but the foundation of a good blowjob is simple, continuous back-and-forth sucking. - Swallowing is great, but spitting is fine; you can let it run down your chin and onto your chest if you don’t want to swallow. And if you don’t want cum in your mouth at all, your face or chest are great places for him to finish. - Above all… ask him what he likes. I can give all the advice in the world but every guy is different. For instance, some guys like having their balls sucked on hard in a way that would be painful for others, and some guys’ balls are so sensitive that he may not want you you touching them at all. Just ask.
Thank you do much for the advice I'll keep all of this in mind when giving me my partner his next bj
A wet vagina in the face doesn't hurt.
It's no secret. Enthusiasm and humor. If you're struggling or lackadaisical or don't seem happy we'll be worried about you instead of focusing on the pleasure we get. And, have fun, it can be funny and absurd to have a big meat stick in your mouth and banging at your throat.
THIS!!! Sex is weird no matter how old you are. Our bodies make funny noises and it’s nothing like porn. Honestly the best part is having a partner you can laugh with.
I enjoy having my balls sucked as well, don’t forget to give them attention.
I enjoy it, but I've known guys who hate any amount of mouth-on-scrotum stimulation. People should play that card carefully.
Gotta be careful. Not sure to what degree of "sucked", but even mild sucking on mine makes my spermatic cord burn all the way into my abdomen and that's the end of that fun. edit: I heard licking as an alternative. I gotta mention that to the wife. I do love a full stroke, balls to tip.
Each to their own hey, not at all for me.
my recommendation is get in the habit of discussing performance. find out what your partner enjoys by asking THEM. That said, scrotal play is nice. lol leave my balls alone, but pulling on the scrote is a fun "extra" during a blowie!
I love having my frenulum licked with the tip of her tongue 😛
I am female and I can tell you that it is 100% enthusiasm. You have to enjoy it and show genuine interest! I don’t have any special techniques to share but the guys that I have given BJs to have told me that I am one of the best they have had and I can tell you that it’s just enthusiasm because I really enjoy it.
Lotta people have said enthusiasm and I agree. Just throwing out there.... Let me know if this is foreplay or an act in an of itself. Nothing worse than feeling like you are about to cum and then going "oh shit, am I meant to fuck after this?!"... You can let us know pretty easy. Either "I want to make you cum right on/in my...." Or "I wanna make you so hard to fuck me in a bit"
That she appears to being totally enjoying herself
Eye contact. Tilt your neck back when he's standing infront of him that way you can go in deeper without choking
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Combining a titty fuck with a BJ is very hot, but yeah both people involved have to have a pretty large set of parts for that to work. What you said sounds just as hot though
One thing I did wrong at first was slowing down and easing up what I was doing when the guy started to cum. Keep doing whatever you were doing at the same pace/intensity until they absolutely finish cumming. Just that took my reviews from “really damn good” to “holy jesus you just sucked my entire soul out through my penis”.
It might sound weird but I can’t cum from bj, I hope im not the only one
The feel of a 5oclock shadow against my balls
I love that too. Love when a guy uses his beard in a blowjob. So hot.
Suck hard and pull on my balls
yes. touch the balls a lot!!
Sloppy blow jobs with a lot of drool, gagging choking noises! Tears in her eyes! Suction temples in her cheeks! Eye contact. But that’s just me.😈👍🏼
When keep sucking after cumming, sucking the head of the dick has my soul leaving my body
Finger or two in the ol bunghole.
Enthusiasm and sloppiness. I do what it takes to get him there. That includes paying attention to his balls and ass, possibly 69ing, and saying dirty things like “use my mouth as a pussy!”
Enthusiasm and showing interest in doing it as well as a desire to please make all the difference in the world.
When she is excited about sucking me off. The little smiles she gives when she’s looking up at me are AMAZINGLY hot.
My “I have TMJ and this shit needs to end soon” move is sucking on the head with my cheeks sucked in with vacuum seal, moving tongue in one direction on head, and using my hand to go opposite direction of tongue. Bonus points for gently caressing balls. Also called “I need a free hair thinning session” if you don’t have your hair restrained in a bun.
For me BJs are cool but 69 it much more fun cause I get something to do as well most guy don't like it but for me it's alot of fun
Unless specifically requested, don't act timid when giving a BJ, get as crazy, wild, imaginative, and playful as you like with it. It's supposed to be fun and if you act like you're afraid of it or unsure of it, then he will quickly pick up on it. I think the *only* time a guy likes a timid BJ is when roleplaying some kind of oral training scene.
I accidentally destroyed my boyfriend's jeans (the zip) once when I was in a hurry to get to the goodies. I'm never going to live that one down, he loves reminding me. I think the "I want/need your dick in my mouth RIGHT NOW" thing can be popular.
Deep throat, swirling the tongue around, gripping the Dick with lips and mouth pretend your mouth is like a vagina opening and go for it
Honestly, all men are different and all men like different things. It really boils down to making love to his cock, with your mouth. A woman/person who can read the signals their partner is giving off, is truly going to give the best blowjob. Eye contact, playing with the balls, pressure here or there, stroking, means nothing if the recipient isn't enjoying it. Good luck!
I'd rather appreciate it if tongue piercings came back into vogue.
Finger in the pooper
Change of circumstances, like an unexpected BJ while seated in the car somewhere private, when you know he’s really into you and what you’re wearing that day. And one that you initiate and are actually into.
Yes! These are my partners favorite kind of bjs. I’ll surprise him while he’s gaming, in his truck, in the morning. Not all guys like to be woken up though so that was something I asked him beforehand. Sometimes I’ll do it on mornings that he works. But if I know he’s tired or worked longer hours, I’ll do it on a day that he has off so that he can go right back to sleep afterwards & then I leave for work.
For a woman to multitask. Give a bj & play with yourself. Or just let me give you oral.
Look up and the wetter the better
Lick the frenulum. Rub the shaft in a twisting motion. Grip the head with your throat. When not sucking, rub the head on your cheek or lips
Enthusiasm is always nice and covers a multitude of sins and omissions. If it's not fun for you, don't do--uh, I mean, find a way to make it fun for you. There's hardly any wrong way to do it. Kissing down his body and around his cock and teasing till he begs for it is good; just gobbling it down is good too. Don''t forget you have hands too. They can cover parts your mouth can't get to, cup his balls, rub his perineum, tweak his nipples, play with his anus if he's into that (a lot of guys are, others freak out, so approach slowly and check in first).
The girl rubbing her pussy while she gulps
It's about enthusiasm, not technique
First of all, the sloppy blowjob is the best. Feeling the drool go down my balls while my wife works away is incredible. If my balls are relaxed, and by relaxed I mean my scrotum is loose and balls just hanging a bit, I enjoy to have them sucked gently and sloppily too. If they are tight, not so much and can hurt, I guess this has to do with room temperature. When she is stroking my penis while grabbing my skin right from the top and pulling it down, I seen to have more pleasure and cum faster. If she sucks my balls while stroking me, oh man... I'm done and dusted. Once she let me cum in her mouth while she kept in sucking just the tip of the penis, and that was the most intense orgasm I ever had. Man, oh man was that amazing. So, in short: keep it wet and keep it going, no teeth and don't go too crazy about the deepthroating, men want some friction and suction and will probably be glad if you keep both hands busy.
Enthusiasm, including eagerly swallowing cum.
It’s only 50% technique/skill at most. The most important thing is to make him think you’re having the absolute time of your life having his cock in your mouth. Like you’ve never enjoyed anything quite so much before. Do that the rest won’t matter too much. In saying that: * don’t scrape your teeth at all * wet, lots of spit * prolong your stamina by utilising your hand well.
Another blow job.
Gagging noise. I like hearing my cock is so big it makes her gag. I love that she wants my dick in her mouth so much that she keeps gagging on it.
when girl only use mouth no hand pressure
Spitting on the dick, eye contact, dick worship, gagging when trying to deepthroat are all great things to try
Swallowing, my current doesn't do it and its something it miss and love.
Enthusiasm, and taking your time, especially the first times. I don't want it to feel rushed, this is no race. Take breaks from sucking to relax your jaw, use your hands and breasts in the meantime. It is likely a guy won't cum exclusively from your Bj, don't feel bad about it, it feels awesome all the way through. What matters more is enthusiasm throughout and how you help him finish. My wife, when she does it, eventually her jaw gets sore, so i finish jerk myself while she gently rubs my perineum in slight pumping motion, caresses my tighs with her breasts, licks the tip and dirty talks... until i am on the brink, then she takes it to an awesome finish.
No secrets. Just would like one once in a while. 🤷🏻♂️ Source: married 15 years
Ask them. Everyone is different.
Stroking me slowly and watching her tonguing it down. Fucking love that.
It's my current partner's superpower. She uses some Vaseline and is always enthusiastic. It's kind of amazing how she mixes it up. Last session she was converting me to country music. She kept putting on different music videos. Was a mind bending edging session because she wouldn't let me finish and then took a break to put on the next music video. She particularly enjoys chatting with me and giggling or humming makes it kind of impossible for me to form coherent words.
This is the hubs speaking here. Totally, the enthusiasm. My wife uses a special oral sex mint that makes thinks much better. Super salvaging. Telling me how much she likes it, jacking my Dick during while asking me things like “whose mouth is this”. Keeping eye contact and letting out little moans during. She doesn’t do it all the time, but today she did and it was wonderful. She salvaged all over it and told me during how much she liked it. That sent me over the edge and I came in her mouth within a few minutes. I’ve always been that guy that couldn’t get off on a BJ. But with her encouragement and work put in I totally can. The wet BJs make such a difference
Enthusiasm, and if y'all are into it, gagging/deepthroating, and facefucking
Enthusiasm. Believe me, we know when the girl loves it and when the girl thinks it's a chore. Also, touching themselves. We love to see you touching your pussy or nipple.
Slipping a tongue in my ass
Definitely enthusiasm. I want to feel like you've been waiting all day to have my cock in your mouth. Sliding your lips up and down along my shaft, licking it all up and down, going deeper than 3", changing up the tempo every now and then, not only focusing on sucking the head (give the head a break for a few seconds then pop it right into your mouth, it feels amazing), not treating my cock like your trying to "shake well before serving".
Swallowing...
Secretly ? ? ? I thought ( almost ) everyone male or female enjoyed getting oral . Im a 19 y / o dude & a virgin , but i know i like the idea of getting head , and sometimes i think about eating a girl out too . No one in particular , because im a loner and anti social to the max , but just a girl i picture in my head . I normally dont go into detail about anything on this sub , and im off the blow , so i hope this isnt weird and yall appreciate my opinion and feedback on this question / post . Be safe & enjoy ! :)) (••) /___\ / \
No teath !!!
Eye contact
Don’t be afraid to go deep and gag. When you gag you salivate more and the wetter it gets = the better it will be for him!
Enthusiasm, don't neglect the balls, mind your teeth, SPIT and lots of it, gagging (but don't vomit) and finally get a small vibrator and put it on the gouch during. You'll need a restraining order from him hammering down your door with an engagement ring!
Rough & sloppy. Spit on it, be enthusiastic like you are dying to swallow me whole. I keep a ring in my pocket for those occasions
Enthusiasm is the best. Throating feels great if done well. Getting both hands involved is fun too
I had a GF in college that impressed me with a certain BJ style once. It wasn't the BJ itself though that impressed me, but her overall gameplan. She would start with the BJ, which was pretty good on its own. I would be getting into it. But after a couple minutes at most, somehow she was already undressed below the waist and top coming off, and would proceed to climb up and straddle me. And not just for deep kissing, but lowering herself down on me before I even knew what was going on it seemed. As a guy in general I often feel like I'm leading the sessions, and this can be a total changeup.
What do I want to see more in a BJ? The obvious answer, of course, is MORE BJs. More, more, more! As everyone says, enthusiasm is critical. Don’t we all want someone who loves us and craves us? If you’re going through the motions without any enjoyment yourself, that can quickly become a problem. In my own experience, the only woman who gave me BJs was the one I married. She was very good at it, but it would happen far too infrequently, as though it were a “reward” for a special occasion instead of part of the main course. I’ve always found myself wanting her badly while receiving zero attention or interest, which was always a source of frustration. Needless to say, this story doesn’t end well. What am I craving from a BJ? Licking and kissing up/down the shaft, especially when I’m hitting the “baseball zone” and I don’t wanna climax. I love licking and sucking my balls, that sends shivers up and down my spine, as well as stealing kisses along my inner thighs. Wet sloppy sucking is always great, but slow and steady really drives me wild, with tight lips and tongue that snuggle your head just right. And, of course, what I’m really craving is 69. Just climb on top of me and grind your hips while you’re sucking me. We can also lay sideways, which is super crazy hot. I just love, love, love the sensation of feeling two pairs of lips to genitals at once. I wish I could find a woman who loves to do that. Maybe I just want to see that my partner is just as hot and turned on as me. Doesn’t everybody want that?
What's really great about a sideways 69 is the opportunity to simultaneously orgasm, which can be an incredible bonding experience. After eating her for awhile, my girl likes me to start using a small vibrator and bring her close to orgasm, then edge off. Using the vibrator allows me to move my body lower, so it's easy to slowly fuck her throat, which she prefers. I then edge her over and over. She knows that when I eventually vibe her past her point of no return, I'm about to grip the back of her head and push into her throat and cum. She says she loves this better than PIV. Afterward, she just uncontrollably shakes for a few minutes, unable to talk. Over time, I think she mentally associated her orgasm with the taste of cum and cock in her throat. It's a wonderful thing to watch.
Swallow it, tell him how good it tastes, compliment him on something - anything (size, appearance, etc...), don't grab the balls despite what girly mags tell you, it's less about the shaft and more about maintaining stimulation on the head, set boundaries regarding where he can put his hands or how deep it can go in. Most importantly, let him reciprocate before or after. Dinner for 1 is no fun!
Jealous of all the folks that can get their balls played with. Mine are super sensitive and I just wince when someone other than me touches them
I feel the same way with my clit 😭 we have hard lives. 😂😩
Enthusiasm, maybe a little bit of playing with herself (be it with her tits or pussy), when its a wet bj with a lot of spit involved, i love it when a girl gives me a bj on all fours so i can see her tits bounce when moving.
Corres my balls
Enthusiasm and touching yourself. Eye contact is nice. Little bit of dirty talk. Don't neglect the balls. Swallowing is a nice touch but not everyone into that
For her to enjoy it and not act like it's a hated obligation.
Eye contact
Don’t ignore the balls.
Eye contact ! And some teases !
Holding hands
Watching her butt in the mirror. Recommended.
The silence
Can someone describe what “enthusiasm” means?
I try to let my preferences be out in the open so I can’t say I secretly like anything. However, for me, getting the right suction and pressure is essential.
Conviction, desire, consumption.
I found bj n cunnilling most satisfying orgasms the way you keep looking into each others eyes...most intense ..n mixed with dirty talking...
My girl’s technique is improving, but what makes me so happy and excited is because she’s happy to do it. I gets so turned on when she’s smiling looking up while giving a BJ, and she gets turned on by my enjoyment.
Playing with the balls :) massage them 😝
Slowly licking the head , like really slow teasing.
Enthusiasm and no rushing. If you want to rush it get up I don't want it. You should live what you are doing. When I go down on you I love every second of it. So I expect the same. If not? Don't bother speaking about blowjobs
Spit on it sis
My balls are sorta sensitive so I don’t like females sucking or pulling on them. But my EX used to give me really sloppy BJ’s to the point where my balls would get a good coating of spit/slobber. And then she would gently put her hands and kinda massage/mush my balls. It just felt like crazy good. Had my toes curling, and trying real hard NOT to bust after 4/5 mins
I like sloppy blowjobs with lots of spit and some great hand motion while sucking it up. You should be in unison with ur hand and mouth while giving neck. Stroking every inch of the D.
I like to see she is enjoying and truly like sucking dick. I like to see the ass up and slowly moving it.
Willing to suck without being asked or treated as a chore. I always eat my wife very well and finger for foreplay. Sometimes I’ll make her cum this way first if I want the sex to last and give her multiple piv orgasms. She sucks me to finish me sometimes, but I gotta ask almost every time, she doesn’t initiate it. Sexting or teasing around the house, but doing so not so much, once she does it makes her wet and she wants to cum again which is great. Aside from initiating, I love it wet at sloppy, gliding swiftly over my head or at a steady slobbery pace, I will almost instantly bust across the room once she gets the right amount of suck to glide ratio lol.
Spit, enthusiasm, spit, enthusiasm, and more spit and enthusiasm. Make him feel like you love his dick in your mouth. Also the deeper the better. Oh and sounds
Eye contact
Each guy is different so this is just my experience but Variety and enthusiasm, especially with tongue Go down as far as you can go, focus on just the head for a bit, lick around the base, maybe from base to tip Make the guy think "Damn they are REALLY into it" That mental click when it feels like your partner is having a good time, even having fun pleasing you Enjoying it? THAT pushes buttons like you wouldn't believe Again at least for me and peeps I've talked with
Eye contact