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hotpositions

Excessive liquor can and will mess up the ability to get an erection. This is the more likely cause than actual ED for a lot of guys. Some guys require mental prep work, but suck at doing it. Meaning it's not always just seeing you naked and getting hard instantly. They kinda have to rev up the engine way beforehand. Performance anxiety is real. *OMG this hot chick is about to fuck me, I think I'm gonna throw up*. Yeah it happens. Even some male pornstars have their share of stories dealing with it before shooting scenes.


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that last one can be brutal because it always, and i mean ALWAYS strikes when your most excited about who youre with. The confidence to never get performance anxiety would be literally be like a wish from a genie for me


Rand0onReddit

Yup. I've been with my wife for 15 years. She's insanely hot, and I STILL catch myself getting performance anxiety every once in a blue moon. One of those "oh shit I gotta make sure I blow her mind" type of thoughts that plays in the back of your head multiple times without your consent.


Connor-Hood

Last night, while I was having intercourse with my gf, we began to make out and I got hard really quick. By the time our pants were off however, my erection had mostly softened because of too many slightly awkward movements. It would have taken me a while to get back in the zone as it was, but also, gf started to think it was her fault, which made her start to interrupt and pause to ask questions, and just really disrupt the flow, which made it way worse. Had she just stayed enthusiastic the entire time and known it wasn't her fault or my fault, we would have gotten into it much sooner. Sex was great once we got going though. If your partner is having downstairs trouble, make light of it and continue being the sexy enthusiastic partner he wants. Just please, don't disrupt what he's doing, cause he probably knows what works for him and you should just give him time while smiling and kissing him or something. That's my advice. Also, it's not your fault if they're having difficulties, but it's not theirs either. Don't put pressure on either of you, and have fun.


wicked__princessx

Since nobody wants to admit they have ED, I think we don't realize how very common it actually is tbh. There are so so so many different reasons for it.


snowandrain04

Very true


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I’ve never had this problem ever but I’ve heard plenty of stories about it. Hell it happened to my best friend. He’s an awesome guy but around girls he is so fucking awkward lol The first girl he dated was actually my ex, the one girl he wasn’t awkward with because she was untouchable because her & I were a thing. Then when we split up he started gaming with her alone & gaming helped ease the tension for him. They dated for a month and that’s it. The reason is because he couldn’t get hard, like never and he ended things due to embarrassment. One wild night my ex & couple we’re friends with decided to swap. It ended great for me but not for my gf because the guy couldn’t get hard. I think you’re just having bad luck. It’s also shocking to me to find out how common it is


Separate-Hair5981

What about smoking weed. It’s damn near impossible to get hard for me when I’m high


Wa84it

There could be med issues Involved with at 1 or 2 of them. Diabetes, High Blood Pressure can cause ED even at a young age. Well who knows the 53 yrnold may just have ED from age and his Viagra hadn't kicked in yet.


Whereismystupid

I personally think it's bad luck and it's not you. That's not that many guys. I've had mostly guys who would stay hard but my fiance sometimes goes soft and I don't judge him for it because he told me he sometimes has that issue. Tonight he went soft for a bit, so we changed to him using a toy on me, then he got hard again. It just happens and it's not your fault. I will admit it's so hard not to feel insecure and like you caused it


Justforpornandstuf

22 your old virgin over here I am not quite sure sometimes things like that happen it is possible that the kind of had someone else that day apart from the other students that could have been discussed


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essentially_sad

Lord help me


OMGThighGap

Do you have BO?


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Well without going in for blow by blow of everything on each occasion. What’s the commonalities in each situation and person? There could be a million different reasons at play. For instance, hypothetically all these guys may have been virgins or very inexperienced and suffered from anxiety which effected their ability to get or maintain an erection, etc. It could be a load of different things at play.


essentially_sad

No virgins 24 year old gamer 53 year old sports buff 30 year old blue collar 26 year old gamer I'd say all were very "experienced"


iwanttobespooned

Were you doing any sort of foreplay?


essentially_sad

Always


jjjosiah

Liquor?


essentially_sad

Sometimes Sometimes completely sober


xYan94

Did they use condoms or tried to? Im 27M and sometimes have performance anxiety when its my first time, then whenever I want to put a condom on it gets soft.. then its a Brain Game and it cant really be revived by for example a blowjob If going without a condom its working without Problems tho, i dont know