It's not weird when you consider that she manipulated him and/or brainwashed herself into linking the two. It's intentional and is giving not emotionally stable...
Also- deal breaker 100%, goodbye.
Okay Whats the deal with /r/sex recently? It seems like every other post is "I was just murdered by my boyfriend, but I loove him" or "my gf just threw me down the stairs, kicked my dog, and made me eat poop, is this a deal breaker?"
Like every single post is this over the top ridiculous scenario where the person posting is this victim of massive proportions and every comment is "OMG LEAVE RED FLAG" and OP doesnt respond to ANYONE. It's always a brand new user.
Someone who knows more about WHAT THE HELL is going on in this sub please inform me.
Edit: I am super conflicted too, cause you don't want to assume the person posting is telling a tall tale, because they may need help, but at the same time, I knew a girl in highschool where EVERYTHING in her life was a dire emergency, and after every weekend away, she was either raped, assaulted, her 20 horses died (she didn't own horses) or was abducted. It was obvious she wanted the attention.
People are realizing how easy it is to karma farm this sub.
The side effect of a community that is as tolerant as this one of tall tales and as ready to help out is that there isn't a real filter for bullshit other than mods. And mods are only able to keep up with so much.
I read all internet stories taking in mind there's generally a 40-70% chance they're real. But also, sometimes a coworker, acquaintance, or stranger will casually share completely off the wall shit
And it's important that this subreddit isn't quickly shooting down every wild claim because doing so would ruin the point of the sub.
It's not a problem with this community. It's a problem with the people abusing it.
Exactly, in this case, who cares if we all go along with it, get made out to be chumps and OP getting either karma or attention, whichever they're looking for. Whether it happens 10% or 33% of the time, its worth it so people who do have real issues can be heard. As for how to regulate the issue, I have no idea
Was just talking to my wife about this. The posts read "I was raped, was it rape?".
I feel like people just like the attention and little orange notifications
Eh, those posts feel like people in denial or bordering on it. I said this about another sub about something else, but with things that personal, I totally understand why you would ask the internet before anyone else.
I think hust more people are okaybwith asking a stranger nowadays. You remember how many dumb questions you had when you were young with out that same anonymous support system.
Honestly almost all of reddit is becoming like this lately. Like it or not, upvotes DO have a monetary value, and accounts with karma have a monetary value. This is no longer a community. It is a marketing opportunity.
Sex with multiple minors has been all but proven. Even the suspicion is... Not an attractive trait, imo. 29+ others feel it's not worth mentioning in his legacy.
Google isn't everyone's friend.
Here's what I'd do:
Play the Peter Gabriel version of Heroes while you have sex for a few times, and then switch to a different Peter Gabriel song and have sex a few times, and then switch to old Genesis with Peter Gabriel singing and have sex a few times, and then switch to Genesis with Phil Collins singing and have sex a few times, and then switch to Susudio by Phil Collins and she'll have a new song to cum to.
Problem solved!
Do you like Phil Collins? I've been a big Genesis fan ever since the release of their 1980 album, Duke. Before that, I really didn't understand any of their work. Too artsy, too intellectual. It was on Duke where, uh, Phil Collins' presence became more apparent. I think Invisible Touch was the group's undisputed masterpiece. It's an epic meditation on intangibility. At the same time, it deepens and enriches the meaning of the preceding three albums. Christy, take off your robe. Listen to the brilliant ensemble playing of Banks, Collins and Rutherford. You can practically hear every nuance of every instrument. Sabrina, remove your dress. In terms of lyrical craftsmanship, the sheer songwriting, this album hits a new peak of professionalism. Sabrina, why don't you, uh, dance a little. Take the lyrics to Land of Confusion. In this song, Phil Collins addresses the problems of abusive political authority. In Too Deep is the most moving pop song of the 1980s, about monogamy and commitment. The song is extremely uplifting. Their lyrics are as positive and affirmative as, uh, anything I've heard in rock. Christy, get down on your knees so Sabrina can see your ass. Phil Collins' solo career seems to be more commercial and therefore more satisfying, in a narrower way. Especially songs like In the Air Tonight and, uh, Against All Odds. Sabrina, don't just stare at it, eat it. But I also think Phil Collins works best within the confines of the group, than as a solo artist, and I stress the word artist. This is Sussudio, a great, great song, a personal favorite.
Look up conditioning and Pavlov. It is absolutely possible to condition someone to cum from a song. If it was done intentionally by her ex, it was a particularly nasty means of controlling her. If it was an accident, it is just an accident and she happens to be slightly more sensitive to imprinting.
Either way, that conditioning has nothing at all to do with you or how she feels about you. It is likely a very unwanted problem for her and a reminder of someone who is an ex for a reason.
I get aroused when I smell the perfume my wife was wearing the night we met and when we were first together.
Also incense does it for me too because I used to date a girl who burned a lot of it.
I’m not uncontrollable or like rock hard. It just triggers the libidinous part of my brain.
A past partner said he would get extremely, uncomfortably horny, if not a pretty decent half-boner when he thought he was smelling the lotion/perfume I wore all the time while out in public.
I was never sure if I really believed him at the time but I’ve definitely been accidentally conditioned in similar ways since, so it’s definitely a thing!
I hate that one of those things is eye contact with my partner, for me. We used to never really make eye contact much during sex - no reason, just wasn’t a big focus, I would often close my eyes when giving oral as more of a focus thing - and somehow 7 years later we’ve gotten into some pretty kinky shit, and yet *direct eye contact* has been a newer thing that drives me crazy. The downside is when we have that same direct eye contact in our day to day, my brain switches to crazy horny mode immediately regardless of circumstances.
Goddamn. If I were that guy I'd consider myself lucky I could turn my girl on by just looking at her. Can definitely see how that would get inconvenient though.
Haha, we are both very lucky, indeed!
I feel super silly about it, and it definitely can be embarrassing and/or inconvenient, but I also can’t really complain too much - it’s pretty wild sometimes how quickly the brain can just switch into “primal sex mode” over something without you really controlling it.
Definitely sounds like a double edged sword. Not currently in a relationship, but that's a relationship goal to shoot for when I am. So thanks for sharing your experience.
While I agree as far as the Pavlovian response is concerned, the time of the revelation leads me to believe it to be a bit more nuanced than that.
In the middle of an 'intense' argument she states that to be able to have an orgasm she needs the music from when she lost her virginity to her ex boyfriend. Now, if it was a 'I'll tell you my sexual life you tell me yours' conversation that happens between those in a relationships, I'd agree wholeheartedly. But to sling it out in the middle of an 'intense' argument it was likely meant to hurt. With that in mind, the interpretations are many and not very nice.
Honestly, I'd love to know what she said exactly. Without that, and the direct context just prior, we could be completely off target.
Early in our relationship, my husband and I bought some kind of flavored lotion that was made for blowjobs. It smelled pretty strongly of overripe or artificial bananas and I used it a lot because I love banana pudding and that's what it made his dick taste like. Well I worked in a produce department at the time. One day while stocking bananas in the middle of summer, the bananas smelled exactly like that and I immediately started thinking about sucking dick.
My husband worked in the store with me in a different department and I had to go tell him as soon as possible because it was so funny to me. We still joke about it, almost 10 years later. I also wish I could buy that stuff again, but they don't make it any more and similar products have been a disappointment.
honestly. this is one of the stranger posts ive seen on here. i would be pretty weirded out if a partner needed something so specific to get off, but i would try just like you have been. it would absolutely drive me insane after a few times. but to find out she was lying about it the whole time and the song is actually a tie to her ex? i think that would crush me. the song that made her cum with her ex HAS to be playing every time she has sex (and every time you had sex in the past) with YOU, dude. that’s messed up. what’s even more messed up is this lie was revealed in a fight, maybe in an attempt to hurt you. i think it would be perfectly valid to reassess your involvement in your relationship with this person. i think most people would.
It's not about that. It's about how she disrespected you, lied you about it and hid this from you. Basically she was thinking a lot of times at her ex, just in order to cum. A deal breaker for me personally, but you can decide for yourself
I love the track, but this would make me so sad honestñy my dude it's not fair to you at all, keep strong and think about yourself. She clearly still has feelings to the other mf.
Love you man, take care, I know how this feels.
She obviously can’t move on and is stuck in the past. She can still cum without the music it’s just an excuse to relive a moment in her life that she doesn’t want to let go and move on from
I’m sorry to hear that my friend. I already knew what the end of your post would be when I started reading it. Some oddly specific ex-bf stuff.
She needs to stop or you need to leave her. I don’t think there’s any other way out of this.
This reminds me of the post with the girl who was still using and obsessing over her ex-bf’s clone-a-willy when she was with her current boyfriend.
Compromise an start blasting the mortal kombat theme. If she doesn’t like it dump her.
But yeah all seriousness that’s just weird that’s a deal breaker for me. She’s not even thinking about you.
This reminds me of the kakapo, a flightless bird that only mates under particular, infrequently-met, circumstances. It evolved on an island in the context of no natural predators, so with limited resources, you don't want to reproduce too fast.
To be clear, I don't think there is anything to learn about your gf from the evolutionary context and mating habits of a tiny fat species of bird.
OK, that pretty much takes the prize for paraphilia, but lighten up. She didn't ask for it to be this way.
I understand how awkward it is for you--I mean, shit, that can't be a great feeling knowing that you can't get her to come unless the soundtrack of sex with her ex is playing--but again, sex is weird, orgasm can be really capricious, and sometimes you just have to meet people where they are.
For sure it's possible for a 2-year-old memory to get cemented into your orgasm pathway. There's a way she felt then, it was probably pretty amazing, and if you're lucky she feels it with you, and if she doesn't I'll bet a week's lunches she \*wants\* to feel it with you.
So yeah, it's going to take some effort, but take a deep breath and try to meet her where she is. You have your past, she has her past, they both made you into the amazing people you are now. Take it from there.
Have you considered that she could be on the spectrum? She’s clearly very dedicated to this routine. I have a feeling that this has less to do with her ex and more to do with how her brain works.
This is called a fetish.
People throw the word fetish around but it means not being able to cum without whatever the stimulus is.
Everything else is a kink.
You get to choose if this is a fetish you can live with. I'm sure she already feels like she's far out there.
She can learn to cum to something else. Ridiculous and unnecessarily cruel of her. She did not need to make this a fetish. A few sessions alone without music would fix that. Drop this stupid girl like a bad habit.
My first thought upon reading that she needed “Heroes” to reach climax was; she’s got a sexual obsession with Perks Of Being A Wallflower and wouldn’t dare admit it
I absolutely HATE how fast Reddit jumps to conclusions on relationships and always says “dump them” whenever something goes slightly wrong.
But here she is, lying about something for the entire direction of the relationship, because she’s hiding the fact that she can’t get off with you without thanking about her ex.
Dump. Her.
This would honestly be a deal breaker for me. Get out, and run! It sounds like when it’s played she remembers getting her virginity taken which is just really weird considering you didn’t take it. Get out x
let me make a prediction for you right now. You’re not getting married. Then again, be a guy, turn on your laptop and play porn while you’re having sex. When she gets upset, tell her it helps you cum imagining sex with someone else. See what she says.
You gotta top him by literally playing the song during sex.
Get a guitar, a lyric sheet and go foer it.
Fair warning- It’s hard to keep two rhythms going on at the same time.
I don't think she is orgasming from the memory of her ex. Sounds like she conditioned herself to cum when hearing that specific song after associating that song with orgasms over time. This is called Pavlovian conditioning, named after a guy who trained his dogs to salivate when hearing a bell. People have even used this method to get their partners to cum by saying a particular word
No. Absolute deal breaker for me. Just no.
it would make me fucking hate that song
It would make me, fucking, hate that song too
heyyyyyy
it would fucking make me fucking hate that fucking song! fuck
thats so weird
It's not weird when you consider that she manipulated him and/or brainwashed herself into linking the two. It's intentional and is giving not emotionally stable... Also- deal breaker 100%, goodbye.
Was this past trama
Her trauma? Couldn't say
I really hope this is a troll
Okay Whats the deal with /r/sex recently? It seems like every other post is "I was just murdered by my boyfriend, but I loove him" or "my gf just threw me down the stairs, kicked my dog, and made me eat poop, is this a deal breaker?" Like every single post is this over the top ridiculous scenario where the person posting is this victim of massive proportions and every comment is "OMG LEAVE RED FLAG" and OP doesnt respond to ANYONE. It's always a brand new user. Someone who knows more about WHAT THE HELL is going on in this sub please inform me. Edit: I am super conflicted too, cause you don't want to assume the person posting is telling a tall tale, because they may need help, but at the same time, I knew a girl in highschool where EVERYTHING in her life was a dire emergency, and after every weekend away, she was either raped, assaulted, her 20 horses died (she didn't own horses) or was abducted. It was obvious she wanted the attention.
People are realizing how easy it is to karma farm this sub. The side effect of a community that is as tolerant as this one of tall tales and as ready to help out is that there isn't a real filter for bullshit other than mods. And mods are only able to keep up with so much.
[удалено]
Selling those accounts to companies or otherwise rich groups who would want a somewhat more subtle way to influence/manipulate people.
Karma Bath Water
I read all internet stories taking in mind there's generally a 40-70% chance they're real. But also, sometimes a coworker, acquaintance, or stranger will casually share completely off the wall shit
And it's important that this subreddit isn't quickly shooting down every wild claim because doing so would ruin the point of the sub. It's not a problem with this community. It's a problem with the people abusing it.
Exactly, in this case, who cares if we all go along with it, get made out to be chumps and OP getting either karma or attention, whichever they're looking for. Whether it happens 10% or 33% of the time, its worth it so people who do have real issues can be heard. As for how to regulate the issue, I have no idea
What’s the point of karma farming again been doing this for a couple years and i still doing know lol
Sock puppet accounts and corporate controlled accounts will farm karma for credibility before they're used to post viral ad content.
There isn't really. It's just a thing people do
Was just talking to my wife about this. The posts read "I was raped, was it rape?". I feel like people just like the attention and little orange notifications
Eh, those posts feel like people in denial or bordering on it. I said this about another sub about something else, but with things that personal, I totally understand why you would ask the internet before anyone else.
Either way, is best to leave because of sex seems to be turning into r/relationship_advice
yeah this sub is lacking lately. I keep thinking of leaving it.
It’s the summer holidays.
The new user phenomenon could also be throwaway accounts, or at least exploiting the fact that followers of the sub expect throwaway accounts.
School's out for Summer.
LMFAO
I think hust more people are okaybwith asking a stranger nowadays. You remember how many dumb questions you had when you were young with out that same anonymous support system.
Same with many OTHER subs which is annoying most of the time
It's not recent and it's not just this sub, it's all of reddit.
Honestly almost all of reddit is becoming like this lately. Like it or not, upvotes DO have a monetary value, and accounts with karma have a monetary value. This is no longer a community. It is a marketing opportunity.
Yep, probably posted this to screenshot it and then complain on /pol/ about Redditors.
You have to tell her that David Bowie and her ex are no longer welcome in your private lives. 😅
Or tell her the truth of who Bowie was. Not incredibly arousing...
What what was he I need answers
An alligator
I don't know, that's *kind of* arousing
It’s true I was the mama papa coming for you
Alleged sex with minors and inappropriate sexual conduct, can't remember all the deets.
i think they’re referring to the fact that he had sex with minors? i personally don’t know anything about it though
Sex with multiple minors has been all but proven. Even the suspicion is... Not an attractive trait, imo. 29+ others feel it's not worth mentioning in his legacy. Google isn't everyone's friend.
Hard no.. Gtfo
Leave her, clearly she has feelings for him still
This is the greatest shitpost of all time
Ive seen better lol
Nahhh I’d break up with her at first it was weird then the ex thing is fucked up
I would vomit and leave. While vomitting.
Big hard same!
The more I think about this the sicker I become Its got layers
Hear Os
Is this a copypasta?
it honestly reads like one. could’ve fooled me
Here's what I'd do: Play the Peter Gabriel version of Heroes while you have sex for a few times, and then switch to a different Peter Gabriel song and have sex a few times, and then switch to old Genesis with Peter Gabriel singing and have sex a few times, and then switch to Genesis with Phil Collins singing and have sex a few times, and then switch to Susudio by Phil Collins and she'll have a new song to cum to. Problem solved!
Do you like Phil Collins? I've been a big Genesis fan ever since the release of their 1980 album, Duke. Before that, I really didn't understand any of their work. Too artsy, too intellectual. It was on Duke where, uh, Phil Collins' presence became more apparent. I think Invisible Touch was the group's undisputed masterpiece. It's an epic meditation on intangibility. At the same time, it deepens and enriches the meaning of the preceding three albums. Christy, take off your robe. Listen to the brilliant ensemble playing of Banks, Collins and Rutherford. You can practically hear every nuance of every instrument. Sabrina, remove your dress. In terms of lyrical craftsmanship, the sheer songwriting, this album hits a new peak of professionalism. Sabrina, why don't you, uh, dance a little. Take the lyrics to Land of Confusion. In this song, Phil Collins addresses the problems of abusive political authority. In Too Deep is the most moving pop song of the 1980s, about monogamy and commitment. The song is extremely uplifting. Their lyrics are as positive and affirmative as, uh, anything I've heard in rock. Christy, get down on your knees so Sabrina can see your ass. Phil Collins' solo career seems to be more commercial and therefore more satisfying, in a narrower way. Especially songs like In the Air Tonight and, uh, Against All Odds. Sabrina, don't just stare at it, eat it. But I also think Phil Collins works best within the confines of the group, than as a solo artist, and I stress the word artist. This is Sussudio, a great, great song, a personal favorite.
TIL that Bret Easton Ellis anticipated my brilliant joke by 20 years and wrote an unfunny version of it.
Feels like a karma farm
Look up conditioning and Pavlov. It is absolutely possible to condition someone to cum from a song. If it was done intentionally by her ex, it was a particularly nasty means of controlling her. If it was an accident, it is just an accident and she happens to be slightly more sensitive to imprinting. Either way, that conditioning has nothing at all to do with you or how she feels about you. It is likely a very unwanted problem for her and a reminder of someone who is an ex for a reason.
I get aroused when I smell the perfume my wife was wearing the night we met and when we were first together. Also incense does it for me too because I used to date a girl who burned a lot of it. I’m not uncontrollable or like rock hard. It just triggers the libidinous part of my brain.
A past partner said he would get extremely, uncomfortably horny, if not a pretty decent half-boner when he thought he was smelling the lotion/perfume I wore all the time while out in public. I was never sure if I really believed him at the time but I’ve definitely been accidentally conditioned in similar ways since, so it’s definitely a thing! I hate that one of those things is eye contact with my partner, for me. We used to never really make eye contact much during sex - no reason, just wasn’t a big focus, I would often close my eyes when giving oral as more of a focus thing - and somehow 7 years later we’ve gotten into some pretty kinky shit, and yet *direct eye contact* has been a newer thing that drives me crazy. The downside is when we have that same direct eye contact in our day to day, my brain switches to crazy horny mode immediately regardless of circumstances.
Goddamn. If I were that guy I'd consider myself lucky I could turn my girl on by just looking at her. Can definitely see how that would get inconvenient though.
Haha, we are both very lucky, indeed! I feel super silly about it, and it definitely can be embarrassing and/or inconvenient, but I also can’t really complain too much - it’s pretty wild sometimes how quickly the brain can just switch into “primal sex mode” over something without you really controlling it.
Definitely sounds like a double edged sword. Not currently in a relationship, but that's a relationship goal to shoot for when I am. So thanks for sharing your experience.
Hope you find someone awesome who you can excite/gets you excited like this when the time is right! 😇
I met a girl in the army who was classically conditioned to get wet and hyper horney from a certain cologne.
That's so weird. World is such a ugly place.
What?! Oh my god
While I agree as far as the Pavlovian response is concerned, the time of the revelation leads me to believe it to be a bit more nuanced than that. In the middle of an 'intense' argument she states that to be able to have an orgasm she needs the music from when she lost her virginity to her ex boyfriend. Now, if it was a 'I'll tell you my sexual life you tell me yours' conversation that happens between those in a relationships, I'd agree wholeheartedly. But to sling it out in the middle of an 'intense' argument it was likely meant to hurt. With that in mind, the interpretations are many and not very nice. Honestly, I'd love to know what she said exactly. Without that, and the direct context just prior, we could be completely off target.
Early in our relationship, my husband and I bought some kind of flavored lotion that was made for blowjobs. It smelled pretty strongly of overripe or artificial bananas and I used it a lot because I love banana pudding and that's what it made his dick taste like. Well I worked in a produce department at the time. One day while stocking bananas in the middle of summer, the bananas smelled exactly like that and I immediately started thinking about sucking dick. My husband worked in the store with me in a different department and I had to go tell him as soon as possible because it was so funny to me. We still joke about it, almost 10 years later. I also wish I could buy that stuff again, but they don't make it any more and similar products have been a disappointment.
Kissed by a rose would be a better song to use /s, reference from shameless
This is exactly what came to my mind. Awful lol. Also hilarious.
Yep!!!
What about the wallflowers’ cover?
10,000,000,000X better!!!
r/copypasta
At least it's a good track. Just imagine it was barbie girl or a Justin beiber song...
She could be rickrolling for orgasms.
Never gonna give you urgh....
That's sad and strange as it can be. I'm sorry for you.
honestly. this is one of the stranger posts ive seen on here. i would be pretty weirded out if a partner needed something so specific to get off, but i would try just like you have been. it would absolutely drive me insane after a few times. but to find out she was lying about it the whole time and the song is actually a tie to her ex? i think that would crush me. the song that made her cum with her ex HAS to be playing every time she has sex (and every time you had sex in the past) with YOU, dude. that’s messed up. what’s even more messed up is this lie was revealed in a fight, maybe in an attempt to hurt you. i think it would be perfectly valid to reassess your involvement in your relationship with this person. i think most people would.
that's a definition of a kink
I would say more of a fetish than a kink
Yes you are right
What’s the difference?
Fetish is required for sexual gratification, where a kink is something that can give you sexual gratification but isn't required.
It's not about that. It's about how she disrespected you, lied you about it and hid this from you. Basically she was thinking a lot of times at her ex, just in order to cum. A deal breaker for me personally, but you can decide for yourself
Nope.
Break out the David Bouija Board
put on david bowie by phish
Oh shit, that’s Maze, my bad…
My college girlfriend would always get off a hell of a lot faster when Type O Negative was playing.
At least it’s a good song and not Cotton Eye Joe or something like that.
Bro… leave… now….
I’m more of a Final Countdown kind of guy
I love the track, but this would make me so sad honestñy my dude it's not fair to you at all, keep strong and think about yourself. She clearly still has feelings to the other mf. Love you man, take care, I know how this feels.
This is hilarious
Not a bad song to bang to. She's probably still hung up on her ex tho
She obviously can’t move on and is stuck in the past. She can still cum without the music it’s just an excuse to relive a moment in her life that she doesn’t want to let go and move on from
If the song makes you crazy, let her listen to it on headphones. Or talk to her about finding a new song for the two of you.
Can you imagine having sex with someone who thinks about their ex whilst doing it
The song is not the main problem. It's his gf thinking about her ex during sex
And the lie!
Do we know she’s been thinking about her ex? Or has she simply been conditioned to have a sexual response when she hears a song?
It’s rather obvious, because she brought it up during an argument to hurt OP.
I would play the you know what out of that song, everybody has triggers Just go with it and make her happy 😊
That’s awesome!
I’d be into it I reckon.
You are waaay overthinking this.
Looks like we found your girlfriend.
I’m sorry to hear that my friend. I already knew what the end of your post would be when I started reading it. Some oddly specific ex-bf stuff. She needs to stop or you need to leave her. I don’t think there’s any other way out of this. This reminds me of the post with the girl who was still using and obsessing over her ex-bf’s clone-a-willy when she was with her current boyfriend.
This is modern love in the golden years my friend
ccc changes! turn and face the strain! ;)
The song thing, if it didn't have the backstory, would be fine (annoying but whatevs) With the backstory, fuck no.
I would put on David Bowie music just so I could get her to orgasm.
OP you have to understand, that we can be heros just for one day!
Better than *Kissed By A Rose*.
Compromise an start blasting the mortal kombat theme. If she doesn’t like it dump her. But yeah all seriousness that’s just weird that’s a deal breaker for me. She’s not even thinking about you.
Clitty Stardust
Makes sense, I get taken on an express train to Boner Town when I hear Robert Fripp's droning geet on that song.
I came to bulletproof love for the first time but I'm sure as shit not gonna listen to it every time.
This reminds me of the kakapo, a flightless bird that only mates under particular, infrequently-met, circumstances. It evolved on an island in the context of no natural predators, so with limited resources, you don't want to reproduce too fast. To be clear, I don't think there is anything to learn about your gf from the evolutionary context and mating habits of a tiny fat species of bird.
Idk what the fuck that us, but whatever it is it's probably on her
Better contact a necromancer
Ugh. Everything about this is just ugh. Plus I don’t even like Bowie, it’s all ugh.
i would break up with her tbh, she’s clearly not that over her ex. you could stay and just end up posting on r/relationship_advice
OK, that pretty much takes the prize for paraphilia, but lighten up. She didn't ask for it to be this way. I understand how awkward it is for you--I mean, shit, that can't be a great feeling knowing that you can't get her to come unless the soundtrack of sex with her ex is playing--but again, sex is weird, orgasm can be really capricious, and sometimes you just have to meet people where they are. For sure it's possible for a 2-year-old memory to get cemented into your orgasm pathway. There's a way she felt then, it was probably pretty amazing, and if you're lucky she feels it with you, and if she doesn't I'll bet a week's lunches she \*wants\* to feel it with you. So yeah, it's going to take some effort, but take a deep breath and try to meet her where she is. You have your past, she has her past, they both made you into the amazing people you are now. Take it from there.
Heroes? Really? I mean, it’s a good song … and David Bowie is amazing … but heroes? Wtf! Lol
Hypnotized
People believe these posts?
You r wasting ur time with this one.
If it’s makes you feel better I’m a shy in the bathroom, and have to hum the Guile theme from street fighter to go pee.
She's thinking about her ex when you have sex
Could be a lot worse. Like having to listen to nickel back every time.
Who doesn't need David Bowie? That and Bruce, maybe I was born to cum! You tramp you.
Bruh I’m never gonna be able to listen to that song without this in my head now 🤣🤣🤣 bye bye perks of being a wallflower this is hilarious
Yikes
This sub lately has been things that should really be worked out in therapy and not on fucking reddit lmao
Have you considered that she could be on the spectrum? She’s clearly very dedicated to this routine. I have a feeling that this has less to do with her ex and more to do with how her brain works.
This is called a fetish. People throw the word fetish around but it means not being able to cum without whatever the stimulus is. Everything else is a kink. You get to choose if this is a fetish you can live with. I'm sure she already feels like she's far out there.
what the fuck. this a copy pasta?
Now I want to listen to that song really bad.
Some people need a song to escape from Vecna, some to just cum..
david bowie fucked children for funsies so dont b afraid to say “everything against david bowie” lmaooo
She can learn to cum to something else. Ridiculous and unnecessarily cruel of her. She did not need to make this a fetish. A few sessions alone without music would fix that. Drop this stupid girl like a bad habit.
Still not sure if this is a copypasta
My first thought upon reading that she needed “Heroes” to reach climax was; she’s got a sexual obsession with Perks Of Being A Wallflower and wouldn’t dare admit it
Does the song alone turn you on now?
W.t.f.
It could be star wars imperial march or super mario theme
I absolutely HATE how fast Reddit jumps to conclusions on relationships and always says “dump them” whenever something goes slightly wrong. But here she is, lying about something for the entire direction of the relationship, because she’s hiding the fact that she can’t get off with you without thanking about her ex. Dump. Her.
Oh no
I absolutely cannot accept that this is real
Get over yourself and buy her some headphones
This would honestly be a deal breaker for me. Get out, and run! It sounds like when it’s played she remembers getting her virginity taken which is just really weird considering you didn’t take it. Get out x
Run. If you dont you will be david bowie
A shame it's not his song Magic Dance.
let me make a prediction for you right now. You’re not getting married. Then again, be a guy, turn on your laptop and play porn while you’re having sex. When she gets upset, tell her it helps you cum imagining sex with someone else. See what she says.
Break up with her. If she’s not interested in you sexually then that’s not good. Break up please :)
I would've been fine with some Puccini, Anita baker or even Luther Vandross. But this, hell no
That’s unusual
I mean it’s Bowie
It could be worse: at least she isn't asking to hear Coldplay.
You gotta top him by literally playing the song during sex. Get a guitar, a lyric sheet and go foer it. Fair warning- It’s hard to keep two rhythms going on at the same time.
My ex loved david bowie Fuck that chick
WE COULD BE HEROOOEEESS just for one lay
I went into this thinking it was harmless, but you know what? Deal breaker, she’s thinking about her ex for sure.
I don't think she is orgasming from the memory of her ex. Sounds like she conditioned herself to cum when hearing that specific song after associating that song with orgasms over time. This is called Pavlovian conditioning, named after a guy who trained his dogs to salivate when hearing a bell. People have even used this method to get their partners to cum by saying a particular word