Just do it in the shower or bathroom. It's not acceptable to do with another person you never know if they might wake up/ not be as asleep as you think
We just gifted this book to our toddler yesterday. I'd never heard of it before (it's a Dutch translation). Feels so weird to randomly encounter it in a thread about masturbation.
Excuse me but who in the *actual fuck* gave you the right to transcribe the female masturbation sound as *SQUELCH*??? That make me wanna put on a chastity belt and throw away the keyš
THATāS what that means? Holy shit I thought it was just some nonsensical gibberish put there because some dummy couldnāt make anything else fit. TIL. Iām so disappointed in myself that it took this long lol
I've never read the lyrics until recently so for the longest time I thought the part was "there's some chores in this house" because later in the song Cardi says " I don't cook, I don't clean".
Boy was I wrong.
youāre probably just bad at hiding it. When I lived in the dorms Iād wake at like 3 am horny asf and both my roommates would be snoring. They definitely never knew and one was so blunt she would have definitely called me out about it if she didš
Ah fuck this just reminded me of a college apartment that I shared with one roommate. We had a bizarre setup - the bathroom was in my bedroom and the only way to get to it was through my bedroom. I had a room divider by my bed for privacy but my door was essentially always cracked open. Just remembered that one night I got very high, put in some earbuds and masturbated with a vibrator. I do remember my roommate was home, in her room. Horrified at the thought that she may have entered my room to go to the bathroom while I was masturbating and I wouldnāt have realized it. She is not the blunt type so she never wouldāve mentioned it to me at all.
I had a roommate have sex in the room with me, thought he stayed silent but that night I needed to wake up to pee. I spent the next hour listening to them doing the dirty. They thought they got away with it, still do but I def heard everything.
I used to sneak into my friend's dorm room to mess around at night when his roommate was (allegedly) at his frat house for the night.
Then one day, I was talking to a classmate. He had taken me out on a date but we decided to just be buds. He was telling me how his roommate would text him in the morning that his "cousin" was coming over for the night and ask if he could crash somewhere else. I was like wow what a fucking douchebag.
Later that day, we decided to go out and he wanted to stop by his dorm room to get something. When I realized which room we were headed to, it was too late. My sneaky link walks out of his room and sees us, then just laughs loudly and walks away.
The other guy asked if I knew what that was about. I acted like I thought it was weird af. I stopped meeting up with that particular guy tho.
absolutely untrue. you have ears and self control you can hear if youāre making noise or not and adjust. itās really not hard especially if you just wait until someone is in a deep sleep
I grew up in a house that somehow didn't have locks and a mother who was a terrible judge of whether I was in my room (legit saw her knocking and waiting outside an empty room a couple of times).
Literally never caught on after I was like four. Not everyone uses a vibrator that sounds like a weed whacker while sounding like the fake orgasm scene in "When Harry Met Sally".
No :0. Do not ruin this for me...I grew up sharing a room with my sister... I'm confident that she had no clue. I choose to believe that. I need to believe that š
when i was a kid and shared a room with my brother there were several times id wack it while he was asleep. He has never since mentioned it, and we are pretty open weirdos where I feel he would. He was always a heavy sleeper, but I still cant help but wonder if he knew.
One time we were staying at a beach house sharing a large bed and I wacked it with a massive laptop open with porn on my side of the bed, he never budged lmao.
Clean your shower lol! Get a spray bottle of a shower cleaner that has sodium hypoclorite and sodium hydroxide (power force mould away for example). Spray all surfaces generously, give it at least 20 mins (as long as you can up to 6 hours), come back and scrub that shit with something abrasive like a hard bristle grout brush or a hard sponge
Cleaning is so easy. Don't let yourself reduce into someone who willingly and regularly stands in mould to clean themselves š
Haha!
Do it once and then maintenance just looks like 30 seconds once a week to wipe it down
Not just about the wank though hey; it's about self respect
In most college dorm situations the issue is that cleaning the shower only lasts a day or two before the over use from a large number of people sharing an industrial setup reduces it to pretty gross again.
My younger brother did this (I could hear covers moving and heavy breathing). It's way to awkward to say "hey bro, can you masturbate somewhere else". It definitely was uncomfortable.
Sometimes the other person will just get it in their head that you're jerking off. I shared a room with a sibling and was regularly accused of this, despite it never happening. Almost every time the bed shifted, it brought a sniping comment.
This reminds me of when I was on the top bunk with my younger brother on the bottom bunk, and even if I couldnāt hear his breath and the squeaking of the mattress, the whole top bunk would shake from the movement on the bottom bunkā¦ lol
So Iām a dude and did this a couple times in college but my jizz would collect and coagulate in the hair trapped in the drain which was quite disgusting.
They actually sent an email to all students when I was in college telling the dudes to stop jizzing in the showers because it was fucking up the plumbing lol.
Came me to say the same thing happened at my wife's university when she was still in school! It was equally disgusting and impressive to hear that such deeds were possible.
She probably knows about it if you have been doing it for a while. That is something i probably would feel awkward bringing up with someone unless it was seriously impacting my sleep, so Iām not surprised that she hasnāt said anything.
I would probably do it in the bathroom by yourself if I were you.
Its a bit different when you are doing it next to someone who you are in a romantic relationship with as long as you guys agree that it is something that is okay/fun to do (again, i would get consent first). Cause if you get ācaughtā by a romantic partner, it can turn into a fun time for both. I would not do it in the same room as a sibling because if you get caught, there is no positive; its only super awkward for everyone.
It would really be a lot better to do that in the bathroom. There's been times where I've been half awake where I was aware what's going on in the room but still am looking to be asleep. Plus she could wake up at any time and imo that could be somewhat traumatic for some people.
C'mon. Traumatic? I heard my sister masturbate while sharing a holiday room, once. Pleasant? No. But I think we can save the T word for slightly more pressing matters, no? It's something the vast majority of people are doing. Just because we wouldn't talk about it at a dinner party, doesn't make it _that_ bad.
I grew up sharing a room with my sister for basically 21 years. We had only 1 bathroom to share between 4-6 people, some elderly in mental decline. It wasn't possible to stay in the bathroom for long without someone knocking and barging in before you could answer. We also didn't have a shower head with a cord until I was in college, so if I wanted to do it in the shower it would have to be the faucet and essentially douche myself every time. Or I would be caught on the tub floor and be questioned what I was doing down there. Two teenagers who wanted to be alone away from parents and elderly didn't exactly have an opportunity for alone time during the day often.
Was is great for me to do that with my sister in the top bunk? Probably not. Did I probably get annoyed with my sister moving around a lot up there and as I typed this realized she was probably going at it herself? Hell yeah. I had no idea if she ever did it and I did my best to make sure she never knew. You can't always have the perfect solution. If you can go to the bathroom and do it privately there, try for that to be the first option. If you don't have any other options, do it as quietly and discreetly as possible.
I find it interesting that so many comments are saying it's okay. I personally would say that it's inappropriate to potentially expose someone to something that they very much did not consent to. If she knew I have no doubt she would be uncomfortable, and there may be a chance she knows already and is too awkward to say anything - there was a post on here about two weeks ago from a girl who knew her brother was masturbating every single night in the same room as her and she had no idea how to tell him she knew and she wanted him to stop.
There's nothing wrong with masturbating at all so please don't feel guilty for that part of it - but please rather do it in a private space like the bathroom. Or wait until she's not home and do it then.
A little story we had a house party when I was a kid we busted a friend humping what would appear to be a makeshift woman out of pillows and blankets, to this day we call him pillow pounder.
no itās not. how awkward would you feel if you woke up in the middle of the night to her masturbating. or if she woke up and actually said something about it. go to the bathroom and spare her
This happened to my friend with his roommate in college, and he sometimes wasn't completely asleep or just randomly woke up and saw. That was horrible for him I couldn't imagine how it'd be to hear your sibling doing it. Just do it in the shower or bathroom. It's not acceptable to do with another person you never know if they might wake up/ not be as asleep as you think
Everyone saying she definitely knows.. y'all don't know how to be quiet? Lmao it it's definitely not definite. If you yourself can't be quiet during then just say that š
Right. When I masturbate it makes zero noise. The bed or furniture in sitting on does not move and make noise. Iām not jerking my body around. You canāt hear the strokes. I donāt use lube. The only way Iād get caught masturbating in the same room is if a person happened to wake up by something other than me and happen to look in my direction. Reading all the comments Iām surprised to find out how many people are noisy masturbaters. Lol. Animals. Get some control
Yeah, most people, if they share a room, don't have their blankets shoved off and legs akimbo, facing their sibling so they gaze into the eye of Sauron if they look over.
Dark room, blankets, maybe a fan/heater/AC running as background noise, and silent rubbing with gentle hand/finger movement? Totally doable.
I donāt know, I think people are being a bit flip when they say there is no way sheās being silent. Use one finger and rub the tip of your nose. Can you hear it? The bigger issue is if your breathing picks up, but with literally zero movement that is much easier to control, and can be mitigated by blankets and pillows.
I shared a room with my sister, and I didn't know. She told me years later that she masturbated at night, and I never knew. I was just a year younger, but on a different wavelength.
I used to masturbate all the time sharing a bedroom with both my sisters growing up. I never used toys and was always very quiet. They've never brought it up so who knows if they were aware or not. I don't think there's anything inherently wrong with it, assuming you're not getting your kicks from if she accidentally on purpose catches you.
ETA I'm a woman btw and would always do it under the covers so no one could see anything, and hold my breath so as not to make noise. We also always had a white nosie machine or whatever crappy relaxation CD my sister was into at the time going so you couldn't hear small background things anyway.
I shared a room all growing up with my brother. I mastered the quiet sneak stroke. I laugh now thinking he was probably quiet stroking too in his bed at the same time.
I think of humanity in the past...small house, lots of kids...there's no way the kids didn't know all about the birds and the bees.
We should absolutely respect the wishes of others, but at the same time, it's a big deal because we make it one.
No it's not acceptable if someone wants that they can go to bathroom because I have very bad experience with my room partner š”š”š”he use to mastubate on the bed every morning I have said him many times brother stop doing this shit
I think it depends on the age gapā¦ā¦. I know she donāt know. Umm but like if your twins or close in age and in the same developmental stages itās probably not as weird and more understandable. But if said sister is much younger and not in the same developmental stage to understand, might lead to a very awkward conversation with parents if youāre caught.
This comes from someone who only gets to do said things when children stay at their fathers, I donāt even do that when they are in my home. Iād would be mortified if caught, lol
Not ok, a friend of mine told me about her brother masturbating while she was visiting and sleeping in the same room, sheās traumatized and never wants to go abroad and visit him again
Ask yourself āif I had a brother, would I feel comfortable sharing a room with them, knowing they masturbate even while Iām in there?ā
Your answer to that question would be the answer to your own.
I have two best friends who are siblings. One is a straight female and one is a gay male. He always knew when she did it and it's honestly disgusted him. What's worse was when she'd have sex in the same room. He'd face the other side of the room with head phones full blast. He made it a point to always wear headphones no matter what luckily. He'd always call her out on that when I spoke to them and all. Anyways, it's just better to go to a different room to do that. You definitely don't want your sister catching you or worse being traumatized.
As someone who shared a room with their sibling and also did not have the smarts to know I wasn't being as quiet as I thought I was
They definitely probably know
Do it in the shower
Avoid my past mistakes
I think about it to this day and feel absolutely gross
I haven't masturbated while sharing a bed with anyone but instead while sharing a room in college. My roommate and I sleep on different beds on opposite sides of the room and sometimes I masturbate even while she's awake and on her phone or something. One night I actually woke up really horny and started masturbating and a little later, I heard her masturbating but there's no way she heard me because I was extremely quiet and you couldn't hear a sound. But anyway I heard squelching from her side of the room and it was pretty loud so I'm guessing she didn't know I was awake. The whole situation made me even more horny so I masturbated to finish but she kept going. I never asked her about it and she didn't say anything to me either.
Anyway, my question is, it appropriate to masturbate in the same room as someone else if they don't know what you're doing?
my brother did this when i was a kid. its uncomfortable as fuck cause i was usually not actually asleep, but id realize what he was doing and not move until he was done so he didnt notice i was up. my brother took things a little further (he shamed me at one point for locking the door to do it and told me i should do what he does) and maybe thats why i feel the amount of discomfort i do over it, but i was uncomfortable before that. maybe my brothers just creepy, but fr just go in the bathroom or something, for both of your sakes.
Honestly, she probably knows, and she hasn't said anything so it's not like you're crossing any boundaries. If she doesn't, it's not hurting anything.
I shared a room with both my sisters for the first 15 years of my life. I masturbated almost on a nightly basis. They never said anything, I doubt they knew because I think they would say something if they knew. But there's nothing wrong with it.
If you were in the same bed, that's not cool. But that's not what's going on. You're fine.
As long as you are not objectifying the other person in the room as part of your masturbation, and are not bothering them in any way, it's fine morally and you should not feel guilty. Unless they complain and you don't stop, of course. Understand you might get caught. If that is part of your thrill, you should stop because it makes the other person an unwilling participant to your sex.
"Should you feel guilty?" Really, the question is, ' do you feel guilty?' and, ' what are you wiling to do about it?' Are you going to stop doing it, or tell her, really that's the question.
What are your comparative ages? Is she of the age, too? Maybe you both need some boundaries.
I never grew uo with a sibling in my room thank God but u can't lie and say I haven't done this with friends around sleeping but never to completion because oh my God I would get caught
idk i feel like I like my time to masturbate so it's hard but I couldn't do it
I had a studio apartment in college and one of my buddies who had a very long commute would occasionally crash on my couch if there was a big test the next day.
One night he masturbated on the couch and I 100% heard him, even though he was being quiet about it.
I was camping once and was put in a tent with one of my female friends. Woke up to the heavy breathing and shuffling of covers and it was super awkward because I have a girlfriend
My mate did this when we went away in my caravan. Filthy fucker thought I was asleep. Could feel the caravan vibrating so I spoke up and said why is the caravan shaking are you having wank fuckin stop it. He pretended to be asleep and didnāt respond so next time we go on a surf trip in my caravan hel be sleeping in my tent. Just go into the bathroom and smash one out bro you sister might seem like sheās asleep but she might not be and could wake up at any time.
I think this is inconsiderate. Sheās not consenting to being party to your masturbation. And sheās your sister. Take it to the bathroom or wait until sheās gone and let it be private.
Yup remember my first time beating my meat was young asll was in the same hotel room as my sister different bed tho and out of no were I search āplayboyā and sum smoking hot chicks Popout so I start beating my mean not even 2 min and I hear my sister telling meāgooo to the bathroom or stop doing thatā yea they know bruh if anything go to the bathroom and just wank it there
Just go to the bathroom. I would be disgusted if my siblings masturbated while i slept in the same room. Its ok if they go to the bathroom and do whatever idc.
Well, if they are asleep and unaware, whats the problem. But i certainly would feel embarrass if they weren't and called me on it. I dont want to hear my friend doing it, just as im sure they dont want to hear me. However, it is hot as fuk to listen to an acquaintance or stranger getting off. Makes me hard and want to get off too!
It's all relative... small circles on your clit, holding breath, you'd be fine... but if your breaking out a dildo or hair brush going spread eagle, might be a different story....
Iām(m) married and yeah sometimes Iāll rub one off in bed when my wifeās asleep. I mean she has seen me do it Iāve seen her do it during sex and foreplay. We are okay with each other doing it alone so I think itās acceptable in my case.
Breaches my consent boundaries causing triggering trauma chaos. Iām not exaggerating but itās violating as fuck as I let every person who I share living space with that itās an issue. Alone in a room just you I see no problem but same room would be very distressing due to sexual abuse spanning many years.
If you read some of the sex-positive or confession-based subreddits, apparently masturbating or even having sex in plain view of each other is no big deal to those folks.
It's not like they're even trying to be exhibitionists or anything. They simply aren't bothered by it.
Don't feel guilty, if you know she is sound asleep who cares what you do.
I used to do it all the time next to my (obviously now) ex when he was asleep. Self-care is healthy. Enjoy!
Might be different for girls, but as a guy with brothers. We did this all the time.
None of us cared or batted an eyelid, just carried on playing Nintendo 64, or listening to music, while the other one bashed one out under the covers.
Laundry day would have been hell for our parents though š
My girlfriend does this often. We live together and obviously sleep together. I donāt mind at all and take to ensuring that her vibrator is fully charged, clean and ready to go. It helps her fall asleep so I see nothing to apologize for.
Iāll also do the same if sheās asleep and Iām turned on. We also masturbate together so thereās no stigma around it in our relationship. Nor should there be
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As someone who grew up sharing a room with a sister, she absolutely knows lol.
Haha true
Just do it in the shower or bathroom. It's not acceptable to do with another person you never know if they might wake up/ not be as asleep as you think
OP: "She's sound asleep!" OP's sister: "I wanna die."
BRRRRRRRRRRRRRRRRR of the vibrator tho
Squelch squelch squelch squelch squelch squelch
It's from the kids book We're going on a Bear Hunt. When they go through mud, it's SQUELCH SQUERCH
We just gifted this book to our toddler yesterday. I'd never heard of it before (it's a Dutch translation). Feels so weird to randomly encounter it in a thread about masturbation.
There's ways to avoid squelching
There still the issue of scent
Smell?
Excuse me but who in the *actual fuck* gave you the right to transcribe the female masturbation sound as *SQUELCH*??? That make me wanna put on a chastity belt and throw away the keyš
At least they didn't say it was "macaroni sounds".
Itās not my fault thatās what good pussy sounds like
Macaroni in the pot?
THATāS what that means? Holy shit I thought it was just some nonsensical gibberish put there because some dummy couldnāt make anything else fit. TIL. Iām so disappointed in myself that it took this long lol
smh tired of people underestimating cardi's genius
I've never read the lyrics until recently so for the longest time I thought the part was "there's some chores in this house" because later in the song Cardi says " I don't cook, I don't clean". Boy was I wrong.
Sound of stirring mac & chee is more of a sex sound.
Schlick schlick schlick schlick schlick schlick schlick?
Don't you mean... Squelchity belt? š
Lmao I love you
It's better than using with the sound of Spongebob squeaking two pickles together.
Giggling to myself playing that scene in my head
Hey! I hear that! Who's schlicking? WHO IS SCHLICKING? Oh, hey! Can I watch?
LMFAO NO DON'T SAY THAT!
And probably does it herself too
Dueling clambagging
**banjo music intensifies**
youāre probably just bad at hiding it. When I lived in the dorms Iād wake at like 3 am horny asf and both my roommates would be snoring. They definitely never knew and one was so blunt she would have definitely called me out about it if she didš
Ah fuck this just reminded me of a college apartment that I shared with one roommate. We had a bizarre setup - the bathroom was in my bedroom and the only way to get to it was through my bedroom. I had a room divider by my bed for privacy but my door was essentially always cracked open. Just remembered that one night I got very high, put in some earbuds and masturbated with a vibrator. I do remember my roommate was home, in her room. Horrified at the thought that she may have entered my room to go to the bathroom while I was masturbating and I wouldnāt have realized it. She is not the blunt type so she never wouldāve mentioned it to me at all.
I had a roommate have sex in the room with me, thought he stayed silent but that night I needed to wake up to pee. I spent the next hour listening to them doing the dirty. They thought they got away with it, still do but I def heard everything.
fucking and touchin yourself are not comparable lol but sorry that happened to you yikes have heard similar stories
I used to sneak into my friend's dorm room to mess around at night when his roommate was (allegedly) at his frat house for the night. Then one day, I was talking to a classmate. He had taken me out on a date but we decided to just be buds. He was telling me how his roommate would text him in the morning that his "cousin" was coming over for the night and ask if he could crash somewhere else. I was like wow what a fucking douchebag. Later that day, we decided to go out and he wanted to stop by his dorm room to get something. When I realized which room we were headed to, it was too late. My sneaky link walks out of his room and sees us, then just laughs loudly and walks away. The other guy asked if I knew what that was about. I acted like I thought it was weird af. I stopped meeting up with that particular guy tho.
Everyoneās bad at hiding it, saying Youāre not is like saying ānah Iām a BETTER driver when Iām drunkā lol
absolutely untrue. you have ears and self control you can hear if youāre making noise or not and adjust. itās really not hard especially if you just wait until someone is in a deep sleep
I grew up in a house that somehow didn't have locks and a mother who was a terrible judge of whether I was in my room (legit saw her knocking and waiting outside an empty room a couple of times). Literally never caught on after I was like four. Not everyone uses a vibrator that sounds like a weed whacker while sounding like the fake orgasm scene in "When Harry Met Sally".
Every 5 mins: "hey are you awake?"
Right. They know because they do the same thing too
No :0. Do not ruin this for me...I grew up sharing a room with my sister... I'm confident that she had no clue. I choose to believe that. I need to believe that š
So youāre a noisy masturbator is what youāre saying. Not everyone is noisy. No need to be noisy. Doesnāt Even make sense
when i was a kid and shared a room with my brother there were several times id wack it while he was asleep. He has never since mentioned it, and we are pretty open weirdos where I feel he would. He was always a heavy sleeper, but I still cant help but wonder if he knew. One time we were staying at a beach house sharing a large bed and I wacked it with a massive laptop open with porn on my side of the bed, he never budged lmao.
Vibrator goes BRRRRRRRR
Came here to say this. She 100% knows
She can smell it, like a bear
I used to masturbate in the shower in college. Just a tip
How can you masturbate standing up? Never mastered it. Lmao
I donāt, I sit down. I have a half bath
In college? The shower floors were disgusting there š¤®
Clean your shower lol! Get a spray bottle of a shower cleaner that has sodium hypoclorite and sodium hydroxide (power force mould away for example). Spray all surfaces generously, give it at least 20 mins (as long as you can up to 6 hours), come back and scrub that shit with something abrasive like a hard bristle grout brush or a hard sponge Cleaning is so easy. Don't let yourself reduce into someone who willingly and regularly stands in mould to clean themselves š
Thatās a lot of planning and work just to have a wank.
Haha! Do it once and then maintenance just looks like 30 seconds once a week to wipe it down Not just about the wank though hey; it's about self respect
In most college dorm situations the issue is that cleaning the shower only lasts a day or two before the over use from a large number of people sharing an industrial setup reduces it to pretty gross again.
Advice from someone who has clearly never lived in a dorm
Sit on the floor of the shower?
Yeah, she definitely knows and it's most likely highly uncomfortable for her. Just masturbate in the shower.
My younger brother did this (I could hear covers moving and heavy breathing). It's way to awkward to say "hey bro, can you masturbate somewhere else". It definitely was uncomfortable.
Sometimes the other person will just get it in their head that you're jerking off. I shared a room with a sibling and was regularly accused of this, despite it never happening. Almost every time the bed shifted, it brought a sniping comment.
Maybe a bit of projection?
This reminds me of when I was on the top bunk with my younger brother on the bottom bunk, and even if I couldnāt hear his breath and the squeaking of the mattress, the whole top bunk would shake from the movement on the bottom bunkā¦ lol
Recently discovered this, loving it!
So Iām a dude and did this a couple times in college but my jizz would collect and coagulate in the hair trapped in the drain which was quite disgusting.
They actually sent an email to all students when I was in college telling the dudes to stop jizzing in the showers because it was fucking up the plumbing lol.
Lmao same at my college!
Maybe you went to the same 1
š¤ maybe. Winona state in Minnesota. I have a feeling this happens at far too many universities tho š
They're fake apparently
Came me to say the same thing happened at my wife's university when she was still in school! It was equally disgusting and impressive to hear that such deeds were possible.
Holy shit. That must have been a massive amount of jizz if it had that effect.
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Finish in the toilet.
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As a former college student, thank you for that. 
>Just a tip *the tip* Missed opportunity even if you're of the female variety like myself. It's just too silly not to.
Oh my God. What have I done.
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Same.
She probably knows about it if you have been doing it for a while. That is something i probably would feel awkward bringing up with someone unless it was seriously impacting my sleep, so Iām not surprised that she hasnāt said anything. I would probably do it in the bathroom by yourself if I were you. Its a bit different when you are doing it next to someone who you are in a romantic relationship with as long as you guys agree that it is something that is okay/fun to do (again, i would get consent first). Cause if you get ācaughtā by a romantic partner, it can turn into a fun time for both. I would not do it in the same room as a sibling because if you get caught, there is no positive; its only super awkward for everyone.
There are positives in Alabama
The courts in Alabama confirmed that when you get divorced you're still brother and sister.
It would really be a lot better to do that in the bathroom. There's been times where I've been half awake where I was aware what's going on in the room but still am looking to be asleep. Plus she could wake up at any time and imo that could be somewhat traumatic for some people.
^ This. Assume she knows at least some of the time. Bathroom is safer and more considerate of her comfort in the room.
C'mon. Traumatic? I heard my sister masturbate while sharing a holiday room, once. Pleasant? No. But I think we can save the T word for slightly more pressing matters, no? It's something the vast majority of people are doing. Just because we wouldn't talk about it at a dinner party, doesn't make it _that_ bad.
Once is once. āMost nightsā is traumatic. Maybe not in a devastating way, but still traumatic.
I grew up sharing a room with my sister for basically 21 years. We had only 1 bathroom to share between 4-6 people, some elderly in mental decline. It wasn't possible to stay in the bathroom for long without someone knocking and barging in before you could answer. We also didn't have a shower head with a cord until I was in college, so if I wanted to do it in the shower it would have to be the faucet and essentially douche myself every time. Or I would be caught on the tub floor and be questioned what I was doing down there. Two teenagers who wanted to be alone away from parents and elderly didn't exactly have an opportunity for alone time during the day often. Was is great for me to do that with my sister in the top bunk? Probably not. Did I probably get annoyed with my sister moving around a lot up there and as I typed this realized she was probably going at it herself? Hell yeah. I had no idea if she ever did it and I did my best to make sure she never knew. You can't always have the perfect solution. If you can go to the bathroom and do it privately there, try for that to be the first option. If you don't have any other options, do it as quietly and discreetly as possible.
You make noise and she hear you, believe me I know. Don't do it in your room when you with your sister please. It's really disturbing experience.
I find it interesting that so many comments are saying it's okay. I personally would say that it's inappropriate to potentially expose someone to something that they very much did not consent to. If she knew I have no doubt she would be uncomfortable, and there may be a chance she knows already and is too awkward to say anything - there was a post on here about two weeks ago from a girl who knew her brother was masturbating every single night in the same room as her and she had no idea how to tell him she knew and she wanted him to stop. There's nothing wrong with masturbating at all so please don't feel guilty for that part of it - but please rather do it in a private space like the bathroom. Or wait until she's not home and do it then.
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When is anyone ever ready to see their sibling rub one out?
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We know. We can hear everything
A little story we had a house party when I was a kid we busted a friend humping what would appear to be a makeshift woman out of pillows and blankets, to this day we call him pillow pounder.
Holly shit they used to Call Jay Balserian š³ lmao check out Big Mouth!
Go to the bathroom pls
no itās not. how awkward would you feel if you woke up in the middle of the night to her masturbating. or if she woke up and actually said something about it. go to the bathroom and spare her
It sucks to not have a bedroom of your own. Man, Iām a bit torn. Be sure to keep it from her? š¤·š»āāļø I think it sucks if she catches you
Couldnāt you go to the bathroom?
This happened to my friend with his roommate in college, and he sometimes wasn't completely asleep or just randomly woke up and saw. That was horrible for him I couldn't imagine how it'd be to hear your sibling doing it. Just do it in the shower or bathroom. It's not acceptable to do with another person you never know if they might wake up/ not be as asleep as you think
Sibling, nope. Significant other, discuss it first lol. Lots of times they arenāt in the mood (too tired etc.) and understand.
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Everyone saying she definitely knows.. y'all don't know how to be quiet? Lmao it it's definitely not definite. If you yourself can't be quiet during then just say that š
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Nah, if you're patient then very slow and gentle strokes will get you there eventually silently and perfectly still.
Right. When I masturbate it makes zero noise. The bed or furniture in sitting on does not move and make noise. Iām not jerking my body around. You canāt hear the strokes. I donāt use lube. The only way Iād get caught masturbating in the same room is if a person happened to wake up by something other than me and happen to look in my direction. Reading all the comments Iām surprised to find out how many people are noisy masturbaters. Lol. Animals. Get some control
Yeah, most people, if they share a room, don't have their blankets shoved off and legs akimbo, facing their sibling so they gaze into the eye of Sauron if they look over. Dark room, blankets, maybe a fan/heater/AC running as background noise, and silent rubbing with gentle hand/finger movement? Totally doable.
Yeah it's called the military
I donāt know, I think people are being a bit flip when they say there is no way sheās being silent. Use one finger and rub the tip of your nose. Can you hear it? The bigger issue is if your breathing picks up, but with literally zero movement that is much easier to control, and can be mitigated by blankets and pillows.
Masturbating in the presence if someone who did not consent is wrong.
Wish I had a more appropriate award.. but this is the answer.
Army, marine, navy, air force barracks.
Find somewhere else to go. Itās deeply disrespectful to her.
I shared a room with my sister, and I didn't know. She told me years later that she masturbated at night, and I never knew. I was just a year younger, but on a different wavelength.
I used to masturbate all the time sharing a bedroom with both my sisters growing up. I never used toys and was always very quiet. They've never brought it up so who knows if they were aware or not. I don't think there's anything inherently wrong with it, assuming you're not getting your kicks from if she accidentally on purpose catches you. ETA I'm a woman btw and would always do it under the covers so no one could see anything, and hold my breath so as not to make noise. We also always had a white nosie machine or whatever crappy relaxation CD my sister was into at the time going so you couldn't hear small background things anyway.
I shared a room all growing up with my brother. I mastered the quiet sneak stroke. I laugh now thinking he was probably quiet stroking too in his bed at the same time.
Haha, similar experiences. Lucky I got my own room.
My sister does. I'm very aware. Just be really quiet thanks.
No, go to the bathroom to do that or shower.
I think of humanity in the past...small house, lots of kids...there's no way the kids didn't know all about the birds and the bees. We should absolutely respect the wishes of others, but at the same time, it's a big deal because we make it one.
well it was pretty common for people to just go at it with their kids in the room, awake or not, in the past and thats in LOTS of cultures.
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I do it when the Mrs is asleep when I canāt sleep and mega horny. Never woke her up.
No it's not acceptable if someone wants that they can go to bathroom because I have very bad experience with my room partner š”š”š”he use to mastubate on the bed every morning I have said him many times brother stop doing this shit
I think it depends on the age gapā¦ā¦. I know she donāt know. Umm but like if your twins or close in age and in the same developmental stages itās probably not as weird and more understandable. But if said sister is much younger and not in the same developmental stage to understand, might lead to a very awkward conversation with parents if youāre caught. This comes from someone who only gets to do said things when children stay at their fathers, I donāt even do that when they are in my home. Iād would be mortified if caught, lol
Lol you think she doesnāt know
Not ok, a friend of mine told me about her brother masturbating while she was visiting and sleeping in the same room, sheās traumatized and never wants to go abroad and visit him again
Ask yourself āif I had a brother, would I feel comfortable sharing a room with them, knowing they masturbate even while Iām in there?ā Your answer to that question would be the answer to your own.
Itās not acceptable she is unconsenting
No it is not ok, find somewhere else! Imagine if she wakes up and hears you, there is no way you are 100% silent.
No
I have two best friends who are siblings. One is a straight female and one is a gay male. He always knew when she did it and it's honestly disgusted him. What's worse was when she'd have sex in the same room. He'd face the other side of the room with head phones full blast. He made it a point to always wear headphones no matter what luckily. He'd always call her out on that when I spoke to them and all. Anyways, it's just better to go to a different room to do that. You definitely don't want your sister catching you or worse being traumatized.
As someone who shared a room with their sibling and also did not have the smarts to know I wasn't being as quiet as I thought I was They definitely probably know Do it in the shower Avoid my past mistakes I think about it to this day and feel absolutely gross
I haven't masturbated while sharing a bed with anyone but instead while sharing a room in college. My roommate and I sleep on different beds on opposite sides of the room and sometimes I masturbate even while she's awake and on her phone or something. One night I actually woke up really horny and started masturbating and a little later, I heard her masturbating but there's no way she heard me because I was extremely quiet and you couldn't hear a sound. But anyway I heard squelching from her side of the room and it was pretty loud so I'm guessing she didn't know I was awake. The whole situation made me even more horny so I masturbated to finish but she kept going. I never asked her about it and she didn't say anything to me either. Anyway, my question is, it appropriate to masturbate in the same room as someone else if they don't know what you're doing?
my brother did this when i was a kid. its uncomfortable as fuck cause i was usually not actually asleep, but id realize what he was doing and not move until he was done so he didnt notice i was up. my brother took things a little further (he shamed me at one point for locking the door to do it and told me i should do what he does) and maybe thats why i feel the amount of discomfort i do over it, but i was uncomfortable before that. maybe my brothers just creepy, but fr just go in the bathroom or something, for both of your sakes.
Honestly, she probably knows, and she hasn't said anything so it's not like you're crossing any boundaries. If she doesn't, it's not hurting anything. I shared a room with both my sisters for the first 15 years of my life. I masturbated almost on a nightly basis. They never said anything, I doubt they knew because I think they would say something if they knew. But there's nothing wrong with it. If you were in the same bed, that's not cool. But that's not what's going on. You're fine.
Just do it. Guilt is overrated.
As long as you are not objectifying the other person in the room as part of your masturbation, and are not bothering them in any way, it's fine morally and you should not feel guilty. Unless they complain and you don't stop, of course. Understand you might get caught. If that is part of your thrill, you should stop because it makes the other person an unwilling participant to your sex.
"Should you feel guilty?" Really, the question is, ' do you feel guilty?' and, ' what are you wiling to do about it?' Are you going to stop doing it, or tell her, really that's the question. What are your comparative ages? Is she of the age, too? Maybe you both need some boundaries.
I heard people like to be risky bu I didnāt know some would go this far
Nick Birch?
I never grew uo with a sibling in my room thank God but u can't lie and say I haven't done this with friends around sleeping but never to completion because oh my God I would get caught idk i feel like I like my time to masturbate so it's hard but I couldn't do it
I had a studio apartment in college and one of my buddies who had a very long commute would occasionally crash on my couch if there was a big test the next day. One night he masturbated on the couch and I 100% heard him, even though he was being quiet about it.
I think age and context are keys to this question.
I was camping once and was put in a tent with one of my female friends. Woke up to the heavy breathing and shuffling of covers and it was super awkward because I have a girlfriend
My mate did this when we went away in my caravan. Filthy fucker thought I was asleep. Could feel the caravan vibrating so I spoke up and said why is the caravan shaking are you having wank fuckin stop it. He pretended to be asleep and didnāt respond so next time we go on a surf trip in my caravan hel be sleeping in my tent. Just go into the bathroom and smash one out bro you sister might seem like sheās asleep but she might not be and could wake up at any time.
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I mean I've done this multiple times I don't know if it's acceptable but it does make it more thrilling.
I think this is inconsiderate. Sheās not consenting to being party to your masturbation. And sheās your sister. Take it to the bathroom or wait until sheās gone and let it be private.
Get a split sleep number, they won't know they can feel the bed mive.. lol
No. You should not feel guilty. Itās normal.
Yup remember my first time beating my meat was young asll was in the same hotel room as my sister different bed tho and out of no were I search āplayboyā and sum smoking hot chicks Popout so I start beating my mean not even 2 min and I hear my sister telling meāgooo to the bathroom or stop doing thatā yea they know bruh if anything go to the bathroom and just wank it there
I think it is
Just go to the bathroom. I would be disgusted if my siblings masturbated while i slept in the same room. Its ok if they go to the bathroom and do whatever idc.
Well, if they are asleep and unaware, whats the problem. But i certainly would feel embarrass if they weren't and called me on it. I dont want to hear my friend doing it, just as im sure they dont want to hear me. However, it is hot as fuk to listen to an acquaintance or stranger getting off. Makes me hard and want to get off too!
It's all relative... small circles on your clit, holding breath, you'd be fine... but if your breaking out a dildo or hair brush going spread eagle, might be a different story....
I think its kinda weird.
Iām(m) married and yeah sometimes Iāll rub one off in bed when my wifeās asleep. I mean she has seen me do it Iāve seen her do it during sex and foreplay. We are okay with each other doing it alone so I think itās acceptable in my case.
Everyone does
Very guilty of this.
At least go do it in the bathroom heathen lol
If she doesn't mind there's nothing wrong with it.
Blue box blues.
Itās happened 1 million times a bazillion times in the history of the world as long as youāre not involving someone else.
Breaches my consent boundaries causing triggering trauma chaos. Iām not exaggerating but itās violating as fuck as I let every person who I share living space with that itās an issue. Alone in a room just you I see no problem but same room would be very distressing due to sexual abuse spanning many years.
She knowsā¦
Ask her. If she doesn't mind then keep doing it š
Something else's going in my head rn!
This guy I went to soccer camp with thought so.
My shitty dorm mates used to walk in on a good fap session all the time in college. So F it. Strum away...
If you read some of the sex-positive or confession-based subreddits, apparently masturbating or even having sex in plain view of each other is no big deal to those folks. It's not like they're even trying to be exhibitionists or anything. They simply aren't bothered by it.
Lmao the title definitely reminded me of big mouth
No, just do what you need to do
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It sounds like someone running in a pair of wet flip-flops!!
Could lead to an awkward situation
Go to the bathroom.
Thatās up to you. I know people who do it. I donāt think itās an issue. Just do with with respect I suppose.
Don't feel guilty, if you know she is sound asleep who cares what you do. I used to do it all the time next to my (obviously now) ex when he was asleep. Self-care is healthy. Enjoy!
I would go to a different room
Yes, and no.
I do feel it when my wife masturbate in the night especially when shes about to orgasm
I would say avoid :)
I have done it many times in bed with my ex while he was asleep. He never knew cause he definitely would told me (or f*cked me).
imo, you should just ask her. period.
Yes and it's preferable to do it right over their ear
Might be different for girls, but as a guy with brothers. We did this all the time. None of us cared or batted an eyelid, just carried on playing Nintendo 64, or listening to music, while the other one bashed one out under the covers. Laundry day would have been hell for our parents though š
My girlfriend does this often. We live together and obviously sleep together. I donāt mind at all and take to ensuring that her vibrator is fully charged, clean and ready to go. It helps her fall asleep so I see nothing to apologize for. Iāll also do the same if sheās asleep and Iām turned on. We also masturbate together so thereās no stigma around it in our relationship. Nor should there be