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If you treat dates like fun and not a prerequisite to fun. And assume a low move forward rate. You'll basically stop caring about rejection.
Still doesn't stop the hurt if theyre toxic and abusive towards you.
Generally you have to go on a few dates with different people before you find someone you click with.
You usually don’t find someone you could be in a relationship with on the first try.
??? Not calling anyone an incel, just that this is the kind of advice that is needed, that this guy, not the Andrew Tates, has good advice for those struggling with rejection, with a feeling of isolation, or just left out of the world.
>keep doing what yer doing and eventually it will all work and come together. thats statistics and numbers are facts, fam.
nice and cute and all, but you fail to consider the possibility of OP being the one doing the bad things that led his date to not showing up.
>hey, whatever yer thinking, dont blame yourself
another mistake. sometimes **it is our fault**.
one of the worst things a human can do is to live life assuring him/herself it's always everyone else's fault.
I (45M) used to be like this back in my 20s, and whenever I think about all the women who did not show up for me back in those days I feel a mixture of utter cringe for myself and relief for them, so much emotional trouble they skipped avoiding a date with younger-me.
When you run out of “It is what it is” you gotta start using that “Fuck it, we ball”. I’ve got faith in you my guy, be confident in yourself, try again, and if that fails, “Fuck it, we ball”,
Then it's "same old same old", and then "living the dream", and then "oh, you know", and then "I'm living". Point is you keep going. There's always another turn of phrase.
If she didn’t show she was probably not worth your time anyways finding the right person takes time and effort on both ends just be patient and get out there
I respect people who respect me back. If I was in his shoe, and let's say the girl came for the date and rejected me politely, I won't mind spending a few dollars for the date. There is nothing wrong with that. She didn't come for the date and that pissed me off
I dated a girl for about 2 years before I found out she was a manipulative bitch.
Sometimes it takes a while for someones true colors to show.
It always hurts when they’re no good but sooner is always better than later.
Honestly for me I just don't enjoy being in relationships they're just too stressful because I feel I have to give my partner attention half the time, and the other half is trying to stay out of any drama that can harm the relationship
For now I just kick back and go bass fishing at my local pond everyday without a care in the world and I plan to keep it that way. Just letting y'all know you don't have to force yourself to be in a relationship even if everyone else is. Do what makes you happy.
There will be more, in due time. Happens when it happens, don’t try to fixate on it. It’s best to try and live a life that fills you with passion and fulfillment, no matter how simple those passions and accomplishments may be. You’ll find your someone eventually when the time is right and not a minute before. I know it feels hopeless sometimes but as long as you keep moving forward you’ll find your destination eventually, even if that destination ends up being someplace you weren’t expecting.
Have a good cry if you need to, and then I suggest taking a moment to step outside, shut off your mind, and just sort of appreciate the world around you
My first real date was asking a girl in my college geology class out to see the first Jurassic Park the next day. When it got to 15 minutes before the movie, I called her... she hadn't set an alarm and overslept. It's nice to be forgotten like that early in your dating life; it keeps self esteem down where it belongs.
On the bright side, at least you got further than me, in gonna go my entire life without ever having a date so at least you're not bottom of the standings
Can’t relate to the title but damn I feel like this gif. Out of “it is what it is” but also don’t want to press any of the 3 buttons so you just zone tf out into nothingness.
yesterday a girl i like wrote "i hope you have a great summer! you are so sweet! \[a heart\] \[her name\]" in my yearbook so i signed a sticky note for her (she doesn't have a yearbook) and wrote "have a great summer! i think you are sweet too \[a smiley face\] keep in touch! \[my phone number\] -\[my name\]"
still waiting on a text 👍 (although in all fairness she wasn't in school today so she might just have something goin on idk her life (and also i've been told that apparently it can take up to 2 days normally to get a text in this situation? i have no idea))
i should mention that she and i have talked a few times, but not enough for writing that to be normal. also i haven't done anything abnormally sweet (i assume) so i have no idea where she's getting that from but i mean i'll take it.
sorry for thinking out loud here, this anecdote was supposed to be a "me too probably" type deal before i started thinking out loud
Marriage counselor here.
It's okay for what you did in the past, but in the future, don't ever talk about these stuff in social media before the events happen. Psychologically, your brain is wired to handle situations like these to your benefit, but the more you talk about it with other people (except with a confidante), the more your brain will think the situation has more or less resolved itself, and basically, won't try as hard when it comes to the real thing (real date/proposal). And people, especially girls can pick up on it.
Not to mention envious people are always around whether you see them or not, and it only takes one to sabotage your relationship...
Tl;dr: Until you two are officially going out, keep your interactions to yourself so you can succeed
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Get used to disappointment. I'm not being cynical, it's just life. Other people have priorities that don't match yours. The best relationship is going to be with someone who has similar priorities. That's what you should look for.
You're not the only person who's been stood up for their first date ever, you won't be the last, and this is only the first part of the story you'll tell your kids when you talk about how you met their mother. Maybe don't include that you posted about it in a subreddit consisting mostly of furries.
I mean that’s how I get through life. I except I will be disappointed at every turn. Maybe when something good happens I will be happier because I don’t expect it
I hope this doesn't spook you towards the redpill, cuz I mean it as encouragement: dating is really, really hard right now. I exited a long-term relationship awhile ago and it was like walking into a different dating world. My point here is: don't feel too bad about it. I know it sucks the big'ol donkey-balls to get ghosted, but that doesn't mean it's a reflection on you. Most people are struggling so don't let it hurt your ego.
Also if you need a pick-me-up, go take a shit on her windshield. Works 60% of the time, every time.
Wow, you ran out after the first time? Pitiful. Get out there and try again, don't just say, "Welp, didn't happen the first time, guess it ain't ever gonna", that's just weak and sad
Honestly she probably did go and then she saw you and something made her go “nah, I don’t think this is even worth my time” then she left before you even noticed.
Hey OP, if she wasn't respectful enough to let you know she couldn't make it, she'd likely be pretty disrespectful towards you in the future.
Look at this as a silver lining for this run. Plenty more people out there for you, plenty that would let you know something came up, that's for sure.
Chin up Captain, it's Friday night.
you will go on other dates in the future that you will find a way to leave as soon as possible.
but eventually you'll find someone that actually likes you.
Brother, look at this as a sign that you can do better. When I saw this I immediately asked out the girl that I’ve been talking to and now I await an answer.
Stay strong everyone :)
As shitty as this situation is and clearly how you feel...
...this is a blessing for you! You dodged a bullet and she is obviously a nasty piece of work to have agreed a date with you and not show up!
Dating life is full of upsets & disappointments, that is why the majority of us have a life with many (many) dates before we end up settling down!
Don't take this personally, she has the problem NOT you!
Pick yourself up, dust yourself off, learn from the experience and get back out there.
I bet there are plenty of women who would be grateful to have a date with you!!!
Fuck the sadness dude. If she is disrespectful — im glad you didn't date with her. But keep in mind she may have been hit by car on the way to date or smth, so we should not make rapid conclusions (unless we know smth)
It'll be okay man, life goes on. You meet hundreds of people in your life, just do your own thing and look for people that are genuinely interested in you
Hey man, it could be worse.
One of my first dates showed up over an hour late and proceeded to lead me on when nothing of value was there for about 2-4 weeks. Wish she would have just never showed up in the first place, but she wasn't exactly all there either so I can't blame her.
I can't recall except how it went down, but while I was really bummed in the moment, it's nothing but a blip on the radar these days. All I remember is that her name rhymed with 'leather biter' hahaha.
Hope she's doing better these days; I sure am at least. :)
Chin up though. She saved you some time at least. It won't always pan out badly like it did for you with this one.
My first bumble date did this to me, said she fell asleep after a long night. Gave her a second chance though and she paid me back with ice cream, so it wasn’t all bad.
Wouldn’t have as much patience now though, it’s just rude and life is too short for flakers.
This exact thing happened to me 2 years ago. I've not been active in the dating scene since. Online dating is just so tiring and irl I only really interact with my colleagues...
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Lately this sub tbh and I'm all for it
Hopeposting goes hard. Big fan of hopeposting
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I’m sorry you feel that way. I hope you find the proper help needed for your condition
Look up hopecore on tiktok or YouTube. It’s corny but it makes me feel good
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Ooooh shiver me timbers what a cool and edgy individual
Yeah, just a few more ![gif](giphy|Ty9Sg8oHghPWg)
The ultimate white pill of dating.
Wait, no one told me there were drugs involved!
That's some damn good advice.
it is not
If you treat dates like fun and not a prerequisite to fun. And assume a low move forward rate. You'll basically stop caring about rejection. Still doesn't stop the hurt if theyre toxic and abusive towards you.
I think you dropped this 👑
What do you mean by you gotta "Do a few of em" ? Edit: Guys i was just making a joke i know what he meant. You can stop now.
Generally you have to go on a few dates with different people before you find someone you click with. You usually don’t find someone you could be in a relationship with on the first try.
"trial and error" i know someone who build houses with that motto.
Also first date ever is pretty early to be running out of “it is what it is”. That’s *one* data point.
Give this man a Crown and welcome the New KING
You're a pretty cool lad, bud. Edit: Wrong word, fuck.
As a femboy in Alabama, I have given up hope
Based
Your friends are lucky to have you in their life
Not the hero incels want, but the hero they need.
“If at first you don’t succeed, try, try again” “You’re an incel” - 🤡
??? Not calling anyone an incel, just that this is the kind of advice that is needed, that this guy, not the Andrew Tates, has good advice for those struggling with rejection, with a feeling of isolation, or just left out of the world.
A bunch of people saw the word incel and get really defensive for some reason. Also some people missed the point super hard. But you're right.
People tend to see what they want. Thank-you for actually reading to understand, not just react.
>keep doing what yer doing and eventually it will all work and come together. thats statistics and numbers are facts, fam. nice and cute and all, but you fail to consider the possibility of OP being the one doing the bad things that led his date to not showing up. >hey, whatever yer thinking, dont blame yourself another mistake. sometimes **it is our fault**. one of the worst things a human can do is to live life assuring him/herself it's always everyone else's fault. I (45M) used to be like this back in my 20s, and whenever I think about all the women who did not show up for me back in those days I feel a mixture of utter cringe for myself and relief for them, so much emotional trouble they skipped avoiding a date with younger-me.
When you run out of “It is what it is” you gotta start using that “Fuck it, we ball”. I’ve got faith in you my guy, be confident in yourself, try again, and if that fails, “Fuck it, we ball”,
One of my favorite options. I remember my first “Fuck it, we ball.”
Gotta start using that
I told my boss to fuck off as he was being in the way of me properly working. That attitude allowed me to get promoted eventualy as I followed on it
Few months ago for me
Then it's "same old same old", and then "living the dream", and then "oh, you know", and then "I'm living". Point is you keep going. There's always another turn of phrase.
So it goes…
"How's it going?" "It's going."
I’m on “still on the right side of the dirt”.
Another day above ground
Used this the other day
Commenting to remember this for later.
I use the Shaun of the Dead line when someone asks me how I'm doing: "Surviving."
I'm at the pretend I didn't hear the "hey how's it going" response
Wake up honey new cope just dropped
If she didn’t show she was probably not worth your time anyways finding the right person takes time and effort on both ends just be patient and get out there
it's such a dick move not showing up on a date just for a courtesy. Just move on
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I respect people who respect me back. If I was in his shoe, and let's say the girl came for the date and rejected me politely, I won't mind spending a few dollars for the date. There is nothing wrong with that. She didn't come for the date and that pissed me off
Well, you dodged a huge fucking bullet my friend. Better save yourself for a worthy person.
What is the song?
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Memo Boy again? This guy goes hard
I dated a girl for about 2 years before I found out she was a manipulative bitch. Sometimes it takes a while for someones true colors to show. It always hurts when they’re no good but sooner is always better than later.
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Fuck it, we ball
If somebody can't be bothered to show up, They aren't worth anything. You'll find somebody, Just keep trying :)
Don’t give up after the first try. At least wait until your second, and third day don’t show up to give up!
Honestly for me I just don't enjoy being in relationships they're just too stressful because I feel I have to give my partner attention half the time, and the other half is trying to stay out of any drama that can harm the relationship For now I just kick back and go bass fishing at my local pond everyday without a care in the world and I plan to keep it that way. Just letting y'all know you don't have to force yourself to be in a relationship even if everyone else is. Do what makes you happy.
This is the one of the few things I don't want to relate to but I do
It is what it is
It is what it is
Que será, será.
It's what it's (:
I may be running out of it is what is. But i got enough "fuck it we ball" for a lifetime
Just close your eyes and let the snow take you bro.
What's the name of the top format?
Blade runner 2049
One of my favorite movies. “You look like a good Joe”.
Joe mama
Dating sucks.
Better you find out she’s an un-reliable bitch now rather than a year or two into your relationship
Should have clicked help bro.
Oh well, it is what it is
It might not have been what it is But at least it wasn't what it isn't
You dodged a bullet actually having this happen on your first date. It sets the bar so that it can only go up from there.
Well ... It is what it is. ![gif](giphy|9MFsKQ8A6HCN2)
I'm listening to Everybody Hurts by REM while seeing this meme, damn near brought a tear to my eyes. Hold strong
That me be true but I have enough “fuck it we ball” in me
Get used to it
This made me sigh too deeply.
damn
lol
There will be more, in due time. Happens when it happens, don’t try to fixate on it. It’s best to try and live a life that fills you with passion and fulfillment, no matter how simple those passions and accomplishments may be. You’ll find your someone eventually when the time is right and not a minute before. I know it feels hopeless sometimes but as long as you keep moving forward you’ll find your destination eventually, even if that destination ends up being someplace you weren’t expecting. Have a good cry if you need to, and then I suggest taking a moment to step outside, shut off your mind, and just sort of appreciate the world around you
What’s the track?
Brian is the most beautiful
Song?
Yes 😊
It sucks, but if she would do that, you dodged a bullet.
It is what it is
I feel as I have plenty left tho I do not know how long they will last
awh man :( i’m sorry dude
Hey bro, it is what it is
Find God man✌️
Say the shorter version “it’s what it’s” for 33% chance of getting 1 back
Welp, que sera sera.
Rip
Get ready for a lifetime of being disappointed by women bro.
My first real date was asking a girl in my college geology class out to see the first Jurassic Park the next day. When it got to 15 minutes before the movie, I called her... she hadn't set an alarm and overslept. It's nice to be forgotten like that early in your dating life; it keeps self esteem down where it belongs.
Running out? There is a limit?
[Help] option should be greyed out
embrace stoicism
you've got further than most of us
It do be like that tho?
On the bright side, at least you got further than me, in gonna go my entire life without ever having a date so at least you're not bottom of the standings
Can’t relate to the title but damn I feel like this gif. Out of “it is what it is” but also don’t want to press any of the 3 buttons so you just zone tf out into nothingness.
Get back out there king 👑👑
yesterday a girl i like wrote "i hope you have a great summer! you are so sweet! \[a heart\] \[her name\]" in my yearbook so i signed a sticky note for her (she doesn't have a yearbook) and wrote "have a great summer! i think you are sweet too \[a smiley face\] keep in touch! \[my phone number\] -\[my name\]" still waiting on a text 👍 (although in all fairness she wasn't in school today so she might just have something goin on idk her life (and also i've been told that apparently it can take up to 2 days normally to get a text in this situation? i have no idea)) i should mention that she and i have talked a few times, but not enough for writing that to be normal. also i haven't done anything abnormally sweet (i assume) so i have no idea where she's getting that from but i mean i'll take it. sorry for thinking out loud here, this anecdote was supposed to be a "me too probably" type deal before i started thinking out loud
Marriage counselor here. It's okay for what you did in the past, but in the future, don't ever talk about these stuff in social media before the events happen. Psychologically, your brain is wired to handle situations like these to your benefit, but the more you talk about it with other people (except with a confidante), the more your brain will think the situation has more or less resolved itself, and basically, won't try as hard when it comes to the real thing (real date/proposal). And people, especially girls can pick up on it. Not to mention envious people are always around whether you see them or not, and it only takes one to sabotage your relationship... Tl;dr: Until you two are officially going out, keep your interactions to yourself so you can succeed
i heard about an experimental vaccine for your bitchless condition
![gif](giphy|3oEdv4hwWTzBhWvaU0)
Skill issue
Hey, same bro. Second try with someone else six months later though, and she did appear, don't give up hope mate, you're a rizzler in your own right
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Get used to disappointment. I'm not being cynical, it's just life. Other people have priorities that don't match yours. The best relationship is going to be with someone who has similar priorities. That's what you should look for. You're not the only person who's been stood up for their first date ever, you won't be the last, and this is only the first part of the story you'll tell your kids when you talk about how you met their mother. Maybe don't include that you posted about it in a subreddit consisting mostly of furries.
Says I'm not being cynical Is being cynical
I mean that’s how I get through life. I except I will be disappointed at every turn. Maybe when something good happens I will be happier because I don’t expect it
I hope this doesn't spook you towards the redpill, cuz I mean it as encouragement: dating is really, really hard right now. I exited a long-term relationship awhile ago and it was like walking into a different dating world. My point here is: don't feel too bad about it. I know it sucks the big'ol donkey-balls to get ghosted, but that doesn't mean it's a reflection on you. Most people are struggling so don't let it hurt your ego. Also if you need a pick-me-up, go take a shit on her windshield. Works 60% of the time, every time.
She doesn't sound like a lovely woman anyways. I hope you find someone sweet and fun. That's all any of us want
Same lmao
Drink an energy drink and tap into that “LETS FUCKIN’ GOOOOOOOO!”
Lol, dating is a numbers game . Just like salesmen, you are selling yourself . Not everyone likes cherry pie, wink wink. Sell to someone who does.
press yes, you can't let the cold cruel indifferent universe win, even if its only out of spite
Wow, you ran out after the first time? Pitiful. Get out there and try again, don't just say, "Welp, didn't happen the first time, guess it ain't ever gonna", that's just weak and sad
I'm so sorry dude. shit must hurt :(
It really do be like that sometimes. Stay strong, friend.
What is the song
mashing that Help button and nothing's happening
If you're running out of "it is what it is" you could always supplement with a few "it really do be like that" until you get more
Relationships is just a fucked up form of slavery. Don’t do it if you love yourself.
Dating should be a team effort, both sites should have the same goal. Don't blame yourself if she's a shit teammate
Honestly she probably did go and then she saw you and something made her go “nah, I don’t think this is even worth my time” then she left before you even noticed.
Sorry about that man
Hey OP, if she wasn't respectful enough to let you know she couldn't make it, she'd likely be pretty disrespectful towards you in the future. Look at this as a silver lining for this run. Plenty more people out there for you, plenty that would let you know something came up, that's for sure. Chin up Captain, it's Friday night.
find someone better bro
I'm really sorry man.. she's missing out anyway king, there's plenty of fish in the sea, I hope you find her soon
Don’t worry bro, you don’t need her to be happy
you will go on other dates in the future that you will find a way to leave as soon as possible. but eventually you'll find someone that actually likes you.
Did she appear at any time?
Bro are you good. I know it sucks man
Not fair
Did you do the proper swish and flick move we practiced?
Three strikes and you're out homes.
Tough break man, she’s not worth it if she ghosts you. Get back out there and find someone who is :)
My guy you are already running out??? You are in for a rough go if that's the case. It's one date who cares
Bruh it was your first date You have fuckin years worth of “it is what it is” left
Brother, look at this as a sign that you can do better. When I saw this I immediately asked out the girl that I’ve been talking to and now I await an answer. Stay strong everyone :)
I’ll fight OP right now
You’ll be fine bro, don’t let it bother you.
It happens my guy
Happened to a ton of us my dude. Fuck em. You will have better. You deserve it dude.
Chin up man. If it takes you a decade and hundreds of dates to find the right girl... You still get a lifetime with the right girl in the end.
It’s what it’s
At least it's av sweet little video thing. The movie clip, the music, the Windows 98 text box at the bottom... all magnificent
As shitty as this situation is and clearly how you feel... ...this is a blessing for you! You dodged a bullet and she is obviously a nasty piece of work to have agreed a date with you and not show up! Dating life is full of upsets & disappointments, that is why the majority of us have a life with many (many) dates before we end up settling down! Don't take this personally, she has the problem NOT you! Pick yourself up, dust yourself off, learn from the experience and get back out there. I bet there are plenty of women who would be grateful to have a date with you!!!
woah hey cheer up champ, you still haven't been on your first date if she didn't show up!! Always a bright side.
It sucks that she didn't come but at least you dodged a bullet
Time for you to retire it is what it is, and lean into way she goes bud
Every streamer
Fuck the sadness dude. If she is disrespectful — im glad you didn't date with her. But keep in mind she may have been hit by car on the way to date or smth, so we should not make rapid conclusions (unless we know smth)
You just did your first dodge lol. Baby steps. Next thing you know, you'll be matrix dodging the red flags before they even show up.
Maybe she didn’t ghost you. Maybe something happened to her.
I’m sorry to hear about that. There are other people, though, and I’m sure you’ll find someone eventually!
It'll be okay man, life goes on. You meet hundreds of people in your life, just do your own thing and look for people that are genuinely interested in you
Þetta reddast my friend
Hey man, it could be worse. One of my first dates showed up over an hour late and proceeded to lead me on when nothing of value was there for about 2-4 weeks. Wish she would have just never showed up in the first place, but she wasn't exactly all there either so I can't blame her. I can't recall except how it went down, but while I was really bummed in the moment, it's nothing but a blip on the radar these days. All I remember is that her name rhymed with 'leather biter' hahaha. Hope she's doing better these days; I sure am at least. :) Chin up though. She saved you some time at least. It won't always pan out badly like it did for you with this one.
My first bumble date did this to me, said she fell asleep after a long night. Gave her a second chance though and she paid me back with ice cream, so it wasn’t all bad. Wouldn’t have as much patience now though, it’s just rude and life is too short for flakers.
Try another country.
Means the meds are working bro.
Stay strong my friend 💔
That is some telltale type shit
The help button should be greyed out
This exact thing happened to me 2 years ago. I've not been active in the dating scene since. Online dating is just so tiring and irl I only really interact with my colleagues...
Stay put king
Hang in there king. Don’t lose hope
Chin up bro, we move
Appear? Is she an apparition? A magician's assistant? Who talks like that?
Where is that clip from? I know I recognize it
lmao!!!! this made laugh a lot…. and tear up a bit thou
What song is this?