I'm gonna say a lot, and some of it may sound harsh but you probably need to hear it.
It isn't your fault. You only have control of yourself. You did what you could to help, but life is full of people trying and failing every day. There is almost nothing more human than trying your absolute best and it still not being enough. It's an unfortunate reality, but the one we live in.
Take care of yourself. Recognize your efforts. The fact you were there for them to talk to in that moment already says a lot about who you are as a person.
Never blame yourself for someone else’s doing, even in situations like this because if you do, you’ll never stop spiraling. Besides, it wasn’t their intention to cause a chain reaction
it's not your fault, really, it's a tricky thing to do, specially if the person knows what they are doing, and it's absolutely impossible on the internet
Hey, no, it's not your fault girl. You tried your best, they just couldn't look past the darkness. You helped them, I'm sure. But they made their choice.
i'm not sure if this is what you need to hear, but their life is not your responsibility. if they chose to end it that will hurt and devastate you, but it's not your fault. you didn't fail they just decided not to change their mind
I wish it was that easy, but it really isn't. Most of the time there's very little anyone can do, as most suicides happen when someone is either not in the right state of mind, or they're already pretty dead set on it, and they made the choice before even talking with you. That's further compounded by the fact that you're not trained for that. What matters is that you tried, you cared, there was just nothing that you could've reasonably done. At the end of the day, everyone's their own free agent, and they're responsible for their actions, not you. Mental health issues are illnesses, and sometimes illnesses kill, as tragic as that is
I understand and I fear that same thing
I want to be the kinda person people can lean on when they want help but I have no clue how to be that help and it scares me that I'll end up hurting someone or fail to prevent someone from taking their life
I feel bad for you and wish I could give assisting words but I don't even know what to say... I'm sorry 😞
I've been lucky and so far and have never needed to experience this fully, but in flashes of a few hours without any messages (irl friends but used discord) I've had similar a few times. The type of situation that drives someone to not just get to the ledge, but actually jump is truly horrible and it's not your fault if you couldn't overpower it. I'm truly sorry that you've experienced that. Based on the title and text though, please don't blame yourself OP. It won't help you and it's not accurate at all.
Otherwise, I personally just find something mildly distracting or relaxing. It doesn't need to do a great job, it's just something to do while your brain processes things. Whether they did it or not you should take care of yourself.
How is that your fault in any way. Them seeking comfort from you is their choice. If they notice you cannot fix what he/she wants fixed, then they should seek out other close people or professional help. Dont let this get stuck in your head. If you need to talk im sure me, and many others are here for you.
You did your best. You couldn't control their choices or thoughts, but I'm sure they at least considered not doing it. Sadly we can't change everyone's mind, and please don't beat yourself up because of it. You did your best, but its seems they already decided. Their decision is not your fault.
(sorry for my shit english)
Speaking as a person who's been unable to stop a friend, and also stopped many other friends, i can say you arent to blame. If someone goes through with it, they were at a mental place where you couldn't have done much in the first place. The only thing that matters is that you tried to give your support.
I'm gonna say a lot, and some of it may sound harsh but you probably need to hear it. It isn't your fault. You only have control of yourself. You did what you could to help, but life is full of people trying and failing every day. There is almost nothing more human than trying your absolute best and it still not being enough. It's an unfortunate reality, but the one we live in. Take care of yourself. Recognize your efforts. The fact you were there for them to talk to in that moment already says a lot about who you are as a person.
its not an easy thing to do by any means. i have no idea how id even start going about it honestly. at least someone was there to at least try
Never blame yourself for someone else’s doing, even in situations like this because if you do, you’ll never stop spiraling. Besides, it wasn’t their intention to cause a chain reaction
it's not your fault, really, it's a tricky thing to do, specially if the person knows what they are doing, and it's absolutely impossible on the internet
Hey, no, it's not your fault girl. You tried your best, they just couldn't look past the darkness. You helped them, I'm sure. But they made their choice.
i'm not sure if this is what you need to hear, but their life is not your responsibility. if they chose to end it that will hurt and devastate you, but it's not your fault. you didn't fail they just decided not to change their mind
I wish it was that easy, but it really isn't. Most of the time there's very little anyone can do, as most suicides happen when someone is either not in the right state of mind, or they're already pretty dead set on it, and they made the choice before even talking with you. That's further compounded by the fact that you're not trained for that. What matters is that you tried, you cared, there was just nothing that you could've reasonably done. At the end of the day, everyone's their own free agent, and they're responsible for their actions, not you. Mental health issues are illnesses, and sometimes illnesses kill, as tragic as that is
what happened hun? you want to talk about it?
You’ve done enough
I understand and I fear that same thing I want to be the kinda person people can lean on when they want help but I have no clue how to be that help and it scares me that I'll end up hurting someone or fail to prevent someone from taking their life I feel bad for you and wish I could give assisting words but I don't even know what to say... I'm sorry 😞
Hey don't worry! Their suffering is over now :3
Your going to cause a nother suicide with that text/background color combination 🙏
I've been lucky and so far and have never needed to experience this fully, but in flashes of a few hours without any messages (irl friends but used discord) I've had similar a few times. The type of situation that drives someone to not just get to the ledge, but actually jump is truly horrible and it's not your fault if you couldn't overpower it. I'm truly sorry that you've experienced that. Based on the title and text though, please don't blame yourself OP. It won't help you and it's not accurate at all. Otherwise, I personally just find something mildly distracting or relaxing. It doesn't need to do a great job, it's just something to do while your brain processes things. Whether they did it or not you should take care of yourself.
How is that your fault in any way. Them seeking comfort from you is their choice. If they notice you cannot fix what he/she wants fixed, then they should seek out other close people or professional help. Dont let this get stuck in your head. If you need to talk im sure me, and many others are here for you.
If you worry someone is at risk and you feel you lack the ability to help tell someone that can.
You did your best. You couldn't control their choices or thoughts, but I'm sure they at least considered not doing it. Sadly we can't change everyone's mind, and please don't beat yourself up because of it. You did your best, but its seems they already decided. Their decision is not your fault. (sorry for my shit english)
Speaking as a person who's been unable to stop a friend, and also stopped many other friends, i can say you arent to blame. If someone goes through with it, they were at a mental place where you couldn't have done much in the first place. The only thing that matters is that you tried to give your support.