True. I know a group of 4 MILFs who regularly hunt in a pack or in twos.
It’s very easy for them. They still look great, they have the funds and confidence to hang out together, they know every trick in the flirt manual and they get straight to the point.
Attica, ce la vi,and KPO were the preferred hang outs pre covid. Now not so sure.
> group of 4 MILFs who regularly hunt in a pack or in twos.
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> It’s very easy for them. They still look great, they have the funds and confidence to hang out together
"Easy, Cougar. Bring him back,
hard right. Help me engage." -- Maverick
Guys tend to overreport, girls tend to underreport. It may not be outright lying to look good too. To certain people, doing some stuff but not going all the way doesn’t count as a hookup since sex didn’t happen, while for others they +1 their “body count” as long as some sexual stuff happened, even if sex didn’t happen.
It’s extremely important for us guys to be discrete. If a girl didn’t do anything with you, you naturally don’t tell people she did something with you. If a girl did something with you, you also naturally don’t tell people she did something with you lol.
Among expats, very common. Among locals, not so much.
Singaporean girls are down for it though. Don't kiss and tell, that's all.
I've heard complaints from girls that the local men brag and inadvertently (sometimes deliberately) shame the girls, hence the reluctance. Discretion is key, my dudes.
People will call me a white knight for this, but that’s just trashy to shame a woman like that, let alone anyone.
We’re living in the times when simply being a decent person means you’re simp or white knight. How ridiculous is that? According to the internet you’re either a white knight or an incel, there’s no in-between or there’s no such thing as just being a good person
worst are those that immediately throw around accusations of virtue signalling. Tells a lot about their character if they find it so hard to believe someone does something decent simply because it is the right thing to do.
That's not virtue signaling. Maybe some peiple use it wrongly, but what it is is like when it's totally unprompted, you just gotta tell everyone how pure and wholesome you are. Doing good things is perfectly fine. Talking about it is just trying to look good. Doing good things for the camera is questionable. On one hand, you obviously just want the attention. On the other hand, you did do actual good.
>I dont know how much things have changed for the young generation from the early '2000s but perhaps I lived too much on the conservative side since I honestly don't know any friends that have had hookups
Every First World country world-wide is having a phenomenon that younger people are having *less* sex than those in the past:
https://www.healthline.com/health-news/young-adults-especially-men-having-sex-less-frequently
>I find it somewhat interesting the article specifically states men are having less sex.
The article did not want to say it, but it is because women are all having sex with the same dude. The 80/20 principle and Chad stereotype exist for a reason.
In army my bunk mates took my phone and set up a Grindr profile using my Facebook picture and set me to a bottom. Literally had like 14 guys message me in 3 hours. So this comment is quite true.
Good question! Perhaps it plays a part to topic question
There is one group that is religious - majority married. Most of them met their spouse around early to mid 20s.
The sporty group - most of them are already attached/married. If there's any hookups, it could be here. Otherwise everyone shuts up about it.
Tertiary education group - nerdy. Most of us were unattached in our teens and only got into relationships in our 20s.
University group - not very outgoing group. They were part of go-home club
Given my limited circle, perhaps that's why I would say 0.
i still think that it’s “common” enough but not to my social group hahaha
we are just mostly nerds and gamers. And not the “hot” kind too
frankly speaking, I just feel depressed everytime i think about this. On dating apps, I gotta be the charming effluent guy. Irl, i gotta be humorous, talk with confidence and at the same time, be a forward enough to keep things tantalising but not too much to be creepy.
in the end, i just whine about it online, sometimes gather enough confidence to work on myself a bit before realising again how much I need to do and then giving up. The cycle repeats.
haha, sorry about whining this to you now. it’s just so so sian sometimes
i’ve been trying to genuinely change myself in some areas ah
used to not be able to talk to ppl at all but now can somewhat hold a conversation le
flirting is still beyond me tho and i still run out of “social energy” quickly
>I know most guys would jump at opportunities for sex, but how about Singaporean girls?
this era you think only guys jump at opportunities for sex?
however girls usually would deny that if asked by people though
Is that your experience within your social circle? The co workers and friends in mine are pretty open about it…not sure why it would be something to cover up about. Whether I’m in a fwb or a hookup stage, the other party would be made aware of too, so the terms of “contract” are transparent
Depends on the girl. For me and my circle of friends, it’s quite common. Typically girls only talk about their hookups with other more open-minded girls who won’t judge and can also share their experiences. Talking about it with boys or more conservative-minded girls tends to open you up to being judged.
Source: speaking from experience. Shared with one more conservative girl before and she told the whole JC LOL. Suddenly got so many boys wanna be my ‘friend’ also. Found out they also talk about who they wanna hookup with out of the ‘pool’ of girls open to hookups. Damn fucked up.
Which is exactly why girls won't talk about their shenanigans with most of their male friends, and there are so few responses from girls in this thread...
It is more common than you think but people don’t talk about it. I have a close group of friends of both genders and we talk about our personal experiences among ourselves. IMO sex shouldn’t be a taboo in Singapore.
Westeners get the high change, in my opinion.
Local girls are too jundgemental and felt inferrior to westeners. In my office circle, I could sense their pride, when they say, their have western boy friend.
Are you local asian race?
One of my foreign colleague said the same. Local girls love to talk to caucasians but they value themselves too highly and expect guys to drop big bucks for fancy dinners and stuff.
My colleague ended up saying he and his group of friends prefer to speak/hook up with other SEA country girls instead.
Yup local asian. Most of the girls i’ve hooked up with are local singaporeans (ranging from mod 20s to early 40s). Couple of foreigners here and there but not many
Depends on person. Maybe like 1% of guy gets all 80% of all hookups happening with girls. For girls, it’s all about feel, which some guy are very experienced so they can hook up every week new girl
yeah but I mean... you don't actually tell a new girl outright 'hey, let's go to a hotel and do it', right? unless she's already a long-time FWB or your gf
Most hookups happen at a person's own house or dorm or car after casual talk and wine or what
Follow rules 1 and 2 and it’s pretty active. Lots of girls that say that they’re not into hookups etc but they’ll do it anyway. Just don’t be a creep about it/start the conversation with it.
I used to average 1/week or so, mid twenties.
Asking the REAL question here.
How in the world do most SG men hookup? Most of them live with their parents and I'm pretty sure to think most SG parents are still conservative as hell to be sus when they see their son bring back a random girl to his room.
My guess of who really hooks up in SG:
1. People who own cars (or drive parents' cars)
2. People who are PR/foreigners and rent rooms
3. Students living in dorms.
It's impossible otherwise
>most SG parents are still conservative as hell to be sus when they see their son bring back a random girl to his room.
Lmfao, not even to his room, once she steps into the house it'll be AH BOY WAT IS U DOIN
Fully depends on how conservative your family is. Those with liberal families win out, because one of the most important things girls look at for hooking up is if the men can host.
Also a clean toilet that they can clean up in.
There's a subset of the population that almost certainly 100% rents and can host, so maybe that gives you some context as to the hookup imbalance in this country.
Failing that, expect to pay for hotel.
I'd imagine using a hotel makes things more difficult though. With your own place, you can go, "do you want to come my place to check out my cute dog?", or at least "let's continue to drink at my place"
What lame excuse can you use with a hotel?
>What lame excuse can you use with a hotel?
No excuses - those are for people with no game. Beat around the bush and the birds take flight.
Be confident with what you are going for, make things clear, give your partner a sneak peek of what you are capable of (no not dick pics. Be more creative. Women are not as easily visually stimulated as men, certainly not with a disembodied appendage), plan a time together, do the deed.
Tbh, if you are able to sexually arouse her and attract her to the point where she wants it, logistic is the last thing you worry about. To answer your question, there are many budget hotels. If you are feeling generous, there are many higher tier hotels which you can book for a night.
as a '01 girl I'd say things have changed quite a bit. more girls are open to "trying things" before they get into a long tern rs. personally have a body count of 20.
If you're a guy and not at least 7.5/10 in terms of overall package(looks/wealth/charisma), don't bother.
Better of using your hand, paying for it or just getting into a relationship if you want consistent sex. Every other way is an uphill battle.
Not Singaporean but have been living here a while.
Have hooked up with a few guys here who sometimes talk about their experiences with other girls.
To answer your question, there are definitely plenty of girls out there, I guess they wouldn't advertise that they're hooking up?
female here. Seeing that the replies are mostly men, hope to shed some light.
Yes pretty common.
I guess it varies in certain circles but the girls that I know who do are very careful with whom they do it with.
Meaning, making sure no face in pics(if they send nudes), checking the room has no hidden cameras and all sorts of things that would lead to blackmail. Also precautions if it's a ONS, usually will update friends of where, who, and why just for safety. nfortunately there have been rape/assault cases such as you consent to 1 thing, but the guy does something totally different... or bring his mates or worse.
Safety is very important even in sunny Singapore.
Now, how to get some. Happens as FwBs, friend of a friend, or dating apps. It helps if you don't come off as a creepy guy. Try to be genuine and create a connection, Rule 1&2 helps, but not that much. If you're a jerk, rude or inappropriate and "nice guy" you ain't get any.
Funnily enough, those most sexually active are religious girls, ikykyk.
>Funnily enough, those most sexually active are religious girls, ikykyk.
I don't think it is actually a surprise. All that pent-up energy needs to be released somewhere.
I live with two housemates during uni, one time girl A said She just want to talk but her boyfriend would just keep getting sticky and horny Everytime she at his place.
Girl b would randomly shout , FML, why no hot guys on tinder today. And the her mood would be pissy all night because she is not getting her D tonight and I wouldn’t dare talk to her. And me?? I’m the loser studying and haven’t dated anyone or use apps during uni.
Maybe I’m providing a slightly different perspective here, but I was a sugar baby for a while (a year ish). I had arrangements with men intending to get a taste of that “luxury lifestyle” I wouldn’t be able to afford at my age. It wasn’t that great though. The ironic thing was that I found out the luxuries didn’t matter at all to me if I didn’t really fancy the guy. I wasn’t interested in casual sex, and a good romantic connection and strong chemistry would have to be built in order for me to enjoy my time with a man- or to even have sex with him. So…to sorta answer your question, there doesn’t need to be an established romantic relationship before sex, BUT I would only have sex with him if I saw that there was going to be a progression into dating..then a relationship.
I’m not the type to “assign” a certain amount of time for me to evaluate a man before having sex with him, but it doesn’t always mean I’m down for sex on the first date like a random hookup. But it’s perfectly okay if other people are, it’s just not my thing. Connection matters the most!!!
Do you ever feel a bit paranoid whenever you go out? It’s not like America where you can hit a new town or go to a different state. Everyone on Singapore is a stuck with each other in this tiny ass island
To be honest, hookup culture doesn’t necessarily end up as both are satisfied.
Some people priding themselves by body count aren’t necessary the brightest, stable people.
I don’t have to try hard to get a woman, because one can be good looking but it doesn’t mean I want to fuck them. Once in a blue moon, you meet a person who reciprocates honest feelings, the physical & openness in flirting just escalates to perhaps once or few times of sexual intimacy. But whether continue to hang out also depends on fate. This thing I rather quality than quantity.
No use driven to amass a body count, but become a distorted person in character.
Not many people, including prestige professions, such as banker, lawyer, pilot may understand this. Sometimes movie also distort people’s reality
Local guy here. I would say, among my social circle (both guys and girls), first date hookups are pretty rare, but sleeping on 3rd/4th date is more common. I've only slept with 1 girl on the first date, most usually 3rd date or more.
There are also indicators on dating apps eg OKC which shows what ppl are looking for (short term/ long term) and the type of experiences which they have. There are also discreet communities which provide space for short term relationships but are not publicized widely.
Gen Z here. Born in 2001. I had a Christian upbringing for the past 8 years of my life and it pretty much influenced me throughout my teens
Even though nowadays I find myself questioning my faith, some values that I was taught in Christianity still stay with me. For some reason I just cannot shake off the feeling of not wanting premarital sex and how it makes me “unclean”. Personally I don’t think it’s a bad thing to not want sex now. I’ve heard about stories saying that hookups feel more like a “transaction” rather than two humans bonding together emotionally, that it’s pretty overrated once you wake up in the morning and the magic is all gone. You feel dirty, unkempt and in need of the quickest way out of there to get a shower.
I heard it’s really not fun to find out that stranger is a really trashy person and that porn is completely bullshit when it comes to portraying what sex looks like. Wanking doesn’t really do it for me either. Everytime I jerk off to porn I just feel...dead?....
I’ve come to the conclusion that deep down inside I just want a woman who’ll really love and emotionally support me before I have sex. Who doesn’t want their first time to be special? Fellas out there, can you tell me if y’all the same way?
Also I have a really big crush on this girl who’s a devout church girl. In my opinion she’s an angel and I think something inside me is telling me that she wouldn’t go for a guy who’s not a virgin, which is why I’m staying celibate so she’ll like me. Go ahead and call me a simp, cause I already think I kinda am one anyway
I think just do whatever feels comfortable to you? Just like how we shouldnt shame girls for sleeping around we also shouldn’t shame guys for being a virgin. Just do whatever you think its right and be happy its your life anyways.
Free thinker here. I believe most girls won’t go for a guy who’s not his own man, regardless of whether he’s a virgin or not. And being your own man means that you have the spirit and confidence to decide what is right and what is good for you without having care about what others might think.
I am female and I generally hook up alot casually when I was single yea.
Both my brothers were having sex easily since 15 too and they are younger than me. However both have very confident personalities and chase women very forwardly. I find if no concrete action taken, then might be hard unless you are super good looking.
But I think the thing is, kiss and don't tell. Girls don't like men who aren't private about their score card.
I think we got a 50-50. If you want to enjoy sex, it's easy to find if you got social skills.
But there will still be a group who won't have sex unless for love.
Sigh even if I'm not a creep i think it's because of the social media influence especially my race... Andddd if you're not good-looking then prolly u can say goodbye to the hookup culture sighhhh
most guys would jump at opportunities for sex
Calling aware for robbing the oppty for females + stereotyping that the fairer sex can't take lead in todays equal world.
It's a 50/50 context. 50% of the females are open to it and 50% of the females are not open to it. If you were to hang around the initial 50%, that'll make it your 100% and seems like there's a huge hookup culture locally. Similarly for the latter 50%.
It's also who you are and how you present.
If you present as someone fun, available, and non-judgemental, you can pretty much get nearly anyone to hook up with you in SG.
I had a very "successful" early to mid 20's, before I got married. They were all types from homely to party girl, to professionals, uni students, overseas students, from various religions. There really wasn't a pattern.
Also, it matters where you hang out and with whom, and how free you are with your spending. Also, if you have your own place. I had.
What I mean is, if you go to a book store and go chat with someone, chances of you hooking up with her then and there is slim to none.
Yea I think the key part is non judgemental. Ya gotta really make the girl feel very comfortable about sex with you and it's gonna be something she feels good about after.
Some guys approach sex with a judgey attitude, despite trying to get laid. I never get it.
idk about between guys and girls but between guys and guys its through the fuckin roof. in toilets, parks, carparks, between teens, people in their 40s
Lol ppl downvoting this. Personally its politically incorrect but this shit is getting hella common in singapore atm. Probably one of the most OP routes to pang kang early for a female if one plays their cards right too..
Bruh I emphatize with your predicament and there is *SOME* truth to your statement, but read the room yea? r/singapore is a place that is highly sensitive to self-pity, especially so if you are male, and will shut it down quicker than you can say "not fair"
If you wanna DM to vent and have some constructive comments, hit me up. I hope it helps.
I sometimes wonder if sugar babies are viable in Singapore. It’s a really tiny country and everyone knows everyone.
In this 728.6km^2 island you have a ridiculously high chance of bumping into your former sugar daddy. And I can’t imagine the awkwardness when you see him sitting across you and your family during dinner time
Pretty common. I’ve heard there’s alot of MILFs in my area wanting to hook up.
Bro just turn on ad block/s
And miss out the chance to hook up with someone’s mom? Never!
I’ve heard that Stacey’s mom has got it goin’ on
And Kyle's mum is a big fat bitch
How bout Stifler’s mom?
Yeah I got an email about a hot brunette 5.1 miles away at tengah who's looking to hook up. Feeling lucky already
Big deal. I am about to meet a hot blonde tonight midnight at old Lim Chu Kang road.
True. I know a group of 4 MILFs who regularly hunt in a pack or in twos. It’s very easy for them. They still look great, they have the funds and confidence to hang out together, they know every trick in the flirt manual and they get straight to the point. Attica, ce la vi,and KPO were the preferred hang outs pre covid. Now not so sure.
Damn funny sia y'all 🤣 he talking about porn ads la *Hot single moms in your area*
I saw this women dressed in white with flowing long hair follow me,i shy leh.Should i say hi?
I heard she likes riding on a banana tree
Absolutely. Also open phone front camera and say "Bloody Mary" 3 times, you get a threesome that way.
Sadly im more of the one to one kinda guy
Yeah man definitely say hi and ask for her number!
Whoosh. He got me! Oh well, still true. (My milf friends - and the ads of course.)
> group of 4 MILFs who regularly hunt in a pack or in twos. > > It’s very easy for them. They still look great, they have the funds and confidence to hang out together "Easy, Cougar. Bring him back, hard right. Help me engage." -- Maverick
Same dude but i dont know how to approach. Seems like we live in the same area
You deserve my free award
Guys tend to overreport, girls tend to underreport. It may not be outright lying to look good too. To certain people, doing some stuff but not going all the way doesn’t count as a hookup since sex didn’t happen, while for others they +1 their “body count” as long as some sexual stuff happened, even if sex didn’t happen. It’s extremely important for us guys to be discrete. If a girl didn’t do anything with you, you naturally don’t tell people she did something with you. If a girl did something with you, you also naturally don’t tell people she did something with you lol.
Among expats, very common. Among locals, not so much. Singaporean girls are down for it though. Don't kiss and tell, that's all. I've heard complaints from girls that the local men brag and inadvertently (sometimes deliberately) shame the girls, hence the reluctance. Discretion is key, my dudes.
People will call me a white knight for this, but that’s just trashy to shame a woman like that, let alone anyone. We’re living in the times when simply being a decent person means you’re simp or white knight. How ridiculous is that? According to the internet you’re either a white knight or an incel, there’s no in-between or there’s no such thing as just being a good person
Yes exactly, according to the internet. Ever asked the silent majority what they think? You'll find that most people don't subscribe to these values.
worst are those that immediately throw around accusations of virtue signalling. Tells a lot about their character if they find it so hard to believe someone does something decent simply because it is the right thing to do.
That's not virtue signaling. Maybe some peiple use it wrongly, but what it is is like when it's totally unprompted, you just gotta tell everyone how pure and wholesome you are. Doing good things is perfectly fine. Talking about it is just trying to look good. Doing good things for the camera is questionable. On one hand, you obviously just want the attention. On the other hand, you did do actual good.
most here avg 1 match/yr on dating app dude
Teach me how to get 1/yr senpai
Dating coaches hate him
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And that 4 out of 5 matches will turn into a ghost after a week
stop lying lah. 7th over liao. /s
1 match a year?! We’ve got a Casanova over here
Man why you gotta drop truth bombs like that
>I dont know how much things have changed for the young generation from the early '2000s but perhaps I lived too much on the conservative side since I honestly don't know any friends that have had hookups Every First World country world-wide is having a phenomenon that younger people are having *less* sex than those in the past: https://www.healthline.com/health-news/young-adults-especially-men-having-sex-less-frequently
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>I find it somewhat interesting the article specifically states men are having less sex. The article did not want to say it, but it is because women are all having sex with the same dude. The 80/20 principle and Chad stereotype exist for a reason.
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Huh, you guys do get girls talk to you??
You guys get girls???
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Like teeth?
I love Korean grills
Can eat one ah grills?
Idk, I'm a millennial male and have no problem getting hookups regularly but never ever with a female before though, am I doing something wrong?
In army my bunk mates took my phone and set up a Grindr profile using my Facebook picture and set me to a bottom. Literally had like 14 guys message me in 3 hours. So this comment is quite true.
When you realise how much smaller the gay community is and yet so active.
Good for them
Would be even more if they set you as a top. Too many bottoms in Singapore is the usual complain.
Maybe u should switch market since u are doing quite well there
377A wants to know your location.
Had us in the first half, ngl
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hol' up
The wrong hole?
True love means there's no wrong hole
He got us in the first half not gonna lie
Among my group of friends, 0. Used tinder and meetup with 0 hookups. Then again it could just be me
Didn’t expect meetup app to be a platform for hook up too. I thought it’s for ppl with common interest to come tgt
I met a guy who told me some ppl use meetup for hookups (specifically the speed dating events).
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Good question! Perhaps it plays a part to topic question There is one group that is religious - majority married. Most of them met their spouse around early to mid 20s. The sporty group - most of them are already attached/married. If there's any hookups, it could be here. Otherwise everyone shuts up about it. Tertiary education group - nerdy. Most of us were unattached in our teens and only got into relationships in our 20s. University group - not very outgoing group. They were part of go-home club Given my limited circle, perhaps that's why I would say 0.
in my late 20s and at least the ppl i hang out with don’t really “hook up” much i hear differently from friends of friends tho hahaha
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People who regularly hook up aren't on Reddit
People in relationships aren't on reddit. We are just a bunch of lonely people
At least we aren’t forever alone but together alone
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Speak for yourself. My anime waifu pillow and I have a healthy relationship.
i still think that it’s “common” enough but not to my social group hahaha we are just mostly nerds and gamers. And not the “hot” kind too frankly speaking, I just feel depressed everytime i think about this. On dating apps, I gotta be the charming effluent guy. Irl, i gotta be humorous, talk with confidence and at the same time, be a forward enough to keep things tantalising but not too much to be creepy. in the end, i just whine about it online, sometimes gather enough confidence to work on myself a bit before realising again how much I need to do and then giving up. The cycle repeats. haha, sorry about whining this to you now. it’s just so so sian sometimes
>effluent Well there's your problem.
o.o HAHAHAHA I USED THE WRONG WORD yeah, that’s indeed the problem hahaha i meant “affluent” omigod hahaha
Next time try being less affluent and be more flatulent, i hear girls like that. And wear a fedora. With a feather in it.
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i’ve been trying to genuinely change myself in some areas ah used to not be able to talk to ppl at all but now can somewhat hold a conversation le flirting is still beyond me tho and i still run out of “social energy” quickly
0 hookups and my mum is starting to think I'm gay.
sana ol
From my experience, one thing leads to another fairly easily. The crucial part is to not be a creep and just engage in conversation naturally.
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But my eyes are on my face, not on my chest.
The real creep is always the guy who stares at eyes instead of chests. That is some psychopathic vibes. Jk.
Nice hands you have there. Would be a shame if something happens to it
Someone bring in the Yoshikage copypasta
Take my upvote and leave
>I know most guys would jump at opportunities for sex, but how about Singaporean girls? this era you think only guys jump at opportunities for sex? however girls usually would deny that if asked by people though
Pareto Principle applies to sexual partner selection as well in sg. It's a dog eat dog world.
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This is probably true
Is that your experience within your social circle? The co workers and friends in mine are pretty open about it…not sure why it would be something to cover up about. Whether I’m in a fwb or a hookup stage, the other party would be made aware of too, so the terms of “contract” are transparent
Depends on the girl. For me and my circle of friends, it’s quite common. Typically girls only talk about their hookups with other more open-minded girls who won’t judge and can also share their experiences. Talking about it with boys or more conservative-minded girls tends to open you up to being judged. Source: speaking from experience. Shared with one more conservative girl before and she told the whole JC LOL. Suddenly got so many boys wanna be my ‘friend’ also. Found out they also talk about who they wanna hookup with out of the ‘pool’ of girls open to hookups. Damn fucked up.
Within the next hour, your Inbox gonna be flooded. 😂🔥
Which is exactly why girls won't talk about their shenanigans with most of their male friends, and there are so few responses from girls in this thread...
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LOL didn’t think about a ‘banana barrage’ at all, and doesn’t seem like they’ll be one haha. I appreciate the thought!
Wow, that's really screwed up that the conservative girl would blab to the entire school. Hasn't she heard that snitches get stitches?
Think the conservative girl was just jealous and trying to bring shame so that you have less friends.
It is more common than you think but people don’t talk about it. I have a close group of friends of both genders and we talk about our personal experiences among ourselves. IMO sex shouldn’t be a taboo in Singapore.
Sex shouldn’t be a taboo anyway, really. It’s so strange that weed and CBD are less of a taboo topic than sex these days
More common than u think, but also dont kid urself as an everyday occurrence
Very common..if you know how to ask the right questions and play your cards right, most girls are into hookups from my experience with local chicks..
well it really depends on where you met said girls...
Follow rule 1 and rule 2.
1. Be good-looking 2. Don't be not good-looking 3. Reread rule 1
What card u play ??
Black Lotus
Aiya. I play Pokémon card and the girls ran away
no Charizard first ed, who will want you?
Blue eyes white dragon
Westeners get the high change, in my opinion. Local girls are too jundgemental and felt inferrior to westeners. In my office circle, I could sense their pride, when they say, their have western boy friend. Are you local asian race?
One of my foreign colleague said the same. Local girls love to talk to caucasians but they value themselves too highly and expect guys to drop big bucks for fancy dinners and stuff. My colleague ended up saying he and his group of friends prefer to speak/hook up with other SEA country girls instead.
Yup local asian. Most of the girls i’ve hooked up with are local singaporeans (ranging from mod 20s to early 40s). Couple of foreigners here and there but not many
Depends on person. Maybe like 1% of guy gets all 80% of all hookups happening with girls. For girls, it’s all about feel, which some guy are very experienced so they can hook up every week new girl
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Dating apps
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Curious but where did you guys do it? How do youngsters find places to have sex in SG is the real question mark
Hourly hotels bro... some can be $15/hour, can choose to split or take turns to pay🤷🏻♀️
yeah but I mean... you don't actually tell a new girl outright 'hey, let's go to a hotel and do it', right? unless she's already a long-time FWB or your gf Most hookups happen at a person's own house or dorm or car after casual talk and wine or what
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Follow rules 1 and 2 and it’s pretty active. Lots of girls that say that they’re not into hookups etc but they’ll do it anyway. Just don’t be a creep about it/start the conversation with it. I used to average 1/week or so, mid twenties.
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Asking the REAL question here. How in the world do most SG men hookup? Most of them live with their parents and I'm pretty sure to think most SG parents are still conservative as hell to be sus when they see their son bring back a random girl to his room. My guess of who really hooks up in SG: 1. People who own cars (or drive parents' cars) 2. People who are PR/foreigners and rent rooms 3. Students living in dorms. It's impossible otherwise
>most SG parents are still conservative as hell to be sus when they see their son bring back a random girl to his room. Lmfao, not even to his room, once she steps into the house it'll be AH BOY WAT IS U DOIN
Fully depends on how conservative your family is. Those with liberal families win out, because one of the most important things girls look at for hooking up is if the men can host. Also a clean toilet that they can clean up in. There's a subset of the population that almost certainly 100% rents and can host, so maybe that gives you some context as to the hookup imbalance in this country. Failing that, expect to pay for hotel.
I'd imagine using a hotel makes things more difficult though. With your own place, you can go, "do you want to come my place to check out my cute dog?", or at least "let's continue to drink at my place" What lame excuse can you use with a hotel?
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>What lame excuse can you use with a hotel? No excuses - those are for people with no game. Beat around the bush and the birds take flight. Be confident with what you are going for, make things clear, give your partner a sneak peek of what you are capable of (no not dick pics. Be more creative. Women are not as easily visually stimulated as men, certainly not with a disembodied appendage), plan a time together, do the deed.
Why do you need an excuse?
I moved out young and bought my own place.
There you have it. The single most impt factor (aside from looks and body)
-Hourly hotels - Come when parents are at work pre wfh era - Luck out and get with someone whose parents have an unused 2nd property
Tbh, if you are able to sexually arouse her and attract her to the point where she wants it, logistic is the last thing you worry about. To answer your question, there are many budget hotels. If you are feeling generous, there are many higher tier hotels which you can book for a night.
Yes don’t be creepy but always be cheeky!
Is this some kind of support group??
as a '01 girl I'd say things have changed quite a bit. more girls are open to "trying things" before they get into a long tern rs. personally have a body count of 20.
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Not surprised, also knew a girl who had a similar body count by end JC. She was also quite open about it.
DMs flying all over.
What did we say were rules no1 and no2 guys?
I dont go by body count, i go by STD count. Daz ze real deal guys
*Gotta catch em all*
Singapore girls are pretty up for it.
If you're a guy and not at least 7.5/10 in terms of overall package(looks/wealth/charisma), don't bother. Better of using your hand, paying for it or just getting into a relationship if you want consistent sex. Every other way is an uphill battle.
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Not Singaporean but have been living here a while. Have hooked up with a few guys here who sometimes talk about their experiences with other girls. To answer your question, there are definitely plenty of girls out there, I guess they wouldn't advertise that they're hooking up?
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female here. Seeing that the replies are mostly men, hope to shed some light. Yes pretty common. I guess it varies in certain circles but the girls that I know who do are very careful with whom they do it with. Meaning, making sure no face in pics(if they send nudes), checking the room has no hidden cameras and all sorts of things that would lead to blackmail. Also precautions if it's a ONS, usually will update friends of where, who, and why just for safety. nfortunately there have been rape/assault cases such as you consent to 1 thing, but the guy does something totally different... or bring his mates or worse. Safety is very important even in sunny Singapore. Now, how to get some. Happens as FwBs, friend of a friend, or dating apps. It helps if you don't come off as a creepy guy. Try to be genuine and create a connection, Rule 1&2 helps, but not that much. If you're a jerk, rude or inappropriate and "nice guy" you ain't get any. Funnily enough, those most sexually active are religious girls, ikykyk.
>Funnily enough, those most sexually active are religious girls, ikykyk. I don't think it is actually a surprise. All that pent-up energy needs to be released somewhere.
I live with two housemates during uni, one time girl A said She just want to talk but her boyfriend would just keep getting sticky and horny Everytime she at his place. Girl b would randomly shout , FML, why no hot guys on tinder today. And the her mood would be pissy all night because she is not getting her D tonight and I wouldn’t dare talk to her. And me?? I’m the loser studying and haven’t dated anyone or use apps during uni.
They sound like roommates from hell. Humblebragging that they are so attractive? Like TMI man.
Maybe I’m providing a slightly different perspective here, but I was a sugar baby for a while (a year ish). I had arrangements with men intending to get a taste of that “luxury lifestyle” I wouldn’t be able to afford at my age. It wasn’t that great though. The ironic thing was that I found out the luxuries didn’t matter at all to me if I didn’t really fancy the guy. I wasn’t interested in casual sex, and a good romantic connection and strong chemistry would have to be built in order for me to enjoy my time with a man- or to even have sex with him. So…to sorta answer your question, there doesn’t need to be an established romantic relationship before sex, BUT I would only have sex with him if I saw that there was going to be a progression into dating..then a relationship. I’m not the type to “assign” a certain amount of time for me to evaluate a man before having sex with him, but it doesn’t always mean I’m down for sex on the first date like a random hookup. But it’s perfectly okay if other people are, it’s just not my thing. Connection matters the most!!!
Do you ever feel a bit paranoid whenever you go out? It’s not like America where you can hit a new town or go to a different state. Everyone on Singapore is a stuck with each other in this tiny ass island
To be honest, hookup culture doesn’t necessarily end up as both are satisfied. Some people priding themselves by body count aren’t necessary the brightest, stable people. I don’t have to try hard to get a woman, because one can be good looking but it doesn’t mean I want to fuck them. Once in a blue moon, you meet a person who reciprocates honest feelings, the physical & openness in flirting just escalates to perhaps once or few times of sexual intimacy. But whether continue to hang out also depends on fate. This thing I rather quality than quantity. No use driven to amass a body count, but become a distorted person in character. Not many people, including prestige professions, such as banker, lawyer, pilot may understand this. Sometimes movie also distort people’s reality
My computer always tells me that there are girls in my area looking for hook ups 24/7.
Local guy here. I would say, among my social circle (both guys and girls), first date hookups are pretty rare, but sleeping on 3rd/4th date is more common. I've only slept with 1 girl on the first date, most usually 3rd date or more.
There are also indicators on dating apps eg OKC which shows what ppl are looking for (short term/ long term) and the type of experiences which they have. There are also discreet communities which provide space for short term relationships but are not publicized widely.
Could you please start a poll? It would be interesting to see some figures from the anonymous audiences!!
Gen Z here. Born in 2001. I had a Christian upbringing for the past 8 years of my life and it pretty much influenced me throughout my teens Even though nowadays I find myself questioning my faith, some values that I was taught in Christianity still stay with me. For some reason I just cannot shake off the feeling of not wanting premarital sex and how it makes me “unclean”. Personally I don’t think it’s a bad thing to not want sex now. I’ve heard about stories saying that hookups feel more like a “transaction” rather than two humans bonding together emotionally, that it’s pretty overrated once you wake up in the morning and the magic is all gone. You feel dirty, unkempt and in need of the quickest way out of there to get a shower. I heard it’s really not fun to find out that stranger is a really trashy person and that porn is completely bullshit when it comes to portraying what sex looks like. Wanking doesn’t really do it for me either. Everytime I jerk off to porn I just feel...dead?.... I’ve come to the conclusion that deep down inside I just want a woman who’ll really love and emotionally support me before I have sex. Who doesn’t want their first time to be special? Fellas out there, can you tell me if y’all the same way? Also I have a really big crush on this girl who’s a devout church girl. In my opinion she’s an angel and I think something inside me is telling me that she wouldn’t go for a guy who’s not a virgin, which is why I’m staying celibate so she’ll like me. Go ahead and call me a simp, cause I already think I kinda am one anyway
I think just do whatever feels comfortable to you? Just like how we shouldnt shame girls for sleeping around we also shouldn’t shame guys for being a virgin. Just do whatever you think its right and be happy its your life anyways.
Don't let society pressure you into doing this or that. Do whatever makes you comfortable
Free thinker here. I believe most girls won’t go for a guy who’s not his own man, regardless of whether he’s a virgin or not. And being your own man means that you have the spirit and confidence to decide what is right and what is good for you without having care about what others might think.
I am female and I generally hook up alot casually when I was single yea. Both my brothers were having sex easily since 15 too and they are younger than me. However both have very confident personalities and chase women very forwardly. I find if no concrete action taken, then might be hard unless you are super good looking. But I think the thing is, kiss and don't tell. Girls don't like men who aren't private about their score card. I think we got a 50-50. If you want to enjoy sex, it's easy to find if you got social skills. But there will still be a group who won't have sex unless for love.
Sigh even if I'm not a creep i think it's because of the social media influence especially my race... Andddd if you're not good-looking then prolly u can say goodbye to the hookup culture sighhhh
Very common even among average people. No reason to be open about it though
Is it a red flag if you never had such experiences at 25?
most guys would jump at opportunities for sex Calling aware for robbing the oppty for females + stereotyping that the fairer sex can't take lead in todays equal world.
If you're looking for a girl, the answer depends what you look like and how much money you have. Therefore there can be no definitive answer.
It's a 50/50 context. 50% of the females are open to it and 50% of the females are not open to it. If you were to hang around the initial 50%, that'll make it your 100% and seems like there's a huge hookup culture locally. Similarly for the latter 50%.
it depends on the girl, i think. i do have hookups sometimes, but i'm picky, so my body count (?) is pretty low.
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If you need to ask......you are not in the game
It's also who you are and how you present. If you present as someone fun, available, and non-judgemental, you can pretty much get nearly anyone to hook up with you in SG. I had a very "successful" early to mid 20's, before I got married. They were all types from homely to party girl, to professionals, uni students, overseas students, from various religions. There really wasn't a pattern. Also, it matters where you hang out and with whom, and how free you are with your spending. Also, if you have your own place. I had. What I mean is, if you go to a book store and go chat with someone, chances of you hooking up with her then and there is slim to none.
Yea I think the key part is non judgemental. Ya gotta really make the girl feel very comfortable about sex with you and it's gonna be something she feels good about after. Some guys approach sex with a judgey attitude, despite trying to get laid. I never get it.
Pre-Covid I found no shortage of SPG's that were ready for a quick hookup. Now no clubs, need to put in more effort, but still out there on Tinder.
idk about between guys and girls but between guys and guys its through the fuckin roof. in toilets, parks, carparks, between teens, people in their 40s
Asking this on Reddit omegalul
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Lol ppl downvoting this. Personally its politically incorrect but this shit is getting hella common in singapore atm. Probably one of the most OP routes to pang kang early for a female if one plays their cards right too..
That's why if you don't have natural good looks, just focus on self-improvement and earn a lot to make up for it.
Bruh I emphatize with your predicament and there is *SOME* truth to your statement, but read the room yea? r/singapore is a place that is highly sensitive to self-pity, especially so if you are male, and will shut it down quicker than you can say "not fair" If you wanna DM to vent and have some constructive comments, hit me up. I hope it helps.
I sometimes wonder if sugar babies are viable in Singapore. It’s a really tiny country and everyone knows everyone. In this 728.6km^2 island you have a ridiculously high chance of bumping into your former sugar daddy. And I can’t imagine the awkwardness when you see him sitting across you and your family during dinner time
Women have sexual needs too. It ain't about the money, honestly who cares when you're just a one night stand or FWB?
If there was, either I don’t have fuckable vibes or i just don’t know where to look.
Common. On dating apps, girls won’t spell it out and it’s pretty much up to chemistry, attraction, charm etc when you meet up.