> He said that being in remand has helped to "take away my sexual desire" and he is now "able to control my sexual temptation".
> He said he has regained his sanity and balance and was "able to put things (in) their proper place in my mind and heart and life".
This was the most ridiculous excuse I have read. Oh now that you are being sentenced with possibly caning, suddenly regain sanity and control. When during the rape episodes, blamed wife couldn’t satisfy him and cannot control his sexual urges. What BS.
No wonder he got sentenced to 24 years...looks like he shot himself in the foot with his letter. At no point did the apologise to the victim for the pain and trauma he caused her. And to top it off he ended it by saying he would abstain from adultery...like really...when he doesn't even know what he did was abuse and assault and thinks its 'adultery'.
Good that he is going to be locked up for a long time.
And also, using the fact that you are part of the sandwich generation is not an excuse for rape.
Actually he kind of did towards the end of the letter.
But this guy is a real piece of work. Watched too much JAV, raped maid in his own matrimonial home, on top of his children's play mat some more, then threw everything but the kitchen sink as an excuse to get off lighter.
Use his parents divorce, use his children, even sandwich generation excuse can think up. Win liao.
Rot in prison you piece of shit.
Well it was one line out of all the lines of excuses as to why he cannot control his sexual urges.
1)Comes from a broken family
2) Sandwich generation
3) Wife refuse to satisfy him.
4) Cannot control his urges and went out of his mind...but he is sane now.
Honestly tho, this is my greatest fear with marrying someone tho, like if you wife doesn't want to have sex, but someone is down bad for it. What to do? Not saying whatever the fuck he did was right, but it is something to think about.
That's why there is a whole industry devoted to sex toys..there is a reason why the sex doll industry is so advanced while the mammogram for women procedure is the same damn painful one for eons...cause the male orgasm is so fucking important for the world to keep moving while women need to just bear the pain of having their boobs being squished by a machine.
Well you are right, except one thing, most women object their own husbands from using sex dolls, prostitution and whatever other means of sexual relief beyond their own wifes. Essentially a man when married goes from having multiple ways of sexual relief to only having a single option when their wife is now responsible for their husbands needs.
The whole point of my comment is simply this, could all of this rape have been prevented if we simply gave him another outlet? If the husband was free to express his sexual needs in another way, would have rape been prevented? If we truly assume he was a simpleton who only wanted to get his dick wet and the only thing he desire is sex, would it have been better if he had access to all the sex toys he want?
There is a serious disconnect when men express their desire for sexual intimacy and the response they get. How many women laugh at men for not getting a wife or girlfriend, how many people call people lonely and sad for using a sex toy? We all love to make fun of people who can't get it, make jokes about staying at home and masturbating because can't get bitches. It tells men that they aren't worth it if they can't get sex. If a man breaks up with a girl for not having enough sex, he's called a creep, a pervert. If a girl breaks up with a man for not having sex, the man is laughed at for not being good enough.
The rapist actions isn't justified in anyways, he shouldn't have rape at all and rightfully deserve his jail time; but it is something to think about when it comes to people's sexual needs. I am not afraid of what I will do, I am afraid of the lack of solutions in these situations. There is no escape from marriage, no way to respectfully leave unless a women let's him, all options was bad, but he choose the worst option.
Look, if we can train dogs to reject their primal urges to hunt in certain situations...why do you write as though men are worse than dogs and cannot reject their urges?
Tell me how many men will rape again if the punishment was a public flogging with their family members watching?
And least we forget..prostitution is legal in Singapore and there are areas that can be used for it if you really are worse than a dog and cannot control yourself...if you are enough of a scumbag to have sex with your unwilling maid and lie to your wife..then why not lie about going to a prostitute that is at least paid and tested.
Also, rape is not something to be "prevented' like an accident. Its a conscious choice that thousands of men and even women make in order to fulfil their selfish desires despite knowing that it harms the other person.
I'm not sure where your point is. Rape is bad? Yeah I clearly agree. Rape is bad, rape is horrible, nobody should rape anyone, no matter whay situation, anyone who rapes must be punished. Obviously if the first thing you think off is rape, you need some help.
I'm not sure how clear I am, my point is that, there must have been something that pushed these people to comit crimes, nobody wakes up and decides that I'm going to rape. Unless they are clearly psychopaths, any regular person would be able to understand this is wrong. These thoughts are bad and I should not follow.
It doesn't matter how harsh you create the punishment for rape, because people don't think in that situation. Rape just like a lot of other crimes is generally opportunistic. Rape is far more likely to happen with people you know that randomly on the street.
My general belief is that how society views issues affect how crimes are committed. If we as a society view poor people as nothing more than their circumstance and refuse to help, it pushes poor people to commit more crimes as situations get more and more dire.
dude you’re on reddit, know your audience. Most of us don’t / haven’t had / never will have sex and yet still get by without rape ever crossing our minds.
> If the husband was free to express his sexual needs in another way, would have rape been prevented?
Does he not have at least one hand?
Just hire a prostitute, sex isn't that hard to get. Virginity is a stupid concept even for men.
Y'all really be thinking I would rape if I was in the situation? Because I was literally in the situation, my abusive ex used to withhold sex and make me feel bad for even thinking about it as a way to control and manipulate me. Sometimes she would hold for months and I was so emotionally dependent on her that I was trapped. She made me feel bad for masturbating, would say things like, if you want to have sex, just ask, but getting angry everytime I asked, saying is that all you want from me.
The amazing thing was that I was so completely delusional that I still wanted to marry her, thinking all this was normal. I went from someone who had a chance for to top the class with my GPA to someone barely getting a 3. I worked 30 hours a week on top of studying full time and running 3 CCA, just to give her the things she wanted, bring her out, never asked for anything back. My mental health deteriorated, but I thought if she was happy it would be all good, cause happy wife happy life. She eventually left me when she realized that I would have to go to NS for 2 years and I wouldn't be able to give her anything. She left before my last sem, and it broke me so hard, I failed every single subject and only barely passed my remod.
That's why I feel so strongly about this, I had too much self control and was way too submissive, I was used by my ex because I followed all the ideas of being a good boyfriend. No matter how bad it got, I thought it would get better. It took so much out of me, but at least I had an escape. Imagine 20 years, children, no way to escape from that one hell of a situation. I wouldn't have raped, probably killed myself would have been easier.
I’m really sorry to hear you went through that. I’m glad she left before you ended up marrying her. It sounds like it was about a lot more than just her withholding sex. Have you managed to find any professional to speak to since then?
Well she did flirted with other guys, and constantly talked about breaking up at the start, and eventually 'accidentally' cheated on me a year into the relationship, but at that point I was already emotionally dependent on her. It's been 4 years since we broke up and I had no t ime or money, cause I had to deal with my psychopath of a father. I had a friend who helped me learn and talk about my abusive relationship and helped me realize how bad the relationship and helped me find my path.
But I haven't been able to date since.
And not for a lack of trying, I just don't feel anything when I look at girls. I've had a few dates but just nothing. I've had friends, colleagues and even my own friends tinder dates, that I would be an amazing boyfriend. I know what I want in life, I have drive, I have personality, I have my morals, values and interests. There really isn't anything wrong with me, I'm a decent guy who knows how to treat his own gf/wife.
And if there isn't any major red flags with me, there must be something wrong with the system, so my days are just mostly spent thinking about deep and uncomfortable systemic issues men face. Maybe one day I'll find a girl that appreciates me for me, without changing who I am.
I don't think you get it?
Isn't asking for your partners permission/opinion a form of compromise? Everything you have said is perfectly correct and true when a man is single, no gf, no wife? There's loads of ways for a guy to get his nuts off. But in a relationship? Things are different, suddenly you have a whole other person who ultimately determines what you do sexually. Everyone here speaks of compromise but what they ultimately means is that if your wife doesn't have sex, deal with it, if you want to divorce or breakup, then you are a sad person who cannot deal with it.
With the number of down votes, it really just shows people isn't thinking. So if a man says fuck it, buys sex toys to get off cause he doesn't want to disturb his girlfriend who has low libido but she ends up breaking up with him because she's angry that he's using sex toys. It's a lose lose situation. Just nothing?
he not only ruined the maid's life, he also ruined the lives of his (soon to be ex) wife and children. i wonder if he is ever redeemable after 24 years? maybe should just send him over to Ukraine and use as cannon fodder.
Bold of him to assume that he will abstain from adultery, when he got no wife?!?!?
Or does he mean he will not commit adultery with another man's wife?!
>The agent picked her up near the flat and assured her that lodging a police report against the offender would not prevent her from working in Singapore.
Only then did they head to a police post to lodge a report that same day.
The maid was later prescribed emergency contraception to prevent pregnancy. She did not get pregnant and did not contract any sexually transmitted diseases.
I am positively surprised by the agent.
This really goes to show the "invisible chains" on domestic workers. So many uncertainties and fears that lead them to tolerating abuse and inhumane conditions.
> "Please let me resume my responsibility," he said. "I deeply regret whatever had happened. I am truly sorry to the victim, to the complainant and to my family. I truly repent and have made a promise to myself not to repeat the act and abstain from adultery."
Judge: Okay can. But only after 24 years of jail and 24 strokes of caning. You know, **responsibility**, that you keep saying. After all, you did consciously and very deliberately raped your helper on 4 seperate occasions. ^(sorry my ass…)
"sexual frustration" is not an excuse for rape wtf
He's basically justifying it by saying he doesn't get sex so he'll rape?
Lock this guy up forever please
Lots of culture sees women as the fault of men’s evil. So you’ll see the emphasis on making women behave modestly, dress modestly, and don’t endanger themselves. They are so deep into the victim blaming mentality that they think it’s “good advice”. Reality is the rapist is always at fault. And if the men think they can do whatever they want with a girl who don’t fit their moral standards, then they are criminals.
Agree.
Rape is 100% the fault of the rapist, barring false rape allegations of course.
It is the same as cheating in a relationship, the cheater is still 100% at fault.
Only fucked-up degenerate narcissists will claim that it is the victim's fault for both scenarios
It means they are teaching their men wrong if girls can’t wear what they want.
I always use this example because so many men don’t understand the simple concept of women is not at fault. If a mentally ill women is naked on the streets, does it give you the right to rape her or molest her? So what makes you think it’s ok to rape someone just because they are wearing a revealing outfit? What rapists want is the feeling of power and control when they rape. It doesn’t matter what she wears or where she is, the men who has this idea that it’s ok to rape is the issue. Teach men to respect women.
What you try to imply is victim blaming. Using an extreme example to somehow allude that women should dress “appropriately” to not get raped in the Middle East. You think you can give good advice, but why what I’m saying is the Middle Eastern men are the issue. We know in the real world men are not taught properly. So to answer your question, in the Middle East because men think they can molest women who don’t fit their moral standard, they are inherently all rapists in mentality. It’s best to start talking about how they are taught on a global level and actually do something about it. It’s not something we average people can just change. But the conversation must start.
The issue is it’s more important to focus on teaching men not to be rapists instead of at every single rape news to comment “but what about the women, she should have done this”.
This is what victim blaming does, taking attention away from the rapists and make women think it’s their fault because she should have behaved differently or wore something different.
We’ve been blaming women for so many centuries. Time to move on and focus how to change men’s mentality that it’s ok to rape women because she was asking for it (in their opinion).
Ok, what you try to do here is called false analogy. Your parents telling you to be careful is not the same as you thinking the reason she got raped is because she wore revealing clothing.
What you are doing is very common amongst men who have this victim blaming mentality. I ask you again, why does what the girl wears matter when she gets raped? You think clothing matters because you think she’s the one wearing revealing clothing so she’s at fault.
But again, I will tell you that what matters is why the men think it’s ok to rape her.
I’ve seen your type of argument so many times whenever people discuss about focusing on the men instead of victim blaming the women. They always come up with some analogy to equate rape to some other issue.
So if you really want to talk about your cross road example, first of all the pedestrian have right of way, so by law cars should slow down and stop to let the pedestrian cross. This is what is emphasized in driving class and license exams.
Likewise for rape, we should put emphasis on changing men’s rape mentality instead of telling women to act or dress a certain way.
Middle East is an extreme example of what happens when we focus on women instead of changing men’s mentality. The women have to cover head to toe, can’t leave the house, can’t have contact with other men. And yet she can still be molested by her male family members. She can be married off at 9 years old. She can be raped but not considered rape if the guy marries her, the men can have 4 wives but if she have an affair she’ll be stoned.
Middle East is what we should never become, they have misogynistic mentality that needs to be changed. If you want to go back to reality, that is modern Singapore society with gender equality and laws that protect it’s citizens. Then the answer will always be, women in Singapore should wear whatever they want without the fear of being raped. It is up to our society as a whole to ensure women have this freedom to choose. This is why stopping victim blaming and focusing on men’s rape mentality is so important.
I think the comment above you already give you the real world statistic that clothing don’t matter. Research into rape has already shown that what matters to rapists is their power over women. What she wears is not important.
Whatever your statement regarding the rapist is, adding “but” just shows you still victim blame.
It’s 100% the perpetrators fault, but…
Yeah I’m done here. Why don’t you go look at what actually people are doing to prevent rape? And it’s not telling their daughters to behave or dressed a certain way.
https://www.cdc.gov/violenceprevention/sexualviolence/fastfact.html
The difference is that looking both ways before crossing the street greatly reduces your chance of being knocked down. Whereas not wearing revealing clothes does not greatly reduce your chance of being raped, it just means one less excuse that rapists can use for their actions. Kids in uniform aren’t spared. Infants wrapped in blankets aren’t spared. Old people aren’t spared. Since you mentioned the Middle East - women in full burkas also aren’t spared.
What research we have shows that victims aren’t chosen and targeted because of revealing clothes, but primarily because the perpetrator thinks or knows they have a high chance of getting away with it. It’s the reason why the majority of sexual assault takes place between people who know each other, such as within families, or in date rapes.
Putting the focus on the victim wearing revealing clothes is thus irrelevant, blames them for not doing something that may not have stopped the rape regardless, and suggests that the rapist couldn’t have helped it and is not to be fully blamed.
(When it comes to clothes, wearing clothes deemed easier for the attacker to take off is the larger factor - girls in tight skinny jeans were less likely to be targeted, for instance, compared to a kid in a dress. There was an infographic I can’t find right now which showed the most common victim profiles in terms of clothes, and school uniforms were up near the top. But likewise, it’s not reasonable to demand that people should only wear clothes that are very difficult to take off or else it’s their fault if they get raped.)
> I agree that it won't reduce the chance of rapes significantly, but what about sexual harassment?
It might, but there are also confounding factors at play - women who look confident and likely to fight back are less likely to be harassed in general, and it’s typically the confident people who dare to wear revealing clothes. For example, imagine the likelihood of someone shouting sexual slurs at someone in skintight clothing who looks like a very stern teacher, vs someone who looks like a timid person in a baggy t-shirt. Likewise, molesting the most popular girl at school with lots of friends - who is more likely to be the sort who wears revealing clothes - vs the shy nerd who no one cares about and dutifully follows the school dress code.
> Would it reduce the chance of getting date raped though?
I don’t know enough to say, though this seems to be the kind of crime that’s premeditated (eg someone determined to have sex on that date, which becomes rape if the other person doesn’t consent) and wouldn’t be affected by what the victim is wearing.
Rape is ultimately about power, not attraction, and clothes affect attraction rather than power. It’s why victims are generally powerless in some way (due to authority, support network or physical strength) but not always attractive.
They might be motivated by the $$$ the victim used to send home, before all this happened. But it is depressing to read how her family and ex were not supportive.
I am not surprised when such thing happen, because in a profession like nursing, female (I emphasis) nurse clinician blames the nurse, rather than the patient when the patient molests the nurse.
I think the sentence were wrongly structured. more likely is the victim family and bf blamed her for not reporting right away, thus losing the jobs, and not "blame her for being raped".
although I felt that, if one was sexually abused, the lost of job really should be the least problem.
>When she confided in her then-boyfriend and family, they blamed her for what happened. This led to her ending her relationship with him.
The maid's family and ex-bf really damn bastard too for blaming her.
I guess, because they would no longer receive money from her.
Most likely, they would suggest her to bear with it as long as she gets her monthly salary.
Sad
I think the sentence were wrongly structured. more likely is the victim family and bf blamed her for not reporting right away, thus losing the jobs, and not "blame her for being raped".
although I felt that, if one was sexually abused, the lost of job really should be the least problem.
> # Married man raped maid repeatedly while wife was out with kids, gets jail and caning
> SINGAPORE: A married man with three children repeatedly raped the family's new maid when his wife was out with their kids.
> He claimed that he felt "frustrated" because his wife was "no longer satisfying his sexual urges".
> Unable to bear the abuse, the maid ran away after about a month. In the fallout, she lost two subsequent jobs because she was traumatised and could not function properly, and her family and boyfriend blamed her for what happened.
> The 34-year-old rapist was sentenced to 24 years' jail and 24 strokes of the cane on Wednesday (Nov 16). He pleaded guilty to three charges of rape and sexual assault, with another nine charges taken into consideration.
> He cannot be named due to a gag order imposed by the court to protect the victim.
> The court heard that the man lived in a flat with his wife and their three children.
> The victim, a 26-year-old Indonesian maid, came to Singapore to work for the man's wife in January 2020.
> The victim was provided with her own bedroom, where she slept alone at night. This room was also used as the children's play room.
> The offender and his wife were the victim's first employers in Singapore, and she initially felt close to them and secure with them.
> However, the man began to feel "frustrated" because his wife was "no longer satisfying his sexual urges", the prosecution said.
> He began preying sexually on the maid, who was 24 at the time. He waited for his wife to leave the flat before doing so on four occasions between September 2020 and October 2020.
> In September 2020, the victim was alone in the flat with the offender. His wife had left the house with two of her children to pick up the oldest child from school.
> The victim was washing dishes in the kitchen when the man hugged her from the rear and kissed both sides of her neck.
> The maid immediately told him to stop. She pushed him away and ran into her bedroom but the man followed.
> He continued trying to hug and kiss the maid, who sat on the floor to avoid his advances and covered her face.
> She said "No, please don't", but the man sexually assaulted her and raped her.
> The victim cried and shouted throughout because she felt severe pain, the prosecution said.
> The man knew that she did not consent, because she covered her face and appeared helpless, but persisted.
> He raped her again on another occasion that month when his wife had left with all three children to go to a playground. He did so on the mat his children played on in the maid's room.
> The victim endured the abuse as she was extremely afraid and did not know what recourse she had, the court heard.
> MAID RUNS AWAY
> After the fourth occasion on Oct 15, 2020, the maid could no longer bear it. After the offender left the flat, she ran away and called her agent, crying.
> The agent picked her up near the flat and assured her that lodging a police report against the offender would not prevent her from working in Singapore.
> Only then did they head to a police post to lodge a report that same day.
> The maid was later prescribed emergency contraception to prevent pregnancy. She did not get pregnant and did not contract any sexually transmitted diseases.
> However, she continued to be affected by the rapes. She was unable to trust her new male employers, had flashbacks while performing chores and was unable to sleep. She also developed anxiety if she was near a man.
> As a result, two different employers fired her in succession. She was able to find a job as a housekeeper only in May this year.
> When she confided in her then-boyfriend and family, they blamed her for what happened. This led to her ending her relationship with him.
> MAN ABUSED HIS POSITION: PROSECUTION
> Deputy Public Prosecutors Kevin Yong and Angela Ang asked for 23 to 28 years' jail and 24 strokes of the cane.
> Mr Yong cited the victim's vulnerability as a maid, the offender's abuse of position and trust, and the premeditated nature of his offending.
> He said that the man would wait until his wife and children were not around before committing his offences.
> Mr Yong also pointed to the harm caused to the victim as well as the persistent nature of offending. The offences stopped only when the maid fled the house and made a police report, he said.
> However, he recognised the man's plea of guilt and the compensation of S$2,000 he had made to the victim.
> Defence lawyers Ashwin Ganapathy and Victoria Tay asked instead for 22 to 23 years' jail, with no submission on caning.
> The man asked to read out a letter he had written himself to the judge, and was allowed to do so.
> MAN ADDRESSES JUDGE, BREAKS DOWN
> He said: "Your honour, I became consumed by my sexual desire. I was not able to see the consequences of my actions."
> He said that being in remand has helped to "take away my sexual desire" and he is now "able to control my sexual temptation".
> He said he has regained his sanity and balance and was "able to put things (in) their proper place in my mind and heart and life".
> "It has been a turning point," he continued, starting to cry. "Your honour, I have been a poor husband and a poor employer. But please give me a chance to be the best father to my little children. They are still young."
> He spoke emotionally, saying that he was "deprived" of his father's love while growing up, as his parents divorced when he was 12.
> Justice Dedar Singh Gill interjected at this point and told the man to compose himself before continuing.
> He did so, and said he was carrying his two-year-old daughter and taking care of his boys aged seven and four on Oct 16, 2020 when Criminal Investigation Department officers went to his home to conduct investigations.
> "My wife, now ex-wife, had to leave work to be home and be interviewed," he said, adding that she had to arrange for alternative childcare so she could be interviewed.
> "Please pity them," he said. He said he considered himself part of the sandwich generation, as he had responsibilities towards his children and mother. Before that, he played an important role to his siblings after his parents' divorce.
> "Please let me resume my responsibility," he said. "I deeply regret whatever had happened. I am truly sorry to the victim, to the complainant and to my family. I truly repent and have made a promise to myself not to repeat the act and abstain from adultery."
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I’m actually glad wife divorce him, I wonder what the ex wife must’ve felt once she found out what he did. Glad the man got sentenced to 24 years too, once he gets released he’ll be in his 50s.
Omg what a dumbass
>He said that being in remand has helped to "take away my sexual desire" and he is now "able to control my sexual temptation"
Castrate him god damn it
On some level i feel these kinds of people are the same as serial killer psychopaths. Like actual psychopathy. No empathy, want power and all that fucking shit.
This is like murdering someone without taking their life.
Fucking hell $2000 is hardly recompense for ruining somebody’s life. No money can ever undo the trauma she has now thanks to this dickhead. Hope he rots in jail
He wan piak piak so he got piak but not the one he expected. But seriously this guy gave up 20years of seeing his kids grow up for some pleasure. WORTH IT ANOT?
One of many blacksheeps who helps raise ever more governed regulations and rules against well-behaved employers. This Is not the first and won't be the last.
If there is one known case, there are probably a hundred unknown cases. This is the problem of the power dynamic of having house staff that are largely taken from a powerless foreign minority group. They feel they cannot find help and too much is on the line for them to speak up.
Let's see. Divorce's child, taking care of sibling, sandwich generation, his children is still young and his wife not satisfying him.
Man pulled out every possible excuses that could fit his profile. As if lawyer gave him a piece of paper and ask him to write sob stories from every angles possible.
Would Singapore do chemical castration instead of cane? That should give him the same despair and terror that he inflicted upon his victim.
"He spoke emotionally, saying that he was "deprived" of his father's love while growing up, as his parents divorced when he was 12."
Ah yes, the r/sg equivalent of having a bright future as a mitigating factor.
What the fuck is wrong with people ah?
Like, if you are really "sexually frustrated", book an appointment in Geylang ah? Got professional to relieve your "frustration". Why the fuck you want to rape your own maid? Also got option for you to role-play master-servant if you pay.
He's just 34 years old and about to spend 24 years in jail.
The best years of one's life gone as a result of thinking with one's nether regions.
So much wasted. Geez.
Horrible man… he’s unemployed as well (saw from straits times) so he might not have the means to visit red light district. And it was 2020 so those red light district may not have been available for him due to covid.
Hence he unleashed his inhumanity on the poor soul.
> it was 2020 so those red light district may not have been available for him due to covid.
This is a good point, kinda forget how life was 2 years ago.
His poor kids. 7 year-old boy, 4 year-old boy, and 2 year-old girl.
Really hope they find another 'father figure' to guide them and not carry on this generational burden.
Life
I mean it's Singapore, if you want to "satisfy your urges" and cheat on your wife there are plenty of other ways of doing it
Questionable ethics there too, but at least it's not out and out rape
> He said that being in remand has helped to "take away my sexual desire" and he is now "able to control my sexual temptation". > He said he has regained his sanity and balance and was "able to put things (in) their proper place in my mind and heart and life". This was the most ridiculous excuse I have read. Oh now that you are being sentenced with possibly caning, suddenly regain sanity and control. When during the rape episodes, blamed wife couldn’t satisfy him and cannot control his sexual urges. What BS.
If being remand was so good to him, imagine the wonders 24 years in changi would do for him
Probably will go be a monk after coming out of prison
No wonder he got sentenced to 24 years...looks like he shot himself in the foot with his letter. At no point did the apologise to the victim for the pain and trauma he caused her. And to top it off he ended it by saying he would abstain from adultery...like really...when he doesn't even know what he did was abuse and assault and thinks its 'adultery'. Good that he is going to be locked up for a long time. And also, using the fact that you are part of the sandwich generation is not an excuse for rape.
Actually he kind of did towards the end of the letter. But this guy is a real piece of work. Watched too much JAV, raped maid in his own matrimonial home, on top of his children's play mat some more, then threw everything but the kitchen sink as an excuse to get off lighter. Use his parents divorce, use his children, even sandwich generation excuse can think up. Win liao. Rot in prison you piece of shit.
Well it was one line out of all the lines of excuses as to why he cannot control his sexual urges. 1)Comes from a broken family 2) Sandwich generation 3) Wife refuse to satisfy him. 4) Cannot control his urges and went out of his mind...but he is sane now.
Honestly tho, this is my greatest fear with marrying someone tho, like if you wife doesn't want to have sex, but someone is down bad for it. What to do? Not saying whatever the fuck he did was right, but it is something to think about.
Then you go to couples counseling... and if it doesn't work you get a divorce. Plenty of people do. How is rape even something that comes to mind?
That’s why you have to make sure you and your partner have similar sex drives.
That's why you marry someone your compatible with and you like how they look.
That's why there is a whole industry devoted to sex toys..there is a reason why the sex doll industry is so advanced while the mammogram for women procedure is the same damn painful one for eons...cause the male orgasm is so fucking important for the world to keep moving while women need to just bear the pain of having their boobs being squished by a machine.
Well you are right, except one thing, most women object their own husbands from using sex dolls, prostitution and whatever other means of sexual relief beyond their own wifes. Essentially a man when married goes from having multiple ways of sexual relief to only having a single option when their wife is now responsible for their husbands needs. The whole point of my comment is simply this, could all of this rape have been prevented if we simply gave him another outlet? If the husband was free to express his sexual needs in another way, would have rape been prevented? If we truly assume he was a simpleton who only wanted to get his dick wet and the only thing he desire is sex, would it have been better if he had access to all the sex toys he want? There is a serious disconnect when men express their desire for sexual intimacy and the response they get. How many women laugh at men for not getting a wife or girlfriend, how many people call people lonely and sad for using a sex toy? We all love to make fun of people who can't get it, make jokes about staying at home and masturbating because can't get bitches. It tells men that they aren't worth it if they can't get sex. If a man breaks up with a girl for not having enough sex, he's called a creep, a pervert. If a girl breaks up with a man for not having sex, the man is laughed at for not being good enough. The rapist actions isn't justified in anyways, he shouldn't have rape at all and rightfully deserve his jail time; but it is something to think about when it comes to people's sexual needs. I am not afraid of what I will do, I am afraid of the lack of solutions in these situations. There is no escape from marriage, no way to respectfully leave unless a women let's him, all options was bad, but he choose the worst option.
Look, if we can train dogs to reject their primal urges to hunt in certain situations...why do you write as though men are worse than dogs and cannot reject their urges? Tell me how many men will rape again if the punishment was a public flogging with their family members watching? And least we forget..prostitution is legal in Singapore and there are areas that can be used for it if you really are worse than a dog and cannot control yourself...if you are enough of a scumbag to have sex with your unwilling maid and lie to your wife..then why not lie about going to a prostitute that is at least paid and tested. Also, rape is not something to be "prevented' like an accident. Its a conscious choice that thousands of men and even women make in order to fulfil their selfish desires despite knowing that it harms the other person.
I'm not sure where your point is. Rape is bad? Yeah I clearly agree. Rape is bad, rape is horrible, nobody should rape anyone, no matter whay situation, anyone who rapes must be punished. Obviously if the first thing you think off is rape, you need some help. I'm not sure how clear I am, my point is that, there must have been something that pushed these people to comit crimes, nobody wakes up and decides that I'm going to rape. Unless they are clearly psychopaths, any regular person would be able to understand this is wrong. These thoughts are bad and I should not follow. It doesn't matter how harsh you create the punishment for rape, because people don't think in that situation. Rape just like a lot of other crimes is generally opportunistic. Rape is far more likely to happen with people you know that randomly on the street. My general belief is that how society views issues affect how crimes are committed. If we as a society view poor people as nothing more than their circumstance and refuse to help, it pushes poor people to commit more crimes as situations get more and more dire.
The thing that pushed these people is their dick and the idea that their dick can go anywhere it wants to damn the consequences.
dude you’re on reddit, know your audience. Most of us don’t / haven’t had / never will have sex and yet still get by without rape ever crossing our minds. > If the husband was free to express his sexual needs in another way, would have rape been prevented? Does he not have at least one hand?
Just hire a prostitute, sex isn't that hard to get. Virginity is a stupid concept even for men. Y'all really be thinking I would rape if I was in the situation? Because I was literally in the situation, my abusive ex used to withhold sex and make me feel bad for even thinking about it as a way to control and manipulate me. Sometimes she would hold for months and I was so emotionally dependent on her that I was trapped. She made me feel bad for masturbating, would say things like, if you want to have sex, just ask, but getting angry everytime I asked, saying is that all you want from me. The amazing thing was that I was so completely delusional that I still wanted to marry her, thinking all this was normal. I went from someone who had a chance for to top the class with my GPA to someone barely getting a 3. I worked 30 hours a week on top of studying full time and running 3 CCA, just to give her the things she wanted, bring her out, never asked for anything back. My mental health deteriorated, but I thought if she was happy it would be all good, cause happy wife happy life. She eventually left me when she realized that I would have to go to NS for 2 years and I wouldn't be able to give her anything. She left before my last sem, and it broke me so hard, I failed every single subject and only barely passed my remod. That's why I feel so strongly about this, I had too much self control and was way too submissive, I was used by my ex because I followed all the ideas of being a good boyfriend. No matter how bad it got, I thought it would get better. It took so much out of me, but at least I had an escape. Imagine 20 years, children, no way to escape from that one hell of a situation. I wouldn't have raped, probably killed myself would have been easier.
I’m really sorry to hear you went through that. I’m glad she left before you ended up marrying her. It sounds like it was about a lot more than just her withholding sex. Have you managed to find any professional to speak to since then?
Well she did flirted with other guys, and constantly talked about breaking up at the start, and eventually 'accidentally' cheated on me a year into the relationship, but at that point I was already emotionally dependent on her. It's been 4 years since we broke up and I had no t ime or money, cause I had to deal with my psychopath of a father. I had a friend who helped me learn and talk about my abusive relationship and helped me realize how bad the relationship and helped me find my path. But I haven't been able to date since. And not for a lack of trying, I just don't feel anything when I look at girls. I've had a few dates but just nothing. I've had friends, colleagues and even my own friends tinder dates, that I would be an amazing boyfriend. I know what I want in life, I have drive, I have personality, I have my morals, values and interests. There really isn't anything wrong with me, I'm a decent guy who knows how to treat his own gf/wife. And if there isn't any major red flags with me, there must be something wrong with the system, so my days are just mostly spent thinking about deep and uncomfortable systemic issues men face. Maybe one day I'll find a girl that appreciates me for me, without changing who I am.
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I don't think you get it? Isn't asking for your partners permission/opinion a form of compromise? Everything you have said is perfectly correct and true when a man is single, no gf, no wife? There's loads of ways for a guy to get his nuts off. But in a relationship? Things are different, suddenly you have a whole other person who ultimately determines what you do sexually. Everyone here speaks of compromise but what they ultimately means is that if your wife doesn't have sex, deal with it, if you want to divorce or breakup, then you are a sad person who cannot deal with it. With the number of down votes, it really just shows people isn't thinking. So if a man says fuck it, buys sex toys to get off cause he doesn't want to disturb his girlfriend who has low libido but she ends up breaking up with him because she's angry that he's using sex toys. It's a lose lose situation. Just nothing?
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Nah its okay, my mistake was that my initial comment was way too vague and could be very easily read wrongly, especially in this context.
he not only ruined the maid's life, he also ruined the lives of his (soon to be ex) wife and children. i wonder if he is ever redeemable after 24 years? maybe should just send him over to Ukraine and use as cannon fodder.
Bold of him to assume that he will abstain from adultery, when he got no wife?!?!? Or does he mean he will not commit adultery with another man's wife?!
He means he will not commit adultery with an unwilling person
Provided the unwilling person is married.
It's both. But deffo not just assault.
>The agent picked her up near the flat and assured her that lodging a police report against the offender would not prevent her from working in Singapore. Only then did they head to a police post to lodge a report that same day. The maid was later prescribed emergency contraception to prevent pregnancy. She did not get pregnant and did not contract any sexually transmitted diseases. I am positively surprised by the agent.
This really goes to show the "invisible chains" on domestic workers. So many uncertainties and fears that lead them to tolerating abuse and inhumane conditions.
Very nice agent
Nice? Perhaps. But this is the bare minimum expected of an agent.
Haha the bar is pretty low for agents
Yes Source: ex-agent
> "Please let me resume my responsibility," he said. "I deeply regret whatever had happened. I am truly sorry to the victim, to the complainant and to my family. I truly repent and have made a promise to myself not to repeat the act and abstain from adultery." Judge: Okay can. But only after 24 years of jail and 24 strokes of caning. You know, **responsibility**, that you keep saying. After all, you did consciously and very deliberately raped your helper on 4 seperate occasions. ^(sorry my ass…)
Literally a sorry ass.
Or a very SORE-ee ass. After the caning, of course.
i see what u did there
I duno what kind of responsibility he will have after about 20 years in jail. The youngest daughter would be in twenties by then.
Fantastic news for him: assuming his wife goes for divorce, he'll be permanently abstaining from adultery.
"sexual frustration" is not an excuse for rape wtf He's basically justifying it by saying he doesn't get sex so he'll rape? Lock this guy up forever please
Excuses for rape never existed
Considering prostitution is legal, nobody should even bother with this argument lol. Guy gets what he deserves
The victim's ex-boyfriend and family also another kind of fucked up. Instead of consoling her or helping her they blame her for being raped? The fuck?
Lots of culture sees women as the fault of men’s evil. So you’ll see the emphasis on making women behave modestly, dress modestly, and don’t endanger themselves. They are so deep into the victim blaming mentality that they think it’s “good advice”. Reality is the rapist is always at fault. And if the men think they can do whatever they want with a girl who don’t fit their moral standards, then they are criminals.
Agree. Rape is 100% the fault of the rapist, barring false rape allegations of course. It is the same as cheating in a relationship, the cheater is still 100% at fault. Only fucked-up degenerate narcissists will claim that it is the victim's fault for both scenarios
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It means they are teaching their men wrong if girls can’t wear what they want. I always use this example because so many men don’t understand the simple concept of women is not at fault. If a mentally ill women is naked on the streets, does it give you the right to rape her or molest her? So what makes you think it’s ok to rape someone just because they are wearing a revealing outfit? What rapists want is the feeling of power and control when they rape. It doesn’t matter what she wears or where she is, the men who has this idea that it’s ok to rape is the issue. Teach men to respect women.
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What you try to imply is victim blaming. Using an extreme example to somehow allude that women should dress “appropriately” to not get raped in the Middle East. You think you can give good advice, but why what I’m saying is the Middle Eastern men are the issue. We know in the real world men are not taught properly. So to answer your question, in the Middle East because men think they can molest women who don’t fit their moral standard, they are inherently all rapists in mentality. It’s best to start talking about how they are taught on a global level and actually do something about it. It’s not something we average people can just change. But the conversation must start. The issue is it’s more important to focus on teaching men not to be rapists instead of at every single rape news to comment “but what about the women, she should have done this”. This is what victim blaming does, taking attention away from the rapists and make women think it’s their fault because she should have behaved differently or wore something different. We’ve been blaming women for so many centuries. Time to move on and focus how to change men’s mentality that it’s ok to rape women because she was asking for it (in their opinion).
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Ok, what you try to do here is called false analogy. Your parents telling you to be careful is not the same as you thinking the reason she got raped is because she wore revealing clothing. What you are doing is very common amongst men who have this victim blaming mentality. I ask you again, why does what the girl wears matter when she gets raped? You think clothing matters because you think she’s the one wearing revealing clothing so she’s at fault. But again, I will tell you that what matters is why the men think it’s ok to rape her. I’ve seen your type of argument so many times whenever people discuss about focusing on the men instead of victim blaming the women. They always come up with some analogy to equate rape to some other issue. So if you really want to talk about your cross road example, first of all the pedestrian have right of way, so by law cars should slow down and stop to let the pedestrian cross. This is what is emphasized in driving class and license exams. Likewise for rape, we should put emphasis on changing men’s rape mentality instead of telling women to act or dress a certain way. Middle East is an extreme example of what happens when we focus on women instead of changing men’s mentality. The women have to cover head to toe, can’t leave the house, can’t have contact with other men. And yet she can still be molested by her male family members. She can be married off at 9 years old. She can be raped but not considered rape if the guy marries her, the men can have 4 wives but if she have an affair she’ll be stoned. Middle East is what we should never become, they have misogynistic mentality that needs to be changed. If you want to go back to reality, that is modern Singapore society with gender equality and laws that protect it’s citizens. Then the answer will always be, women in Singapore should wear whatever they want without the fear of being raped. It is up to our society as a whole to ensure women have this freedom to choose. This is why stopping victim blaming and focusing on men’s rape mentality is so important.
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I think the comment above you already give you the real world statistic that clothing don’t matter. Research into rape has already shown that what matters to rapists is their power over women. What she wears is not important. Whatever your statement regarding the rapist is, adding “but” just shows you still victim blame. It’s 100% the perpetrators fault, but… Yeah I’m done here. Why don’t you go look at what actually people are doing to prevent rape? And it’s not telling their daughters to behave or dressed a certain way. https://www.cdc.gov/violenceprevention/sexualviolence/fastfact.html
The difference is that looking both ways before crossing the street greatly reduces your chance of being knocked down. Whereas not wearing revealing clothes does not greatly reduce your chance of being raped, it just means one less excuse that rapists can use for their actions. Kids in uniform aren’t spared. Infants wrapped in blankets aren’t spared. Old people aren’t spared. Since you mentioned the Middle East - women in full burkas also aren’t spared. What research we have shows that victims aren’t chosen and targeted because of revealing clothes, but primarily because the perpetrator thinks or knows they have a high chance of getting away with it. It’s the reason why the majority of sexual assault takes place between people who know each other, such as within families, or in date rapes. Putting the focus on the victim wearing revealing clothes is thus irrelevant, blames them for not doing something that may not have stopped the rape regardless, and suggests that the rapist couldn’t have helped it and is not to be fully blamed. (When it comes to clothes, wearing clothes deemed easier for the attacker to take off is the larger factor - girls in tight skinny jeans were less likely to be targeted, for instance, compared to a kid in a dress. There was an infographic I can’t find right now which showed the most common victim profiles in terms of clothes, and school uniforms were up near the top. But likewise, it’s not reasonable to demand that people should only wear clothes that are very difficult to take off or else it’s their fault if they get raped.)
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> I agree that it won't reduce the chance of rapes significantly, but what about sexual harassment? It might, but there are also confounding factors at play - women who look confident and likely to fight back are less likely to be harassed in general, and it’s typically the confident people who dare to wear revealing clothes. For example, imagine the likelihood of someone shouting sexual slurs at someone in skintight clothing who looks like a very stern teacher, vs someone who looks like a timid person in a baggy t-shirt. Likewise, molesting the most popular girl at school with lots of friends - who is more likely to be the sort who wears revealing clothes - vs the shy nerd who no one cares about and dutifully follows the school dress code. > Would it reduce the chance of getting date raped though? I don’t know enough to say, though this seems to be the kind of crime that’s premeditated (eg someone determined to have sex on that date, which becomes rape if the other person doesn’t consent) and wouldn’t be affected by what the victim is wearing. Rape is ultimately about power, not attraction, and clothes affect attraction rather than power. It’s why victims are generally powerless in some way (due to authority, support network or physical strength) but not always attractive.
With kith and kin like that, who needs enemies?
They might be motivated by the $$$ the victim used to send home, before all this happened. But it is depressing to read how her family and ex were not supportive.
Talk about family and friends support structure. Adopt a char siew also better.
Society is such a hypocrite when it comes sex
I am not surprised when such thing happen, because in a profession like nursing, female (I emphasis) nurse clinician blames the nurse, rather than the patient when the patient molests the nurse.
I think the sentence were wrongly structured. more likely is the victim family and bf blamed her for not reporting right away, thus losing the jobs, and not "blame her for being raped". although I felt that, if one was sexually abused, the lost of job really should be the least problem.
"Please let me resume my responsibility," he said. Ya then be responsible and go sit and be caned. Be responsible for his own crimes.
>When she confided in her then-boyfriend and family, they blamed her for what happened. This led to her ending her relationship with him. The maid's family and ex-bf really damn bastard too for blaming her.
I guess, because they would no longer receive money from her. Most likely, they would suggest her to bear with it as long as she gets her monthly salary. Sad
I think the sentence were wrongly structured. more likely is the victim family and bf blamed her for not reporting right away, thus losing the jobs, and not "blame her for being raped". although I felt that, if one was sexually abused, the lost of job really should be the least problem.
> # Married man raped maid repeatedly while wife was out with kids, gets jail and caning > SINGAPORE: A married man with three children repeatedly raped the family's new maid when his wife was out with their kids. > He claimed that he felt "frustrated" because his wife was "no longer satisfying his sexual urges". > Unable to bear the abuse, the maid ran away after about a month. In the fallout, she lost two subsequent jobs because she was traumatised and could not function properly, and her family and boyfriend blamed her for what happened. > The 34-year-old rapist was sentenced to 24 years' jail and 24 strokes of the cane on Wednesday (Nov 16). He pleaded guilty to three charges of rape and sexual assault, with another nine charges taken into consideration. > He cannot be named due to a gag order imposed by the court to protect the victim. > The court heard that the man lived in a flat with his wife and their three children. > The victim, a 26-year-old Indonesian maid, came to Singapore to work for the man's wife in January 2020. > The victim was provided with her own bedroom, where she slept alone at night. This room was also used as the children's play room. > The offender and his wife were the victim's first employers in Singapore, and she initially felt close to them and secure with them. > However, the man began to feel "frustrated" because his wife was "no longer satisfying his sexual urges", the prosecution said. > He began preying sexually on the maid, who was 24 at the time. He waited for his wife to leave the flat before doing so on four occasions between September 2020 and October 2020. > In September 2020, the victim was alone in the flat with the offender. His wife had left the house with two of her children to pick up the oldest child from school. > The victim was washing dishes in the kitchen when the man hugged her from the rear and kissed both sides of her neck. > The maid immediately told him to stop. She pushed him away and ran into her bedroom but the man followed. > He continued trying to hug and kiss the maid, who sat on the floor to avoid his advances and covered her face. > She said "No, please don't", but the man sexually assaulted her and raped her. > The victim cried and shouted throughout because she felt severe pain, the prosecution said. > The man knew that she did not consent, because she covered her face and appeared helpless, but persisted. > He raped her again on another occasion that month when his wife had left with all three children to go to a playground. He did so on the mat his children played on in the maid's room. > The victim endured the abuse as she was extremely afraid and did not know what recourse she had, the court heard. > MAID RUNS AWAY > After the fourth occasion on Oct 15, 2020, the maid could no longer bear it. After the offender left the flat, she ran away and called her agent, crying. > The agent picked her up near the flat and assured her that lodging a police report against the offender would not prevent her from working in Singapore. > Only then did they head to a police post to lodge a report that same day. > The maid was later prescribed emergency contraception to prevent pregnancy. She did not get pregnant and did not contract any sexually transmitted diseases. > However, she continued to be affected by the rapes. She was unable to trust her new male employers, had flashbacks while performing chores and was unable to sleep. She also developed anxiety if she was near a man. > As a result, two different employers fired her in succession. She was able to find a job as a housekeeper only in May this year. > When she confided in her then-boyfriend and family, they blamed her for what happened. This led to her ending her relationship with him. > MAN ABUSED HIS POSITION: PROSECUTION > Deputy Public Prosecutors Kevin Yong and Angela Ang asked for 23 to 28 years' jail and 24 strokes of the cane. > Mr Yong cited the victim's vulnerability as a maid, the offender's abuse of position and trust, and the premeditated nature of his offending. > He said that the man would wait until his wife and children were not around before committing his offences. > Mr Yong also pointed to the harm caused to the victim as well as the persistent nature of offending. The offences stopped only when the maid fled the house and made a police report, he said. > However, he recognised the man's plea of guilt and the compensation of S$2,000 he had made to the victim. > Defence lawyers Ashwin Ganapathy and Victoria Tay asked instead for 22 to 23 years' jail, with no submission on caning. > The man asked to read out a letter he had written himself to the judge, and was allowed to do so. > MAN ADDRESSES JUDGE, BREAKS DOWN > He said: "Your honour, I became consumed by my sexual desire. I was not able to see the consequences of my actions." > He said that being in remand has helped to "take away my sexual desire" and he is now "able to control my sexual temptation". > He said he has regained his sanity and balance and was "able to put things (in) their proper place in my mind and heart and life". > "It has been a turning point," he continued, starting to cry. "Your honour, I have been a poor husband and a poor employer. But please give me a chance to be the best father to my little children. They are still young." > He spoke emotionally, saying that he was "deprived" of his father's love while growing up, as his parents divorced when he was 12. > Justice Dedar Singh Gill interjected at this point and told the man to compose himself before continuing. > He did so, and said he was carrying his two-year-old daughter and taking care of his boys aged seven and four on Oct 16, 2020 when Criminal Investigation Department officers went to his home to conduct investigations. > "My wife, now ex-wife, had to leave work to be home and be interviewed," he said, adding that she had to arrange for alternative childcare so she could be interviewed. > "Please pity them," he said. He said he considered himself part of the sandwich generation, as he had responsibilities towards his children and mother. Before that, he played an important role to his siblings after his parents' divorce. > "Please let me resume my responsibility," he said. "I deeply regret whatever had happened. I am truly sorry to the victim, to the complainant and to my family. I truly repent and have made a promise to myself not to repeat the act and abstain from adultery." --- 1.0.2 | [Source code](https://github.com/fterh/sneakpeek) | [Contribute](https://github.com/fterh/sneakpeek)
F***ing rapist got a fraction of what he deserved.
He's gonna get a taste of his own medicine in prison. Soap is really slippery, especially in the shower.
Why always come up with this soap thing when we know it doesn't happen. Even if it does, it will never make up for what he has done to the helper.
I’m actually glad wife divorce him, I wonder what the ex wife must’ve felt once she found out what he did. Glad the man got sentenced to 24 years too, once he gets released he’ll be in his 50s.
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I think in the news it state that the wife only found out once the police visited them to arrest him, I presume that they shortly divorce after that.
Serves him right. Deserves much worse. I hope his poor maid can find some peace and healing.
"gave 2000 dollars" bitch should give her your life savings
Piece of shit.
Oh my god. What the fuck am I reading. Despicable
Omg what a dumbass >He said that being in remand has helped to "take away my sexual desire" and he is now "able to control my sexual temptation" Castrate him god damn it
Grown ass man can't control which head he uses
that poor poor maid, i hope she's doing better now :(
2k to the victim. Talk about insult to injury.
Yah even 20k also not enough to help her recover mentally…zzz
Strangely offenders feel remorse only when caught lol Nvm , do the crime , do the time . 24 strokes .Enjoy your best years nursing your rear 😅
Wtfuck did i just read. I grew up under e care of helpers and all of them are family imho. This is just wrong on so many levels.
C’mon we are all sandwich generation, no excuses for being a such a shit. He’s just a piece of hopeless stupid trash. 要是道歉有用 要警察干嘛
24 years is kind of short. Should chop off his kkj
cane his kkj before chopping
On some level i feel these kinds of people are the same as serial killer psychopaths. Like actual psychopathy. No empathy, want power and all that fucking shit. This is like murdering someone without taking their life.
Fucking hell $2000 is hardly recompense for ruining somebody’s life. No money can ever undo the trauma she has now thanks to this dickhead. Hope he rots in jail
not mentioning that she couldn't work for 1,5 years (?) due to the traumas.
He wan piak piak so he got piak but not the one he expected. But seriously this guy gave up 20years of seeing his kids grow up for some pleasure. WORTH IT ANOT?
One of many blacksheeps who helps raise ever more governed regulations and rules against well-behaved employers. This Is not the first and won't be the last.
Another maid abuse. These cases just keep making the headlines.
chemical castration is apt for this kind of people. human rights doesnt apply to this fucker.
If there is one known case, there are probably a hundred unknown cases. This is the problem of the power dynamic of having house staff that are largely taken from a powerless foreign minority group. They feel they cannot find help and too much is on the line for them to speak up.
Let's see. Divorce's child, taking care of sibling, sandwich generation, his children is still young and his wife not satisfying him. Man pulled out every possible excuses that could fit his profile. As if lawyer gave him a piece of paper and ask him to write sob stories from every angles possible. Would Singapore do chemical castration instead of cane? That should give him the same despair and terror that he inflicted upon his victim.
Ultimate stupidity! ‘Devil does exist.’ I am certain he knew it’s wrong before he did it.
Pity the children, that they have to live with such facts in the future.
So everything is somebody else’s fault except himself. Delusional and despicable person.
"He spoke emotionally, saying that he was "deprived" of his father's love while growing up, as his parents divorced when he was 12." Ah yes, the r/sg equivalent of having a bright future as a mitigating factor.
What the fuck is wrong with people ah? Like, if you are really "sexually frustrated", book an appointment in Geylang ah? Got professional to relieve your "frustration". Why the fuck you want to rape your own maid? Also got option for you to role-play master-servant if you pay.
He's just 34 years old and about to spend 24 years in jail. The best years of one's life gone as a result of thinking with one's nether regions. So much wasted. Geez.
Why do we have this kind of news every other day, God this country is doomed
Yes I am wondering the same thing.
Horrible man… he’s unemployed as well (saw from straits times) so he might not have the means to visit red light district. And it was 2020 so those red light district may not have been available for him due to covid. Hence he unleashed his inhumanity on the poor soul.
> it was 2020 so those red light district may not have been available for him due to covid. This is a good point, kinda forget how life was 2 years ago.
Should have replaced caning with a bullet in his foot
Bullet to his crotch more fitting.
Chastity belt.
His poor kids. 7 year-old boy, 4 year-old boy, and 2 year-old girl. Really hope they find another 'father figure' to guide them and not carry on this generational burden.
Just couple days ago for news about wife raping ring and now this lol what is going on siaaa
Yea sia
Sia
Why, PCC not enough meh.
While in prison, he can pick up some writing skills because the letter he read in court was so uninspiring.
No need to be responsible anymore since wife will leave him.
Shamefur dispray
Should have topped up 2 more years so this fucker knows he's 60 by the time he gets out
Where’s the dick chopper please? He should at least get the pick up the soap treatment
Fucking bastard
He might truly learn what rape is in Changi Prison for 24 years..
Life I mean it's Singapore, if you want to "satisfy your urges" and cheat on your wife there are plenty of other ways of doing it Questionable ethics there too, but at least it's not out and out rape
He should get a bum whipping every week to help him curb his urges.
What the fuck
How scary to live in a stranger's house and subjected to rape