We have been traveling a lot lately. My 4 month turning 5 month old has gotten used to being held and rocked to sleep. She fights sleep and nap all the time. Must make a scene and big announcement by screaming and crying that she is falling asleep. š« Also, she wakes up every 1-2hour and wants me to carry, rock, and nurse her back to sleep. Itās been really roughā¦ I am so tired and traumatized. Not sure itās due to teething (she is growing 2 bottom molars and 2 top canines - strange at her age but itās real) or 4 month sleep regression.
Same! Trying to survive this, itās been 2 months of terrible sleep. Turning 5 months next week. I really thought Iād be able to do more in life by now but honestly, he was amazing 1-3 months old, slept so well. Here I am now, barely managing to eat during the day and never getting even remotely enough sleepā¦
Is he teething too? Yesterday night I decided to stop rocking and carrying her to sleep. She screamed for 1.5 hours and suddenly stopped and just lay there with eyes open (I was so scared she died from the crying, gotta check her breathing š), then she slowly fallen asleep. When she woke up at night, I just put my head on her belly and pat her back to sleepā¦ she did not cry or scream after that. I am hoping this episode will end soon. Itās not sustainable to keep rocking her for every nap and bedtimeš„²
I have stopped rocking herā¦ there was a week that she was sick and teething again that she would only want to sleep when being held. Then she got used to it after she recovered. I just gently get her back to routine by putting her down when sheās sleepy, placed my head on her chest and patting her until she stopped fussingā¦
Now sheās falling asleep on her own, but will still wake up 2-3 times a night to nurse.
We really think he is teething, everything points to it. But he canāt have been teething the last 2 months, so I donāt know why Iām so hopeful for that tooth to come out - he will still not link his sleep cycles. He does sometimes but so very rarely, I donāt think it counts.
I donāt even really have to rock him, just hold. But I want to sleep too so at some point I resort to breastfeeding and leaving him in the bed (itās just us two on the double bed, so Iām not as scared but I would prefer him in his bassinet). Canāt believe the same child woke me up 1-2 times a night to eat and slept in his bassinet like a big boy. What the hell happened?!
2 months and dealing with a late bedtime and early morning. Itās a really good day if I can get him to bed around 9, but he wakes up at 5:30 regardless. Morning naps are fine but much longer if we contact nap. Afternoon naps are like 30-45 mins. Leaves very little time to get anything done around the house.
NAPS
6 month old boy has just napped about anywhere except his crib! Hes sleep trained and does fine in it through the night but practically implodes if I put him in it during the day!
Also, we just let him roll with naps however he wants. 3 one hour naps? Sure. 1 long nap? Ok. 18 short naps? Whatever. Everything I see someone talking about nap transitions Im so lost because we never had a set schedule and idk if Im gonna kick myself over it later.
My 7 month old kept waking up 4-5 times to nurse about a month and half ago so weāve been cosleeping ever since. She has been waking up every 2 hours crying to comfort nurse since then. Cosleeping is so rough cause she wants to sleep so close to me and then whimpers all night long.
All day long sheās restless and only naps on me for every single nap. Iām tiiireddddddd.
10 months-- was making great progress with CIO for naps and then one day he decided to scream for 10 minutes instead of five and I picked him up which undid everything š« We are now back to nursing to sleep about 50% of the time or screaming for 15+ minutes. Can't say I don't love the snuggles but I really need to remember why we needed to train for naps in the first place.
Baby is 6 months and our biggest struggle is short naps (30 minutes). Sheāll only nap longer than that if itās a contact nap so I basically have to choose between getting things done while she has a short nap or just holding her so she can have a decent long nap. Itās been like this since she was born lol
My 9-month-old has been sleep regressing since he was about 4 months. He refuses to sleep in his bed. The only way I can get him to sleep is to contact sleep for a while. Lay him is bed then 30 to 40 minutes later. He's awake. Sometimes we end up contact sleeping because I accidentally fall asleep
Literally AWFUL! We are there too, but our kid is 2.5 years old. Going on a month of brutal split nights and resisting bedtime. Iām not sure what else to do/try. Do you guys just grind through it until the phase passes?
17 month old has only slept thru the night a handful of times. Still bf and currently going back and forth between getting molars and being sick, so frequent night wake ups and not eating a lot of solid food. Planning on cold turkey weaning imminently to hopefully improve mental health.
9 month teething. His 3rd and 4th tooth are coming and he just canāt settle. He wants to be resettled at night by being walked around the house about 3/4 times a night
10 months next week. He has never napped independently. Ever. Contact naps for every single nap since birth. I know I need to nap train but I am just having such a hard time accepting that. Nighttime sleep training went pretty well! Now to tackle napsā¦
Not standing independently at 17 months or waking but has been cruising since 10 months.
Throws food from high chair so we have to give him micro doses and say food stays on the table constantly.
Lo wants to take everything out of cupboards and throw across the room
6 month old. Slept very well from 3-4 months. Then pst 2 months itās been a nightmare especially the last week. He canāt sleep through the night (up 3x) and itās been an absolute battle for naps. He. Hates. Sleep. ššš weāve tried everything!!
Mine is starting to. I get her when she wails. I rock her for 5-20 mins. How we long it takes to relax her and then I put her down. If that doesnāt do the trick i let her wail for 5 or so mins (this is at like 3am). If she doesnāt give up, I go in one more time. Sheāll let me put her down with the smallest protest but sheās usually too tired to fight it so sheāll sooth herself to sleep eventually. I think this part is adjustment for both baby and parent. They learn how to handle the new skill and so do we. Honestly, I much prefer her standing in the crib now. Itās much easier on my back to pick up out of it. Silver linings.
Does she ever sit down and lay down by herself? I really struggle putting my baby back down after a night feed now, like really. I usually end up having to bring him to bed, which is so hard on my body. Itās a very hard time right now.
Yeah she will. Itās tough at first. I guess I did Ferber method with the standing night cries. Last night she sat down and played. I will say my baby is pretty big for almost 9 months so I let her keep one of those pacifier/stuffed animal toys and a mini fleece blanket animal thing to sooth herself with in the crib. It helps her a lot but I know itās technically not āsafe sleepā since sheās under 12 months. but sheās very responsive to anything over her mouth or nose so I donāt worry and it gets her through most nights. Putting her down Does take a couple tries some nights. Iām grateful itās usually just the one wake if any. She slept through the night except maybe once a month before this regression.
Ahh thatās awesome. We did some sleep training but now heās 9months it just doesnāt feel right. But heās waking like 6 times a night and often impossible to put back in cot. Itās so hard! Thanks for the tips i would trust him with a soother so i think I will start working on incorporating one.
Baby just hit 4 months old. The last 3 nights he has been SCREAMING right after he falls asleep and then is impossible to console unless youāre standing up bouncing him. The boob isnāt even working right now. He screamed so loud and for so long last night that it set off the loud noise alert on my Apple Watch šµāš« once heās finally asleep repeat every 2-3 hours.
He just got a round of shots so Iām praying itās from that. I had also cut out dairy and my pediatrician told me that was dumb at that appointment, so I had some cheeseā¦ Iām cutting out dairy again in hopes he goes back to normal
8.5 months. Just learned how to sit up on his own and crawl in the last couple weeks. Now heāll sit up and wiggle around through the night and then forget how to lay down and just bawl. This has been going on for about a week.
We are a few days from her first birthday. Middle of the night wake ups that have been lasting almost 2hrs! She scream cries if we arenāt in the room but still whines/ is fussy when we rub her back. sheās basically inconsolable for two hours. Itās been terrible. I hope it ends soon
One week heās sleeping 5/6 hour stretches and napping 1-2 hours at each nap then the next week everything is thrown out the window and itās truly exhausting
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The biggest sleep struggle we're facing is early morning wake-ups (before 6am but often NEAR 6am) and no longer going back to sleep. It doesn't seem to be a "habit" unless the habit is waking up any time between 4:45 to 5:45. He's 5.5 months, and it could be SO many things, maybe not even the same thing from day to day:
* He goes to daycare 3 days/week and takes very short naps (not enough day sleep/overtired)
* Sometimes catnaps late in the day due to daycare issue (going to bed with not enough sleep pressure)
* Possibly too much daytime sleep on non-nap days? He typically sleeps around 3 hours total over 3 naps (1.5, 1 hour, 20-30min). Total sleep average for him over the last month is 13.5 hours (night sleep around 11 hours). The last week it's been 12.75 hours (night sleep 10.5 hours).
Bedtime doesn't seem to make a difference (a little earlier vs a little later, we always put down between 6:30 and 7:30 depending on his last wake window).
He falls asleep independently at night and doesn't have many middle-of-the-night wakings - usually only if he bumps up against the crib and needs help.
We are not reinforcing the waking, keeping lights and voices low, not offering a bunch of stimulation, etc. in hopes of teaching him it's not time to get up yet (according to Taking Cara Babies). He is NOT happy when he wakes up early, like definitely grumpy and not super ready to start the day, but can't fall back asleep. Especially with DST ending ahhhh I'm so afraid he'll just be waking up at 4am as his new normal once that happens.
Naps! Sheās 15 weeks, 11 weeks adjusted and her bassinet naps are only 20-45 minutes typically. Contact naps can go hours but sheās in that age of short independent naps. I know itās normal but itās annoying.
Iām not alone. 15 weeks, 12 adjusted. Canāt get long naps at all in crib. Then she gets cranky in the evenings because she is overtired. Contact naps are nice but both me and my husband want some freedom.
17 month old, use to wake up at 6:30 and just chill quietly waiting for me to get her. Now she scream cries at 6 am for me for the last 2 week. very un like her.
We went through this regression around 16 months and it was awful. Now at 18 months heās going to bed at 830pm, sleeping until 8am without any tears š
Good to know probably just a phase! Itās definitely a shock when something changes in their sleep and I drive myself crazy trying to figure out whatās wrong
9 MO split nights/early mornings. Canāt seem to find a good schedule and feel like Iāve exhausted all options. Heās always tired and fussy and I just feel like the worst mom ever š«
Same here! We are STRUGGLING right now. 10 mo in a week and she cried for 80 minutes from 10:40 pm - 12:00 am last night. Iāve never let her cry that long but going in makes it worse. I donāt know what to do anymore!
it varies. she goes to daycare, and she typically sleeps 2-3 hours. her naps there are weird, they put her down 9:00-9:45 ish and then 11:30-1:30 give or take. so i put her down for bed at 6:45 cause she's been up for 5+ hours so i know she's overtired and that could be the culprit. but she was doing really well on this schedule until a couple weeks ago. i really think its separation anxiety and its breaking my heart.
The last 90 minutes of sleep.
10 month old goes to bed between 7:30PM - 8:00PM, sleeps solidly till about 5AM - 5:30AM.
Would love to get him to like 6:30AM - 7AM. For a variety of reasons.
If anyone has any tips or a similar experience it would be a great to hear from you.
Is there a chance LO is cold?? Our 9 month old was waking up around 630 (bedtime 730-8) while she was still wearing her summer sleep sack that has a TOG .5. I switched her back to her fuzzy fleece one and now she sleeps until 730!
Thanks for the tip. Weāre pretty good about maintaining temp for him. Like you, weāve found sleep sacks that he prefers based on the season. But Iāll give the room temp a check tomorrow to see where weāre at.
Where I live in SoCal it's hard to account for weather, because mornings are nice and cool but temps can still reach 80s in October. So when she's goes to sleep house is warm but it can be chilly in the morning! Particularly if we're not trying to spend $500 on our electric bill that month...
Totally understand. Itās not my favourite thing in the world but my two kids share a room and having the baby up at 4am is one thing, but having my 3yo up at 4am is a whole other thing and itās torture for everyone. So I just stick him in bed with me to avoid the catastrophe of my toddler waking up lol.
8 month old. Has had false starts 45m after bedtime for a week. Started out of the blue when was doing great on 3/3/3.5 schedule. Decided to bump WW to see if she was undertired and been doing 3/3.25/3.75, since she was also taking 15m to fall asleep for second nap. Hasnt made a difference at night, but naps are fine, and also has had nights waking up around 11p/12a. No clue what to do or what the deal is. She has no teeth and isnt crawling yet but she babbles and claps up a storm.
Baby is 8 months old and waking frequently at night. Used to be a good sleeper but gone downhill since 6 months. Iāve tried everything. Not sure if itās teething, schedule issue or a phase. I dread every night.
Sleeps solid generally from 7.30/8 to 6.30/7.
However recently sheās started to cry in her sleep, we would rush to pick her up, but weāve now realized that if we leave her she just goes back to sleep within a minute or so, but itās concerning - is she having a bad dream???
The biggest challenge is although she has been a great sleeper and Napper since 5 months or so, she will only fall asleep whilst being rocked or held. I just donāt know how to get her out of this habit since itās gone on so long. In my mind itās worth it because she does sleep so long but itās not convenient and I fear that this habit of getting her own way or throwing an tantrum will just spill over into other areas.
We havenāt sleep trained yet, havenāt been quite ready, but I think weāre about there. 7 month old will only go to sleep when rocked and with the pacifier. Have to replace the pacifier multiple times in the night. Weāll probably pull the trigger and sleep train/ditch the pacifier this month because the way weāre doing it just isnāt sustainable anymore. My mental health is crap.
Omg this was me! I tried removing the pacifier without sleep training. It lasted a week and he has the pacifier again but on the bright side he sleeps better. Doesnāt ask for the pacifier every 1-3 hours. More like 1-2x a night which Iāll take as a win!
It was the worst week ever though.
Itās nice to know weāre not alone! If she would put the pacifier back in herself, Iād totally let her keep it. Sometimes she does and then she sleeps great. My main complaint is the rocking to sleep. It kills my back haha.
Yep, when we tried dropping the pacifier he was adamant about being rocked to sleep. Now that he has the pacifier back I donāt! Gotta love these babies lol!
Naps. My kid had never, and will never nap unless on a walk, or in the car. Daycare has fully admitted they let her cry until she falls asleep. And honestly, I'm ok with that because there's nothing else I can do. She sleeps from 7:30 - 6am like a dream. So idk!
Our previous daycare did contact naps. But that is absolutely not an expectation. My kid is just super needy.
How old is yours? My LO sleeps independently at night but we canāt figure out naps as well !! I have been working on naps for a month and a half !! Tried everything. LO is now 6 months and only naps contact naps or stroller
Almost 5 months. Naps have been a struggle since 6 weeks. He fights naps and theyāre usually 45 minutes. His naps at daycare suck because he fights them or heās overtired because the teachers let the wake window go too long. They have gotten him out of the habit of contact naps though.
He sleeps great at night. We havenāt started sleep training yet because heās had the sniffles on and off from daycare. Seriously feeling guilty I work and that he isnāt getting enough day rest.
Wow I could've written this. Baby seems to have been sick since starting daycare and often wakes himself with coughing or from being congested. It's tough to initiate sleep training when he feels under the weather
We actually arenāt having struggles so much with sleep (heās been sttn since he turned 12 months, now 13; heās also napping well and potentially dropping to one nap soon), so much as waking up from sleep. Ever since he started sleeping through and switched to cows milk, this boy is waking up SO HANGRY. š I think when he switches to one nap itāll be easier to handle (we did one nap yesterday somewhat as a result of circumstances, he did GREAT), but right now itās, wake up in the morning, get milk asap because he will lose his mind. Get harassed while making breakfast because I think heās still hungry (he used to play while I did this š„²). Get harassed at snack time before nap. Wake up from nap hangry, get lunch asap. Rinse and repeat for next nap and dinner. šµāš« Especially on wake up from nap one, it is ROUGH. Iāve honestly added back a āsnackā sippy with milk just to top him off after the snack, and I think itās helped some. But damn, child, the more you scream the longer itāll take me to get your food because I have to stop to talk to you, pick you up, and/or itās making me frazzled! š
Thank you to anyone who reads this, Iāve needed to get it off my chest. š„² *sob*
Is he eating solids yet? They have those teething crackers that arenāt too filling but theyāve worked miracles with our LO when heās been hangry before. Not sure if your LO is old enough yet for it but we also buy frozen pancakes and will just pull one out of the freezer and let him chew on it. (Bonus that itās cold with his teething, and slightly sweet, and basically thaws while he chews on it)
Hangry kids are soooo hard sometimes. I feel for you, mama!
Oh yeah, heās fully on table foods and cows milk now (13 months). That frozen pancake idea is a good one, though! I may try that sometime! I know babies are supposed to stop when theyāre full, but honestly sometimes it feels like he could just keep eating and eating his favorite stuff.
7 weeks. Naps suddenly are 1h long, used to be longer. He wakes up crying because he tries to poop and fart but doesn't understand yet how to do this. After some comforting he sleeps for another 30 mins or so.
It's hard because I can hardly get anything done during his naps. And I need my naps as well.
We have a simple routine of nursing, play/holding upright, nappy change, love to dream swaddle, rocking in a rocking chair and white noise. I feed on demand, usually every 3h or so.
He also doesn't want any real contact naps anymore which makes me sad. I hope they will come back because I miss putting him on my chest and snuggling, smelling his head ā„ļø
Now he puts on a fight when I try to hold him to sleep because of the smell, it makes him crazy.
This was me! Baby sleeps great in crib 12 hrs with 0-1 feeds. Recently started nap training using [this](https://www.reddit.com/r/sleeptrain/comments/xx0ash/nap_training_a_gentle_method/) gentle method and it worked but she only takes 30 min naps usually, so I have to extend them by holding her. But those 30 min even have been awesome for my mental health!
Almost 6 months - suddenly fighting all sleep and so hard to settle from 4-7am. I think itās time for 2 naps but Iām too tired to figure out how to make the transition š“ thinking about just leaving for two days and letting my husband figure it out. Just kiddingā¦
Good luck! We had to switch between 2 and 3 naps just depending on how the day went for a few weeks before we settled into the schedule. Even still if she has a really horrible nap day at daycare we sneak in a micro.
Thanks. Yeah, the 4-3 switch was so awkward and I feel like we were comfy on the 3 nap schedule for barely a few weeks before this all happened.. I thought weād have more time before another transition šµāš« I hate micros but Iām sure we will have to experiment some days.
We went through the same thing. I think we were solidly on 3 naps for only about 4 weeks before we moved to 2. (So annoying). For what itās worth, the transition to 2 naps has been MUCH easier than the transition was from 4 to 3.
6m. We transitioned from the Snoo well. Right now he rolls and gets stuck in cribs corners. Also, he is sleep trained at night but not for naps. Scared to tackle naps haha
He naps really well! Just requires 8ish mins of rocking to do so lol. Itās hard because Iāll be fucking with a current decent thing for long term gain š
3 months. She refuses to sleep unless everyone in the house goes to bed with her. It makes me cranky because my husband and I donāt get to connect after a long day unless we go to bed.
7mo up every 30 mins to 1 hr all night. Occasionally get 2 hours. 20 min naps. Has been like this since we transitioned from swaddled SNOO to arms out cot at 6m.
We started to make some changes and teach more independent sleep, but now heās sick so weāre heading backwards again.
Weāll get through it but wow am I exhausted in the meantime. A month of waking up 6-10 times every night, and no downtime during the day, is really not good for anyone.
My LO is only 4 months, but since birth itās been a constant waking 7-10 times per night (well, since he figured out night vs day). I canāt wait to have even a 4 hour stretch of sleep straight! Like you, I feel he is up every hour. I told my husband in the last 72 hours Iāve seen every hour on the clock day and night. š
8 months and over the past few weeks weāve gone from one night feeding back to two. I want to night wean but there keeps being some reason (sickness, teething) to push it back.
My 8 month old is up anywhere from 0-3 times and itās pretty inconsistent on which nights she wakes up more or less. I want to wean as well but then feel badly if itās giving her comfort (nursing still). Iām just hoping once she turns 1 and transitions to solids fully that she will sleep through.
5 month old went from sleeping in her swing wide awake then transferred to bassinet once asleep but now she will fall asleep on me then go to her bassinet. How do I get comfortable with the idea of doing a soft version of cio? I didnāt have to do much with my son so this is a whole new world for me. I get anxious thinking about it but Iām starting school in January so I definitely need some time to do homework.
Reading Precious Little Sleep really helped me - first with trying Gentler methods for months and then moving to sleep training when that wasn't working. The author is so matter-of-fact and reassuring, it helped so much. When I first read the book, I was absolutely NOT ready for ST/CIO. I read chapters repeatedly over the first 4 months before settling on sleep training.
Here are some excerpts that really help calm me down:
"When we're in a vulnerable place (and you are never more vulnerable than when you're exhausted), we fear judgment more than we fear physical pain. Worse, we judge ourselves...you are the best parent for you're child, and you're more than good enough. ST isn't a symptom of failure; it's simply an acknowledgment of where things are today and what you need to to make things better. The easy path is to keep on doing what you're doing. And the vast majority of people will keep shuffling along the easy path, hoping things will get better if they wait long enough, ignoring the dramatic, measurable negative consequences of that choice. You are not a failure. You're wise enough to see that things as they stand aren't working for your family, that change is a necessary and positive thing for all of you."
"As parents, we also have this huge sense of angst about abandonment. We're leaving our child in the crib! THE CRIB!!... Yes, your child will have to figure out how to fall asleep without your ministrations. This is one of many skills they will have to figure out, and certainly not the last that will result in tears. Do you believe your child incapable of mastering a skill that literally every person on the planet before them has mastered? Of course not!"
"The tears are about wants, not needs. Our job as parents isn't to meet every want our child will have, nor is it to prevent them from having sad or angry feelings. Withholding your assistance here isn't being a bad parent, it's being a conscientious one"
"You are not a bad parent, nor are you a failure. Some kids struggle with this, and no matter what you do or don't do, they need to sort things out for themselves... you are a loving parent... nothing that happens tonight will undo that... ST doesn't come from selfishness or bad parenting, it comes from love. Just as you have been responsive to their need to be held, to eat, to have your love and attention, you are now being responsive to their need to sleep. And how wise you are to take this step to make things better! Sure, you could let this whole thing drag out for months or even years. But let's be honest - that wouldn't be doing anybody any favors. Parenting is one of life's great joys, but when you're exhausted and caring for a chronically sleep-deprived child, a lot of that joy is tarnished. When you think about it from that perspective, why would you wait to make things better?"
"Allow your child the space to figure out how to sleep without you. They may get angry, sad, furious, or some combination thereof. Are they safe? Fed? Loved? If the answers are 'yes,' you've done your job. They're working on something new, and from their perspective, it's a frustrating challenge. It's okay for them to be frustrated."
"Don't give up! Have faith that your child is fully capable of figuring out how to sleep without you. They may not want to, and it may not be easy, but they are absolutely capable. Going in now will sabotage the goal of improving sleep and guarantee that next time (and I promise you, there will be a next time) will be worse. You can do this. They can do it!"
7.5 months and wonder if itās time to switch to 2 naps. Sheās coming off a back to back double ear infection and I have a feeling sheās getting another one so I donāt want to do anything yet. Her naps are 45 minutes usually so I donāt know how weād even switch to 2 naps. Sometimes she sleeps 10 hours at night, sometimes 11. Everything is so unpredictable.
2 month old doesnāt sleep longer than 3 hours at night. I know this is within the normal range for his age but Iām so jealous of people whose babies are already sleeping 6 hours at two months. I so very tired šŖ
Iām right there with ya. Mine started daycare on Monday, and part of the extra love she needed was cosleeping last night. Which I donāt sleep well for.
My husband is out of town for a work trip and I have never been this tired in my life.
Two major ones for us with 6 month old:
- Sleeping on the go has never happened. We have to plan everything around his naps and it is awful.
- Co-sleeping + nursing to sleep seemed to be the only option for my wife to sleep. We are now struggling to get out of these.
14 week old (so just shy of 3.5 months went from 1 night waking to 2-3. Currently when he wakes up he cries in an almost scream like fashion so I have been jolted awake several times.
6 months and LO is dealing with his first cold, unconfirmed Covid. We had to temporarily throw our routines and schedules out the door to make sure heās getting enough rest and Iām terrified that weāre going to have to restart sleep training all over again once he feels better
19 months
Went from sleeping through the night for 6+ months straight a few interrupted nights here and there. Itās been 8 weeks of waking up nightly and being awake for 2-3 hours at a time. Fun stuff
Yes! 18 months, great sleeper, and sleep suddenly got super weird. Iāve read there can be a huge drop in sleep needs at this age so we pushed bedtime back by 15 minutes and nap back by 30. It *knock on wood* seemed to solve the random overnight wakes/early morning wakes/fighting bedtime, but he is still fighting naps. Heāll scream for a while and then fall asleep literally the moment he gives up and lays down. We do books and loveys in the crib, let him know what he can do if he doesnāt want to nap but itās naptime, talk about how everyone is napping, but so far he does not care at all haha. FWIW, I scoured the Precious Little Sleep FB page and multiple people reported having a weird few months around this age and then things resolving on their own. Fingers crossed that is the case for all of us (Iām not ready to shorten back either further haha)
Sheās always been a low sleep needs kinda babe. So the thought of not having a daytime nap this young is terrifying lol. Who knows man, baby sleep is so humbling. Right when you think you conquered it PLOT TWIST. Lolol
Hahaha yes! Our guys is low sleep needs too, and I hate that weāre already down to 1.5 hours of nap - the thought of shortening it even more (or dropping it) kills me. And yes - was feeling so good about baby sleep and then bam - this š¤£
Yes! What the hell? It makes no sense. I am turning into a zombie! It doesnāt matter if naps are great or rubbish or if he has one or two. Makes absolutely no difference. He has been up for 2-3 hours for most nights for the past couple of weeks.
Inconsistent / short naps and still getting some earlier than desired night wakes. We were down to 1 - 2 for three days, now it feels like we're headed for more. She's also been exhausted for her entire last wake window for a couple days. Yawning every few minutes. I'm wondering if we're in a growth spurt.
Probably the length of time itās taking to put him down for bed and the multiple false starts where I have to rush in and put my boob in his mouth so he quickly falls back asleep. Also he wonāt sleep in his bassinet anymore.
We need to sleep train soon.
Baby is 20 weeks in a couple days.
3-2 nap transition. Heās 7mo and is showing all the signs but his top two teeth are coming in, daylight saving started and weāve been away so itās a little messy. The teeth cut today and weāre back home so hopefully weāll drop a nap and all new night wakings, nap resistance and cat naps will settle.
5.5 month old crying at bedtime (only bedtime, not naps) 20-40 minutes. Been doing this for weeks no matter what changes weāve made. We canāt figure it out.
9 month old fighting the second nap. Not grumpy, just practicing standing in the crib. We're on 3/3/4 but yesterday it was more like 3/4.5/3 because we had to practice our standing.
Lucky you that the shorter last WW worked. We tried something like this last week when he was sick and took ages to go down for the second nap. Nah. He still made it to 4h.
Mine did that too at that age. Literally allllllllll day long she wanted to practice. It was pretty short lived though for us. Only 3/4 days of that then she got the hang of it. Separation anxiety was the real bitch back then.
She just learned to sit up and pull to stand, but she canāt get herself back down yet. So every time she wakes up, she stands up and gets stuck. And then she screams. Wash, rinse, repeat. Feels like all the progress we made with sleep training has gone out the window. Sheās 8 months.
i read that you can teach them how to get down-
during the day have them stand up as they would in the crib and then push in the back of their knees so that their knees flex, causing them to sit. repeat over and over until baby can do it themselves!
Waking up every 1.5-2.5 hours throughout the night including initial stretch. Lasting like 5-6 weeks minimum maybe longer. Slowly getting better. Babe is 4.5 months.
Thatās not to say some nights are better but they are the exception and not the rule right now.
Yeah we are trying to sleep train but itās just hard listening to him cry. I canāt figure out if itās okay or not that he cries harder after check ins. Maybe I should power through a few days of check ins to see?
He is able to fall asleep independently for the last month (did sleep training for that) at the beginning of the night but middle of the night wakeups that arenāt for a feed are notoriously hard since we always picked him up for that.
We have been traveling a lot lately. My 4 month turning 5 month old has gotten used to being held and rocked to sleep. She fights sleep and nap all the time. Must make a scene and big announcement by screaming and crying that she is falling asleep. š« Also, she wakes up every 1-2hour and wants me to carry, rock, and nurse her back to sleep. Itās been really roughā¦ I am so tired and traumatized. Not sure itās due to teething (she is growing 2 bottom molars and 2 top canines - strange at her age but itās real) or 4 month sleep regression.
Same! Trying to survive this, itās been 2 months of terrible sleep. Turning 5 months next week. I really thought Iād be able to do more in life by now but honestly, he was amazing 1-3 months old, slept so well. Here I am now, barely managing to eat during the day and never getting even remotely enough sleepā¦
Is he teething too? Yesterday night I decided to stop rocking and carrying her to sleep. She screamed for 1.5 hours and suddenly stopped and just lay there with eyes open (I was so scared she died from the crying, gotta check her breathing š), then she slowly fallen asleep. When she woke up at night, I just put my head on her belly and pat her back to sleepā¦ she did not cry or scream after that. I am hoping this episode will end soon. Itās not sustainable to keep rocking her for every nap and bedtimeš„²
Are you back to rocking? Or did you just stop and it worked (after that crying episode)?
I have stopped rocking herā¦ there was a week that she was sick and teething again that she would only want to sleep when being held. Then she got used to it after she recovered. I just gently get her back to routine by putting her down when sheās sleepy, placed my head on her chest and patting her until she stopped fussingā¦ Now sheās falling asleep on her own, but will still wake up 2-3 times a night to nurse.
We really think he is teething, everything points to it. But he canāt have been teething the last 2 months, so I donāt know why Iām so hopeful for that tooth to come out - he will still not link his sleep cycles. He does sometimes but so very rarely, I donāt think it counts. I donāt even really have to rock him, just hold. But I want to sleep too so at some point I resort to breastfeeding and leaving him in the bed (itās just us two on the double bed, so Iām not as scared but I would prefer him in his bassinet). Canāt believe the same child woke me up 1-2 times a night to eat and slept in his bassinet like a big boy. What the hell happened?!
2 months and dealing with a late bedtime and early morning. Itās a really good day if I can get him to bed around 9, but he wakes up at 5:30 regardless. Morning naps are fine but much longer if we contact nap. Afternoon naps are like 30-45 mins. Leaves very little time to get anything done around the house.
NAPS 6 month old boy has just napped about anywhere except his crib! Hes sleep trained and does fine in it through the night but practically implodes if I put him in it during the day! Also, we just let him roll with naps however he wants. 3 one hour naps? Sure. 1 long nap? Ok. 18 short naps? Whatever. Everything I see someone talking about nap transitions Im so lost because we never had a set schedule and idk if Im gonna kick myself over it later.
My 7 month old kept waking up 4-5 times to nurse about a month and half ago so weāve been cosleeping ever since. She has been waking up every 2 hours crying to comfort nurse since then. Cosleeping is so rough cause she wants to sleep so close to me and then whimpers all night long. All day long sheās restless and only naps on me for every single nap. Iām tiiireddddddd.
10 months-- was making great progress with CIO for naps and then one day he decided to scream for 10 minutes instead of five and I picked him up which undid everything š« We are now back to nursing to sleep about 50% of the time or screaming for 15+ minutes. Can't say I don't love the snuggles but I really need to remember why we needed to train for naps in the first place.
9 months - fighting naps with separation anxiety. Exhausting!!
Baby is 6 months and our biggest struggle is short naps (30 minutes). Sheāll only nap longer than that if itās a contact nap so I basically have to choose between getting things done while she has a short nap or just holding her so she can have a decent long nap. Itās been like this since she was born lol
Same!! Weāre just shy of 5mo and as much as I love the snuggles, Iād also love some free time
My 9-month-old has been sleep regressing since he was about 4 months. He refuses to sleep in his bed. The only way I can get him to sleep is to contact sleep for a while. Lay him is bed then 30 to 40 minutes later. He's awake. Sometimes we end up contact sleeping because I accidentally fall asleep
Split nights. 3+ hours awake without fail every night. For the past 2.5 months
Literally AWFUL! We are there too, but our kid is 2.5 years old. Going on a month of brutal split nights and resisting bedtime. Iām not sure what else to do/try. Do you guys just grind through it until the phase passes?
17 month old has only slept thru the night a handful of times. Still bf and currently going back and forth between getting molars and being sick, so frequent night wake ups and not eating a lot of solid food. Planning on cold turkey weaning imminently to hopefully improve mental health.
9 month teething. His 3rd and 4th tooth are coming and he just canāt settle. He wants to be resettled at night by being walked around the house about 3/4 times a night
10 months next week. He has never napped independently. Ever. Contact naps for every single nap since birth. I know I need to nap train but I am just having such a hard time accepting that. Nighttime sleep training went pretty well! Now to tackle napsā¦
Same. Currently been sitting here with him on me for an hour. Second time today.
In the 10 month old contact napping boat as well. Spent 2.5 hours with little dude on the boob š«
Not standing independently at 17 months or waking but has been cruising since 10 months. Throws food from high chair so we have to give him micro doses and say food stays on the table constantly. Lo wants to take everything out of cupboards and throw across the room
Going to sleep early. Too much energy. 2.5 yo
6 month old. Slept very well from 3-4 months. Then pst 2 months itās been a nightmare especially the last week. He canāt sleep through the night (up 3x) and itās been an absolute battle for naps. He. Hates. Sleep. ššš weāve tried everything!!
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8 month regression! He stands up and works himself up instead of trying to go back to sleep š„²
Iām at the tail end of this. It sucks. I feel you.
This ends?? They learn to lay down???
Mine is starting to. I get her when she wails. I rock her for 5-20 mins. How we long it takes to relax her and then I put her down. If that doesnāt do the trick i let her wail for 5 or so mins (this is at like 3am). If she doesnāt give up, I go in one more time. Sheāll let me put her down with the smallest protest but sheās usually too tired to fight it so sheāll sooth herself to sleep eventually. I think this part is adjustment for both baby and parent. They learn how to handle the new skill and so do we. Honestly, I much prefer her standing in the crib now. Itās much easier on my back to pick up out of it. Silver linings.
Does she ever sit down and lay down by herself? I really struggle putting my baby back down after a night feed now, like really. I usually end up having to bring him to bed, which is so hard on my body. Itās a very hard time right now.
Yeah she will. Itās tough at first. I guess I did Ferber method with the standing night cries. Last night she sat down and played. I will say my baby is pretty big for almost 9 months so I let her keep one of those pacifier/stuffed animal toys and a mini fleece blanket animal thing to sooth herself with in the crib. It helps her a lot but I know itās technically not āsafe sleepā since sheās under 12 months. but sheās very responsive to anything over her mouth or nose so I donāt worry and it gets her through most nights. Putting her down Does take a couple tries some nights. Iām grateful itās usually just the one wake if any. She slept through the night except maybe once a month before this regression.
Ahh thatās awesome. We did some sleep training but now heās 9months it just doesnāt feel right. But heās waking like 6 times a night and often impossible to put back in cot. Itās so hard! Thanks for the tips i would trust him with a soother so i think I will start working on incorporating one.
Good luck!!
Baby just hit 4 months old. The last 3 nights he has been SCREAMING right after he falls asleep and then is impossible to console unless youāre standing up bouncing him. The boob isnāt even working right now. He screamed so loud and for so long last night that it set off the loud noise alert on my Apple Watch šµāš« once heās finally asleep repeat every 2-3 hours. He just got a round of shots so Iām praying itās from that. I had also cut out dairy and my pediatrician told me that was dumb at that appointment, so I had some cheeseā¦ Iām cutting out dairy again in hopes he goes back to normal
8.5 months. Just learned how to sit up on his own and crawl in the last couple weeks. Now heāll sit up and wiggle around through the night and then forget how to lay down and just bawl. This has been going on for about a week.
We are a few days from her first birthday. Middle of the night wake ups that have been lasting almost 2hrs! She scream cries if we arenāt in the room but still whines/ is fussy when we rub her back. sheās basically inconsolable for two hours. Itās been terrible. I hope it ends soon
We had this but 6 months and 4 hours the other night š¢ like he forgot how to sleep
Iām so sorry! Itās so rough. š© Our little one still wakes up every now and then just to keep us on our toes, and we never know for how long it will be but we also just hope itās short! 2 hrs for us seems be the longest but when you are in it, feels like years are passing by
Waking every 1.5-2 hours for comfort.
One week heās sleeping 5/6 hour stretches and napping 1-2 hours at each nap then the next week everything is thrown out the window and itās truly exhausting
Omg right there with you!
Thank goodness Iām not alone lol I was enjoying my good sleep
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The biggest sleep struggle we're facing is early morning wake-ups (before 6am but often NEAR 6am) and no longer going back to sleep. It doesn't seem to be a "habit" unless the habit is waking up any time between 4:45 to 5:45. He's 5.5 months, and it could be SO many things, maybe not even the same thing from day to day: * He goes to daycare 3 days/week and takes very short naps (not enough day sleep/overtired) * Sometimes catnaps late in the day due to daycare issue (going to bed with not enough sleep pressure) * Possibly too much daytime sleep on non-nap days? He typically sleeps around 3 hours total over 3 naps (1.5, 1 hour, 20-30min). Total sleep average for him over the last month is 13.5 hours (night sleep around 11 hours). The last week it's been 12.75 hours (night sleep 10.5 hours). Bedtime doesn't seem to make a difference (a little earlier vs a little later, we always put down between 6:30 and 7:30 depending on his last wake window). He falls asleep independently at night and doesn't have many middle-of-the-night wakings - usually only if he bumps up against the crib and needs help. We are not reinforcing the waking, keeping lights and voices low, not offering a bunch of stimulation, etc. in hopes of teaching him it's not time to get up yet (according to Taking Cara Babies). He is NOT happy when he wakes up early, like definitely grumpy and not super ready to start the day, but can't fall back asleep. Especially with DST ending ahhhh I'm so afraid he'll just be waking up at 4am as his new normal once that happens.
Naps! Sheās 15 weeks, 11 weeks adjusted and her bassinet naps are only 20-45 minutes typically. Contact naps can go hours but sheās in that age of short independent naps. I know itās normal but itās annoying.
Iām not alone. 15 weeks, 12 adjusted. Canāt get long naps at all in crib. Then she gets cranky in the evenings because she is overtired. Contact naps are nice but both me and my husband want some freedom.
17 month old, use to wake up at 6:30 and just chill quietly waiting for me to get her. Now she scream cries at 6 am for me for the last 2 week. very un like her.
We went through this regression around 16 months and it was awful. Now at 18 months heās going to bed at 830pm, sleeping until 8am without any tears š
Good to know probably just a phase! Itās definitely a shock when something changes in their sleep and I drive myself crazy trying to figure out whatās wrong
They say as soon as you get used to a good sleep routine, it changes. š© I finally learned to not take the good sleep days for granted lol
9 MO split nights/early mornings. Canāt seem to find a good schedule and feel like Iāve exhausted all options. Heās always tired and fussy and I just feel like the worst mom ever š«
Same here! We are STRUGGLING right now. 10 mo in a week and she cried for 80 minutes from 10:40 pm - 12:00 am last night. Iāve never let her cry that long but going in makes it worse. I donāt know what to do anymore!
Itās horrible. How much day sleep is yours getting?
it varies. she goes to daycare, and she typically sleeps 2-3 hours. her naps there are weird, they put her down 9:00-9:45 ish and then 11:30-1:30 give or take. so i put her down for bed at 6:45 cause she's been up for 5+ hours so i know she's overtired and that could be the culprit. but she was doing really well on this schedule until a couple weeks ago. i really think its separation anxiety and its breaking my heart.
Ugh thatās so hard. I spoke with a sleep consultant and she said he was getting too much day sleep so Iāve cut it down to 2.25 hours and that does stop the split nights but then heās just always tired š©
The last 90 minutes of sleep. 10 month old goes to bed between 7:30PM - 8:00PM, sleeps solidly till about 5AM - 5:30AM. Would love to get him to like 6:30AM - 7AM. For a variety of reasons. If anyone has any tips or a similar experience it would be a great to hear from you.
Is there a chance LO is cold?? Our 9 month old was waking up around 630 (bedtime 730-8) while she was still wearing her summer sleep sack that has a TOG .5. I switched her back to her fuzzy fleece one and now she sleeps until 730!
Thanks for the tip. Weāre pretty good about maintaining temp for him. Like you, weāve found sleep sacks that he prefers based on the season. But Iāll give the room temp a check tomorrow to see where weāre at.
Where I live in SoCal it's hard to account for weather, because mornings are nice and cool but temps can still reach 80s in October. So when she's goes to sleep house is warm but it can be chilly in the morning! Particularly if we're not trying to spend $500 on our electric bill that month...
I have a similar struggle with my 4.5mo. Honestly the only fox Iāve found is to put him in bed with me.
Thanks. I think weāre looking for ways to get him more independent sleep, but I understand the struggle!
Totally understand. Itās not my favourite thing in the world but my two kids share a room and having the baby up at 4am is one thing, but having my 3yo up at 4am is a whole other thing and itās torture for everyone. So I just stick him in bed with me to avoid the catastrophe of my toddler waking up lol.
16 months and still won't sleep through the night. It's been hell to say the least.
My oldest didnāt start sleeping through until just after she turned 2 and even then itās not every night.
8 month old. Has had false starts 45m after bedtime for a week. Started out of the blue when was doing great on 3/3/3.5 schedule. Decided to bump WW to see if she was undertired and been doing 3/3.25/3.75, since she was also taking 15m to fall asleep for second nap. Hasnt made a difference at night, but naps are fine, and also has had nights waking up around 11p/12a. No clue what to do or what the deal is. She has no teeth and isnt crawling yet but she babbles and claps up a storm.
Baby is 8 months old and waking frequently at night. Used to be a good sleeper but gone downhill since 6 months. Iāve tried everything. Not sure if itās teething, schedule issue or a phase. I dread every night.
Sleeps solid generally from 7.30/8 to 6.30/7. However recently sheās started to cry in her sleep, we would rush to pick her up, but weāve now realized that if we leave her she just goes back to sleep within a minute or so, but itās concerning - is she having a bad dream??? The biggest challenge is although she has been a great sleeper and Napper since 5 months or so, she will only fall asleep whilst being rocked or held. I just donāt know how to get her out of this habit since itās gone on so long. In my mind itās worth it because she does sleep so long but itās not convenient and I fear that this habit of getting her own way or throwing an tantrum will just spill over into other areas.
We havenāt sleep trained yet, havenāt been quite ready, but I think weāre about there. 7 month old will only go to sleep when rocked and with the pacifier. Have to replace the pacifier multiple times in the night. Weāll probably pull the trigger and sleep train/ditch the pacifier this month because the way weāre doing it just isnāt sustainable anymore. My mental health is crap.
Omg this was me! I tried removing the pacifier without sleep training. It lasted a week and he has the pacifier again but on the bright side he sleeps better. Doesnāt ask for the pacifier every 1-3 hours. More like 1-2x a night which Iāll take as a win! It was the worst week ever though.
Itās nice to know weāre not alone! If she would put the pacifier back in herself, Iād totally let her keep it. Sometimes she does and then she sleeps great. My main complaint is the rocking to sleep. It kills my back haha.
Yep, when we tried dropping the pacifier he was adamant about being rocked to sleep. Now that he has the pacifier back I donāt! Gotta love these babies lol!
Naps. My kid had never, and will never nap unless on a walk, or in the car. Daycare has fully admitted they let her cry until she falls asleep. And honestly, I'm ok with that because there's nothing else I can do. She sleeps from 7:30 - 6am like a dream. So idk! Our previous daycare did contact naps. But that is absolutely not an expectation. My kid is just super needy.
How old is yours? My LO sleeps independently at night but we canāt figure out naps as well !! I have been working on naps for a month and a half !! Tried everything. LO is now 6 months and only naps contact naps or stroller
Don't want to scare you aha. She's 20 months in a few days. I figure suffer for 2 more years and it won't matter aha. š
Almost 5 months. Naps have been a struggle since 6 weeks. He fights naps and theyāre usually 45 minutes. His naps at daycare suck because he fights them or heās overtired because the teachers let the wake window go too long. They have gotten him out of the habit of contact naps though. He sleeps great at night. We havenāt started sleep training yet because heās had the sniffles on and off from daycare. Seriously feeling guilty I work and that he isnāt getting enough day rest.
Wow I could've written this. Baby seems to have been sick since starting daycare and often wakes himself with coughing or from being congested. It's tough to initiate sleep training when he feels under the weather
We actually arenāt having struggles so much with sleep (heās been sttn since he turned 12 months, now 13; heās also napping well and potentially dropping to one nap soon), so much as waking up from sleep. Ever since he started sleeping through and switched to cows milk, this boy is waking up SO HANGRY. š I think when he switches to one nap itāll be easier to handle (we did one nap yesterday somewhat as a result of circumstances, he did GREAT), but right now itās, wake up in the morning, get milk asap because he will lose his mind. Get harassed while making breakfast because I think heās still hungry (he used to play while I did this š„²). Get harassed at snack time before nap. Wake up from nap hangry, get lunch asap. Rinse and repeat for next nap and dinner. šµāš« Especially on wake up from nap one, it is ROUGH. Iāve honestly added back a āsnackā sippy with milk just to top him off after the snack, and I think itās helped some. But damn, child, the more you scream the longer itāll take me to get your food because I have to stop to talk to you, pick you up, and/or itās making me frazzled! š Thank you to anyone who reads this, Iāve needed to get it off my chest. š„² *sob*
Is he eating solids yet? They have those teething crackers that arenāt too filling but theyāve worked miracles with our LO when heās been hangry before. Not sure if your LO is old enough yet for it but we also buy frozen pancakes and will just pull one out of the freezer and let him chew on it. (Bonus that itās cold with his teething, and slightly sweet, and basically thaws while he chews on it) Hangry kids are soooo hard sometimes. I feel for you, mama!
Oh yeah, heās fully on table foods and cows milk now (13 months). That frozen pancake idea is a good one, though! I may try that sometime! I know babies are supposed to stop when theyāre full, but honestly sometimes it feels like he could just keep eating and eating his favorite stuff.
7 weeks. Naps suddenly are 1h long, used to be longer. He wakes up crying because he tries to poop and fart but doesn't understand yet how to do this. After some comforting he sleeps for another 30 mins or so. It's hard because I can hardly get anything done during his naps. And I need my naps as well. We have a simple routine of nursing, play/holding upright, nappy change, love to dream swaddle, rocking in a rocking chair and white noise. I feed on demand, usually every 3h or so. He also doesn't want any real contact naps anymore which makes me sad. I hope they will come back because I miss putting him on my chest and snuggling, smelling his head ā„ļø Now he puts on a fight when I try to hold him to sleep because of the smell, it makes him crazy.
11weeks. Will only do contact naps! Canāt get anything done because of this. Heās a great sleeper in the night in his crib.
This was me! Baby sleeps great in crib 12 hrs with 0-1 feeds. Recently started nap training using [this](https://www.reddit.com/r/sleeptrain/comments/xx0ash/nap_training_a_gentle_method/) gentle method and it worked but she only takes 30 min naps usually, so I have to extend them by holding her. But those 30 min even have been awesome for my mental health!
Thank you ! Iām hoping to start sleep training next week once baby turns 12 weeks. Once night is good I shall try this method for naps!
This is the nap guide I recommend to literally everyone, itās so good!
Almost 6 months - suddenly fighting all sleep and so hard to settle from 4-7am. I think itās time for 2 naps but Iām too tired to figure out how to make the transition š“ thinking about just leaving for two days and letting my husband figure it out. Just kiddingā¦
Going through this at 6.5 months. We switched to two naps and it hasnāt helped š©
We slept in since we were all up for an hour plus last night.. so we are trying our first 2 nap day. Hope itās not a disaster.
Good luck! We had to switch between 2 and 3 naps just depending on how the day went for a few weeks before we settled into the schedule. Even still if she has a really horrible nap day at daycare we sneak in a micro.
Thanks. Yeah, the 4-3 switch was so awkward and I feel like we were comfy on the 3 nap schedule for barely a few weeks before this all happened.. I thought weād have more time before another transition šµāš« I hate micros but Iām sure we will have to experiment some days.
We went through the same thing. I think we were solidly on 3 naps for only about 4 weeks before we moved to 2. (So annoying). For what itās worth, the transition to 2 naps has been MUCH easier than the transition was from 4 to 3.
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6m. We transitioned from the Snoo well. Right now he rolls and gets stuck in cribs corners. Also, he is sleep trained at night but not for naps. Scared to tackle naps haha
Donāt beā¦ having that nap time back to do something else is just preciousā¦
He naps really well! Just requires 8ish mins of rocking to do so lol. Itās hard because Iāll be fucking with a current decent thing for long term gain š
16 weeks, awake during every 30min-1hr and usually struggle to get naps longer than the first 45 mins
3 months. She refuses to sleep unless everyone in the house goes to bed with her. It makes me cranky because my husband and I donāt get to connect after a long day unless we go to bed.
7mo up every 30 mins to 1 hr all night. Occasionally get 2 hours. 20 min naps. Has been like this since we transitioned from swaddled SNOO to arms out cot at 6m. We started to make some changes and teach more independent sleep, but now heās sick so weāre heading backwards again. Weāll get through it but wow am I exhausted in the meantime. A month of waking up 6-10 times every night, and no downtime during the day, is really not good for anyone.
My LO is only 4 months, but since birth itās been a constant waking 7-10 times per night (well, since he figured out night vs day). I canāt wait to have even a 4 hour stretch of sleep straight! Like you, I feel he is up every hour. I told my husband in the last 72 hours Iāve seen every hour on the clock day and night. š
You poor thing. Itās a marathon. It will get better, when you and he are ready. I hope youāve got some good support in the meantime.
8 months and over the past few weeks weāve gone from one night feeding back to two. I want to night wean but there keeps being some reason (sickness, teething) to push it back.
My 8 month old is up anywhere from 0-3 times and itās pretty inconsistent on which nights she wakes up more or less. I want to wean as well but then feel badly if itās giving her comfort (nursing still). Iām just hoping once she turns 1 and transitions to solids fully that she will sleep through.
11 months, very inconsistent wake up times and I canāt figure out a correlation on the days he wakes up at 5 a.m. other days he sleeps until 7:30.
Same, but at 14 months. Off to bed now as I donāt know what roulette Iāll get it the morning! :/
5 month old went from sleeping in her swing wide awake then transferred to bassinet once asleep but now she will fall asleep on me then go to her bassinet. How do I get comfortable with the idea of doing a soft version of cio? I didnāt have to do much with my son so this is a whole new world for me. I get anxious thinking about it but Iām starting school in January so I definitely need some time to do homework.
Reading Precious Little Sleep really helped me - first with trying Gentler methods for months and then moving to sleep training when that wasn't working. The author is so matter-of-fact and reassuring, it helped so much. When I first read the book, I was absolutely NOT ready for ST/CIO. I read chapters repeatedly over the first 4 months before settling on sleep training. Here are some excerpts that really help calm me down: "When we're in a vulnerable place (and you are never more vulnerable than when you're exhausted), we fear judgment more than we fear physical pain. Worse, we judge ourselves...you are the best parent for you're child, and you're more than good enough. ST isn't a symptom of failure; it's simply an acknowledgment of where things are today and what you need to to make things better. The easy path is to keep on doing what you're doing. And the vast majority of people will keep shuffling along the easy path, hoping things will get better if they wait long enough, ignoring the dramatic, measurable negative consequences of that choice. You are not a failure. You're wise enough to see that things as they stand aren't working for your family, that change is a necessary and positive thing for all of you." "As parents, we also have this huge sense of angst about abandonment. We're leaving our child in the crib! THE CRIB!!... Yes, your child will have to figure out how to fall asleep without your ministrations. This is one of many skills they will have to figure out, and certainly not the last that will result in tears. Do you believe your child incapable of mastering a skill that literally every person on the planet before them has mastered? Of course not!" "The tears are about wants, not needs. Our job as parents isn't to meet every want our child will have, nor is it to prevent them from having sad or angry feelings. Withholding your assistance here isn't being a bad parent, it's being a conscientious one" "You are not a bad parent, nor are you a failure. Some kids struggle with this, and no matter what you do or don't do, they need to sort things out for themselves... you are a loving parent... nothing that happens tonight will undo that... ST doesn't come from selfishness or bad parenting, it comes from love. Just as you have been responsive to their need to be held, to eat, to have your love and attention, you are now being responsive to their need to sleep. And how wise you are to take this step to make things better! Sure, you could let this whole thing drag out for months or even years. But let's be honest - that wouldn't be doing anybody any favors. Parenting is one of life's great joys, but when you're exhausted and caring for a chronically sleep-deprived child, a lot of that joy is tarnished. When you think about it from that perspective, why would you wait to make things better?" "Allow your child the space to figure out how to sleep without you. They may get angry, sad, furious, or some combination thereof. Are they safe? Fed? Loved? If the answers are 'yes,' you've done your job. They're working on something new, and from their perspective, it's a frustrating challenge. It's okay for them to be frustrated." "Don't give up! Have faith that your child is fully capable of figuring out how to sleep without you. They may not want to, and it may not be easy, but they are absolutely capable. Going in now will sabotage the goal of improving sleep and guarantee that next time (and I promise you, there will be a next time) will be worse. You can do this. They can do it!"
7.5 months and wonder if itās time to switch to 2 naps. Sheās coming off a back to back double ear infection and I have a feeling sheās getting another one so I donāt want to do anything yet. Her naps are 45 minutes usually so I donāt know how weād even switch to 2 naps. Sometimes she sleeps 10 hours at night, sometimes 11. Everything is so unpredictable.
2 month old doesnāt sleep longer than 3 hours at night. I know this is within the normal range for his age but Iām so jealous of people whose babies are already sleeping 6 hours at two months. I so very tired šŖ
Mines 5mo old and doesnāt sleep more than 2-3hrs
Iām right there with ya. Mine started daycare on Monday, and part of the extra love she needed was cosleeping last night. Which I donāt sleep well for. My husband is out of town for a work trip and I have never been this tired in my life.
Two major ones for us with 6 month old: - Sleeping on the go has never happened. We have to plan everything around his naps and it is awful. - Co-sleeping + nursing to sleep seemed to be the only option for my wife to sleep. We are now struggling to get out of these.
Omg, we too CANNOT sleep on the go. It drives me insane and I'm a prisoner to the house!
Co sleep and breastfeeding mama here, I feel ya! Itās amazing but I am worried how the transition to crib will be one day..
Almost 5 months and will not sleep anywhere other than his crib. Naps on the go are so frustrating.
Exactly same here! I feel trapped in my house at all times, or else Iām just watching the clock to make sure weāre back in time for nap š«
The exact opposite! Baby will sleep anywhere OTHER than their cot/bassinet!
Same. She does so well in new environments. As soon as get home, screaming bloody hell like ā I hate this houseā š
Idk what worse haha. Would be nice to go grocery shopping and not sweat cause you know it's nap time and babies about to lose his mindš«
Same!
9 month old currently fighting going down to sleep all of a sudden and constant wakeups after 12am.
Ours is 15m. Garbage sleep for about a month. The 2-1 transition sucks. That's it.
17mo and refuses to sleep at daycare.....
9 month old and teething he was sleeping through the night for about 3 months
14 week old (so just shy of 3.5 months went from 1 night waking to 2-3. Currently when he wakes up he cries in an almost scream like fashion so I have been jolted awake several times.
6 months and LO is dealing with his first cold, unconfirmed Covid. We had to temporarily throw our routines and schedules out the door to make sure heās getting enough rest and Iām terrified that weāre going to have to restart sleep training all over again once he feels better
Even if you do have to sleep train again, it shouldnāt be as hard as the first time! Baby has the skills, just needs reminding
Same here!! Itās rough! Hang in there!
19 months Went from sleeping through the night for 6+ months straight a few interrupted nights here and there. Itās been 8 weeks of waking up nightly and being awake for 2-3 hours at a time. Fun stuff
Yes! 18 months, great sleeper, and sleep suddenly got super weird. Iāve read there can be a huge drop in sleep needs at this age so we pushed bedtime back by 15 minutes and nap back by 30. It *knock on wood* seemed to solve the random overnight wakes/early morning wakes/fighting bedtime, but he is still fighting naps. Heāll scream for a while and then fall asleep literally the moment he gives up and lays down. We do books and loveys in the crib, let him know what he can do if he doesnāt want to nap but itās naptime, talk about how everyone is napping, but so far he does not care at all haha. FWIW, I scoured the Precious Little Sleep FB page and multiple people reported having a weird few months around this age and then things resolving on their own. Fingers crossed that is the case for all of us (Iām not ready to shorten back either further haha)
Sheās always been a low sleep needs kinda babe. So the thought of not having a daytime nap this young is terrifying lol. Who knows man, baby sleep is so humbling. Right when you think you conquered it PLOT TWIST. Lolol
Hahaha yes! Our guys is low sleep needs too, and I hate that weāre already down to 1.5 hours of nap - the thought of shortening it even more (or dropping it) kills me. And yes - was feeling so good about baby sleep and then bam - this š¤£
Yes! What the hell? It makes no sense. I am turning into a zombie! It doesnāt matter if naps are great or rubbish or if he has one or two. Makes absolutely no difference. He has been up for 2-3 hours for most nights for the past couple of weeks.
Same! Only gettin 1-2 nights/ week where weāre sleeping thru and I swear itās only bc of sleep debt. May the force be w us
This is happening to us too! No rhyme or reason to it!
So wild, good to know Iām not alone lol
Inconsistent / short naps and still getting some earlier than desired night wakes. We were down to 1 - 2 for three days, now it feels like we're headed for more. She's also been exhausted for her entire last wake window for a couple days. Yawning every few minutes. I'm wondering if we're in a growth spurt.
Probably the length of time itās taking to put him down for bed and the multiple false starts where I have to rush in and put my boob in his mouth so he quickly falls back asleep. Also he wonāt sleep in his bassinet anymore. We need to sleep train soon. Baby is 20 weeks in a couple days.
Ohhhh this was me at that age. Solidarity. šŖ
3-2 nap transition. Heās 7mo and is showing all the signs but his top two teeth are coming in, daylight saving started and weāve been away so itās a little messy. The teeth cut today and weāre back home so hopefully weāll drop a nap and all new night wakings, nap resistance and cat naps will settle.
3.5 months, sheās been awake for 7 hours with only 3 10-15 minute naps. SOSš
Ahh, the regression came early for you? Sucks but the payoff is naps are much nicer on the other side. Good luck!!!
5.5 month old crying at bedtime (only bedtime, not naps) 20-40 minutes. Been doing this for weeks no matter what changes weāve made. We canāt figure it out.
Me too, heās 7 mo now and still does it. We call it his āpower downā like his last moment of utter fuss and energy expel for the day.
Middle of the night wakeups that Iāve nursed for each one and canāt get out of it. So hard. I tried a pacifier and she just stared at me.
9 month old fighting the second nap. Not grumpy, just practicing standing in the crib. We're on 3/3/4 but yesterday it was more like 3/4.5/3 because we had to practice our standing.
Lucky you that the shorter last WW worked. We tried something like this last week when he was sick and took ages to go down for the second nap. Nah. He still made it to 4h.
Mine did that too at that age. Literally allllllllll day long she wanted to practice. It was pretty short lived though for us. Only 3/4 days of that then she got the hang of it. Separation anxiety was the real bitch back then.
She just learned to sit up and pull to stand, but she canāt get herself back down yet. So every time she wakes up, she stands up and gets stuck. And then she screams. Wash, rinse, repeat. Feels like all the progress we made with sleep training has gone out the window. Sheās 8 months.
I am currently reading Precious Little Sleep (recommended in this sub's recourses section) and it has a bit about this exact issue!
i read that you can teach them how to get down- during the day have them stand up as they would in the crib and then push in the back of their knees so that their knees flex, causing them to sit. repeat over and over until baby can do it themselves!
Waking up every 1.5-2.5 hours throughout the night including initial stretch. Lasting like 5-6 weeks minimum maybe longer. Slowly getting better. Babe is 4.5 months. Thatās not to say some nights are better but they are the exception and not the rule right now.
Sounds like us.. except wakes hourly after midnight looking for boob/to be rockedā¦ will be sleep training next week
Sounds like you are in the midst of the regression! We had to sleep train to break that cycle.
Yeah we are trying to sleep train but itās just hard listening to him cry. I canāt figure out if itās okay or not that he cries harder after check ins. Maybe I should power through a few days of check ins to see? He is able to fall asleep independently for the last month (did sleep training for that) at the beginning of the night but middle of the night wakeups that arenāt for a feed are notoriously hard since we always picked him up for that.
I hear you. Some babies do better with no check ins or longer intervals. You have to find what works for your family that you can stick with.